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Aspire and Reach For More

Aspire and Reach For More

By Gessy Martinez, LPC, LCDC

This podcast is all about helping you! Welcome to the Aspire and Reach for More Podcast. I am your host Gessy Martinez, Licensed Professional Counselor & Author of 52 Reasons to Live and several self-help books. This podcast will help you aspire and reach for more in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother and entrepreneur, my goal is to give practical insight to help you lead, launch and live effectively.
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How Do I Deal With Guilt From Accidental Death or Sudden Illness? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Emotions with Gessy M.
How Do I Deal With Guilt From Accidental Death or Sudden Illness? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Emotions with Gessy M.
In this episode we talk about how to deal with the guilt related to loss of loved one.  There are some losses that cause tremendous guilt, accidental deaths and sudden illnesses provoke these feelings. The lack of time to prepare or anticipate the loss adds to the questions about what could have been done to prevent the loss.  Understand the source of the guilt feelings, ask why I am taking responsibility for the loss of life? If you did not intentionally mean to take a life, then the loss of life was not in your control. Close proximity and knowledge of illness, does not make you responsible for the death. The course of the illness in someone else is not in your hands.  You could have done everything possible and death would have happened. You are not responsible for the illness or the cure. Resist allowing survivors guilt to turn into responsibility for the death.  If you struggle with anxiety, loss will heighten your anxious feelings, get help to process the loss. Don't let guilt, shame or remorse rob you of grieving your loved one. Don't let guilt rob you or take away your sleep, hope for the future, the ability to grieve. Grieve your loved one in a way to produce meaning and action. Work is not all the temptation to keep rehearsing the ways to have changed the outcome. Rehearsing the pain and punishing yourself will increase the emotional pain. Anxiety will come and thoughts of "will this happen again". This is a natural question.  If you are getting stuck in this thought pattern, seek the help of a counselor or professional to work through the anxious thoughts and feelings. Allow yourself to feel the feelings Allow yourself to not hold responsibility for something beyond your control Allow yourself to hold what is helpful in grief and release what is not Allow yourself to be loved, cared for, forgiven and see yourself the way those in your corner see you. They see you through the eyes of love and grace. When guilt feelings rise up: Remind yourself of all the things you did right.  Remind yourself of the ways you added to their life. --------------end of show notes, for full blog post visit www.aspireandreachforemore.com  This podcast will help you aspire and reach for more in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233. View our videos https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS! Find us on: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) View our videos: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg 2) SHOP OUR STORE with merch to help you feel and look good: Amazon https://www.amazon.com/s?rh=n%3A7141123011%2Cp_4%3ABetter+Happier+Life&ref=bl_sl_s_ap_web_7141123011 Teespring: https://better-happier-life-3.creator-spring.com/ 3) BOOKS to help you lead, launch and live effectively https://www.amazon.com/Gessy-Martinez/e/B07G4SBZQC%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_sharehttp://
13:07
January 12, 2023
How Can I Stop Feeling Like a Fraud or Imposter In My New Role? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Goals with Gessy M.
How Can I Stop Feeling Like a Fraud or Imposter In My New Role? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Goals with Gessy M.
In this episode we talk about how to conquer the imposter syndrome and stop feeling like a fraud. If you ever started something new, a job, role, a business you have experienced this feeling. It is a natural part taking on a new role or challenge. Listen for more tips on how to conquer these feelings of anxiety and uncertainty. When you are feeling unprepared, worried and like you don't belong, remember some of these tips:  i) Feeling unprepared, not ready, intimated in a new position or role is natural. ii) Choose to let go of feeling like a fraud, continuing to doubt and fear become exposed helping to increase your anxiety and worry. Make a conscious decision to release the negative though each time it comes into your mind. Notice in time the thought will come less and less.  iii) Decide to not allow anyone to make you feel like you don't fit or belong. iv) Are you wondering do I belong here? Yes, this is the role you were equipped for and you belong here.  v) Conquer this feeling to enjoy your life more. vi) You have earned your place, your opportunity, the right to be where you are. vii) Fill the gap between where you are and where you think you should be. Add time, experience to trusting your training and instinct. Grow in the gap, between who you are and who you want to become. This is where you grow into the role. viii) Become excited about the adventure, this is the opposite for worry, fear or dread. Reduce the anxiety and the doubt that keeps you hidden in the background, by looking forward to what you will learn and become in this new role.  ---------------end of show notes, for full blog post visit www.aspireandreachforemore.com  This podcast will help you aspire and reach for more in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233. View our videos https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS! Find us on: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) View our videos: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg 2) SHOP OUR STORE with merch to help you feel and look good: Amazon https://www.amazon.com/s?rh=n%3A7141123011%2Cp_4%3ABetter+Happier+Life&ref=bl_sl_s_ap_web_7141123011 Teespring: https://better-happier-life-3.creator-spring.com/ 3) BOOKS to help you lead, launch and live effectively https://www.amazon.com/Gessy-Martinez/e/B07G4SBZQC%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_sharehttp://
11:40
January 11, 2023
Sleep and Grief: Why do I Awake up Crying? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Emotions with Gessy M.
Sleep and Grief: Why do I Awake up Crying? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Emotions with Gessy M.
This episodes covers some of the reasons you may wake up crying. During the process of grieving, becoming tearful is an expected reaction. When you wake up crying in your sleep this can be a starling and worrisome. The expression of sadness through tears is natural, although stress provoking. For some people waking up with tears can produce greater anxiety. If you are wondering why, or how to change this episode discusses some possible causes. Stress of loss Loneliness of grief Missing your loved one Trauma experienced in loss Waking up from a good or pleasant dream of a loved one and realizing they are not there Memories leading to experiencing loss all over again Dream of the loss in your sleep provoking a physical response If you are wondering, should I worry about it? If it continues over a two-week period, get help; this can be part of the signs of depression. If grief, has you afraid to go to sleep, get counseling or join a grief group to process the loss and the anxiety created around loss. The problem with sleep can change over time. ---------------end of show notes, for full blog post visit www.aspireandreachforemore.com This podcast will help you aspire and reach for more in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233. View our videos https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS! Find us on: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) View our videos: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg 2) SHOP OUR STORE with merch to help you feel and look good: Amazon https://www.amazon.com/s?rh=n%3A7141123011%2Cp_4%3ABetter+Happier+Life&ref=bl_sl_s_ap_web_7141123011 Teespring: https://better-happier-life-3.creator-spring.com/ 3) BOOKS to help you lead, launch and live effectively https://www.amazon.com/Gessy-Martinez/e/B07G4SBZQC%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_sharehttp://
15:04
July 13, 2022
How Do I Protect My Emotions in Uncomfortable Situations? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Emotions with Gessy M
How Do I Protect My Emotions in Uncomfortable Situations? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Emotions with Gessy M
This episode will talk about developing am emotional protection plan in three steps. If you have an upcoming situation where you are going to be with someone you don't like, care for or get along with these tips can be helpful.  1) Have Boundaries- Build a fence, not a wall, around what you want to protect. A fence low enough to talk over and connect with others but sturdy enough for them to know this is where your line begins, and theirs end. That fence should allow you to control what comes into your life, your mind, and your heart. Emotional safety is not about isolation or fear; it’s about clear and defined boundaries that allow you to be who you are and the other person to be who they are but not violate, manipulate or walk all over your feelings.  2) Don’t take on what belongs to someone else- When someone is in pain, fearful, or insecure, they can become hurtful and lash out with their words and actions. Be careful not to let their issues become yours. The old saying “misery loves company” is true when people are in pain. They want you to take away their pain, help them suppress it, or feel it just as intensely as they do. When this takes place, the one you are trying to help could turn and lash out at you, wanting you to feel how they feel. Instead of building empathy, they build anger and resentment. You try and demonstrate understanding; you may even try to help them solve the problem, but rather, they bring you into their misery, and their expression of hurt and pain ends up wounding you. 3) Honor and remember what is true. When someone is in crisis or has experienced trauma, many emotions and thoughts happen simultaneously. Some more destructive thoughts and feelings can circle the mind so much that the person becomes stuck. With crisis or trauma comes the other two companions called pain and confusion. Protecting yourself in an emotionally charged or confusing situation starts with reminding yourself of the truth and refusing to accept lies, shame, misplaced guilt, false accusations and other emotional charged and destructive words or behaviors. To become unstuck, remember the truth and walk out of the confusion into a balanced place.  -------End of Episode notes ----------------------For the full article or more information visit www.aspireandreachformore.com This podcast will help you Aspire and Reach for More in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233 Next Steps https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/
10:17
June 30, 2022
When is staying in a relationship for benefits unhealthy? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Relationships with Gessy M.
