Your go-to podcast for all things confidence, Confidently She is relatable for every strong woman in those moments of self doubt. Hosted by Rebekah Buege, a body confidence coach, published writer, and speaker who doesn't shy away from the REAL issues we have about insecurity. You'll learn how to love your body, enjoy your femininity, and live in the freedom of true confidence. New episodes every Thursday - want all the insider advice? Join the Confidently She Crew, a weekly email newsletter with current takes on confidence -www.rebekahbuege.com
Body image issues have nothing to do with your actual appearance. They come from how you relate to your body. This is the final stage in learning how to develop a loving relationship with your body - even if you're starting from a place of hating your body. Update - make sure to sign up to Pre-Order my BOOK: www.rebekahbuege.com/booklaunch
Body confidence comes from a healthy relationship with your body, not from getting your dream body. In this episode, we're going deep into stage 3 of relationship building which is Appreciation. Book Launch: www.rebekahbuege.com/booklaunch Sponsor link: www.rebekahbuege.com/loandsons
Born between June 21st and July 22nd, the Cancer zodiac sign is known for being intuitive, nurturing, slightly distrustful, and self-protective. How does this water sign build confidence? The main thing is knowing when enough is enough - your giving nature just might be the biggest thing draining your energy. Listen now!
Do you realize what your body does every day? Stage 2 of relating to your body with love is all about respect. So I invited my med-student best friend, Ryan Duff, back on the podcast. In this episode, he's sharing the physiological perspective of exactly what our bodies do for us every single day. Use this as a reminder of what your body does "behind the scenes" without you even realizing it.
Welcome to stage 2 of loving your body. Every single loving relationship goes through this progression. If you want to build a relationship of love with your body, you need to do the same. Stage 1 is familiarity, getting to know someone (or your body) is essential if you ever expect to love them. The next stage towards love is respect. You can't love someone you don't respect and you can't love a body you don't respect. If you're loving this series and want to work together privately on your body confidence, apply for private coaching here.
Let's talk about the fact we're disconnected from our bodies. Yet, we strive to love our bodies without really knowing them. This is the first episode in a series about moving through the 4 stages of relationship and applying it to the one you have with your body. Your relationship with your body has the same rules as any other relationship. It starts with familiarity - getting to know your body. This episode is the beginning of true body confidence - it's so good. Have a question? Email it to Hello@rebekahbuege.com and I'll answer it on an episode.
Each episode is intended to help provide perspectives on femininity, confidence, and self perception that aren't based on the approval of others. I'm Rebekah Buege (biggie) - the host of this weekly podcast. Since 2017 I've helped women build a healthy relationship with their body image through my blog, this podcast, email newsletter, private coaching, and online programs. As a body confidence coach, I teach mindset and relationship tools that can be applied to all areas of your life - career, dating, friendships, sex life, etc. This platform aims to share stories, trainings, and encouragement for you to grow in your confidence using sustainable methods - to provide lasting results.
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Going through a breakup? Listen to this now. I don't care if you broke up 10 minutes ago or 10 years ago, have you done the work of truly getting over him? In this episode, Rebekah shares what it looks like when you confidently move on from a relationship. Defining your end goal, describing that scenario, helps SO MUCH when navigating through the day to day feelings. Need extra help during your breakup? Get coached by Rebekah! www.rebekahbuege.com/apply
It's Gemini season! May 21st - June 21st you Gemini women are the most unpredictable - but that doesn't need to be a bad thing for your confidence. As a Scorpio, it's not easy for me to relate to you, but that means we have a lot to learn from each other. Learning to understand which "twin" you're being in the moment, and what makes you switch between the two helps build confidence for Gemini.
Manipulation is subtle, otherwise it wouldn't work. That's how even the most confident women can be torn down in toxic relationships. Here are 4 signs of manipulative communication patterns to help you recognize potentially abusive behavior - and get out before damage is done. Confident women are ruthless in their zero-tolerance policy towards manipulation, gaslighting, and narcissistic abuse. Remember, you're allowed to leave a relationship for no reason at all. You don't have to explain or justify it to anyone - it doesn't have to be the worst relationship in order for you to end it.
