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The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering

The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering

By Andrea Fortenberry
This is a podcast is about finding freedom from perfectionism to show up for the life God has for you. Mom life is messy, unpredictable and just plain hard sometimes, but isn’t it also amazing? I believe God uses it all to grow us into the women He wants us to be.
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E39: Leaving a Legacy of Faith
Welcome to Episode 39 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with Kathy Howard. Kathy is a treasure hunter. She hunts for the creamiest chocolate and richest coffee. She searches for cherished stories of faith that still impact hearts. And, she digs deep into God’s Word, mining His eternal truths for herself and to share with others. She is the author of 10 books, including the Deep Rooted devotional series and her latest book, Heirloom: Living and Leaving a Legacy of Faith (October 2021).  We talk about her what is means to leave a spiritual legacy and what the Bible has to say about it. Kathy gives practical tips on how busy moms can incorporate faith for their family into everyday life and during the holiday season.  In this episode we mention: Kathy's latest book: Heirloom: Living and Leaving a Legacy of Faith Deuteronomy 6 Psalm 78  Episode 7 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering with Ginger Ciminello Operation Christmas Child The World and Everything In It Podcast You can connect with Kathy via: Instagram: @kathyhhoward Facebook: @kathyhowardunshakeablefaith Her Website:
November 19, 2021
E38: The Perfectionist's Guide to the Holidays
In today's episode, I'm sharing my best strategies for not just surviving the holidays but enjoying them along the way. Some of the resources I mention include: MOPS Blog: Thrifty Christmas Gifts Mom Personality Quiz My Instagram Profile: @andreafortenberry Chains, Ashes, and Forge by Laura Halse Anderson* The Hard Good by Lisa Whittle* "Joyful" by Dante Bowe The Grove Collaborative: Use this referral link to receive a free $35 gift basket with your first order.  *Affiliate Link
November 3, 2021
E37: Messy Hope
Welcome to Episode 37 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with Lori Wildenberg. Lori is a friend of mine I met through Called Creatives. Her passion is helping families build connections that last a lifetime. She is a licensed parent-family educator, speaker and author of six parenting books. Her most recent title is called Messy Hope: Help Your Child Overcome Anxiety, Depression or Suicidal Ideation.* She and her husband have four adult children, three bonus in-laws and three grandchildren. We talk about why we need to impart our kids with hope, how to help our kids who are struggling, Hope Busters, and practical ways to infuse hope into our homes.  Some of the resources we mention include: Love Does* by Bob Goff Everybody Always* by Bob Goff All That Is Secret* by Patricia Raybon You can connect with Lori via: Her website: Instagram: @loriwildenberg Instagram: @momstogether Facebook: @momstogether *Affiliate Link
October 22, 2021
E36: How to Live Generously
Welcome to Episode 36 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with Leah Wacek. Leah is a teacher, wife and mom of four who lives in Minnesota. Leah and I met on Instagram, where a friend of mine, Sarah Wood (who was on Episode 34 of the podcast) shared about something she won from Leah’s account Leah is here today to talk about how to live a generous life. Some of the resources we mention include: Feed My Starving Children Leigh's Blankies/Leigh's Mission The Forest of Vanishing Stars by Kristin Harmel* Seinfeld You can connect with Leah on: Her website and blog: A Generous Life Instagram:
October 8, 2021
E35: Living with Limits
Today I’m talking with my friend, Dena Dyer. Dena loves Jesus, her family, all things literary, coffee, and British television. She’s an author of ten books and many articles, a professional speaker, and a book proposal coach who’s been married to her hubby Carey for 26 wonderful years. They have two young adult sons. She spends too much time online or in the fast food drive-through--but she and the Lord are working on it. We talk about how Dena has navigated motherhood and chronic illness. She tells us how she had to let go of perfectionism early on and how accepting her limitations allowed her to focus on what truly matters.  Some of the resources we mention include: MOPS Jenn Fulwiler The Chosen The Repair Shop Brit Box Soap and Glory Heel Genius Foot Cream Soap and Glory Hand Food KLOVE Air1 Dena's Grace for the Race: Devotions for Busy Moms Dena's Free Bible Study: Weary Women of the Bible You can connect with Dena on: Instagram: @denadyer Facebook: @denadyerauthor Her website:
