Simplifying Lives with -Inderjit Kaur

Doli:

This is when the bride bids an emotional farewell to her family and proceeds to her husband’s house. As she departs, she throws a handful of rice backwards towards her mother, symbolically thanking her family for bringing her up, and trying to repay them. It is called doli because, in earlier times, the bride was carried to the groom’s house in a wooden palanquin called doli. Coming from the eastern society, the dissolving of a marriage (that is, divorce), is not common, especially after having a kid. It just doesn’t happen as much as the western world. It’s a piece of gossip, some news, where you hear about ‘cases’ here and there.

A current study shows that India has the lowest rate of divorce in the world only 13 out of 1,000 marriages in India, a mere 1 per cent, end in separation. So, does this mean Indians are principally fortunate, and get to experience the ‘happily MARRIED’ more often than other countries? Is it evident that the arranged marriage structure is correctly the best globally?Jovial as these prospects are, they are far from the truth.

Women are meant to stay married and make things work, regardless of what they go through. Going through a divorce after 22 years of marriage was incredibly hard for me mentally, emotionally, and financially. And it became a dead-weight on my survival when the ones closest to me invalidated my decision of raising my voice against domestic violence and fight legally. They made me feel guilty, and that added to the trauma.

I chose to never give up, and never look back! 

Depression has numerous layers that come together to impact a sufferer. It’s hard to describe or articulate. People are sad for so many reasons. As we move forward, embracing new phases of science and technology, many of us live an unhappy life. I agree social conditions are more responsible, including our thoughts and attitudes. Tireless efforts and advancements are being made in treating depression, right from spreading the word about mental healthcare via social media awareness. However, the world is still not kind enough to sufferers of depression or any form of mental illness.

Life runs on belief and hope. Here, I have endeavored to explain the fundamental truths of life in the simplest possible language. As we feel, think and believe, the mind is conditioned to evaluate our circumstances. According to psychological surveys that have mapped human emotions and happiness over the past decade, we are less happy and give up easily when things go wrong.

Unexpectedly, we have the most lavish life, including income growth over a period. But it certainly leaves us puzzled. Where are we wrong? What is the core meaning of wellbeing? How to cope with difficult times? Do all of us dive into depression when times are challenging? My dad always encouraged me with his positive thoughts, and often said: “Real people smile in trouble, gather strength from distress, and become braver by challenges.”

There were many times, during the course of my marriage, when I realized that I am not actually happy. I had a family, a house, all the essentials, but there was still something missing. Though domestic abuse and emotional turmoil were everyday occurrences, I still continued to save the marriage. I never realized how much I was giving in, without getting what I wanted back – just respect and trust. I started realizing that in reality, love is never unconditional. There is always an expectation to receive something in return. There is a simple saying I read once, that goes along these lines

Never lie to someone who trusts you, and never trust someone who lies to you.

After Blenheim Treasure and Trove ICSE 

 All about the Poem- After Blenheim: by Poet Robert Southey; After Blenheim is an Anti war poem in the form of a Ballad.
The poem ‘After Blenheim’ highlights the outcome of the war. There is death and destruction everywhere. The Old Kaspar a afarmer has a conversation with his Grandchildren and talks about a grand victory over the French. Old Kaspar’s grandchildren fail to understand how a horrible war can be called a famous victory. The old man has no answer to this question and is unable to convince the children upon the questions they asked: The Poem brings out the horror of war. War is fearful and brins only destruction; thousands of men are killed.

‘After Blenheim’ brings out the horrors of war in a simple but ironic way. The battle of Blenheim was fought in 1704 in the village between the English and the Austrians on the one side and the French on the other side. The battle resulted in a grand victory of the English under the Duke of Marlbrough. In this battle, thousands of men were killed. Women became widows and children became orphans. The battle called war caused much ruin and destruction.