The idea of someone is very hard to get over. Because ideas are exactly what you want them to be. You create this "perfect" vision of how your life could've been with someone...untainted by the reality of who they really are (because you don't know!) This is why it's so hard to move on from someone you never really dated, but confident women do this a lot. Here's how to move on from someone you didn't date, but can't seem to get over.
Born between April 20th and May 20th? It's time to talk about Taurus! Every sign in the zodiac has its tendencies towards both confidence and insecurity, in this episode I'm sharing what confidence looks like for a Taurus as we begin our series in the zodiac calendar.
Knowing how to set healthy boundaries takes practice. There are three steps to boundaries. Choose your boundary based on how you want issues to be different in the future. Communicate the boundary with people involved (and potentially, the consequence of the boundary being violated). Step three is enforcing that boundary and whatever consequence you shared before. Think of it in terms of a "No Trespassing" sign. People are more likely to obey signs that show the consequence, boundaries are the same way. Sign up for the Confidently She newsletter for weekly confidence advice at www.rebekahbuege.com (it's free)
Stay sane during the coronavirus self quarantine by remembering you've been through uncertain times before. Confident women are calm during chaos and crisis - but it's necessary to have a place to rest and be vulnerable. This is why having a Safe Harbor is essential. LINKS: Facebook Group | Private Coaching | Safe Harbor Article
Welcome to the first sign of the Zodiac Series! March 21 - April 15 is Aries. Your personality tendencies have a huge impact on how confidence and insecurity show up for you. So I'm breaking down each Zodiac type and showing examples of what insecurity and confidence will look like for that sign. Just like with Myers Briggs or the enneagram, these aren't always 100% accurate - but this helps you know more about someone even if they've never taken one of those assessments! All you need to know is their birthday. In this episode, I'm expanding on the Aries fire sign and what they can do to practice confidence in life and love.
Relationships are great, but getting the confidence to stay true to your standards? That's a gift - my friend. I'm joined by Jessica Hottle for this conversation about dating, sex, relationships, confidence....how to really know who you're dating and how to hold onto your standards (even when he's nice) We are all designed for relationships, so it definitely gets lonely when you're single. But I'm opening up about why I broke off my engagement to encourage you and show you that it's worth being single for as long as it takes to make sure you're not stuck with someone who doesn't love you well.
Making big changes can make you regret not doing it sooner - don't be like that. You can choose a perspective of confidence and see the opportunities before you, rather than the time behind you. Change is a good thing and instead of worrying what people think about your decisions, move forward with confidence! Have you signed up for The Confidence Kickstart yet? Girl. What are you waiting for? I've been known to just "take things down" so get it while you can :) www.rebekahbuege.com/programs to sign up now!
I'm a nationally ranked competitive speaker - I've won several state championships in competitive speaking events. NERD alert, I know. But through all this - I know how to put words together. In this episode, I'm sharing some basic things to help you speak with confidence, because even if you're not in front of a microphone or crowd of people - the more confident you are when you speak, the more people hear what you have to say. These tips are actually backed up by the biblical teaching in James 1:19 "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry." Still sleeping on The Confidence Kickstart? SIGN UP NOW www.rebekahbuege.com/programs
Feeling sexy in your body is a huge part of confidence, but I want you to think about why sexiness is so important to you. Social conditioning starts young, especially for girls about their body. We're taught (conditioned) to believe our bodies are designed for sex. The more men who find us sexually attractive, the more worthy women are. This needs to stop if you're ever going to feel freedom and confidence in not only your body, but who you are in every aspect of your life. Program --> www.rebekahbuege.com/programs
You don't need to become more like men in order to be confident and secure as a woman. One frustration I've had as a confident woman is finding that balance. How to be strong without overbearing? How to be a leader without being emasculating? Basically, how to be a confident woman without becoming a man. There are feminine qualities of leadership and masculine qualities, but at the core - there are biblical principles that show us leadership is about serving and sacrifice - not about power or control. The bible actually offers encouragement to confident women with capabilities to lead - because God designed you with those traits, He's gonna use them!
