Aunty, Please!
By Lama & Shaya
Aunty, Please!Apr 21, 2021
when you feel the vagina-owner's legs shaking, DON'T! CHANGE! THE! MOTION!
This week, we are joined by Jasmine from @jasexplains on Instagram! A sex-positive advocate with a focus on our Asian experience, we chat all things sexuality education, being sex-positive advocates not just outwardly but also within our own relationships and what it is like navigating being an advocate in societies that commonly find openly talking about sexuality SO TABOO....
Jasmine also has her own podcast called I Wish Someone Told Me, available on all podcast streaming platforms. You can follow this podcast @iwishthepod on Instagram!
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If you have a broken hard-on, you're about to have a broken HEART!
Welcome back to part 2 of our chat with Dr George Lee! We talk about all things infertility for penis holders, does tight underwear influence your penile health, and how a broken hard-on could mean a looking broken heart.... literally fam, a whole heart attack is coming for you.
Dr George Lee Eng Geap completed his basic degree in Pharmacology from Cambridge University and medical degree at Addenbrookes’ Clinical School of Medicine in Cambridge. He pursued his Surgical Career in Oxford and his Urological training at Imperial College School of Medicine in London. He became a consultant Urologist in the United Kingdom before he was recruited to take on the position as the Associate Professor of Surgery at the University Malaya, Kuala Lumpur. Professor George Lee is currently a Clinical Associate Professor of Surgery at Monash University, Sunway Campus, and Consultant Urological Surgeon from Gleneagles Kuala Lumpur.
Time for some D*ck Housekeeping (!) with Urologist Dr. George
Attention penis owners!! This week, we speak to men's sexual health expert, Dr. George Lee! We discuss all things penile health and care. It's time to make that d*ck appointment but not the one you're thinking of!! Listen in as we answer the most asked question: To circumcise or not to circumcise?!
Dr George Lee Eng Geap completed his basic degree in Pharmacology from Cambridge University, and medical degree at Addenbrookes’ Clinical School of Medicine in Cambridge. He pursued his Surgical Career in Oxford and his Urological training at Imperial College School of Medicine in London. He became a consultant Urologist in the United Kingdom, before he was recruited to take on the position as the Associate Professor of Surgery at University Malaya, Kuala Lumpur.
Professor George Lee is currently a clinical Associate Professor of Surgery at Monash University, Sunway Campus and Consultant Urological Surgeon at Gleneagles Hospital Kuala Lumpur.Professor George Lee has is well known for his dynamic charisma in his regular appearances with BFM radio station, RTM morning program, NTV7 and magazines. His regular Column in Star online has sense of humor in addressing Men’s issues, and his Chinese press column articles compilations have also now become national bestsellers. Dr Lee has a unique style of delivery lectures, which is entertaining, informative and yet educational.
You can follow Dr. George at @doctorgeorgelee on Instagram!
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who run the world??? II HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY 2021
In conjunction with IWD 2021, we recorded an episode discussing what it means to be a woman, who our idols are and how do we celebrate ourselves as women. We also touch on the binary of femininity and masculinity, and the internalised misogyny that we sometimes experience.
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Identity, Finding Community & Definining Masculinity with Naavikaran
*Trigger warning for Queerphobia & Suicide* Wow, wow, wow!! what a conversation we had with Naavi. Shaya and Lama chat to Naavikaran about their experience moving to Australia from India about 5 years ago and the struggle to find community. We discuss the intersections of being a multi-gender trans woman and finding comfort and joy in being alive in this moment. We talk through the stories behind Naavi's latest track 'Closet'. Shaya asks Naavikaran whether masculinity in itself is the problem with our world and if there even is a different way we can define masculinity & femininity for ourselves. Lama also gets to ask our guest questions from OUR AUDIENCE!!! The questions cover finding a sense of belonging as a queer immigrant in Australia, relationships, and whether coming out to South Asian families can be different from our white counterparts. Enjoy!
