weird wednesday

let's talk about the messiest, most important part of your 20s: friendships

i went back to my ex and i'm proud of it

the other day i realized i let other people dictate my path and self worth because i'm not comfortable with or confident in who i am, what i like, what i want, or how i need to be loved

 let's talk about dreams... losing them, finding them, talking about them, and turning them into reality.

it's that time of the year again! the days are darker, i struggle to peel myself out of bed, i'm exhausted from doing nothing, and i want to crawl into a hole and see absolutely no one. on this episode, i talk about my tips to make seasonal depression a little less heavy, why i think setting social media boundaries is crucial during this time of the year, and my thoughts on holiday burnout.

an honest conversation about the fuckery of our society's beauty standards

why i think setting boundaries is important and one of the coolest things you can do.

just a little mind dump post-NYC

26 has been the most confusing year of my life. i wake up very day and have an existential crisis. let's talk about why!

this week i talk best feelings ever. you know those feelings. the ones that bring you intense satisfaction or relief. the ones that send tingles throughout your body or shivers down your back. the ones that make feel like a brand new person. the euphoric ones. the nostalgic ones. i go through your submissions and respond to what you guys think are the best feelings ever. i get a little gross, i get a little controversial. i also tell you guys something i've probably told two people in my entire life. then at the end of the episode, we chat orgasms and what they feel like. and yes, i AM going to do a whole episode dedicated to orgasms. 

let's talk about anxiety. i was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder back in high school and since then, it's been the most important thing in my life. you don't know me if you don't know my anxiety. i talk about what anxiety looks like for me, what i struggle with, my experience with medication, where i'm at now, therapy, coping mechanisms, and more.

YOU ARE NOT A LESSER HUMAN BEING BECAUSE YOU STRUGGLE WITH A MENTAL HEALTH DISORDER. don't forget that xoxo

lucie's back! this week we talk about the concept of non-negotiables when it comes to partners/relationships and list our top three most important ones. we also talk about each of our most irrational icks and answer your 'he's a ten, but' submissions, which were INCREDIBLE. we give our opinions about 3-in-1 shampoo/conditioner/body wash, phone sex, height, living at home with parents, personality vs. physical looks, and more.

a bit of a mind dump this week, but nonetheless important

i'm 26, living at home with my parents, and proud of that. let's talk about the danger of comparison traps, finances in your 20s, and the beauty of focusing on yourself

this week i open up about the physical health journey i've been on for the past couple of months. i talk about the stomach issues i've dealt with, loss of appetite post-heartbreak, having no energy or desire to workout, probiotics, unintentional weight loss, and how I'm taking back my physical health one step at a time.

i'm tired of trying to fit myself into a box. i'm tired of editing reels with tons of short, 0.1-second videos and then adding a trending audio that it took me hours to find. i'm tired of all of these stupid videos filling up and cluttering my camera roll. i'm tired of my hands hurting because of how hard i grip my phone when i film a video to make sure it's not shaky. i'm tired of everything on social media looking the same and feeling fake. why are we all forcing ourselves to pretend we live perfectly curated, aesthetic lives when that couldn't be farther from the truth? is anyone even happy anymore? idk this might just be one big self projection. who really knows?

and this is all coming from someone who has always loved aesthetic, romanticized moments. it all just feels like overkill. it's too much of one thing. it feels like the joy is being sucked out of everything...

been going through it for the past month and a half, here's what's going on

I sat down with Tim Ferraro (my guy friend who lives in South Boston) and we talk about all the life topics. Here's what we touch on: 

- getting back to your childhood roots in order to find life purpose 

- journaling 

- the emotional awareness/maturity gap between men and women 

- why you shouldn't be looking to meet your future partner while out 

- therapy 

- outgrowing friendships

- what guys talk about when they're together 

- being vulnerable 

& much more!

For this episode, Lucie and I went to Tatte together post-yoga and chatted about all of the life things while sipping on our iced matcha lattes. We talk about making new friends, how to approach boys without seeming overly interested, navigating finances in your 20s, knowing your non-negotiables in a partner, and more.

My friend Lucie and I went to Cuppacoffee in the South End after a Corepower sculpt class and shot the shit about life, as we do after every yoga class we take together. This kind of conversation with a good friend is so healing and therapeutic for me, so I hope that it can be the same for you.

