How to Get the Girl: By the Ask Women Podcast

How to Get the Girl: By the Ask Women Podcast

By Marni Kinrys & Kristen Carney

What do a female comic & banter coach and a professional wing girl have in common? The realistically raw and hilarious perspectives on what women ACTUALLY want in a man. Prepare to be offended and awed as Kristen Carney & Marni Kinrys take you through the uncensored and often ridiculous mind of a woman to help you better understand, appreciate, and avoid getting punched by the next girl you come across. Check out our other dating tools and advice: https://www.winggirlmethod.com and https://www.kristenandchilldating.com
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How to Get the Girl: By the Ask Women PodcastJan 13, 2016
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Ep. 537 Confidence Isn’t a Mystery, It’s a Skill (with Alpha M)
Jul 23, 202537:60
Ep. 536 Emotional Intelligence: A Trait Women CRAVE
Jul 15, 202552:35
Ep. 535 Sexual Shame No More!
Jul 08, 202501:01:15
Ep. 534 How to Turn Jealousy Into Sexual Chemistry

Ep. 534 How to Turn Jealousy Into Sexual Chemistry

🎙️ Heads up! We’re playing around with new titles for the show! Right now, we’re rolling with "How to Get the Girl" by Ask Women, but stay tuned for another possible rebrand 👀


This week, we’re diving into one of the most misunderstood emotions in dating: jealousy. And no, it’s not always toxic. In fact, if you know how to use it, it can be one of the most powerful tools for increasing attraction, creating sexual tension, and deepening connection.

We’re joined by Ally Iseman from Passport2Pleasure.com, and she’s breaking down how to harness jealousy in a healthy way - whether you’re navigating early dating, a committed relationship, or just trying to spark that “charge” back into your love life.

We talk about:

  • What jealousy is really telling you

  • How to use it to create playful intrigue

  • Why avoiding jealousy kills desire

  • And how to stay grounded (not needy) while using it to your advantage

If you’ve ever felt triggered, anxious, or powerless in the face of jealousy, this episode will flip the script—and help you turn it into fuel for connection instead.


>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's fully-transformative coaching here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/kristenandchill/magneticmanstrategysession⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


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Jul 01, 202552:38
Ep. 533 How to Ask for What You Want AND Actually Get It
Jun 24, 202538:31
Ep. 532 Let’s Talk About the Penis: Performance, ED, and What Women Really Think
Jun 18, 202536:19
Ep. 531 Style That Makes Women DROOL
Jun 10, 202524:34
Ep. 530 Unlocking Confidence and Why Women Do and Don't Date Older Men
Jun 03, 202545:57
Ep. 529 Crush Approach Anxiety with the Power of Precise Language

Ep. 529 Crush Approach Anxiety with the Power of Precise Language

What if changing just a few words could completely shift your confidence and attraction levels? In this powerful episode, we welcome back language and mindset expert Spencer Burnett to dive deep into the concept of precise language—how the words you think and say directly impact your ability to connect, attract, and show up as your most magnetic self.

Spencer breaks down how unconscious language patterns fuel anxiety and resistance—and then flips the script with a live, on-air language coaching demo with Marni. Watch (okay, listen!) as he rewires her inner dialogue in real time to eliminate approach anxiety using easy, practical shifts you can apply today.

This isn't just theory—it's transformation you can hear. If you've ever struggled with self-talk that kills your vibe before you even say hello, you need this episode in your ears.

🔥 Tune in to learn:

  • The secret power of precise language

  • How to eliminate approach anxiety through word choice

  • Real-time mindset rewiring in action

This one’s a game changer.


>>> Ready to become the most charming, magnetic, WITTY and confident version of yourself? Book a free call with Kristen here: ⁠⁠https://calendly.com/kristenandchill/magneticmanstrategysession⁠⁠


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May 27, 202542:51
Ep. 528 Break Free: How Hidden Trauma Is Running Your Life (And How to Stop It)
May 20, 202553:03
Ep. 527 Be a Detective in the Bedroom: How to Read Her and Please Her

Ep. 527 Be a Detective in the Bedroom: How to Read Her and Please Her

In this episode, we’re joined by Celeste Hirschman, co-creator of the Somatica® Method and co-founder of the Somatica Institute. Celeste is a somatic sex coach who specializes in helping men and women create deeper, more connected, and more satisfying intimate experiences.

