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By Jennifer Gilmour

Abuse Talk is a digital community- Join the discussion about domestic abuse.

A series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.
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EP10: Dawn Patrick on Finances

#AbuseTalkJan 09, 2020

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EP56: Brave Bird Club

EP56: Brave Bird Club

BRAVE BIRD CLUB ✨ BRAVERY, HOPE, BANTS & PANTS 💫 HELPING EVERYDAY SHE-ROES FIND THEIR BRAVE ❤️

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Brave Bird Club Podcast Episode I was guest on: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4NxEGaj9oqrB7JInXmYnwB?si=7b704f0cf4744ec2 

Brave Bird Website: https://www.bravebird.club 

My Sisters' House Women's Centre: https://www.mysistershouse.info/donate

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Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

May 13, 202234:51
EP55: Identity Crisis

EP55: Identity Crisis

Wondering where the podcast has been over the last few months? Here's your answer, I share exactly what has happened and why I have had a full blown identity crisis and why this is related to what I went through in my abusive relationship. 

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Jennifer Gilmour is an author and advocate for women in abusive relationships, using her own experiences of domestic abuse as a catalyst to bring awareness and to help others. Jennifer has published two publications, Isolation Junction and Clipped Wings which have both been Amazon Best Sellers and received awards. Jennifer speaks at events across the UK and continues to raise awareness through her blog posts, public speaking, radio interviews and social media.

Jennifer has listened to her readers and has grown a digital community to support discussions around domestic abuse online. Starting with her Twitter Chat which opened late 2017 #AbuseTalk, this developed into an online forum in 2018. In 2019, Jennifer launched a podcast which include interviews with those in the sector and gives followers the opportunity to ask burning questions.

Most Informative Blogger Award 2018 (Bloggers Bash Annual Awards)

UK & European Award for using Social Media for Good 2019 (Social Day: Social Media Marketing Awards)

#SBS Winner 2020 (Theo Paphitis)

Jennifer says: “Together we are Louder”.

Website: www.jennifergilmour.com

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Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

Feb 17, 202225:26
EP54 Ute Susan Weiss - Abuse over time....

EP54 Ute Susan Weiss - Abuse over time....

  • I was born on 23rd Feb 1962 in Stuttgart, Germany.
  • Having a very imaginative mind I was reading books from a very young age. I´m still reading a lot and I love watching movies.
  • I started traveling when I was a teenager and learning about other countries and cultures opened my mind very much.
  • After school I worked as an au-pair in Winchester and went to a language school studying English.
  • I wanted to be a vet but didn´t get into vet school. I studied Agrobiology at the University of Hohenheim, Stuttgart instead.
  • My studies enabled me to travel as well: I worked on farms in Switzerland, New Zealand, Germany and participated in a student exchange program with the University of Georgia, Athens, USA
  • After University I didn´t do my PhD - as everyone expected - but went on a trip around the world as a backpacker for almost 1 1/2 years.
  • When I came back to Germany I was broke but happy. I didn´t feel like pursuing an academic career. Instead I found a job at a little publisher´s at Lake Constance. I worked as an editor, secretary, translator, horse handler etc. We published a working horse magazine. That´s where I met Henry (not his real name).
  • When I turned 30 I wanted to start a family and have a little farm in the country :) Before that I actually never imagined myself as being a mother.
  • Henry wanted the same and I felt he was my soul mate. Yeah. Love bombing here we come .....
  • Our dating was insane, intense and crazy - I´ve never felt more loved. I got pregnant and we got married.
  • He got more abusive. After son no. 2 life with him was hell - but not always. We had good times too.
  • When my youngest said: I wish Daddy was dead I knew something was very wrong.
  • he moved out in 2002, we got divorced in 2005, financial abuse stopped in Oct 2020.
  • After he had moved out my sons and I had a great family life. I started working as an English teacher and later on as a Biology and Health Care teacher as well. I work in adult education and at a vocational college.
  • I live in the Black Forest right now, near Freudenstadt. (That´s the northern part of the Black Forest)
  • My sons are wonderful grown up men of 28 and 25. One lives in Munich, the other in Gießen (near Frankfurt)
  • I am no contact with Henry
  • I´ve written my story „I wish Daddy was dead". I want to finally get it published and that´s what I´m researching at the moment: how to get a book published.
  • Besides reading and watching films I love training dogs. I have got two dogs. George is a certified search and rescue dog and Loony is an apprentice search and rescue dog. George is a Border Collie and Loony is a Spanish Waterdog.

