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It’s here! “Deserts to Mountaintops: Choosing Our Healing Through Radical Self Acceptance” is officially available wherever books are sold. In this episode, Lily discusses the anthology writing process and a few core themes of her chapter, “I Am Your Friend Too”. 

A note from Lily: My chapter is vulnerable. I’m talking really raw & really, really real. And honestly, it’s terrifying. Some of you are new faces, some have been here for a while. And while I’ve grown up online, this is probably one of the most grown-up things I’ve done online. It’s my story of rejection and friendship and hookup culture and burnout and regaining the strength to understand that I don’t have to be “independent”. I’m allowed to be needy, I’m allowed to need my people. We weren’t supposed to do life alone. It’s so much bigger than a book - it’s a community. Get ready, this book might just change your life. Love, Lil

THIS WOMAN sets the bar high and goes after her goals even when no one is watching! Hannah Ashton is a Nashville-based content creator and founder of Dream Daily, an online shop creating aesthetic and effective planners and journals. In this episode, Lily and Hannah chat about what it REALY means to set intentional goals as THIS WOMAN, instead of THAT GIRL. Additionally, the gals talk through the importance of building structure post-grad, why you need community to beat loneliness, and how to find your true calling amidst the noise of social media.

Discipline means proving to yourself that YOU are worth showing up for. In the second episode of the THAT GIRL → THIS WOMAN series, Lily unpacks why self-discipline is important to elevating your mindset, and a few reasons why discipline sometimes seems impossible. Then, she provides four foundational steps to build an unbreakable discipline practice as THIS WOMAN.

What if you ditched the "THAT GIRL" trend to step into a better, beautiful, and bold version of yourself? This year is all about transforming into THIS WOMAN! In the first episode of this 10 week series, Lily challenges the "THAT GIRL" trend through looking at what it really means to embark on a self improvement journey. Then, Lily walks you through her perspective shift, and why it's important to prioritize knowledge and character when considering any personal development methods.

Happy New Year! In this 2024 prep episode, learn how to streamline your goals and aspirations for the year ahead! Lily spends time reflecting on last year’s Word Of The Year, and how it was an influence on her daily practices and habits, ultimately resulting in almost a perfectly completed vision board! Then, Lily explains how to choose your own word of the year and create a vision board, and how you can use this process to set your intentions for a transformative year! 

"I have to lose weight or I'll never be good enough". This is the lie that forces many people into a lifelong body image battle. In this episode, Lily unpacks why a deep desire to lose weight and alter her appearance ultimately resulted in an unhealthy relationship with food. Lily gets raw and real through personal anecdotes, initiating conversation around one of the most sensitive, yet relatable, aspect of womanhood: learning to love the body you came in.

What's the point of your 20's, anyway? In this episode, Lily and Lexie discuss their own ideas of the purpose of your twenties. The girls, being at different spots in the twenty-something timeline, have different perspectives on what this decade is all about. The girls laugh their way though this episode, proposing ideas like learning how to navigate healthy relationships and why it's important to increasing self awareness during these pivotal years.

& nothing hurts anymore, I feel kinda free... in this raw & real episode, Lily lets you into her solo Saturday night journal session as she reads a few realizations she's had lately - like combating loneliness and addressing the winter blues. Lily rounds out the episode by reading a portion of her chapter in Deserts to Mountaintops, Vol II, which connects perfectly with the lyrics in "Ghost Town".

It's time for the last big push, the final countdown, completing the remaining Q4 goals... but what if this year, finishing strong looked different? What if the next 30 days were rooted in peace, not a final push? In this episode, Lily discusses three, unpopular ways to actually finish the year on a healthy and happy note.

"What is my purpose?" is one of the most googled questions, which totally makes sense. In this episode, Lily discusses a few reasons why answering to this question is so challenging, then her theory on having a "Big Picture Purpose" versus finding a "Micro Purpose".

We're home for Thanksgiving, y'all! In this cozy & chill episode, Lily discusses the importance of a gratitude practice amidst all phases of life, not just when things are going well! This mini pep talk will encourage you to uphold an attitude of gratitude through out the holiday season.

Are you addicted to stress? In this episode, Lily examines the science behind being a chronically overwhelmed and stressed out person, explains a few signs to pinpoint a stress addiction, and shares a handful of stress management solutions that have worked for her. Being busy isn’t something to brag about, so Lily challenges the hustle culture methods and encourages you to step out of the stress-cycle. 