In the poem, written mostly in a dialogue form, the grandfather, Old Kaspar, calls the battle of Blenheim as a great victory. He praises the heroism of English soldiers. His grandchildren, Wilhelmine and Peterkin, who have discovered a human skull, fail to understand how a destructive war can be called a famous victory. The innocent, searching questions of the children puzzle the old man, and evoke pity for the victims ,on hearing the story the little Wilhelmine said it was very sad to hear the war which was a bad thing to happen and there was no reason to glorify and praise the war heroes when old kaspar kept on repeting indeed it was a famous war of victory, though the children were not convinced..

We may assume that we require motivation to reach the goal of our daily lives and to survive. After procuring motivation, we should work hard to reach our goals with confidence. That’s enough for our success. We should know about the importance of motivation. Because some question will come to our mind.

Is this stimulus so important?

· What are Motivations?

The root of human success is hard work. Self-confidence would help in making people hard worker. Yet again, motivation accelerates the confidence of the people.

· Why is it important to understand motivation? Why do we care about what people want and why they want it? How about because it can improve our lives.

Understanding the importance motivation gives us many valuable insights into human nature. It explains why we set goals, strive for achievement and power, why we experience emotions like fear, anger, and empathy.

· Why is Motivation Important?

Mainly since it allows monitoring to meet our goals. Without  a motivated workplace, companies could be placed in a very risky position. Motivated forces can lead to increased productivity and allow an organization to achieve higher levels of output.

Learning about motivation is valuable because it helps us understand where motivation comes from, why it changes, what upsurges and declines it, what aspects of it can and cannot be changed, and helps us answer the question of why some types of motivation are more constructive than others.

Motivation reflects something unique about each one of us and allows us to gain valued outcomes like improved performance, enhanced well-being, personal growth, or a sense of purpose. Motivation is a pathway to change our way of thinking, feeling, and behaving.

Benefits of Motivation

· Finding ways to increase motivation is essential because it allows us to change behavior, develop abilities, be creative, set goals, cultivate interests, make plans, improve talents, and helps improve commitment.

· Applying motivational science to everyday life helps us to motivate employees, coach athletes, educate children, assistance clients, and engage students.

· The benefits of motivation are noticeable in how we live our lives.

· As we are continuously retorting to changes in our environment, we need motivation to take remedial action in the face of inconsistent circumstances.

· Motivation is a dynamic supply that permits us to familiarize, function effectively, and sustain wellbeing in the facade of persistently changing opportunities and threats.

· There are many health benefits of increased motivation. Motivation as a psychological state is linked to our functioning. When our motivation is exhausted, our functioning and wellbeing suffer.

· Some studies show that when we feel helpless in exerting control for example, we tend to give up quickly when challenged, Others have proven than when we find ourselves compelled, we lose access to our inner motivational

· Motivation allows us to thrive, while its discrepancy origins to struggle. Social benefits of increased motivation are visible in countless commitment, better job satisfaction in employees, healthy relationships, and institutions.

· Motivation is very much required in our lives. It helps to change our lives. So the importance of motivation is often under-estimated. All our work requires motivation. We have great benefits for motivational and we develop the confidence in ourselves.

· As a result, we can move on to success. Again, motivation can save us from failure. Motivation helps us to live up to our own potential.

·  Helping us to be confident about living. Since Accomplishment is not possible without hard work. We have to work hard once attaining, motivation.

