Ask An Introvert

Meet Jess. Jess is my client from the group program, Making Friends as an Adult Introvert. Jess shares about her growth and insights on friendship that helped her release the pressure she was putting on herself.

While she prioritizes her roles as a wife and a mom, she found that investing in her friendships:

👀 does not take away from her priorities but rather lets her be more whole

👀 allows her to learn how to receive as a form of vulnerability

👀 helps her let go of neediness and set boundaries to feel confident and safe

There’s more to gain than there is to lose by making friends 🥹

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Meet Brittany. Brittany is my lovely client from the 2nd cohort of the Making Friends group program.

She shares many profound perspectives on friendship in this interview, and my favorite highlight is that working on your friendships now is preventative care.

"Like you're not going to wait till you're older to build like strong bone density. Like when you're like 40, like it's too, it's not that it's too late, but it's a lot harder to like build bone density when you're already at that age, right? So start now. It's going to be worth it. It's like an investment in your future as well because friendships take time to grow." - Brittany

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You’re likely very introspective as an introvert, always in tune with your inner world, but what about with how you spend your resources in the real world?

Time and money audits can help you uncover observations and patterns to inform you of what changes to make in order to get to your dream life.

What does a dream life for introverts look like? There are parallels to draw from everyone’s dream life, but there are two habits I believe introverts can practice to build the foundation for their dream life:

1. Be responsible for protecting your energy
2. Show up in the energy you want to be in so that it comes back to you

Tune in to dive deeper on how this looks when applied to real life and how it plays out in my dream life :)

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There are 3 life principles introverts need to adopt in order to lead their lives in a way that works for them and get started on their dream life.

Listen to this episode to find out what they are and how to apply them to your life in 2024.

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I’m wrapping up the debut season of Ask an Introvert. In this finale, I will candidly review my 2023, exploring my lowlights and highlights.

This practice of acknowledging ourselves for where we are right now is key to fostering self-respect, boundaries, and standards, skills I believe all introverts need to live the life they want.

Check out my Instagram posts to see my lowlights and highlights at a glance:

• Lowlights: https://www.instagram.com/p/C0vJ-VHL1vf/
• Highlights: https://www.instagram.com/p/C1Bl7U5OOy1/
  

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If you relate to the following questions, this is an episode you’ll want to grab some pen and paper for:

• “What should I do if I don’t like who I am around my friends?”
• “How do I handle old friends who reach out but then treat me weirdly?”

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Meet Syed, a friend I met through Asians in Advertising and went on collective journey of personal and professional development with through the Future Asian Leaders coaching program.

In this episode, we talk about being internet friends, friendships with humans and non-humans, navigating workplace friendships, and the concept of "nepo-friends."

Syed shares his thoughts on what makes true-quality friends. Tune in to listen :)

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Work With Jennifer

The Making Friends As An (Adult) Introvert Group Course: A 3-month group container where you can learn and get coached on everything that comes up when making friends, from building new friendships to improving mediocre ones and all the in-betweens like navigating social anxiety, loneliness, rejection, conflict, and disagreements.

The Take Root Private Coaching Program: A 3-month program designed for introverts to build skills and complete a life project, such as making friends or speaking up at work. In Take Root, you'll know your exact next steps towards leading the life you actually want to live, not the fake extrovert life you've been told to have.

Without the friendships we want and need in our lives, it can feel really lonely.

Meet Cheryl, who grappled with loneliness as a prominent feeling throughout the majority of her life.

In this episode, we share our takes on how cultivating close friends on the Internet has helped us feel less lonely as we create supportive and loving friendships.

So much is possible with all the options and tools we have to make friends!

Tune in to hear Cheryl's stories and thoughts :)

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Work With Jennifer

The Making Friends As An (Adult) Introvert Group Course: A 3-month group container where you can learn and get coached on everything that comes up when making friends, from building new friendships to improving mediocre ones and all the in-betweens like navigating social anxiety, loneliness, rejection, conflict, and disagreements.

The Take Root Private Coaching Program: A 3-month program designed for introverts to build skills and complete a life project, such as making friends or speaking up at work. In Take Root, you'll know your exact next steps towards leading the life you actually want to live, not the fake extrovert life you've been told to have.

Meet Rae, the first extrovert that comes to my mind when anyone asks!

We didn't start out as friends, and while we both respect each other, neither of us expected that we would become friends. Now we travel together and have met up in Asia and in the US!

In this episode, Rae shares tips for navigating difficult feelings and conversations that can come up in friendships.

Also - what does an extrovert do when they meet someone more extroverted than them?

Tune in to hear Rae's story :)

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Work With Jennifer

The Making Friends As An (Adult) Introvert Group Course: A 3-month group container where you can learn and get coached on everything that comes up when making friends, from building new friendships to improving mediocre ones and all the in-betweens like navigating social anxiety, loneliness, rejection, conflict, and disagreements.

