Confidently She - Podcast for Christian Women by Rebekah Buege

85 | She forgives without needing an apology

An episode of Confidently She - Podcast for Christian Women by Rebekah Buege

By Rebekah Buege
When you're tired of chasing perfection, this podcast reminds you it's okay to rest in God's grace! Rebekah Buege is a Christian body confidence coach helping women of faith find worth in God's word, not their appearance, relationship, or social status. Rebekah helps you question beliefs that make you question your self worth. True, biblical confidence is trusting that no matter where you're at or what people think, you're still loved and worthy in God's eyes. New episodes every Thursday!
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91 | She's jealous (and not ashamed to admit it)
Jealousy is not a sign of insecurity, it's a character trait of God and I'm done apologizing for it. The important distinction to make, though, is between jealousy and envy. Listen up, ladies - this one is a favorite of mine.
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August 15, 2019
90 | She GETS that haircut
How do you handle when someone you've dated didn't want you to wear your hair a certain way, and then you get out of that relationship and you want to do the things you "weren't allowed" to do but you're scared? - That's a question I got in my DMs. Toxic relationships plant insecurities that stick around long after the relationship ends unless we do the work to WEED THEM OUT. 
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August 8, 2019
89 | She embraces feminine qualities of confidence
I used to think masculine traits made you confident, but it actually made me frustrated and insecure! So I had to figure out how to be confident in a feminine way, the way God intended us to be. Feminine confidence lies in the balance between striving for acceptance and giving up completely.
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August 1, 2019
88 | She's a good steward of her body
Take a look at how the God defines love and measure that against how you treat your body. You probably aren't doing to hot, huh? We all struggle with believing our imperfect bodies are worthy of love - but you don't need to feel guilt or shame about this. Start with whatever advice on this episode feels easiest for you and once you gain momentum, build your confidence from there!
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July 25, 2019
87 | She submits to her husband
Confident women CAN (and do) submit to their husbands...but they're careful to hold their husbands to the standard set in the bible, too.
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July 18, 2019
86 | She knows her God-Given purpose [guest, Stefanie Gass)
Can we stop with the stereotype of "church ladies" and get real about the fact we're called to be MORE than moms? God created each of us with incredible gifts to further His kingdom...aren't you curious what yours is? The opinions of others shouldn't stop you from taking direction from God and living your life for His purpose! Check out more from Stefanie at www.stefaniegass.com and she's on insta @stefaniegass
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July 11, 2019
85 | She forgives without needing an apology
When someone hurts you, you expect an apology...in order to forgive them. That's how we grew up viewing forgiveness...but when we don't get the apology we want - our hearts get hard and turn bitter very easily. I'm sharing my experience with not wanting to forgive my abusive ex and how God worked in my heart to show me that forgiving him was about my own freedom...not his.
43:49
July 4, 2019
84 | She blesses those who reject her
Feeling rejected by a brother in Christ? Confident women learn how to wish them well, without feeling hurt by them not being interested in you. Also hear me freak out over discovering a new podcast review lol.
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June 27, 2019
83 | She is exactly enough
The enemy wants you to believe your beauty is not enough and too much - all at the same time. Here's what God says of you.
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June 20, 2019
82 | She's at peace with what she eats [guest, Karen Finney]
The reason you're trying to control everything says more about your struggle than what you're trying to control. There's another way to relate to food and to your body. God put you in your body for a reason, and instead of fighting against it - you can actually choose to be at peace with it. Check out Karen Finney @karenfinneycoaching on instagram!
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June 13, 2019
81 | She did a boudoir photoshoot
I felt God whisper, "you don't need a man's desire to have permission to capture how beautiful I made you"  Close up pictures of me in my underwear, what could go wrong? Building confidence is about challenging yourself to try new things. After I broke off an engagement 6 months ago, I wanted to celebrate how God is renewing me. Reclaiming me. I wanted to do a boudoir shoot for my wedding, but I felt like I couldn't anymore. Soooo I listened to God's nudge and did it even though I was a little afraid what people would say. This episode covers how I thought about the process, things I did to improve my comfort level and body confidence!
