How to find love even if you're the least social human on earth. Join me in learning how to date out of your league ...without needing to be a confident extrovert. Wannabe PUAs, alpha bros, and other greasy douchebags not welcome.
This is a living exploration of how to be honest and still get the woman (or man) you want. Proven tools from the schools of psychology, counseling, neurology, CBT, IFS/partswork, shamanism, and more.
I think it's one of the more annoying things about modern society that being single is also extremely frowned upon. Because being single for longer than a month has effectively given me dating superpowers. In this episode we talked about how you can transform spending time alone, into the thing that makes you more irresistible than ever.
Howdy y'all. So we typically focus on inner work in this podcast eyes I believe that this is the most straightforward access to becoming naturally and effortlessly attractive. So this episode I want to create some very straightforward and actionable steps for you to immediately level up how attractive you are to women. In the long run, this is a game of making small incremental improvements that gradually add up over time. The first thing you can try, it is literally rolling up your sleeves. I was confused and surprised to find out that women are attracted to men with toned forearms, so by wearing a nice button up and rolling up your sleeves you're emphasizing that particular body part. The next thing that you might consider taking on is wearing grey sweatpants, which again, I was surprised to discover has appeal to women. As it was described, there's a level of mystery and being able to see a hint of your package is something that works for many women. I think maybe the big thing to notice here is that, contrary to popular belief, women do objectify men and there are things that you can do about your appearance or the way that you present yourself that will make you more attractive attention-grabbing to women. Another piece at play here, is recognizing that this information came from women. Often times it doesn't do any good to ask leading male experts about what women want because, simply put this is the kind of thing that only women would know. When in doubt, poll a female friend. Now there are two other tips that you can only get from listening to the podcast, so happy exploring, catch you inside. :)
General disclaimer. This podcast (and episodes moving forward are hetero normative and from the perspective of a male. This is not done to exclude but simply because it is the only frame I'm remotely qualified to speak from.) In this episode we're going to walk a the fine line between attractive and the toxic masculine. (If the term toxic masculine offends you, get the fuck out - this isn't the episode or podcast for you.) In general the difference between the two, comes down to selfishness. Am I thinking exclusively of myself without regard for others? Or can I take on dominance, power, authority and leadership in a different way. That different way is where this convo is going. Among the women that I've dated and female clients (especially powerful women) there's a growing demand for the dominant masculine. This is showing up everywhere and a good example of that is the rapid rise in interest in BDSM among women. The tricky part here is that this dominant masculine shouldn't be taken on because it will make us more attractive partners as men. That's people pleasing by a different name and invariably leads to pain and resentment. At the extreme, it's your agency and fulfillment traded entirely for another's. So what's left to do here is explore how to take on this kind of behavior for yourself. For that matter, how do I take on finding fulfillment, joy, and direction in my life from within? We'll call that assertiveness. I believe that assertiveness is best cultivated by beginning to hone intuition. That is, the little voice in the back of your mind that tells you to turn off onto that side road. The little ping that draws you closer to a specific stranger for reasons unknown. The more we begin to roll the dice with that gut feeling, the more we unlock what makes us feel truly alive. Assertiveness is also the willingness to pursue those things at the risk of looking weird, or being judged. Setting aside any recriminations, imagined or otherwise, in favor of honoring your deepest desired and truths. Provided those drives aren't pushing you to hurt others, you're generally never going to go wrong by pursuing what feels alive to you. The pleasant side bonus of all this, is something scientists call positive affective field. That is, people who are normally unhappy, sad, anxious, or depressed begin to inexplicably feel good in your space. That is the essence of Charisma. The ability to meaningfully impact the emotional experience of another human being - and it is single handedly the most attractive trait you can possess. So take a gamble. Set aside the voice that tells you that you can wait til tomorrow, or now isn't a good time, and adventure where your heart tells you. That is how you embody the attractive masculine. And don't let any of those idiots at redpill tell you otherwise.
Every law has its dark side and the law of attraction is no exception. If you're attracting more unwanted experiences than usual and want to stop, this is the episode for you. Inside we talk about how it works, how to avoid falling victim, and the insider's mindset for attracting more of what you really want into your life - whether it's love, sex, money, health or another type of success.
In this episode we discuss how it's possible to have a relationship grounded in love that still fails. When is love not enough and why does it happen? The idea itself is simple, relationships break apart when conflict can't be resolved. But is it possible to have a conflict free relationship? Or does something about who we are make it inevitable... And if so, how do we deal with that? We answer all those questions and more in the next 17 min.
What are the dangers of fully embracing self help and Hustle culture? How do we avoid sacrificing the very things that bring joy and meaning into our lives in pursuit of the next milestone? In this episode, I talk about overtraining, the significant cost of blind solo focus, and how to avoid falling into the costly pitfall of "just doing it until it works". Photo by Isabella Mendes from Pexels
Ever get stuck in a plateau when it comes to dating, fitness, or wealth? Odds are...there's a judgment underneath. In this episode we talk about how that happens and more importantly, what you can do to stop limiting your own life.
In general, as within so without. What we judge others for rapidly becomes the cage that we can't grow past.
For example, I used to judge ripped shirtless dudes as arrogant douches. "There's no reason for these guys to go around shirtless, other than to show off."
In time, after working out a ton, I eventually also came to have a nice physique, however I was always hiding it. Eventually I stopped working out entirely, got a belly, and learned what it was like to have dad bod.
Accident? I think not. This was my judgement boomeranging back around to bite me in the ass.
There are few ways to spot judgements. One is to look to see where you're stagnating in life. Where have you been stuck for a long time. Odds are, there's a judgement holding you back from progressing.
The other way is to look to see who you in your life you choose to hate or avoid. Why? Then we begin to look at how that affects our behavior when it counts. Big meetings, speeches, when it comes to dating, or conflict, etc.
