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The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering

The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering

By Andrea Fortenberry
This is a podcast is about finding freedom from perfectionism to show up for the life God has for you. Mom life is messy, unpredictable and just plain hard sometimes, but isn’t it also amazing? I believe God uses it all to grow us into the women He wants us to be.
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E23: I Am Not
Welcome to Episode 23 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with Simi John. Simi is a speaker, author and a full time physical therapist. She has been married to her best friend Jayson John for 10 years and they have two beautiful children. Currently she lives in Oklahoma and serves with her husband who is the lead pastor of New Life Bible Church in Norman.  Her calling is to the local church and her passion is to empower women to live in the abundant life Jesus offers them. Last year Simi released her first devotional book I Am Not: Break Free From Stereotypes and Become the Woman God Made You to Be.* We talk about how to celebrate who we are, how to be authentic, how to fight burn out, and more!  Some of the resources we mention include: Enemies of the Heart by Andy Stanley* 2 Corinthians 1:3-5 Simi's Free Gift for Mamas Stanley Tucci: Searching for Italy  You can connect with Simi: On Instagram: @simijohn On her website: simijohn.tv *Affiliate Link
35:20
April 7, 2021
E22: The Enneagram and Perfectionism
Welcome to Episode 22 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with my friend, Amy Wicks. Amy is a faith-based Enneagram Coach, workshop creator and speaker who lives in Kansas City with her family. She is the voice of the weekly Simply Wholehearted Podcast and has co-authored The Unseen Way, a book study created for Unseen: The Gift of Being Hidden in a World that Loves to be Noticed* (Sara Hagerty, Zondervan, 2017).  We talk about what the Enneagram is, how it can be helpful in our lives, and how each type has its own unique struggle with perfectionism.  Resources we mention include: The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile* Simply Wholehearted Episode 191: The Orphan Mindset Simply Wholehearted Episode 37: Should Christians Use the Enneagram The Enneagram Guide for Moms Enola Holmes on Netflix "Forever Amen" by Steffany Gretzinger You can connect with Amy on: Her website: simplywholehearted.com Instagram: @simplywholehearted Clubhouse: @simplywhole *Affiliate Link
39:13
March 24, 2021
E21: Ordinary to Extraordinary
Today I’m talking with my friend, Sherri Crandall, who is also my boss at MOPS International. Sherri Crandall is the Vice President of Global Ministries and Leadership Experience for MOPS. She is also a blogger and speaker for women’s events where she shares her passion for encouraging women to live life to the fullest. Sherri loves to garden, read historical fiction, play tennis and most of all, hang out with family and friends in the beautiful Rocky Mountains. Sherri has been married for 34 years and has four young adult children. We talk about how to trust God with our ordinary lives, how to be content, and how it's sometimes a good thing when things don't work out the way we planned.  Some of the things we mention include: "Good Thing" by Spencer Crandall Truths I Never Told You by Kelly Rimmer* That Sounds Fun* by Annie F. Downs and That Sounds Fun Podcast Episode with Stacey Morgan The Post-Quarantine Church by Thom S. Rainer* Psalms in The Message* translation The Alli Worthington Show Jo Saxton's Podcast The Andy Stanley Leadership Podcast The Open Door Sisterhood You can connect with Sherri on Instagram @sherricrandall or her website, sherricrandall.com. *Affiliate Link
40:12
March 10, 2021
E20: Rest for Weary Moms