What’s the real secret to maintaining high-impact habits? In this episode, Lily is joined by her little sister, Lexie, to unpack an ongoing discussion in their house. The girls share their thoughts on how to initiate a natural lifestyle shift, and re-evaluate your habits (both good and bad) to align with your current wants and needs. Lily and Lex get vulnerable in this episode, sharing about their bedtime phone addiction, the truth about receiving advice, and the reality of hook-up culture. 

Neeloo Fathi has thrived in chaos (as shared in her own podcast, Order & Chaos), but after a near-death bus accident that changed her perspective on life, she's finally learning the importance of finding balance, purpose, and living an intentional life. In this episode, Neeloo shares the story of the bus accident that changed her life in every way, what the healing process has been like, and so much more. Lily and Neeloo also chat about working in the content creation space, being your own boss, and entrepreneurship in your twenties. 

If you're an overthinker, this one's for you. In this episode, Lily discusses the importance of productive preparation versus anxious overthinking. Then, learn to challenge the fear-driven thoughts by asking the hard questions, and overcome the belief that your brain is always telling the truth.

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“Tomorrow is not guaranteed so I’m gonna live this thing with everything that I have…” In this empowering episode, Lily is joined by Taye Landry, a dynamic wellness entrepreneur and dedicated Pilates instructor. Taye's ability to bring people together under the banner of holistic health has made her a respected figure in the wellness world, and she has become a catalyst for positive change in the wellness industry. The gals chat about the importance of understanding that burnout is NOT a badge of honor, but rather slowing down is one of the best kept secrets to success.

Taye Landry believes that true beauty radiates from within. Her holistic approach to wellness emphasizes the importance of physical, mental, and emotional well-being as the foundation for a radiant and fulfilling life. With her expert guidance, individuals of all backgrounds can unlock their inner potential and achieve a harmonious balance between mind and body.

In this month's juicy Ask Lily episode, listeners asked allllll kinds of great questions. From being in love to your best friend to dealing with family drama, this episode is filled to the brim with quality conversation and personalized advice. Submit a question to next month's Ask Lily: hello@lilyrakow.com -

Meghan Campion McFerran is a fitness entrepreneur, Alo Moves Instructor, podcast host & creator of Glisten, a sculpt class that serves as a celebration of our bodies. After dancing professionally in NYC, Meghan decided to create Glisten, a workout that empowers women to stand in their own spotlight. In this episode, Meghan shares her story of transitioning out of the dance world and how she built a healthier (and realistic) fitness mindset. Lily and Meghan also chat all things morning routines, comparison, and why its important to celebrate your own wins!

If you're an over-thinker, it’s normal to crave calm in the chaos. In this episode, Lily opens up about feeling overwhelmed, burnt out, and anxious when it comes to producing in the creative space. With obstacles like comparison, lengthy to-do lists, and fear of failure, creative blocks are bound to happen. Lily shares few ways to shift an “all or nothing” creative mentality to find a balance inside an overactive mind. 

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Natalia Seliger is a wellness content creator who is known for her real, raw storytelling in the digital space. Natalia started posting her journey to a healthier version of herself after struggling with a toxic relationship with food. Her platforms quickly became safe space for anyone looking for a holistic and empowering approach to wellness.

In this episode, Lily and Nat talk all about the power of vulnerability to create deep, lasting friendships. As a twentysomething going through a transitional season, Natalia has countless tips and tricks on how to stay grounded through the ebbs and flows of life. The pair chat about the power of authenticity in the content creation space, moving to LA (then moving back home a year later), what it means to dream big, non-negotiable morning habits, and so much more.

It turns out your NIGHT routine is actually wayyy more important than your morning routine. In this episode, Lily chats through a few ways to create a new night routine from scratch or elevate your current one for the fall season.

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It’s those small, daily habits that make the biggest impact! In the fourth (and final) episode of the change & transition series, Lily walks you through how to create an action plan for your Q4 goals. Then, Lily gives a few reasons why people struggle with accountability, and how to tackle those challenges head-on.

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It's almost Q4, babes! In this episode, Lily discusses the power of adapting this year's goals to create simple & realistic expectations for Q4. Life rarely goes as planned, so it's important to keep the list tight and shift your perspective in accordance to the way life looks now, opposed to the way things looked a few months ago. Lily also introduces the idea of a "reverse bucket list" to celebrate the things you've already accomplished this year (hint: it's probably more than you think)!