In order to remove judgements we must begin to seek the similarities between the person we judge and ourselves. This part is painful for many people - the cognitive dissonance is intense and necessary. We're hacking our brains to release hard emotions.
The other approach is looking to see how the people or behaviors we judge are benefitting us personally. Continue to look, and list out benefits until your emotions change.
For most of my life I thought that getting to a sexually charged conversation with a woman was hard. That I needed to dodge landmines and say just the right thing. Be perfectly witty and drop hints about sex and somehow I'd find myself miraculously on the other side of the wall.
In the last few months, I've basically cracked the code.
Sexy flirty conversations are fun. Easy. Natural.
This is how I got there.
I'm chagrinned to admit that I've become an expert at recovering from breakups over the last year.
So today, in this podcast, I talk about what some common symptoms of unprocessed grief are.
How to identify if you need to set aside time for yourself to get clear.
And the most effective techniques I know for going from feeling like crap to being completely empowered about your loss.
At a certain stage in my life I started noticing the patterns. I was somehow always dating girls who were depressed. More than that, women who "needed to be saved". It would always end the same way, too. I would burn myself out trying to save them, and in so doing, I would burn my relationships to the ground. I'd get grumpy and moody. I'd stop talking to folks. Stop taking care of myself. Then I, too, would fall into a depression.
So in this podcast, we ask the million dollar question. How do we break free?
How do we step outside the way things have always gone, and create something different. A new reality where we don't have to suffer the same way again and again.
This episode applies to every pattern you encounter, not just relationships. If you're stuck with a body you dislike. If you keep on landing the same kinds of jobs where you're underpaid, underappreciated, and overworked...
Inside, we talk about how you can delete the pattern.
There are 3 stages.
1. Identify, label, and blame. This is a necessary step. It gets us out of the initial swirl of things. Focuses us on fixing the issue. However, I've found myself stuck on this stage one too many times. Blame is a victim's stance. And victims have no real control or authority, especially not over their own lives. In order the meaningfully advance, we necessarily need to move to...
2. Responsibility. I take full ownership over how things went. I made choices. I interpreted people's behavior in a negative light. I felt the emotions I felt. I have control over my experience of reality. When I step into this role, I also step into the power that comes with it. In acknowledging that the mess I find myself in is my own creation, I give myself a meaningful way to create change. Being responsible also means letting go of guilt and allowing myself to simply look at the facts. I wanted x, I didn't get it because I did a, b, and c.
3. Action. Looking at the full spectrum of what we did to get the results we did, we pick a new course of action. That doesn't mean I have to be perfect about it. Or never fail. What it does mean is that if I wish to achieve different results, I will need to periodically remind myself of what I committed to. What flag I've planted on the horizon, and choose to keep braving the bitter winds and slog uphill until I get the thing I wanted most. This doesn't mean I need to hustle every day without breaks, this doesn't mean I sacrifice myself and my mental or physical health to get my goal complete. This does mean, I stay committed, no matter what my emotional state.
Lately I've been getting a lot of questions from folks about how to start investing if I had $25k, $10k, or $100 a month. The answer is the same every time.
First thing's first. This isn't financial advice. This is how I invest. Investment is a risk. Pursue it at your own discretion and understand that anything you're willing to wager, you must be first willing to lose. With the market as crazy as it is lately, there's a lot of room for aggressive betting and as a result, aggressive losses.
So to make sure you aren't just throwing money down the drain here's what you need to know:
Pay off ALL your debts first. The average investor makes 10% returns a year. If you've playing with $100 a month, it makes more sense to simply pay down your more aggressive loans first as your investments will NOT outstrip the accrued interest from a credit card.
Build up savings of at least 6 months. If things go sideways, you want to have plenty of runway. Homelessness isn't a joke. I don't want that for you. Be safe.
Once these steps are resolved, contribute as much as you can to your 401k - esp if your employer is matching. Max out the match rate. You immediately double your investment. Everyone wins, except maybe your employer.
ROTH IRA - set one up. Contribute the maximum each year. Right now it's $6k. Money inside this account you can't touch until you're 59. The advantage here is that this asset is super malleable. Since you won't be taxed for selling like you would be on any other account, you can use this to sandbox more risky plays or day trade while minimizing risk while you figure out your investment strategy.
Dollar cost average. That is, contribute the same amount of money every week to your accounts. This has proven to be the most reliable way of seeing returns vs. trying to buy low and sell high. No one can predict how the market will move, the more you try, the more you stand to lose or miss out on big sudden gain spikes.
Invest INDEX Funds until you understand the market and how it behaves according to world events, announcements, tweets from influential people, and news. Observe the trends in how people behave. Begin to capitalize on these trends to earn more returns on your investments.
Finally some general ideas that I tend to follow:
Traditionally a good investor will spot and invest in an undervalued asset - one that is overlooked, unappreciated, and poised to grow or dominate. If you have a lot of capital lying around it makes sense to invest in a stock you believe heavily in, every time the market dips. So when it invariably self corrects a few days, weeks, or months later - you get a larger percentage gain.
Most name brand companies will only turn you profit in the long run. If you don't bury your head in the sand and ignore the signs, in general if you leave your cash parked in a pillar of the economy you will see gains over a 5 year investment. You're also incentivized by the government to hang onto stocks for at least a year - if you do that before selling, you get taxed less.
If you're just starting out, it makes a lot more sense to play the long game than gamble on options. Log in, do your research, observe how the market moves, and when you understand it more fully, then begin to make bigger plays.
I typically don't risk more than 10% of my assets on any venture, no matter how *guaranteed* the results are. Again, do not ever play with more chips than you can afford to lose. Once you've accrued more principle, you'll have more room to make dumb meme bets like me.