Naavikaran who is an all-around goddess in the form of a multi-gender trans woman, badass entrepreneur, community educator, organiser, writer, and choreographer from India, based in Meanjin (Brisbane). Their work aims to create platforms for storytelling that are accessible and safe for identities of various intersections and communities.
Naavikaran was named as one of the 30 Under 30 LGBTIQ+ Leaders in Australia by Out For Australia in 2019 for their contributions to the community. As a theatre producer and performer they starred in The Neighbourhood by La Boite Theatre Company, Future Ancestors by Metro Arts Theatre, and Tales From The Colony by The Skin Deep Collective.
Naavikaran is the founder of ruhmantic, a royal chai brand and experience that is aimed to support artists and storytellers of colour. Their latest track 'The Closet' and 'Mansion of Grace' can be found on all streaming platforms, but especially Spotify.
You can find Naavikaran through multiple platforms: Facebook, Instagram, KoFI.
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Chronic Illness, Mental Health, Disability & Spoken Word Poetry with Devika Krishnan
TRIGGER WARNING: mental health, self-harm, disability, chronic illness, depression
Big chats with our latest guest Devika! Listen as she tells us all about her journey with chronic illness and getting a diagnosis, mental health, disability, decolonising our minds and her hilarious story on how she got into poetry and the creative arts!
Devika is an artist, civil engineer and youth mental health advisor who grew up in Meanjin/ Brisbane and lives in Naarm/Melbourne. Her mental health work consists of assisting researchers and clinicians at Orygen to provide inclusive mental health care for the youth. As an artist she's mostly performed as a spoken word poet and was the Australian Poetry Slam nation finalist in 2020!
PS: Would you join her fantasy sex cult? We know we would! Listen for more deets on this!
PPS: Listen for a free spoken word poetry performance by Dev!
You can follow Devika at @devikayy. You can also also her passions at @voices_of_colour and @_orygen_
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how to be the most self-destructive... be lactose intolerant ofc!!!
Are you a self-destructive bish? Don't even lie to us cause we know you are! We all are to some capacity. Listen as we break down our self-sabotaging habits and call ourselves (mostly Shaya) out. Prepare to check yourselves and reflect on your own self-sabotaging ways, don't say we didn't warn you! At Aunty, Please!, we're all about growth so come heal yourselves with us (but for real, if you need therapy/professional help, you should probs go seek that out). Anyway.... Don't forget to follow us on Instagram, Spotify, and Apple iTunes @auntyplease.
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break up with your boyfriend.... cause we're consciously uncoupling!!
Shaya and Lama unpack what it means to them to consciously uncouple, and how they have handled relationships ending in their past versus how they intend to in the future
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Supporting Malaysia's Refugee Community with Women For Refugees (WFR)
This week we talk to Women For Refugees! We are joined by a couple of real Malaysian changemakers, Arissa @arissa_j97 and Davina @davtonofficial to discuss their organisation called @womenforrefugees and the work they do! We discuss some of the biggest barriers refugees in Malaysia experience and how we can overcome them. We also discuss the stigma and harmful stereotypes that are perpetuated and why we should invest in refugees as stakeholders with economic value.If you're keen on volunteering or seeing how you can help/contribute, head over to their Instagram page @womenforrefugees to find out more and follow the amazing work they do!
They are also on Twitter @womenforrefugee and Facebook and LinkedIn at Women For Refugees.
Abortion Rights in Malaysia // SEXY CHATS
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Welcome to Season 2!
We're back!! After taking a break for about a month, we are finally back and blessing your feed with quality content. We've cut straight to the chase and our first episode for 2021 is out! Find out (or don't) about Lama and Shaya's best NYE ever. Listen as Lama yells at her mans, and Shaya takes us through her irrational thinking. We've got plenty of exciting guests and topics to discuss in 2021 so stay tuned!
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2020 Reflections
This is it y'all! Final episode of 2020 from Aunty, Please! We end the year by reflecting on the mess that is 2020 and talk about what we look forward to in 2021. We would also like to take a moment to thank you all for the support since we've started. We've got big plans for 2021 and we're so excited to share them all with you soon! Till then, Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, and Happy New Year!