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Out with the old, in with the new. In the second episode of this month's Transition Series, Lily walks you through ways to shed old habits and fully embrace a new chapter. Before diving into the topic at hand, Lily introduces a new favorite writing method that has transformed her creativity and productivity. She teases a few projects that are in the works and hints at future plans for her writing career. Lily rounds out this conversation by proposing the idea that change is hard, but staying the same is also hard; you just get to choose your hard. 

September is a transitional month, which is why for the next four weeks, we're chatting all things CHANGE! In this episode, Lily discusses some of the reasons why people fear change, and how to shift those perspectives. Lily also shares a few updates on her travels, a few of her current favs, and what she's been up to lately!

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Callie Jardine-Gualy joins Lily on the mic for a major girl talk about all things hookup culture, sex, and waiting. The pair recorded this episode together last week in Denver, CO, where they met IRL at a conference. After a few deep chats on the floor of the hotel convention center, it was clear that this episode was much needed! The gals take a very vulnerable approach to the topic, as they both share past experiences that led them to their current viewpoints on hookup culture.

"No one is you and that is your power" - Dave Grohl | In this mini recap of her time at Podcast Movement so far, Lily reflects on conversations with fellow attendees about the power of vulnerability and the risk of openly sharing a story. Take this as a sign to find your voice and just go for it! When you are authentically you, magic happens.

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In a world of constant content fighting for our attention, it's become increasingly harder to actually be productive. In this episode, Lily shares 4 low-stress, simple habits she uses every single day to stay productive, rather than just being "busy". Before diving into these habits, Lily shares a few BIG life updates including travel plans, business things, and big "wishlist" goals coming true!

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Brianne Helfinch is a podcast host, PhD student, and CEO of Helfrich Collective, a clothing brand that was build as a means to help Breanne through a difficult time, as well as help those going through their own battles. In this episode Lily and Bri talk all about confidence - how to boost confidence despite rigorous academics, defeating imposter syndrome, and daily practices to implement right now!

Healthy boundaries define what is and what is not okay... and oftentimes, they are hard to set! In this episode, Lily is joined by her little sister, Lexie, to talk about past relationship experiences (both good and bad), to define what it really means to set healthy boundaries. The girls exchange stories of bad first dates, the importance of friendship before diving into a relationship, and what they will and no longer will tolerate.

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At 29, Hilary checked herself into rehab for substance use disorder. It wasn’t just about putting down the drink, but about changing people, places and things in her life that ultimately caused her to use in the first place. Hilary kept her recovery and sobriety quiet until recently when she celebrated 15-years of continuous sobriety in June 2022. Since making her story public, Hilary has become a change maker for addiction recovery advocacy. In this episode, Hilary shares her recovery story, as well as the tools and tactics she learned to live life on life’s terms, and why vulnerability is powerful!

The Ask Lily Advice Column is back, baby! Lily kicks off this episode by sharing a few updates, including a little glimpse into the writing project she's hinted at, as well as her plan to take on an intern this fall! Then, she takes some questions from a few 80/20 listeners. The first listener has trouble living in the present moment in her relationship, worrying about what's next for them. The second listener is struggling with her body image, as her dance career has forced her to compare her body to her teammates. The third listener feels behind in her career, and wonders if she made the right choice to follow her heart away from the typical corporate ladder.

Interested in submitting a question for next month's Ask Lily episode? Send your questions to hello@lilyrakow.com

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When Kate Morton, RD and Founder of Funk It Wellness, stopped taking birth control, she was met with a slew of the worst symptoms — from acne to PMS, she fought it all. Then, everything changed when she discovered seed cycling. In this episode, Kate joins Lily for a big-sister-style chat sharing the truth about our cycle. When women learn how to work with their cycle instead of against it, magic happens. 

Kate holds a master's degree in Human Clinical Nutrition, specializing in hormone health. With her extensive experience working in healthcare settings and conducting research, she has gained invaluable knowledge in helping women and people with periods manage their hormone health through personalized diet and lifestyle modifications.

Jessica Buchanan is a teacher, author, humanitarian, speaker, and survivor. On October 25, 2011, while on a routine field mission in Somalia, working as the Education Advisor for her non-governmental organization, Jessica was abducted at gunpoint and held for ransom by a group of Somali pirates. In this episode, Jess outlines the true story of the kidnapping, and delves deep into how she chose unwavering mental strength. Jess recounts how she met herself in the desert, and the process of mending the relationship with her intuition post-rescue.

It’s not you, it’s me... Driven by a handful of bad first dates and shallow situationships, Lily made the choice to embark on a season of singleness. In this episode, Lily explains how she shifted from an “anything goes” dating approach to a purpose driven relationship approach. Additionally, Lily coaches you through four tangible action steps to fully embrace a season of singleness - including how to keep yourself from settling, ways to use this time wisely, and making friendships a top priority. Ultimately, being single is a gift, despite what society might tell you! 