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Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

@TeacherSusanUte (UteSusanWeiss)

Dec 16, 202152:23
EP 53: White Ribbon UK

EP 53: White Ribbon UK

Chris Green OBE talking about how and why he founded White Ribbon UK and his inspirational journey to raise awareness of domestic abuse.

In 2004 Chris Green founded White Ribbon UK while working as a senior lecturer at Manchester Metropolitan University.

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Twitter @Chrisstevengre2  @WhiterRibbon_UK
Facebook @ ChrisStevenGreen Blog: ChrisGreenonSexism

Website: www.whiteribbon.org.uk

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Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

Dec 02, 202137:54
EP52: Child to Parent Abuse

EP52: Child to Parent Abuse

Michelle John from PEGS joins us to talk about child to parent abuse. 

Michelle has the rare combination of a background in domestic abuse advocacy, lived experience, and the willingness and ability to speak up for her fellow parents. Having lived through Child to Parent Abuse, Michelle has truly harnessed the knowledge gained in a tough situation to help families across the UK. In addition to helping more than 1,400 parents impacted by CPA, she's delivered impactive training, highlighted the issue in the national press, and pushed for policy change via a number of high-profile speaking engagements. Previously, Michelle spent more than 15 years within the domestic abuse and family law sectors, alongside being a trustee for a national domestic abuse charity focused on male and LGBTQ+ victims of abuse. She is still a core supporter of a charity for veterans based in West Wales, where she lived before moving to Shropshire. 

PEGS is a not-for-profit organisation set up to support parents, train professionals, raise awareness and influence national policy. For parents, there's a dedicated peer group, bi-weekly drop-ins, a tailormade EPIC confidence and coping techniques programme, counselling and advocacy - all open to any parent, carer or guardian with a child of any age from pre-school to adulthood and beyond. Professionals benefit from a range of bespoke courses designed to increase their knowledge and enable them to effectively support parents.

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PEGS links: 

https://www.pegsupport.co.uk

 https://www.facebook.com/PEGS.Support

 https://twitter.com/PEGS_support

https://www.instagram.com/pegs_support/

https://www.linkedin.com/company/pegs-support/

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Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com


Nov 04, 202130:59
EP51: Recovering from Multiple Abusive Relationships
Oct 21, 202129:33
EP50: Emergency Legal Protection

EP50: Emergency Legal Protection

Sharon Bryan is the 'Head of Partnerships and Development for Domestic Abuse Services' for the NCDV which provides free emergency legal protection. 

Sharon Bryan specialises in survivor consultation and intervention, risk assessment, facilitation of The Freedom Programme and Multi-Agency training.  She has also trained student social workers and offers supervision to other professionals who work with women who have/are experiencing Domestic Abuse.  Sharon has extensive experience of delivering consultation to Social Workers and Child Protection Chairpersons.  She is a qualified IDVA and sat on the Westminster MARAC panel for 14 years. She is an accomplished public speaker and has been involved in media work including being on television, radio and writing numerous newspaper and magazine articles. She has also been an expert witness in criminal and civil courts of law.

From 2009, Sharon worked for The City of Westminster Council.  Until 2016 she was the Senior Domestic Abuse Consultant for the groundbreaking ‘Family Recovery Programme’.  In 2016 she became the Domestic Abuse Consultant for the Integrated Early Help Service at the council.