First, it's important to understand the mechanism that we're using here. There are a lot of systems for making money and being financially secure. This is mine. This has allowed me a coaching business that's grown by $1000 a month since I started working on it. I work less than 10 hours a week. I earned $20,000 in the last week without doing any work at all. In a few months, I'll be completely replacing my "earned" income with passive revenue.
So, what did I do to get here? How am I so certain about my financial future?
This is how I make it work as of right now:
You will need to understand the following in order to make this work.
Know how to create meaningful connection with new people (see previous podcast episodes to understand how)
Understand who you tribe is
Know how to identify them from everyone else
Clarity and freedom in your relationship to money
When you have all these components and skills in place, it allows you to naturally and easily attract more and more money into your life by using the system.
Have conversations with as many people as possible. Start with 1-on-1, move to 1-to-many communication (details in the episode)
Clearly communicate what you do in an emotionally impactful way.
Clearly communicate when you want to work with someone.
As long as you continue to have conversations, you will profit with very little effort.
You may be able to tell that a LOT of what's going on here is mindset dependent, which makes this system particularly useful if you're working without much of a budget and wanting to establish a business of passion. Something that you LOVE doing and have dreamed of doing. All that's really required here is a willingness to transform your mind, the way that you tackle new challenges.
If you got something out of this episode, help me out with a review or a subscribe! Thank you so much for listening.
I got a few big things from this episode,
The first is understanding that there are really only 2 ways to go about your path to financial success (or any success for that matter)
Focusing on others, trying to prevent yourself from losing...Or putting all your time and energy into finding your own way. Always assuming that there is a way forward, because ...well, someone else made it.
Enter Chef Alexia, a Top Chef contender, chef at a Michelin star restaurant, successful restauranteur. In this episode we talk about how she not only turned an economic downturn (2008) to her advantage and launched a successful chain of 4 restaurants, but how she's continuing to find success in a time when many are struggling to get their bearings.
There are a lot of powerful mindsets in this episode and IMO, we cover off on more than a few killer ideas that will help bring you to the next level.
If you're interested in connecting with Alexia, you can reach her via any of the following channels...
How do you recover from rock bottom? How do you find the will to create and succeed when life is hitting you as hard as it can?
In this episode, we discuss what it takes to run a successful company with employees, what a successful marketing agency recommends for new businesses, and why learning human connection is what makes the biggest difference for any venture. Business or otherwise.
If you're interested in getting on contact with Howard he can be found at https://www.lfdm.co/
In this episode we feature 10x serial entrepreneur and badass boss lady Megan Darakjian on how she (and you) learned to make money doing whatever the hell she wanted. We're talking making premium nut butter, starting her own fashion line, operating as a real estate broker... the list goes on and on and on.
Given the times, I think there's more reason now than ever before to understand the basics of wealth creation and management. Learning to establish your own business and independent income streams is a big part of that. If you're looking to get started on your journey as a solotrepreneur, or you're already on your quest for F*** YOU money, this is the one you don't wanna miss.
Want to connect with Megan?
You can find her on Instagram at
In this episode... Where most people go wrong when setting New Year's Resolutions. Why most people fail by February. The secret to living a life of fulfillment vs. just going through the motions. And how to transform your sex life, your career, and your experience of reality using one simple rule.
What are the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to wealth generation?
What's something most people don't know, that's actually holding them back?
Why do 70 percent of lottery winners end up bankrupt in just a few years?
How can I begin to master the basics so I can retire early?
How do you build a successful coaching practice when 98% of startups fail?
I answer all these questions and more in this episode!
In this episode, how to connect with nearly anyone, create extraordinary results when searching for a new job, and how my good friend Scott went from being on the brink of homelessness and being cut out of his childrens' lives, to being more financially stable and relationally successful than ever.
This is a heartfelt and vulnerable podcast where Scott and I talk about what actually matters when it comes to people and success.
If you're interested in connecting with Scott he can be found at...
The Conscious Man Podcast
What does it take to build wealth at a breakneck speed?
In this episode I interview a good friend and human that I respect on his story, his mindset, and how he created a real estate brokerage that's more successful than EVER in the middle of a pandemic.
Inside you'll learn...
Why risk tolerance really matters and how you can get it
A quick way to get over being "too salesy" so you can really connect with folks
The reason why you can't get your side business to succeed (and what you can do about it)
Why emotional awareness is better than the "power of positive thinking"
The #1 mistake people make when trying to build their wealth
If you connect with Leo and want to contact him you can find him at https://www.instagram.com/the_real_leo_g/
As we kick off the season of money on GDG, we begin to look at how to create a lifestyle of wealth, attraction, and abundance. In this episode Instagram influencer and podcaster Ray Ahn shares how he uses his "mess" as his message to create meaningful impact on literally over 100,000 lives.
Where most people get stopped when it comes to building their dream lifestyle.
The truth about going viral and what actually matters when it comes to engaging an audience.
The real reason why you can't seem to quit your 9-5 (and what you can do about it).
How to protect yourself from wasting your time on your social profiles.
The golden keys to creating true financial freedom.
If you're interested in reaching Ray and having a chat, or learning more about how he does exactly what he does, you can find him on Instagram at:
The first thing to understand is that dating apps have very little bearing on how attractive you are in real life.
I'm fantastic with people and I have a very hard time with online dating, especially with getting matches.
That's why in this episode I'm teaching you everything I've learned to double or even triple your online dating results.
Here are 3 rules to live by in order to win at this game:
1. Know your audience. Dating apps are designed to appeal to people who are visually focused and are looking to make snap decisions about folks. That gives you 3 seconds or less to make an impression. Your photo is everything. I give details about how to make them better, inside. BIGGEST TIP, guys. Smile. And be outdoors. I'll explain why and provide a tool to dramatically change the way you online date.
