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A Little Death

A Little Death

By Alana
A conversation about sex, relationships, and how it feels to be human. Because when we talk about sex, we’re talking about everything.
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09: The Number
What happens when a pandemic puts a pause on your Number? (That is, the number of people you’ve had sex with). It’s a bummer. But listen on for some takes.
February 27, 2021
08: The Prowl
You know The Prowl: it’s when you’re searching for sex for the very near-term future. Since we’re about to be let back out into the world, we’re about to prowl—hard. Take a minute to make some rules for yourself before you go wild out there. 😎
June 14, 2020
07: Send Nudes
Love and lust during a 21st century plague, and the value of an abundance of nudes.
May 17, 2020
06: Sex Hacking with Kenneth Play
This episode is a conversation with my forever crush, Kenneth Play. His new online sex education series—The Sex Hacker Courses—is available now, and the project is extraordinary. Listen on to hear about how and why he made these videos that cover a range of topics, from the psychology of foreplay to the mechanics of squirting. Should you be interested in more, check out the piece I wrote about Kenneth for GQ, called “Pleasure Lessons from the World’s Greatest Sex Hacker.” ✌️
December 31, 2019
05: Dirty Talk
Let’s talk dirty talk, shall we? Listen on for formulas of language in the sack. 😏
October 3, 2019
04: Vacation Dating & Playing House
Go ahead, go on vacation with a random. Borrowing the good parts of long term relationships can build a great, short-term fantasy from single people.
April 21, 2019
03: Polyamory vs. Low Key Dating
A review of Sophie Lucio Johnson’s memoir, “Many Love,” and how polyamory fits in with Low Key Dating.
January 20, 2019
02: The (Sex) Year in Review
Take time to think about your 2018 sex life, and build your own Sex Roadmap for 2019. Because reflecting on and making resolutions about sex is much more fun than doing it about your bank account.
December 31, 2018
01: We’re back, babies.
It’s Season 2 of A Little Death. New episodes coming soon 😎
December 29, 2018
10: Slutever, Easy, and “Good” Bad
Karley Sciortino’s “Slutever” empire and Joe Swanberg’s Netflix show, “Easy,” remind us that not all bad sex encounters are existentially and forever bad or damaging. There’s a “good” kind of bad that we tolerate in so many parts of our lives, but we don’t always extend that trial-and-error tolerance to our sex lives. Sciortino, Swanberg, and I (lol presumptuous) are here to tell you that there’s “good” bad sex that’s important and necessary.
March 14, 2018
09: Maintaining Your Koi Pond
There’s an art to having a regular rotation of non-partner partners that you aren’t in a committed relationship with. Enter the Koi Pond metaphor—instead of thinking about “plenty of fish in the sea” that you wade through to find your one perfect person, the Koi Pond is all about catching and releasing babes in non-exclusive setups. If you don’t want a committed partner and you don’t want a series of No-Term Relationships (which I talk about in earlier episodes), but you *do* want to be having sex, then you’re kind of in a Koi Pond situation by default. Here are some tips for maintaining your pond. 😘
February 19, 2018
08: I’m a Walking Sex Paradox
Ok, real talk: do you ever get confused and maybe a little bit concerned about what turns you on? Let’s talk about it.
February 12, 2018
07: Aziz Ansari, Consent & Agency
This week’s story about Aziz Ansari brings up issues about consent and agency: how to establish consent and increase your own sexual agency. To do that, we can learn a lot from sex parties. Listen on.
January 21, 2018
06: Meet the Queen: Esther Perel
Meet my personal sex and relationships hero: Esther Perel. Her work is globally influential and the conversations she drives can help give you a framework for exploring your own sexuality and desires.
January 15, 2018
05: The Art of No-Term Relationships, Pt. 2
No-Term Relationships are casual, one-time encounters conducted with kindness and self-awareness in a way that integrates the act into your everyday lifestyle. Part 1 describes what these relationships can be and why they’re valuable. In Part 2, we talk about how to make it happen. Listen to learn how to find and have No-Term Relationships like a pro.
January 3, 2018
04: The Art of No-Term Relationships Pt. 1
Let’s talk about casual encounters. “No Strings Attached” sex might work for some, but there are other options. I call them “No-Term Relationships.” In Part 1 of this episode, let’s get into the difference between the two and talk about how even one hour sexual encounters can be acted out with care.
December 31, 2017
03: The Permission Slip
Give yourself a permission slip to think, fantasize, explore, and try something new. It’s not easy, but sweet babes: it’s worth it.
December 28, 2017
02: Love in the Time of Trash
When the zeitgeist is trash and you can hardly take off someone’s pants without thinking of the patriarchy, how can women enjoy sex? I suggest a FMM threesome, but you do you, babes. 💜
December 22, 2017
01: Welcome to A Little Death 👋
A Little Death, Ep. 01 (👋)
December 21, 2017