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June 6, 2019
80 | She has a holistic view of health [with Nicole Scheitlin]
Nicole is the founder of Fit Foundations and you should follow her on Instagram @nicolescheitlin for info on how to have a good relationship with HEALTH in general. Cause lots of IG fitness people are telling you dumb stuff that hurts your body image and confidence.
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May 30, 2019
79 | She believes she's forgiven
Confidently She - The Program starts in June! Go to www.rebekahbuege.com/program to find out more! You don't have to continue trying to be enough because the decision has already been made that God loves you. It's up to you to decide what you do with that truth from Romans 5:6-8. God forgives you when you've mistreated your body or criticized yourself horribly. It doesn't matter how bad it was before, the beauty of grace is that you can be confident you're forgiven.
21:07
May 23, 2019
78 | She moves forward from eating disorders without shame
I'm launching a program June - September! This summer, you can learn the foundation of building confidence in Christ! Join here: www.rebekahbuege.com/program  Disclaimer: I'm not a doctor so talking about eating disorders is ALWAYS a tip-toe subject for me. I'm only speaking from my personal perspective, my perspective on scripture in this area, and if this helps you, fantastic! That being said, I completely acknowledge the fact I don't have training in this area - so there are probably lots of aspects about eating disorders I'm blind to. 
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May 16, 2019
77 | She learns to love herself
Oh gosh, where to begin. How did liking who we are become an incredibly difficult daily struggle? When did self criticism become the norm? How did we get here? I know how, marketing. Back in the 60’s companies got really good at making us feel like something was missing. If we just bought their product, […]
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May 9, 2019
76 | She gets her identity in Christ (guest, Hanha Hobson)
If God asked you to give that up, would you? You know the thing. The thing you’re holding onto so tightly you’re terrified of letting it go. That thing. Chances are, that’s where you’re getting your identity right now. Sometimes it’s a job, a boyfriend, your kids, or even a certain lifestyle you’re living. If […]
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May 2, 2019
75| She builds a positive body image
Having a positive body image actually doesn’t start with self love. (here’s a Confidently She podcast episode about that) p.s. join the Summer Semester of Confidently She – The Program HERE That’s like saying having a birthday cake starts with lighting the candles. Sure, that’s technically what makes a regular cake into a birthday cake, […]
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April 25, 2019
74 | She sets health goals (not weight goals)
Does this come from a health goal or a vanity goal?
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April 18, 2019
73 | She NEVER does these 5 things
You might be sabotaging your confidence. Not on purpose, obviously. If you’re feeling insecure or doubting yourself, the answer might be in NOT doing certain things. Before I get into this, I want you to know I’ve personally done all these things – so there’s no judgement. Plus, my VIP coaching day is designed to […]
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April 11, 2019
72 | She's a crappy Christian [guest, Blake Guichet]
Where does confidence come from? How can you be confident when you keep messing up? Confidence doesn’t come from being perfect or looking a certain way. Anyone who’s confident will tell you it comes from actually facing their inner voice and doing the work others are afraid to do. For Christians, it means trusting that […]
20:47
April 4, 2019
71 | She tears down idols
Your idols sometimes look like your blessings. The things God gives you in this life on earth are wonderful: family, friends, careers…bodies. But idolatry happens when we get our priorities out of whack. We start putting our physical health above everything. You obsess over the way you look. Idolatry is this big scary word in […]
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March 28, 2019
70 | She stops obsessing over negative thoughts
I struggle with obsessing over negative thoughts. Everyone does. You’re probably worried about things that happened in the past or things that might happen in the future. Which one do you gravitate towards? I worry about the future more than I dwell on the past. Everything you’re worried about right now is an earthly thing. […]
19:51
March 21, 2019
69 | She trusts herself (because Christ is in her)
Trusting in yourself is a big topic right now. Thankfully, we are moving away from getting our identity from other people. Our culture is focusing less on what other people think and more on finding approval within ourselves, which I think is great. But there has to be another level to it when you’re truly […]
23:50
March 14, 2019
68 | She audits her Instagram feed
How does social media impact your body image and self esteem? Have you ever thought to yourself, “is Instagram bad for my body image?” I know I have. In fact, I’ve gone through and unfollowed every account that makes me feel insecure, critical, or doubtful of my self worth. I think sometimes we tell ourselves […]
25:57
March 7, 2019
67 | She follows God's plan for her life
There’s a difference between God’s plan for your life and the path you choose to take. I do believe that God has the same plan for everyone – it’s written in the Bible. When I used to think of God’s plan, I thought of like, my life path. Everything was “part of God’s plan” because […]
27:07
February 28, 2019
66 | She tells her daughter she's MORE than beautiful
“my daughter thinks she’s ugly, what do I tell her?” No matter what age your daughter shares her insecurities, it’s heartbreaking to hear. I’m not a parent yet, I don’t personally know what it feels like to hear this – but I do know what it feels like to say it. Growing up, I felt […]
22:56
February 21, 2019
65 | She enjoys Valentine's Day (no matter what!)