2. Take breaks. It's demoralizing, esp. if you already don't like these dating apps. It's easy to walk away feeling like you're an unattractive human when you simply might just have bad photos of yourself. Inside I explain the system / structure I use to stop myself from feeling like an ugly undesirable guy when I online date.
3. You're being tracked. Fight back. Dating apps rate your attractiveness and then only match you with people they think you're equivalent to. That's total bs. In this ep, I'll explain how they do it, and how to turn the tables.
With COVID in full swing and ever increasing levels of social isolation, I wanted to make an episode for everyone who's feeling alone, forgotten, or isolated from their loved ones. Maybe you feel like you don't have anyone. What can you do? Inside, I share my personal approach to coping with tough emotions, loneliness, and 2 foolproof ways to have an amazing holiday even if right now you feel like crap.
Worried about coming across creepy and weird?
Tired of being rejected and ghosted?
Here are 3 rules to put into play today, that will immediately make you more attractive, appear more confident to women, and dramatically lower your creepy factor.
1. Stop trying to fake it til you make it. People pick up on it. It's the #1 source of creepiness.
2. Drop the agenda. People know when we're trying to pitch them something. We turn into this weird contorted version of ourselves. We talk and sound different. We get all sweaty. If you can't drop the agenda, do you best to replace it with one that's more congruent. Mine is... I want to get deeply connected with this human being on an emotional level.
3. Look to see what job your brain automatically tries to occupy. Are you to peace maker? Are you the one who tries to make everything positive? Are you the one who's always looking for what's wrong? Look where your brain goes during conversations and interrupt it when you notice it. Over time, you'll show up more as yourself instead of as a fake or pretender. That's when the magic begins.
When she can get a feel for who you really are, you'll start attracting the people who love you for being exactly you.
Michael Sheehan Alahouzos aka "Miracle" (most-affectionally known by friends and family as Panda) is an embodiment coach, meditation teacher, and researcher. A native of the District of Columbia, Miracle obtained a Bachelor of Arts from Pepperdine University in Malibu, California.
Here's some of the stuff he's been up to in just one 11 day window...
• 🍽 FASTING :: 10 days and 19 hours
• 🥵 DRY FASTING (ZERO WATER) :: 71 hours
• 👟 RUNNING :: 51 miles or 82 kilometers
• 🏊♂️ SWIMMING :: 5 kilometers or 3.1 miles
• 💪 WEIGHT LOSS :: 11.5 lbs or 5.21 kg
• 💪 CALORIES BURNED :: 20,000-30,000 (best guess)
• 💪 CALORIES INGESTED :: < 30 (coffee & green tea)
• 🧊 COLD THERAPY :: 2 hours 59 mins (ice water at 3.75-15°C)
• 🧖♂️ HEAT THERAPY :: 3 hours 30 mins (steam at 55-80°C)
• 🧘♂️ YOGA :: 900 minutes (estimated)
• 🧘♂️ VIPASSANA :: 1300 minutes (estimated)
• 🐱 KITTENS :: 2 kittens
• 🧂 ALL SUPPLEMENTS: Bali sea salt, magnesium, iodine
• 🏃 Running 11 miles on Day 11 of fasting (!!)
• 🥵 Running 5 miles during a 24-hour dry fast (!!)
• 🧖♂️ Doing 2 hours in a sweat lodge (
Polyamory is the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the informed consent of all partners involved. It has been described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy." From Wikipedia
This was a hard podcast for me to do. I've had a number of very negative experiences under the banner of polyamory that make my brain start to freeze up and go into a fear response every time the subject comes up. If you're extra sharp, you might catch me taking longer to respond and having a harder time coming up with something insightful to say or ask. Despite that, this episode was absolutely killer and in listening you will upgrade your dating and relationship game by orders of magnitude.
We talk about a lot of important foundational things. Things that will make ANY relationship better, when applied, because they're battle tested in the most challenging relationship form (IMO): polyamory.
Inside, I have a heart to heart with a good friend, mentor, and someone who's been navigating the poly scene for decades.
The major mistakes people make when trying to create a polyamorous life
How to protect yourself from manipulation and bad relationships
Why responsibility is the single greatest tool for becoming more desirable
The reason why you can't keep your walls up in a functional relationship (and what to do about it)
And soooo much more...
This is an important episode. You may find yourself wanting to go back through more than once. :)
If you get something from this episode give it a subscribe, rate it, or comment and let me know what you think. It takes 15 seconds and it helps this podcast grow and keeps me happy and validated.
Thank you for listening. Catch you in the next one.
In this episode, we talk breathing practices that are DESIGNED to help you move through hard emotions and make your dating life better! Can you breathe your way to being a charismatic human being? My experience points to...yes. Inside, we talk about why.
For reference, some or all of what we discuss falls into the category of breathwork.
To quote Parsley Health:
Most formal practices involve 20 minutes to an hour of sustained, rhythmic breathing techniques. People who practice breathwork describe feeling tingling sensations throughout their body, feelings of clarity, alertness, increased mind-body connection and even emotional purging.
An easy exercise to settle your nervous system and stop wandering thoughts / procrastination.
Why it's important to be mindful on dates.
How the way you breathe directly impacts your mental health.
Personal story - how did it feel to take part in a 90 minute breathwork ceremony? hint: I was ugly crying.
The hidden link between breathing and peak performance (flow state)
There's so much more here - it's a really action packed 30 minutes and definitely one of the more unusual interviews I've done. Hope you enjoy!
If you got something out of it, leave us a rating, a comment, or subscribe so we can spread the message a little deeper into the Universe.
If you'd like to connect with Naushad you can find his content at:
There are a lotta gurus and experts out there pushing mindset lately. I HATE IT.
YOU JUST gOtTa haVe an AbunDanCe MindSetT Brooooooo. THen it'll all come naturally.
