The Break Up Break Down

This week we're bringing awareness to the Hubbard House in Jacksonville, FL: https://www.hubbardhouse.org/neededmost

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(05:23): Talking about discovering her sexuality

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(10:14): Her first date with a woman

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(12:21): Coming out to her family

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(16:15): When she first stated dating her ex-gf

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(18:11): When things got tense in her relationship

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(20:58): When her ex broke up with her

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(22:55): Reflecting on the relationship

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(25:06): Lessons learned from the relationship

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(29:47): How her dating life looks now

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(32:25): Teaser

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Are you having a hard time trusting your new partner after your last relationship? Your ex may have damaged your ability to trust again, but you don't have to live in fear forever. Dr. Margaret Rutherford joins Abby to talk about what you can to have a healthy relationship with your new partner. 

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Website: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/

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Podcast: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/selfwork/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Introducing the episode

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(00:42): The key to learning to trust again.....

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(06:45): How to not use relationships for validation

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(09:47): How to build up your own self-worth

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(11:54): How to trust a new partner after getting cheated on

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(13:44): How do I leave a manipulative relationship?

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(14:33): When do I draw boundaries OR when do I leave if I feel like I'm being gaslit?

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(19:05): Final piece of advice for building a strong sense of self

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[CW: Abuse]

This week we're bringing awareness to the New Life Center in Phoenix, AZ: https://fundraise.givesmart.com/form/voQ1ig?vid=xaqjj

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(03:55): How they met

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(05:27): Introducing her best friend

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(07:40): When the gaslighting began

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(11:55): When they finally broke up

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(14:44): Reflecting on the relationship

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(20:25): Lessons learned/advice

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(24:15): Teaser

We're talking about dating and heartbreak through the lens of men who date women! Our dude correspondent Coworker Justin joins us to react to S3E6 and talk about where he relates, what he would've done different, and even share his own personal experiences with heartbreak. 

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Timestamps:

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(01:17): What do straight guys look at when they're on dating apps?

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(08:57): Justin talks about his long-distance relationships

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(13:10): Do men wait for 'the one'? 

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(18:48): The first time Justin was truly heartbroken

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(22:45): Justin's general guy heartbreak advice

This week we're bringing awareness to Bradley Angle in Portland, Oregon: https://bradleyangle.org/give-support/donate/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(04:36): How they met

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(07:31): When problems arose

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(11:32): When they finally broke up

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(15:13): When his golf career took a hit

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(17:20): Reflecting on the relationship

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(22:56): Teaser

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Have you ever felt manipulated by your partner? Did you try to break up with them, but they kept luring you back in? Abby brings on LMSW Vernique Esther to talk about how to recognize manipulation, set boundaries, and leave if necessary. 

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Website: https://www.verniqueesther.com/

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The Wholeness Academy: https://www.thewholenessacademy.com/

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Books: https://www.verniqueesther.com/shop

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Introducing Vernique

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(00:56): How do I know I'm getting manipulated?

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(04:06): Why do people manipulate?

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(07:07): Why do I feel bad for setting up boundaries?

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(09:18): How do I handle religious manipulation?

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(12:10): What if my partner threatens me w/ self-harm to keep us from breaking up?

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(14:04): How do I leave a manipulative relationship?

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(15:00): Can you ever work through manipulation?

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(18:24): How to set boundaries in a relationship with someone who has manipulative tendencies?

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(20:55): Why do I want to go back to someone who manipulated me?

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(23:08): How do I convince myself I deserve better?

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[CW: This episode briefly discusses: self-harm/suicide, domestic violence, religious trauma]

I don't know about you, but I often feel like a huge part of my identity is wrapped up in what I do. If you feel like if you lost a job, got ousted from a friend group, or left an organization, you'd lose a part of yourself- this episode is for you. My bestie from UF opens up the episode with me to talk about her experience not getting accepted to med school and then expert Shavonna Nicole jumps in to talk about how to find your identity in things other than your career.

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Why do we put our identity into what we do?

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(09:51): Interview with Shavonna Nicole

This week we're bringing awareness to Family Violence Prevention Services in San Antonio: https://fvps.org/donation-center/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(07:10): Sorority Rush 

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(10:46): When things started to get toxic with her chapter

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(16:02): The story about the cops getting called on her 

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(21:58): Why she decided to stay in her chapter

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(23:08): When she caused a "commotion" at a sorority mixer

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(29:13): Why sorority life just wasn't for her

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(30:39): When her sorority randomly 'broke up' with her

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(34:57): How her college life changed when she was dismissed

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(37:35): How she became a better person after leaving/advice

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(43:37): Teaser

Why was S3E3 deleted? Will it ever be reposted? Also what was the story even about? Then, Lexi and Justin join in to talk about the craziest things they've ever done for love and the double standards they notice in relationships. 

