Real & Raw by Unsetting Expectations

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw.

I’ve been thinking back about things that had been a huge problem for me when I worked for different companies over the past couple of years, and I suddenly realized that many of the troubles have resulted from over analyzing my menager's or my colleagues' emails and replies. I immediately started to internalize and feel fear inside of me when I saw a question mark in it, because I thought there was something I hadn't done right.

Crazy, isn't it?

Technology has undoubtedly made our lives easier in many ways, but I’m not so sure I like the effect it has on communication and understanding those written messages. It's especially present in communication between a manager and their employees, and a huge problem is not even hearing something each of them has to say.  And I've realized that people had never thought of listening as an important subject by itself.

Now that I'm a business owner and having people working for me, I have realized that listening to what they have to say is one of the most important parts of our communication and of me getting to understand how they feel and what they need so that they can feel more comfortable working and communicating back to me.

Listening to what they have to say may be more than an eye-opening experience for them, as well as for me and the business. It could mean more understanding of their needs, more progress and possibly innovation when they are being heard and valued.

I'm kind of in the midst of a journey of reframing and reparenting myself  I also run two social businesses and I have a small team working together. And the roles are different so I need to be able to recognize how my team is feeling that day just based on their messages and their replies. And then I moderate my replies to them based on understanding what they need to hear, or what they might think. Because I know that sometimes they can also feel the same fear from a message that I sent that has a question mark in it.

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw.

Do you feel guilty when you even think of setting boundaries? Well, I'm here to tell you that you're not alone!

One of the main reasons we avoid setting boundaries is that we mistakenly think they’re rude and controlling and that we'll get characterized as being mean and selfish. For many of us the problem is being stuck in a people-pleaser mindset, letting other people tell us what's right for us instead of deciding for ourselves.

We have all these negative beliefs because others have reacted poorly to our boundaries in the past. And this is especially present in dysfunctional families where people may feel guilty or unjustified in asking for what they want or need and never getting their needs met. Personally, I didn't have boundaries for a lot of reasons and when I met people who had them, I always thought "Oh my God, what a rude person!".

The relationship with my parents, and their parents was really dysfunctional and it was especially hard for me as a child to look at and to grow up in such environment. I didn't have anyone  kind of role-modelling that it's okay to stand up for yourself, that it's okay to say no to things and that it's okay to, not to raise your voice but to speak your truth. And by getting raised by a family that acts a certain way, I just thought that I should be quite all the time and let people use me however they want, because those were the behaviors that I saw for such a long time.

When I moved to Zagreb, for University, I figured that people were acting differently here and I quite liked it. It was a transitioned period of me realizing that having boundaries is not rude at all, that's what should be the bare minimum of common courtesy to yourself.

Setting boundaries means, for once, putting ourselves first. And what it really does is, it protects us from being hurt and taken advantage of.  In fact, setting clear boundaries creates healthy relationships and clear expectations as long as we learn how to set them properly and don't feel guilty. Therefore, we have to figure out how to find ways to set boundaries that work for us.

Listen to the whole conversation and pick up some of the tips for yourself!

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw.

So many of us go through life disconnected from our inner self, not paying attention to our core, looking for someone or something to complete us. And it's almost like we're waiting for some kind of outside approval for things we should or shouldn't do, we begin to lose control of what we truly want and feel like doing. We miss out so much on vital information that could be shaping our life choices and daily actions by not trusting ourselves and our inner feeling.

Sometimes you get really caught up on looking so much outwards and comparing ourselves and our businesses with how businesses of other people work so much that we lose that inner connection and trust and you're like "Oh, I'm actually not feeling really aligned with this, I don't feel like I have the energy to launch this now even though I already had that planned." And that can create a lot of resistance and judgement and a lot of those negative emotions.