September 22, 2021
E34: How to Disciple Our Kids
Welcome to Episode 34 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with my amazing friend, Sarah Wood. Sarah is a wife, mom, sister and friend, living on the sunny east coast of Florida. She is the Editor in Chief at Mom Mentor, and fiercely believes in the purpose and power of encouraging Moms in their everyday lives. An evangelist at heart, she loves to blaze new creative paths to share the love and saving grace of Jesus. In this episode, we talk about what discipleship is and why it's important for us and our kids. Sarah shares her wisdom and experience of how she learned how to disciple her three children. She gives practical tips and encouragement for moms of every step in their faith journey.  Some of the resources we mention include: Mama Bear Apologetics* by Hillary Morgan Ferrer Parenting* by Paul David Tripp The Hard Good* by Lisa Whittle Turner and Hooch on Disney+ Music by Mack Brock, Brandon Lake, and Vertical Worship You can connect with Sarah through: Instagram @sarahwoodwrites Mom Mentor Instagram @mommentor  *Affiliate Link
September 8, 2021
E33: Strong Mommas
Welcome to Episode 33 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with Megan Dahlman. Megan Dahlman is a certified trainer and nutrition coach whose passion is helping moms discover what it feels like to thrive in their God-given bodies. She knows what it feels like to struggle and have negative feelings about your body, and she knows exactly how to help you move forward. Megan has the unique ability to graciously lead moms toward being fit, strong, and healthy, while staying focused on what truly matters. Through her immensely popular podcast, The Strong Mommas Podcast, and online training programs and courses, she is committed to coaching women along a grace-filled journey so they can achieve lasting strength and health. We talk about some of the common issues she sees moms face with health, true indications of health, and how to break unhealthy cycles and create a legacy of health and a new narrative for our families. Some of the resources we mention include: Megan's Jumpstart 30 Program*: Registration closes September 2nd. The program begins September 6th.  Essentialism by Greg McKewon The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer* Phil Wickham's New Worship Album: Hymn of Heaven Megan's Body Type Quiz You can connect with Megan through: The Strong Mommas Podcast Instagram @strong_mommas
August 25, 2021
E32: Momming to Your Strengths
Welcome to Episode 32 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! In the first half of today’s episode, I’m sharing a recording of a talk I gave for my MOPS group about momming to our strengths. Sometimes it’s so easy for us to look around at other moms and think they’ve got this mom gig figured out. We compare their strengths to our weaknesses and it’s never a fair comparison. But what if we changed our mindset and mommed to the unique strengths God has given us? I talk all about how to do that in this episode. Here are links to the resources I mention: StrengthsFinder* 16 Personalities The Enneagram A Million Little Ways by Emily P. Freeman* The Next Right Thing Podcast The Global Leadership Summit The Craig Groeschel Leadership Podcast Julie and Julia Lactose Defense Probiotics* *Affiliate Link
August 11, 2021
E31: Navigating Mental Health Challenges
Welcome to Episode 31 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with Jodi Kinasewitz.  Jodi lives in Mason, Ohio, with her husband of almost 20 years, Matt, and their four children. Jodi is a woman of many talents: She is an elementary level Reading specialist and a certified yoga instructor. She is passionate about sharing her struggles with, and victory over, seasons of mental health battles. Jodi also loves leading Christian inspired yoga classes, reading, and writing. She has been published by Milk & Honey Books in the Milk & Honey Women Devotional Journal*. She enjoys traveling with her family, and she spends any time she can outdoors. We talk about how Jodi navigated the mental health challenges of anxiety and depression. She shares her story and how God used that time to teach her many things. She shares strategies that have helped her and offers encouragement for moms also facing these challenges.  Some of the resources we mention include: Called Creatives*  He Chose the Nails by Max Lucado* Get Your Life Back by John Eldredge* The Pause App Thieves Household Cleaner You can connect with Jodi on: Instagram @jkinasewitz Her website *Affiliate Link
July 28, 2021
E30: Good Morning, Mommy
Today's episode is short and sweet. I am sharing a devotion I wrote eight years ago called, Good Morning, Mommy. I hope it encourages you in the midst of your busy summer days. 
