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Another episode featuring the one-and-only Dave Fry.

In this conversation, we discuss the mind's crafty ways, "doership," art, and creativity.

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Storytime! About my most recent breakdown (lol).

No but really... here's a story about second guessing myself and the continual learning curve to trust myself and trust life. I hope something in it rings true for you too.

I feel lucky to have Becca Gardner on the podcast! In this episode, we discuss the topic of overthinking: how we all do it, and how we can make peace with it rather than letting it run our lives.

This is an excerpt from the February SOUL HUDDLE... my response to a question that was sent anonymously from a member.

The question: What to do about the fear of gaining weight, and fear of uncontrollable eating?

If you have a question, feel free to enter it in the contact form, or the anonymous contact form, on my website:

Welcome back to another roundtable, this time featuring the brilliant Julieanne Chazotte and Kristina Bruce!

We discuss what "wisdom" or "intuition" is, and how to recognize it.

What if goals and desires were pure fun, rather than stressful? How would striving feel if you knew your self worth wasn't on the line?

This roundtable was a complete lovefest. I hope you enjoy it.

In case you missed it, I haven't had a lease since Feb of 2023... I've been traveling, and living nomadically in monthly AirBnB's. I've learned a lot from this experience and thought it might be fun to share some of the lessons- both philosophical and practical ones!

Buckle up for a ride down the rabbit hole with your two magical tour guides, Judi Wolinsky and Amanda Jones!

My journey with the concept of manifestation/law of attraction.

Our first VIDEO episode! Whhhaaaaaattttt?!!?!

Welcome, Lindsey Elliott, and welcome back, Dave Fry, for a special roundtable episode!

I have so much respect for these two excellent coaches. Come hang out with us as we discuss how out experience works, and why that is useful for overcoming anxiety and other mental health woes.

Magic happens when we take our focus out of the head and into the heart (or breath, or bodily sensations).

Do we need any thinking to survive? Is it possible to exist without thought? Can the mind be completely quiet?

Investigating Thomas Hobbes' thought experiment: Theseus' Paradox, and tying it back to the question of "who are you?"

Book mentioned: "30 Second Science of Thought," published by New Burlington

Welcome to the first ROUNDTABLE!

Musings about the ways we confuse love with egoic attachment.

Let's talk about drugs.

In this episode, I talk about my overall experience at an ayahuasca retreat, why I decided to do it in the first place, some of the insights I had, and what psychedelics appear to do for/to the brain.

Things I mention in this episode:

Insights from the workshop I held with Becky Anderson, involving a journal prompt where we wrote out a "job description" for one role that we have in our lives (e.g. your role as a parent, sibling, friend, chess player, marathon runner, Netflix enthusiast, or whatever!).

Words are making less and less sense lately. They feel less important. So here's me trying to explain that... using words. (*facepalm*)

My lovely friend Becky and I discuss why we don't like calling ourselves "coaches"...

This episode will, I think, be interesting for everyone. Because we really talk about the heart of what we do... the "fundamentals" if you will... and why we think it's helpful.

How often do you think about other people? ...

...Whether it's what they're thinking about you, or what made them how they are...

What if you are other people? What if your perception of others is actually made of the same thing as the perception you have of yourself?

We explore this concept multiple ways in this episode.

Recent realizations I've had about what dance really is, and the dance industry, and kind of everything else, as I've learned about immersing more into feminine energy and balancing it with the masculine.

This episode features the lovely & brilliant Kristina Bruce!

What if zooming out/losing focus every once in a while feels good for a reason?

And what if we can trust life to pull us back in?

I'm so excited to have Alex on for another episode.

In this episode, we discuss our upcoming course, centered around inquiring into this simple question, "who do I think I am?" ... which often has answers that reveal the layers of belief that we walk around with.

Our identities and self-concepts are often so deep and unquestioned that they run our lives without us even noticing.

By inquiring into these layers of belief, we can allow limitations to fall away, enabling us to live life in a freer, softer, simpler way.

Join us this October! For details, check out:

What is happiness? What makes us happy? How is happiness different from other emotions?

