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Codependent N’ Sh*t

Codependent N’ Sh*t

By Ash

A real girl talking about real sh*t! -From codependency and love addiction, to single parenting and situationships. Join me on my journey of self-development, self-healing, and spirituality discussed on a practical level.
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When your codependent partner wants to go back to their abusive spouse

Codependent N’ Sh*tOct 01, 2023

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When your codependent partner wants to go back to their abusive spouse
Oct 01, 202341:45
Why “Therapy Speak” is Making Us All Insane & Why You Should Give the Nice Girl/Guy a CHANCE

Why “Therapy Speak” is Making Us All Insane & Why You Should Give the Nice Girl/Guy a CHANCE

Hello fam, this episode talks about the toxic side of incessant “therapy speak” on social media (and life in general), and the discomfort that can arise when we meet a healthy/available partner. Also obviously some catch up on my life and personal journey navigating grief, trauma, diagnoses, and a new game changer relationship 🔥. I love you guys so much and appreciate all your support. ❤️❤️
Sep 07, 202331:53
Recovering from Recovery/AA, grief, and another relationship fail

Recovering from Recovery/AA, grief, and another relationship fail

This episode may ruffle some feathers of individuals in recovery/aa/na but I also don’t care and feel it’s important for those of us who choose a different route of healing to be able to share. I also talk about the multitude of grief of a passing loved one, AND story time! About why I decided to end a relationship with someone seemingly normal & healthy. Ish. 😂 Do you like the show? If so, leave me a review!❤️. If you would like to write me, connect: IG @codependentnshit Or email codependentnshit@gmail.com
Apr 25, 202333:54
Your situationship is LUST, not LOVE babe
Feb 22, 202327:47
Should You End Your Situationship?
Nov 30, 202226:17
The Stages of Narcissistic Abuse/Do You Make Men or Women your God?
Jul 27, 202233:14
When You Find out the Narc has New Supply & Accountability for our Roles

When You Find out the Narc has New Supply & Accountability for our Roles

Hi Fam, this episode is about handling and coping with the reality of finding out your narcissist ex has a new supply (of course they do), why we aren’t victims & must take radical accountability, and also why I recommend 12 step programs as a means of integrative self-work and therapy. Love you ❤️ Contact me directly with success stories, rants, connection, etc. at codependentnshit@gmail.com or on IG @codependentnshit
Jul 20, 202227:59
Rock Bottom, Recovery, and Escapism
Jun 28, 202225:03
“No Matter How Far I run, I Always End up Back Here”

“No Matter How Far I run, I Always End up Back Here”

Hello fam, quick episode letting you guys know how/why I’m finally truly surrendering to what is, the reality of my situations, my addictions, my codependency, my grief, and entering rehab. I wanted to record this to let anyone else struggling to know how okay and NECESSARY it is to get help if you’ve realized for the last time that you can’t do it on your own. There is a way out and you don’t need to do it alone ❤️. Love you all so much
Apr 21, 202222:21
How to Break the Trauma Bond(s) to Narcissists FOR GOOD
Mar 24, 202226:01
How Easily a Narcissist Can Sneak into Your Life Even When You KNOW THE SIGNS

How Easily a Narcissist Can Sneak into Your Life Even When You KNOW THE SIGNS

This episode is full details and warning signs I ignored of my most recent relationship that winded up being with yet another person with highly narcissistic traits. I want you guys to understand that even with years of healing work and self awareness around this stuff, you still can easily fall into these relationships. That’s why FOLLOWING YOUR GUT AND RED FLAGS IS SO BEYOND CRUCIAL! It’s hard, you may have slip ups like me, but you will find yourself spending less and less time investing in these energy vampires 🧛‍♂️. I love you guys https://youtu.be/4aNuph5gRMQ << Highly recommend you play this song on repeat if you’re going through this!
Mar 19, 202238:06
This is an episode of me gaslighting myself without even realizing it while recording 🙃
Dec 08, 202124:31
Letting Go of a Trauma Bond (IT’S HARD)
Nov 16, 202131:06
Getting Back on Track With Your Healing Journey

