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By Antonio Myers

Autism is my super blessing! I'm a high-school valedictorian, college graduate, world traveler, disability advocate. I'm a Unitarian Universalist. I'm a Progressive Liberal. I'm about equal rights, human rights, civil & political rights, & economic, social, &cultural rights. I do servant leadership, boundless optimism, & Oneness/Wholeness. I'm good naked & unashamed! I love positive personhood, love your neighbor as yourself, and do no harm! I'm also appropriately inappropriate! My self-ratings: NC-17, XXX, X, X18+ & TV-MA means empathy! I publish shows at 11am!
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Final episode on the good parts of mainstream porn entities (human rights champion adult performers.

Final episode on the good parts of mainstream porn entities (human rights champion adult performers.

“Porn performers aren’t respected in our society and nothing underlines this fact better than the Stormy Daniels/Donald Trump scandal. When the world learned that President Trump had tried to buy porn performer Stormy Daniel’s silence about their affair before the 2016 election, she was the one who was skewered in the court of public opinion. Trump, on the other hand, emerged unscathed.
This is business as usual when it comes to the treatment of porn performers in our society. Porn actors aren’t seen as worthy of respect.
As model Amber Rose told Marlow Stern, Senior Entertainment Editor of The Daily Beast:
“Porn stars are here for our convenience. Everyone uses them when they want to use them and then throws them away after. We don’t respect them enough.”
Stereotyped and stigmatized, porn performers are denied their humanity. It doesn’t make a difference that the stereotypes aren’t true.
Feminist porn director, Erika Lust, told Dazed:
“It’s often assumed that to be an adult performer you’re troubled, on drugs, have money problems and no self-esteem. Even though those cases certainly exist, it’s not a fair judgment to pass on to everyone who chooses to do adult films, and it’s not my experience at all.”
When society denies that porn performers are three-dimensional beings with the same needs and desires as other people, this creates a world in which it’s okay to deny them their rights.” -https://aninjusticemag.com/its-time-to-stop-the-unfair-violation-of-porn-performers-rights-3f9c9b153e87.
Mar 28, 202444:20
My final episode on porn etiquette

My final episode on porn etiquette

“2. Porn overemphasizes visual stimuli
Researchers have gone back and forth on whether cisgender men’s and women’s brains differ in their responses to sexual imagery. The latest research appears to show that there’s no difference.
Either way, I know that the way I like to have sex has been shaped by watching porn, rather than, say, reading or listening to it.
Along with showing a variety of penetrative sex positions, the typical porn scene features an assortment of camera angles. These often focus on women’s butts, boobs, and vaginas, while minimizing shots of the men’s bodies other than their penis.
Male pornstars have talked about this: “You need to get yourself in uncomfortable positions, because it disconnects you from the scene. And it allows the audience to put themselves in.”
This has definitely distorted how I show up in the bedroom. It’s hard to imagine feeling pleasure if I closed my eyes or was wearing a blindfold.
Just like with the emphasis on penetration, focusing on vision is a narrow way to experience sex. There are sensations, sounds, words, tastes, smells, and who knows what else floating around the room.
In fact, a new study found that people who place more value on their sense of smell in romantic encounters consistently had a stronger sexual desire for their partners.
Fortunately, there are now a number of sites the feature audio porn. “Audio really stimulates someone’s inner life, their imagination, which is fertile ground for sexual fantasy,” writer and host of the “Why Are People Into That?!” podcast Tina Horn told Men’s Health. There’s also erotica, or written word porn.” -https://jeremymohler.medium.com/5-ways-porn-conditions-men-to-have-worse-sex-cc3bf4f6c777
Mar 28, 202453:12
Female misogynists within my youth (The Nice Girl Syndrome)

Female misogynists within my youth (The Nice Girl Syndrome)

“The Misogynistic Puritan

The Misogynistic Puritan takes the ideal woman to be domestic, subservient, nurturing, kind, mild-tempered, alluring, youthful, and sexually pure prior to marriage. She has adopted this feminine ideal from her misogynistic husband, family or acquaintances.
She takes herself to be pretty darn close to the feminine ideal. She is subservient, always standing behind her man as a solid pillar of support.
She hates women who deviate from the feminine ideal and takes it to be her life's mission to find ways to discipline them and ultimately get them on the "right track. The Misogynistic Self-Critic

The Misogynistic Self-Critic is disdainful toward women who are not very feminine, whether it’s because they choose not to be or because they are just bad at acting in a traditional way—for instance, women she takes to be too fat, too big, too masculine, too angry, too loud, too competitive, too hardcore, or too alpha.
She is in favor of traditional gender roles and will use any opportunity she gets to preach their social virtue. Men should be dominant alphas, women should be soft and compliant.
She may regard herself as one of the feminine misfits. The Misogynistic Self-Loather

The Misogynistic Self-Loather has adopted a general attitude of contempt toward every one of her own “filthy” kind, including herself.
She regards women, including herself, as promiscuous, manipulative, dishonest, irrational, incompetent or unintelligent.
She tends to be in denial about her own self-loathing but not usually about her contempt for other women.” -https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mysteries-love/201908/12-ways-spot-female-misogynist.
Mar 27, 202452:24
Laius Complex, Parentification, Jocasta Complex, Phaedra Complex, Oedipus Complex, and Electra Complex.

Laius Complex, Parentification, Jocasta Complex, Phaedra Complex, Oedipus Complex, and Electra Complex.

“I talk about The Sexual Covert Incest, The Sexual Jocasta Complex, Sexual Laius Complex, Sexual Parentification, Sexual Phaedra Complex, The Sexual Oedipus Complex,
and The Sexual Electra Complex.” -Antonio Myers.
Mar 27, 202455:13
Sexual acute trauma, sexual complex trauma, sexual chronic trauma, sexual secondary trauma, sexual vicarious trauma, sexual trauma bonding, and sexually adverse childhood experiences (SACEs.)

Sexual acute trauma, sexual complex trauma, sexual chronic trauma, sexual secondary trauma, sexual vicarious trauma, sexual trauma bonding, and sexually adverse childhood experiences (SACEs.)

“Trauma bonds (also referred to as traumatic bonds) are emotional bonds that arise from a cyclical pattern of abuse. A trauma bond occurs in an abusive relationship wherein the victim forms an emotional bond with the perpetrator.[1] The concept was developed by psychologists Donald Dutton and Susan Painter.[2][3][4]

Two main factors involved in the establishment of a trauma bond are a power imbalance and intermittent reward and punishment.[2][1][5] Trauma bonding can occur within romantic relationships, platonic friendships, parent-child relationships, incestuous relationships, cults, hostage situations, sex trafficking (especially that of minors), or tours of duty among military personnel.[2][6]

Trauma bonds are based on terror, dominance, and unpredictability. As the trauma bond between an abuser and a victim strengthens, it can lead to cyclical patterns of conflicting emotions. Frequently, victims in trauma bonds do not have agency, autonomy, or an individual sense of self. Their self-image is an internalization of the abuser's conceptualization of them.[7]

Trauma bonds have severe detrimental effects on the victim. Some long-term impacts of trauma bonding include remaining in abusive relationships, adverse mental health outcomes like low self-esteem, negative self-image, an increased likelihood of depression and bipolar disorder, and perpetuating a generational cycle of abuse.[1][5][8][9] Victims who develop trauma bonds are often unable or unwilling to leave these relationships. Many abuse victims who experience trauma bonding return to the abusive relationship.[10][11]” -Wikipedia.
Mar 27, 202401:09:14
Double living also known as living a double life is cancerous to inner living and outer living.

Double living also known as living a double life is cancerous to inner living and outer living.

“My past double-living makes me feel sad, unhappy, sorrowful, dejected, regretful, depressed, downcast, miserable, downhearted, down, despondent, despairing, disconsolate, out of sorts, desolate, bowed down, wretched, glum, gloomy, doleful, dismal, blue, melancholy, melancholic, low-spirited, mournful, woeful, woebegone, forlorn, crestfallen, broken-hearted, heartbroken, inconsolable, grief-stricken, down in the mouth, and down.” -Antonio Myers.
Mar 26, 202441:02
My vocational singleness, my vocational child-freedom, my vocational pet-freedom, my vocational living alone.