Welcome to Episode 20 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking all about rest for the weary mom. Do you wish you could stop your hectic schedule? Do you need time to refresh but can’t figure out how to make it possible? I’d love to share with you how to experience rest and peace during your busy week through practicing Sabbath rest. I talk about five reasons we should observe Sabbath rest: To Replicate: Genesis 2:2-3 To Remember God and His Commandments: Exodus 20:8 To Revere God: 1 Chronicles 16:29 To Rest in His Presence, Physically and Mentally: Psalm 46:10 To Renew Our Minds: Romans 12:2 I also give seven practical tips on how to incorporate Sabbath rest into our lives: Don't Be Legalistic Mom Guilt Not Allowed! Pick a Day/Time of the Week That Works for You Use a Sundown to Sundown Practice Everybody Rests on Sunday Keep Things Simple Do What Refreshes You Matthew 11:28-30: The Message “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” Recommendations: Episode 7: Remembering God's Faithfulness with Ginger Ciminello Strengthening the Soul of Your Leadership by Ruth Haley Barton* The Mandalorian Last Man Standing I Dream of You - Volume 3 by JJ Heller *Affiliate Link
40:54
February 24, 2021
E19: Find Your People
Welcome to Episode 19 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with my friend and MOPS teammate, Stacey Morgan. Stacey is on staff with MOPS International as an Executive Leadership Coach and is a frequent writer for MOPS. She lives in Friendswood, Texas and has four children, ranging from high school to elementary school, and is married to Drew, a NASA astronaut. Her newest project is writing a book for Tyndale Publishing called The Astronaut’s Wife, which will be released next year. We talk about how to make female friendships as an adult and why we need them. You’ll love hearing Stacey’s story and how she learned to stop waiting for friends to come to her and how instead, she stepped out to find her people.  Some of the things we mention include: The Amazing Race Brene Brown’s Podcast: Unlocking Us Jock Jams Lisa Whittle’s Jesus Over Everything* Charles Stanley’s Success God’s Way* You can connect with Stacey on Instagram at @staceymorgan2000 or her website staceymorgan2000.com. *Affiliate Link
01:00:28
February 10, 2021
E18: Fall in Love with God's Word
Today I’m talking with author and speaker, Brittany Ann. She is the owner of EquippingGodlyWomen.com, where she challenges, encourages, and  equips Christian women to be "all in" in faith and family.  Brittany is married and has three adorably energetic little ones. She is about to release a book called Fall in Love with God’s Word: Practical Strategies for Busy Women* on February 1st. We talk about Brittany Ann's story of reading the Bible, five misconceptions we have when it comes to reading the Bible, how busy moms can make time in their busy schedule to be in God's Word, and more. A few of the resources we mention include: Get Your Life Back by John Eldredge* Fall in Love with God’s Word: Practical Strategies for Busy Women* You can connect with Brittany Ann through EquippingGodlyWomen.com and fallinlovewithgodsword.com. *Affiliate Link
50:55
January 27, 2021
E17: Daring to Hope
Welcome to Episode 17 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Happy New Year! It’s great to be back with you. Today I'm talking about daring to hope, even as we navigate difficult times. Just a quick note that when I say Tuesday several times in the episode, I actually meant Wednesday of last week. Just got my days a little mixed up! Some of the things I mention include: Romans 15:13 NIV 1984: “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Lamentations 3:20-24 NLT: “I will never forget this awful time, as I grieve over my loss. Yet I still dare to hope when I remember this: The faithful love of the Lord never ends! His mercies never cease. Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh every morning. I say to myself, “The Lord is my inheritance; therefore I will hope in him.” James 1:2-5 NIV: "Consider it pure joy, y brothers and sister, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you."  The Little House Books* by Laura Ingalls Wilder "Last Man Standing" Our Daily Bread Ministries "Promises Never Fail" by Bethel Music and Emmy Rose "Hope Has a Name" by River Valley Worship *Affiliate Link
28:17
January 13, 2021
Episode 16: Quieting the Shout of Should