When is staying in a relationship for benefits unhealthy? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Relationships with Gessy M.
When you married, was it the start of joining together? Coming together happened slowly and naturally. Families came together, and friends, accounts and assets were now tied together. As you consider separating, everything blended together is up for evaluation. You are wondering, "can I live without this?" Struggling to figure out how things will divide. Separating can be fast or very slow, unnatural, and painful. What if I lose the house? Who will get the kids? Where will they live? How much will it cost to start over? Who will get the dogs? What about that expensive furniture? The car that was given to me by my deceased mother, can he claim it? Examine the things to decide if it's worth staying? Prioritize what is important to you and why? What does the items symbolize? How long are you willing to fight for these things? If you are holding on to things to bring people or memories with you, decide do you need this? Yes, pain leading to spitefulness can take many forms. If you are thinking, no one argues over little things or broken things. Couples have fought over keeping or not talking to friends they have in common. They argue over pictures, appliances, exercise equipment, cars, tool, timeshares, and concert tickets. The longer you fight over splitting items, the more the divorce may cost you. Your argument over the who gets the $50 microwave may cost you $500 in extra lawyer's fees. Decide what the things are worth to you before approaching what you want to leave with, when deciding if the marriage is worth staying for the benefits. Ask how much is your time, sense of well being worth? Are you putting a price tag on your freedom because of your refusal to let go of stuff? Staying in a unhealthy relationship because of the benefits only will take a toll on your wellbeing. If this is the only reason you are staying married, there will be difficulties down the road. This will come from discontentment and feeling stuck. When you enjoy the perks or items from the marriage, things will feel good. When arguments or betrayal continue to happen, you will be in the same place you are now. Wondering, "is this worth it? The longer you stay, the harder it will be to decide if leaving is still worth it. This does not mean run for the door now. It is a reminder that if you don't work on healing the marriage and "stay for the stuff", leaving will not get easier with time. -------End of Episode notes ----------------------For the full article visit www.aspireandreachformore.com  This podcast will help you Aspire and Reach for More in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233  Next Steps https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/
08:33
June 22, 2022
Is Forgiveness Possible When You Have Hurt Others? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Relationships with Gessy M.
Is Forgiveness Possible When You Have Hurt Others? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Relationships with Gessy M.
In this episode we explore the concept of forgiveness. Is it possible to forgive yourself and receive forgiveness from those you hurt.  This episode seeks to provide hope for change through the application of forgiveness to yourself and others. You can be forgiven. You can make up for the hurt and learn to forgive yourself. Even if someone you’ve hurt doesn’t want to have anything to do with you, you can help others who’ve been hurt.  Similarly, you can teach others how not to get damaged the same way. You can tell the truth and prevent future pain and suffering. Sometimes the best person to advise someone what not to do is a person who’s done it, had a negative outcome, and now feels the impact of their decisions on others. A simple example of this would be a bully who has realized the effect their behaviors and words had on others, and now advocates for others and teaches young people how to deal with or fight against bullying. Know what you’re capable of, because after you’ve done the healing work to get better, you’re changed — and can help other people who’ve struggled with the same issues. Receiving forgiveness from those we’ve hurt can be the first step to healing those relationships.  Forgiving yourself after failing repeatedly becomes more difficult each time. The first step is accepting that you’re human and will make mistakes some significant failures or choices and others less so. ------------------End of Episode notes ----------------------For the full article visit www.aspireandreachformore.com This podcast will help you Aspire and Reach for More in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233 HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS! Find us on social media outlets: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) VIEW OUR VIDEOS: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg
07:28
June 15, 2022
How do I Stay Consistent? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Goals with Gessy M.
How do I Stay Consistent? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Goals with Gessy M.
This episode will give you tips on being consistent in achieving your goals.  Have your goal tied to something meaningful, worthy of getting out of bed and worthy of making sacrifices.  Adjust your priorities and routines to support the main goal. Get back on track every time your fall off; if you are going steady and you break the streak. Start again, quickly! Have an accountability partner who keeps you accountable, not one that simply agrees with you.  Check your emotions and the limiting beliefs you have about yourself. Challenge those beliefs with the truth.  Limiting belief are thoughts which stop or delay your ability to take positive actions. These thoughts promote an negative or limited perspective on your abilities, and self worth. These thoughts are strong rooted in negative experiences and biases formed by yourself, others, past experiences and or fears.   I am not.. I can't.... I could never.... I tried and failed... To combat the limiting beliefs, its important to  acknowledge it exist. Forgive yourself of the past mistakes and make adjustments to allow yourself to try again.  ---------------end of show notes, for full blog post visit www.aspireandreachforemore.com This podcast will help you aspire and reach for more in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233. View our videos https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS! Find us on: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) View our videos: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg 2) SHOP OUR STORE with merch to help you feel and look good: Amazon https://www.amazon.com/s?rh=n%3A7141123011%2Cp_4%3ABetter+Happier+Life&ref=bl_sl_s_ap_web_7141123011 Teespring: https://better-happier-life-3.creator-spring.com/ 3) BOOKS to help you lead, launch and live effectively https://www.amazon.com/Gessy-Martinez/e/B07G4SBZQC%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_sharehttp://
14:30
June 02, 2022
How Can I Make Money As A Weekend Entrepreneur? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Dreams with Gessy M.
How Can I Make Money As A Weekend Entrepreneur? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Dreams with Gessy M.