For the most part of my life I struggled with a poor relationship with myself. I used to have a critical, judgmental inner dialogue. My perfectionist tendencies made me feel like I was never good enough which made me feel completely disconnected from my inner self. Over recent years, so much of this has changed. I have practiced acceptance, forgiveness and unconditional self-love, which made me realize, I'm on my own journey in this life and it's completely fine to take a step back, tune in and be like "it's okay if I don't do this at the moment because it doesn't feel right".

The key is to develop the connection with the source of guidance, the sense of self that lies within you, to discover that you're able to rely on your inner feeling, your inner guidance. And just like anything, it requires dedication and a lot of patience. It's important to let yourself receive any information that comes from within, and give yourself time to process it and understand what is it trying to tell you.

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw.

Many of us have been in a place where we are in a constant resistance to what we feel inside ourselves, our internal state where we're holding off, and it's almost like constant pushing or pulling back.

Being too hard and resistant to ourselves makes us feel angry, miserable, frustrated and even overly restricted. It makes us blame ourselves for things we didn't do, we even blame ourselves for things we did and how we did them, almost like we have no control over ourselves and our emotions towards ourselves.

Whether it's a trauma response, whether it's the discomfort that you're feeling, the resistance where you're resisting against your own nature, it's important to figure that out, and see if you can get yourself to a space where there's just less shame and it doesn't feel as heavy. We need to be light. You cannot be limitless when you're just like "I'm going to apologize for everything I am and everything I do and everything I didn't do." You don't want that version of you showing up in the world.

Personally, I don’t believe it’s really healthy to fight or judge yourself, and I also don’t believe it’s healthy to just give in to every impulse either. There should be a healthy balance between the two. It’s about compassionate self guidance and self discovery, so that we can get where we want to go in life, as well as feel free and be able to enjoy the journey.

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw.

So much of our time we spend trying to keep up and fit everything into our days that we can't even enjoy them as we want to. In a world like this that often seems to get busier and fast-paced than ever, it’s easy to get swept up by the feeling of needing to do more and do it faster, just to keep up with the world. It has become a societal norm that being busy equals more productivity.

It leads us feeling overwhelmed, stressed and it makes us feel like we're not good enough, like we're not doing good enough. We're running ourselves into the ground, almost. And I'm kind of feeling that in all our busyness and constantly running around, we're missing out on the most important and most beautiful parts of our lives.

It is important to make slowing down a priority and focus on what's really important for you at the moment. And it isn't the easiest thing to do, it takes time and practice and a lot of discipline and self control to take it easy. You need to learn to pay attention to the things that are in front of you in the moment, to stay present and right where you are.

"How could I slow more today?" Okay, I'm going to sit and I'm going to journal for five more minutes. So my thing today is like, how can I keep slowing down? And every time I've noticed that I've started getting a bit more stressed, everything speeds up for me. I talk a little bit faster, I move faster. And, so rather than just telling myself to slow down, if I can slow down my body movements, I start to cultivate a feeling of slowness and everything suddenly my day has felt a little more spacious. And it feels like I have room to move. - says Vix Anderton.

Whenever you’re feeling overly busy, stressed or simply overwhelmed, try some of these small tips to help you slow down and just follow the pace of yourself. Every small change throughout your day can slow down your pace without killing your productivity. If you find a more peaceful process, you’ll be both happier and more effective. If you're interested in learning how to slow down and still get things done, I highly suggest you to listen to this episode!

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw.

We live in a world where not everything we see on the internet is true. And this is especially the case with social media. With so many opinions and information coming from all sides, people showing up with filters and masks on, it’s easy to just fall for everything that’s fighting for our attention.

The most widespread use of augmented reality is the face filters on social media that are more and more used among women and even young girls. And I don’t think it’s just filtering an actual image, it’s filtering  their whole life. Nowadays, everything is all about portraying a perfect life to gain fame and a number of followers, people forget who they are and they pretend to be someone who they're not. And I think it’s very sad what’s happening more and more.