No matter what your relationship status is right now, you can still enjoy Valentine’s Day! Here’s my thing: The only people who don’t like Valentine’s Day are the ones with high expectations that never get met so they act super salty about it and pretend not to like nice things. You’re telling me you don’t […]
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February 14, 2019
64 | 7 Steps to Boost Your Confidence with Emotional Intelligence with Anna Tsui
Emotions are a powerful tool you can use to boost your confidence. People think being emotional is a negative or uncontrollable quality in women. It really doesn’t have to be. When you learn how to understand and support your emotional health using emotional intelligence, you can harness the positive power of your feelings. That might […]
35:24
February 7, 2019
63 | How to Create Health in the Life You’re Already Living with Monica Mo
It’s possible to create health in your life without having an all or nothing mentality. So many “body rules” are based on conflicting messages. If you eat a salad, people make fun of you, but if you eat a burger and fries you might feel self conscious for eating “unhealthy” food. You really can’t win […]
28:08
January 31, 2019
62 | Why ‘Do What Makes You Happy’ is Terrible Advice You Should Ignore
‘Do what makes you happy’ is really lazy advice. Happiness isn’t a goal you should be working towards. It’s a fleeting feeling that comes and goes throughout the day. There’s a difference between doing what makes you happy and doing what makes you feel good. It’s the difference between longterm and short term satisfaction. Happiness […]
27:58
January 24, 2019
61 | Setting Better Health Goals with Kelly Morgan
There has to be better ways to think about your health besides your weight. With all the different factors that influence your weight each day, it’s not a very good way to measure your health. So why do we obsess over weight loss all the time? Our culture focuses so much on losing weight, we […]
27:59
January 17, 2019
60 | How to Prioritize Your Self Worth After Becoming a Mom with Renata Trebing
Moms give to everyone else first and if they have anything left over, they can take scraps for themselves. I really don’t like this burden we put on motherhood. This is why you need to keep building your self worth after becoming a mom. Being a mom is a huge part of your identity, but […]
23:50
January 10, 2019
59 | Why Endings are Necessary, Selfless, and Essential to Living a Confident Life
If there’s one thing women struggle with more than body confidence, it’s how to end something without feeling guilty. We are conditioned to say yes to everyone and everything. Saying no in the beginning is hard, but what’s even harder is saying no after giving it your best effort. The craziest part about it is […]
24:31
January 3, 2019
58 | 3 Ways to Build Confidence in Online Dating with Andi Forness
Being single is a really great way to explore exactly who you are. When you’re ready to find a committed partner, online dating isn’t usually people’s first choice. I think it’s changing a bit as people realize how useful the internet is for literally everything else. But when you make the decision to sign up…what’s […]
30:04
December 27, 2018
57 | Having the Confidence to Change the Direction of Your Life with Veronica Parker
The simplest way to change the direction of your life is to accept where you are now. We are so good at pretending like everything is okay and things aren’t as bad as we think, but you need to get real if you want things to change. It takes confidence to look inside and validate […]
30:48
December 20, 2018
56 | How to Create More Happiness in Your Life Starting Now with Jaqueline Pirtle
If you want more happiness in your life, you have to stop waiting. We see commercials and hear people talk about what’s coming next. The big new thing. Maybe it’s a new job or a new house. You could be waiting to get married or get a promotion in order to start feeling happy and […]
26:05
December 13, 2018
55 | Why Diets Fail and You Never Feel Good Enough
Focusing on outcomes rather than enjoying yourself in the moment is the biggest reason why diets fail. Most diet and exercise programs focus on losing X amount in X days. What about your mindset and level of enjoyment in those days? If you can’t enjoy the process and the moment right now, it’s almost impossible […]
18:37
December 6, 2018
54 | How to Have it All (it’s easier than you think)