How many times have we heard "like a girl" used to insult something? As women, there's extra work we need to do to believe that feminine things aren't bad...but actually good. It's up to us to decide what makes us feel feminine, why, and practice that when we're doubting our self worth.
Of course you're insecure, we've been conditioned to believe our femininity makes us inferior. Hearing "like a girl" tacked on to devalue or insult someone deeply injures a woman's identity and confidence. In this episode, I'm sharing how to reclaim feminine qualities as a good thing, something to be desired, respected, and honored - starting with you, and expanding outward.
Periods were a *hush*hush topic in my house growing up, unless it was just us girls. Something that's so integral to womanhood shouldn't be hidden, shamed, or resented but that's really how I felt about my period for years. In this episode, I'm sharing how I changed my perspective on my menstrual cycle and now feel completely at peace with my period (with almost zero cramps)
THIS ONE IS GOLD. Heather is the author of the book "Compared to Who" and our conversation goes deep into the ideals we each hold based on where our comparisons come from. Heather shares how she discovered her "ideal" woman - and how you can walk in confidence as you get off the treadmill of self improvement and live the life God is calling you for.
Why are beautiful women insecure? As someone who's been told "you're beautiful, you have nothing to feel insecure about" I believed my feelings weren't valid for years. I thought there was something wrong with me and I should just "get over it". Turns out, insecurity has nothing to do with how you look. I'm sharing 3 main reasons beautiful women still feel insecure, and a little help to overcome it. Check out www.rebekahbuege.com/coaching for more help with confidence.
How a man treats his mother is a big indication of how he will treat you. It might sound weird at first, but I invited my mom, Theresa Buege, onto the podcast to talk about how you can confidently observe and handle the relationship dynamic of a mother and son. If you're looking for help on how to deal with overbearing in laws, this episode is for you. Coaching: www.rebekahbuege.com/coaching
The reason you want to feel good in your body is because you feel enslaved to "better" - there's very little freedom when you always feel pressured to be perfect (or at least a better version of yourself) I'm honored to have Tanner Hobbs from the Chasing Freedom Podcast share her journey towards body image freedom and how you can get out of the mindset keeping you stuck in insecurity.
Ohh closure, we think we need it and do crazy things to get it. Or at least I have. Becoming confident in yourself includes learning to let go of things without needing answers. The truth is, closure only comes from YOU.
No matter your relationship status, you need to work on building out a life you love beyond romantic partners. Love shows up in so many ways, it's not just husbands and kids. Plus, you will insulate yourself from being lonely while you're single OR being completely shaken after a breakup.
You know that person who makes you feel like you're not good enough, no matter what you're doing. Rather than striving to meet their expectations, confident women know to set their own and be gentle with themselves as they focus on that.
Do you feel self conscious when you're getting a massage, pedicure, or anything like that? I used to be so self conscious it actually ruined the whole "relaxing" experience! So I had to learn to stop apologizing for how my body looked and remember my body deserves to be taken care of (and people aren't judging you as much as you think)
Dating as a Christian is hard and takes a lot of patience. There's a ton of conflicting advice out there when it comes to how to act in a dating scenario, so I'm just sharing my perspective and how it's changed since the last time I was single. Confident women have the patience to allow men to pursue them. Feminine confidence in a dating scenario looks like not taking over, not taking control, and waiting for the guy who's gonna be willing to WORK for your time and attention. If he doesn't have to put in effort at the beginning...why would he start if/when you're dating or get married? You deserve a guy who's gonna try for you, so have the confidence to stay single until he comes along!
Dating apps get a bad rep, but it's all about how you use them! It's totally possible to attract Christian men on a dating site (or app) that isn't inherently for Christians. Wanna know how? Listen to this. Hinge is my favorite, FYI.
I grew up hearing damaging religious ideas about sex, women, and my body. In this episode, I'm sharing what God is showing me about why purity in singleness is more important than virginity - PLUS - why shame, guilt, and regret have no place in the mind (or body) of a daughter of God.