So much of the things we see online is scripted and Unsetting Expectations is my counter medicine to that. It's because everything is so scripted, everyone shows up with a filter and with a mask, it feels like we're already living in the metaverse. It's already like we're showing up as different people than who we are because someone one day decided it's better because it earns them more status, more followers and more money.

I remember kind of being left, standing like this time a year ago and thinking like "Who is showing up as a human being?", " Where do I find human beings?", almost only place where people share conversations like these is on communities like Reddit, for example. And my intention for this entire project is to raise that awareness that every experience as a human being is a normal experience, that it's okay to show up as who you truly are.

We're consuming more online media than ever and people have become obsessed with seeking approval from millions of strangers online. It has led to creating an incredibly fake persona and not having a genuine sense of identity and purpose. This is why Unsetting Expectations came to life, to normalize the experiences of us as human beings, to normalize the conversations around them and to offer a safe and warm space to share your stories.

In this Real & Raw episode we're speaking to Alice Brown, a copywriter and website specialist who helps entrepreneurs grow their businesses. We talked about self doubt, uncertainty, fear and all these emotions entrepreneurs encounter when starting their own business. As entrepreneurs, in all our efforts to get better and deliver as much value as possible to our customers, we often feel there's always something missing, and the added pressure from our family and friends isn't helping. To learn to accept all these challenges as well as to accept your uniqueness as a value proposition is what we'll touch upon in this very raw episode.

We often ignore and override our feelings which can cause serious health related problems. The result of this kind of suppression is anxiety, depression and restlessness, and people often adopt a negative and pessimistic outlook of life. It especially happens when we're told that what we experience isn't valid and that our emotions aren't normal. In this episode, you can hear more about how to teach yourself that every emotion you feel is valid and allowed and how to accept it and then be able to express it appropriately to avoid the danger of becoming prone to anxiety and depression.

Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on YouTube.

Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, impostor syndrome, anxiety, and many more.

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In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw.

Being cut from your emotions, both positive and negative ones, can have serious and destructive impact on your life, your mental health and your relationships. Being detached from your emotions unables you to connect to your body, to recognize your body's needs, to process your emotions and to express how you feel in certain situations.

Emotional detachment can happen due to so many different reasons, including a prolonged period of depression, an episode of anxiety, a long period of neglect as a child and other unexpected and pretty horrific events in your life.

I was having trouble experiencing joy. If you had asked me 'Where do you feel joy?", I couldn't tell you, and I couldn't describe to you how joy felt to me. So I genuinely though, I'm incapable of experiencing joy. Because what I did for a very long time was by shutting down feeling the negative emotions, which unfortunately I had many especially throughout my childhood, I shut down all emotions. I didn't even know if it's possible to kind of shut the negative emotions and still be able to feel the positive ones. What was really difficult for me was to recognize when I feel happy, when I feel joy.

Everyone has a different tendencies to feel emotions or turn them completely off based on how they feel about themselves and the world. It is important to be in touch with our emotions because they let us know where we want to set our boundaries, they inform us and protect us and they leave space for us to heal. We need access to all of our emotions in order to function in a healthy way.

If you've caught yourself detaching from your emotions and being unable to express feelings, if any of this resonates with you, I highly suggest you to listen to the whole conversation. It is all about focusing on making change and understanding some important facts about our feelings before we learn to express them in an appropriate way.

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw.

It's almost impossible for anyone to work every minute of every day without eventually burning out. People often sacrifice their lunch breaks in order to be as productive as possible or they even go into the office at the weekends when they're supposed to be out of office and take those days off for themselves. Eventually, in one way or another, it takes toll on them.

It is often related with struggling to cope with stress at a workplace that may place people at high risk of burnout which then leaves them feeling exhausted, empty, and unable to cope with the demands of life and work. When you experience burn out,  you feel more drained, your motivation is killed and it makes you feel like losing interest in your work. And those are just a few of many signs of prolonged response to works stress.

