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Focused Life Coach

Focused Life Coach

By Allison

Allison focuses on issues that impact life love and livelihood. She brings clarity and focuses on thoughts and actions that impact success driven people.
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Focused Life Coach Dec 20, 2020

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Procrastination

Procrastination

I want to write a good description, but I think I will do it later.

If you would like to comment or leave feedback about this subject you can do so at https://allisonbonilla.substack.com That is where you can listen to this and other podcast episodes, read some blog posts, as well as become a subscriber.

I appreciate your support and invite you to keep listening and sharing with others.

Nov 16, 202314:09
Life is the C between the B and the D

Life is the C between the B and the D

When do we start to build our legacies?  The answer is today.  Today is the day that we lay down the data that will inform our legacy and will provide the information for those who will eulogize us.  

What are you doing today that you want people to talk about after you are gone?

Mar 09, 202304:53
A Biblical View of Burnout

A Biblical View of Burnout

We know that Elijah showed signs of depression, but did you know that also displayed signs of burnout?

If you think you are alone in feeling overwhelmed and are ready to cash it in, don't.  Take a listen.  There is hope.

Jul 05, 202206:54
The Cost of Boundaries

The Cost of Boundaries

There is a cost to having boundaries, but more importantly there is a greater cost to not having them.  If you would like to speak to me about how you can develop you own boundaries, or if you feel you struggle with the boundary violations of others and want some help with that then contact me at www.focusedlifecoaching.org.  

You can also connect with me on Instagram or Facebook, as I will frequently post articles of interest to strengthen you professionally and personally. 

My mission is to help professional women bring into harmony their lifestyle (health), livelihood (business), and love (relationships).  To do so, boundaries are necessary.

May 15, 202103:41
Boundaries and Purpose
May 08, 202105:55
Benefit of Boundaries
May 01, 202107:20
No is a Complete Sentence

No is a Complete Sentence

I have found "No" to be a powerful word, but it is difficult to say it directly. So I learned to say it creatively. "I appreciate your confidence in me, but I would recommend that you bring that task to X, they have the resources and availability to do it in the way that would serve you best." Just a wordy way of saying "No". 

It takes bravery to sometimes just let the power of the word "No" do it's job.  It is worth it if you can handle it and erect some needed boundaries in your life.

You can follow this subject on boundaries at my Instagram page https://www.instagram.com/focusedlifestrategist/  and see some creative ways  to say "No" on my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/focusedlifecoachingorg/photos/a.2861100943993373/3243677572402373/

Apr 24, 202106:05
Healthy Boundaries for Healthy Relationships

Healthy Boundaries for Healthy Relationships

They say good fences make good neighbors; well good boundaries make for loving relationships.  This episode explores this further.  This is the first in a series on boundaries.  Listen, share with someone you think needs to hear this and comment on the subject on either my Instagram page https://www.instagram.com/p/CNqAhVNBpU4/  or my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/focusedlifecoachingorg

What are your struggles with boundaries?

Apr 17, 202106:26
5 Part Relationship Reboot Episode 5
Jan 29, 202111:34
5 Part Relationship Reboot Episode 4

5 Part Relationship Reboot Episode 4

When we think about relationships we think about affectionate connections.  We want that positive feeling that a romantic relationship promises.  However for many the relationship remains minus the feelings of affection.  If you have lost that loving or affectionate feeling towards your mate, here are some ways you can invite it back into your relationship.  I referenced Gary Chapman's book the 5 Love Languages.  For those of you who like to listen (you must, because you are listening to a podcast), but are challenged by the idea of reading a book; this book is on YouTube.  So take a listen and see if it can help you improve your relationship.  Don't forget to like this podcast, or leave me a voice msg telling me what is resonating with you from this series.  My YouTube channel is  Focused Life Coach, please subscribe.

Jan 22, 202108:15
5 Part Relationship Reboot Episode 3

5 Part Relationship Reboot Episode 3

When was the last time you complimented your spouse.  We can get so busy we forget the power of appreciation.  Today we will hear how appreciating our partners can boost our positive feelings towards them and rebuild our relationship.

Jan 15, 202112:04
5 Part Relationship Reboot episode 2

5 Part Relationship Reboot episode 2

Today we explore the activity of reunions and how they can be used to recharge your relationship.  Thanks for joining us again.

Jan 08, 202111:28
5 Part Relationship Reboot Episode 1

5 Part Relationship Reboot Episode 1

We are going to look at 5 elements of relationships that can be worked on to improve relationship health.  As a coach working with women who are pursuing professional success, I want to provide information to make sure that their relationships don't suffer.  So take a listen and apply what you can to reboot your relationship or to just take it to the next level.  Let me know what works for you.  Be blessed and be a blessing in your relationship.

