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Barely Bougie Mamas

Barely Bougie Mamas

By Barely Bougie Mamas


Tamara and Liliana mothers who grew up understanding how to deal with a life of poverty but always longed for the finer things in life. Now they have children that have all they didn't. Share our trials and tribulations. Our process for finding solutions or coping mechanisms.

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Barely Bougie MamasDec 26, 2019

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Happy New Year!

Happy New Year!

We review our goals from 2020. Discuss the impact of Corona on our family this holiday season.
Jan 01, 202147:04
Let’s chat and shop

Let’s chat and shop

Come along with Lil’s first estate sale. We discuss our bougie “problems”.
Dec 21, 202040:00
What is your Purpose

What is your Purpose

Tam and Lil discuss finding your purpose, whether you have young children, teenagers, or adult children.
Dec 11, 202044:50
Quarantine Hair

Quarantine Hair

This episode we discuss Lil’s cat colony and Tam’s Quarantine Hair routine.
Dec 05, 202001:07:56
Thanksgiving Mini-sode

Thanksgiving Mini-sode

This week we talk about the husbands and our Yonis.
Nov 28, 202036:40
Camping while Black

Camping while Black

This episode Lil trys to convince Tamara to go camping, it's a hard sell. Do you camp with your family? Did you camp with your family as a child? Share your stories on our Instagram page. We'd love to hear it.
Nov 20, 202049:37
We’re back for real.

We’re back for real.

Tam and Lil are back after quarantine. To discuss the USA presidential election and the trash that is distance learning . We have a friend, Samantha, in the studio for the taping for another perspective. Enjoy!
Nov 13, 202044:18
BBM 039- July Episode

BBM 039- July Episode

Hey y'all, we back!!!! We were not feeling the podcast and decided to give ourselves a break. We hope you enjoy this episodes of updates.
Jul 20, 202046:37
BBM 038- Lil Verzuz Tam

BBM 038- Lil Verzuz Tam

Music is my life. This week Lil and Tamara share the soundtrack of their lives.
May 21, 202059:37
BBM 037 Journal prompt

BBM 037 Journal prompt

This episode we do a journal prompt from the lady who wrote:
May 07, 202035:12
BBM036- The Lies We Tell...

BBM036- The Lies We Tell...

This lighthearted episode delves into the little white lies or whoopers we tell our children in the course of everyday parenting. What lies do you tell?
Apr 23, 202044:20
BBM 035- Is the Poverty Mindset really that bad?

BBM 035- Is the Poverty Mindset really that bad?

Tamara & Liliana discuss the good and bad of a poverty mindset.
Apr 02, 202049:16
Parenting advice ...... Do you take it?

Parenting advice ...... Do you take it?

Stubborn and Conceded
Mar 27, 202043:53
BBM 033 Where do babies come from? and other awkward questions.

BBM 033 Where do babies come from? and other awkward questions.

How many times have your kids left you at a loss for words? Don't worry it happens to the best of us. 

Mar 19, 202035:42
BBM 032 Carrying the mental load - choices choices choices

BBM 032 Carrying the mental load - choices choices choices

How many decisions have you made today? Planning planing , family management, black moms, older moms,
Mar 12, 202001:10:26
BBM 031: How do you talk to your kids?

BBM 031: How do you talk to your kids?

This week we talk about communication in all its forms. Do you let yo kids cuss?!
Mar 05, 202052:07
BBM 030- Recognizing Childhood triggers in your parenting

BBM 030- Recognizing Childhood triggers in your parenting

Are your triggers affecting your parenting. We talk about Florida, organ stealing and so so much more
Feb 27, 202050:08
BBM 029-Empowering our children without endangering them.

BBM 029-Empowering our children without endangering them.

We struggle with a heavy topic in today’s episode. Listen to how Lil and Tam navigate raising our kids to be kids AND black kids. We don’t have the answer but we are trying.
Feb 21, 202027:07
BBM028- Staying Fly and Friendly

BBM028- Staying Fly and Friendly

This week we discuss how to maintain and grow adult friendships during motherhood. We also discuss teaching our children what friendship is.
Feb 13, 202046:08
BBM 027- Pretty Privileged

BBM 027- Pretty Privileged

This week we discuss what it’s like to grow up feeling pretty or feeling ugly. And the steps we’re taking to create a balanced self identity for our children.
Feb 06, 202045:14
BBM026 - Alternative Medicine with Jasia Madden of Alaiyo waist beads.
Jan 30, 202001:30:32
BBM025- Dreams vs. Reality

BBM025- Dreams vs. Reality

This week we recap the interviews we had with our kids. Then Lil and Tam discuss what their childhood dreams and their adult reality.
Jan 23, 202001:16:47
BBM024: Dreams; Conversations with our bougie kids.

BBM024: Dreams; Conversations with our bougie kids.

Because life happens we couldn’t get together to tape an episode this week. The scheduled episode was “Our lives; the Dream vs the Reality”. So instead this week we have 5 special guest, our children. We interview them to hear what their dreaming and planning.
Jan 16, 202036:34
BBM023- What are you doing this year ? Finding the right activities for you and your child

BBM023- What are you doing this year ? Finding the right activities for you and your child

This week Lil and Tam discuss the pros and cons of extra curricular activities.
the mommy guilt that comes with doing too much or not doing enough.
How to find coast effective activities for the kids?