Welcome to Episode 16 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with author and speaker, Crystal Stine. Crystal loves encouraging women to live the best life God has designed for them. She is the author of two books, Holy Hustle: Embracing a Work-Hard, Rest-Well Life* and her most recent book, Quieting the Shout of Should: How a Life of Less Can Lead to More*. She is also releasing The Holy Hustle Planner* next month. We talk about some common "shoulds" moms struggle with both now and during the holidays, how to quiet those voices, creativity, and much more.  You can connect with Crystal here: crystalstine.me Instagram: @crystalstine Crystal has graciously offered to giveaway a signed copy of Quieting the Shout of Should: How a Life of Less Can Lead to More*! To enter, take a screenshot of this podcast episode while you're listening and tag us on social media: @crystalstine and @andreafortenberry. *Affiliate Link
43:27
December 16, 2020
E15: Start Simplifying
Welcome to Episode 15 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with Brooke French. Brooke is a nurse, writer, and an encourager to moms. She is a wife and mom to two teenagers and lives in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina. Brooke has a passion for empowering moms to simplify, slow down, and find joy in their everyday life.  We talk about: how she became passionate about simplifying, practical tips for the holidays and year round, and the importance of rest.  Some of the things we mentioned include: Brooke's Free Resources: 20 Simple Ways to Restore Your Soul, Simplify Meal Planning, 4 Steps to Journaling and More Virgin River The Crown Burn Out: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle* You can connect with Brooke here: brookefrench.com Instagram: @brookefrench Facebook: @brookeafrench *Affiliate Link
48:22
December 2, 2020
E14: Choosing Joy
Today I share how we can choose joy this holiday season. I discuss my definition of joy, three joy stealers, and give antidotes for each. While choosing joy this holiday season may not come easy because of the pandemic and other circumstances, it’s still possible! Having a flexible attitude, determined to choose joy no matter what happens, is the best way to handle the holidays. I hope you have great ones, my friends! Some of the other things I mention in this episode include:  The Little House Series* The Great British Baking Show The Crown Chris Tomlin and Friends *Affiliate Link
32:10
November 18, 2020
Episode 13: From Lost to Found
Today I’m talking with my friend, Nicole Zasowski. Nicole is a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of From Lost to Found: Giving Up What You Think You Want for What Will Set You Free.* As an old soul who wears her heart proudly on her sleeve, she enjoys writing and speaking on topics that merge her professional knowledge and personal experience. She lives in Connecticut with her husband and two young boys and has a baby girl on the way! We talk about why a lot of women struggle with perfectionism and its related p-word cousins (people-pleasing, performing, and pride), how we can let go of what we want for what God has for us, and practical ways to be authentic in our daily lives. Some of the things we mention include: Tell Me More by Kelly Corrigan* The Social Dilemma on Netflix You can connect with Nicole here: nicolezasowski.com Instagram @nicolezasowski From Lost to Found* *Affiliate Link
46:58
November 4, 2020
Episode 12: Creating a Family Culture
Today I’m talking with my friend, Kimberly Amici. Kimberly is the host of The Build Your Best Family Podcast and is a writer, speaker and Family Culture Coach. She’s the mom of three children, ages 13, 15 and 17. We talk about what it means to create a family culture, how culture is different than atmosphere, and how knowing your why allows you to make day-to-day decisions with courage and confidence.  Some of the things we mention include: Our Pact Psych Family Matters Gortimer Gibbons' Life on Normal Street The Bible Recap App You can connect with Kimberly here: kimberlyamici.com buildyourbestfamily.com Instagram: @kimberlyamici and @buildyourbestfamily The Build Your Best Family Podcast
47:13
October 21, 2020
Episode 11: Be Where Your Feet Are
In this episode, I'm chatting with my friend Alison Wallwork. Allison is a wife, mom, author, speaker, and encourager. She has been in ministry for more than 15 years and she and her husband are the campus pastors of Dream City Church in Scottsdale, Arizona. She is the mom of four energetic boys, who range in age from 7-13.   We chat about some of the best advice Alison received from a mentor, "Be Where Your Feet Are." You can connect with Alison on her website and on Instagram @alison_wallwork. Some of the resources we mention include: Francine Rivers Karen Kingsbury Mama Bear Apologetics by Hillary Morgan Ferrer "Yes Song" by KB You can find Alison's books here: Living Freedom: Losing a Spiritual Ten Pounds* #Momlife Devotional Study: An Invitation to Catch Your Breath* *Affiliate Link