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(01:56): Crazy things we've done for love

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(07:27): Double standards in dating

Science might be able to explain why you got cheated on. Scientist Macken Murphy joins Abby and Lexi to explain through research studies and data what influences people to cheat. He explains why your genetics may make someone more likely to cheat, why you're always dating serial cheaters, and how you can set yourself up (statistically) for a committed relationship.

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Website: www.mackenmurphy.org

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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mackenmurphy

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Macken's Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5hhlSiS1hFW1pRWh8wfRy5

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Meet Macken

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(02:08): What factors make someone more likely to cheat

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(05:07): Once a cheater always a cheater?

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(07:27): Factors that make you more likely to get cheated on

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(16:05): Can a relationship continue after infidelity?

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(18:19): Why do men statistically cheat more than women?

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(21:58): Are humans built for monogamy? 

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(23:13): Things you can do to statistically reduce your risk of getting cheated on

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(29:32): How studying infidelity affects his relationships

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(33:22): PTSD after infidelity

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(36:36): How Lexi felt about this convo, having been cheated on

This week we're raising awareness for the Georgia Coalition Against DV: https://gcadv.org/

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Check out this week's bonus guest, Macken Murphy, before the episode airs!: https://pod.link/1334821500

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Justin's brother who does Drag Yoga in Charleston!!: https://instagram.com/miss_amy_g_dala?igshid=Zjc2ZTc4Nzk=

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(03:02): This week's submission

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(7:08): How they got together

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(09:35): First signs that the relationship would end

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(12:27): Should you go through your partner's phone?

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(13:42): When things started to go south

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(17:35): When she decided to end the relationship

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(20:01): Why did he cheat?

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(22:02): Why it was so hard to end the marriage

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(23:58): The aftermath/reflecting on it

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(26:29): Advice for people listening

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(35:50): Teaser

Abby and Coworker Justin are back at it again and comment on this week's episode! They talk about how mental health affects relationships and the beauty of walking with your partner when they're really going through it (obviously, when they're not deceiving you about their condition). Dr. David Puder joins Abby at the end to talk about the impact of factitious disorder and other mental health concerns in relationships and how you can be the best partner for someone when they're in the trenches. 

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On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.davidpuder/?hl=en

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Learn more about factitious disorder/Munchausen Syndrome on his podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1W-lzI_nzUU

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): S3E1 Break Down

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(26:42): Interview with Dr. David Puder

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This week we're bringing awareness to Safe Space in Miami, FL: https://www.safespacefoundation.org/donate/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(05:32): How they met

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(12:30): When their relationship got more serious

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(15:01): When she wanted to end the relationship

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(18:21): "The Cancer Thing"

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(24:47): Why they decided to get married

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(30:00): When she started to get suspicious

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(42:28): When she and her wife separated

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(54:35): When she heard the truth from B's godmother

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(01:01:00): Advice

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(01:10:00): Teaser

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CW: This episode discusses suicide, eating disorders, mental illness, and homophobia. 

Sometimes people don't want to come on the podcast!!! Shocking, right?!?! Listen to a few of the submissions where Abby reached out and either got ignored, blocked, or politely declined. Then, coworker Justin helps her come up with some theories to what they think happened! 

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Meet Stacie and Alicia!

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(03:18): Episode superlatives

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(08:20): Submission #1

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(09:03): Submission #2

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(13:48): Submission #3

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(15:22): Submission #4

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(16:30): Submission #5

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(18:28): Submission #6

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(21:23): Submission #7

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(22:36): Submission #8

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(25:33): Submission #9

You already know Abby, Lexi, and Coworker Justin are already a bit messed up...so we decided to make a whole episode talking about their attachment issues! LCSW Kat Schneider joins the podcast as well to give a professional take on attachment styles and even relates them to 'The Office' characters!