#Blackgirl #Blackmom #sports #moms #Children #Kids #Parenting #Parentingtools #comedy

Jan 09, 202001:16:48
BBM022- 2020 Vision Boards

BBM022- 2020 Vision Boards

What Are vision boards? What are goals? Tam and Lil discuss their view of new year traditions and mindsets. #blackmoms #blackparenting #visionboards #blackgirlspodcast
Jan 02, 202001:12:42
Bonus Episode ... More Hair

Bonus Episode ... More Hair

This holiday week we have a short bonus episode, where we take our conversation about hair to the next level.'

Enjoy - 

#blackhair #Haircare #hair #longhairdontcare #moms #daughters 



Dec 26, 201931:22
BBM021-Mo Money Mo Problems

BBM021-Mo Money Mo Problems

Today we discuss how and what we are teach our children about money. How to earn, manage, and what value money has in our lives. Do they deserve an allowance?
Dec 19, 201901:09:25
BBM 020: Comparing is a hard habit to break.

BBM 020: Comparing is a hard habit to break.

Tam and Lil discuss the difficulty of parenting without comparing ourselves and our children to others. The takeaway is we are still working on it.
Dec 12, 201901:09:40
BBM-019- MENTAL HEALTH vs THERAPY

BBM-019- MENTAL HEALTH vs THERAPY

This week we discuss mental health and therapy. Did you know there was a difference? We didn’t either... LOL
Dec 05, 201901:05:60
BBM #017 All the hair stuff

BBM #017 All the hair stuff

I am not my hair. We discuss changing the hair narrative with our children. It will come as no surprise that we have very different approaches.
Nov 21, 201901:15:57
BBM #016 Birds Bees and Blood

BBM #016 Birds Bees and Blood

Are you ready for preteens and the periods that come with it???
Nov 14, 201901:20:49
BBM #015 COLORISM

BBM #015 COLORISM

In this weeks episode The mamas and their guests discuss colorism. How colorism affected us as children and what we’re doing to combat it within our families. "You shouldn’t be so easily into curly hair n light skin what every nigga wants.” -Tam Blue
Nov 07, 201901:11:57
BBM14- "Auntie Mom, it takes a village”

BBM14- "Auntie Mom, it takes a village”

This is the 2nd collaboration with @planetnoun we talk about being an auntie, not having children, spinsters, cougars and so much more
Oct 31, 201949:22
BBM 013-Planet Noun collaboration
Oct 24, 201901:03:08
BBM 012- Holiday traditions

BBM 012- Holiday traditions

It's that time of the year.... Lets talk about family holiday traditions. 

 

Oct 18, 201959:19
BBM_011 Some of my best friends are white

BBM_011 Some of my best friends are white

What color is your inner circle of friends. We touch on colorism, class, and competition among friends.
Oct 10, 201940:29
BBM 010- Mommy Mafia

BBM 010- Mommy Mafia

This week we talk about the pressures a mom can feel from other moms.
Oct 03, 201901:06:00
BBM009- We livin’ life, man...

BBM009- We livin’ life, man...

This weeks episode was not planned, life happens. We decided to keep it 100 and discuss something personal. Are you part of “the sandwich generation” ?
Sep 19, 201929:52
BBM008- Devices and Social Media

BBM008- Devices and Social Media

This episode Tam and Lil discuss the challenges of giving young kids devices and teaching social media.
Sep 12, 201901:05:24
BBM007 We busy...getting back to work and getting ready for the school year.

BBM007 We busy...getting back to work and getting ready for the school year.

Because first and foremost we are Moms and we busy. This week we've put together an episode of our with all of our random chatter about getting back to work and going back to school. This one is raw because.....we busy. We know you'll understood ENJOY!!!
Sep 05, 201944:44
BBM006- Black Thought vs. Dixie Chicks

BBM006- Black Thought vs. Dixie Chicks

What happens when your kids "hate hip-hop but love Taylor Swift."In this episode we discuss sharing our musical tastes with our children.

Aug 29, 201942:53
BBM 005- Art As Self-Care

BBM 005- Art As Self-Care

This episode Tamara and Lil discuss self-care. We discuss fitting self-care into busy family life. Teaching our children about self-care, our self-care through our artistic pursuits, and our perfect self-care life style.
Aug 21, 201951:12
BBM 004-Are my Kids "Woke"

BBM 004-Are my Kids "Woke"

This week Tamara and Liliana discuss code switching, teaching black culture, weird kids, and the all important question "When to teach the twerk?". The current book is:  "Hair Story: Untangling the Roots of Black Hair in America" by Ayana Byrd & Lori Tharps
Aug 14, 201955:43
BBM 003- Discipline
Aug 07, 201954:07
BBM 002- Expectations

BBM 002- Expectations

This week Tamara and Liliana discuss how the expectations of their childhood directs their expectations for their children and their parenting styles.
Jul 31, 201955:23
BBM001- People, Places, and Things

BBM001- People, Places, and Things

On this first episode of Barely Bougie Mamas, Tamara and Liliana discuss the people they love, the places that define them, and the things that they love. Grab a cuppa and spend an hour with these lovely ladies.
Jul 24, 201945:36