NAH. I'm debunking that shit right now. Today.
1. Mindset is EARNED. I started off believing I was ugly. I didn't become someone who thought of themselves as an attractive person by thinking positive thoughts and doing daily affirmations. I earned that belief by putting myself in uncomfortable situations because I thought I was going to die alone. Your pain is fuel. Use it to push to the next level. Where do you begin? Look to see where you're most uncomfortable, then begin chipping away. You don't have to be perfect at it. If you want to be an expert though, you have to be willing to go where no one else has gone.
Mindset ONLY comes as a result of concerted effort, action, risk, and discomfort.
2. It's easier for gurus to pitch mindset because it requires no effort. People will accept it. But we all know that one person who's always trying to force themselves to be positive. It comes off fake. Plastic. Same goes with mindsets. Once you have them, they're so goddamn useful. But when you do not, you cannot THINK, cajole, or affirm your way into believing it.
3. In fact, there is ONLY 1 useful mindset ---- and it is this: if someone else has done it, it's POSSIBLE for you to do it, too. No matter how unlikely it may seem - there is a way. It's your job to find it. The minute you close yourself off to the possibility that something MIGHT be attainable, you're screwed. You're stuck. There's no way out for you now. Might as well throw in the towel.
To achieve incredible things, you MUST FIRST BELIEVE IT CAN BE DONE.
I saw this a lot on Reddit. Men who were convinced they would never be able to "convince" a gal to love them for who they really were. It might work for chads and alphas. But "not for me". And those same people will forever be doomed to be single, alone, and bitter until they accept that it's POSSIBLE to learn how to become attractive.
When I discovered that a friend of mine had made the deliberate, non-religious choice to be a virgin... I had to get him on the show. This was, for me, a rare opportunity to delve into the mindset of someone who was successful...but hadn't had a lot of romantic experience. In a lot of ways, it was like talking to myself in my 20s...
I spent most of my adult life trying to escape virginity. It was a badge of dishonor. A scarlet letter letting other men and women know that I wasn't yet a man - whatever that meant. Only to discover that, once I was no longer a virgin, it didn't change who I was at all. There was no "ah-hah!" I'm a man! moment. There was no sudden insight or knowledge of the universe or women. I was just a guy who'd had sex once.
This conversation was by far one of the most fun that I've had and it was an emotional rollercoaster for me the entire way through. Wow. There was so much I wanted to fix or change and it took everything I had to avoid doing that at every turn. So you'll get to watch me STRUGGLE with that as the interview goes on.
His voice has been altered for anonymity, but his answers have not - and there's a ton to appreciate and unpack in this episode.
In this podcast you'll discover...
Why choose virginity at all?
What is the mindset of a person who isn't bothered by this label?
Is authentic self expression as a dating strategy actually viable?
How do you plan for a romantic life when you haven't had any experience?
And surprisingly, all my hard opinions about The Game, Pickup Artists, and the seduction community in general make a debut this episode.
Get it while it's hot.
[Seibo Shen is the CEO of Vapexhale, Hanu Labs, and BRNR Lab, dad, husband, and executive business coach.]
I speak with Seibo on why he uses psychedelics and cannabis and why he chooses to do so as a father and serial entrepreneur.
One of the things they never tell you is JUST how much of the wealthiest, most successful people on the planet do drugs. But not just any drugs. What you see time and again is the same 3-4 substances - ayahuasca, psilocybin mushrooms, DMT, and LSD. So the question you might be asking yourself now is....is there a reason for this?
In this interview, we talk about the benefits and side effects of some of the more common hallucinogens, how that helps some people perform at a much higher level, and the freaky part of experiencing other realities.
If you're curious about psychedelics and exploring altered states of mind, or if you're a seasoned psychonaut - this is the episode for you.
If you want to pick up your own vape pen or want to support what Seibo's about, check out his site below:
When I first heard about the Purity movement, it was from the Jonas Brothers.
Each brother with their own little ring, suggesting that they wouldn't be having sex until marriage. Which, wow. The willpower required to do that as a world-famous musician. Not surprised that didn't go well.
I also had some friends who took it on earlier in life. But until I did this interview I really had no understanding of what living like would do to my mind.
In this interview, I speak with a good friend of mine who waited til marriage. I count myself lucky in a lot of ways, but I never expected to feel that way about this. One final note, no hate towards people in the movement. This is the exploration of some of the aftermath when someone is encouraged to rapidly change their mindset from "sex is sinful and bad" to "you should have all the sex and please your husband".
The book recommendation that showed up on the podcast is PURE by Linda Kay Klein.
For questions or messages you'd like to pass along to our guest, please contact me directly.
"We're blessed to be a galaxy in a skinsuit..."
In this interview, I invite a good friend of mine and (IMO) an expert on BDSM to talk about what that means.
This is most decidedly NSFW and if talking about sex and pleasure makes you squeamish, this isn't the episode for you.
Inside we cover what BDSM actually involves
How to get started on your own journey
The most dangerous practices to avoid
The basic types of sensation play and how to do them
And as an added bonus, you'll also learn how to become to best sex they've ever had.
Jason Stein is a trainer to coaches, marketing expert, Acupuncturist, a father and husband. In this interview Rob & Jason discuss surviving the pandemic, what to do and NOT do to our relationships in times of crisis, and insider tips on how to deliver and receive compliments for maximum impact.
Jason can be reached at JasonStein.com. You can also find him via Instagram @iamjasonstein and as a special bonus to listeners, you can schedule an entire 30-minute session with him and pay him in CHOCOLATE if you visit JasonStein.com/chocolate.
I'll save you some time. You don't want to take a Telemarketing job. It's awful. But I learned things there that have helped me become a master conversationalist. If you ever wanted to be the kind of person that people CRAVE talking to, this is a good place to start.