For many of us, we have an idea, goal, dream, but we're not sure how to achieve that goal or dream. We're not always confident about the way to bring it to life. We compare our goals and dreams to other people. When you look around and see other people being successful, other people pursuing their passions, you may question, Can I do that? Have you dreamed of becoming a weekend entrepreneur but are unsure what you're supposed to do?  Watching other people succeed at putting their talents to work; you also question, "is my talent or gift good enough?". This is one of the reasons we stop or get in our own way, comparison. If there's something that you want to do, start by appreciating what you bring to the table—enjoying your own gifts and ability to make something happen. Express your creative work in a very different way from somebody else's. As you start to appreciate and value your gifts and talents, you increase in that gift. Give yourselves the ability to acknowledge that we have something to offer and look at it as if somebody else will be interested in what you offer.  Start thinking of using that gift or talent to help you make money. To help elevate in your career and pursue your ultimate goal. If you want to start something special, work in a field you love or discover the area of your gifting. Start looking within and ask yourself, "what do I know, what can I teach, what can I offer to other people that they would need or appreciate?". It doesn't have to be something spectacular; it can be a simple skill; because somebody else doesn't have it, they're willing to either pay you to teach them that skill or pay to appreciate what you created. In the book The Weekend Entrepreneur, are questions to help you find ways to earn extra money. Questions for example:  What's the area that I'm gifted in? What can I offer the world? Suppose you're someone who's very familiar with a particular subject area that you have expertise in. In that case, you can teach, you don't have to be the world's best, you don't have to be the most famous, you can just have a skill that somebody else doesn't possess, they want it and therefore you teach it. What are you passionate about, identify the skill or ability that can grow your income today.   ---------------end of show notes, for full blog post visit www.aspireandreachforemore.com  This podcast will help you aspire and reach for more in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233. View our videos https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS! Find us on: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) View our videos: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg 2) SHOP OUR STORE with merch to help you feel and look good: Amazon https://www.amazon.com/s?rh=n%3A7141123011%2Cp_4%3ABetter+Happier+Life&ref=bl_sl_s_ap_web_7141123011 Teespring: https://better-happier-life-3.creator-spring.com/ 3) BOOKS to help you lead, launch and live effectively https://www.amazon.com/Gessy-Martinez/e/B07G4SBZQC%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_sharehttp://
15:23
May 25, 2022
How do I Stop Being Lazy? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Goals with Gessy M.
How do I Stop Being Lazy? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Goals with Gessy M.
I want to talk to you today about getting clear about your goals and dreams. If you feel that there's something that you're supposed to be doing, but you're not exactly sure how. You're unclear, too many ideas and thoughts, and unsure of where to start. It's impacting your ability to feel motivated. Start with increasing motivation and next get clarity on achieving your goals. Starting a business or following your dreams, we first have to deal with motivation. That is the thing that ignites the fire for you to start moving in the direction of your goals and dreams. If you're someone labeled as lazy, we're going to deal with that first. Maybe you're not lazy, maybe you're just misunderstood. I'll give you an example. If you're sitting in a room, and you're told to complete math problems, this room is small, and you're just there by yourself, left with these math problems that you're supposed to complete. You proceed to try to complete the math problems, but you find that you're doing it slowly or not at all. Are you lazy, or did someone forget to ask you the right question? The right question might have been: Does this person like math? Does this person understand math? Is this person interested in math? Often we are not asked the right question to assess if this thing that we're being told to do is the right fit. If we understand what we're asked to do, we could accomplish the goal. When the goal does not fit the person, or the task is not completed. People rush to label and say, well, that person was lazy.   Maybe they're not lazy, but the thing that they were told to do is not an area of strength. Therefore, they don't perform it in the same way, as someone who's dedicated, disciplined, or strong in that area would perform. Lastly, I want you to consider that if you ask someone to do something that doesn't have value to them, they're not going to do it with the same intensity and urgency level that someone else might accomplish that task. Intensity, urgency and enthusiasm have a lot to do with the person's value. Their ability to complete a task in the way that other people expect it. If the phrase “being lazy,” has been used towards you most of your life,  then when you go to try to accomplish your goals and dreams, motivation will be difficult to maintain. It will be difficult to get motivated and then accomplish with that same level of motivation.-------end of show notes, for full blog post visit www.aspireandreachforemore.com -------- This podcast will help you aspire and reach for more in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233. View our videos https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg Find us on: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ SHOP OUR STORE with merch to help you feel and look good: Amazon https://www.amazon.com/s?rh=n%3A7141123011%2Cp_4%3ABetter+Happier+Life&ref=bl_sl_s_ap_web_7141123011 BOOKS to help you lead, launch and live effectively : https://www.amazon.com/Gessy-Martinez/e/B07G4SBZQC%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_sharehttp://
13:48
May 19, 2022
How Do I Heal When My Energy is Low? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Emotions with Gessy M.
How Do I Heal When My Energy is Low? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Emotions with Gessy M.
There are times in your life where you energy is low due to stress, pain or grief. If you are trying to heal your emotions, it can feel impossible. There are times when your energy is going to feel like your cell phone battery. It's run so low; it just shuts down. Now like your cell phone, when the screen is off, you have to wait until it completely gets a good charge in order for you to turn it back on and be able to use it. Sometimes that good charge doesn't come for several minutes or several hours. We are like that, trying to find strength and the energy to heal but not getting the full charge required. There are many sources of healing. There are some key things to remember as we go through the healing process. Hope is something that can be depleted and has to be renewed. Hope has to be renewed on a daily, sometimes hourly basis. How do we begin to renew our hope? We start by looking at the little things and being grateful for what remains. Pain and loss is what is about what we don’t have, that person not in our lives any longer. We are looking at all the things that are missing. Someone or something we once took for granted, thinking what was automatic and is no longer available. Renewing hope practices appreciating what is in the present. You will love today, have strength today. Appreciate the small things, for example a person that you cared about called you and checked in on you. Today you may have cried a little less than you did yesterday. We renew hope in small ways. Look at the things that are around you, what we're able to do what we're able to take a hold of, appreciate, find value in and renew your hope. Knowing that if we cried all week, every hour, and then today, only cried once. That is proof you are getting better, hope is growing. One day you will not cry as much, one day the pain is not going to be as painful. The pain of loss will never be fully gone. Love will never be fully gone from your life; the pain will change in intensity. The pain of grief or loss will definitely change in duration. One day won't feel like the sharp, loud, aching, throbbing pain that it is now of loss, it will be a dull pain. One day that pain instead of being at a level 10 will be level one and more manageable. Hope is seeing our future better than it is today. Getting stronger, getting better and healing. -------------------End of Episode notes ----------------------For the full article visit www.aspireandreachformore.com  This podcast will help you Aspire and Reach for More in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233 HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS! Find us on social media outlets: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) VIEW OUR VIDEOS: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg
16:29
May 12, 2022
How do I Manage Grief on Mothers Day? A Message of Encouragement: Aspire and Reach For More with Gessy M.
How do I Manage Grief on Mothers Day? A Message of Encouragement: Aspire and Reach For More with Gessy M.
Sending a special message out to you this Mother's Day. It may be difficult because your mom is not here physically. You will feel alone and struggle to understand what it means to not have your encourager, covering, and wisdom that you need from your mother. You will miss the ability to pick up the phone to call her. The ability stop by the house and see her . There will be a struggle, but there's some things that your mother would want you to know. You are the best thing that ever happened to your mother. Her wish for you is for you,  to live life well. If you're struggling because you've made some mistakes, racked with guilt because you didn't say the right thing. If you ever felt you did not do the right thing before your mother left this Earth? Know that love keeps no records of wrong. Mothers are filled with enough love to forgive, despite your mistakes. It is okay, your mother would want you to know that you've been forgiven. Do not let your mistakes hold you back or rob you of the life that you meant to have. Live free of guilt, free of regret. Although you're physically alone, remember that you are always loved, that love does not expire. Love grows, it changes, it remains.  Your mother has left you in the hands of the one who shaped you. Loves you, created you and knew you even before you were formed in your mother's womb. Even before your mother laid eyes on you, left in the hands of God you have what it takes to make it through the struggles that you're facing now. You have made your mom so proud, by being born. Use every good thing that your mom has taught you. Use her love for you as strength. The things that you know about her character her wisdom the things that she was able to live through to overcome.  Embrace friendships Embrace calling and purpose in your life Remember grace is working through you Remember who you came from and their legacy  Give back to a mother that is alone on Mother's day. Your mother would be proud, may you be encouraged today! --------------------End of Episode notes --------------------------For more visit www.aspireandreachformore.com This podcast will help you Aspire and Reach for More in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233  To find out more about your host visit www.aspireandreachformore.com 
07:40
May 05, 2022
Do I Have What it Takes to Reach My Goals? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Goals with Gessy M.