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Your morning routine should bring you joy, not stress! In the first solo episode of the new season, Lily shares her most chill, yet most productive morning routine yet. She explains why early mornings no longer work for her, and why it's okay to adjust your routine to meet your own unique needs. Lily also introduces a bit more about the new season, including an overview of the new cover art and an introduction to the video version of 80/20!

Madison Ciccone joins Lily for a big-sister-style chat all about confidence, falling into your true calling, showing up fearless after failure, and everything in between. Madison, aka MaddzTaddz, is a Confidence and Mindset Coach, Podcast Host, and Master Instructor at SoulCycle. A former Executive Assistant to Hollywood’s finest, Maddz ditched her desk and traded in the Red Carpet perks for a pair of cycling shoes. Her mission is to encourage women to create the life she craves, and demonstrate what it's like to live a joyful, loving, and fearless life. Grab a pen and paper, there are countless little nuggets of wisdom you'll want to jot down from this conversation.

Welcome to season seven! In the first episode of the “Healing Girl Summer” series, Lexie (Lily’s little sister) joins the conversation for a recap on the past few weeks. From grad parties to formal events to celebrating summertime, the girl’s calendars have been booked and busy!

The pair rolls into a bittersweet discussion about life as a post-grad, and what “adulthood” is supposed to look like. Lily opens up about how the people around her have been puzzle pieces to her healing journey, and poses an important question to Lexie, “are you entering your healing girl summer”. Lexie toys with the idea of what “healing” should look like in order to meet her current needs, and lands on a more hands-off approach.

The girls bounce a few summer non-negotiables around, including ideas for crafts and how to balance fun and work. Lastly, the girls fidget with an idea of having a playful summer, almost as if you were a kid again. After all, it seems that we’re all about 80 percent the same person were as a child…. 

Rules are good sometimes! In this episode, Lily shares 8 rules she has created to live in alignment with the best version of herself, including the power of observation, how to set clear boundaries for a great first date, developing hobbies, and why self improvement isn't all that. Per usual, Lily shares a few life updates - like how she got two flat tires and her big plans for a Miley Stewart summer.

Callie Jardine joins Lily in a conversation about working with your body, not against it. As a pilates studio owner, Callie deeply understands the power of tuning into the body's messages - from your cycle to mental warning signals - and has developed a unique, mind and body transformation programs that blend empowering affirmations with low-impact exercises. Throughout this episode, Callie and Lily discuss cycle syncing your workouts, the importance of micro habits to balance hormones, facing failure early in business, and how to overcome comparison culture in the content creation space.

In this episode, Lily is joined by Kela Rose, host of Skinny Dipping. The pair discusses trusting your intuition while brushing off intrusive thoughts, and what it takes to creating true, meaningful friendships in your twenties. This one-of-a-kind episode will challenge you to turn inward to make strides towards the best version of yourself. Kela combines science with spirituality to break down complex topics for people to create actionable change in their lives.

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This is life update you've been waiting for. In this episode, Lily sugar coats her mental health struggles from the past few months and shines a bit of light on why she made some major shifts. Then, Lily walks you through how she is using the "slow living" mentality to embark on a deep healing journey.

In this candid episode, Lily is joined by her little sister, Lexie, to play a few rounds of We're Not Really Strangers. The girls discuss allllll kinds of juicy topics including going through an ex's phone, missing someone who doesn't miss you back, the desire to fix insecurities, honoring past versions of yourself, and so much more. This is probably one of the most vulnerable episodes yet, so strap in for quite a ride.

It's time for some good old fashion spring cleaning! In this episode, Lily walks you through her seven-step guide to a healthy spring reset in all areas of life - from home storage spaces to routines to habits to adulting and everything in between! In her standard segments, Lily chats about her highs and lows from the week, shouts out a few listeners who are doing cool things, and per usual, the quote of the week leads to a mini motivational speech on living in the moment.

Being THAT GIRL in 2023 is all about curating the best version of yourself, stepping into your power, and living life on your terms. In this episode, Lily reflects on how a current situation led her to embark on a healing journey. She walks you through an exercise to imagine what you really want in life, fully embodying your unique description of “that girl”. As always, she chats about her highs and lows, a quote she’s loving, and introduces a new segment called “shoutouts”. Lastly, Lily tosses out five current wellness trends that may help you along your journey to becoming the best version of yourself.