We dive into how you can become a detective in the bedroom—not by overanalyzing, but by tuning in. Learn how to pick up on what a woman likes, what she doesn’t, and how to test the waters in a way that feels confident, playful, and deeply attuned. Celeste shares actionable tips on how to explore and communicate desire without killing the mood, how to bring more sensuality into your touch, and how to come across as the sexy, grounded man women crave—without second-guessing yourself.

Whether you're just starting to explore intimacy or want to take your bedroom confidence to the next level, this episode will give you a new perspective on pleasure, connection, and what women actually want.


>>> Ready to become the most charming, magnetic, WITTY and confident version of yourself? Book a free call with Kristen here: https://calendly.com/kristenandchill/magneticmanstrategysession


>>> Get A FREE Dating Playbook Session with Marni’s Wing Girl Team. Apply Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://winggirlmethod.com/letmehelp⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠



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May 13, 202536:39
Ep. 526 Unlocking Your Dark Side to Attract Women

Ep. 526 Unlocking Your Dark Side to Attract Women

What if your “dark side” was the key to unlocking deeper confidence, attraction, and connection in your relationships?

In this episode, Adam Skoda — host of The Masculine Mindset Show, author of 77 Ways to Develop a Masculine Mindset, and creator of the Alpha Body Bootcamp Training Program — joins the show to explore the real power behind what psychology calls the “Dark Triad” traits: narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy.

We dive into:

  • What the Dark Triad really means in the context of human attraction and female psychology

  • How to channel “dark” energy in a healthy way to create polarity and deeper emotional connection

  • Personal stories from our own relationships where embracing shadow energy created surprising breakthroughs

  • A grounded, practical guide to shadow work — and how to do it without spiraling or getting stuck in shame

If you’ve ever felt like there’s a part of you you’ve been told to hide — this episode is your permission slip to bring it into the light (and use it well).


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>>>Ready to become the most charming, magnetic, WITTY and confident version of yourself? Apply to work exclusively with Kristen here (spots are limited): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


>>>Get A FREE Dating Playbook Session with Marni’s Wing Girl Team. Apply Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://winggirlmethod.com/letmehelp⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

May 06, 202555:11
Ep. 525 The Secret Weapon You’re Ignoring: Your Imperfections

Ep. 525 The Secret Weapon You’re Ignoring: Your Imperfections

This week, we’re flipping the script on what you think women want.

Yes, your so-called "shortcomings" (the things you’re not proud of) can actually attract women when you know how to use them the right way. And our amazing guest - fiery redhead Yoann Bohbot, Founder of dotsspace.com - is here to explain exactly how to do it.

We also dive into:

  • How to find and pursue the right woman for you

  • How to build a strategy for attracting a specific girl

  • How to get different types of women based on what you want

  • How to mentally overcome obstacles without ever stepping into therapy

...and so much more.

Don’t miss this one — it’s packed with fresh insights that could change the way you see yourself (and how women see you).


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>>>Ready to become the most charming, magnetic, WITTY and confident version of yourself? Apply to work exclusively with Kristen here (spots are limited): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