"It happened quite gradually over a few months. I became too busy for a lunch break. I was working long hours and I started to go into the office at the weekends." - says Vix Anderton. I only started to appreciate that there might be something wrong when I was working with a coach, we had a three hour in-person session and she asked me how stressed I thought I was. I paused and I thought and I was like "I don't know, maybe like four or five out of ten". And she looked at me and said "Vix, you've been in tears for this entire session, you might want to reconsider your answer." It blew my mind. Crying in the toilets and having panic attacks at work every day isn't normal.

Taking breaks has a big impact on your ability to deal with work and life stress.  It's important to find ways to cope with your work tasks and especially when it comes to finding a work-life balance so that it doesn't interfere with your personal life. Prioritizing self-care and scheduling time for yourself is one of the most crucial strategies to fighting burn out. Don't stay silent. You can also reach out to someone if you’re experiencing or approaching burnout. It's a lonely place to be, but you don't have to go through it alone!

Do you feel depressed as a result of work-related stress? How do you cope with it? Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences with us.

In this Real & Raw episode we welcomed Emily Hodge, a psychologist and a qualified coach who helps other coaches and founders lead their service business with more ease, integrity and profit. We talked about lacking of self worth despite hard work and accomplishments and how it manifests itself in entrepreneurial activity. Emily also shared her story on this as she's writing a book that was also developed as a result of her own struggle with lack of self compassion and feelings of self worth. She talked about leading a business with more ease and flow and what it means to run a business that fits around your needs.

We often ignore and override our feelings which can cause serious health related problems. The result of this kind of suppression is anxiety, depression and restlessness, and people often adopt a negative and pessimistic outlook of life. It especially happens when we're told that what we experience isn't valid and that our emotions aren't normal. In this episode, you can hear more about how to teach yourself that every emotion you feel is valid and allowed and how to accept it and then be able to express it appropriately to avoid the danger of becoming prone to anxiety and depression.

Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome

Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, impostor syndrome, anxiety, and many more.

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In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw.

"Just be yourself!” 

It sounds like an amazing thing to do, and I have wished many times that I could just do that. But I've wondered what does it even mean and what does it take to just be yourself.

When it comes to being yourself, the one showing to the world, there's usually a lot of pressure from the society around us who tries to influence who you are and who you should be. And it's hard to live in such a developing world where you're expected to adapt and to live and do what society tells you to do.

That's why it's so important to know deeply who you are and live in alignment with your values and beliefs. Because, without knowing yourself and without establishing your boundaries, you can easily be pushed around and become lost and dissatisfied.

If you've never thought about it in that way, if you're only following the script that someone else wrote for you, you may not even realize that you're not showing up as yourself because you don't know who that is, says Sara Ramos, a Learning Designer, Facilitator & Community Host. By deeply knowing yourself you are more likely to experience a fulfilling and rewarding life.

Life is a journey of becoming the highest version of who you are, and although we all go through ups and downs, we can always come back to who we are.

Listen to the full conversation to get some of the most useful tips to this very individual adventure of discovering your true self and being ready to show it to the world.

In this Real & Raw episode we welcomed Sara Ramos, a Learning Designer, Facilitator & Community Host whom we talked about the importance of approaching everything as an experiment rather than striving for perfection, as it takes the expectations down. That way you're committing to allowing yourself to just be real and present rather than putting on a mask and living by a script. We also touched upon easing of restrictions that has allowed us to get back to the people and things we love, but at the same time not being able to be at ease because of everything that's been happening in Ukraine right now.

We often ignore and override our feelings which can cause serious health related problems. The result of this kind of suppression is anxiety, depression and restlessness, and people often adopt a negative and pessimistic outlook of life. It especially happens when we're told that what we experience isn't valid and that our emotions aren't normal. In this episode, you can hear more about how to teach yourself that every emotion you feel is valid and allowed and how to accept it and then be able to express it appropriately to avoid the danger of becoming prone to anxiety and depression.

Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏

Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, impostor syndrome, anxiety, and many more.

See what we're up to on:

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In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw.