Uhh... Yeah the fake it til you make it people have been working overtime. Body language isn't something you can fake. In fact, faking body language is the no. 1 way to be super creepy. The way we feel has a way of communicating itself, so if I'm pretending I'm chill but people can see I'm secretly anxious, that's gonna set off some red flags, homes. There's a better way to fix your body language. Here's how.
It's time we took a look at just how dumb Hustle culture is. Working hard isn't the key to success. It's the key to working hard and nothing else. There's a better way, and the good news is you don't have to GRIND 24/7 to get there. Deets inside.
Just recently rediscovered a mindset hack that is making a huge difference for me today. I've been amped up and excited to be alive for HOURS on end now and I just HAD to record something and share it. In this episode, I'm going to teach you how to use knife sharpening to become the kind of man or woman that has mates LINED UP waiting for their chance to date you. This episode will change your life.
I hate feeling insecure in a relationship... and being non needy is one of the most attractive things you can do for yourself in the dating and relationship world. Ready to leave that neediness and validation seeking behavior in the dust forever? I've got a simple exercise that will help set you free.
Y'all are wasting your time doing what you're doing. Online dating? Psh. Dating apps? Double psh!
Here's what the pros do when they're ready to start dating. Get ready to be pursued vigorously.
My pain is your gain. In the last few weeks I've been dealing with feeling abandoned and lost and deeply unhappy. And in my pain, the one thing I wanted to was to find out how to never feel that way again. Which brings us nicely to today's podcast... What's the true secret to happiness? If you've been on a similar train and you can't wait to get off, great news. I think I've stumbled across the answer...
I interview 5x powerlifting champion Vincent Do on his arena of expertise. Using the body to reprogram reality. In this ep. you'll learn how to body affects the mind, your emotions, your thoughts, and ultimately your future - AND how to make the most of it.
How can you become deliriously happy, confident, and therefore dateable just by working out? Find out in this interview.
Mindset is the end all be all of successful dating. Without the proper mindset, it doesn't matter what you say or do, you'll be met with the same obstacles again and again. Want to break free? Let's talk about video games...
Procrastination can be a sneaky thing. Sometimes we're doing it before we even realize it's happening. So how do we put a stop to the cycle for good? After all most of us have been doing some form of procrastination ever since we were kids. Tune in today to find out.
Stuck in your journey and not sure where to go next? Losing faith and confused? In this podcast we talk about how to level up your game and where to focus to maximize your dateability in as little time as possible. This is the information I wish I had years ago...
See normally, I don't tell my clients to start working out to become more attractive.
Being fit is a good idea... But I've never seen someone become more confident or accept themselves more after learning to body build. The biggest shifts in attractiveness come from within...or so I thought. That belief got shaken up today. This is seriously brilliant stuff that I've NEVER heard about before.
In this episode Vincent Do, 5x California State Champion Powerlifter shares his secret to self-acceptance, loving the body he's got, and how he's learned to crush his limiting beliefs.
Vincent Do helps people rehabilitate and heal their bodies from chronic injury and pain. He's excellent at what he does.
If you want to work with Vincent you can book him at UprightHealth.com.
The past few months haven't been easy for many of us. Between the quarantine, endless stream of bad news, and massive life changes things just seem to keep piling on. If you've been feeling any of that, this episode will bring you relief. Because you matter... and you deserve it.
Welcome to the untapped secret of dating. In this episode we cover off on how someone being mad at you might actually be the beginning of attraction, whether or not counseling technique should play a role in courtship, and much much more!
I think we can agree that on the surface some of us appear Luckier than others. All of us have that one friend that always wins everything. There are people in our lives who always seem to be in the right place at the right time...but is that actually what's going on? We cover the science and precise formula for a luckier life in today's podcast.
Charisma is one of the most widely useable skills you will ever learn. It will impact your ability to make friends, get dates, and succeed in life more than almost any other skill you can master. The trouble is...it's really abstract. It's totally loosey goosey. What even is charisma? How does one get it? All that and more in today's podcast.
Do you think of yourself as someone who gives up too soon? Are you the kind of person to be incredibly hard and rigorous with yourself only to burn out a few weeks later? Do you experience life as one big struggle lately? This one's for you. Learn the trick to refreshing your motivation so you never run dry again.
We all make mistakes. Mine almost got me killed. Along the way I learned the secret to connection, intimacy, and creating the spark with women...but first I had to go through this. Learn from my mistakes.
Also known as...how to compliment so hard it moves someone to tears. One of the most valuable skillsets you can have as a partner (or as a killer date) is knowing how to move and inspire someone. Once you understand how to deliver a powerful compliment, you'll be part of a very exclusive and highly sought after group of people. Peace of mind, reassurance, and empowerment is something people pay hundreds of dollars an hour for. I should know. :)
So what's the secret? Just follow the 3 steps in today's podcast...
If you've given up on dating during quarantine you may be shooting yourself in the foot. The fact is online dating is more active now than ever and there are some factors that will make this a HUGE home run for the people who choose to participate. Literally once in a lifetime perks. You DO NOT want to miss this, and here's exactly why.
I'm not sure about you, but lately it's felt like things are darker than ever. And when I think about how I want to be living my life, I know that being inspired makes all the difference. It's the line between sitting on the couch, head in my hands, resigned about the way things are going...and actually going out and swinging for the fences anyway. But hope and inspiration are finicky things. They're fleeting. Temporary. So in this episode I'll teach you step by step, how a professional coaches are trained to inspire their clients at any moment to take bold action. This is confidence and motivation on tap. Tune in!
Raise your hand if you've been struggling to be productive the minute you were allowed to work from home! Turns out there's a scientific reason why you've suddenly been re-addicted to Candy Crush, porn, Instagram, or whatever your vice happens to be...