In January 2021, Sharon embarked on the next chapter of her career by joining the award winning NCDV (National Centre for Domestic Violence).  Here she is developing a new and exciting role and is the ‘Head of Partnerships and Development for Domestic Abuse Services’.

Sharon was awarded the ‘Survivor of the Year” Award in 2012 by The Women’s Aid Federation of England in partnership with Avon and Marie Claire magazine.  She was also nominated and shortlisted for the Emma Humphreys Memorial Prize in 2015 for her services to women experiencing domestic abuse.

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Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

Find out about NCDV here: www.ncdv.org.uk

Find out more about Sharon's work here: www.sharonbryanconsultancy.com 

Find Sharon on Twitter here: twitter.com/Sbryanconsult 

Oct 07, 202132:22
EP48: No Ordinary Love
Aug 05, 202119:49
EP47: A Survivors Playlist
Jul 22, 202140:46
EP46: How can a Divorce Coach help you?
Jul 08, 202139:56
EP45: Stand up, have courage & fight for what's best

EP45: Stand up, have courage & fight for what's best

As a mum of 2, and a survivor of domestic abuse, Edwina knows what it takes to stand up, have courage and fight for what is best for her family. She is a self-confessed 'workaholic', and loves nothing more than to support others in their journey. Whether that be through bringing awareness of domestic abuse or through the business she now runs via her Facebook group Ed's Online Positivity Cafe. 

Edwina suffered at the hands of her abuser for more than 10years before she moved both her and her children away and started to create a better future for them all. Edwina herself also has several chronic illnesses and has struggled with her own mental health so is no stranger to needing a supporting hand, but has not always had the courage or confidence to ask for it.

"I want all women to know that no matter how dark it feels some days, no matter how big the struggle, better days are coming. I'll continue to be the cheerleader for others that I never had." – Edwina Clark


Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

Ed's Positivity Cafe: www.facebook.com/groups/edsonlinecafe

Ari's Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/WithAri

Clubhouse: @theedwinac

Jun 17, 202132:07
EP44: Support in the LGBT community
Jun 03, 202137:55
EP43: Broken Pieces of Tomorrow

EP43: Broken Pieces of Tomorrow

Born in London to Greek Cypriot parents Soulla Christodoulou was the first in her family to go to university and studied BA Hotel & Catering Management at Portsmouth University. Years later, after having a family of her own, she studied at Middlesex University gaining a PGCE in Business Studies and an MA in Education.

Her novels, Broken Pieces of Tomorrow and The Summer Will Come, are available on Amazon alongside her collection of poetry, Sunshine after Rain and her short story, Unlocked. Unlocked reached the top 14% of stories to receive a second read in the Spread The Word Competition in 2018. Alexander and Maria, a contemporary romance, was released in December 2020 through The Conrad Press and looks at one man’s disability and the impact it has on his life, relationships and ultimately his self-esteem and happiness.

Semi-biographical and inspired by her own marriage breakdown Broken Pieces of Tomorrow looks at themes of self-worth, psychological and emotional abuse, breaking free and cultural expectations. It has been a book club read as far as Canada and a popular choice for book bloggers worldwide.

She is a compassionate and empathetic supporter of young people. Her passion for teaching continues through private tuition of English Language and Children’s Creative Writing Classes. She offers writing support for businesses and mentoring for authors.

Her love of writing has connected her with a charity in California which she is very much involved in as a contributor of handwritten letters every month to support and give hope to women diagnosed with breast cancer. One of her letters is featured in a book Dear Friend, released in September 2017.

When asked, she will tell you she has always wanted to write and her life’s experiences, both personal and professional, have played a huge part in bringing her to where she was always meant to be; writing, supporting new writers and drinking lots of cinnamon and clove tea!


Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

Soulla's website: soulla-author.com 

Soulla's book: Broken Pieces of Tomorrow


May 20, 202130:38
EP42: Emotional Eating, Diets and Body Image

EP42: Emotional Eating, Diets and Body Image

I am Margaret and I am the owner and founder of Naturally Empowered Health www.nehhub.com. I am a qualified Transformational Health Coach and Amazon Author of True Taste, my book which was released in January 2021.  I specialise in coaching women who struggle with emotional eating, diets and body image. Through coaching we really get to the root of your issues with food, move away from the diet mentality and build a positive respect for food and your body, with the bi-product of weight loss. I coach without the need for any deprivation diets or crazy exercise routines, just peeling back those layers, getting to know the patterns of your triggers and working together to give you a personal toolbox of techniques so you can move away from emotional eating for good and build that healthy relationship with your body.


Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

Naturally Empowered Health: www.nehhub.com

May 06, 202132:43
EP41: The Narcissist Hunter

EP41: The Narcissist Hunter

In order of importance, Lucy is a Mother of 3 sons, a published Author twice over (with a third book due out in March/April time) & a survivor of sexual coersion, domestic violence, rape, drug spiking and stalking.

She found herself tightly entrapped in offending behaviours and the archaic criminal justice system in 2016, which she says led her into severe moral injury, self harming, suicidal ideation and dangerous promiscuity. But, Lucy (who writes her books under the name L.W Hawksby) does credit the majority of the criminal justice system, with the long term solitude from society which pushed her to self-reflect and retract from more abusive relationships.

These days Lucy is to be found admiring the large blooms such as giant alliums, black tulips and poppies in the garden she plants and looks after for her neighbours, writing further books and water-colour painting unusual birds with her youngest son, Rufus, who is 10.
She writes as L.W Hawksby. Youtube as L.W Hawksby & Podcasts as "The Narcissist Hunter".


Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

The Narcissist Hunter: www.thenarcissisthunter.co.uk

Apr 22, 202138:31
EP40: A Personal Journey into Working in the Sector

EP40: A Personal Journey into Working in the Sector

Vivien has worked in the field of Domestic Abuse for over 42 years. Her passion is driven by her best friend being assaulted at 21 yrs of age and being left in a waking coma for nearly 23 years before she died. She previously worked as a Company Secretary and started out her career with the Probation Service before starting a family. She campaigns for services on behalf of victims/survivors of abuse at local and national level. More recently she has been involved in advocating for work with those affected by early childhood trauma who perpetrate domestic abuse working on the Drive Project.

She has been associated with Victim Support for over 20 years she was an accredited Associate Trainer for Victim Support National Office and specialising in Domestic & Sexual Abuse Training. Her qualifications include: Counselling, Teaching, Child Protection & Executive Diploma in Management, Master Practitioner of NLP, Integral Eye Movement Therapy and accreditation for Hypnotherapy. She has delivered training on behalf of the local Community Safety Partnership & the Local Safeguarding Adults Board and Local Safeguarding Children Board in all aspects of Domestic Abuse, safeguarding adults and children in domestic abuse settings, working with perpetrators and the Marac process. 


Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

Apr 08, 202139:39
EP39: Recovery, Love and Aislings Dream
Mar 18, 202143:33
EP38: Healing with Yoga
Mar 04, 202133:23
EP37: The Jennifer Blue Project

EP37: The Jennifer Blue Project

Jennifer Blue is on a mission to “Raise the Awareness of Domestic Violence One Community at a time!” When she was 18 years old she thought she met the love of her life. He ended up being the complete opposite she endured seventeen years of verbal, mental, emotional, financial and physical abuse. 

Blue knows first - hand the effects Domestic Violence has on a family. As a survivor herself, she’s knowledgeable, committed and passionate about keeping Domestic Violence Awareness on the forefront by educating communities in the detection, prevention, effects and recovery of Domestic Violence. 