Our worth primarily comes from our parents growing up. Especially our fathers, so when we don't have a loving, faithful, caring father it's hard to feel a strong sense of self worth. This is why I love that God is our perfect, heavenly father who truly gives us our identity and value! No matter what kind of earthly father you have, your heavenly father gets the final say in who you are (and he has great things to say about you!)
The best way to celebrate 100 episodes of this podcast and my journey over the past 2 years is by telling the story God is writing with my life. Want to give me the BEST present ever? Leave a rating & review before you listen. This episode is my testimony of God's goodness, love, and endless pursuit of my heart through a whole lot of pain, stress, mistakes, and heartache. I love you for listening.
Building self confidence starts with focusing LESS on yourself! You can use the 5 love languages to focus on loving people in your life. I'm not talking about just a boyfriend or husband. There are so many people in your life you can love - coworkers, friends, strangers, etc. it's more practical than you think!
"I don't want to judge" - well, okay...but you realize there's a difference between being a jerk and being smart, right? Confident women carefully choose their center of influence. Confident women have discernment about who they date, who they marry, who they're friends with, what they listen to, etc. In this episode, I'm sharing how I do that - and what God has to say about it.
Why are we so afraid of hearing 'no'? Confident women know how to ask for things without getting too attached to the outcome. It's okay if the answer is no, but if you never ask - you're never going to get what you want!
Hurt people, hurt people. In this episode, I share how confident women respond when people are nasty for no apparent reason. When you're confident in yourself, you aren't as quick to retaliate when someone hurts you.
You're never going to reach a point where you stop feeling inadequate. Yikes - too harsh? It's not because you're behind or there's something wrong with you, it's because we aren't meant to fully "arrive" during this life on earth. We're imperfect humans, we'll never stop being a work in progress...but that's kinda a freeing thought, isn't it?
Join me as I coach Hailey through how to move into a new season of her life without feeling guilty about leaving some friends behind. As iron sharpens iron, one man sharpens another - you become who you hang out with. Finding new friends is challenging, but you need friends who are strong in their faith so you can be poured into. Updates: Marigold confidence app is launching September 17th! Private coaching with me is now customized based on your goals.
There are 3 kinds of "I'm sorry" - each one takes on a higher level of responsibility for the situation. Listen to find out 3 ways confident women know how to say "I'm sorry" ...and a 4th that they NEVER use.
Your sexual history doesn't disqualify you from anything. Feeling shame and guilt around your body because of your sexual past isn't something you have to live with! Nothing you've done disqualifies you from fully enjoying and experiencing marriage (and sex) in the way God intended. You can't change your sexual history, God forgives sexual sin just as completely as any other sin, so you're 100% free to move on from that. You don't lose anything by not being a virgin.
Jealousy is not a sign of insecurity, it's a character trait of God and I'm done apologizing for it. The important distinction to make, though, is between jealousy and envy. Listen up, ladies - this one is a favorite of mine.
How do you handle when someone you've dated didn't want you to wear your hair a certain way, and then you get out of that relationship and you want to do the things you "weren't allowed" to do but you're scared? - That's a question I got in my DMs. Toxic relationships plant insecurities that stick around long after the relationship ends unless we do the work to WEED THEM OUT.
I used to think masculine traits made you confident, but it actually made me frustrated and insecure! So I had to figure out how to be confident in a feminine way, the way God intended us to be. Feminine confidence lies in the balance between striving for acceptance and giving up completely.
Take a look at how the God defines love and measure that against how you treat your body. You probably aren't doing to hot, huh? We all struggle with believing our imperfect bodies are worthy of love - but you don't need to feel guilt or shame about this. Start with whatever advice on this episode feels easiest for you and once you gain momentum, build your confidence from there!
Can we stop with the stereotype of "church ladies" and get real about the fact we're called to be MORE than moms? God created each of us with incredible gifts to further His kingdom...aren't you curious what yours is? The opinions of others shouldn't stop you from taking direction from God and living your life for His purpose! Check out more from Stefanie at www.stefaniegass.com and she's on insta @stefaniegass
When someone hurts you, you expect an apology...in order to forgive them. That's how we grew up viewing forgiveness...but when we don't get the apology we want - our hearts get hard and turn bitter very easily. I'm sharing my experience with not wanting to forgive my abusive ex and how God worked in my heart to show me that forgiving him was about my own freedom...not his.