I don't think that we don't know who we are. I just think that we have been conditioned for such a long and extended period of time that we've just gotten kind of disconnected because there's so much noise around us.

The world floods us with messages about who we should be in order to survive and thrive in this world. We're all trained to be the opposite of who we are from the moment our parents are parenting us, to the moment we go to school and we get our first job and we're being constantly fed messages. But the way that we are is not correct and are trained to be the opposite of who we are.

So what does human design do?

Human Design shows you where and how to access your body's consciousness as a decision making tool, how to live as your true self and how it guides you in living in a manner that is in sync with who you are. It helps us to remember who we were before and if that happens, we can start to remove some of the conditioning and really start to utilize our gifts that we've often been told our weaknesses.

If you're interested in finding out what your human design is and then how you can work in accordance to it and not the opposite of it which makes us even more powerful in our day to day lives, listen to this powerful conversation as Carly Ferguson shared with us her experience and her story.

In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw.

It isn't always easy to describe how you’re feeling and what you're going through and what does it feel like inside your head. However, expressing how you feel and sharing it with others can help you identify your feelings better and can also help you cope when life throws you challenges.

When we're wounded, we're frightened and we're ashamed, and shame and fear and loneliness keep you more ill for longer. People go so far down the well that they don't think there's any way out, and that's what shame and fear and loneliness does, says Jo Hooper.

This is why talking about your feelings is so important, as it helps you lift that weight, that emotional baggage, from your shoulder. And it also helps other people going though similar situations realize that they aren't alone.

If by sharing a tiny bit of what you're going through or as much as you feel comfortable and able to share, can help others feel less alone and less ashamed and less fearful, it's an amazing thing. It's also amazing for yourself because once you start sharing, you start hearing back from others that they've had similar experiences, you realize that you're not alone, and you can feel a little bit less afraid and a little bit less ashamed.

Bottling up our emotions isn’t a good thing, in fact, overtime it can become toxic. Talking about your feelings can make you feel vulnerable, however, by sharing how you feel with someone supportive and trustworthy, and someone with similar experiences can help you realize you're not alone in this and that there are ways you can learn to support yourself through life’s ups and downs.

This community is a safe place for you to share everything you've been bottling up for so long! It exists to bring topics such as these to light, to normalize these kind of experiences to offer you a safe and warm space to share your stories! Remember, you're not alone in whatever you're going through!

In this Real & Raw episode we welcomed Dr. Rashmi Narayana, a psychiatrist and a Leadership & Clarity coach, who has worked across academia, the humanitarian sector, and tech start-ups. She is currently running her coaching practice, supporting female tech CEO in running company operations & founders in early-stage tech start-ups to identify their personal values and translate them to company values and is proud to be in a group of 28 international leadership coaches on the TRIUM EMBA program and a coach on the Imperial College, London Coach and Coffee program.

We often ignore and override our feelings which can cause serious health related problems. The result of this kind of suppression is anxiety, depression and restlessness, and people often adopt a negative and pessimistic outlook of life. It especially happens when we're told that what we experience isn't valid and that our emotions aren't normal. In this episode, you can hear more about how to teach yourself that every emotion you feel is valid and allowed and how to accept it and then be able to express it appropriately to avoid the danger of becoming prone to anxiety and depression.

Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏

Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, impostor syndrome, anxiety, and many more.

See what we're up to on:

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/

Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/unsettingexpectations

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/mwlite/company/unsetting-expectations-with-franka

Twitch - https://www.twitch.tv/unsettingexpectations

Twitter - https://twitter.com/franka_grubisic

Join Unsetting Expectations today!

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In these ‘Raw bite’ episodes of my podcast, I’ll be selecting my favorite moments from previous episodes of Real & Raw.

Change is a normal part of life. It is inevitable. And some people even seem to thrive on change. They're open to new ideas and open for gaining new skills and new experiences.