The Take Root Private Coaching Program: A 3-month program designed for introverts to build skills and complete a life project, such as making friends or speaking up at work. In Take Root, you'll know your exact next steps towards leading the life you actually want to live, not the fake extrovert life you've been told to have.

What makes a good friendship? What do you need?

Meet Lilian, one of my friends I haven't met IRL yet. We were in each other's internet orbits for a while before we really go to know each other.

In this episode, we talk about genuine connections, what makes a good friendship, the kinds of friends we feel have saved us, our first memories of each other, and what we think it would look like for us to meet in person.

We also share some secrets and things we kept from our friends because we hadn't yet learned to accept ourselves for them.

Tune in for a cozy chat 💚

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Work With Jennifer

The Making Friends As An (Adult) Introvert Group Course: A 3-month group container where you can learn and get coached on everything that comes up when making friends, from building new friendships to improving mediocre ones and all the in-betweens like navigating social anxiety, loneliness, rejection, conflict, and disagreements.

The Take Root Private Coaching Program: A 3-month program designed for introverts to build skills and complete a life project, such as making friends or speaking up at work. In Take Root, you'll know your exact next steps towards leading the life you actually want to live, not the fake extrovert life you've been told to have.

Some friends feel like siblings. Meet Reiko. To me, Reiko is my travel sister, older sister, and so much more.

We met online; we both joined the same program with same goal to own our voices and elevate our speaking skills.

And we were both intimidated by each other LOL

Listen in for a glimpse into our dynamic and friendship lessons from Reiko :)

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Work With Jennifer

The Making Friends As An (Adult) Introvert Group Course: A 3-month group container where you can learn and get coached on everything that comes up when making friends, from building new friendships to improving mediocre ones and all the in-betweens like navigating social anxiety, loneliness, rejection, conflict, and disagreements.

The Take Root Private Coaching Program: A 3-month program designed for introverts to build skills and complete a life project, such as making friends or speaking up at work. In Take Root, you'll know your exact next steps towards leading the life you actually want to live, not the fake extrovert life you've been told to have.

We often celebrate friends who've been with us through the decades, but what about friends who are decades apart?

Meet Sharon, my friend of almost 10 years, who's 30 years older. We are different in age, ethnicity, upbringing, lifestyle, and more, yet we play very important roles in each other's lives.

Listen in for a glimpse into our friendship and lessons on friendship from Sharon :)

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Work With Jennifer

The Making Friends As An (Adult) Introvert Group Course: A 3-month group container where you can learn and get coached on everything that comes up when making friends, from building new friendships to improving mediocre ones and all the in-betweens like navigating social anxiety, loneliness, rejection, conflict, and disagreements.

The Take Root Private Coaching Program: A 3-month program designed for introverts to build skills and complete a life project, such as making friends or speaking up at work. In Take Root, you'll know your exact next steps towards leading the life you actually want to live, not the fake extrovert life you've been told to have.

Get to know Jennifer in this episode as she answers questions from her Instagram community. Ten questions span four categories: personality, life, speaking up, and work.

Questions & Timestamps:

Personality

• (01:16) You seem pretty extroverted to me. Are you pretending to be an introvert?
• (03:52) Why are you so insightful?

Life

• (05:28) How do you have so many friends in Singapore?
• (07:32) Photo shoots! Who what when where why how???
• (16:48) Where are you traveling next?
• (18:55) Matcha or hojicha?

Speaking Up

• (19:41) How do you have something to say every day?
• (21:49) What if I mess up when I speak?

Work

• (23:22) How do you align your personal brand with your professional brand (at work)?
• (27:09) I freeze up whenever I want to say something in a meeting at work. How do I get past this?

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Work With Jennifer

The Making Friends As An (Adult) Introvert Group Course: A 3-month group container where you can learn and get coached on everything that comes up when making friends, from building new friendships to improving mediocre ones and all the in-betweens like navigating social anxiety, loneliness, rejection, conflict, and disagreements.

The Take Root Private Coaching Program: A 3-month program designed for introverts to build skills and complete a life project, such as making friends or speaking up at work. In Take Root, you'll know your exact next steps towards leading the life you actually want to live, not the fake extrovert life you've been told to have.

Ever wondered, "Do I need a life coach?"

You get to decide.

How can life coaching help you? What makes it different from career coaching or basketball coaching?

This one is for anyone who has ever wondered what a life coach does for people, and especially, what kind of life coach is Jennifer? Listen in to hear Jennifer's take on how the coach-client relationship is a space where we get to have someone who's always holding us in the highest regard, how she holds space for her clients, and how to work together in a group container and 1:1 coaching.

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The Making Friends As An (Adult) Introvert Group Course: A 3-month group container where you can learn and get coached on everything that comes up when making friends, from building new friendships to improving mediocre ones and all the in-betweens like navigating social anxiety, loneliness, rejection, conflict, and disagreements.