Jan 02, 202112:35
And Finally . . . Charity
Dec 20, 202011:02
Embrace Uncertainty
Dec 20, 202007:34
Don't Procrastinate

Don't Procrastinate

Planning and Perfection can be the reason you are procrastinating, but if you never launch how will you succeed. More wisdom from the book of Ecclesiastes 11:4 about this mindset of procrastinating. Is it time to aim for progression? There is more to come so stay tuned. You can watch this episode on YouTube by going to https://youtu.be/jwnKV9OYtv4. As always I ask that if you find the message helpful, help me to share it to more people by liking and subscribing.

Dec 20, 202008:48
Pay Attention

Pay Attention

How easy it is sometimes to just ignore or be in denial of things.  The scripture of Ecclesiastes 11:3 calls us to pay attention to things so that we can take needed and timely action.  If you have been following this series you will see the wisdom that is provided through these scriptures, whether for your business or your personal life.  There is more to come so stay tuned.  You can watch this episode on YouTube by going to https://youtu.be/sKBrQgwz2aU.  As always I ask that if you find the message helpful, help me to share it to more people by liking and subscribing.   

Dec 20, 202005:30
Diversify

Diversify

Continuing on with my series in Ecclesiastes 11 I share about verse 2 and it's application in life.  So much of scripture provides wisdom on a personal and professional level.  If this message resonates with you please let me know by sending me an "Amen" or a "Yes". Continue to listen as I unpack subsequent verses in later episodes.  You can also see these episodes as videos by visiting my YouTube channel https://youtu.be/CC3FvsVKPqE. After viewing please like and subscribe so that others can also be blessed with this message.

Dec 20, 202005:04
Shipping Your Grain
Dec 18, 202005:39
Understand your Impact

Understand your Impact

We all have defining moments in our life that impact us for a long time.  Here is one of mine.  I share this with the hope that if there are any such moments in your life that you have not been able to resolve positively that you would not waste another moment in your life suffering the negative impact of that moment, but will work to reframe it and make it powerful in a positive way.

Nov 01, 202009:16
Attacking Negative Thoughts

Attacking Negative Thoughts

Being at the mercies of negative thoughts can hamper your relationships.  It's important to find a way to disconnect yourself from automatically thinking negative and give yourself space to discern the truth about situations.  In this episode we look at a way to help you have more control over your thought life.

Aug 27, 202008:11
Eating Your Heart Out

Eating Your Heart Out

A healthy relationship with food is more that what you eat.  It is more about what is in the mind than in the stomach.

Aug 25, 202016:13
Boundaries

Boundaries

"When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. "Brene Brown.  But how do you set boundaries, and what types of boundaries are there.  This episode we will explore this as I share with you a personal experience regarding boundaries.  Take a listen.

Aug 22, 202009:31
Assertive Communication

Assertive Communication

Being skilled at communicating assertively will improve your ability to relate in all your relationships, personal and professional.    Learn some concrete tips to get you to the place where you can express yourself and influence the behavior of others towards you.

Aug 03, 202009:26
Confrontation Done Well

Confrontation Done Well

When we think of confrontation, we thing of escalation of tension.  If done well however, it can lead to decreased tension and improved relationships with others.  Learn how to confront well and bring back peace to your relationships.

Jan 02, 202004:29
4 Steps to Successful Goal Engagement

4 Steps to Successful Goal Engagement

Having goals at the beginning of a year then reflecting on them at the end of the year is common to most people. Wouldn’t it be great if when you reflect you see that you had successfully engaged with your goals and achieved a result you were proud of? Her are some tips and thoughts on that subject.
Dec 22, 201912:02
Behavior Change

Behavior Change

Recognizing how difficult it is to change can promote humility. You are more likely to be forgiving of yourself when you fall short of your own goals of changed behavior when you exercise that compassion for others who are attempting to change.
Nov 13, 201904:34
Protect your Peace

Protect your Peace

Ever felt that you were so focused on something that it was preventing you from moving forward? Maybe a change of perspective is in order.
Nov 07, 201905:37
Respond don’t just React

Respond don’t just React

The benefits of acceptance as a way to respond to the unpredictability of life.
Nov 07, 201902:06
November 6, 2019

November 6, 2019

Nov 06, 201900:57
3 Tips to help you keep friendships as you build your business.

3 Tips to help you keep friendships as you build your business.

Having some clear boundaries that respect and value personal friendships are important when you begin you business.  Yes your friends can be your first customers, but don't lose sight that they were your friends first.

Sep 16, 201907:06
5 Tips for better Social Engagement

5 Tips for better Social Engagement

For some people even basic social engagement can be very difficult.  This episode focuses on the mindset that needs to be in play to avoid pitfalls in beginning social interactions.  Share it with someone who is struggling with basic social engagement.

Sep 01, 201912:06
Demystifying work and life balance

Demystifying work and life balance

Many people struggle to find the balance between work and homelife.  Is it really that hard or do we complicate it?

Aug 15, 201905:32