We talk about making friends in a hostile city, why we love Southie, how we met, the importance of having conversations with strangers, drunk girls empowering girls in the bathroom of the bar, gut stuff, UTI theories, signs from the universe, bubble butts, etc. I also share a life update about moving back to the city! Basically just two girls in their 20s chatting about life. Hope you enjoy

XOXO Wames

some things that have been on my mind recently

how i tested positive for covid & got my most of my family sick on a trip to see my younger sister graduate college

here's what going on with us right now

Some things on my mind recently...

The link for THE dress: https://rstyle.me/cz-n/gdmqn5c5mdx

This week's episode is a bit of a mind dump. I talk about credit card debt in your 20s and how, as a 25-year-old living in Boston, I've learned to not wake up every day worrying about money. Tim & I talk about our thoughts on the recent articles claiming oat milk to be toxic because of the inflammatory oils and sugar. We talk diet culture, sharing vs. pushing opinions, doing what's best for YOU, etc. We also briefly talk about a shared hobby we recently took up that's been great for our relationship.

This week, Tim and I talk about the importance of continuing to honor your independent side while in a relationship, especially when one partner is more controlling/stubborn/alpha and one is more go-with-the-flow/passive

This week I talk vibrators. I explain my experience with vibrators, what I need to orgasm, not being able to orgasm during sex, what vibrators I have, and more.

Vibrators I've tried:

VUSH rose 2 vibrator (vibrator I have now and LOVE) - https://www.vushstimulation.com/products/rose-2?_pos=1&_sid=c175ca359&_ss=r

Dame Eva hands free vibrator (the vibrator I just bought to help me orgasm during sex) - https://www.dameproducts.com/products/eva-ii

Lovelife Cuddle (a good beginner vibrator, good price for what you get) - https://www.lovelifetoys.com/Lovelife-Cuddle-Vibe

*I didn't even include the giant purple one from Amazon because I think they discontinued it?

This week I talk about the shit show show and fever dream that 2022 has been so far. I talk about feeling tired all the time, cancelling every workout I sign up for, repressed emotions, switching my anxiety meds, getting a psychiatrist referral to talk about OCD, social media comparison traps, and more.

This week Tim & I talk about quitting our jobs, something both of us have gone through in the past month. I made the decision to end my small business, which was a majority of my income, to pursue Instagram full-time, and Tim made the decision to leave his current job to accept a new one. We talk about what led to us making our decisions, the importance of money vs. the importance of happiness, dealing with judgment from other people, imposter syndrome, the interview process, and more.

This week Tim is on a work trip in Florida, so I did my first ever solo episode. I talk all about my journey to become a Registered Dietitian, what my college experience was like, why I'm not currently using my credentials, how a toxic relationship and going off anxiety meds affected my decision making, my experience with disordered eating, becoming dependent on a social media app, and much more.

This week Tim & I talk about something that we're all trying to navigate. FINANCES. The dreaded F word. We kept this conversation pretty general, but essentially talked through our thoughts about money, how finances are a shit show (especially in your 20s), how most people our age don't feel prepared for the future, and more.

This week Tim and I talk about our New Year's resolutions, or as we like to call them, goals. We broke them down into three categories: physical goals, mental goals, and business/work goals. We also talk about the danger of "new year new me" and setting unrealistic goals. 

This week Tim and I respond to your secret submissions from my Instagram stories. We react to your secrets and tell some of our own ;)

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This week, Tim & I do another Q&A. This time, we answer the questions separately, without knowing what the other person's answer is going to be. You get the girl's vs guy's perspective. We talk about how to ask for space without offending your partner, how to keep the relationship spicy after the honeymoon period, how to navigate having different sex drives, and more.

If you want to submit questions for next week's podcast, follow me on Instagram (@amywilichowski)! I post weekly question boxes on my stories for follower submissions.

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This week, Tim officially joins Weird Wednesday as a co-host. We talk (in detail) about how we met, who said I love you first, and making the decision to move in together after only three months of dating. We also answer questions that you asked on my Instagram about dating & relationships. Some of the topics we touch on are how we navigate arguments, how often we have sex, butt stuff, and how Tim felt about Weird Wednesday when we first started dating.

If you want to submit questions for next week's podcast, follow me on Instagram! I post weekly question boxes on my stories for follower submissions.

Amy introduces herself and the Weird Wednesday podcast then jumps into some sex & relationships submissions. She talks about

• Communicating in bed
• Mouth spitting
• Confusion about sexuality
• Why she can’t have one night stands
• Eating out while on period
• A surprising encounter with a foot fetish
• Dirty pussy
• Her vibrator recommendation