Feeling rejected by a brother in Christ? Confident women learn how to wish them well, without feeling hurt by them not being interested in you. Also hear me freak out over discovering a new podcast review lol.
The reason you're trying to control everything says more about your struggle than what you're trying to control. There's another way to relate to food and to your body. God put you in your body for a reason, and instead of fighting against it - you can actually choose to be at peace with it. Check out Karen Finney @karenfinneycoaching on instagram!
I felt God whisper, "you don't need a man's desire to have permission to capture how beautiful I made you"
Close up pictures of me in my underwear, what could go wrong? Building confidence is about challenging yourself to try new things. After I broke off an engagement 6 months ago, I wanted to celebrate how God is renewing me. Reclaiming me. I wanted to do a boudoir shoot for my wedding, but I felt like I couldn't anymore. Soooo I listened to God's nudge and did it even though I was a little afraid what people would say. This episode covers how I thought about the process, things I did to improve my comfort level and body confidence!
Nicole is the founder of Fit Foundations and you should follow her on Instagram @nicolescheitlin for info on how to have a good relationship with HEALTH in general. Cause lots of IG fitness people are telling you dumb stuff that hurts your body image and confidence.
Confidently She - The Program starts in June! Go to www.rebekahbuege.com/program to find out more! You don't have to continue trying to be enough because the decision has already been made that God loves you. It's up to you to decide what you do with that truth from Romans 5:6-8. God forgives you when you've mistreated your body or criticized yourself horribly. It doesn't matter how bad it was before, the beauty of grace is that you can be confident you're forgiven.
I'm launching a program June - September! This summer, you can learn the foundation of building confidence in Christ! Join here: www.rebekahbuege.com/program
Disclaimer: I'm not a doctor so talking about eating disorders is ALWAYS a tip-toe subject for me. I'm only speaking from my personal perspective, my perspective on scripture in this area, and if this helps you, fantastic! That being said, I completely acknowledge the fact I don't have training in this area - so there are probably lots of aspects about eating disorders I'm blind to.
Oh gosh, where to begin. How did liking who we are become an incredibly difficult daily struggle? When did self criticism become the norm? How did we get here? I know how, marketing. Back in the 60’s companies got really good at making us feel like something was missing. If we just bought their product, […]
If God asked you to give that up, would you? You know the thing. The thing you’re holding onto so tightly you’re terrified of letting it go. That thing. Chances are, that’s where you’re getting your identity right now. Sometimes it’s a job, a boyfriend, your kids, or even a certain lifestyle you’re living. If […]
Having a positive body image actually doesn’t start with self love. (here’s a Confidently She podcast episode about that) p.s. join the Summer Semester of Confidently She – The Program HERE That’s like saying having a birthday cake starts with lighting the candles. Sure, that’s technically what makes a regular cake into a birthday cake, […]
You might be sabotaging your confidence. Not on purpose, obviously. If you’re feeling insecure or doubting yourself, the answer might be in NOT doing certain things. Before I get into this, I want you to know I’ve personally done all these things – so there’s no judgement. Plus, my VIP coaching day is designed to […]
Where does confidence come from? How can you be confident when you keep messing up? Confidence doesn’t come from being perfect or looking a certain way. Anyone who’s confident will tell you it comes from actually facing their inner voice and doing the work others are afraid to do. For Christians, it means trusting that […]
Your idols sometimes look like your blessings. The things God gives you in this life on earth are wonderful: family, friends, careers…bodies. But idolatry happens when we get our priorities out of whack. We start putting our physical health above everything. You obsess over the way you look. Idolatry is this big scary word in […]
I struggle with obsessing over negative thoughts. Everyone does. You’re probably worried about things that happened in the past or things that might happen in the future. Which one do you gravitate towards? I worry about the future more than I dwell on the past. Everything you’re worried about right now is an earthly thing. […]
Trusting in yourself is a big topic right now. Thankfully, we are moving away from getting our identity from other people. Our culture is focusing less on what other people think and more on finding approval within ourselves, which I think is great. But there has to be another level to it when you’re truly […]
How does social media impact your body image and self esteem? Have you ever thought to yourself, “is Instagram bad for my body image?” I know I have. In fact, I’ve gone through and unfollowed every account that makes me feel insecure, critical, or doubtful of my self worth. I think sometimes we tell ourselves […]