July 18, 2021
E29: Letting God Be Enough
Welcome to Episode 29 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! Today I'm talking with my amazing friend, Erica Wiggenhorn. Erica is the author of several in-depth Bible studies including Unexplainable Jesus: Rediscovering the God You Thought You Knew.* Her newest book Letting God Be Enough is now available for pre-order at Erica loves to teach God’s Word through conferences, seminars and retreats, and around her own kitchen table. She lives in Phoenix with her husband and two children. For more information about Erica’s Bible studies and writing/speaking ministry, visit We talk about Erica's newest book, imposter syndrome, how to tell when we're striving and much more. A few of the resources we mention include: Erica's free e-books, including 50 Days to Feel Closer to God and A Busy Woman's Guide to Praying for Friends and Family The Chosen Stitch Fix* You can find Erica on: Her Website: Instagram @ericawiggenhorn You can pre-order Erica's latest book, Letting God Be Enough here. She has some great pre-order incentives if you order early. The book releases September 7, 2021.  *Affiliate Link **Erica's Affiliate Link
June 30, 2021
E28: Trusting God's Timing
Welcome to Episode 28 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with the amazing Noelle Rhodes.  Noelle is a writer, podcaster and comedian who will win you with her bold, Jersey style and irresistible humor, all the while pointing you to Jesus. She is the host of the Friending Show, a podcast that helps women have meaningful female friendships in this modern age. Noelle is also a comedic performer who enjoys creating sketches for the internet, using humor to talk about the Bible. When she isn't podcasting and writing scripts, Noelle is living life in New Jersey, eating bagels with her two awesome children and husband. We talked about how she got into comedy, being a late bloomer, and trusting God's timing. It was such a great conversation! A few of the resources we mention include: The Chosen Amazon Prime Voxer Morning Pages Journal* You can find Noelle on: Instagram @yourfriendnoelle Tik Tok @noellephrhodes Her Podcast: Friending  Her website: *Affiliate Link
June 16, 2021
E27: Why You Need to Laugh
Welcome to Episode 27 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with the hilarious Jason Earls. If you tuned in for my Restore: Soul Care for Moms conference last year, you’ve already had the pleasure of meeting him. But if not, here’s a little about Jason. This comedian from Virginia’s Eastern Seaboard doesn’t live to make you laugh; he makes you laugh to help you live. As a husband and the father of six children, Jason’s got a thing or two to say about how to navigate life. Jason has performed throughout the country and abroad, and when he’s not on stage, he’s most likely with his wife, Terri, at one of their amazing kid’s ridiculous sports events in his home city of Dallas, TX. We had an amazing conversation about Jason's new comedy special, why we all need to laugh and how to make time to do it, where Jason gets his comedy ideas, and a lot about people pleasing. I really think you'll enjoy our conversation! Resources we mention include: Jason's new comedy special: Seven Jokes I Couldn't Tell at Church The Celebration of Discipline by Richard Foster* Rocket Fuel by Gino Wickman and Marc C. Winters* Dark Sky Weather App You can connect with Jason through: His new comedy special: Seven Jokes I Couldn't Tell at Church His website: Instagram: @jasonearls Facebook: @jasonearlscomedy *Affiliate Link
June 2, 2021
E26: Juggling All The Things
Welcome to Episode 26 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with my friend, Alana Dawson. Alana is a podcast editor, producer, & coach. She is the host of The Podcasting Party and previously was the creator and co-host of The Mom Wants More Podcast. Alana is a military spouse, mama to two daughters & one French Bulldog, and a coffee fanatic. When she’s not podcasting you can find her sipping strong, hot coffee, reading a good book, or dancing in the kitchen. We talk about how Alana juggles all the things: being a military spouse, solo parenting, podcasting, and running her own business. She gives great insight on how to thrive, not just survive the busy years of mothering. She gives great advice on how to pursue your creative calling in the midst of motherhood.  Some of the resources we mention include: Emily P. Freeman The Best Yes by Lysa TerKeurst* Book of the Month Club** Emily Henry’s People We Meet on Vacation* The Bible Recap with Tara Leigh-Cobble Shelly Miller’s Rhythms of Rest* You can connect with Alana on: Instagram @alanapdawson The Podcasting Party Podcast The Mom Wants More Podcast *Affiliate Link **Alana’s Referral Link
May 19, 2021
E25: Five Things I Know About Motherhood
Welcome to today’s episode! In honor of Mother’s Day this weekend, I’m sharing five things I know about motherhood. I hope you enjoy it! I’m not going to give recommendations today at the end of the episode, because I have some other things to share: Here they are: · On May 15th, The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering turns one year old! Thank you so much for listening in, it means the world to me that you spend time with me during your month. · Be sure you’re following me on Instagram @andreafortenberry because starting on May 15th, we’re having some fun birthday giveaways! · I have a brand new offering on my website,, a mom personality quiz! Take it and let me know what you think.