My vocational singleness, my vocational child-freedom, my vocational pet-freedom, my vocational living alone.

“Vocational singleness also known as perpetual singleness means my permanently not being married, my permanent not having pets, my permanently not having children, my permanently living all by myself. I mention that I am the least excited about romantic intimacy.” Antonio Myers.
Mar 26, 202434:01
Traumatic self-medication and fake relationships of my past. I 💯 revealed all of my past traumas.

Traumatic self-medication and fake relationships of my past. I 💯 revealed all of my past traumas.

“Self-medication, sometime called do-it-yourself (DIY) medicine, is a human behavior in which an individual uses a substance or any exogenous influence to self-administer treatment for physical or psychological conditions, for example headaches or fatigue.

The substances most widely used in self-medication are over-the-counter drugs and dietary supplements, which are used to treat common health issues at home. These do not require a doctor's prescription to obtain and, in some countries, are available in supermarkets and convenience stores.[1]

The field of psychology surrounding the use of psychoactive drugs is often specifically in relation to the use of recreational drugs, alcohol, comfort food, and other forms of behavior to alleviate symptoms of mental distress, stress and anxiety,[2] including mental illnesses or psychological trauma.[3][4] Such treatment may cause serious detriment to physical and mental health if motivated by addictive mechanisms.[5] In postsecondary (university and college) students, self-medication with "study drugs" such as Adderall, Ritalin, and Concerta has been widely reported and discussed in literature.[5]

Products are marketed by manufacturers as useful for self-medication, sometimes on the basis of questionable evidence. Claims that nicotine has medicinal value have been used to market cigarettes as self-administered medicines. These claims have been criticized as inaccurate by independent researchers.[6][7] Unverified and unregulated third-party health claims are used to market dietary supplements.[8]

Self-medication is often seen as gaining personal independence from established medicine,[9] and it can be seen as a human right, implicit in, or closely related to the right to refuse professional medical treatment.[10] Self-medication can cause unintentional self-harm.[11] Self-medication with antibiotics has been identified as one of the primary reasons for the evolution of antimicrobial resistance.[12]

Sometimes self-medication or DIY medicine occurs because patients disagree with a doctor's interpretation of their condition,[13] to access experimental therapies that are not available to the public,[14][15] or because of legal bans on healthcare, as in the case of some transgender people[16] or women seeking self-induced abortion.[17] Other reasons for relying on DIY medical care is to avoid health care prices in the United States[18] and anarchist beliefs.[19]” -Wikipedia
Mar 25, 202433:35
Final episode on monogamy, marriage, unmarried life partnerships: affair recovery & affair recuperation.

Final episode on monogamy, marriage, unmarried life partnerships: affair recovery & affair recuperation.

“Types of Affair Relationships
You might hear an affair being referred to as a romantic affair, an emotional affair, or even a cyber affair. Some people simply call it being unfaithful or cheating, though variations of the term "affair" have been adopted by some in consensually nonmonogamous relationships as well. Common types of affairs include the following.

Romantic Affair
Affairs may be romantic, which can be referred to as an "affair of the heart." Romantic affairs are commonly in the form of sexual liaisons that include some level of romance and emotional attachment.

When agreed to by both parties in a relationship, the term may also be used to describe a form of non-monogamy, though this is less common.

Casual Affair
A casual affair is most commonly considered a mainly physical sexual relationship between two people without the expectation of a more formalized romantic relationship. It may also be referred to as a "fling." Emotional Affair
A platonic or nonsexual relationship may also be considered an affair. An emotional affair lacks sexual intimacy but has intense or enduring emotional intimacy.

Emotional affairs can easily evolve into sexual affairs and be just as threatening to the primary relationship. Even when this type of affair doesn't cross the line into becoming physical, the impact can be just as detrimental. The intimacy involved in emotional affairs can often be deeper and more intense than the intimacy in a solely sexual affair.

Cyber Affair
An online or cyber affair is one that occurs online via chat, webcam, email, or text. It may be anonymous, or it may be between people who only know basic information about one another, such as their names, but have never met. Or it may occur online with someone the person knows in real life. Quite often, a cyber affair has emotional and/or sexual undertones.2 The partners involved in a cyber affair may never meet in person, but the emotional connection and often sensual nature of the affair can strain the committed relationships that one or both of the affair participants are in.

Sanctioned Affair
The term "affair" might also be used to describe part of an agreement within an open marriage or relationship. With a sanctioned affair, a couple agrees upon which forms of sex or emotional intimacy are permitted with someone other than their primary partner. These may include swinging, dating, polyamory, and ménages à trois or group sex.3

An open marriage or consensual nonmonogamy that works for both parties has to play by the rules that they agreed upon at the start. Otherwise, this type of affair is no longer "sanctioned." -https://www.verywellmind.com/marriage-affair-2303083
Mar 25, 202451:34
No safety in infidelity, the dangers of cheating in relationships (final affairs episode.)

No safety in infidelity, the dangers of cheating in relationships (final affairs episode.)

“What are the main reasons why people cheat?

Do men stray more than women?
Men have always been more likely than women to cheat, or at least to report having done so, but researchers have noticed a shift in recent years: 16 percent of adults—about 20 percent of men and 13 percent of women—report that they’ve had sex with someone other than their spouse while married. But among adults under 30 who have ever been married, 11 percent of women report having committed infidelity, as opposed to 10 percent of men.
Why do most people stay faithful?
As widespread as infidelity may be, a substantial majority of romantic partners do not stray. One recent survey found that the primary reason individuals remained faithful, not surprisingly, was that they were satisfied in their relationship. But the second-most-common reason was worry that cheating would make them feel guilty, and the third-most-cited reason was fear that their own partner would retaliate by cheating on them.
Why do some partners wrongly accuse each other of cheating?
Many couples struggle when one partner wrongly believes the other has been, or continues to be, unfaithful. But research into such dynamics finds that an individual’s belief that they are being betrayed tends to some extent to indicate that they themselves are having thoughts about someone outside their relationship. In other words, they were projecting their own wandering eye onto their partner.


Are there couples that embrace infidelity?
Many partners are in committed but open relationships, a cohort that demographic research finds to be growing. But a smaller group of couples embrace cuckolding, which typically involves a man encouraging his female partner to have sex with another man while he watches them, or is set up to happen upon them. Research finds that voyeurism, masochism, the thrill of the taboo, female empowerment, bisexuality, and misogyny may all play into this drive.” -Psychology Today.
Mar 25, 202401:01:31
(Final episode on these subjects) emotional maturity womanizing, emotional maturity manizing, and emotional maturity non-binary-izing.

(Final episode on these subjects) emotional maturity womanizing, emotional maturity manizing, and emotional maturity non-binary-izing.