When you really dissect it, you might be surprised by what you find.

REST IS PRODUCTIVE. Our minds often don't think so, though. What's with that?!

If you think your problem is not believing in yourself enough, maybe just let that one go.

You can do things, successfully, without believing you can. Contrary to the manifesting/self-help manifesto.

Don't let a lack of confidence, or a "low-vibration" feeling, stop you from getting started.

Belief in yourself just makes the process a lot more fun. But it's not a requirement.

Do you catch yourself saying, "I don't know" when you really do know, but you're afraid of admitting it because you think it sounds immature, unwise, petty, or shameful?

Do you not admit what you want, even to yourself, because you're afraid of the disappointment of not getting it?

We do this a lot. And minds can be sneaky about it.

I'm honored to have my friend and colleague, Becky Anderson, on the podcast!

Becky is great at noticing and articulating the nuances of how the mind works and how it can make us feel stuck. This makes her a great coach, because so much freedom comes from just getting that high level view of the little innocent games and computations that our minds are making all the time, in a smart-but-not-wise effort to keep us safe.

She opens up in this episode about what it’s been like to put her work out there, and also what she’s been seeing about emotion and the way that our minds tell stories about what we’re feeling, and how that is and isn’t helpful.

People sometimes call me brave, but that is NOT how I see it. I'm scared sh*tless most of the time.

I do things while terrified because I like gathering evidence that my mind is a silly little liar.

For this bonus minisode, I'm releasing an unfiltered voice note that I recorded while I was walking in Prague, thinking about a common question.

The question is essentially: do we have control of our thoughts?

Dave Fry has moved past something that people don’t usually move past… an intense, 17-year struggle with major depression, anxiety, and bipolar… lots of diagnoses and medications… until… he stumbled on an understanding of life that completely changed all that. He now helps people through similar struggles. As you’ll see in this interview, Dave is caring, hilarious, and a brilliant coach. 

What does "good enough" mean?

Where's the line? Is there one? If so, who drew it? Was it you?

If you're not putting yourself, or your art, out there, because you're afraid of not being good enough, this episode is for you.

In this episode, I talk about my recent insights around dance, which led to more insights about our actions in general. What if we can just do things, because we're doing things, and the meaning that our mind innocently puts behind it is less true than we've been believing?

In this episode I discuss four concerns that a lot of people have when they are leaning into their creative urges...

#1: "I should improve my technique before I create my own stuff."

#2: "I don't know what to create."

#3: "I'm just not a creative person."

#4: "I don't have time."

In this episode, we really just zoom the f out.

What if we could truly see that there is nothing to fear in any feeling? It would change everything. There would be no need to cope using our unwanted habits and addictions. There would be no anxiety. There would be no "stuckness."

When we truly look into our feelings, and see that every single one is safe, and that the story we have in our minds has nothing to do with the feeling itself, everything changes.

Let's talk about anger.

We're conditioned to be afraid of feeling angry. But no harm can come from feeling a feeling. It's the resistance and bottling and "I want this feeling to go away, therefore he/she/'the situation' needs to change" that gets us into ickiness. And even "ickiness" is defined by a mind.

I used to think I was hopelessly addicted to sugar.

Here's what changed.

My yoga philosophy teacher mentioned something that he called "persistent serenity" and these were my insights that came from it.

I don't actually have beef with Carl Rogers. I just remember a time when the following quote of his really pissed me off:

"The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I change."

Now I get the quote. Here's me rambling about what changed, and how.

I hear this phrase from people who want to lose weight: "I just don't feel like myself at this weight. I want to feel like myself again."

In this episode, we explore how losing weight can't make you feel more like yourself, because you are not your body. You can't not be yourself. It only feels that way when our mind is busy and judgemental.

If you're stuck trying to will your way into new ways of doing things, or if you're fighting your habit urges or thought patterns, this episode is for you!

Your state of mind changes like the weather changes: completely on its own.

In this episode, I talk about a recent personal decision to leave Los Angeles temporarily or permanently. I also talk about decisions in general, and why I love trusting where life wants to lead us.