In this podcast we'll cover off on 3 unique ways to break free and have THE MOST PRODUCTIVE WEEK OF YOUR LIFE. You can thank me later. I accept payment in gold bricks and Trader Joe's Trible Ginger Brew.
A few weeks cooped up inside is going to have some weird side effects on your brain. Stress. Conflict. Apathy. Depression. Here are 3 ways to keep your mind sharp, fresh, and clear while everyone else is freaking out.
Does dating feel like it's getting harder and harder every year? You aren't alone in this. Dating is getting harder for everyone, and here is precisely why... (and how to use this to your advantage to stand out).
I haven't and still don't relate to myself as a sexy person. But I recently had my eyes opened on how to be a sexy person DESPITE all that. It takes 2 steps, it's insanely easy to remember, and it completely changes the game.
"Get more dates by making friends with more men/women," they'll tell you. "It's easy!" They'll say. Except for one thing. It's hard to make friends with the people that already make you nervous! Today we talk about how to beat Dating's Biggest Catch 22 and how to make your dating life easy and abundant.
Confidence doesn't have to be something you fake and it's easier to get there than you think. In this episode I break down two ways to fully unleash your natural charisma and presence, no matter who you're with or what you're up to.
There's something you should know about lobsters... that will change the way you do dating and relationships forever. Join me today for more incredibly relevant information about crustaceans and how that applies to getting along better with other people.
There are 4 huge reasons why modern dating is consistently a disaster. Thankfully there a lot we can do about it... In this episode, you'll learn one simple idea that will change your dating life forever.
There's a very specific but little known part of your body that holds the secret to regaining control of your emotions. In some cases, as little time as 30 seconds. In fact, you can hack your emotions with a few simple exercises that you already do every day...
If there's one thing stopping you from living a bigger life, odds are... it's fear. Fear of rejection, missing out, fear of the unknown, fear of repeating the past. Fear is the chain that binds us to the gray, mundane, and resigned. Wanna break free without having to spend hundreds of dollars? Here are 4 ways how...
There are a lot of coaches out there.
A lot of people claiming that they have the secret to transforming your life.
There's also a LOT of B.S. coaching floating around.
So today, I put my money where my mouth is.
This is an interview my ex-client on her experience getting coaching with me.
It's a big marketing thing in the dating industry to make sure that (s)he's the one chasing you. While it's always nice to be wanted, there's a hidden cost to all of this... Today you'll learn all about how your brain is subtly fighting against your best life and what you can do to fight back.
Carl Roger was a renounced psychologist who spent his later years applying his knowledge to successfully resolving conflict in Northern Ireland, apartheid South Africa, and post-dictatorship Brazil. Today, we take his most coveted skill and use it to transform your relationships!
In this episode:
- What it takes to make "the most unlikely" kind of relationship soar
- The signs of a healthy communication style and bedrock to a lasting committed marriage
- What to look for in a life partner
- And much more...
Your dating life and relationships might not be as restricted, resigned, or narrow as you're making it out to be! Maybe you think that most people are out of your league or maybe you've decided that you never want to date again. Here's how you break free.
In this episode we explore Frederick Bartlett's research into human memory... and why you should NEVER trust your memory when you're arguing!
AND, you can grab your tickets for our premiere Oceanside event... Slow Dating by clicking the link below:
Hey GDG Gang, just finished my silent Vipassana Meditation Course and life feels...completely different. If you've never done one before, YOU GOTTA, it will completely change the way you date and relationship. In this episode, I'll be sharing some of the MASSIVE takeaways from my time living as a monk for 10 days.
What does it take to stop the cycle of one failed, unsatisfying relationship after another? What does it take to finally get the kind of beautiful, juicy, connected relationships most of us only fantasize about? Today relationship coach Ana Ruiz talks about her path to breaking free of the cycle and what you can do for yourself.
You can claim a free 1 hr session with Ana at www.AnaRuiz.life
Today we talk about Ivan Pavlov, dogs salivating, and all the reasons why you DON'T want to use behavioral psychology to help a loved one get over an addiction. Listen to this episode if you're trying to help ANYONE you care about shift from a unwanted behavior to a healthier one. :)
I'm going to be gone from the 11th to the 22nd...during that time, I'll be completely silent, off my phone, and meditating for 10 hrs+ a day. I'm not a meditation guy. Up until this point, my attempts at that particular activity usually ends with me accidentally falling asleep after 15 minutes. But, there's a method to the madness...listen in to find out why!
Persuasion and seduction have a LOT in common. They both involve shifting how another person might think and for most of us... It's really difficult! How do I persuade someone to date or even marry me? The secret is inside this podcast.
In this episode...Rorschach tests, why it's impossible to avoid your lying brain, and what you can do about it. The mind is a sneaky thing - more than anything, the stories it tells you about what's real, the meaning it makes out of nothing, and the way it subtly bends and influences your experience are what cause MOST couples to split. Here's what you can do about it.
In this episode my good friend TK (a teacher and counselor to kids in one of the biggest school districts in the world), explore how the school system impacted and the way you date, explore the world, and interact with others.
This go around, we talk about how the mind deals with high emotion. Yknow...like the kind of emotion you experience every time you and your partner get into a fight! When someone says something backhanded and passive aggressive to you...is your reaction hurting your mental health? You'll learn all that and more in this episode.
In this episode...how Sigmund Freud can improve your dating life, why it's sooo hard to choose the "right decision" over feelings, and how you can become sexier by having a conversation with your own mind.
Short answer... Yes! But not in the way you might think. In this episode you'll learn about how the "sugar pill effect" impacts your romantic life and your perception of reality. Should you choose to do something with that information... That's when you become happier.
In this episode, learn how a single sheet of ordinary paper could completely change your relationships and dating life. The reality is most of us are suffering waaaay more than we need to be when it comes to our romantic lives. Here's why it happens and how you can snap out of it whenever you please!