"Here Are 10 Signs of Emotional Maturity:

1. Being Flexible- It’s all too easy to assume things will go according to plan, or that a situation or event will go smoothly because it has each time in the past. When it doesn’t (and that is often a “when” than an “if”), an emotionally mature person is able to think things out and come up with a viable Plan B or even C as needed so that a situation can be dealt with, and still move forward not letting the bump in the road ruin the entire plan.
2. Taking Ownership & Responsibility- An emotionally mature person is able to own up to their own mistakes and not immediately look to blame others. This takes a level of self-honesty and acceptance. If things keep on going wrong, an emotionally mature person will look inwards for answers as to what thoughts or actions may be contributing to the situation and works towards a better understanding and course of action moving forward.
3. Knowing That They Don’t Know Everything- An emotionally mature person knows what they don’t know, and also knows that their own way of doing things may not be the only way or even the best way. They don’t argue “just to be right” or to show dominance to be in charge. They keep an open mind and have open ears and eyes to look for situations where they may be able to learn something, as well as know when they may have something positive to contribute to a situation that can help others.
4. They Look for Learning and Growth From Every Opportunity- An emotionally mature person is on the lookout for what can be learned from any situation or opportunity, and searches for the growth opportunity within it, asking “How can I learn and grow from this?”
5. They Actively Seek Out Multiple Points of View To Help Inform Their Own- Emotionally mature people actively seek to inform their own opinions by actively seeking out the points of view of others. They don’t feel threatened by disagreement, but look to be informed by people, and aren’t afraid to question both their own convictions, knowing that they don’t exist in a vacuum. It’s not about an argument to prove who is right; it’s about wanting to be informed by different points of view to further clarify their own points of view, or recognizing that perhaps their point of view may even be wrong.
6. They Stay Resilient- In the face of upsets, setbacks, or disappointments, an emotionally mature person will acknowledge their feelings, identify what can be done, and then decide what steps to take to move on.
7. They Have a Calm Disposition- Emotionally mature people do get mad but do not let the emotion dictate their response. They aim to have a clear mind with the goal of having rationality dictate how to effectively deal with a situation and also see all of the available options to come to a successful resolution. They know that when emotions override rationality, clearness of thought gets blurred and can limit the options for dealing effectively.
8. They Believe in Themselves- Emotionally mature people don’t have a false sense of self that is ego-based and deluded. But they do have optimism in their own ability to use effort and patience as a way to establish the belief that they are equipped to deal with whatever life may through their way.
9. Approachability- Emotionally mature people are able to and prefer to talk WITH people, not AT them. They have genuine empathy for others, an open mind, and work towards not being judgmental of others, knowing that judgments are often based on preconceived notions can impede their ability to know someone and their truth.
10. A Good Sense of Humor– Emotionally mature people realize that all of life can’t be taken seriously. They do realize the importance of getting done what needs to get done, but they realize the importance of having fun and laughter in life as a great coping mechanism and pressure release from stress." -
10 Signs of Emotional Maturity - American Behavioral Clinics


Mar 25, 202426:43
Healthy monogamy, healthy unmarried life relationships, and healthy marriages.

Healthy monogamy, healthy unmarried life relationships, and healthy marriages.

“The concept of limerence "provides a particular carving up of the semantic domain of love",[16] and represents an attempt at a scientific study of the nature of love.[17] Limerence is considered to be an emotional and motivational state,[9] attachment process[18][10] or even obsession.[11] It is typically experienced involuntarily[19] and is characterized by intrusive preoccupation[20][21] and a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings.[22][23]

For Tennov, sexual desire is an essential aspect of limerence[24] but the desire for emotional commitment is greater.[25] The sexual desires of Tennov's interviewees were overshadowed by their desire for their beloved to contact them, invite them out and reciprocate their passion.[26]

A central feature of limerence for Tennov was the fact that her participants really saw the object of their affection's personal flaws, but simply overlooked them or found them attractive.[27][28] Tennov calls this "crystallization", after a description by Stendhal in his 1821 treatise On Love. This "crystallized" version of a love object, with accentuated features, is what Tennov calls a "limerent object", or "LO".[29]” -Wikipedia
Mar 24, 202444:28
Rules for healthy womanizing, healthy man-izing, healthy non-binary-izing, healthy non-monogamy, and healthy promiscuity.
Mar 24, 202434:19
Final episode of my being a Christian kid in the crime world (I mostly used the dictionary.)

Final episode of my being a Christian kid in the crime world (I mostly used the dictionary.)

“I used my spiritual gifts of being an apostle, prophet, evangelist, pastor, teacher, service, exhortation, giving, leading, mercy, word of wisdom, word of knowledge, faith, gifts of healing, working of miracles, visions, discerning of spirits, tongues, interpretations of tongues, helps, administration, fellowship, hospitality, intercession, effective witnessing, composing spiritual music/spiritual poetry/spiritual prose, interpretation of dreams, and craftsmanship to overcome the organized crime part of my childhood. I used the Seven gifts of the Holy Spirit to overcame the family dysfunction such as wisdom, understanding, counsel, fortitude, knowledge, piety, and fear of the Lord. I used the Nine Fruits of the Holy Spirit to overcome the dysfunctional home I was raised in such as love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Organized crime has both the seven deadly sins and the works of the flesh. Many people in church have told me as an adult that I possess the spiritual gifts of both marriage and celibacy.” -Antonio Myers:
Mar 24, 202401:09:00
My final episode on my compound childhood traumas (100% freestyled this episode.)

My final episode on my compound childhood traumas (100% freestyled this episode.)

I am daily healing and recovering from all of these traumas. “The Types of Trauma
There are several different types of trauma, with differing consequences for mental health.

Acute trauma reflects intense distress in the immediate aftermath of a one-time event of short duration. The reaction itself is short-term, resolving on its own or with the help of counseling. A car crash, physical or sexual assault, the sudden death of a loved one, or even a medical emergency can create acute trauma.

Chronic trauma refers to the harmful effects of events that are repeated or prolonged. It can develop in response to persistent bullying, neglect, abuse (emotional, physical, or sexual), and domestic violence. Because of its repeated nature and inescapability, chronic trauma often has serious mental health consequences for individuals.

Complex trauma can arise from experiencing repeated or multiple traumatic events of differing types from which there is no possibility of escape, such as repeated child abuse. The sense of being trapped is a feature of the experience. Like other types of trauma, it can undermine a sense of safety in the world and beget hypervigilance, and constant (and exhausting!) monitoring of the environment for the possibility of threat. Complex trauma experienced in childhood has been associated with the development of borderline personality disorder as well as PTSD.

Secondary, or vicarious, trauma arises from exposure to other people’s suffering and can strike those in professions that are called on to respond to injury and mayhem, notably physicians, first responders, and law enforcement. Over time, such individuals are at risk for compassion fatigue, whereby they avoid investing emotionally in other people in an attempt to protect themselves from experiencing distress.

Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) cover a wide range of difficult—and potentially traumatic—situations that children under the age of 17 either directly face or witness while growing up before they have developed effective coping skills. ACEs typically disrupt the nurturing bond between children and caregivers and can negatively affect the normal course of development; the emotional injury can last long into adulthood. The loss of a parent; neglect; emotional, physical, or sexual abuse; and divorce are among the most common types of adverse childhood experiences. Research has shown that the more ACEs a person experiences, the greater their risk for future mental and physical health problems. Child health experts are increasingly attuned to checking for ACEs; it is believed that mitigating or preventing ACEs could prevent many future cases of depression, heart disease, and other common disorders.” -Psychology Today.
Mar 23, 202430:44
Final episode on crime (I freestyled most words) & I do discuss the womanizing & manizing in crime.

Final episode on crime (I freestyled most words) & I do discuss the womanizing & manizing in crime.

“What Is a Womanizer?

A womanizer is someone who has multiple sexual encounters or relationships with more than one woman on a regular basis. While single people can sometimes live this lifestyle without hurting anyone, womanizers may pose as wanting a monogamous relationship but lie to their partner about who they’re seeing on the side.

Sometimes, womanizers will lead women on, allowing them to think that they want something serious or are in love with them. In reality, the womanizer simply wants as many women as possible, whether for sex or just attention.” -WedMD. “What Is a Manizer?

A manizer is someone who has multiple sexual encounters or relationships with more than one man on a regular basis. While single people can sometimes live this lifestyle without hurting anyone, manizer may pose as wanting a monogamous relationship but lie to their partner about who they’re seeing on the side.

Sometimes, manizers will lead men on, allowing them to think that they want something serious or are in love with them. In reality, the manizer simply wants as many men as possible, whether for sex or just attention.” -Antonio Myers.
Mar 23, 202401:03:53
Final episode on my past serial womanizing out of trauma, and my mom’s brother's monstrous womanizing. I freestyled every word.

Final episode on my past serial womanizing out of trauma, and my mom’s brother's monstrous womanizing. I freestyled every word.