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(02:26): Episode break down/our personal attachment problems

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(16:15): Conversation with LCSW Kat Schneider

This week we're raising awareness for The Hubbard House in Jacksonville, FL: https://www.hubbardhouse.org/neededmost

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(05:28): This week's submission

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(7:03): How they met

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(10:39): Introducing her best friend

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(12:01): When her boyfriend confessed their betrayal

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(15:05): Why she stayed with her boyfriend

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(18:27): How the relationship developed after the infidelity

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(23:48): The final straw for her

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(32:14): Healing after the breakup

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(36:26): Advice for "starting over" after a long-term relationship

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(37:52): Teaser Clip

The Holy Trinity of people pretending to be relationship experts are BACK! Lexi, Coworker Justin, and Abby got together to discuss going through your partner's phone, the nuances of cheating, and COSTCO.

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Intro

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(02:04): Tinder/Dating Apps

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(05:42): Should you go through your partner's phone? 

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(13:14): Why do cheaters deny at first?!?!

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(15:46): Can your relationship survive cheating?!

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(18:05): Girl #2 predictions

This week we're raising awareness for the Tennessee Coalition to End domestic violence in Nashville: https://tncoalition.org/join-us/donate/

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More DV support/shelters in Middle Tennessee: https://tncoalition.org/get-help/help-in-your-area/

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Is it okay to go through your partner's phone? Tell us here & get featured on this week's bonus ep!: https://anchor.fm/abby-murphy5/message

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Intro

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(03:11): Submission for the week

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(06:00): How they met

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(06:45): When things started to fall apart

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(08:20): When she first suspected that something was up

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(10:19): When she confronted him

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(14:02): The end of the relationship

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(16:01): Moving on/advice

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(19:15): Episode Teaser

Want more BUBD? Check out last year's holiday episodes!

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"Blackout Wednesday" Break Down: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/fksBHgns9ub

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Surviving the Holidays with @SoMyMomsATherapist: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/CTkekKps9ub

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Timestamps:

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(00:00): Episode Break Down

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(02:09): Lexi's Lessons

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(08:09): Coworker Justin's Singular Lesson

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(12:40): Abby's Lessons

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(16:24): Listener Lessons

This week we're raising awareness for Alliance in Charlotte, NC: https://www.safealliance.org/donations/make-a-donation/

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LAST CHANCE TO GET MERCH!!!: https://order.universitytees.com/bird_banks/99778/signups/new

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-07:00): Episode Intro

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(07:00-8:12): How they met

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(8:12-11:19): Problems that came up in the relationship

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(11:19-17:05): When the relationship ended out of nowhere

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(17:05-20:56): How therapy helped him heal from this relationship

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(20:56-24:28): Lessons learned/advice 

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(24:28-24:56): Episode Teaser

PODCAST MERCH (OPEN UNTIL NOV 14): https://order.universitytees.com/bird_banks/99778/signups/new

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Coworker Justin joins Abby this week to react to S2E15. They talk about how upbringing may affect your relationship, the sliding scale of compatibility, and even the new Love is Blind season!

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-02:08): Intro

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(02:08-08:32): Getting back together after breaking up/"marriage material"

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(08:32-11:28): Breaking down their relationship dynamic

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(11:28-14:52): Can you be compatible with anyone?/ Is love REALLY blind?

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(14:52-16:02): Closing out the episode

[SCROLL FOR CW] - LCSW Kat Schneider joins Abby at the end of this episode to talk about what it was like being a part of a religious cult! Kat also explains the mental health side of why people join, choose to stay, and some of the complications of leaving. Lexi and Coworker Justin help open up the episode to talk about the merch that is scheduled to go live this Tuesday! 

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Timestamps:

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(00:00)-(05:26): Heartbreaker Merch

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(05:26)-(14:24): Episode break down

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(14:24)-(25:22): Conversation with LCSW Kat Schneider

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Sensitive topics in this episode/CW: Religious trauma, mental health (anxiety), mention of homophobia

Coworker Justin hops on another episode to talk about this week's episode! We'll react to the episode, talk about the significance of engagement/marriage, and share the craziest thing we've done to get over an ex! Also!!!! In honor of Midnights coming out tonight, the Heartbreakers & Abby/Justin share what TSwift song describes a breakup they went through the best!! - Follow the podcasts! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00)-(14:19): Episode 12 reaction - (14:19)-(17:06): Abby/Coworker Justin share what TSwift songs they relate to - (17:06)-(14:27): Heartbreaker's talk about what TSwift songs they relate to

This week we're raising awareness for the Help Now Shelter in Orlando, FL: https://www.helpnowshelter.org/donate

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-06:54): Episode Intro

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(06:54-11:44): How they (and their parents) got together

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(11:44-23:43): Challenges when dating someone in the family/main conflict

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(23:43-24:41): What the family dynamic is like now

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(24:41-27:47): Her step-brother's new relationship/when friends(?) date your ex

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(27:47)-35:00): Advice from our interviewee

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(35:00-35:30): Episode Teaser

Who knew Coworker Justin was such a casanova!! We're talking about the grey areas in friendships, how different situations change friendship dynamics, and why we tend to prioritize love interests over our friends.