There’s a difference between God’s plan for your life and the path you choose to take. I do believe that God has the same plan for everyone – it’s written in the Bible. When I used to think of God’s plan, I thought of like, my life path. Everything was “part of God’s plan” because […]
“my daughter thinks she’s ugly, what do I tell her?” No matter what age your daughter shares her insecurities, it’s heartbreaking to hear. I’m not a parent yet, I don’t personally know what it feels like to hear this – but I do know what it feels like to say it. Growing up, I felt […]
No matter what your relationship status is right now, you can still enjoy Valentine’s Day! Here’s my thing: The only people who don’t like Valentine’s Day are the ones with high expectations that never get met so they act super salty about it and pretend not to like nice things. You’re telling me you don’t […]
Emotions are a powerful tool you can use to boost your confidence. People think being emotional is a negative or uncontrollable quality in women. It really doesn’t have to be. When you learn how to understand and support your emotional health using emotional intelligence, you can harness the positive power of your feelings. That might […]
It’s possible to create health in your life without having an all or nothing mentality. So many “body rules” are based on conflicting messages. If you eat a salad, people make fun of you, but if you eat a burger and fries you might feel self conscious for eating “unhealthy” food. You really can’t win […]
‘Do what makes you happy’ is really lazy advice. Happiness isn’t a goal you should be working towards. It’s a fleeting feeling that comes and goes throughout the day. There’s a difference between doing what makes you happy and doing what makes you feel good. It’s the difference between longterm and short term satisfaction. Happiness […]
There has to be better ways to think about your health besides your weight. With all the different factors that influence your weight each day, it’s not a very good way to measure your health. So why do we obsess over weight loss all the time? Our culture focuses so much on losing weight, we […]
Moms give to everyone else first and if they have anything left over, they can take scraps for themselves. I really don’t like this burden we put on motherhood. This is why you need to keep building your self worth after becoming a mom. Being a mom is a huge part of your identity, but […]
If there’s one thing women struggle with more than body confidence, it’s how to end something without feeling guilty. We are conditioned to say yes to everyone and everything. Saying no in the beginning is hard, but what’s even harder is saying no after giving it your best effort. The craziest part about it is […]
Being single is a really great way to explore exactly who you are. When you’re ready to find a committed partner, online dating isn’t usually people’s first choice. I think it’s changing a bit as people realize how useful the internet is for literally everything else. But when you make the decision to sign up…what’s […]
The simplest way to change the direction of your life is to accept where you are now. We are so good at pretending like everything is okay and things aren’t as bad as we think, but you need to get real if you want things to change. It takes confidence to look inside and validate […]
If you want more happiness in your life, you have to stop waiting. We see commercials and hear people talk about what’s coming next. The big new thing. Maybe it’s a new job or a new house. You could be waiting to get married or get a promotion in order to start feeling happy and […]
Focusing on outcomes rather than enjoying yourself in the moment is the biggest reason why diets fail. Most diet and exercise programs focus on losing X amount in X days. What about your mindset and level of enjoyment in those days? If you can’t enjoy the process and the moment right now, it’s almost impossible […]
I’m like woohoo – baby you can get it all. This episode has 2009 Bow Wow stuck in my head – in the best way. Want to know how to have it all? Start by asking yourself what that really means to you. Not what it means to your friends, family, or partner. We get […]
How to stop letting other people’s opinions influence your self worth. Set a boundary between how you view yourself and how other view you. Then, practice letting the good in and being critical of the bad. Plus – I’m talking about some food stuff for the holidays and why I think everyone has an eating […]
The difference between self love and body positivity is the idea we are more than our bodies. I sat down to interview the founder of Intensati and spiritual fitness, Patricia Moreno, and I’m humbled by her strength, wisdom, and passion for women’s health. Click here to listen to the interview on the podcast. Patricia is […]
How much value do you place in your appearance? After losing both her legs and the function of her left arm in a tragic car accident, Inga had a choice. She could either focus on everything she lost or everything she still had. This episode features the story of author, speaker, and coach, Inga Lizdenyte, […]
What’s the difference between body image, body positivity, and body confidence? They’re definitely related, but they’re not the same thing. In this episode, Rebekah walks you through the definition of each term, examples, and why they’re important.