Many of us have been at the place of questioning our career paths at least once in our lifetime. The problem is, most of young graduates have no way of knowing for certain that the job they're applying for is the right fit for them. And they're constantly looking for new jobs and new opportunities because they certainly don't want to spend their lives in a career that does not make them happy.

One of my biggest struggles I had in my life, was realizing that I don't have to have a niche or something to describe myself with one single word, or two words at maximum, because I'm a generalist and I have worked in such different industries, a plethora of different jobs.

What it then seems on the outside is that if you're changing your job or your career path, you're short-sighted, less consistent and you show less commitment and dedication. Moreover, it seems that you have no idea what you want to do with your life.

Whereas, for me, everything makes sense in it's own way. I'm trusting my curiosity and how it's guiding me and what I'm building, that when I look back, it all makes sense.

In this live we welcomed Alice Benham, a business and marketing strategist, and how she likes to say it, a slightly accidental entrepreneur who shared with us her inspiring story of leaving school and stepping into business at the age of 17 and gradually growing from there. She pointed out many lessons on work-life balance that she, as a 23-year-old entrepreneur has learned in the previous 9 years of being in business. We also touched upon the importance of establishing personal values into every aspects of what we do and why getting ourselves to a good place and a better mindset should be our first priority. One thing that we've all been trying to learn is how to regain control over our time and prioritize our time to rest. If this is what sparks your interest, make sure to listen to the whole conversation and take some of the shared tips on how to blend a bit of work and a bit of rest!  

Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏  

Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, impostor syndrome, anxiety, and many more.

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In this live we welcomed Vix Anderton, a recovering perfectionist and embodiment coach who shared with us her inspiring story after spending years in an air force. We touched upon recognizing the signs of burnout and why is it important to allow yourself to live with more ease every single day and why we should make uncomfortable situations explicit and bring them into conscious awareness. Welcoming everything doesn't mean to tolerate uncomfortable people or situations in our lives, we should accept them as they're the parts of us being human. And the more we push these part in the  shadow, they run us from the unconscious.  

Join our Real & Raw series LIVE every Thursday at 1pm CET on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and Twitch. Everyone welcome 🙏  

Real & Raw features & highlights women who've or are overcoming and defying expectations of themselves & society, and expert sessions to discuss practical tips & tricks to dealing with perfectionism, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and many more.  

See what we're up to on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/unsettingexpectations/
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A must-read if you need a powerful and inspiring intimate confession on creating a path for yourself, whether professional or private.

Isn't it astonishing how we sometimes forget that our rules are made up and there is no point in stressing ourselves over them and continuing the kind of behavior that empowers them at our damage?

One of the Unsetting Expectations' contributing authors shared her thoughts on finding the ideal career and job and balancing everything else that life brings us. She has reflected on engaging with herself and finding comfort in being more than one thing at a time.

Read this episode here 👉 https://unsettingexpectations.substack.com

Follow my journey here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/creatively.franka/

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Unsetting Expectations is a project on a mission to help high-performing, high-achieving, workaholic, perfectionist individuals grappling with issues of never feeling satisfied, always working crazy long hours, and not feeling proud of their accomplishments, written and narrated by Franka Grubisic.

We do this by sending a FREE newsletter 3 times a month on a Thursday morning that inspires you to question your own beliefs, makes you feel less alone, and helps you quiet down your harshest inner critics.

If you're a constant people-pleaser, this will sound familiar 👇

"The world is crammed full of things I want or need to be involved in the second I hear about them. There’s a talk next week – yes count me in. There’s a new tree planting scheme up the road – yes I’ll be there. There’s a gig in 2 weeks – I’m polishing my dancing shoes already!", writes Eddie for Unsetting Expectations.

Welcome to the confessions of a compulsive initial enthusiast, a brilliant guest piece for Unsetting Expectations, out today.

Read this episode here 👉 https://unsettingexpectations.substack.com

Follow my journey here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/creatively.franka/

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Unsetting Expectations is a project on a mission to help high-performing, high-achieving, workaholic, perfectionist individuals grappling with issues of never feeling satisfied, always working crazy long hours, and not feeling proud of their accomplishments, written and narrated by Franka Grubisic.