Getting Back on Track With Your Healing Journey

Hi fam! A lot of this episode is about my Mom’s abrupt recent passing and how I’m coping with that/how I’m getting back on track with healing in the wake of tragedy/grief. Sometimes things happen in life that can throw us off track with focusing on bettering ourselves. I also touch on the Holistic Psychologists new book, and the power of the mind/the placebo effect in regards to healing. Love you guys ❤️
Aug 04, 202131:14
Don’t Mistake Chemistry for Compatibility
May 05, 202120:12
Stop Making THEIR Opinions YOUR Truth
Jan 14, 202125:57
Be a Gray Rock to Your Narcissist This Xmas
Dec 24, 202012:15
Your Situationship is Probably a Trauma Bond/Limiting Beliefs/and God
Dec 16, 202013:52
Is it Love or A Trauma Bond? And Emotional Abuse
Oct 16, 202018:42
Addicted to Relationships/Recognizing an Attraction b/c of Familiar Dynamics
Oct 08, 202021:22
Why I Don’t Think WAP is Female Sexual Empowerment/Are They Projecting? We are ALL Projecting
Sep 19, 202025:09
Loneliness in Healing, Codependent Friendships, & How to Point out Wounded Potential Partners
Sep 12, 202038:45
Can You Heal While in a Relationship?/Financial Stability does NOT Mean They are a Good Partner!
Sep 03, 202031:49
Announcement/Why You Don’t Have to Keep Dating Them Just Because They Don’t Treat You Like Sh*t

Announcement/Why You Don’t Have to Keep Dating Them Just Because They Don’t Treat You Like Sh*t

Double episode week! I forgot to tell you guys that tomorrow (August 27th) the STEREO app is launching and I have partnered with them to be a content creator on the app! My first live sessions will be Aug 27th: 2:00 PST, Aug 28th: 2:00PST, Aug 31st: 2:00 PST, SEP 1st 2:00 PST, & Sep 1st 2:00 PST! Come ask me things and hear more stuff like you do on here! 😍 The app is available in your App Store! ❤️ THIS episode also goes a bit into a common predicament you may find yourself in once you start dating “nice guys” or men who treat you well. If you have a track record of dating the total opposite, you might think you have to just stick around because a potential dating partner is “nice”. NO! Hear why.. Do you like the show? Please leave a review! I love connecting with you guys so find me on IG @ashrakes or codependentnshit. SUBMIT YOUR QUESTIONS, TRIALS & TRIBULATIONS TO BE ANSWERED ON THE SHOW @ codependentnshit@gmail.com
Aug 26, 202009:22
Why Do We Like Bad Boys/How to Become Emotionally Available

Why Do We Like Bad Boys/How to Become Emotionally Available

He has tattoos and takes 2 days to text back...are you in love?! Probably not Sis! In this episode I talk about why we typically are drawn to “bad boy” types, getting real about our attraction to them, and also how to become less emotionally unavailable/love avoidant. Because if you’re attracting emotionally unavailable partners, it’s because you are also emotionally unavailable! 🤯 Don’t worry, we can change this! ❤️. Do you like the show? Please leave a good rating/review. This will help other people find the show so it can help them also! I love to connect with you guys - IG @ashrakes or codependentnshit. IF YOU HAVE A SPECIFIC TOPIC/SITUATION YOU’D LIKE ADDRESSED ON THE SHOW PLZ SEND AN E-MAIL TO CODEPENDENTNSHIT@GMAIL.COM
Aug 24, 202025:11
Are They Really in an Open Relationship? /What is LOVE BOMBING?
Aug 13, 202020:04
Bye for Now ❤️ (& the “Twin Flame” Scam)

Bye for Now ❤️ (& the “Twin Flame” Scam)

Hello Fam, for now I am going to be taking a (likely indefinite) break from this show and launching a new Podcast soon. I will keep you updated on the details of that when it occurs. For now I will keep my old episodes up but this may change. Thank you all for the love & support through this chapter of my life. I sincerely hope you find your way and I’m sending you so much love. ❤️
Jul 27, 202019:04
What Not to Do On a Dating App/Are You Overly-attached?

What Not to Do On a Dating App/Are You Overly-attached?