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Timestamps:

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(00:00)-(00:43): Intro

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(00:43)-(03:16): Friendship dynamics as you age

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(03:16)-(14:27): Male friendship dynamics

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(14:27)-(17:00): Abby's "yellow starburst friend" theory

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(17:00)-(17:41): Closing out

Do you need help moving on from an ex? Do you feel like you still need closure? Abby and Justin talk about why it's so hard to get over them (and tell you what to do about it). Plus they react to this week's main episode and share stories about families/friends ruining their relationships! AND there's a fun little announcement right in the beginning of the episode as well. 

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Timestamps:

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(00:00)-(03:14): Intro/merch

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(03:14)-(06:29): When are you going too far to get closure?

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(06:29)-(09:12): Dating in your 20s is totally different each year

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(09:12)-(12:38): Friends/families ruining relationships

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(12:38)-(16:08): How to move on from an ex/why it's so hard in your adult years

This week we're raising awareness for the Jenesse Center in LA: https://jenesse.org/how-you-can-help/donate/one-time-donation-form-2/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-09:10): Episode Intro

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(09:10-10:25): How they got together

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(10:25-12:44): What happened after the break up?

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(12:44-14:21): Her ex BF's engagement 

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(14:21-17:23): Why she thought the engagement ended

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(17:23)-18:09): The next photos that got posted on IG

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(18:09-23:35): Theorizing about what happened in her ex's relationship

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(23:35-24:18): Episode Teaser

This week we're raising awareness for Palomar in Oklahoma City: https://palomarokc.org/donate/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-03:29): Episode Intro

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(03:29-05:53): How they got together

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(04:37-07:30): When things started going wrong....

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(07:30-08:47): Reaching out to his ex-fiancé

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(08:47-14:00): Shady secrets he was keeping

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(14:00)-17:09): Getting the ex's in the group chat

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(17:09-23:59): The aftermath

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(23:59-24:34): Episode Teaser

What's the PETTIEST thing you've done post-break up? We asked, you answered on IG and Spotify. Lexi & Coworker Justin join Abby to talk about their own petty break ups and read through some responses from the Spotify and IG questionnaire. Oh, and Abby vents about her bad date from this weekend too lol. 

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-00:43): Intro

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(00:43-01:10): This week's main episode

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(01:10-04:57): The pettiest things Abby, Lexi, and Coworker Justin have done post-break up

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(04:57-12:30): Petty break up responses from Spotify 

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(12:30-18:31): Petty Break Up Responses from IG

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(18:31-27:46): Abby vents about her date from this weekend lol

This week we're raising awareness for The Coburn Place in Indianapolis: https://coburnplace.org/donate/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-04:00): Episode Intro

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(04:00-04:37): How they got together

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(04:37-05:46): When things started going wrong....

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(05:32-06:33): Red flags before the engagement

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(07:58-11:27): Red flags before the wedding/the break up

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(11:27)-13:32): The aftermath of the cancelled wedding

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(13:32-15:11): Dividing finances after the cancelled wedding

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(15:11-19:33): Why she thinks his feelings changed

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(19:33-27:20): Looking back one everything/advice/words of wisdom/etc.

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(27:20-27:46): Break Down Bonus and Next Ep. Teaser

Coworker Justin joins Abby this week to talk about getting along with your significant other's families, bringing your "baggage" into a new relationship, and debate on whether or not the BF's mom posted that FB photo on purpose!!!

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-01:02): Intro

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(01:02-02:10): Breaking up with someone for someone else- romantic or red flag?

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(02:10-03:38): What do you even do if someone says they're going to steal your partner?!

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(03:38-09:00): THE FACEBOOK PHOTO!!!! Why would the mom post it?

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(09:00-13:27): What if your parents didn't get along with your partner?