  • 3+ WOMEN A DAY DIE FROM DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
  • EVERY 9 SECONDS A WOMAN IS ABUSED BY HER PARTNER
  • THERE ARE MORE ANIMAL SHELTERS IN US THAN DV SHELTERS
  • 21% OF COLLEGE STUDENTS HAVE REPORTED ABUSE FROM A CURRENT PARTNER

In 2010 she uniquely came up with “The Jennifer Blue Project” this project was designed to educate a diverse audience about the growing epidemic of Domestic Violence. Blue uses the power of the arts to help individuals understand the complicated issues surrounding Domestic Violence in her award winning stage play “Easier Said than Done.” “The Jennifer Blue Project” also includes unique and effective workshops such as “Code Blue …How to Resuscitate Your Life after Abuse and Girl We Need to Talk.” Her book titled “Girl We Need Talk Surviving a Toxic Relationship” was released in spring 2020 which includes an up close and personal video with Jennifer Blue. 


Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

Book and connect with Jennifer Blue today at: Phone: 313-520-2583 

Email: info@jenniferblueproject.com 

FB: The Jennifer Blue Project or Jennifer Blue 

Instagram: @therealjenniferblue 

Website: www.jenniferblueproject.com

Feb 18, 202135:04
EP36: Child Abuse through the Pandemic
Feb 04, 202132:43
EP35: Creativity in Advocacy
Jan 21, 202132:58
EP34: Why I stayed

EP34: Why I stayed

Jennifer is founder of #AbuseTalk and gives us an update as well as talking about why she decided to do a daily tweet over the festive period with #WhyIStayed.


Jennifer Gilmour is an author and advocate for women in abusive relationships, using her own experiences of domestic abuse as a catalyst to bring awareness and to help others. Jennifer has published two publications, Isolation Junction and Clipped Wings which have both been Amazon Best Sellers and received awards. Jennifer speaks at events across the UK and continues to raise awareness through her blog posts, public speaking, radio interviews and social media.

Jennifer has listened to her readers and has grown a digital community to support discussions around domestic abuse online. Starting with her Twitter Chat which opened late 2017 #AbuseTalk, this developed into an online forum in 2018. In 2019, Jennifer launched a podcast which include interviews with those in the sector and gives followers the opportunity to ask burning questions.

Most Informative Blogger Award 2018 (Bloggers Bash Annual Awards)
UK & European Award for using Social Media for Good 2019 (Social Day: Social Media Marketing Awards)

Jennifer says: “Together we are Louder”.


Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

Sponsorships: off for this episode

Jan 07, 202127:52
EP33: 20 Years Under House Arrest

EP33: 20 Years Under House Arrest

Shikesh shares his journey through childhood abuse, financial abuse, reporting, mental health and his astonishing steps through recovery.

Once I realised who was responsible, my daily life was consumed with thoughts of revenge.” Sexually abused at five, seven and twelve years of age, Shikesh was unaware that he would end up suffering so much more than he had already experienced. Growing up without living a normal childhood, teenage hood and even an early adulthood, he realised what mattered the most; to find happiness in his own unique way. Shikesh understood that his journey to recovery was going to be very painful and prepared himself for the fight of his life. In ALMOST, Shikesh tells his empowering story as he develops a deep self-awareness of why it is important to give our own meaning to a new beginning. - UPDATE from the Author - 29th July 2020 - After publishing my book, ALMOST, a lot of changes happened in my life both personally and professionally. For this reason, I realised that my journey wasn't over, so I have decided to write a second book in the near future that will continue from Chapter One in ALMOST. It will conclude my whole journey and finally give it the closure it deserves.

Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

Shikesh's Twitter: twitter.com/shikeshsorathia

Amazon: www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B07KXVS3CK 

Dec 17, 202001:04:02
EP32: Alison Bird on Why She Doesn't Leave?

EP32: Alison Bird on Why She Doesn't Leave?

It's been asked over and over again, Alison Bird challenges this but also lists many reasons as to why she doesn't leave.