Comparing your body to others is a very common thing. You don’t have to beat yourself up when you realize you’ve fallen into this again. It’s a vicious cycle and it can ruin your day without being hard on yourself for doing it in the first place. But there are ways to pull yourself out […]
Blaming yourself for being cheated on is the default setting for most people. I understand, it’s natural to criticize yourself and find flaws, especially in your appearance. But when you really think about it, cheating is a result of selfishness. Selfish people are only thinking of, wait for it, themselves. So it really has nothing […]
You’re going to have bad body image days. It’s normal and no matter what you look like, it’s bound to happen now and then. But when the bad days turn into bad weeks, months, or even years…that’s when you know you have to really try to get yourself out of the rut. One way to […]
It’s more common than you think to find patterns of eating disorders in athletes. When your main focus is on the performance of your body, you start finding flaws where other people probably wouldn’t. You search for every single thing you can control about your performance, and it soon turns into unhealthy behavior. On this […]
Lots of women are feeling guilty after eating anything, even if it’s considered healthy food. If your relationship with food is a constant battle, you’re in the right place. There is a range of disordered eating habits, sometimes you don’t realize it’s happening until someone else points it out. Today, I have a friend of […]
It’s not easy to start liking your body when you’re hyper-focused on your appearance. The best way to get started is actually by thinking of your body as a tool rather than a project. There’s a saying that goes like this, “your body is not a work of art, your body is the paint brush. […]
What is diet culture? It’s everywhere and once you start seeing it, it’s almost impossible to stop. Diet culture is the idea that in order to be happy and healthy, everyone has to look a certain way. This $66 billion dollar industry thrives on convincing people it’s their fault if the product (aka diets, exercise […]
Learning to prevent your feelings from being controlled by others is key to living a happy, low-stress life. The main causes of resentment, disappointment, and general saltiness come from not taking ownership of your feelings and not communicating your expectations. Read that last sentence again, because it’s important. I want to make sure you really […]
It’s possible to resolve conflict in a healthy way, no matter the outcome. When you resolve conflict in a healthy, confident way you’ll get better at avoiding conflict altogether in the future. The first step in resolving a conflict is understanding what’s really at the heart of the disagreement. Usually, the answer is someone’s feelings […]
How does silence make you feel? Anxious, nervous, or maybe comfortable and at ease? Your relationship with silence says a lot about your self value and confidence. The way you feel about silence is greatly influenced by your history with it. Maybe someone in your past would give you “the silent treatment” when you did […]
There’s so much stress around your wedding day, the last think you want to be worrying about is how to look good in your wedding pictures. With all the pressure put on you to create the “perfect day” it’s easy to forget to actually enjoy your wedding. You and your future husband are planning your […]
High rise jeans changed my relationship with my hips. Hips gets a lot of attention, people talk about them a lot. We compare them to muffins, Coke bottles, and lots of other things. I always used to think I had chubby hips, I hated the way my jeans fit. It wasn’t until I discovered high […]
Talking about periods shouldn’t be taboo anymore, okay? So I’m sharing all the reasons I love my Lena Cup. It makes me seriously angry that no one properly educated me (or any women I know) about menstrual cups. They’re great for so many reasons! I’m taking it upon myself to share with you all the […]
The fitness industry trained you to put exercise in a little, constricting box. It tells you exercise is meant to fix your physical flaws and make your body more appealing to others. I’m going to train you to forget that nonsense and believe something new about exercise. What if exercise could be enjoyable? Would you […]
Knowing the causes of negative body image helps guide you towards healing those beliefs. No matter what your body actually looks like, the way you think about yourself determines your body image. Since you were young, you followed the example of your parents and family. This did not stop at learning to walk, talk, and […]
This industry isn’t one you hear about every day. I’m not an accountant or a teacher. So I get a lot of questions like, who is going to hire a body confidence coach? or, “what does a body confidence coach do?” In today’s episode, I’m walking you through a “behind the scenes” look at my […]
