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A second chance at life

A second chance at life

By Arvilla Beckworth
Helping women who have been confronted with life challenges, turn their experiences into an opportunity at a new direction in life.
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Being thankful
I want to first off thank you for rocking with me! Thank you for listening to me. Thank you for supporting me! I love thanksgiving not only for the food but being able to get together with family.  It seems like we spend less and less time with our family that get togethers are non-exisent. Love on your family. Create new traditions. Bring the family unit back together again. Please never take your family for granted. No one is promised tomorrow. The one thing I will miss this thanksgiving is my grandma. Since she passed away June 2020. Click the play button and listen to this week's episode!
10:13
November 23, 2020
Letting go of baggage
Have you been hurt by how a relationship ended? Or what about every new relationship you got into felt like the last one? If you do not heal from your past relationship you will continue to repeat the cycle over again and have the baggage to prove it. Once a relationship has ended, use the time to work on yourself and find out what when wrong. Plus you want to let go of anything that is weighing you down and be able to start receiving abundance back into your life. Let me give you 6 ways to break free from past hurt. Click here to listen to this week's episode!
19:08
November 16, 2020
Get ready for what you asked for
Have you ever asked God for something hoping he would give it to you just because you asked? My passion is to help women but my weakness is speaking in public. Every time there was an opportunity to speak in front of others, I would either decline or be so nervous that I would fumble over my words and talk fast. One morning, I heard a word from God that said "Stay ready so you do not have to get ready" but I wasn't sure what that meant. Then later on I was listening to Sarah Jakes Roberts and her podcast episode was about staying ready so you do have to get ready and prepare for what you are asking for.  Now when I heard that, I knew God was telling me something. Click play to listen to this week's episode!
13:53
November 9, 2020
Transformation
Did you know when a caterpillar turns into a butterfly, it is considered Transformation? They create a cocoon around themself and use the time to turn into something beautiful. They don't tell or show anybody what they are doing inside. They just do it. If you want any permanent change to take place in your life, you have to put in the work to make it happen. It will not be an overnight fix nor will it be easy but it will be worth the wait. For the next 90 days, find one thing that you want to really change about your life. Do not just pick something out of the blue. I really want you to think of something you continue to do over and over again but never follow through. What if this time you get further than you have ever gotten? Go ahead and hit play to listen to this week's episode!
10:58
November 2, 2020
Action
In stage 4 of the transformation series, Action is the one that separates the doers from the watchers.  The word ACT breaks down to (A) Action, (C) Changes, (T) Things. Until you decide you are ready to act on your goals, you will be stuck where you are. Action requires you to commit, be disciplined, and dedicate yourself to permanent change. Are you ready to put in the work or are you going to keep talking about it? Here are 4 things to remember.... Put together an action plan and make it clear. If the goal is too big, break it down to smaller achievable goals. For every milestone you complete, reward yourself. Have a completion date. Don't forget Daylight Savings is November 1st! Set your clocks back 1 hour!
11:42
October 26, 2020
Education
"Education is the passport to the future, for tomorrow belongs to those who prepare for it today."- Malcom X Education is important in our ever changing world. If you do not keep up with it, you could get left be behind. In the 3rd stage of transformation, education helps you educate yourself on the change you need to make. You are responsible in spending quality time and effort to gain all the knowledge you need to help you successfully complete you goal. You have to do your own research before you jump into something. Plus you want to know for yourself what you are researching and not someone else's opinion.  Press the play button to listen to this week's episode !
14:20
October 19, 2020
Motivation
In Episode #39 I talked about how to be inspired for internal transformation. This week I talk about stage number two, motivation.  "If you find the right motivation, you can accomplish anything". I read an article on zenhabits.net and it talked about motivation is what drives you toward a goal, what keeps you going when things get tough, the reason you get up early to exercise or work late to finish a project. In order to be disciplined and consistent, you need motivation to carry you through. 5 ways to become (and stay) motivated: -Set goals -Break down your goals -Tell people -Track your progress -Reward yourself Press play to hear this week episode!
15:42
October 12, 2020
Inspiration
Episode 38 I talked about believing in yourself even when doubt shows up. I also talked about the 5 stages of transformation that can turn a goal from an inspiration to a permanent transformation by going through each stage. Today's episode is the beginning stage. Whether it is being inspired to lose weight to being inspired to live your life, you need something that gets you energized.  Merriam-Webster Dictionary says the true meaning of inspiration is something that makes someone want to do something or that gives someone an idea what to do or create. Tell me what inspires you?