In this episode:
- The big thing that stops us from instantly sexy connected conversations
- How to stop your first date fear cold in its tracks
- What you can learn about dating from a famous 19th century Russian novelist
In this episode:
- Why you can't get a meaningful commitment from a man or "fix" your dating life with a script
- What it ACTUALLY takes to make a relationship work in the long run - not trick a guy into thinking you're someone you're not
- 3 relationship skills that will make any guy you're dating 100% convinced you're THE ONE
In this episode:
- How to communicate (without manipulation) so that people are EXCITED to do what you ask
- The mistake everyone makes when it comes to acquiring new skills - including getting what you want!
- How the past controls your communication with EVERYONE
In this podcast...
- Signs you're being too polite...
- Why "people love talking about themselves, just ask a bunch of questions" is garbage advice
- Will having sex on the first date really set you up to fail?
In this episode:
- The conflict style most common to women and how it's undermining your relationships.
- Why some couples just can't seem to stop fighting.
- A simple 3 step approach to ending your relationship conflict *now*.
In this episode:
- Which personality type do most men fall into and how to use that to stop fighting with your partner
- The real reason most couples separate (hint: it isn't sex, other women, or "the spark")
- What to do if you're dating a man who's usually calm but lashes out and gets mean when he's triggered
As a general PSA - if you want to learn more about the subject we covered today, just look for attachment styles on Google!
In this episode:
- The reason why so many men are always trying to sneak in through the friendzone
- 3 signs he's not just trying to sleep with you
- Why so many men have a hard time with emotions...and MORE
In this episode!
- The hidden patterns that cause relationships to fizzle over time and how to prevent them!
- How to turn things around when the spark, connection, and romance are long gone.
- How to escape the vicious cycle of dating and breaking up every 2-5 years.
In this episode
- How your superpower and greatest weakness are one in the same
- How to get an immensely satisfying relationship in two simple steps
- Why most people get stuck when it comes to their growth & dating lives (and how you can break the cycle)
In this episode:
- Why many people struggle with flirting
- Why you might not be filtering for the kind of guy you think you are
- How come so many guys don't seem to realize you're flirting with them
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In this episode
- The emotional blueprint MOST men have and what that means for your relationship.
- How to communicate with your partner in an argument.
- The REAL reason men emotionally pull away when you're having a fight - hint: it's not because they're mad at you.
Frustrated? Need to transform your relationship with yourself or others? We can help. Claim your complimentary 45 minute strategy session at www.calendly.com/robwang/strat
In this episode:
- How your relationship with your parents affects your relationship with your partner, your work, and so much else.
- The frightening truth about the human mind and happiness
- Why success and wealth doesn't actually matter without the right mindset
In this episode....
- The painful hidden cost of playing hard to get or trying to be more of a challenge...
- Do men respond better to "bitches" vs. "nice girls"??
- The 2 most common limiting beliefs successful women suffer from & how to rewire your brain to resolve them!
In this episode:
- The top mistake people make to attract the wrong type of person
- Body language to unconsciously make others feel drawn to you
- How to attract people without needing to juggle 10,000 different body language and conversational rules
In this episode:
Why some people are SO much easier to connect with than others, and what we can learn from them.
The 3 prime characteristics of magnetically attractive people
A new way to book a free starter session with Dating Smash
In this episode:
- How to stop dating people from neediness and scarcity
- Why boundaries are critical for a successful dating life
- Learning to separate rejection from your self worth
- How to survive dating as a queer person of color
In this episode:
- The hidden cost of seeking a relationship that will "make you happy"
- Why it can sometimes feel like you keep end up dating the same person or experiencing the same relationship problems
- The approach to relationships that *will* make you deliriously happy no matter what you're going through
Megan Darakjian is a successful luxury real estate broker in Southern California, one of the world's most competitive (and expensive markets). Today, she shares her outlook on dating, conversation secrets, and her unusual approach to dating.
These professionals create the kind of conversation that gets multi million dollar homes bought and sold...so let's take that and apply it to dating. How do we date the million dollar man?
In this podcast we cover:
1) How women evaluate attractive men
2) The top 3 traits women look for in a partner
3) Why "being rich" as a dating strategy is a surefire way to get cheated on
4) And the impact American culture has on your dating life.
It's time to kick "looking cool" to the curb. It's not doing us any favors.
In this episode:
- The hidden cost of trying to look good and how it's affecting you right now, especially if you think it isn't.
- How you may be screwing yourself out of your dream relationship...
- And what you can do about it on your next date.
Tired of dating confused man children? This is for you. Here's a detailed guide on how to spot an eligible man who's got it all handled (and how you can attract him).
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It affects fully half of Americans and it's absolutely devastating to our relationships and how attractive we appear to others. Left unchecked it poisons our interactions with almost everyone we encounter. In this episode we go into that fear and how to overcome it for good.
Liv and Rob go deep on bravery through sexuality, kissing random strangers, creating a sex life you love, and why sharing the stuff you don't want your partner to know is the best (and hardest) thing you can do for your dating and relationships.
You can find more from Olivia at: www.oliviapavlov.com
Special release just in time for your Thanksgiving drama. Everything from how to help others feel connected to you in a way they've never experienced before, to how to reshape conversations where you're being held hostage into kickass conversations.
Today we talk drugs. Lots of drugs. Which drugs could potentially help your dating game and the risk-free alternative to getting all the benefits of say...MDMA assisted therapy, without any of the risks.
*In this podcast I describe MDMA as a schedule I drug. It's actually schedule III.
Today, we go into why there's no such thing as "bad luck" when it comes to dating and relationships, how modern dating has failed you, and how to start taking real steps toward creating relationships and the dating life that you deserve.