50:32
October 7, 2020
Episode 10: Q&A With Me
In this episode, I'm answering your questions about motherhood, marriage, the podcast, and the pressure of perfectionism. Listen in for my answers to these questions: What is the most challenging thing as a parent? What advice would you give to a mom earlier in her motherhood journey? Is there anything you changed your opinion or approach on along the way? What is your best encouragement to give a friend who wrestles with perfection pressure? How do you ask your non-parent friends for help? (We love to do so!) How do you get your pre-teen to stop acting like one? What's the most challenging thing you've been through as a wife and how did you get through it? What tips do you have for strengthening and prioritizing your marriage while parenting? How do you stay connected to community in times of COVID? How do you choose who you'd like to speak with on podcasts? Are you topic-driven? How do you stay positive in the most negative situations? Some of the resources I mention include: Liz Taylor Creative The Five Love Languages* by Dr. Gary Chapman Anatomy of the Soul* by Dr. Curt Thompson Voxer Marco Polo When God Rescripts Your Life* by Jaci Velasquez Standing Strong* by Alli Worthington "Good Thing" by Spencer Crandall MOPS International The Bible verses I mention in this episode include: 2 Corinthians 12:8-10 Romans 8:28 Philippians 4:6 James 1:2-5 As always, you can connect with me on Instagram @andreafortenberry or at andreafortenberry.com  *Affiliate Link
01:04:08
September 23, 2020
E9: Standing Strong
In this episode, I'm chatting with my friend, Alli Worthington. Alli is the author of four amazing books, a speaker, and a business coach. She is the mom of five boys and she and her family live outside of Nashville, Tennessee. I love being part of Alli’s intern team, I learn so much from her, I’m sure you will too! We talk about how to stand strong as a mom, our desire for control, where our true identity lies, self-care, and more!  Some of the things we mention in this episode include: Standing Strong* Breaking Busy* Fierce Faith* The Year of Living Happy* The Hamilton Soundtrack You can connect with Alli through: alliworthington.com Instagram @alliworthington The Alli Worthington Show Text Superpower to 55444 to take a fun quiz to find out your secret superpower! When you pre-order Standing Strong*, you'll receive some amazing free bonuses, including a six-week Bible study and a masterclass on finding your calling and living with confidence.  *Affiliate Link
44:46
September 9, 2020
E8: Enjoy Every Minute, Really?
Today I'm chatting with my friend, Becky Baudouin. Becky is a speaker and the author of a brand-new book called Enjoy Every Minute and Other Ridiculous Things We Say to Moms. She is the mom of three daughters, ages 21, 19 and 15. She and her family live outside of Chicago, IL. We talk about how to receive and give mom advice, mom guilt, and how God uses our parenting mistakes for good. Some of the things we mention include: Fledge: Launching Your Kids Without Losing Your Mind* by Brenda Yoder Counter-Cultural Parenting* by Lee Nienhuis Human(Kind)* by Ashlee Eiland Survivor Connect with Becky through: Her website: beckybaudouin.com Instagram: @beckybaudouin Her book: Enjoy Every Minute and Other Ridiculous Things We Say to Moms* Would you please take a quick minute to subscribe, rate and review The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering in Apple Podcasts? It would mean so much to me and will help other moms be able to find the podcast. Also, in a few weeks I'll be doing a special Q&A Episode and I need your questions! Send me a direct message over on Instagram @andreafortenberry.  *Affiliate Link
44:20
August 26, 2020
Episode 7: Remembering God's Faithfulness