What Could Comprehensive Sex Ed Look Like? // SEXY CHATS
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CHITTI-CHATS: Racism, Biphobia & The Privilege of Being the Bigger Person with Tarang - Part 2
Trigger warning: This episode discusses experiences of biphobia, homophobia, and violence. Please listen at your own discretion.
Part 2 of our chat with Tarang is OUT! We continue the discussion on biphobia, choosing compassion over hate, and mental health & sexuality. Tarang reveals an unexpected act from his father, the importance of acknowledging and accepting gender and sexual identity, the anxiety of being queer, choosing compassion over hate, and questioning if ignorance is generational. Don't forget to tune in to find out more!! Check out Tarang at @ttarang and do follow us on Instagram @auntyplease. Let us know what you think!!
CHITTI-CHATS: Navigating being a Young Queer Early-Years Teacher in Malaysia with Tarang
Trigger warning: This episode discusses experiences of biphobia, homophobia, and violence. Please listen at your own discretion.
Okay y'all! This is a powerful one! So powerful we had to break it down into two parts! We cover a lot, so try to keep up! Our gem of a guest, Tarang, @ttarang (a dear friend of @natashajlama) had some stories to share and Shaya may or may not have cried...... TWICE! We discuss a range of subtopics within bisexuality, coming out, familial expectations, and teaching in Malaysia as a young, brown, male teacher.
Don't forget to check out Tarang at @ttarang and to follow us on Instagram @auntyplease. The episode is out now on Spotify, Apple iTunes and Anchor! Let us know what you think!!
CHITTI-CHATS: Fatphobia & Fitness with Annette
We often struggle to meet unrealistic expectations on what being healthy looks like for us. We forget that not everyone is the same and that we can't compare ourselves to others. Our guest Annette talks to us about her fitness journey, body dysmorphia, mental & physical health, diet culture, and fatphobia. Listen in to hear about her journey and what we can learn from it.
Don't forget to check out Annette at @annettesoosay or @rawhealthannette and to follow us on Instagram @auntyplease.
how does deepavali, police brutality and gatekeeping intersect?
Deepavali Valthukkal! We hope you've had a wonderful Diwali and ate lots of food and sweets and that you're continuing the festivities wherever you are! We thought it would be fitting that we do an episode on Diwali and what we typically do. We also discuss COVID-19 and how that's affected everyone's celebrations and the recent news on another case of police brutality in Malaysia among the Malaysian-Indian community. We also touch on the gatekeeping of identity and "not being Indian enough" as a struggle some of us go through. Tune in to hear more! Don't forget to follow us on Instagram @auntyplease. The episode is out now on Spotify, Apple iTunes, and Anchor! Let us know what you think!!
CHITTI-CHATS: Sustainable Fashion with Anysia
As we continue to see a shift in the fashion industry as people move towards sustainable and ethical fashion, we thought it would be great to discuss this shift and what we could do to be a part of this change. Our friend @anysiaalice, content creator and nutritionist based in Melbourne, Australia, helps us dissect this topic.
Listen in to discover all the tips and tricks to make more sustainable choices in our everyday clothing choices. Don't forget to check out Anysia at @anysiaalice and to follow us on Instagram @auntyplease. T
a suitably chaotic commentary on #ASuitableBoy
Have you watched a Suitable Boy yet on NETFLIX?!?!?! If no, then get onto it to either be disappointed or mildly aroused...... whatever it is, listen to our thoughts on Netflix's new period drama directed by Mira Nair set in post-colonial India in the 1950s....
Virginity Tests & Hymen Myths // SEXY CHATS
This week, Lama and Shaya dive into the concept of virginity and the myth of hymens. We ask some hard-hitting questions that'll make you question everything you think you knew about virginity. We discuss the very controversial 'virginity testing' and its place in our society today, as well as the ethical, psychological, physical, and social implications of it. Be ready to think critically and confront your own biases about women and their sexuality.