Do I Have What it Takes to Reach My Goals? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Goals with Gessy M.
This episode is for anyone with a goal that seems difficult or impossible. If you have ever asked the question where do I start and do I have what it takes your answer is in this episode. There are simple principles to remember that can help with any goal. Below is an excerpt from The Weekend Entrepreneur Know You Have What It Takes - In these times, and with the high number of people unemployed or underemployed, many are seeking creative ways to make extra money. Making extra money can help you make ends meet, save money for college, travel, or to pay debts. Extra money can be used to remodel a home, take care of a loved one, or carry you through a period of unemployment or special circumstance. There are many reasons to seek to earn extra money, and there are equally as many ways to go about doing this. Where do I begin? Using the resources at hand Some of us look around and say “I have nothing that could make money.” My rule is that if someone else needs it, then it can make you money. Every physical thing, you have in your possession because at one time or another you needed that item. What do you have in your basement- tons of collectibles, items ripe and ready for a yard sale, or auctioning online? Do you have a computer? Then the possibilities are so much more. Using the resources within All of us are born with everything we will need for life and living. We are born with natural abilities, curiosity and the capacity to learn new things. Therefore, we have an untapped pool within us that can help us not only make a living but live an extraordinary life when properly applied. Within you, there is a God-given ability that will help you make a living and care for your family. This unlimited potential may be already at work in your current 9 to 5, but there may also remain greater potential, untapped abilities, creativity and energy to be used to earn more. --------- End of Episode notes ------- for the full post please visit www.aspireandreachformore.com  This podcast will help you Aspire and Reach for More in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233 To find out more about your host visit www.aspireandreachformore.com  HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS! Find us on social media outlets: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) VIEW OUR VIDEOS: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg 2) SHOP OUR STORE with merch to help you feel and look good at Amazon  https://www.amazon.com/s?rh=n%3A7141123011%2Cp_4%3ABetter+Happier+Life&ref=bl_sl_s_ap_web_7141123011 Teespring: https://better-happier-life-3.creator-spring.com/ 3) BOOKS to help you lead, launch and live effectively https://www.amazon.com/Gessy-Martinez/e/B07G4SBZQC%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_sharehttp://
20:29
May 03, 2022
How do I become happier in life? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Emotions With Gessy M.
How do I become happier in life? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Emotions With Gessy M.
1. Gratitude- appreciating everything because it is not guarantee, this currency for joy give gratefulness I get joy because things. People, events take on meaning and value grows. It is impossible to be grateful and angry at the same time. Where gratitude exist other positive emotions grow, love, thankfulness, appreciation, endearment, happiness. 2. Flexible – expectations can change, look for opportunities instead of focus on limitations. When we are flexible to change our mind and expectations there is little room to stay frustrated. We save time and we can perspective. For 3. Open to change – growing, becoming better., learning about yourself starts with curiosity and develops into knowledge. Wise people are happier, because they have options. With wisdom comes depth, understanding and seeing many sides rather limited view. 4. Healthy Relationships - Created to be in relationships. When you are not accepted by peers, we are hurt. When someone we care about does not love us back we feel rejected. 5. Compassionate- Grows love because it allows in acceptance and feeds kindness to others. A heart of compassion is touched by others. When you are compassionate you make space for another human being to feel cared for. When you are compassion towards yourself you allow healing and love to sink in deep. You give yourself permission to be make mistakes with harsh criticism. It allows you to be a friend to yourself rather than a critic or judge. -------------------- End of Episode notes - -For the complete notes from this episode visit our blog at www.aspireandreachformore.com/blog This podcast will help you Aspire and Reach for More in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233 HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS! Find us on social media outlets: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) VIEW OUR VIDEOS: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg 2) SHOP OUR STORE with merch to help you feel and look good at Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/s?rh=n%3A7141123011%2Cp_4%3ABetter+Happier+Life&ref=bl_sl_s_ap_web_7141123011 3) BOOKS to help you lead, launch and live effectively https://www.amazon.com/Gessy-Martinez/
16:44
April 27, 2022
How Do You Love Yourself? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Relationships with Gessy M.
How Do You Love Yourself? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Relationships with Gessy M.
We don’t always know how to love ourselves. Learning to love yourself involves spending time, getting curious and investing, similar to other relationships in our lives. Loving yourself involves introspection, you have to become curious and interested in yourself. Discovering what makes you laugh, what makes you unique, quirky is part of loving yourself. What motivates you, as well as what drains your energy.  Seeing the value you bring to relationships, knowing what you have to offer others. Do you make people laugh or make them smarter? Do you have the ease to  make others feel comfortable being around you? Do people feel listened to when they are with you? How do you love yourself? Are you the type of person people find easy to be around? Find out what makes you enjoyable to be around. These key characteristics are clues to how you relate and come across to others.  If you think most people don't like being with me, find out what makes people feel challenged by you. There is a strength hidden in there. Knowing who you are- what is your culture, roots, or background? i.e., African American, Haitian, Latino, Latina, Brazilian, Cuban, European, Swedish, Russian. Understanding your culture, history will build a greater appreciation for many of your connections and family members.  The story of the past can help us get strength in tough times. What do you believe in Spirituality? Understanding spiritually the meaning of love. Every major religion has a definition for love, stories about how love is incorporated in daily living. These lessons about love teach us how to respect, honor and identify love in various acts of kindness. In the context of spirituality love can grow our maturity, capacity and connections.  generosity, sacrifice and expressions.  Personal Statements- Things that you hold to be true in life or value statements feeding into your belief system. Negative or faulty personal beliefs can be the cause of feeling lonely or isolated.  -------------------- End of Episode notes - -For the complete notes from this episode visit our blog at www.aspireandreachformore.com/blog This podcast will help you Aspire and Reach for More in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233 HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS! Find us on social media outlets: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) VIEW OUR VIDEOS: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg 2) SHOP OUR STORE with merch to help you feel and look good at Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/s?rh=n%3A7141123011%2Cp_4%3ABetter+Happier+Life&ref=bl_sl_s_ap_web_7141123011 3) BOOKS to help you lead, launch and live effectively https://www.amazon.com/Gessy-Martinez/
12:59
April 26, 2022
How to Prepare and Outlast a Bad Day? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Relationships with Gessy M.
How to Prepare and Outlast a Bad Day? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Relationships with Gessy M.