18:48
October 5, 2020
Don't doubt yourself before you believe in yourself
Everything you have in life is in result of believing in yourself. You want something bad enough that you think about over and over again until it starts to feel real. Then doubt creeps in and you stop believing that it was possible so you give up. In this episode, I give you 4 ways to believe in yourself plus the 5 stages of transformation. If you are ready to finish 2020 strong and put yourself ahead of the game for 2021, go ahead a listen to this episode! If you haven't checked out my free ebook go to www.arvillabeckworth.com/freebie to download "How to plan for a successful week"
17:24
September 28, 2020
Having a support system is important
Having a support system is something this is a must in life. Whether it's a life coach, health coach, financial coach, even a family member. You need people around you that can push you in the direction you want to go. There will be times in your life when you are not strong enough to do it on your own strength. That's ok. We were not meant to do life alone. We are meant to help others.  Remember we will all go through something in our life that requires support so do not be stingy when someone needs you for support.  If you are overwhelmed and need some clarity, go to www.arvillabeckworth.com and set up a discovery call.
15:37
September 21, 2020
How to bounce back when you have fallen off
Have you ever had a time when you had a setback in your life that you did not think you could come back from? We all have and learned our best lessons from them. Just because you had to take a few steps back doesn't mean you will not push forward into a better place. Be patient with yourself as you grow through this journey. Do not let tough times dictate how you will get through the rest of your life. In this episode I will give you 10 ways to bounce back.  Instagram: arvilla_beckworth Instagram: secondchanceatlifepodcast Contact: arvilla@arvillabeckworth.com
16:50
September 14, 2020
Giving from your overflow
Happy Labor Day! I hope you are getting some much needed rest this holiday weekend! This month I have been talking about replenishing yourself and getting your energy intact. I spoke about how to recognize the signs of burnout and then how to incorporate self-care into your routine. Now I want to talk about giving from your overflow. As long as you are giving to others from a place of depletion, you will never be full. Imagine an empty glass and a full pitcher. The glass in it's natural state is empty, but when you start to pour the content in the pitcher into the glass, it feels up. Once the glass fills up, you can either stop or continue to keep pouring. The excess of the pouring is your overflow. Please do not give from your cup because this is what you need to function each day. Give to others and things from the extra overflow you have. Stop saving the world and start saving you! Go ahead and listen to this week's episode! Instagram: secondchanceatlifepodcast
10:07
September 7, 2020
Why self-care is important
In Episode 33, I talked about burnout. This week I want to prevent burnout by talking about self-care. Self-care is a must and should be taken seriously. I unfortunately neglected self-care and become overextend/burnout. I knew I was not doing the things I needed to keep my mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical space intact. I thought I could push through and my body would bounce back like it normally did, but not this time. My body decided to shutdown. Luckily I caught it early and took a week and a half off of work to replenish myself. Somethings I done was: Take a bubble bath, rest, watched my favorite show, talk to my husband about my burnout, get a pedicure, have a piece of chocolate cake! Go ahead a jump into this weeks episode to find ways your can add self-care into your daily/weekly routine.
18:13
August 31, 2020
How to recognize burnout
Burnout is something we have to take ownership for. When our body has been giving us signs that it is approaching "empty" and needs us to pull over and fill up, we need to listen. Do not wait until your "empty" before you recognize burnout. Be in tune with yourself to know when it is time to stop what you are doing and reassess what your body needs. Steps to prevent future burnout: *Figure out what has led you to being burned out. *Reconnect with your WHY *Be clear on what you need to be fully functional *Set boundaries *Set up a self-care routine If you are at a point where you are past burnout, please seek professional help immediately. We need you whole and healthy
15:47
August 24, 2020
Envision a future you
With everything that has gone on in 2020, it is hard to see what the future holds. Our normal is no longer normal and our days run together, but that should not stop you from preparing your future. Your future you is waiting for you. I want you to envision a future you. What does she look like? What has she achieved? What lifestyle has she created?  Our brains don't realize the difference between current reality & our dreams so why not create your future.
13:38
August 17, 2020
Speak life into your situation
Have you ever had those days when you did not have the right words to say regarding a situation? Life seems to continually knock you down and you just need a minute to get your thoughts together and breathe. Today I want you to declare and decree over your life everyday what you are. What I mean by that is what powerful statement can you say about your situation until things turn around? You can say I AM healed. I AM whole. I AM confident. I AM lovable. Speak the words you need until you see them become your reality. Click this link https://thetruthaboutliving.com/i-am-statements-change-your-life/ for some powerful I AM statements.