One of the best gifts I’ve given myself is learning to stop being self conscious. Easier said than done. For me, facing the fear was a great way to realize it’s not so scary! I thought about what made me self conscious and decided to put it out into the world. Guess what? Soon, it […]
Looking better isn’t the answer to feeling good about yourself. Sure, sometimes it’s fun to get dressed up and put on lipstick (it sure makes me feel good!) But there’s more to feeling good than simply looking good, you have to really like who you are and see value in yourself. That’s harder to do than contour […]
You can’t help but believe this common body image myth. Thoughts and assumptions are very weird things, and I want to talk about a few right now. Have you heard of cognitive biases? Well, a man named Charlie Munger, partner to Warren Buffet at Berkshire Hathaway, introduced 25 cognitive biases in his talk, “The Psychology […]
Most women feel a pressure to be perfect in lots of areas of their life; at work, at home, and definitely in bed. What happens what you’re self conscious about your body and uncomfortable talking about it with your partner? Or even when you’re not in a serious relationship…what happens when that dry-spell starts messing […]
Understanding your identity and body image starts at a very young age. When you’re young, the only way to know who you are is by comparing yourself to other people. This is normal and not necessarily unhealthy. If your comparisons are mostly negative and you’re telling yourself you’re “not good enough” compared to other people, […]
Most women struggle with self doubt and confidence issues. You’re not the only one. We think, “I want to believe in myself, but I don’t know how when things get tough.” Yeah, I’ve been there. The good news? Resilience is a skill you can learn. You can actually teach yourself to “rebound” more quickly from […]
When you’re dealing with insecurities you inherently question your self value. You feel like you should be able to move on from things that make you feel unworthy, but pushing them down doesn’t make them disappear. The only way to truly dissolve your insecurities and embrace your worth as a woman is to face the […]
You might be thinking, “wouldn’t it be easy to be confident if my body was perfect? That’s what I’ve always wanted!” Well, the truth is your confidence has nothing to do with what you look like. If you feel like you need to stop worrying and start living your life, you need to know why […]
I happily indulge in using movie quotes to drive home a point, so here’s a favorite. “Life moves pretty fast, if you don’t slow down and take a look around once in awhile, you might miss it.” I’m not going to tell you who said that or what movie it’s from, because you should KNOW. […]
I totally get it, getting healthy takes a long time, but you want results fast because it feels like a competition. Whether you’re on Instagram, Pinterest, or Facebook, everyone is trying to outdo each other one way or another. If you’re in the fitness world, it’s making gains and having a big butt. Decorating your […]
God, the universe, whatever you believe in…they put you on this earth for a higher purpose than to be attractive. The purpose of your life can’t just be to be beautiful and have people like you. Thanksgiving is just around the corner, here in the US, and it’s got me thinkin’ about just how thankful I am […]
My best friend Ali has a son named George (I know, it’s adorable) and sometimes George gets upset when we’re shopping. He really wants a toy. He wants to look at toys, buy toys, play with toys…he really likes cars and trucks. But Ali and I have been around the block once or twice with […]
Women's bodies are shown in a sexual context far more than men's bodies. That send the message that our bodies are made to be attractive, but their purpose is so much more than that! When you see your body's purpose as more than beautiful, it's much easier to stop comparing yourself and appreciate your body. In this episode, you'll learn what to do when critical thought patterns start, and how to remind yourself you are more than a body.
Welcome to the re-release of Confidently She! In this episode, I start by defining what confidence actually looks like. It's more of a feeling within you than a tangible quality people can see. You'll learn how to define confidence, the difference between confidence and arrogance, and why it feels so hard to love yourself even when you're actually amazing. Thanks for listening, share this with your best friend (she needs it, too) and join the group Confidently She Makes it Happen over on Facebook. Want more? Sign up for my email list and download my morning routine to build confidence. Click here.