Do you know what things cause you to get off course? We all have that thing that causes us to get off track; it's waking up late for some. Others, it is arguing with your spouse. Another person it when the boss makes demands first thing in the morning or that jealous friend throws a sarcastic remark. It's the co-work that challenges you down, and from that moment, you are having a bad day. If you are dealing with an illness, a bad day is one where it feels like the illness stole more time from you. A day where you wanted to accomplish something, and you are not successful. A day when you want to forget the pain or diagnosis, but the pain is too great. When you are having a bad day, it only seems to worsen before it gets better. Sometimes that lousy day ends with frustration or a sleepless night. We can prepare for the bad days. · Have a person in mind that you will call when having a bad day. · Choose to forgive your body if you woke up tired, in pain, or not feeling well, and your health prevented you from accomplishing something important · Make a recording that you can listen to for inspiration or a good laugh on a bad day · Have a reset activity plan for when you get off track. Take time out of the bad day to meditate, say a prayer for yourself, to read something motivating or comforting. · On your bad day, treat yourself to a nap; rest can help you rest. Take a nap in the middle of the day, go to bed earlier. In many ways when we rest, we allow our bodies and mind to rest. · Choose to forgive yourself and others for how you reacted on the bad day. · Write down something you look forward to the next day. This will serve as a reminder that your bad day will end and tomorrow you get the chance to start over.  -------------------- End of Episode notes - -For the complete notes from this episode visit our blog at www.aspireandreachformore.com/blog This podcast will help you Aspire and Reach for More in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233 HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS! Find us on social media outlets: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) VIEW OUR VIDEOS: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg 2) SHOP OUR STORE with merch to help you feel and look good at Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/s?rh=n%3A7141123011%2Cp_4%3ABetter+Happier+Life&ref=bl_sl_s_ap_web_7141123011 3) BOOKS to help you lead, launch and live effectively https://www.amazon.com/Gessy-Martinez/
13:14
April 05, 2022
How do I Stop Feeling Empty Inside? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Relationships with Gessy M.
How do I Stop Feeling Empty Inside? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Relationships with Gessy M.
Empty, emotionally drained and not sure how to get full again? Not sure how to feel joy again? Have you ever looked inside your full refrigerator and though I have nothing to eat? Have you sat with a tank full of gas and said "I have nowhere to go"? A house full of electronics, toys, games and stated “I have nothing to do”. Saying to yourself, “I'm so bored I wish there was something fun to do right now”.  Inside with a room full of people and said “I am so lonely, no one loves me”. How can you feel full, if you will not eat? Sometimes the very thing we want is in front of us but we reject it and then wonder we are still hungry. If you are feeling empty, its likely related to an emotional need that is not being met. The need for love, affection, time or attention. This is what it feels like to feel empty, you have what you need but you can't connect with the solution in hand or inside of you. Therefore, you're always looking in some other direction and some other place to get the emotional need met. You might be emotionally numb because you are exhausted, or going through a hard time. When you have dealt with some disappointment, it is likely you resist trusting relationships. Mistrusting, jaded because of the things that have happened to us. We become numb so that we don't get hurt any further. Sometimes mistaken that feeling of being numb for feeling empty. We don't necessarily know what to do to feel full again, to feel hope again. Begin to change the feeling of emptiness by getting connected to other people. Emptiness comes from a lost relationship. Losing a sense of connection with everyone around you.  ------------------------------end of show notes, for full blog post visit www.aspireandreachformore.com Thank you for stopping by….Welcome to the Aspire and Reach for More Podcast. I am your host Gessy Martinez, Licensed Professional Counselor and Author of 52 Reasons to Live and several other self-help and mental well-being books. This podcast will help you aspire and reach for more in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it.  Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233 To find out more about your host visit Aspire and Reach for more.com  HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS!  Find us on: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) View our videos: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg 2) SHOP OUR STORE with merch to help you feel and look good: Amazon  https://www.amazon.com/s?rh=n%3A7141123011%2Cp_4%3ABetter+Happier+Life&ref=bl_sl_s_ap_web_7141123011 Teespring: https://better-happier-life-3.creator-spring.com/ 3) BOOKS to help you lead, launch and live effectively https://www.amazon.com/Gessy-Martinez/e/B07G4SBZQC%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_sharehttp:// Let begin click on the next episode….
12:20
March 30, 2022
How to Stop Communication Sabotage in Relationships: Aspire and Reach for More in Your Relationships with Gessy M.
How to Stop Communication Sabotage in Relationships: Aspire and Reach for More in Your Relationships with Gessy M.
Its hard to have an honest conversation with a weapon pointed at you. This is the analogy of tension and fear that exist when you are attempting to rebuild trust and communication with words as weapons drawn. Someone has to agree to put down the weapons such as hurtful words and have an honest conversation free of fear. Words as a weapon. Stop dominating each other, with words. To change the negative results you have to change the actions taken. Using words that provoke an argument, causes pain or embarrassment to the other person, is an act of domination. You want to win so you strike first with words, phrases that hit hard. Trying to protect yourself and cause your partner to submit by making statements that leave them emotional bruised, is an act of picking up and using a weapon. Perception as a weapon. Choosing to not see your spouse as the problem, instead as a partner in the dream that is your relationship. When we see a problem, we focus on fixing and solving. Stop reminding yourself on reasons to be angry, disappointed and frustrated. Making your eyes a filter to look for reasons to argue and fight. Searching for the evidence your spouse is the reasons for all the problems, then finding words to start an agreement to let then know. Selective hearing as a weapon. Decide to practice hearing what is being said exactly. Not assuming the worst, adding your opinion or changing the context of the conversation. When your husband or wife that disappointed you calls you beautiful, just believe it. When you add words and inferences that was not stated you, you are choosing to fight. Determining the intentions of someone without any proof is allowing flames of falsehood to tear down the relationship. The past failures as a weapon. Reminding your spouse of their past failures over and over is a form of using the mistakes as tool to cause pain. You might think to yourself well it’s causing me pain right now and your statement will be true. Willingness is a requirement for change. If you are saying to yourself “I am willing but they are not”. “I would be willing but not first.” This is not willing, this is stubbornness, pride and fear, masked. To become willing to invest or reinvest in the relationship will require you to prepare and desire to change. --------end of show notes, for full blog post visit www.aspireandreachforemore.com -------- Find us on: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ Thank you for stopping by….Welcome to the Aspire and Reach for More Podcast. I am your host Gessy Martinez, Licensed Professional Counselor and Author of 52 Reasons to Live and several other self-help and mental well-being books. This podcast will help you aspire and reach for more in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233
10:03
March 24, 2022
What to do When You Feel Anxious: Aspire and Reach for More in Your Emotions With Gessy M.
What to do When You Feel Anxious: Aspire and Reach for More in Your Emotions With Gessy M.
When you are feeling anxious, it starts with worry. Worried about negative outcomes, concerned what will happen in the future. Your body becomes tense, experiencing tightness in your physical body, headaches and discomfort. Some people become physically restless, can’t sleep, appetite can increase with a desire for comforting food. Other people experience decreases in appetite because of queasy, or a sour feeling in the stomach. Anxiety can also trigger negative emotions such as fear, insecurities and doubt. The feelings you are experiencing if triggered by something happening around you can be changed. This anticipation of something that may happen is an awareness of a stress producing event, for example potential failure, disappointment or danger. Anxiety will cause you to experience the following: 1. Living in the future and not enjoying the present, because anxiety is about something that may or may not happen that you are trying to control. 2. When we run through all the scenarios in our mind and it can increase feelings of fear. The increase in fear, leads us to try and control the outcome. Running all possible scenarios in your mind over and over increasing stress. 3. Running ahead of the problem by making decisions in the present hoping it will change the outcome. This can cause you to try and manipulate circumstances and people to arrange a situation where you feel protected from the negative results. 4. Fearing failure you procrastinate, and now because of fear and avoidance you feel guilty about what you did not complete or handle in t. Tips for managing anxiety Work on milestones not on timelines. Timelines creates anxiety "I have to or I must" thoughts and feeling of obligation. Remind yourself of the victories in your life. Achieve and take the progress and build, achieve again and now you have two wins under your belt, achieve again. Allow yourself to room to mess up. Give yourself the grace and emotional breathing room needed to make mistakes and learn. Visualize the victory you want to have and feel. When you are anxious about an event decide how you want to feel about before it happens.  -------------------end of show notes, for full blog post visit www.aspireandreachforemore --------Thank you for stopping by….Welcome to the Aspire and Reach for More Podcast. I am your host Gessy Martinez, Licensed Professional Counselor and Author of 52 Reasons to Live and several other self-help and mental well-being books. This podcast will help you aspire and reach for more in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233
12:02
March 22, 2022
How can you tell your spouse has quit the marriage? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Relationships With Gessy M.