We do this by sending a FREE newsletter 3 times a month on a Thursday morning that inspires you to question your own beliefs, makes you feel less alone, and helps you quiet down your harshest inner critics.

What happens when your work identity takes over your personal identity? In this week's issue of Unsetting Expectations, Alice Benham, a business and marketing strategist, describes her journey of the separation between human Alice and Alice Benham Ltd.

If you've never really resonated with the work-life concept, and find a great deal of my identity in your work, you're gonna want to hear this one.

Read this episode here 👉 https://unsettingexpectations.substack.com Follow my journey here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/creatively.franka/

Are things ever actually ‘done’? As a perfectionist, I always see the next step forward. Hence, “Stop When You’re Done” could very easily be the most horrific piece of advice one might get. Even worse, such advice is popularised and praised upon by our hustle & grind culture.

This episode delivers 3 tips for perfectionists with deadlines, which continue to help me come to peace and almost “melt” with my perfectionism while also taking care of myself and my mental health!

Read this episode here 👉 https://unsettingexpectations.substack.com

Follow my journey here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/creatively.franka/

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Unsetting Expectations is a project on a mission to help high-performing, high-achieving, workaholic, perfectionist individuals grappling with issues of never feeling satisfied, always working crazy long hours, and not feeling proud of their accomplishments, written and narrated by Franka Grubisic.

We do this by sending a FREE newsletter 3 times a month on a Thursday morning that inspires you to question your own beliefs, makes you feel less alone, and helps you quiet down your harshest inner critics.

The 5th issue of Unsetting Expectations talks about how being subjected to comparison from a young age doesn’t help much when we start becoming perfectionistic adults.

Read this episode here 👉 https://unsettingexpectations.substack.com

Follow my journey here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/creatively.franka/

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Unsetting Expectations is a project on a mission to help high-performing, high-achieving, workaholic, perfectionist individuals grappling with issues of never feeling satisfied, always working crazy long hours, and not feeling proud of their accomplishments, written and narrated by Franka Grubisic.

We do this by sending a FREE newsletter 3 times a month on a Thursday morning that inspires you to question your own beliefs, makes you feel less alone, and helps you quiet down your harshest inner critics.

In this 3rd issue, Franka reads an issue written by a contributing author, which describes what happens when we reflect whatever version of ourselves the person we're talking to needs to see. At that moment, we hide our true feelings and thoughts, defaulting instead to what we think is required.

Listen to this honest confession about being a mirror instead of an authentic individual with genuine conversations and real connections.

Read this episode here 👉 https://unsettingexpectations.substack.com

Follow my journey here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/creatively.franka/

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Unsetting Expectations is a project on a mission to help high-performing, high-achieving, workaholic, perfectionist individuals grappling with issues of never feeling satisfied, always working crazy long hours, and not feeling proud of their accomplishments, written and narrated by Franka Grubisic.

We do this by sending a FREE newsletter 3 times a month on a Thursday morning that inspires you to question your own beliefs, makes you feel less alone, and helps you quiet down your harshest inner critics.

The first issue of Unsetting Expectations covers the topic of inhibited perfectionism - how society imprints rules on us since a young age, which lead to the development of perfectionism because we're told that no matter how hard we try, it's never good enough.

Read this episode here 👉 https://unsettingexpectations.substack.com

Follow my journey here 👉 https://www.instagram.com/creatively.franka/

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Unsetting Expectations is a project on a mission to help high-performing, high-achieving, workaholic, perfectionist individuals grappling with issues of never feeling satisfied, always working crazy long hours, and not feeling proud of their accomplishments, written and narrated by Franka Grubisic.

We do this by sending a FREE newsletter 3 times a month on a Thursday morning that inspires you to question your own beliefs, makes you feel less alone, and helps you quiet down your harshest inner critics.