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(13:27-16:15): The Hail Mary Proposal

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(16:15-20:17): Bringing "baggage" into new relationships

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(20:17-22:33): Questions about S2E5

[CHECK CW] 

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This week we're raising awareness for Mosaic Family Services in Dallas, TX: https://mosaicservices.org/donate/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-02:03): Episode Intro

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(02:03-03:44): Submission

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(03:44-05:32): When she was blindsided

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(05:32-06:33): The first red flag

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(06:33-07:28): The Facebook post that proved her suspicions

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(07:28)-09:35): When she decided to confront him about "Anna"

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(09:35-11:36): When she finally confronted him about the photo

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(11:36-12:34): Tension with the family

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(12:34-13:12): When he broke up with her and then proposed 

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(13:12:16:41): The aftermath

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(16:41-18:20): "Where are they now"

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(18:20-27:02): Takeaways/Advice

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(27:02-27:30): Break Down Bonus and Next Ep. Teaser

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CW: Mention of Suicide/Self-Harm

Stacie and Alicia from the Trashy Divorces podcast join Abby to talk about ethical polyamory, healthy relationship dynamics, and expecting more from your love life. Check out their podcast below and tune in to hear them break down this week's break up!

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-00:25): Meet Stacie and Alicia!

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(00:25-01:34): What makes a good divorce story?

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(01:34-05:08): Ethical polyamory in relationships & healthy communication

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(05:55-14:48): Expecting more in your relationships

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(14:48-16:09): Closing remarks

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(16:09-17:32): Trashy Divorces episode recs

This week we're raising awareness for Children & Families of Iowa: https://cfiowa.ejoinme.org/MyPages/DonationPage/tabid/441383/Default.aspx

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-03:45): Episode Intro

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(03:45-04:50): How they met

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(04:50-06:56): When she was blindsided

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(06:56-09:34): When they became a "throuple"

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(09:34-11:43): The worst part of this "three person relationship" (for her)

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(11:43)-16:09): When she started to think about leaving....

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(16:09-19:11): What led to the marriage ending

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(19:11-23:17): She decides to leave the marriage/the divorce

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(23:17-29:34): Moving on after marrying your high school sweetheart

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(29:34:31:15): Advice for leaving a toxic relationship

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(31:15-31:34): Teaser Clip

[SCROLL FOR CW] - Ex-Mormon therapist Jenny Morrow reacts to S2E4 and let's us in on what people leaving the LDS church struggle with after leaving. She talks about rules for dating, complications when one spouse wants to leave the church, divorce, and sexuality. Check out more from her at www.JennyMorrow.com.

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-00:14): Episode Break Down

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(00:14-02:22): Meet Jenny!

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(02:22-05:08): Dating as a young Mormon

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(05:08-06:19): The Mormon temple

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(06:19-07:40): Dealing with religious shame

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(07:40-10:32): Sexuality in the church

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(10:32-12:17): Divorce in Mormonism

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(12:17-13:17): What if one spouse wants to leave the church?

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(13:17-14:24): Sexism in the church

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(14:24-16:15): What do ex-Mormons struggle with after leaving?

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(16:15-18:03): Advice for "finding yourself" after a big life change

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(18:03-18:29): Follow Jenny!

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CW: Suicide, Sexism

This week we're raising awareness for The Nest in Lexington, KY: https://www.thenestlexington.org/

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-03:55): Episode Intro

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(03:55-06:30): How they met

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(06:30-11:44): How they got together/dating in Mormon culture

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(11:44-15:37): "Same-sex attraction" in the church

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(15:37-21:44): Their 6-year-long marriage

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(21:44)-24:44): The start of their divorce

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(24:44-27:54): After the divorce

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(29:59-28:59): Reconnecting with her ex-BF

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(31:23-37:11): Living in a Mormon community and being Agnostic

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(37:11:38:26): BYU dating myths(?!?!) 

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(38:26-38:56): Teaser Clip

[SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS] Jacqueline Trumbull from Ari's season of 'The Bachelor' reacts to this week's episode. She recently cancelled her wedding 2 weeks before the big day, so she came on to talk about her own experience and how she related/didn't relate to S2E3's interview. 

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-07:35): Episode Break Down

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(07:35-12:42): Q&A Responses

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(12:42-18:34): Episode Break Down

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(18:34-35:38): Jacqueline Trumbull Interview

This week we're raising awareness for Someplace Safe: https://www.someplacesafe.info/donate.html

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Timestamps:

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(00:00-04:26): Episode Intro

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(04:26-05:55): How they met

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(05:55-09:57): When things started going downhill....

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(09:57-13:40): The incident that would eventually end the relationship

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(13:40-20:10): Confronting her fiancé

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(20:10-22:58): The aftermath of ending the relationship

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(22:58)-26:00): Dating after breaking off an engagement

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(26:00-27:39): Advice for people unsure about ending things

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(27:39-28:21): S2E3 Teaser clip

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**all names have been censored/changed/or edited out.