I’m like woohoo – baby you can get it all. This episode has 2009 Bow Wow stuck in my head – in the best way. Want to know how to have it all? Start by asking yourself what that really means to you. Not what it means to your friends, family, or partner. We get […]
19:44
November 28, 2018
53 | Self Worth Boundaries & Being Happy Over the Holidays
How to stop letting other people’s opinions influence your self worth. Set a boundary between how you view yourself and how other view you. Then, practice letting the good in and being critical of the bad. Plus – I’m talking about some food stuff for the holidays and why I think everyone has an eating […]
30:41
November 11, 2018
52 | Practicing Spiritual Fitness with Patricia Moreno
The difference between self love and body positivity is the idea we are more than our bodies. I sat down to interview the founder of Intensati and spiritual fitness, Patricia Moreno, and I’m humbled by her strength, wisdom, and passion for women’s health. Click here to listen to the interview on the podcast. Patricia is […]
54:12
September 7, 2018
51 | How to Recover from Physical Loss with Inga Lizdenyte
How much value do you place in your appearance? After losing both her legs and the function of her left arm in a tragic car accident, Inga had a choice. She could either focus on everything she lost or everything she still had. This episode features the story of author, speaker, and coach, Inga Lizdenyte, […]
30:12
July 10, 2018
50 | How to Balance Being Feminine with Being a Feminist
On this episode, Rebekah covers how she handles being naturally feminine and very strongly feminist. Is it possible to be both? Can you wear makeup and still be a feminist? Rebekah says you can.
24:45
July 3, 2018
49 | Body Image vs. Body Positivity vs. Body Confidence
What’s the difference between body image, body positivity, and body confidence? They’re definitely related, but they’re not the same thing. In this episode, Rebekah walks you through the definition of each term, examples, and why they’re important.
24:25
June 26, 2018
48 | 7 Things to Remember When You Start Comparing Your Body
Comparing your body to others is a very common thing. You don’t have to beat yourself up when you realize you’ve fallen into this again. It’s a vicious cycle and it can ruin your day without being hard on yourself for doing it in the first place. But there are ways to pull yourself out […]
29:05
June 19, 2018
47 | Infidelity: You Don’t Need to Take the Blame
Blaming yourself for being cheated on is the default setting for most people. I understand, it’s natural to criticize yourself and find flaws, especially in your appearance. But when you really think about it, cheating is a result of selfishness. Selfish people are only thinking of, wait for it, themselves. So it really has nothing […]
25:15
June 12, 2018
46 | Start Feeling Like Yourself Again with William Pullen
You’re going to have bad body image days. It’s normal and no matter what you look like, it’s bound to happen now and then. But when the bad days turn into bad weeks, months, or even years…that’s when you know you have to really try to get yourself out of the rut. One way to […]
21:02
June 5, 2018
44 | The Importance of a Healthy Mind with Ryan Duff
It’s more common than you think to find patterns of eating disorders in athletes. When your main focus is on the performance of your body, you start finding flaws where other people probably wouldn’t. You search for every single thing you can control about your performance, and it soon turns into unhealthy behavior. On this […]
32:21
May 22, 2018
43 | How to Stop Feeling Guilty After Eating
Lots of women are feeling guilty after eating anything, even if it’s considered healthy food. If your relationship with food is a constant battle, you’re in the right place. There is a range of disordered eating habits, sometimes you don’t realize it’s happening until someone else points it out. Today, I have a friend of […]
22:19
May 15, 2018
42 | 17 Practical Ways to Start Liking Your Body – Even When it Feels Impossible
It’s not easy to start liking your body when you’re hyper-focused on your appearance. The best way to get started is actually by thinking of your body as a tool rather than a project. There’s a saying that goes like this, “your body is not a work of art, your body is the paint brush. […]
28:56
May 8, 2018
41 | How to Beat Diet Culture and Heal Your Relationship with Food with Dr. Alexis Conason