12:40
August 10, 2020
Episode #30, Interview with Divinearth from teen mom to life lessons coach
Growing up, both of her parents were alcoholics. She was molested as little girl and then got pregnant at 15. Being a teen mom caused her to  drop out of high school in the 9th grade. With no education or money, she had to work 2-3 jobs to take care of her family.  She eventually finds love in doing hair and becomes a hairstylist, in which she became a salon owner for 4 years. Then a new opportunity presents itself for her to become  an over the road truck driver, and as of today, her and her husband run a successful company called Married too the Miles. This women overcame adversity and is now a life lessons coach were she helps women turn hardship into lessons.  Instagram: @lifelessonsbydivinearth FaceBook: Life lessons by divinearth Youtube: Life Lessons By Divinearth
35:29
August 3, 2020
Upgrading your life
How many of you have been living the same life for the last few years? No changes. No improvement. No motivation. You keep making excuses why you haven't changed, but wonder why everyone else has all of the luck.  You were not put on this earth to barely get along or take leftover scraps. You were meant to make moves, stand out, and live life abundantly. I don't have to tell you why upgrading your life is important because you should want to improve your life just because. It's time to upgrade your life! 
12:36
July 27, 2020
Celebrate your small success
Every December 31 I would try to reflect on all the wins I accomplished 364 days before.  I knew I did something exciting, but 8 out 10 times I could not remember. If it wasn't something major, I just brushed it off and kept moving. Then a friend of mine told me to get a mason jar and every time I had an win/success, write it on a sticky note then fold up and put it in the jar. If I start it January 1 and end it December 30, on December 31 I could empty the jar and read everything I did for the year!  So as of July, my jar is only 35% full. Unfortunately COVID came and slowed some things down but it didn't stop wins from happening. If you want to see my jar, go to my instagram page @arvilla_beckworth
11:26
July 20, 2020
Focus on the finish line
When starting a goal, it is exciting to be in the beginning phase because you have drive, excitement and ambitions to get started. As time goes and the weeks turn into months, you no longer feel the same way as you did in the beginning. You start skipping days on working toward goals, then you slow down the progress even further, and you eventually stop. You have to believe it before you see it and keep push even when you do not feel like it. Focus on the finish line so you not only see who you are becoming, but be proud of yourself for completing what you said you would do. The old saying is "Keep your eyes on the prize". Listen to the weeks episode to get some encouragement. You come to far to start back over, so keep pushing!
12:06
July 13, 2020
Episode# 26 Interview with Kierra Sade, from exotic dancer to hustlepreneur
 This mother of two tells her story on how she started her first few businesses out of desperation of leaving the strip club and how she changed her life around and become a born again christian. She has a coaching business that teaches, inspires and motivates women to obtain and create generational wealth by using their God given skills, talents, & gifts to create a side hustle. She also has a T-shirt line called "Mama's With Melanin" that brings awareness to the unique style of black motherhood. This interview definitely has some information you want to soak up!
47:46
July 6, 2020
Starting over is never bad
Starting over can turn out to be your biggest challenge and blessing at the same time. Do not be afraid of letting  go what’s broken and starting over to rebuild again. In my personal transformation, I was at the bottom and loved my way back up to the top. Once I let go of the fear, I started to use muscles and resources I never knew I had!  Hitting the reset button could be the thing we need to get a fresh perspective on a better life. If you are going through a tough time whether it be abuse, finances, weight loss, organization, or low self-esteem, I consider myself the Queen of Comeback and can help you get back on track. Please go to www.arvillabeckworth.com and select "Discovery Call" to get started!
12:40
June 29, 2020
Stay ready so you do not have to get ready
Have you heard the saying....stay ready so you do not have to get ready!!! Well COVID-19 has taught me to stay ready just incase another round of corona comes back.  There are 5 things that I took away. 1. Save 6-9 months for an emergency. 2. Upgrade your health. 3. Enjoy the slow time. 4. Learn a new skill. 5. Start a business. Be ahead of the game and listen to this week's episode!
12:17
June 22, 2020
Spring Cleaning Series Wrap Up
As we wrap up 9 weeks of the Spring Cleaning Series, I realize this quarantine has allowed me to complete some things that I would not have been able to complete if I was busy. It has opened my eyes to what is really important to me and how I want to spend my time.  In these few months, we learned to organized our minds, priorities, and finances, in preparation of starting a new norm.  My takeaway from this series is "Stay ready so you don't have to get ready."
10:37
June 15, 2020
Organizing your Cleaning Schedule
Do you get overwhelmed with cleaning your home? Tired of spending your time off cleaning while others are enjoying their time off? This week I am talking about creating a cleaning schedule that will help you space out your cleaning. If cleaning is too much for you, go ahead and considered hiring some help. Today's Tip: Having a clean space gives you a clear mind and help you burn calories too! Check out Clean Mama who has great site that helps everyday women simplify the cleaning routine.
