Alex Solves Society

So you got knocked up by some guy. Should you rush to the altar? NO- don't get married just because you're pregnant! Stop and think for a minute! Is the guy a loser? Are you dating the guy who got you pregnant? Don't just jump into a poor marriage situation because you may have had a temporary lapse of judgement. Let's talk about it.

When you're thinking about spending the rest of your life with someone, a word of warning- don't get married to jealous or insecure people! Vain, insecure people will drag you down to their level and need constant reassurance of their self-worth. Jealous partners will ruin your other relationships because of their selfish need to take all of your time. Avoid these people.

In this recording, we'll discuss how to recognize insecurity and jealousy both in yourself and your boyfriend or girlfriend and how to deal with any nastiness you find. Let's talk about it.

What insecurity issues have you found in your relationship? Are you the jealous one? Leave me a comment.

You're in love with your boyfriend or girlfriend, but your loved ones don't. What do you do if your friends and family universally hate your partner? Break off your relationship? Let's talk about it.

Do your parents or friends hate the person you're dating? Leave me a comment.

When you choose to get married, what are you really deciding? It's not the vows, where you'll live, or what you'll name your kids. You're deciding whether you can really be happy with your partner, with the good and the bad, if they never change. Let's talk about it.

Leave me a comment. Are you scared to commit?

When you get married, you make a commitment to someone. Don't use divorce as a backup plan in your mind, just because you're not sure if you're ready for marriage. Using divorce as plan 'B,' instead of sharing your fears with your partner, is a lousy way to live and a great way to wreck a relationship. Let's talk about it.

Are you thinking about your divorce escape plan before you're even married? Leave me a comment.

Smart people don't get married for looks. That's a harsh statement, but it's true. Getting married  just because someone looks good and neglecting to look deeper is a ticket to an unhappy life. Let's talk about how your partner's physical appearance can still be part of your marriage decision-process, without being all of it.

Do think a person's looks are more important than I do? Leave me a comment.

Sex is an important part of marriage, so don't get married without having sex! Let's talk about why you need to try out sex with your partner and why you need to spend at least one night together before devoting the rest of your lives to each other.

Are you scared to get married without sex first? Are there people pushing you to hold out against your better judgement? Leave me a comment.

Don't get married for love? Why not? Isn't being in love part of marriage? Well, I happen to agree that love should be a part of the decision to marry someone, but love can distort reality. Let's talk about why and how you should keep you feelings for someone separate from your decision-making process when choosing to get married.

Leave me a comment. Are you having problems separating your personal feelings from your rational mind?

You've found something about your partner that you just can't live with. So what do you do? Run away as fast as you can? This video covers how to HANDLE DEAL BREAKERS in your relationship and make good decisions about whether to move forward or walk away. Let's talk about it.

Are you having problems handling deal breakers in your relationship? Leave me a comment.

Everyone has something they will not tolerate, both in life and in their partner. They're called Deal Breakers. So, what are your Deal Breakers? What thoughts, actions, or philosophies have you decided you can't live with and be happy? Let's talk about it.

What deal breakers are you running into in your relationship? Leave me a comment.

Are you starting think that marrying your partner might be a good idea, but just for tax or insurance benefits? Hold on a minute! Be careful getting married for purely financial reasons! Let's talk about it.  

Are financial reasons a big motivator for you when deciding to get married? Leave me a comment. 

Lasting change is 100% selfish, so you need to accept that your partner will not change for you. You can't reform them. They will not make lasting changes just because you desire it. So before you think about jumping into marriage and enacting some reform program on your unsuspecting boyfriend or girlfriend, watch this video.

What changes do you want your partner to make? Can you live with their imperfections and still be happy? Leave me a comment.

You marriage decision-process depends 100% on honesty. So as you think about marrying a person, remember that you don't need to AGREE, but you do need to be HONEST with your partner! If you're honest, then you can smooth out any rough points and agree later. But if you hide your true thoughts, feelings, opinions, and intentions, then you're not only lying to yourself, you're deceiving your partner and robbing them of the chance to honestly decide if they want to marry you. Let's talk about it.

Are you having trouble being honest, with yourself or your partner? Leave me a comment.

Nobody is perfect, but you do need to SETTLE on someone to get married. There will be things you like about each other and qualities you hate (hopefully not too many of those!), but the only way to move forward and get married is to settle.

Are you afraid to settle down and get married? Leave me a comment.

Are YOU prepared to COMMIT to a human being? In what way? To have and to hold, forever? This may sound like a scary proposition, but YOU need to put on your 'adult pants' and figure this out before YOU decide to get married. Let's talk about commitment.

Are you scared to commit? Leave me a comment.

Do YOU want to get married at all? Why? Is it because YOU want to? Or are your friends, family, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc. pushing you into a marriage you may not be comfortable with? Let's take a moment and reflect on this amazingly important question that could change the course of your life!

What are you reasons for getting married? Leave me a comment. 

It can be a scary process when you're deciding to get married. In this video, I introduce my Deciding To Get Married 101 playlist. Full of short, simple, easy-to-use videos, this is the place to start when you're thinking about getting married. Enjoy!

Are you ready to make the right marriage choices? Leave me a comment.