“Hypermasculinity is a psychological and sociological term for the exaggeration of male stereotypical behavior, such as an emphasis on physical strength, aggression, and human male sexuality. In the field of clinical psychology, this term has been used ever since the publication of research by Donald L. Mosher and Mark Sirkin in 1984. Mosher and Sirkin operationally define hypermasculinity or the "macho personality" as consisting of three variables:

Callous sexual attitudes toward women
The belief that violence is manly
The experience of danger as exciting
They developed the Hypermasculinity Inventory (HMI) designed to measure the three components.[1] Research has found that hypermasculinity is associated with sexual and physical aggression towards women[2][3][4] and perceived gay men.[2] Prisoners have higher hypermasculinity scores than control groups.[5]” -Wikipedia.
Mar 22, 202401:05:37
Final episode of sexual sickness (sexual sociopathy and sexual psychopathy.) Sexual personality-disordered individuals exist. I used choosing therapy.com to help me out.

Final episode of sexual sickness (sexual sociopathy and sexual psychopathy.) Sexual personality-disordered individuals exist. I used choosing therapy.com to help me out.

“Impacts of Sex With a Narcissist

If you’re intimate with a sexual narcissist, you may chronically feel “not good enough,” regardless of how you perform sexually. You may develop a negative body image, have patterns of self-invalidation, and experience shame and low self-worth. Long-term, sex with a narcissist may lead to difficulty trusting future sexual partners, trauma symptoms, or even the development of PTSD.

Impacts of sex with a narcissist include:

Low self-esteem
Body image issues
Self-invalidation (e.g., telling yourself you’re selfish for having sexual needs)
Shame and secret-keeping from loved ones
Decrease in sexual desire (specifically with the sexual narcissist, or in general)
Consequences of blackmail
Difficulty trusting future sexual partners
Trauma symptoms and/or PTSD
How to Respond to Sexual Narcissism

How you respond to sexual narcissism depends largely on the nature of the relationship. Is this a one-night stand or a long-term relationship? Are you committed to this person or want to exit the relationship? As a rule of thumb, partners of sexual narcissists should be careful not to reinforce unwanted behaviors while engaging in sex; avoid giving the indication that the sexual narcissist’s behavior is wanted or enjoyable when possible (e.g., by moaning or smiling).

You may try setting boundaries around sex, in which case it’s important that you’re firm in asserting your needs, as wavering may invite a sexual narcissist to violate and push your limits. Name the unacceptable behavior clearly (“Do not choke me during sex”) and restate the assertion as many times is needed. If the sexual narcissist tries to make it about their needs (“But this is what turns me on”), redirect the attention back to yourself.

Boundaries are helpful with a sexual narcissist outside of the bedroom as well. Because sexual narcissists often cheat to avoid the intimacy and vulnerability that comes with a committed relationship, you may want to express to your partner your limits around infidelity. Individual therapy or couples counseling are both helpful resources for discussing sexual narcissists’ patterns and determining how and whether to proceed in the relationship.

Ultimately, it may be in your best interest to walk away, in which case it’s worth educating yourself on what a narcissist does at the end of a relationship. Regardless of how you choose to proceed, it’s important as a first step to consider your safety. Some sexual narcissists may become aggressive or retaliatory when confronted about their behavior.” -https://breakthesilencedv.org/9-signs-of-narcissistic-sexual-behavior/.
Mar 22, 202401:34:36
Final mainstream porn episode (I freestyled some off of the top of my head and I used the dictionary as well.) The 14 different types of sexual narccissism are real.

Final mainstream porn episode (I freestyled some off of the top of my head and I used the dictionary as well.) The 14 different types of sexual narccissism are real.

“Symptoms

Researchers developed the sexual narcissism scaleTrusted Source to highlight important components of narcissism that are typically active in sexual domains. These patterns of behavior usually include:

sexual exploitation
sexual entitlement
low sexual empathy
inflated sense of sexual skills
In addition to the above, sexual narcissists may also display the following characteristics:

high level of sexual self-esteem
preoccupation with sex and sexual sensation seeking
promiscuous nature (the reckless kind, not the ethical kind.)
high levels of infidelity
sensitivity to perceived criticism. Problematic relationship patterns
If a person thinks they may be in a relationship with a sexual narcissist, there are behavior patterns to be aware of, including:

Sexual entitlement: A sexual narcissist may feel that others owe them sex and that they have a right to sex on demand.
Sexual exploitation: They may be willing to manipulate or coerce others into having sex.
Lack of empathy: They may feel that a partner’s feelings or needs do not concern them.
Need for admiration: They may have an excessive need for admiration, especially for their sexual abilities.
Infidelity: Higher rates of infidelity occur with sexual narcissists.
Charming pickup artist: Sexual narcissists will initially be charming and employ manipulative dating techniques designed specifically to get a potential partner into bed.
Sexual aggression: High levels of sexual narcissism and entitlement may beTrusted Source a predictor of sexual aggression.
Convincing a potential sexual narcissist to get help may escalate their behavior since they may not perceive they have a problem and may attempt to put the blame on others.” -Medical News Today.
Mar 21, 202401:29:01
My rich, full, smooth, soothing, soft-spoken, orgasmic, mezzo-soprano bass voice type, my medium vocal range (I mostly freestyled off of top of my head, little Wikipedia.) Final episode on my voice.

My rich, full, smooth, soothing, soft-spoken, orgasmic, mezzo-soprano bass voice type, my medium vocal range (I mostly freestyled off of top of my head, little Wikipedia.) Final episode on my voice.

“I overcame hypermasculinity, toxic masculinity, and stereotypical masculinity regarding voice and voice types. I no longer try to sound like anybody else and the guys who clowned me tried their best to sound like other people. Vocal competitions between males is a vocal trauma complex. I no longer engage in those competitions.” -Antonio Myers
Mar 21, 202443:57
Social media’s corporate greed (I totally freestyled this whole episode off of the top of my head.)

Social media’s corporate greed (I totally freestyled this whole episode off of the top of my head.)

“Social media has a history of death threats, violent threats, catfishing, scammers creating duplicate accounts of original accounts, spammers attempting financial crimes, paternity suits and paternity tests, child support custody spats, negative comments, people liking 👍 negative comments with the thumbs up, virtually argumentative commenting against one another, child abuse, adult abuse, victim blaming, organized crime activities, dislike feature on videos 👎, gossip, scandals, scandalous cover ups, blood feuds, body-shaming, sex-shaming, slut-shaming, prude-shaming, kink-shaming, and consent-shaming, etc.” -Antonio Myers.
Mar 20, 202445:43
I am a diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) type of public figure. I totally freestyled this whole episode off of the top of my head.

I am a diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) type of public figure. I totally freestyled this whole episode off of the top of my head.

“The underlying structure of the Universal Declaration was influenced by the Code Napoléon, including a preamble and introductory general principles.[14] Its final structure took form in the second draft prepared by French jurist René Cassin, who worked on the initial draft prepared by Canadian legal scholar John Peters Humphrey.

The Declaration consists of the following:

The preamble sets out the historical and social causes that led to the necessity of drafting the Declaration.
Articles 1–2 establish the basic concepts of dignity, liberty, and equality.
Articles 3–5 establish other individual rights, such as the right to life and the prohibition of slavery and torture.
Articles 6–11 refer to the fundamental legality of human rights with specific remedies cited for their defence when violated.
Articles 12–17 set forth the rights of the individual towards the community, including freedom of movement and residence within each state, the right of property and the right to a nationality.
Articles 18–21 sanction the so-called "constitutional liberties" and spiritual, public, and political freedoms, such as freedom of thought, opinion, expression, religion and conscience, word, peaceful association of the individual, and receiving and imparting information and ideas through any media.
Articles 22–27 sanction an individual's economic, social and cultural rights, including healthcare. It upholds an expansive right to an adequate standard of living, and makes special mention of care given to those in motherhood or childhood.
Articles 28–30 establish the general means of exercising these rights, the areas in which the rights of the individual cannot be applied, the duty of the individual to society, and the prohibition of the use of rights in contravention of the purposes of the United Nations Organization.[15]
Cassin compared the Declaration to the portico of a Greek temple, with a foundation, steps, four columns, and a pediment.[16] Articles 1 and 2—with their principles of dignity, liberty, equality and brotherhood—served as the foundation blocks. The seven paragraphs of the preamble, setting out the reasons for the Declaration, represent the steps leading up to the temple. The main body of the Declaration forms the four columns. The first column (articles 3–11) constitutes rights of the individual, such as the right to life and the prohibition of slavery. The second column (articles 12–17) constitutes the rights of the individual in civil and political society. The third column (articles 18–21) is concerned with spiritual, public, and political freedoms, such as freedom of religion and freedom of association. The fourth column (articles 22–27) sets out social, economic, and cultural rights. Finally, the last three articles provide the pediment which binds the structure together, as they emphasize the mutual duties of every individual to one another and to society.[16]” -Wikipedia
Mar 20, 202401:00:07
My erotic and sensual past (I totally freestyled this whole episode off of the top of my head.)