May 5, 2021
E24: The Burden of Better
Welcome to Episode 24 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with Heather Creekmore. Heather is a pastor’s wife, a homeschooling mom of four, a failed Netflix baker (season 1, episode 1 of Nailed It!), an author, podcaster, and speaker. Most of all, she’s a woman who loves Jesus but knows what it feels like to struggle with body image and comparison. Her passion is to see Christian women set free from the all-consuming worry over the scale, mirror, or lure of comparison so they are free to pursue God’s purpose for their lives. We talk about Heather's story with body image and comparison, and why women struggle with these issues. She gives practical steps we can take to be at peace with the body God gave us. Some resources we mention include:  Heather's books: Compared to Who? and The Burden of Better* The Chosen TV Series Heather's Free Body Awareness Quiz and 30 Minute Prayer Walk You can connect with Heather through: Her website: Instagram: @comparedtowho Her Podcast: Compared to Who *Affiliate Link
April 21, 2021
E23: I Am Not
Welcome to Episode 23 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with Simi John. Simi is a speaker, author and a full time physical therapist. She has been married to her best friend Jayson John for 10 years and they have two beautiful children. Currently she lives in Oklahoma and serves with her husband who is the lead pastor of New Life Bible Church in Norman.  Her calling is to the local church and her passion is to empower women to live in the abundant life Jesus offers them. Last year Simi released her first devotional book I Am Not: Break Free From Stereotypes and Become the Woman God Made You to Be.* We talk about how to celebrate who we are, how to be authentic, how to fight burn out, and more!  Some of the resources we mention include: Enemies of the Heart by Andy Stanley* 2 Corinthians 1:3-5 Simi's Free Gift for Mamas Stanley Tucci: Searching for Italy  You can connect with Simi: On Instagram: @simijohn On her website: *Affiliate Link
April 7, 2021
E22: The Enneagram and Perfectionism
Welcome to Episode 22 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with my friend, Amy Wicks. Amy is a faith-based Enneagram Coach, workshop creator and speaker who lives in Kansas City with her family. She is the voice of the weekly Simply Wholehearted Podcast and has co-authored The Unseen Way, a book study created for Unseen: The Gift of Being Hidden in a World that Loves to be Noticed* (Sara Hagerty, Zondervan, 2017).  We talk about what the Enneagram is, how it can be helpful in our lives, and how each type has its own unique struggle with perfectionism.  Resources we mention include: The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile* Simply Wholehearted Episode 191: The Orphan Mindset Simply Wholehearted Episode 37: Should Christians Use the Enneagram The Enneagram Guide for Moms Enola Holmes on Netflix "Forever Amen" by Steffany Gretzinger You can connect with Amy on: Her website: Instagram: @simplywholehearted Clubhouse: @simplywhole *Affiliate Link
March 24, 2021
E21: Ordinary to Extraordinary
Today I’m talking with my friend, Sherri Crandall, who is also my boss at MOPS International. Sherri Crandall is the Vice President of Global Ministries and Leadership Experience for MOPS. She is also a blogger and speaker for women’s events where she shares her passion for encouraging women to live life to the fullest. Sherri loves to garden, read historical fiction, play tennis and most of all, hang out with family and friends in the beautiful Rocky Mountains. Sherri has been married for 34 years and has four young adult children. We talk about how to trust God with our ordinary lives, how to be content, and how it's sometimes a good thing when things don't work out the way we planned.  Some of the things we mention include: "Good Thing" by Spencer Crandall Truths I Never Told You by Kelly Rimmer* That Sounds Fun* by Annie F. Downs and That Sounds Fun Podcast Episode with Stacey Morgan The Post-Quarantine Church by Thom S. Rainer* Psalms in The Message* translation The Alli Worthington Show Jo Saxton's Podcast The Andy Stanley Leadership Podcast The Open Door Sisterhood You can connect with Sherri on Instagram @sherricrandall or her website, *Affiliate Link