How can you tell your spouse has quit the marriage? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Relationships With Gessy M.
How can you tell your spouse has quit the marriage? One day your spouse walks in the bedroom and says, "I want a divorce." You feel like your best friend has left. The two of you used to love spending time together, laughing, talking about what was going on in the world, and now it's silence, short forced conversations, and holding back anything of substance in sharing. You can pinpoint when the break-in communication began, but now it's several years later, and they stopped talking, sharing and the only time you hear laughter is when they are talking to everyone but you. They stop sleeping in the same room. You feel alone, and when you try to connect, they do not reciprocate. They are angry and resentful, unwilling to let you in. You tried to ask for forgiveness and make peace, and they have not or refuse to consider it. The disagreements continue to grow, and no one resolves or talks about them. When you talk about the things that bring you joy, your spouse is not on the list. They are sharing emotionally intimate stories or feelings with someone else. In the same room, yet distant. The relationship is neglected, love-starved. They stop saying positive affirming words and phrases or making loving gestures. There is more silence between you than conversation. All you see are flaws. If all you are looking for are the many ways your spouse has failed you, then that is all      you will see. You feel unattractive and unwanted. You had a feeling something was wrong, rationalized away the signs because you believed it would change, and thought it was just a phase. As you review some ways, a partner can walk out of your life, emotionally and physically, quitting a marriage. When your partner quits on the marriage, you are left with questions and decisions.  ----------end of show notes, for full blog post visit www.aspireandreachforemore.com -------- Find us on: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ Thank you for stopping by….Welcome to the Aspire and Reach for More Podcast. I am your host Gessy Martinez, Licensed Professional Counselor and Author of 52 Reasons to Live and several other self-help and mental well-being books. This podcast will help you aspire and reach for more in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233
08:55
March 09, 2022
Why am I so angry all the time? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Emotions With Gessy M.
Why am I so angry all the time? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Emotions With Gessy M.
Why am I so angry all the time? This episode is to encourage anyone dealing with anger. If your friends or loved ones ask you, why are you so angry all the time? If you are known as the angry one in your family, it is not as simple as it seems. Anger is known as a secondary emotion because the primary emotion is the one you are trying to protect or release instead it shows up as anger. Below are perceptions and reasons underneath the emotions of anger that lead to to negative experiences.  1) You see life as a fight. 2) Other people have hurt and betrayed you in the past. 3) Friends or family have taken advantage of you in relationships. 4) You are overly sensitive; you see and feel what others can’t or ignore, therefore easily frustrated.  5) You are prepared for others not to like you and become defensive.  6) You have not forgiven the ones who hurt you and carry the hurt.  7) You are not expressing yourself in a way others can understand leading to frustration.  8) Afraid of pain and trying to avoid it. 9) Ashamed and feeling like others may find out. 10) Guilt has you tied in knots and secrets have you weigh down. 11) Overthinking and worry leading to irritability. Tips to help with managing emotions of anger 1) Understanding why you get angry allows you to take the first step to control your anger. 2) Recognize the offense or trigger that leave you frustrated.  3) Choose to not give into the anger, allow yourself time to change your thoughts.  4) Instead of letting the thoughts about the offense grow, choose to distract yourself and find reasons to not allow the anger to build. 5) Practice letting the offense go, practice extending grace, forgiveness and understanding. 6) Separate yourself from the source of the anger, person, place or thing long enough to make health decisions about the issues. 7) Choose to solve the issues constructively instead of getting revenge or saving face. ---------------end of show notes, for full blog post visit www.aspireandreachforemore.com --------  This podcast will help you aspire and reach for more in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233. View our videos https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS! Find us on: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) View our videos: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg 2) SHOP OUR STORE with merch to help you feel and look good: Amazon https://www.amazon.com/s?rh=n%3A7141123011%2Cp_4%3ABetter+Happier+Life&ref=bl_sl_s_ap_web_7141123011 Teespring: https://better-happier-life-3.creator-spring.com/ 3) BOOKS to help you lead, launch and live effectively https://www.amazon.com/Gessy-Martinez/e/B07G4SBZQC%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_sharehttp:// Let begin click on the next episode….
19:42
March 09, 2022
Do I Have a Purpose? There’s a Job, Mission, Role That Only You Can Fulfill: Aspire and Reach for More in Your Goals With Gessy M.
Do I Have a Purpose? There’s a Job, Mission, Role That Only You Can Fulfill: Aspire and Reach for More in Your Goals With Gessy M.
Do I Have a Purpose? There’s a job, a mission, and a role that only you can fulfill. No one else can do the job, deliver the product, say the words, or touch another life the way you can. You fill three essential aspects: working a job, having a mission, and filling a role. Let’s clarify some definitions going forward. Job: a task or piece of work that you’re paid or compensated for performing or completing. Mission: what you were born to do, how you’ll impact the world or community. Role: a description of your position based on responsibility and/or relationship to others. There’s a reason you’re not happy right now with your job or your position. Some of the restlessness or disappointment you’ve felt related to work may signify that it’s time to do something different. Look at creating or finding your calling as a way to get more out of both work and life. You start by asking questions like: What do I get excited talking about, and could speak forever about? What makes me happy when I’m doing it? What’s something I’ve done in the past that’s given me the greatest satisfaction? What are the things I value in my life? What issues am I passionate about defending? What would I choose if there were something in this world that I could change, get rid of, or add? There’s a unique position, a unique calling that only you can fulfill. Everything about you — your experiences, likes, and handicaps — is useful in talking, encouraging, and helping others like yourself. Your uniqueness can help another person in a tough time in their lives. Everyone needs connections. This is how we learn about ourselves, by interacting with others. You have something that others want to connect with, and it's how you’re different that makes you unique and rare. ----------end of show notes, for full blog post visit www.aspireandreachforemore.com -------- Find us on: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ This podcast will help you aspire and reach for more in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233. View our videos https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg
08:59
March 01, 2022
When is it Time to Let Go of a Friend? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Relationships with Gessy M.
When is it Time to Let Go of a Friend? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Relationships with Gessy M.
Wondering should I continue this friendship? Do you have a friend that you're wondering should I continue this relationship or is it time for me to let go of this relationship? When is the best time to let go of a friend? When is it necessary? What are the reasons to let go of a friend? Let's start betrayal, when someone betrays your trust is difficult to recover. You may naturally become more guarded or reserved. And you might be thinking “well they betrayed me once what would stop them from betraying me again”. The betrayal can be in something big or something small;  betraying you by sharing a personal story that no one else should know or have the right to know. You felt comfortable enough to trust and tell your friend and now that they've relayed to somebody else; you feel like your trust was violated. This changes your  ability to just be yourself. Sharing secrets with this friend is compromised. The relationship changed the way you once were is different. Now when you're with your friend you're choosing your words, choosing how much you share and guarded. The relationship is not honest because that person may be the same person they've always been but something about you has changed. Reasons you are considering letting go of the friendship  Betrayal of trust and they did not keep your secrets.  Friend will not grow with you, they downplay your growth or success.  Negative influence, you keep being pulled into negative behaviors.  Manipulation, not having the freedom to choose differently. Jealous of your friendship with other people. Too many demands placed on the relationship, consuming all the time with you. Dread seeing the person, being with them has become difficult and exhausting. Distance, the relationship is hard to maintain and silently grew apart. Stop sharing and learning about each other as you both have changed. ----------end of show notes, for full blog post visit www.aspireandreachforemore.com -------- Find us on: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ This podcast will help you aspire and reach for more in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911.  National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233. View our videos https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg
18:10
March 01, 2022
How To Manage Emotions After a Miscarriage? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Life with Gessy M.