My erotic and sensual past (I totally freestyled this whole episode off of the top of my head.)

“Green Flag: The Right Questions

Having a sexual history conversation is a chance to explore what works and then bring that magic into your relationship. The following list of questions can be helpful starting points for learning more about your partner.

Can you tell me about your most intense, exciting sexual experiences and what they were like?
What were your favorite moments, and what made them stand out to you?
What drew you to others, sexually?
What did you find attractive about former lovers at first?
How did the sexual relationship begin?
Did it make any difference to you if they initiated or you did?
Were you able to be more present in your body during sex in different relationships, and if so, why was that possible?
Remember: The goal of the conversation is not to gather intel on your partner’s former lover but rather to help you understand who your partner was inside of that relationship. You can listen here for more about this conversation.

Red Flag: Judgment, Jealousy, Inadequacy

Discussing sexual histories requires emotional intelligence, and there are three emotional red flags to look out for before approaching this topic with your partner.

Judgment: If shared information leads to judgment, the discussion will be cut short.
Jealousy: If you or your partner are jealous people, this is not the conversation for you. In fact, it could be dangerous.
Inadequacy: A sexual history review can encourage feelings of inadequacy. For example, one partner might worry that past lovers are superior in some way: a bigger penis, a better body, youth, stamina, etc. Green Flag: Emotional Safety

Preparing to review your sexual histories requires that each partner is granted time to self-assess their readiness for the conversation. Both partners should have total control over if they want to have the conversation, when they want to have it, and what they want to share and not share.

Create safety by reassuring the partner answering that you would love to understand their mind, heart, body, and spirit in this intimate experience as fully as possible.
Offer lots of positive regard for your current partner's desirability.
Let the vulnerability of sharing untold secrets and experiences strengthen the intimacy between the two of you.
If you decide to share, remember that what you did is much less important than how it impacted you. For example, maybe your partner did something wild they would never do with you. Without context, it’s easy to create a false story around the why but perhaps the why is as simple as they were young and drunk. Asking curious questions can fill out the story: What was in your body? What was in your heart? What did your spirit feel afterward? What did it feel like in the moment versus now that you’re looking back? For those brave enough to do a sexual history, there’s a wealth of information to be absorbed. Listen to your partner’s stories or experiences and apply what you can to make your current relationship steamier, stronger, and sexier.” -https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/married-and-still-doing-it/202201/how-and-why-talk-about-our-sexual-past#:~:text=Red%20Flag%3A%20Judgment%2C%20Jealousy%2C,discussion%20will%20be%20cut%20short.
Mar 20, 202401:02:51
The media is like a dull knife, just ain’t cutting, the media's talking loud and saying nothing. I totally freestyled this whole episode off of the top of my head.

The media is like a dull knife, just ain’t cutting, the media's talking loud and saying nothing. I totally freestyled this whole episode off of the top of my head.

“I notice that media is has fear of being wrong, most media figures will act like there is no need to apologize to their viewers for their misstatements. The media makes it wealth off of learned helplessness and learned hopelessness.” -Antonio Myers.
Mar 19, 202401:01:11
Autism moms and autism dating part 2 (final part)

Autism moms and autism dating part 2 (final part)

“Abroromantic / aro flux: someone who fluctuates between experiencing romantic attraction and not experiencing it, and/or experiencing romantic attraction to different strengths.
Abrosexual / ace flux: someone who’s experiences of sexual attraction fluctuate; they may go through periods of asexuality and periods of experiencing sexual attraction. The strength of their attraction could also fluctuate, going through phases of weakness and intensity.
Ace: an abbreviated term for ‘asexual’.
Akoiromantic/lithromantic: a person who experiences romantic attraction but has no desire or need to have their feelings reciprocated. Sometimes an akoiromantic person’s attraction may fade if a romantic relationship is established.
Akoisexual/lith(o)sexual: someone who experiences sexual attraction to people but has no desire to have those feelings reciprocated. For some, if the attraction is reciprocated, their feelings may fade and they will no longer be attracted to that person. ‘Lithsexual’ is also sometimes used to describe someone who does not like to receive sexual contact but may be happy to give it.
Alloromantic/zedromantic: someone who does experience romantic attraction. An alloromantic person may be allosexual as well, but not necessarily.
Allosexual/zedsexual: someone who does experience sexual attraction, and therefore not on the ace spectrum.
Apothisexual: someone who is asexual and sex-repulsed.
Aro: an abbreviated term for ‘aromantic’.
Aromantic: someone who does not experience romantic attraction.
Asexual: someone who does not experience sexual attraction.
Autochorissexual/aegosexual: someone who is aroused by sex that does not involve themself; it is a disconnection between oneself and the sexual object/activity. Someone who is autochorissexal might have sexual fantasies, or enjoy reading erotica or watching porn, but will have no desire to be involved in the activities themselves. This identity did not arise within the ace community and isn’t necessarily an ‘ace’ identity.
Cupioromantic: someone who does not experience romantic attraction but has a desire to be in a romantic relationship.
Cupiosexual: someone who desires a sexual relationship, but does not experience sexual attraction.
Demi: an abbreviation for demisexuality and demiromanticism.
Demi(a)romantic: someone who only experiences romantic attraction after establishing a strong emotional connection to someone.
Demi-(a)sexual: someone who only experiences sexual attraction after establishing a close emotional and/or romantic connection with another person/persons.
Frayromantic: someone who experiences romantic attraction, but this attraction fades after getting to know the object of attraction.
Fraysexual: someone who initially experiences sexual attraction upon meeting someone, but this attraction fades after getting to know them.” -https://www.oulgbtq.org/acearo-spectrum-definitions.html#:~:text=Aromantic%3A%20someone%20who%20does%20not,and%20the%20sexual%20object%2Factivity.
Mar 19, 202440:41
Part 2 and final part of neurodiversity dating questions

Part 2 and final part of neurodiversity dating questions

“Autistic people may display a range of strengths and abilities that can be directly related to their diagnosis, including:

Learning to read at a very early age (known as hyperlexia).
Memorising and learning information quickly.
Thinking and learning in a visual way.
Logical thinking ability.
May excel (if able) in academic areas such as science, engineering and mathematics as they are technical and logical subjects that do not heavily rely on social interaction.
Having an extraordinarily good memory (being able to remember facts for a long period of time).
Being precise and detail orientated.
Exceptional honesty and reliability.
Being dependable in regards to schedules and routines.
Having an excellent sense of direction.
Be very punctual.
Strong adherence to rules.
Able to concentrate for long periods of time when motivated.
A drive for perfection and order.
A capability for alternate problem solving.
A rare freshness and sense of wonderment.” -https://www.altogetherautism.org.nz/strengths-and-abilities-in-autism/
Mar 19, 202401:06:56
Part 1 of neurodiversity dating questions

Part 1 of neurodiversity dating questions

“1. Are you working on your chosen field?

2. How many hours a week do you work? Would you consider yourself a workaholic?

3. What does your job entail?

4. What is your dream job?

5. Have you ever been called a workaholic?

6. What is your retirement plan? What do you plan to do when you stop working?

7. Have you ever been fired?

8. Have you ever quit a job suddenly? Have you changed jobs a lot?

9. Do you consider your work a career or just a job?


10. Has your work ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?” -https://hackspirit.com/questions-to-ask-before-marriage/
Mar 19, 202449:32
Autism mom dating and autism dating part 1

Autism mom dating and autism dating part 1

“Neurodiversity describes the idea that people experience and interact with the world around them in many different ways; there is no one "right" way of thinking, learning, and behaving, and differences are not viewed as deficits.