References within the interview:

Alice Ruggles clip- https://youtu.be/ML9MIqivZRE

Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft

The Femicide 10-year report on men’s fatal violence against women in the UK 2008 - 2018
@FemicideCensus

Alison Bird was Services Director and Clinical Lead for Stalking at Changing Pathways and is now Training and Best Practice Lead at Changing Pathways. Changing Pathways is an Essex-based charity supporting victims of stalking and domestic abuse.

Alison has worked nationally and locally with stalking/domestic abuse survivors for over a decade and was one of the first established & accredited Independent Stalking Advocacy Case Workers (ISACs) in the UK. She is a leading expert in the stalking field and specialises in supporting & advocating for high risk stalking victims/survivors. As well as the general public, this has included MPs and other high profile figures.

Alison is a Visiting Senior Fellow for Social Policy at University of Suffolk and in 2021 will soon be releasing our first joint piece of work in my role as Fellow….

A speaker at national conferences, Alison also trains the police, Crown Prosecution Service, social care, statutory & non-statutory agencies and workplaces to enhance the understanding and the assessment of risks around stalking, domestic abuse and coercive control.

She was part of the consultation with key stakeholders & MPs for both the Stalking Protection Orders 2020 and the long awaited Domestic Abuse Draft Bill.

As part of the National Stalking Consortium she & her peers influence policy & policy makers on stalking matters.

In 2017 Alison was one of the expert panel members, as well as a critical reader, for the HMICs high profile inspection ‘Living in Fear’ examining how police and CPS were responding to stalking victims 5 years after the legislation was brought in. The inspection showed there is still a long way to go before agencies fully understand what stalking is and how to respond to victims appropriately.

Alison is keenly interested in the link between trauma experienced by domestic abuse and stalking survivors - both children and adults - and this is reflected in her trauma-perceptive approach. As a trained Domestic Homicide Chair the theme of trauma is paramount in all Domestic Homicide Reviews.

Alison continues to work passionately to educate all key organisations and advocates for victims and survivors of some of society’s most serious yet underestimated crimes. Despite protective legislation, training, sentencing guidelines and an increasing crime profile, victims are still too often let down by the system.

Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

Changing Pathways: changingpathways.org

Contact: 01268 729707 / 0330 333 4 777

Dec 03, 202040:42
EP31: #JusticeforFCchildren
Nov 19, 202027:50
EP30: John Trott on Stalking

EP30: John Trott on Stalking

John is a highly experienced detective, having served with the Devon and Cornwall Police for over 28 years and retiring as Detective Chief Inspector in 2016. He was responsible for the prevention and investigation of domestic abuse, sexual abuse, child and vulnerable adult abuse. For the final four years of his police career he was the Force Lead for Domestic Abuse, Stalking and Harassment, Forced Marriage, Honour Based Abuse, Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) and Safeguarding Vulnerable Adults/Adults at Risk. He was a member of the Local Safeguarding Children Board and Safeguarding Adults Board. He is also an experienced Hostage and Crisis Negotiator and Coordinator.

John is an accredited and experienced Senior Investigating Officer and has worked and led on a number of serious and protracted investigations up to and including murder and in the later part of his police career, a number of high profile investigations in health-care settings.

John is a Domestic Homicide Review (DHR) Chair and has sat on five different DHR panels and is currently (September 2020) chairing six separate DHR's and a Child Learning Panel Review. Nationally, he was a member of the HMIC National Working Group for Domestic Abuse. He has also completed the accredited three day Karma Nirvana Honour Based Abuse and Forced Marriage training.

As Director of AbuseFreeLife John provides expert consultation and designs and delivers bespoke training for clients. He has trained police officers and representatives from other organisations around the United Kingdom on Domestic Abuse, Coercion and Control, Multi-Agency Risk Assessment Conferences, Honour Based Abuse and Stalking.  He has lectured and spoken at a number of events including Exeter and Plymouth University, at the Department of Health National FGM Conference, the National Caldicott Guardians Conference, the National Stalking Conference, Coercion and Control Conference and presented to the Isle of Man Government (Tynwald) as they deliberate a new Domestic Abuse Legislative Bill and most recently at the annual London Safeguarding Adults Board Conference 2020.