How To Manage Emotions After a Miscarriage? Aspire and Reach for More in Your Life with Gessy M.
How To Manage Emotions After a Miscarriage? Loss of your child, miscarriage, pregnancy loss is all titles for describing the pain of an empty womb. You are already familiar with the many emotions spinning in your heart and thoughts running through your head by listening to this podcast. Emotions include numbness, anger, guilt, disbelief, sadness, depression. Resist the desire to place blame. When the emotions are overwhelming, and you are unsure who to blame, you may blame God, others, and later yourself. Get with a good licensed therapist to help you work through your emotions. Some of the thoughts driving the emotions a you are feeling can sound like the list below: · Embarrassment- this emotion arises because you hoped, believed, the pregnancy would last. If this is your second miscarriage or you have experienced multiple miscarriages, you may feel embarrassed to share what has taken place with others. · Feeling like something is wrong with you, trying to understand why you could not carry the baby to full term. This is a lie that something is wrong with you as a person, a mother or a father. The loss is related to the body, not your heart, or who you are as a person. · Cruelty due to the feeling of being robbed of hope.  Thoughts related to having tried so hard, waiting long, and now to have an empty womb is challenging to process and will take time. Get support from other parents who have experienced miscarriage, either face to face support group or virtual. Extend empathy and kindness to yourself and your body. There is a difference between having a medical condition that makes carrying a baby to full term difficult and something wrong with you. Resist blame and trying to figure out what else you could have done. Some women will take the loss and blame themselves. Fathers will carry anger and guilt because they believe they could have done something to prevent it. Guilt because you wonder if your genes, health, or lifestyle played a part. You are searching for answers. Your friends and family may not understand the grieve you feel because they did not carry your baby. They heard of the news; they supported you and shared in your joy. They now share in your pain, uncertainty, and confusion. Not everyone will understand or know what to say. Do not let this rob you of the time and space you need to grieve. You do not need to worry about telling others. You choose when, if or how to explain why you are no longer pregnant. You deserve privacy and time to heal; take that time. Disconnect from social media if it is causing you to feel bad, obligated, or increasing your sadness. ----------end of show notes, for full blog post visit www.aspireandreachforemore.com -------- Find us on: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ This podcast will help you aspire and reach for more in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233.  View our videos https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg
11:11
February 23, 2022
What To Do When You Feel Emotionally Restless: Aspire and Reach for More in Your Life with Gessy M.
What To Do When You Feel Emotionally Restless: Aspire and Reach for More in Your Life with Gessy M.
Today, we focus on what to do when we feel restless. In this episode we will look at what is means to be emotional and physically restless or unsettled and what are some reasons we become restless. We will Aspire and Reach for More in our lives by becoming restful instead of restless. What does look like when someone is restless physically and emotionally When someone is restless, physically you can see it all over them, they look anxious, they are not paying attention. A restless person is edgy, moving from this thing to that, from one activity to another, one idea to the next, they never seem to settle down People who are fidgety or tense, make the people around them feel insecure, and nervous A restless mind is constantly racing, thinking, busy and can lead to not sleeping well Being restless will affect your mental and your physical health. Your mind needs to be able to slow down to process information and make decisions. Your physical body when restless, is in a state of stress, this is difficult to maintain. Your body is releasing adrenaline and cortisol stress hormones. Feeling like you are in a constant emergency state. Emotional Restlessness When you are emotionally restless it feels like being stuck where you are and wanting to be somewhere else. Emotionally restless people are often unhappy, unsettled and can’t explain why. Here are some of the thoughts that occur when you are emotional unsettled. · It’s the feeling that “I am not where I want to be in life” · “I thought I would be doing something else by now” · “I feel like life has passed me by and everyone else is doing better” · “I want fill in the blank ___(the house, car, relationship) now!” · “Why is nothing working” · “When I am here, I want to be some where else, when I get there, I want to be back at the old place. “ · “I switched jobs I am not happy” · “I moved I am still not happy” · “I left a relationship and now I am lonely and not happy” -------------------- End of Episode notes - -For the complete notes from this episode visit our blog at www.aspireandreachformore.com/blog This podcast will help you Aspire and Reach for More in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 / National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233 HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS! Find us on social media outlets: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) VIEW OUR VIDEOS: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg 2) SHOP OUR STORE with merch to help you feel and look good at Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/s?rh=n%3A7141123011%2Cp_4%3ABetter+Happier+Life&ref=bl_sl_s_ap_web_7141123011 3) BOOKS to help you lead, launch and live effectively https://www.amazon.com/Gessy-Martinez/
09:50
February 22, 2022
What To Do When You Feel Emotionally Burned Out: Aspire and Reach For More in Your Emotions with Gessy M.
What To Do When You Feel Emotionally Burned Out: Aspire and Reach For More in Your Emotions with Gessy M.
Today, we will focus on what to do when you feel emotionally burned out. In this episode we will look at what does it feel like to be emotionally burned out? How can you prevent it? Is it too late to recover from it? We will Aspire and Reach for More in our emotions by refusing to give all our time, energy, finances, and peace over to unimportant things. Being emotional burned out is like driving a car with no oil, the oil in the engine allows the metal parts that are sliding and rubbing against each other not to grind down and damage each other. Your engine running without oil will lose power, stall, and get damaged, leading to $1,000 of repair when a $4.00 bottle of oil could have prevented the breakdown.  What does it feel like to be emotionally burnout? You are feeling physically drained  Emotionally you are on edge, becoming impatient with others Feeling nervous, anxious because you might forget to do something important Getting sick often, headaches (symbolic of overthinking), backaches (carrying everyone and everything on your back), stomachaches (anxiety, stress giving you knots in your belly feelings)  Feel like you are sinking because there are too many demands and no one to help you Short-tempered, easily angry even if you don’t show it Trying to avoid people because you are afraid, they will ask you to do more Frustrated because you feel like you can’t ask for help, why, because those can help are busy, those who should help don’t care, and others avoid you altogether You are not enjoying something you worked hard, it brought you excitement, and now it feels like it takes from you more than it gives.  You become resentful because we don’t see how things will change or when the change will come.  For the complete notes from this episode visit our blog at www.aspireandreachformore.com  -----End of Episode notes------ This podcast will help you Aspire and Reach for More in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233 To find out more about your host visit www.aspireandreachformore.com  HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS! Find us on social media outlets: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) VIEW OUR VIDEOS: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg 2) SHOP OUR STORE with merch to help you feel and look good at Amazon  https://www.amazon.com/s?rh=n%3A7141123011%2Cp_4%3ABetter+Happier+Life&ref=bl_sl_s_ap_web_7141123011 Teespring: https://better-happier-life-3.creator-spring.com/ 3) BOOKS to help you lead, launch and live effectively https://www.amazon.com/Gessy-Martinez/e/B07G4SBZQC%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_sharehttp://
14:17
February 16, 2022
What To Do When A Relationship Breaks Up: Aspire and Reach for More in Your Emotions With Gessy M.