The word neurodiversity refers to the diversity of all people, but it is often used in the context of autism spectrum disorder (ASD), as well as other neurological or developmental conditions such as ADHD or learning disabilities. The neurodiversity movement emerged during the 1990s, aiming to increase acceptance and inclusion of all people while embracing neurological differences. Through online platforms, more and more autistic people were able to connect and form a self-advocacy movement. At the same time, Judy Singer, an Australian sociologist, coined the term neurodiversity to promote equality and inclusion of "neurological minorities." While it is primarily a social justice movement, neurodiversity research and education is increasingly important in how clinicians view and address certain disabilities and neurological conditions.

Words matter in neurodiversity

Neurodiversity advocates encourage inclusive, nonjudgmental language. While many disability advocacy organizations prefer person-first language ("a person with autism," "a person with Down syndrome"), some research has found that the majority of the autistic community prefers identity-first language ("an autistic person"). Therefore, rather than making assumptions, it is best to ask directly about a person's preferred language, and how they want to be addressed. Knowledge about neurodiversity and respectful language is also important for clinicians, so they can address the mental and physical health of people with neurodevelopmental differences.” -https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/what-is-neurodiversity-202111232645
Mar 18, 202440:08
My callings require me to mostly don’t date by circumstances & by choice. I love being greyromantic.

My callings require me to mostly don’t date by circumstances & by choice. I love being greyromantic.

“I very rarely date and I very rarely have sex because most people are not equipped at all to handle my black extraordinary, my autism extraordinary, my abuse-survivor-thriver extraordinary, and my sexual minority extraordinary self. They (most people) are obsessed with weak commitments, personal peace being pursued without concern for the world’s chaos, making deception “acceptable”, having strength without feeling, pursuing personal needs to everyone’s detriment, abusive power, happiness at any cost, pride and personal independence to the extremes. I am “seen, but not heard” according to most individuals who refuse to affirm me with me.” Antonio Myers.
Mar 18, 202447:41
My callings require me to be mostly celibate by circumstances & by choice. I love my graysexuality.

My callings require me to be mostly celibate by circumstances & by choice. I love my graysexuality.

“I went from being rape cultured as a child; to having a highly overactive libido as a younger man; to being of celibacy for the majority of my time as an intercontinental public figure. I experience alloromanticism and allosexuality when it comes to extraordinary misfits like me. Most people, I feel aromanticism and asexuality when it comes to most people in the world who are societal copycats.” -Antonio Myers.
Mar 16, 202401:01:33
Collapsed sexual boundaries, rigid sexual boundaries, and healthy sexual boundaries.

Collapsed sexual boundaries, rigid sexual boundaries, and healthy sexual boundaries.

“4.
Sexual boundaries
Healthy sexual boundaries include consent, agreement, respect, understanding of preferences and desires, and privacy.
Healthy sexual boundaries include:
Asking for consent
Discussing and asking for what pleases you
Requesting condom use if you want it
Discussing contraception
Saying no to things that you do not like or that hurt you
Protecting the privacy of the other person
This might sound like:
"Do you want to have sex now?"
"Is this comfortable for you?"
"Tell me what you like."
"Tell me what you don't like."
"I don't like that. Let's try something different."
"I don't want to have sex tonight. Can we cuddle instead?"
"I am really into [insert desire here]. Is that something you would feel comfortable with?"
Sexual boundary violations include:
Sulking, punishing, or getting angry if someone does not want to have sex
Not asking for consent
Pressure to engage in unwanted sexual acts
Unwanted sexual comments
Leering
Lying about contraceptive use
Lying about your health history
Criticizing the other person's sexual preferences
Unwanted touch, assault, or rape.” -Mindbodygreen.
Mar 16, 202454:44
Sexual verbal communication skills, nonverbal sexual communication skills, sexual interpersonal communication skills!

Sexual verbal communication skills, nonverbal sexual communication skills, sexual interpersonal communication skills!

“Full-body orgasms, full-heart orgasms, full-soul orgasms, full-mind orgasms, and full-memories orgasms do exist. Full-touch orgasms, full-taste orgasms, full-sight orgasms, full-hearing orgasms, and full-smell orgasms also exist. I acknowledge that personality orgasms and temperament orgasms are pleasurable. I hate sexual emotionalism and sexual denialism. I haven’t attended any sex conferences and sex conventions because no one thought to invite me. I haven’t attended any porn conventions and porn conferences because again, no one thought to invite me.” -Antonio Myers.
Mar 16, 202402:54:19
I saw sexual idolatry also known as sexual idol worship within the mainstream pornography industry.

I saw sexual idolatry also known as sexual idol worship within the mainstream pornography industry.

“Sexual idolatry means making all things sex (God) and sexual idol worship means sexual codependency, sexual enabling, and sexual coddling.” -Antonio Myers.
Mar 15, 202401:00:06
Many compound trauma survivors would admit their frustrations to me with the adult film industry.

Many compound trauma survivors would admit their frustrations to me with the adult film industry.

“Modern sex therapy often integrates psychotherapeutic techniques and medical ones,[2] such as Viagra (sildenafil) and Cialis (tadalafil) to increase erectile response and Paxil (paroxetine) to treat premature ejaculation. Sex therapists assist those experiencing problems in overcoming them, in doing so possibly regaining an active sex life. The transformative approach to sex therapy aims to understand the psychological, biological, pharmacological, relational, and contextual aspects of sexual problems.[3]

Sex therapy requires rigorous evaluation that includes a medical and psychological examination. The reason is that sexual dysfunction may have a somatic base or a psychogenic basis. A clear example is erectile dysfunction (sometimes still called "impotence"), whose causes may include circulatory problems and performance anxiety. Sex therapy is frequently short term, with duration depending on the causes for therapy.[4]

Sex therapy can be provided by licensed psychologists or physicians, who have undergone training and become certified.[4] These trainings and certifications usually begin with a master's degree, and internship, and a license. This can take up to two years, and longer if a doctoral degree is desired.

Certified sex therapists do not have sexual contact with their clients.[4] Sex therapy is distinct from sex surrogates. Whereas sex therapists discuss and instruct clients in sex-based exercises to be performed at home between sessions, sexual surrogates participate in the exercises with their clients as part of helping them to practice and develop improved skills. Therapists and surrogates sometimes collaborate on cases.” -Wikipedia.
Mar 15, 202401:00:02
My water-to wine sexuality

My water-to wine sexuality

“My sexuality is undergoing purification, refining, clarifying, clarification, cleansing, straining, sifting, filtering, filtration, rarefaction, distillation, concentration, processing, treatment, treating, and rectification. My sexuality is also undergoing the removal of impurities and unwanted elements from myself as the substance.” -Antonio Myers.
Mar 14, 202401:00:25
Wise reasons why I avoid securing hookups and dates for myself via social media networking platforms and media platforms overall.

Wise reasons why I avoid securing hookups and dates for myself via social media networking platforms and media platforms overall.

“Social media and the media in general has caused many people to feel confused, puzzled in mind, disconcerted, abashed, perplexed, doubtful, not properly distinguished, mistaken, jumbled, snarled, deranged, bewildered, out of order, disarrayed, confounded, mixed, mixed up, chaotic, disordered, muddled, fuddled, befuddled, slovenly, untidy, messy, wrongly involved, misunderstood, blurred, obscured, topsy-turvy, balled up, fouled up, screwed up, in a mess, haywire, snafu, and tangled.” -Antonio Myers
Mar 14, 202401:00:24
I feel like being a family man is easier for me because of autism moms and my rare-breed gentlemanly nature.

I feel like being a family man is easier for me because of autism moms and my rare-breed gentlemanly nature.