March 10, 2021
E20: Rest for Weary Moms
Welcome to Episode 20 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking all about rest for the weary mom. Do you wish you could stop your hectic schedule? Do you need time to refresh but can’t figure out how to make it possible? I’d love to share with you how to experience rest and peace during your busy week through practicing Sabbath rest. I talk about five reasons we should observe Sabbath rest: To Replicate: Genesis 2:2-3 To Remember God and His Commandments: Exodus 20:8 To Revere God: 1 Chronicles 16:29 To Rest in His Presence, Physically and Mentally: Psalm 46:10 To Renew Our Minds: Romans 12:2 I also give seven practical tips on how to incorporate Sabbath rest into our lives: Don't Be Legalistic Mom Guilt Not Allowed! Pick a Day/Time of the Week That Works for You Use a Sundown to Sundown Practice Everybody Rests on Sunday Keep Things Simple Do What Refreshes You Matthew 11:28-30: The Message “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” Recommendations: Episode 7: Remembering God's Faithfulness with Ginger Ciminello Strengthening the Soul of Your Leadership by Ruth Haley Barton* The Mandalorian Last Man Standing I Dream of You - Volume 3 by JJ Heller *Affiliate Link
February 24, 2021
E19: Find Your People
Welcome to Episode 19 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with my friend and MOPS teammate, Stacey Morgan. Stacey is on staff with MOPS International as an Executive Leadership Coach and is a frequent writer for MOPS. She lives in Friendswood, Texas and has four children, ranging from high school to elementary school, and is married to Drew, a NASA astronaut. Her newest project is writing a book for Tyndale Publishing called The Astronaut’s Wife, which will be released next year. We talk about how to make female friendships as an adult and why we need them. You’ll love hearing Stacey’s story and how she learned to stop waiting for friends to come to her and how instead, she stepped out to find her people.  Some of the things we mention include: The Amazing Race Brene Brown’s Podcast: Unlocking Us Jock Jams Lisa Whittle’s Jesus Over Everything* Charles Stanley’s Success God’s Way* You can connect with Stacey on Instagram at @staceymorgan2000 or her website *Affiliate Link
February 10, 2021
E18: Fall in Love with God's Word
Today I’m talking with author and speaker, Brittany Ann. She is the owner of, where she challenges, encourages, and  equips Christian women to be "all in" in faith and family.  Brittany is married and has three adorably energetic little ones. She is about to release a book called Fall in Love with God’s Word: Practical Strategies for Busy Women* on February 1st. We talk about Brittany Ann's story of reading the Bible, five misconceptions we have when it comes to reading the Bible, how busy moms can make time in their busy schedule to be in God's Word, and more. A few of the resources we mention include: Get Your Life Back by John Eldredge* Fall in Love with God’s Word: Practical Strategies for Busy Women* You can connect with Brittany Ann through and *Affiliate Link
January 27, 2021
E17: Daring to Hope
Welcome to Episode 17 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Happy New Year! It’s great to be back with you. Today I'm talking about daring to hope, even as we navigate difficult times. Just a quick note that when I say Tuesday several times in the episode, I actually meant Wednesday of last week. Just got my days a little mixed up! Some of the things I mention include: Romans 15:13 NIV 1984: “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Lamentations 3:20-24 NLT: “I will never forget this awful time, as I grieve over my loss. Yet I still dare to hope when I remember this: The faithful love of the Lord never ends! His mercies never cease. Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh every morning. I say to myself, “The Lord is my inheritance; therefore I will hope in him.” James 1:2-5 NIV: "Consider it pure joy, y brothers and sister, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you."  The Little House Books* by Laura Ingalls Wilder "Last Man Standing" Our Daily Bread Ministries "Promises Never Fail" by Bethel Music and Emmy Rose "Hope Has a Name" by River Valley Worship *Affiliate Link