What To Do When A Relationship Breaks Up: Aspire and Reach for More in Your Emotions With Gessy M.
Today, we focus on What To Do When A Relationship Breaks Up.   In this episode we will look the emotions that make break-ups difficult, the fears it creates, the questions you may have and what to do next.  We will Aspire and Reach for More in our emotions by choosing to heal from a break-up.  Relationship Break-up - The emotions that make it difficult Sadness – "I miss them more than I thought I would" Denial – "I can't believe this happened to me." Anger – "why did I waste my time." Disbelief – "how did this happen." Rejection – "Why did they not want to be with me." Isolation – "I don't feel like being around anyone because they will ask me about the situation." Embarrassment – "Everyone thought we were a great couple, now what do I say." The fears relationship break-up creates  Abandonment – “Why did they break up with me” Rejection – “They picked someone else over me” Loneliness – “I miss them” Taken advantaged of – “I wish I knew sooner this was not going to work out” The questions relationship break-ups leave you thinking about. Will they move on forget about me? Hoping it could be worked out, wanting to matter to the other person. Will I find someone else? Sometimes we perceive others will not want us because this person did not. It is always going to be this difficult? - That is an unfair judgement, because each relationship is different. Did they real love me or was it a lie? You can keep asking this question and stay stuck or you can choose to believe the relationship for what it was. This will allow you to move through this phase and grieve.  To get the complete notes from the Podcast visit our blog https://www.aspireandreachformore.com/blog -------------------- End of Episode notes -------------------------- This podcast will help you Aspire and Reach for More in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233 To find out more about your host visit www.aspireandreachformore.com  HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS! Find us on social media outlets: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) VIEW OUR VIDEOS: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg 2) SHOP OUR STORE with merch to help you feel and look good at Amazon  https://www.amazon.com/s?rh=n%3A7141123011%2Cp_4%3ABetter+Happier+Life&ref=bl_sl_s_ap_web_7141123011 Teespring: https://better-happier-life-3.creator-spring.com/ 3) BOOKS to help you lead, launch and live effectively https://www.amazon.com/Gessy-Martinez/e/B07G4SBZQC%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_sharehttp://
11:13
February 15, 2022
When we are lied to by someone we care about: Aspire and Reach for More in your emotions with Gessy M.
When we are lied to by someone we care about: Aspire and Reach for More in your emotions with Gessy M.
Today we are focusing on what to do when we are lied to by someone we care about. We will Aspire and Reach for More in our emotions by not accepting lies. Lets look at what it feels like to be lied to and how do most people respond. When you know someone is lying to you, the first question is why. We will cover what some reasons might be and how you can respond to this. The emotions experienced can be the following: · Feeling betrayed · Unsure about the closeness of the relationship · Angry because trust was violated · Disrespected by the person choosing to lie What is your typical response? · Do you speak up and ask questions, clarify? · Do you accuse of lying and never believe them again? · Do you accept it and hope there are no more lies? · Understanding what are the motivations. Why would someone lie to you: · Lying to get what they want from you · Caring more about their needs than your needs · Trying to manipulate your decision or the outcome of situation · The truth is subjective to them and they choose to not see it as a lie What can you do? Create an atmosphere for open communication and remain respectful even when you disagree. Allow your friends and loved ones to tell you the truth without reacting negatively. Ask questions if you feel like someone is lying to you. Trust your instinct and verify with facts.  Be clear about your boundaries and what you will not accept in relationships.  -------------------- End of Episode notes -------------------------- This podcast will help you Aspire and Reach for More in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233 To find out more about your host visit www.aspireandreachformore.com HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS! Find us on social media outlets: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) VIEW OUR VIDEOS: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg 2) SHOP OUR STORE with merch to help you feel and look good at Amazon https://www.amazon.com/s?rh=n%3A7141123011%2Cp_4%3ABetter+Happier+Life&ref=bl_sl_s_ap_web_7141123011 Teespring: https://better-happier-life-3.creator-spring.com/ 3) BOOKS to help you lead, launch and live effectively https://www.amazon.com/Gessy-Martinez/e/B07G4SBZQC%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_sharehttp://
13:20
February 09, 2022
When telling the truth is hard: Aspire and Reach for More in your emotions with Gessy M.
When telling the truth is hard: Aspire and Reach for More in your emotions with Gessy M.
Today we are focusing on how to Aspire and Reach for More in your emotions by stopping the habit of lying. In this episode we talk about how lying can negatively impact emotions and sense of self worth. Beginning with looking at some of the reasons we choose to lie and then highlighting how lying impacts our ability to feel free to be ourselves.  Why we choose to lie: 1. Afraid of consequences, avoid punishment, not wanting the outcome, we tell a lie. Not wanting to deal with negative results we will find a way out of it. 2. Concerned telling the truth may cause others not to help you, determined to get the outcome you want, manipulating others by lying 3. Avoid discomfort or displeasure. don't want to deal with something 4. Trying to limit or stop embarrassment by lying; when you need a quick out of a negative situation 5. Private and not trusting others- protect yourself, restrict access 6. Protecting your privacy or making space for yourself by keeping others unfamiliar and at a distance The problem with lying is the effect on your emotions 1. Lying causes you to see a crack in your character 2. Maintaining a lie is exhausting 3. Not having a sense of freedom 4. Managing the lies makes you unavailable in the present moment and to those around you 5. You become uncomfortable because who you believe you are and your actions don't match 6. It can overwhelm your emotions -------------------- End of Episode notes -------------------------- This podcast will help you Aspire and Reach for More in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and an entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Phone: 800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233 To find out more about your host visit www.aspireandreachformore.com  HERE ARE SOME NEXT STEPS! Find us on social media outlets: https://aspireandreachformorellc.carrd.co/ 1) VIEW OUR VIDEOS: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgG_p1-8FX13Fe-LVWD_bxg 2) SHOP OUR STORE with merch to help you feel and look good at Amazon  https://www.amazon.com/s?rh=n%3A7141123011%2Cp_4%3ABetter+Happier+Life&ref=bl_sl_s_ap_web_7141123011 Teespring: https://better-happier-life-3.creator-spring.com/ 3) BOOKS to help you lead, launch and live effectively https://www.amazon.com/Gessy-Martinez/e/B07G4SBZQC%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_sharehttp://
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February 08, 2022
Aspire and Reach for More (Trailer)
Aspire and Reach for More (Trailer)
Thank you for stopping by….Welcome to the Aspire and Reach for More Podcast. I am your host Gessy Martinez, Licensed Professional Counselor and Author of 52 Reasons to Live and several other self-help and mental well-being books. This podcast will help you aspire and reach for more in many facets of your life, covering topics like relationships, mental health, entrepreneurship, and spirituality. As a wife, mother of five, and entrepreneur, my goal is to spend our time together giving practical insight to help bring hope & healing where you need it. Now because you are listening to someone who does this in real life, I have to give the disclaimers: I am a licensed therapist, listening to this podcast does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. This podcast is for inspiration and educational purposes only. If you require mental health services, please contact a local licensed therapist in your area. This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. If you are a current or former patient, please remember that your comments or likes may jeopardize your confidentiality. Please consult your physician or mental health provider regarding advice or support for your health and well-being. If you are in crisis, please call your local 24-hour hotline or 911. National Suicide Prevention Life line is Phone: 800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline is Phone: 800-799-7233 To find out more about your host visit www.aspireandreachformore.com
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February 08, 2022