Today I’m talking with my friend, writer, and speaker, Ginger Ciminello. Ginger is the mom of two girls, a second grader and a preschooler. I’m so grateful to be her friend and have her on the podcast. We talk about how to remember God's faithfulness, how false stories put us in bondage, and practical ways we can intentionally remember God's faithfulness in our lives. Some of the things we mention include: EMDR  The Next Right Thing Podcast with Emily P. Freeman Expositional Preaching: How We Speak God's Word Today* by David R. Helm Prince Caspian* by C.S. Lewis Vintage by Shane & Shane Connect with Ginger through: Her website: gingerciminello.com Facebook: @gingercim Instagram @gingercim Her book, Forget the Corsage: Life Starts Now* *Affiliate Link
49:56
August 12, 2020
Episode 6: How to Keep Dreaming
In this episode, I'm chatting with my friend, Jessica Carey, about how to keep dreaming as a mom.  We also discussed how to persevere, praise, and give yourself grace as a mom.  Some of the things we mention include: Waymaker Risen Motherhood: Gospel Hope for Everyday Moments* by Emily Jensen and Laura Wifler Fervent* by Priscilla Shirer The Armor of God* by Priscilla Shirer To connect with Jess, you can find her: On Instagram @jess_careyaz On her website: jessicacarey.com After we stopped recording, Jess reminded me of some awesome FREE resources on her website about dreaming. Click here to access. *Affiliate Link
50:36
July 29, 2020
Episode 5: How to Have Peace During a Pandemic
Today I’m talking about how to have peace through a pandemic. Life has certainly been interesting since March and things are constantly changing, but we can still have peace! Some of the things I mention in today's episode include: My 2016 Blog Post: Either Way Psalm 146:1-2 Psalm 52:9 Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows* by J.K. Rowling The Winding Ways Quilt* by Jennifer Chiaverini Family Reunion Family Matters My Faith and Summer Playlists on my Pinterest Board Beach Body on Demand Proverbs 19:21 James 4:13-15 2 Corinthians 5:7 My Instagram Feed *Affiliate Link
32:21
July 15, 2020
Episode 4: How to Parent on Purpose
In this episode, I'm chatting with my friend, Amy Carney, about how to parent on purpose, not for perfection. Amy is the mom of five teenagers and is a speaker and the author of Parent on Purpose.*  Some resources we mention in our conversation: Amy's Summer of Significance 2020 Pack (It's just $9!) Have More Fun by Mandy Arioto* To connect with Amy, you can find her on Instagram @amylcarney and on her website amycarney.com.  *Affiliate Link
44:49
July 1, 2020
Episode 3: Strategies for a Neat and Tidy Space
In this episode, I interview my friend, Melissa Stutz. Melissa is the owner of The Neat and Tidy Space, a professional organizing business. We talk about:  Two common ways perfectionist moms approach cleaning and organizing and helpful strategies for both  How to ask for help and accept it  How to create practices  How to stay focused  The 30-Minute Hustle  Melissa's recommendations include:  Harry Potter and The Sorcerer's Stone*  Harry Potter and The Order of The Phoenix*  Jesus Calling*  The Year of Living Happy*  To connect with Melissa, head to her website and follow her on Instagram and Facebook: @theneatandtidyspace.   *Affiliate Links
48:54
June 17, 2020
Episode 2: Choosing Faith Over Fear as a Mom
In this episode, I interview my mom, Brenda Fuentes. We talk about: What it was like to raise a perfectionist How she chose faith over fear as a mom How we can trust God with our kids and our mistakes How to make confident choices for your family Great things she recommends include: "Rising Strong" by Brene Brown* To connect with Brenda, head to the I Am Huruma College Fund website or Facebook page.  Hope you enjoyed this episode! Be sure to subscribe, rate, and review wherever you're listening.  xoxo, Andrea *Affiliate Link
33:29
June 3, 2020
Episode 1: Welcome to The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering
Welcome to The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! In this first episode, I share: My story with perfectionism and why I started the podcast What we'll talk about in future episodes What God is teaching me in this season I also shared some recommendations: "Rejection Proof" by Jia Jang* The Great British Baking Show Spend time with your kids, but also spend time away on you. Spend time in God's Word *Affiliate Link
19:42
May 15, 2020