January 13, 2021
Episode 16: Quieting the Shout of Should
Welcome to Episode 16 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with author and speaker, Crystal Stine. Crystal loves encouraging women to live the best life God has designed for them. She is the author of two books, Holy Hustle: Embracing a Work-Hard, Rest-Well Life* and her most recent book, Quieting the Shout of Should: How a Life of Less Can Lead to More*. She is also releasing The Holy Hustle Planner* next month. We talk about some common "shoulds" moms struggle with both now and during the holidays, how to quiet those voices, creativity, and much more.  You can connect with Crystal here: Instagram: @crystalstine Crystal has graciously offered to giveaway a signed copy of Quieting the Shout of Should: How a Life of Less Can Lead to More*! To enter, take a screenshot of this podcast episode while you're listening and tag us on social media: @crystalstine and @andreafortenberry. *Affiliate Link
December 16, 2020
E15: Start Simplifying
Welcome to Episode 15 of The Perfectionist’s Guide to Mothering! Today I’m talking with Brooke French. Brooke is a nurse, writer, and an encourager to moms. She is a wife and mom to two teenagers and lives in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina. Brooke has a passion for empowering moms to simplify, slow down, and find joy in their everyday life.  We talk about: how she became passionate about simplifying, practical tips for the holidays and year round, and the importance of rest.  Some of the things we mentioned include: Brooke's Free Resources: 20 Simple Ways to Restore Your Soul, Simplify Meal Planning, 4 Steps to Journaling and More Virgin River The Crown Burn Out: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle* You can connect with Brooke here: Instagram: @brookefrench Facebook: @brookeafrench *Affiliate Link
December 2, 2020
E14: Choosing Joy
Today I share how we can choose joy this holiday season. I discuss my definition of joy, three joy stealers, and give antidotes for each. While choosing joy this holiday season may not come easy because of the pandemic and other circumstances, it’s still possible! Having a flexible attitude, determined to choose joy no matter what happens, is the best way to handle the holidays. I hope you have great ones, my friends! Some of the other things I mention in this episode include:  The Little House Series* The Great British Baking Show The Crown Chris Tomlin and Friends *Affiliate Link
November 18, 2020
Episode 13: From Lost to Found
Today I’m talking with my friend, Nicole Zasowski. Nicole is a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of From Lost to Found: Giving Up What You Think You Want for What Will Set You Free.* As an old soul who wears her heart proudly on her sleeve, she enjoys writing and speaking on topics that merge her professional knowledge and personal experience. She lives in Connecticut with her husband and two young boys and has a baby girl on the way! We talk about why a lot of women struggle with perfectionism and its related p-word cousins (people-pleasing, performing, and pride), how we can let go of what we want for what God has for us, and practical ways to be authentic in our daily lives. Some of the things we mention include: Tell Me More by Kelly Corrigan* The Social Dilemma on Netflix You can connect with Nicole here: Instagram @nicolezasowski From Lost to Found* *Affiliate Link
November 4, 2020
Episode 12: Creating a Family Culture