“Autism moms have the love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, faithfulness, gentleness, goodness, and self-control that I need that best compliments my black autistic life. This is not an onslaught against other women.” -Antonio Myers.
Mar 14, 202432:40
Wise reasons that cause me to avoid dating apps, dating sites, hookup apps, and hookup sites

Wise reasons that cause me to avoid dating apps, dating sites, hookup apps, and hookup sites

“A lot of those on dating and hookup media platforms are criminals, lawbreakers, felons, child abusers, adult abusers, perpetrators, predators, pedophiles, adult rapists, crooks, murderers, killers, rapists, vandalism, panhandling, perjurers, arsonists, muggers, desparadoes, thugs, gangsters, gang leaders, burglars, safecrackers, the underworld, gangland, crime families, crime bosses, kleptocracies, treasons, state crimes, federal crimes, global crimes, narcokleptocracies, clientelism, political corruption, treason, oligarchy, business oligarchs, angry mobs, drug lords, crime syndicates, narcostates, mafia states, crime rings, criminal organizations, street crews, street gangs, separatists, rebel forces, terrorist groups, financial crimes, violent crimes, theft crimes, clip artists, con men, confidence men, thieves, bandits, second-story men, traffickers, cattle rustlers, horse thieves, liars, phonies, car thieves, pickpocketing, counterfeiting, forgers, smugglers, extortionists, kidnappers, gunmen, trigger men, accomplices, allies, informers, stool pigeons, stoolies, squealers, cons, dope peddlers, and pusher men.” -Antonio Myers.
Mar 14, 202427:21
Most people are toxic for my soul, my heart, my body, my mind, my memories, my touch, my taste, my smell, my hearing, and my smell.

Most people are toxic for my soul, my heart, my body, my mind, my memories, my touch, my taste, my smell, my hearing, and my smell.

“I protect my sexuality, my eroticism, my romantic being, and my sensuality from distress, worry, anxiety, misery, sorrow, wretchedness, pain, dejection, irritation, suffering, ache, heartache, ordeal, desolation, anguish, affliction, woe, torment, shame, embarrassment, dissatisfaction, disappointment, destruction, depression, despair, dissolution, dissonance, tribulation, pang, grief, grievances, and trouble.” -Antonio Myers.
Mar 13, 202401:40:30
My biology’s emotion classification

My biology’s emotion classification

“I don’t render my sensual verdicts, erotic verdicts, and sexual verdicts out of feelings, sentiments, sensations, reactions, responses, passion, intensity, ardor, fervor, vehemence, fire, moods, states of mind, gut feelings, inclinations, warmth, coldness, indifference, intellect, fireriness, instinct, intuition, impulsivity, and compulsion. I render my sensual verdicts, erotic verdicts, and sexual verdicts out of prudence, sagacity, judiciousness, shrewdness, foresight, forethought, forehandedness, precaution, caution, wariness, canniness, and chariness.” -Antonio Myers.
Mar 12, 202430:16
My being a professional sex surrogate partner within professional sex surrogate partner therapy (part 2 and final part.)

My being a professional sex surrogate partner within professional sex surrogate partner therapy (part 2 and final part.)

“Selecting a Surrogate Partner
It is important to consider who will be most useful to the client’s learning and then to interview and select a professional surrogate partner with the necessary expertise for that specific case. Experience level, physical appearance, and age vary among surrogates. Physical appearance and age are usually the least important criteria when selecting a surrogate partner. It is often desirable to avoid meeting the client’s “ideal” in order to provide optimal learning for the client about “real” relationships with “real” people. High-quality training and emotional maturity are essential features of a professional surrogate partner. Supervising therapists may contact the IPSA Referrals Coordinator for assistance in finding a compassionate, well-trained, professional surrogate partner

IPSA-Certified Surrogate Partners
To assist the therapeutic community and consumers in evaluating the qualifications of individuals offering surrogate partner therapy, IPSA established a certification program. To qualify for IPSA certification, surrogate partners must demonstrate that they have had adequate training; understand the principles and practices of surrogate partner therapy; possess personal qualities commensurate with the large responsibilities of a surrogate partner; and commit to honoring the IPSA Code of Ethics.

Intern Surrogate Partners
Trainees who successfully complete the first phase of training are approved to begin working as Intern Surrogate Partners. Interns work with real clients, closely collaborate with each client's therapist, and prepare for and review every session with an experienced surrogate partner mentor. Interns are providing benefits to clients while continuing their learning through these real-world experiences. While there are some cases that are too complex for a new intern, many cases are appropriate for intern surrogate partners. IPSA Training staff and mentors help evaluate cases to determine whether an intern has sufficient experience and skills to successfully assist each client.

Confirmation of a specific surrogate partner's training, certification, and good standing in IPSA can be verified through IPSA Membership Committee or the IPSA Referrals Coordinator. You may also consult our list of IPSA-Certified Surrogate Partners

The Character of a Surrogate Partner
Although there are no specific academic degrees required of a surrogate partner, there are certain personal qualities and life experiences that seem to provide a valuable foundation for surrogate partner skills. These include intelligence, compassion, warmth, comfort sharing one’s own body and sexuality, empathy, patience, knowledge of sex therapy principles and practices, and good communication skills. Non-judgmental attitudes toward sexual orientation, choice of lifestyle, and consensual sexual activities are also highly important.

Gender and Sexual Orientation
Surrogate partners work with clients of all sexual orientations and genders. Gender and sexual orientation are often a consideration when the client’s difficulties present at the intersection of emotional intimacy and sexuality, and the intention of the therapy is to create experiential learning at that intersection. Some clients choose to begin working with a surrogate who participates as a role model or coach rather than as an intimate partner, especially when the client is primarily addressing negative body image, intense phobias, a history of sexual trauma, or when a surrogate partner of the desired gender and sexual orientation is not available in the client's location.” -IPSA (International Professional Surrogates Association.
www.surrogatetherapy.org/choosing-a-surrogate
Mar 11, 202401:02:21
My being a professional sex surrogate partner within professional sex surrogate partner therapy (part 1)

My being a professional sex surrogate partner within professional sex surrogate partner therapy (part 1)

“Who Needs Surrogate Partner Therapy?

The problems that motivate clients to seek Surrogate Partner Therapy range from general anxiety in social situations to specific sexual dysfunctions. Concerns for any gender might result from one of the following:

Negative body image or physical disfigurement
Medical conditions
Sexual, physical, or emotional abuse and/or trauma (rape or incest, for instance)
Intimacy issues
Phobias and anxieties
Unresolved relationship trauma
Confusion about sexual orientation
Lack of social or sexual self-confidence.

Sexual concerns may include:
Orgasmic inhibition
Genital or pelvic pain
Avoidance of physical and/or emotional intimacy
Lack of experience due to anxious avoidance.

Common sexual issues for male clients include:
Erection difficulties (ED)
Rapid ejaculation (PE)
Ejaculatory inhibition.

Female clients’ sexual issues might include:
Vaginismus (involuntary contraction of vaginal muscles resulting in painful penetration)
Vulvodynia
Limited or non-existent orgasms

Clients of any gender may seek therapy to address problems relating to
Fear and avoidance of sexual and emotional intimacy
Lack of relationship experience
Shame or anxiety regarding sex
Low arousal or lack of sexual desire.” IPSA (International Professional Surrogates Association.)
Mar 11, 202453:51
Autism mom trust requirements (final autism mom memories.)

Autism mom trust requirements (final autism mom memories.)