SUP FAM! This episode has some “what not to do” things if you are on a dating app (and actually seeking dating) and also a bit about over-attachment. I go through some sure signs of over attachment/involvement & ways to work through it. ❤️❤️ Do you like the show? Follow me on IG @ashrakes or @codependentnshit or shoot me an email at codependentnshit@gmail.com
Jul 16, 202039:04
How I’ve Finally Learned to Surrender
Jul 07, 202020:23
Why I’m Leaving the New Age Spiritual Movement
Jun 18, 202032:15
Codependency & Having a Racist Ex Partner/Are You Addicted to Healing?
Jun 09, 202030:06
Don’t Stay Silent

Don’t Stay Silent

Just dropping this quickly while I have a moment because I do NOT support silence right now. I will be recording a full episode this week. Please stay safe and love one another 🙏🏻❤️❤️
Jun 03, 202002:33
You Are Your Own Guru/Savior & “Why Did They Ghost Me?” Pt.2
May 18, 202020:20
I’m Alive!

I’m Alive!

Hey guys, I just wanted to record something quick to update as to why I’ve taken a lil break from recording. Quick talk on “2020 expectation hangovers”, body issues, and quarantine realizations, etc.✨
May 11, 202009:59
Why Do You Push Away Nice Guys?

Why Do You Push Away Nice Guys?

I’m personally attacking some of you with this one 🤣. I just wanted to get real on this topic because I’m sooo tired of seeing this pattern as our norm. Nice guys finish last” needs to be a thing of the past if we ever want to heal ❤️
Apr 17, 202007:05
Why You Shouldn’t Feel Shame For Taking Care of Your Mental Health
Apr 16, 202030:12
Focusing on What We Can Control & Why You Should LET YOURSELF COPE ❤️
Apr 08, 202023:03
Why Did They Ghost Me?
Apr 01, 202017:52
What Do You Do When A “Situationship” Asks if You’re Seeing Other People - And Isolation StruggZ

What Do You Do When A “Situationship” Asks if You’re Seeing Other People - And Isolation StruggZ

Hello my loves, here’s a self-quarantine random episode! 🤣 This episode is about what to do when someone you’re “situationing” (non-exclusivity) tries to ask if you’re seeing other people, and why neither of you should really be asking each other this to begin with. I also touch on being isolated with toxic family/partners right now, and reverting to toxic old habits during this self-isolation period. Also included : Riffing about cannabis normalization and spiritual benefits of twerking✨👏🏼🤣 HOPE YOU ARE ALL STAYING SAFE & AS POSITIVE AS POSSIBLE RIGHT NOW! I love you! Do you like the show? Let’s connect! Follow me on IG @ashnrowan or codependentnshit or shoot me an email at codependentnshit@gmail.com. ❤️❤️❤️ GOOD REVIEWS AND RATINGS ALWAYS APPRECIATED 🙏🏻💕
Mar 30, 202022:23
WTF is Actually Going On? & Hypersexual Females

WTF is Actually Going On? & Hypersexual Females

Hi Fam! Are you feeling the quarantine blues? Because same. This episode is around feels & triggers with family/anyone/in general in the current times. ALSO - taking a dive into “hyper sexual” females, female sexuality in general, and my personal struggles with my sexuality and healing my shame around it 🔥✨. Do you like the show? Do you need support right now? Let’s connect! Follow me on IG @ashnrowan or codependentnshit or shoot me an email at codependentnshit@gmail.com ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Mar 24, 202027:00
Codependency During a Pandemic
Mar 17, 202017:42
Are You in Fear?
Mar 12, 202011:13
Dating While Healing Codependency
Mar 04, 202037:24
Are You Addicted? And Why?
Feb 26, 202029:09
EMDR Therapy Thus Far

EMDR Therapy Thus Far

This episode is RAW AF AF AF (notice no background music lol) and I recorded it on a whim after my 2nd EMDR session. I felt called to share it with you guys ❤️❤️
Feb 20, 202013:34
Are You Really an “Empath”? Or Are You Just Codependent?
Feb 18, 202023:19
How To Feel Great Being SINGLE & Call in What You Really Want ✨❤️
Feb 11, 202032:26
Vanessa Grace - A Codependency Expert
Feb 04, 202039:08
Why You Shouldn’t Feel Guilty About Your Shitty Ex
Jan 28, 202027:12
Treating Codependency & Realizing The Way it Frames Our Perceptions
Jan 21, 202035:12