Today I’m talking with my friend, Kimberly Amici. Kimberly is the host of The Build Your Best Family Podcast and is a writer, speaker and Family Culture Coach. She’s the mom of three children, ages 13, 15 and 17. We talk about what it means to create a family culture, how culture is different than atmosphere, and how knowing your why allows you to make day-to-day decisions with courage and confidence.  Some of the things we mention include: Our Pact Psych Family Matters Gortimer Gibbons' Life on Normal Street The Bible Recap App You can connect with Kimberly here: Instagram: @kimberlyamici and @buildyourbestfamily The Build Your Best Family Podcast
October 21, 2020
Episode 11: Be Where Your Feet Are
In this episode, I'm chatting with my friend Alison Wallwork. Allison is a wife, mom, author, speaker, and encourager. She has been in ministry for more than 15 years and she and her husband are the campus pastors of Dream City Church in Scottsdale, Arizona. She is the mom of four energetic boys, who range in age from 7-13.   We chat about some of the best advice Alison received from a mentor, "Be Where Your Feet Are." You can connect with Alison on her website and on Instagram @alison_wallwork. Some of the resources we mention include: Francine Rivers Karen Kingsbury Mama Bear Apologetics by Hillary Morgan Ferrer "Yes Song" by KB You can find Alison's books here: Living Freedom: Losing a Spiritual Ten Pounds* #Momlife Devotional Study: An Invitation to Catch Your Breath* *Affiliate Link
October 7, 2020
Episode 10: Q&A With Me
In this episode, I'm answering your questions about motherhood, marriage, the podcast, and the pressure of perfectionism. Listen in for my answers to these questions: What is the most challenging thing as a parent? What advice would you give to a mom earlier in her motherhood journey? Is there anything you changed your opinion or approach on along the way? What is your best encouragement to give a friend who wrestles with perfection pressure? How do you ask your non-parent friends for help? (We love to do so!) How do you get your pre-teen to stop acting like one? What's the most challenging thing you've been through as a wife and how did you get through it? What tips do you have for strengthening and prioritizing your marriage while parenting? How do you stay connected to community in times of COVID? How do you choose who you'd like to speak with on podcasts? Are you topic-driven? How do you stay positive in the most negative situations? Some of the resources I mention include: Liz Taylor Creative The Five Love Languages* by Dr. Gary Chapman Anatomy of the Soul* by Dr. Curt Thompson Voxer Marco Polo When God Rescripts Your Life* by Jaci Velasquez Standing Strong* by Alli Worthington "Good Thing" by Spencer Crandall MOPS International The Bible verses I mention in this episode include: 2 Corinthians 12:8-10 Romans 8:28 Philippians 4:6 James 1:2-5 As always, you can connect with me on Instagram @andreafortenberry or at  *Affiliate Link
September 23, 2020
E9: Standing Strong
In this episode, I'm chatting with my friend, Alli Worthington. Alli is the author of four amazing books, a speaker, and a business coach. She is the mom of five boys and she and her family live outside of Nashville, Tennessee. I love being part of Alli’s intern team, I learn so much from her, I’m sure you will too! We talk about how to stand strong as a mom, our desire for control, where our true identity lies, self-care, and more!  Some of the things we mention in this episode include: Standing Strong* Breaking Busy* Fierce Faith* The Year of Living Happy* The Hamilton Soundtrack You can connect with Alli through: Instagram @alliworthington The Alli Worthington Show Text Superpower to 55444 to take a fun quiz to find out your secret superpower! When you pre-order Standing Strong*, you'll receive some amazing free bonuses, including a six-week Bible study and a masterclass on finding your calling and living with confidence.  *Affiliate Link
September 9, 2020
E8: Enjoy Every Minute, Really?