12:06
June 8, 2020
Organizing your purse
Our purses are like mini offices.  You do your best work when they are clean and organized. We keep everything under the sun in it from grocery lists  water bottles to snacks and still manage to look stylish at the same time. This week I want to give you 6 tips to keeping your purse organized and productive. If you need an organizer for your purse, check out  Samorga!
12:10
June 1, 2020
Organizing your bill-paying system
Nobody likes paying bills but someone has to do it. This week I show you how to setup a bill-paying system that will not only helping you pay your bills on time, but save you time in the long run if done electronically. A few Money Manager/ Bill paying apps you can use on your phone: *Prism *Hiatus: Bill and Money Manager *Bill Organizer *Google Pay
09:00
May 25, 2020
Organizing your finances
At an earlier age, I was horrible with my finances. I had 9 credit cards by the age of 20, filed for bankruptcy by the age of 24, and got hooked up with the payday lenders by the age 26. As you can see, me and finances were not friends. It took me over 10 years to get my finances back in order, plus an additional 4 years to develop and maintain a budget. Sit back and listen to why it is important to take control of your finances. To learn how to live debt-free, check out Financial Peace University. If you need help creating a unique paycheck budget and financial plan based on your pay schedule, check out Budget by Paycheck Workbook. www.arvillabeckworth.com
19:48
May 18, 2020
Organize your email
This week episode is helping you clean out your unruly email box. We have so many emails coming through everyday. Between our personal and work emails, we just do not have the time to read each one. Better yet, what about the emails we only signed up for to receive a free gift and now they are sending us 3-4 emails a week. Time to put that to a stop today!!! Spam protection/Virus/Malware software that is available: *Norton Antivirus *McAfee *TOTALAV www.arvillabeckworth.com
13:26
May 11, 2020
Organizing your personal information
Could you locate your information if an emergency happened? What if your purse /phone was lost or stolen? A tornado destroyed your home? If you are in an abusive relationship and had to leave at a moments notice. Could you find all of your important papers?  Today I will be talking about how to organize your personal information. Some of the apps to secure personal information on your phone: *Password Manager-mSecure *Keeper Password Manager *Dashlane-Password Manger www.arvillabeckworth.com
10:47
May 4, 2020
Organizing your priorities
Do you ever feel like you do not know where your day goes? You start something and then someone or something distracts you from completing your task. It's easy to lose sight of you day and not take care of the things that are most important to you. This week we will talk about , organizing your priorities. www.arvillabeckworth.com
12:11
April 27, 2020
Organizing your schedule
Last week I talked about organizing your mind. Now this week I want to talk about organizing your schedule. With us being on a modified schedule because of COVID-19, we have to be more diligent with our time. If your not careful, one episode of Netflix can turn into a marathon of binge watching of your favorite show.  Do you remember telling yourself, "If I only had a little more time"?  or "When things slow down, I will do ..." Well guess what, now is the time.  Time to organize your schedule!  
16:58
April 20, 2020
Organizing your mind
When you think about spring cleaning, you only think of the physical cleaning and not the mental. Did you know if your mind is cluttered more than likely your life is too? It is no coincidence that the two go hand and hand because whatever is going on internally will start to show externally. So take control of your mind by clearing out your mental clutter!
14:35
April 13, 2020
Time to Spring Clean your Life
Welcome to the Spring Clean your Life Series!! We have been quarantined in the house for a few weeks now. You're probably caught up on Netflix, did plenty of tutorials on YouTube, and munched on some guilty food pleasures!! Now it's time to start your internal spring cleaning. Grab a notebook, your favorite pen, and find a quiet spot. Website: www.arvillabeckworth.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/arvilla_beckworth
13:16
April 6, 2020
How to use your time wisely during this downtime
Here we are, another week of ever changing events. At first it was no more than 250 congregated, then 50, now 10. So basically no congregating. Well with that being the case, why not use your time wisely at home. If you have kids at home, go back to board games and family dinners without electronic interference. Maybe it is just you and your significant other, why not cuddle up and watch Netflix's for a few hours! And maybe your are single, use this time to check in with your girls and host a video chat party and host a sleepover via FaceTime or Duo. Check me out on Instagram www.instagram.com/arvilla_beckworth
13:59
March 30, 2020
How to make additional income during the Corona Virus
Today I talk about 10 jobs you can do within the next 30 days to create an additional stream of income during this time. I do not want you to wait on your main job to see what they are going to do, so lets get your head of the game and have something on the side.  During this time of uncertainty, do not let fear get a hold of you. Stay prayed up, have a clear head and  game plan. If you do not have a game plan, head over to my website www.arvillabeckworth.com and select the free 15 min consultation so we can brainstorm together!