John's website: www.abusefreelife.com

Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

Nov 04, 202001:14:32
EP29: Champion for Women Survivors of Domestic Violence

EP29: Champion for Women Survivors of Domestic Violence

Fertility expert and abuse survivor, September Burton is a Champion for Women Survivors of Domestic Violence. After years of emotional, verbal, physical abuse and abuse of power - a common thread in the women she meets’ abuse stories – she has finally managed to break free.

September started her career as a U.S. Navy personal chef to 4-star Admirals, stationed in Sicily, Italy. She has since shared her expertise and passion for nutrition as a recurring guest on KCMJ 93.9 radio show, ‘Happy News Now’ and developed a 6-week ‘Eating for Fertility’ nutrition plan for prospective parents.

She is the Founder and CEO of “4-months-to-Fertile”, working with couples and mothers struggling with primary or secondary infertility and is the organizer of the first ever Colorado Fertility Conference.

September is passionate about living a life of purpose, sharing her knowledge on the healing power of food, and freeing women from the debilitating shame and guilt that often accompanies domestic violence.

"There is a magic that happens when women heal together. For every woman who speaks she empowers thousands of other women. Stand with me. Speak with me. Heal with me."

Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

September's website: septemberburton.com

Oct 22, 202035:15
EP28: Deborah Crozier on Online Counselling

EP28: Deborah Crozier on Online Counselling

I speak with Deborah Crozier from A Positive Start CIC about their online counselling service, Deborah answers questions sent in by viewers. 

*Please note the free online counselling service offer has changed, please get in touch with Deborah directly about the current offers/fee's

Deborah's Bio: I am the founding director and CEO at A Positive Start, a Social Enterprise based in the Borders, concerned with new solutions training, personal development & Person-Centred Counselling.

I am passionate about helping people overcome the effects of trauma in their lives; supporting & empowering them to regain hope and possibility for the future so they can move forward and live the life they would choose for themselves. One thing I know for sure is, regardless of where you are coming from, or how hopeless things may seem; anything is possible with the right support and the right mindset - if only you can learn to believe in yourself and as a survivor of abuse, I know how incredibly difficult believing in yourself can be.

A Positive Start CIC was established as a community interest company in 2017 as a platform to deliver services to support people who are looking to move their lives forward following trauma. Currently A Positive Start CIC & Just Cycle Ltd run joint projects that aim to support people recovering from trauma.

Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

A Positive Starts website: www.apositivestart.co.uk

Oct 08, 202031:08
Ep27: Survivor not Superhero - Healing from abuse with a disability
Sep 17, 202036:08
EP26: Emma Jenkings on Mediation

EP26: Emma Jenkings on Mediation

I speak with Emma Jenkings from Mosaic Mediations, we discuss mediation and Emma answers your questions.  

Emma is a qualified workplace and employment mediator and runs her business Mosaic Mediation. After completing her Law degree in 2009, she went on to work at the Employment Tribunal as a Caseworker, Tribunal Clerk and Customer Service Officer. 

Emma found that she had a knack for resolving complaints or issues when they arose. She also witnessed the stress, financial pressure and emotional strain that so many people go through during the tribunal process. Emma believed that if situations were tackled differently at an earlier stage, the matter could have been resolved effectively, without resorting to the tribunal. 

At the beginning of 2016 Emma became a qualified workplace and employment mediator and started her business, Mosaic Mediation. Since then she has led and assisted in mediations for a wide variety of situations and work sectors, and has written a number of articles on conflict and communication. She has also presented talks on conflict prevention, assertiveness and conflict in the workplace. Alongside workplace mediation, Emma also provides 1:1 conflict prevention coaching, DISC personality assessments and corporate training on conflict and communication.

Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

Emma's website: www.mosaicmediation.co.uk

Sep 03, 202045:03
EP25: Thriving after Surviving
Aug 20, 202037:14
EP 24: Detective Constable Anoushka Dunic on Exploitation
Aug 06, 202037:34
EP23: Part 2- Being in a Relationship with a Survivor
Jul 17, 202045:51
EP22: Karen Evans on Armed Forces

EP22: Karen Evans on Armed Forces

I spoke with Karen Evans on what support is available for women living in barracks, Karen answered your questions as well. 

Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Now mixing with survivor stories.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

Our website: www.abusetalk.co.uk

North East Hampshire Domestic Abuse Forum: www.nehantsdvf.co.uk

Support available in link to the interview:  

Armed Forces Based Confidential support services (recommended where possible as the staff are based in barracks / stations and understand the armed forces systems and what support / options there are as well as being independent of the chain of command) 

Army Welfare Service (Intake and Assessment Team): 01904 882053 Monday – Thursday 0830 – 1630; Friday 0830 – 1600 (out of hours, via unit welfare officer or Staff Duty Officer) 

Naval Service Family and People Support (NS FPS): 0800 145 6088 SSAFA (RAF) 

Personal Support and Social Work Service: 03000 111723   

Unit Welfare Officers are there to support armed forces personnel and their families, and can be a great help and support, however, they are part of the chain of command.   

MOD Domestic Abuse Website: www.gov.uk/mod/domestic-abuse-support-for-the-armed-forces (this has all the contact details for support services where ever people are based, links to policy documents, case studies as well as the practitioners handbook which gives details of frequently asked questions)  

Civilian based services: The armed forces community can access all civilian based services in addition to the armed forces specific ones detailed above. Ones worth particular note are: Nepali domestic and sexual abuse support: 07741 261387 Aurora New Dawn, Armed Forces DA Support – 07496 333473 Civil Servants, Employee Wellbeing Service: 0800 3457047

Jul 02, 202041:01
EP21: Being in a Relationship with a Survivor
Jun 18, 202048:09
EP20: Sue Penna on Recovering from Trauma
Jun 04, 202044:42
EP19: Part 2 - Zoe Parsons on Narcissistic Abuse
May 21, 202049:26
EP18: Zoe Parsons on Narcissistic Abuse
May 07, 202042:47
EP17: Covid-19 Special
Apr 16, 202028:48
EP16: Claire Verney on Perpetrator Programmes
Apr 02, 202055:36
EP15: Helpline Support Officer from Abused Men in Scotland
Mar 19, 202032:37
EP14: Caryn Walker on Surviving Child Abuse
Mar 05, 202033:08
EP13: Stella Eden and her Open Road Trip
Feb 20, 202022:30
EP 12: Taylor Marie on MacKenzie Friends
Feb 06, 202049:59
EP11: Beckie Breakwell on Domestic Abuse Resources
Jan 23, 202034:16
EP10: Dawn Patrick on Finances
Jan 09, 202032:23
EP9: Richard Turner on Cult Abuse
Dec 19, 201950:05
EP8: Natalie Page on injustices within the Family Courts
Dec 05, 201936:10
EP7: Sam Billingham talking about SODA
Nov 21, 201918:54
EP6: Vickie Robertson talking about her survivor led charity

EP6: Vickie Robertson talking about her survivor led charity

I speak with Vickie Robertson who has founded soon to be charity Kaleidascopic UK.

Abuse Talk Podcast currently offers a series of interviews with those that work in the domestic abuse sector. Getting an inside feel for what its really like in their job role and sharing it with all of you.

Don't forget you can respond to this episode by leaving a voice message on Anchor, get in touch if you have any queries.

My website: www.jennifergilmour.com

Get in touch with Vickie: kaleidoscopicuk@gmail.com

Nov 07, 201936:57