Today I'm chatting with my friend, Becky Baudouin. Becky is a speaker and the author of a brand-new book called Enjoy Every Minute and Other Ridiculous Things We Say to Moms. She is the mom of three daughters, ages 21, 19 and 15. She and her family live outside of Chicago, IL. We talk about how to receive and give mom advice, mom guilt, and how God uses our parenting mistakes for good. Some of the things we mention include: Fledge: Launching Your Kids Without Losing Your Mind* by Brenda Yoder Counter-Cultural Parenting* by Lee Nienhuis Human(Kind)* by Ashlee Eiland Survivor Connect with Becky through: Her website: Instagram: @beckybaudouin Her book: Enjoy Every Minute and Other Ridiculous Things We Say to Moms* Would you please take a quick minute to subscribe, rate and review The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering in Apple Podcasts? It would mean so much to me and will help other moms be able to find the podcast. Also, in a few weeks I'll be doing a special Q&A Episode and I need your questions! Send me a direct message over on Instagram @andreafortenberry.  *Affiliate Link
August 26, 2020
Episode 7: Remembering God's Faithfulness
Today I’m talking with my friend, writer, and speaker, Ginger Ciminello. Ginger is the mom of two girls, a second grader and a preschooler. I’m so grateful to be her friend and have her on the podcast. We talk about how to remember God's faithfulness, how false stories put us in bondage, and practical ways we can intentionally remember God's faithfulness in our lives. Some of the things we mention include: EMDR  The Next Right Thing Podcast with Emily P. Freeman Expositional Preaching: How We Speak God's Word Today* by David R. Helm Prince Caspian* by C.S. Lewis Vintage by Shane & Shane Connect with Ginger through: Her website: Facebook: @gingercim Instagram @gingercim Her book, Forget the Corsage: Life Starts Now* *Affiliate Link
August 12, 2020
Episode 6: How to Keep Dreaming
In this episode, I'm chatting with my friend, Jessica Carey, about how to keep dreaming as a mom.  We also discussed how to persevere, praise, and give yourself grace as a mom.  Some of the things we mention include: Waymaker Risen Motherhood: Gospel Hope for Everyday Moments* by Emily Jensen and Laura Wifler Fervent* by Priscilla Shirer The Armor of God* by Priscilla Shirer To connect with Jess, you can find her: On Instagram @jess_careyaz On her website: After we stopped recording, Jess reminded me of some awesome FREE resources on her website about dreaming. Click here to access. *Affiliate Link
July 29, 2020
Episode 5: How to Have Peace During a Pandemic
Today I’m talking about how to have peace through a pandemic. Life has certainly been interesting since March and things are constantly changing, but we can still have peace! Some of the things I mention in today's episode include: My 2016 Blog Post: Either Way Psalm 146:1-2 Psalm 52:9 Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows* by J.K. Rowling The Winding Ways Quilt* by Jennifer Chiaverini Family Reunion Family Matters My Faith and Summer Playlists on my Pinterest Board Beach Body on Demand Proverbs 19:21 James 4:13-15 2 Corinthians 5:7 My Instagram Feed *Affiliate Link
July 15, 2020
Episode 4: How to Parent on Purpose
In this episode, I'm chatting with my friend, Amy Carney, about how to parent on purpose, not for perfection. Amy is the mom of five teenagers and is a speaker and the author of Parent on Purpose.*  Some resources we mention in our conversation: Amy's Summer of Significance 2020 Pack (It's just $9!) Have More Fun by Mandy Arioto* To connect with Amy, you can find her on Instagram @amylcarney and on her website  *Affiliate Link
July 1, 2020
Episode 3: Strategies for a Neat and Tidy Space
In this episode, I interview my friend, Melissa Stutz. Melissa is the owner of The Neat and Tidy Space, a professional organizing business. We talk about:  Two common ways perfectionist moms approach cleaning and organizing and helpful strategies for both  How to ask for help and accept it  How to create practices  How to stay focused  The 30-Minute Hustle  Melissa's recommendations include:  Harry Potter and The Sorcerer's Stone*  Harry Potter and The Order of The Phoenix*  Jesus Calling*  The Year of Living Happy*  To connect with Melissa, head to her website and follow her on Instagram and Facebook: @theneatandtidyspace.   *Affiliate Links
June 17, 2020
Episode 2: Choosing Faith Over Fear as a Mom
In this episode, I interview my mom, Brenda Fuentes. We talk about: What it was like to raise a perfectionist How she chose faith over fear as a mom How we can trust God with our kids and our mistakes How to make confident choices for your family Great things she recommends include: "Rising Strong" by Brene Brown* To connect with Brenda, head to the I Am Huruma College Fund website or Facebook page.  Hope you enjoyed this episode! Be sure to subscribe, rate, and review wherever you're listening.  xoxo, Andrea *Affiliate Link
June 3, 2020
Episode 1: Welcome to The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering
Welcome to The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! In this first episode, I share: My story with perfectionism and why I started the podcast What we'll talk about in future episodes What God is teaching me in this season I also shared some recommendations: "Rejection Proof" by Jia Jang* The Great British Baking Show Spend time with your kids, but also spend time away on you. Spend time in God's Word *Affiliate Link
May 15, 2020