>>>Get A FREE Dating Playbook Session with Marni’s Wing Girl Team. Apply Here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://winggirlmethod.com/letmehelp⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Apr 29, 202544:59
Ep. 524 Rewire Your Mind, Win her Attraction: The Hypnosis Hack
Apr 22, 202547:11
Ep. 523 Unlocking Arousal: The Many Pathways to Pleasure
Apr 15, 202556:27
Ep. 522 Dating Women in Their 50's - They've Still Got It
Apr 09, 202558:36
Ep. 521 Getting What You Want and Owning Who You Are
Apr 01, 202542:05
Ep. 520 Finding Love Through Music w/ Rachel Van Nortwick of Vinylly
Mar 26, 202548:30
Ep. 519 The Secret to Showing Confidence Women Can’t Ignore
Mar 18, 202558:05
Ep. 518 How to Meet Women and Desirable Masculinity
Mar 11, 202551:16
Ep. 517 Finding the Right Women
Mar 04, 202557:47
Ep. 516 How to Date Women in their 40s
Feb 28, 202537:54
Ep. 515 How to Handle Rejection
Feb 21, 202556:57
Ep. 514 Decoding Women
Feb 14, 202549:42
Ep. 513 How to Become Undeniably Desirable
Feb 07, 202532:33
Ep. 512 How and When to Ask Her Out
Jan 31, 202501:02:04
Ep. 511 Top 5 Traits "Nice Guys" NEED to Have
Jan 24, 202548:42
Ep. 510 How to Date Younger Women
Jan 22, 202551:58
Ep. 509 Male Isolation
Jan 10, 202545:23
Ep. 508 How to Change Your Attachment Style
Jan 03, 202555:47
Online Dating - The GOOD, the BAD and the UGLY
Dec 20, 202435:16
Ep. 507 What Happened to Romance?
Dec 12, 202432:39
Ep. 506 Dating Terms You NEED to Know and How to Not Let Them Affect You
Dec 06, 202449:20
Social Confidence for the STEM and Introverted Brain

Social Confidence for the STEM and Introverted Brain

In this throwback episode, we have Myke Macapinlac joining us. Myke is the founder of Social Confidence Mastery, an incredible resource for those in the STEM industries or men who consider themselves introverted. If that's you, he's going to talk directly to YOU about how to step outside of your brain and become a master at confidence, flirting, escalation and so much more.

Nov 15, 202441:57
Ep. 505 Tantric Sex
Nov 09, 202438:59
How to be a LEADER with Women
Nov 01, 202459:37
Ep. 504 How to Handle "Bitchy" Women
Oct 18, 202444:50
Ep. 503 Become a Master Flirt

Ep. 503 Become a Master Flirt

Kristen and Marni are really excited to share this week’s episode because it is jam packed with top-notch info from top-of-the-line dating experts and instructors, Darren and Nikki from BecomeSharp.com 


Darren and Nikki are going to clearly define flirting so it’s no longer a practice you "kind of" understand, then they're going to go step-by-step and break down exactly HOW to flirt. They're also going to share with us the THREE ESSENTIAL THINGS you need to do in order to become a master flirt as well as the THREE ESSENTIAL THINGS you need to have in order for women to respond to and reciprocate your flirtation


What's extra special about this episode is that Darren practices what he preaches - so much so that his co-worker, Nikki, who is a total smoke show, who thought she would never give him the time of day, was completely won over because of how great he was at flirting, and now she is his long term girlfriend.


He's a lucky guy - but because he made his own luck. You can make your own luck too.


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>>To become MAGNETIC, witty, charming, a master at banter, a dating phenom and a pro at sexual escalation with a coach "on call" for you between weekly sessions, fill out the coaching application here: https://www.kristenandchilldating.com/coaching


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Oct 11, 202440:57
Pursue Her Like a Pro
Oct 04, 202459:33
Ep. 502 Igniting CHEMISTRY with Dr. Laura Berman
Sep 27, 202441:59
Ep. 501 Start Bantering TODAY
Sep 20, 202431:15
Ep. 500 How to Get RESPECT
Sep 12, 202446:01
Ep. 499 Going Out BY YOURSELF
Sep 06, 202440:57
Being Bold - Asking Her Out
Aug 30, 202458:48
Fixing Your Dating Profile!
Aug 15, 202459:34
Ep. 498 What Women REALLY Want
Aug 10, 202450:55
The Power of Masculinity and Vulnerability
Jul 26, 202458:02
Ep. 497 LUST and Being Seen Sexually
Jul 12, 202452:01
Ep. 496 How to Express Yourself with Women
Jul 06, 202450:24
How YOU Can Date Younger Women

How YOU Can Date Younger Women

David Shade joins us to discuss HOW to date younger women.  David is in his mid 70's and has a girlfriend in her 20's.  Impossible you say?  Listen to find out how he attracts younger women :)


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>>Get A FREE Dating Playbook Session with Marni’s Wing Girl Team. Apply Here: ⁠⁠https://winggirlmethod.com/letmehelp⁠⁠


Jun 28, 202452:56