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Discover your life purpose now! For the longest time, I believed that the only purpose of life, is finding happiness and being happy! And I’m not the only person who believed that. In fact, if we look around we could see most people are tailing happiness in their lives. That’s why we keep working to be fitted in a box, and most of the times trying to make things work. At times we like our job, but it doesn’t excite us anymore. We are trying to explore new opportunities but aren’t sure what we really want to do, and feel stuck, or like something is missing from our life. We long to find our life purpose, but we aren’t sure where to start. Sound familiar isn’t it? We are all instated to hit rock bottom, a human experience, and are trying hard to figure out, why we are in this world. I’ve been there, it is like a harsh drive and without a life purpose, we do endure the feeling of being stuck! A feeling of hopelessness escalates, since we’re moving in loops, watching as time continues to slip from our hands! However, a purposeful life is like a compass, administrative, engaging and productive. Guarding us to be focused and clear on what really matters to us, spotting our priorities. The concepts that foster a sense of purpose are ones that can potentially change the way we are looking at our own life and the lives of other people. Indeed, a sense of purpose appears to have evolved in humans so that, we can accomplish big things together which may be why it’s associated with aiming for improved physical and mental health. Purpose is initialized, when we become adaptive, in an advancement and are determined to get transformed to survive. Our life purposes consists of the vital motivating aims. Purpose can be like a tool kit to observe life decisions, influence behavior, shape our goals, and help us to redirect and create meaningful life! How would you live differently if you discovered your life purpose? My responsibility is to construct, nurture, and maintain an environment of growth, implement thoughtfulness, and serve selflessly for all those around me and this aids to be the purpose of my survival. My life purpose is to boost, associate, and stimulate purpose in others. My mission here on earth is to invigorate, encourage, and inspire lives! My purpose in life is to empower, self- confidence in others through being positive anchoring supportive role model. My life purpose is to live and maintain a courageous life, while being a facilitator for a positive change. My purpose in life is to grow persistently and use my knowledge to help others grow, through my inspirational books podcasting and encouraging them while making a difference in their lives and the lives of those around them. My purpose is to rejuvenate life, unleash the strength & enthusiasms within others through the love in my heart, fostering happiness, and being compassionate while trying to reach out to those who are stuck in adversities. It’s not enough to have lived. We should be determined to live for something. To be kind and live to help others! Life is filled with unanswered questions, but it is the courage to seek those answers that continues to give meaning to life. We can spend our life sanctioning in hopelessness, wondering why we are the one to lead towards the road that’s speckled with pain, or we can be grateful that we are strong enough to survive it. Stress can serve as both a barrier and a motivator to purpose! Discover your life purpose now! Stay Inspired Stay Motivated ! Inderjit Kaur

Life is never easy it would take its own way along diversions of difficult situations and worries. However, the drift in tide would not resist the waves, they do calm at a point and so is life which could trigger depressions and unhappiness recounting life disordered in the process. Nevertheless, think of healing and change for a better life is always possible. It would take some time but yes, healing and overcoming grief is always possible.

Transitions would explain the interventions when adversities strike as they come to reinvent the missing links and describe the core meaning to this life. Transitions and Beyond would act as a tool not a turmoil.

It would help to grow. Transitions and Beyond would certainly establish key takeaways with a new set of thinking, a clarity shaped into perfect mindset that knows to balance between let go and move on.

Thus, this transformation in the form of healing is dynamic and expansive which helps us to balance not only our physical, and mental clarity but create an unmatched psychological uplift in true sense.

Sometimes when adversities strike or we face challenging situations, we are overloaded with depressions and it almost brings sense of inadequacy, of uncertainty, of gloomy tomorrow, and we get trapped in loneliness and feel broken inside.

This phase is like a dismal or stagnant water that no one would ever choose to visit. The transition sets when we can recognize this phase as not an end, but a beginning of something new; something that would transform and turn the new base, which would help to build strong blocks of pleasing and successful life full of contentment and tranquillity.

This is a starting point to unleash us from the marooned and depressed life. Transitions thus brings us to believe in the life, defining path that would lead us to reveal who we are and who we are meant to be.

The call of awareness that redirects us to understand the importance of transformation is the core base of transitions of our life, thus surrendering to the change, accepting the transformation and leading a new beginning is transition all about. Transitions and beyond would be more of life psychology and living when disasters strike.

· It would be of acceptance of the change. It would mention the quest exploring the connection of difficulty a turmoil or opportunity?

· It would help with dynamic take away and tactics to live life for those who are trapped in the adversities of life.

· It would eliminate the stereotype thinking of "What, Why, When, How."

· It would help readers understand how to deal, when things go wrong! (Acceptance) and explain the Art of moving forward.

· It would help readers to optimize their life through harnessing of positive mindset concept.