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and what of death & eulogies
***TRIGGER WARNING: DEATH, MOURNING, LOSS, EULOGIES*** We understand that death is a difficult topic for a lot of people to discuss. Although we may be comfortable discussing it, we encourage you to take note that this episode may be triggering especially if you've ever lost a loved one. Please listen with caution or at your own risk.
HELLO PUMPKINS & HAPPY SPOOK-TOBER! So of course, this episode is about DEATH & EULOGIES!! We get into how Shaya been writing her wills since she was 12 and how Lama thinks somehow we're all mostly insignificant. Where would you die if you could choose and what tagline would best describe your eulogy; we get into all of this in today's episode. ENJOY!
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The State of Sex Ed in Malaysia // SEXY CHATS
Welcome to the first episode of Season 1 of SEXY CHATS. We explore the State of Sex Education in Malaysia from the struggle of creating urgency to implement CSE within our school system to navigating the still-taboo conversation of sex that is so evident in the way our educators speak and policies constructed.
5th NRC11 Nation Building Series: Sex education in Malaysia: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rhdPl87uIEI
Let's Talk about Sex Education | Olivia Richman | TEDxHartford: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LvjUGUOFWV8
News Articles:
- https://www.jstor.org/stable/26724316?read-now=1&seq=1#metadata_info_tab_contents
- https://www.thestar.com.my/opinion/letters/2019/07/12/plain-facts-on-teenage-pregnancy
- https://www.malaysiakini.com/news/460298
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are we ready for motherhood?
Hello, hello, we took a bit of a break there but we're back! This week, Shaya and Lama discuss motherhood and parenting! We explore what we would be like as parents and how we would navigate that. We also dive a little into gender roles and the necessity of having a mother and father as parents. Listen to Lama and Shaya talk a whole lot of nonsense for people who fear pregnancy and childbirth. Btw, do YOU know what 'cappin' means? Cause we didn't!
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DISCLAIMER: Shaya's house was under renovation during the recording of this episode. We apologise for the background noise!!
On Being A "Slut" In Malaysia
In this episode, Lama goes on a few tangents and takes a small dive into slut-shaming, morality, and some of the reasons why we don't want to talk about the big elephant in the room: SEX.
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VICE Article: https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/xg834k/syed-saddiq-malaysia-youth-politician
Why Do We Fear Talking With Our Kids About Sex And What You Can Do About It?: https://educateempowerkids.org/why-do-we-fear-talking-with-our-kids-about-sex-and-what-you-can-do-about-it/
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Is it ever OK to poke holes in condoms? // AITA
Am I The Asshole? In this episode, Lama and Shaya dive into three real scenarios from Reddit to point out who was the asshole in each situation. We cover a range of topics about relationships, consent, having children, respect, having your own peanut butter, and when it is okay to snitch on a friend! Come laugh with us and tell us who you think the asshole is? FOLLOW US on Spotify at Aunty, please! to stay up to date with episodes as we post them and on Instagram @auntyplease Follow Lama @natashajlama and Shaya @atshaya5 on Instagram!
so they say Tchaikovsky but not Atshaya? // What's In A Name?
Shaya and Lama discuss the meaning, history, and stories behind their names. Shaya's claims her unofficial middle name and Lama names her dogs after types of alcohol.
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Future Partners, Quality Dates & Important Questions to Ask // Indian Matchmaking Part 2
Tune in as we discuss what qualities we would want in a partner, what makes a great date, and important questions to ask your partner before committing to a life sentence. Shaya and Lama realise they can relate to Aparna and don't want to be with their future husbands all the time!
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Sorry Sima Aunty, But We Have Some Questions... // Indian Matchmaking
Does Akshay and Aunty Preeti have a co-dependency situation? Would we trust our own parents to matchmake for us? Do we, personally, believe in the institution of marriage?
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Karens in Krisis // #ChallengeAccepted & Performative Activism
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Get to know us a little bit! Lama reveals the most foolish thing she's done for a man and Shaya tells us about how much she loves manatees...
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