The Take Root Private Coaching Program: A 3-month program designed for introverts to build skills and complete a life project, such as making friends or speaking up at work. In Take Root, you'll know your exact next steps towards leading the life you actually want to live, not the fake extrovert life you've been told to have.

How and why should introverts develop their voice and visibility?

This one is for all of you introverts who wish people would just say things the way you do. You know that what you have to say can make an impact, but you're holding yourself back from representing your own thoughts and ideas. Listen to learn what voice and visibility mean to me and how you can change your personal narratives and challenge your current mindset in order to use your voice and be visible 🌱

If you’re excited about the future of this podcast as much as I am, I have a few favors to ask of you:

1. Subscribe.
2. Leave a review.
3. Screenshot this and share it on your socials.

I would appreciate any and all of those so much.

And as always, remember that being introverted isn't something to overcome. It's something to love. It's okay to be introverted and to be you 💚

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The Take Root Private Coaching Program: A 3-month program designed for introverts to build skills and complete a life project, such as making friends or speaking up at work. In Take Root, you’ll know your exact next steps towards leading the life you actually want to live, not the fake extrovert life you’ve been told to have.

Take Root is a safe space for you to stop pretending to be extroverted, stop forcing yourself to fake it to make it, and stop hiding behind a mask just to fit in. Instead, this is where you start being your whole introverted self at work and at home.

Are you okay or are you an introvert? 😱

That’s so much the story of my life, and I want to ask: Is it really not okay or are we made to feel like it's not okay to be introverted or to be okay to be ourselves?

We get to decide! We get to decide what's okay and what's not, and we get to rewrite the rules, standards, and stories so that they work for us.

This one is for all of you introverts who are tired of being told you're not enough or aren't deserving of things because you don't see examples in the world that look like you. Listen to discover the question I use to challenge stories and beliefs I've adopted about myself and an exercise that makes me feel really proud of myself. These might work for you too 🌱

If you’re excited about the future of this podcast as much as I am, I have a few favors to ask of you:

1. Subscribe.
2. Leave a review.
3. Screenshot this and share it on your socials.

I would appreciate any and all of those so much.

And as always, remember that being introverted isn't something to overcome. It's something to love. It's okay to be introverted and to be you 💚

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The Take Root Private Coaching Program: A 3-month program designed for introverts to build skills and complete a life project, such as making friends or speaking up at work. In Take Root, you’ll know your exact next steps towards leading the life you actually want to live, not the fake extrovert life you’ve been told to have.

Take Root is a safe space for you to stop pretending to be extroverted, stop forcing yourself to fake it to make it, and stop hiding behind a mask just to fit in. Instead, this is where you start being your whole introverted self at work and at home.

This week on Ask An Introvert, we talk about how to make friends without feeling like you have to go clubbing. This is for all of you introverts who prefer low-key activities and want to conserve your energy. AND you also want friends. We’ll explore different ways to make connections and build a circle of friends that fits your personality, your lifestyle, and your interests.

• Why do introverts feel like we have to go clubbing to make friends?
• How do I figure out what kind of friends I want to have?
• What do I actually need to do to attract these friends?

If you’re excited about the future of this podcast as much as I am, I have a few favors to ask of you:

1. Subscribe.
2. Leave a review.
3. Screenshot this and share it on your socials.

I would appreciate any and all of those so much.

And as always, remember that being introverted isn't something to overcome. It's something to love. It's okay to be introverted and to be you 💚

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The Take Root Private Coaching Program: A 3-month program designed for introverts to build skills and complete a life project, such as making friends or speaking up at work. In Take Root, you’ll know your exact next steps towards leading the life you actually want to live, not the fake extrovert life you’ve been told to have.

Take Root is a safe space for you to stop pretending to be extroverted, stop forcing yourself to fake it to make it, and stop hiding behind a mask just to fit in. Instead, this is where you start being your whole introverted self at work and at home.

Introducing you to me, my mission, and the purpose of the Ask An Introvert podcast.

If you’re excited about the future of this podcast as much as I am, I have a few favors to ask of you:

1. Subscribe.
2. Leave a review.
3. Screenshot this and share it on your socials.

I would appreciate any and all of those so much.

And as always, remember that being introverted isn't something to overcome. It's something to love. It's okay to be introverted and to be you 💚

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The Take Root Private Coaching Program: A 3-month program designed for introverts to build skills and complete a life project, such as making friends or speaking up at work. In Take Root, you’ll know your exact next steps towards leading the life you actually want to live, not the fake extrovert life you’ve been told to have.

Take Root is a safe space for you to stop pretending to be extroverted, stop forcing yourself to fake it to make it, and stop hiding behind a mask just to fit in. Instead, this is where you start being your whole introverted self at work and at home.