“Autism moms don’t want a man that is dishonest, deceiving, fraudulent, double-dealing, backbiting, treacherous, deceitful, cunning, sneaky, tricky, wily, deceptive, misleading, elusive, slippery, shady, swindling, cheating, sneaking, traitorous, villainous, sinister, underhanded, two-timing, two-faced, double-crossing, unprincipled, disreputable, questionable, dishonorable, counterfeit, infamous, corrupt, immoral, discredited, unworthy, shabby, mean, low, venial, self-serving, contemptible, rotten, fishy, crooked, false, and lying. They want an honest, irreproachable, scrupulous man.” -Antonio Myers
Mar 11, 202446:50
I find some things about my sexual past that I like

I find some things about my sexual past that I like

“When it comes to my sexual past, I no longer feel guilt, shame, worry, fear, condemned, sentenced, doomed, incriminated, indicted, judged, and damned. I feel relaxed, untroubled, freedom, liberation, acquitted, at ease, breathing easily, and released.” -Antonio Myers.
Mar 11, 202448:03
Storytelling with autism moms

Storytelling with autism moms

“Autism moms are sensitized to rudeness, discourtesy, bad manners, vulgarity, incivility, impoliteness, impudence, disrespect, misbehavior, barbarity, ungentlemanliness, unmannerliness, ill-breeding, crudity, brutality, barbarism, tactlessness, boorishness, unbecoming conduct, conduct not becoming a gentleman, crudeness, effrontery, impertinence, insolence, audacity, the warped version of boldness, the warped version of shamelessness, presumption, officious ness, intrusiveness, brazenness, sauciness, defiance, contempt, back talk, ill-temper, irritability, disdain, bitterness, sharpness, unkindness, ungraciousness, harshness, gall, sass, lip, nerve, brass, and cheek.” -Antonio Myers.
Mar 11, 202457:43
There is no “glitz and glamour” in criminality!

There is no “glitz and glamour” in criminality!

“As a child, I viewed the crime world as being filled with bad trees bearing bad fruit in human form, a brood of vipers of human form, hypocrites in human form, white-washed tombs in human form, ferocious wolves in sheep’s clothing in human form, sly foxes in human form, spiritually blind guides in human form, spiritually blind fools in human form, demonic devils in human form, the children of Hell in human form, thieving robbers in human form, vermin in human form, vultures in human form, hired-hands in human form, and anti-Christs on human form.” Antonio Myers. “Here, Jesus refers to those who serve the flock, in a sense, but who are not motivated by love and self-sacrifice. A hired shepherd, for instance, is inclined to run away when the sheep are under severe threat. That hired hand is only interested in the sheep so long as he benefits; when serving the sheep means personal risk, he abandons them. This describes those who purposefully take advantage of others using spiritual deception. But it also applies to those who "passively" take advantage, by claiming spiritual authority or privilege without the service or sacrifice that position entails.” -BibleRef.
Mar 10, 202430:10
Intellectual dialogues with autism moms and hand-clapping games with autism moms.

Intellectual dialogues with autism moms and hand-clapping games with autism moms.

“Autism moms appreciate me because I am affectionate, affable, amiable, genial, congenial, cordial, warm, demonstrative, convivial, companionable, company-loving, sociable, gregarious, outgoing, clubbable, comradely, neighborly, hospitable, approachable, easy to get along with, accessible, communicative, open, unreserved, easygoing, good-natured, kindly, benign, amenable, agreeable, obliging, sympathetic, well-disposed, benevolent, couthy, chummy, pally, matey, decent, buddy-buddy, conversable, amicable, pleasant, easy, confidential, close, intimate, familiar, peaceable, peaceful, conciliatory, harmonious, not clubby, the good type of informal, non-hostile, not casual, not unceremonious, not unfriendly, and not hostile.” -Antonio Myers.
Mar 10, 202432:27
Many Autism moms see me as a sensory-sensitive lover who needs to do sensory-friendly adult movies.

Many Autism moms see me as a sensory-sensitive lover who needs to do sensory-friendly adult movies.

“Autism moms and I didn’t and don’t make each other feel abandoned, deserted, desolate, destitute, desperate, empty, unused, vacated, left, neglected, relinquished, lonely, forsaken, solitary, hopeless, cast off, cast aside, cast away, forgotten, shunned, forlorn, avoided, outcast, rejected, helpless, unfortunate, alone, discarded, scorned, lost, doomed, friendless, wretched, thrown overboard, out on a limb, waiting at the church, left in the lurch, left holding bag, not inhabited, not befriended, and not in use.” -Antonio Myers.
Mar 10, 202401:50:01
My comprehensive sexuality education talks with autism moms, my vivacious eroticism with autism moms

My comprehensive sexuality education talks with autism moms, my vivacious eroticism with autism moms

“Autism moms and I made and make each other feel the most affection, adoration, fondness, liking, attraction, caring tenderness, compassion, sentimentality, lust/sexual desire, sexual needs, needs, passion, infatuation, longing, joy, cheerfulness, amusement, bliss, gaiety, glee, jolliness, joviality, delight enjoyment, gladness, happiness, jubilation, elation, satisfaction, ecstasy, euphoria, zest, enthusiasm, zeal excitement, thrill, exhilaration, contentment, pleasure, pleasant pride, triumph, optimism, eagerness, hope, enthrallment, pleasant rapture, pleasant relief, pleasant surprises, pleasant amazement, and pleasant astonishment." -Antonio Myers
Mar 09, 202401:42:37
Autism moms as my therapy in human form

Autism moms as my therapy in human form

“1. Don’t tell me my child will grow out of it
It’s not that I don’t want to agree with you—or even that I don’t think there are elements which he will grow out of—but as an autism mom, I spend so much of my life setting him up for success. We do therapies, food restrictions, sensory diets, chiropractic care, ABA therapy, and when you pass it off like it’s a silly phase, that just makes me feel like you think I’m overreacting. That makes me want to avoid talking about my son’s progress and struggles with you, because you so clearly do not understand the nature of his diagnosis.
2. Just let me have a bad day
You don’t always have to tell me that “even typically developing children do that.” Yes, I’m aware. As a parent of typically and atypically developing children, I am fully aware that ALL children have bad days. I am also aware that mothers get to vent to their friends about it without being corrected that the frustrating behavior is “typical.” Guess what, I’m a mom, and sometimes my struggle is not related to my son’s diagnosis. Sometimes, we’re just having a bad day, and I would like to be able to share that with a friend without being corrected and informed that said behavior is well within the “normal” range. “Normal” kids are hard sometimes, and I have my limitations. Please allow me to have a bad day.
3. Please don’t give me advice on discipline
You know how you have that one friend who has no children and always tells you, “When I have kids, I will never give them candy, and they will go to bed when they’re told, and they will pick up all of their autism toys and never talk back” and you think…”OMG, you are so clueless. I can’t believe I used to be that clueless.” That’s how I feel when you try to give me disciplinary tips for my son. Trust me…it’s not that simple. It’s just not. 4. Forgive me for talking about it so much
As much as I wish we had gotten the diagnosis, signed up for “treatment,” and then everything was business as usual, that’s not how it works. At first I cringed at how people used a title like “Autism Mom” or seemed to talk so insistently about their child’s diagnosis. In an effort to never become one of “those moms,” I was avoiding a lot of conversations and topics. But when you have a child with autism, it becomes an inseparable part of your world. Imagine if you tried to avoid implying your child’s gender in any conversation. Give it a try—you may find that it just seems to come up more than you expect. Sometimes, I may feel I need to give you a little insight into the diagnosis to help you see how big a milestone is, or how discouraging a setback may be. Sometimes I’m just telling you about my day. I know my son is more than autism. Please don’t think that I feel it defines him or that he is limited to it. It is simply a part of him and a huge part of my family, but I see him for all of his individuality and abilities. I know that he is bigger than autism and that it cannot hold him back. 5. Ask me questions
I want you to ask questions, because I know that if you better understand why my son does or doesn’t do things, you will have a greater love for him. You will have a deeper compassion, and you will better see how amazing he is. My son is so incredible. You may simply see a child who easily tantrums and doesn’t talk much, but if you asked me questions, I could explain to you why we think he isn’t speaking, and how we tried to use Picture Exchange Communication System(PECS) cards for communication, but he wasn’t interested because he developed his own communication system. I could tell you how brilliantly he communicates without saying a word. I could tell you how his stimming behavior is actually an attempt to self-regulate and how people stim all of the time: chewing fingernails, twirling hair, tapping fingers, etc.” -Autism Parenting Magazine (Janaiah von Hassel.)
Mar 08, 202401:12:23