12:11
March 23, 2020
How can a bad relationship influence your next relationship
In episode#10, I interviewed my husband about the early stages of our relationship. When we got together, I was still dealing with some unresolved issues that I was bringing into this relationship. I thought it would be nice for my husband to give his take on what it was like in the beginning. We don't realize if we do not heal from a bad relationship, we carry the hurt into another one. Counseling helped me realize that I made a bad choice in a relationship, but I could change my thought process by bettering myself and learning from it. Instagram | Website
18:06
March 16, 2020
Transitioning into a new season of your life
Transition is never easy and requires not only discipline but commitment. I am currently transitioning my permed hair into natural hair and I thought it would be easy because I seen the end result and didn't realize the in between process would be work.  Starting March 22, I will be doing a spring cleaning series which will get you ready for a new season of your life. For help with transitioning in any area of your life, go to www.arvillabeckworth.com
15:09
March 9, 2020
Daylight savings is next Sunday! Are you ready?
March 8 is daylight savings!! We will be getting more daylight in the evening and hopefully warmer weather!!! But with anything, it requires some sort of sacrifice to get prepared. Here are few tips that will have you ready for next week. One tip: Wake up 15-30 minutes early and go to bed 15-30 minutes early starting this Tuesday, giving your body 5 days to adjust.
10:15
March 2, 2020
Episode #7, Create a "Just for me" day!
Why should we only celebrate ourselves once a year when we can do it 12 times a year!? We give so much to others on their day, that we either forget about ours or do not put in the same effort as everyone else's. Today I will be talking about how you can create a day just for you! A day where you can bring out the balloons and party favors 12 times a year. 
11:31
February 24, 2020
Loving yourself again.
We live in a world where loving ourselves was not taught to us at an early age. Either you had parents who were still in the process of trying to themselves, so they were unable to show you how to love yourself or maybe you were taught but something or someone took that experience away. It is never too late to reintroduce self love back into your life. Listen as I give you 8 ways you can love yourself again.
13:09
February 10, 2020
45 days to living your best life!!
We are 30 days into the new year and our goals/resolutions are not as exciting as they were December 31. Time has took its course, life has got in the way, and motivation is not that high. Well today I am giving you 45 different things to improve your life! Now with any type of change, it does take time for a habit to develop so don't beat yourself up and give yourself at least 30+ days to develop the habit. If you would like an email copy sent out to you, please reach out to me at arvilla@arvillabeckworth.com and I will gladly send it over.
12:26
February 3, 2020
How tragedy brings us closer together
With the untimely death of Kobe Bryant and 8 others including his 13 year old daughter Gigi, it brought people together np matter what race, creed, sexuality, or status, you felt the deaths like it was your own family member. There is nothing more painful than losing a loved one. Today hug your love ones, let go and forgive any hurt , and tell them that you love them because tomorrow is not promised to no one. Don't let tragedy be the only reason you have to humble yourself at a funeral when you could have given your loved ones their flowers now. Get your second chance at life today! www.arvillabeckworth.com
08:12
January 27, 2020
Confession of a teenage mom, Kanise
In Episode #3, I interview a 20 year old mom who had her son when she was 15. Despite what society expected of her, she beat all odds and received her high school diploma with a 3.8 gpa. Listen to this woman tell her story about what it was like being a teen mom and how she never gave up. If you enjoy this episode, please make sure you leave a 5 star rating and leave a review! Website: www.arvillabeckworth.com Email: arvilla@arvillabeckworth.com Instagram: @arvilla_beckworth Facebook: @arvillabeckworthpdf
20:12
January 18, 2020
Transitioning into an unfamiliar job, my story.
In Episode #2, I talk about my decision to leave my corporate job and transition into an unfamiliar one. It wasn't an easy decision because I was comfortable in the job I was in, but I had out grew it. Sometimes you have to take a risk and do something that takes you out of your comfort zone to go into a new season of your life. If you need help transitioning in any area of your life, reach out to me at arvilla@arvillabeckworth.com Website: www.arvillabeckworth.com Instagram: @arvilla_beckworth
17:23
January 14, 2020
Episode #1, Welcome and why I started this podcast
Today on the very first episode, I want to welcome you to my podcast and give you some background on why I started it. I believe everyone deserve a second chance at life and what better way to get it than to do it over. It has taken me years to come through my transformation period and it all started from a domestic violence relationship.  We all want change to happen fast, but if the change doesn't start internally, we go back to what is familiar.
08:40
January 4, 2020