What is diet culture? It’s everywhere and once you start seeing it, it’s almost impossible to stop. Diet culture is the idea that in order to be happy and healthy, everyone has to look a certain way. This $66 billion dollar industry thrives on convincing people it’s their fault if the product (aka diets, exercise […]
30:02
April 24, 2018
40 | How to Prevent Your Feelings From Being Controlled by the Actions of Others
Learning to prevent your feelings from being controlled by others is key to living a happy, low-stress life. The main causes of resentment, disappointment, and general saltiness come from not taking ownership of your feelings and not communicating your expectations. Read that last sentence again, because it’s important. I want to make sure you really […]
24:38
April 17, 2018
39 | How to Resolve Conflict with Confidence
It’s possible to resolve conflict in a healthy way, no matter the outcome. When you resolve conflict in a healthy, confident way you’ll get better at avoiding conflict altogether in the future. The first step in resolving a conflict is understanding what’s really at the heart of the disagreement. Usually, the answer is someone’s feelings […]
24:17
April 10, 2018
38 | The 3 Types of Silence
How does silence make you feel? Anxious, nervous, or maybe comfortable and at ease? Your relationship with silence says a lot about your self value and confidence. The way you feel about silence is greatly influenced by your history with it. Maybe someone in your past would give you “the silent treatment” when you did […]
22:47
April 2, 2018
37 | How to Love Your Wedding Pictures (no matter what!)
There’s so much stress around your wedding day, the last think you want to be worrying about is how to look good in your wedding pictures. With all the pressure put on you to create the “perfect day” it’s easy to forget to actually enjoy your wedding. You and your future husband are planning your […]
21:43
March 26, 2018
36 | The Real Reason I Switched to High Rise Jeans
High rise jeans changed my relationship with my hips. Hips gets a lot of attention, people talk about them a lot. We compare them to muffins, Coke bottles, and lots of other things. I always used to think I had chubby hips, I hated the way my jeans fit. It wasn’t until I discovered high […]
19:25
March 19, 2018
35 | How the Lena Cup Changed My Period for the Better
Talking about periods shouldn’t be taboo anymore, okay? So I’m sharing all the reasons I love my Lena Cup. It makes me seriously angry that no one properly educated me (or any women I know) about menstrual cups. They’re great for so many reasons! I’m taking it upon myself to share with you all the […]
18:32
March 12, 2018
34 | Exercise Mindset: Focus on Your Strengths
The fitness industry trained you to put exercise in a little, constricting box. It tells you exercise is meant to fix your physical flaws and make your body more appealing to others. I’m going to train you to forget that nonsense and believe something new about exercise. What if exercise could be enjoyable? Would you […]
20:50
March 5, 2018
33 | The Real Causes of Negative Body Image (hint: it’s not you)
Knowing the causes of negative body image helps guide you towards healing those beliefs. No matter what your body actually looks like, the way you think about yourself determines your body image. Since you were young, you followed the example of your parents and family. This did not stop at learning to walk, talk, and […]
22:18
February 26, 2018
32 | What it’s like to Hire a Body Confidence Coach
This industry isn’t one you hear about every day. I’m not an accountant or a teacher. So I get a lot of questions like, who is going to hire a body confidence coach? or, “what does a body confidence coach do?” In today’s episode, I’m walking you through a “behind the scenes” look at my […]
21:11
February 19, 2018
31 | Changing Your Perspective on Your Body with Jen Hodson
One of the best gifts I’ve given myself is learning to stop being self conscious. Easier said than done. For me, facing the fear was a great way to realize it’s not so scary! I thought about what made me self conscious and decided to put it out into the world. Guess what? Soon, it […]
20:11
February 12, 2018
30 | How to Feel Good about Yourself Beyond Your Body
Looking better isn’t the answer to feeling good about yourself. Sure, sometimes it’s fun to get dressed up and put on lipstick (it sure makes me feel good!) But there’s more to feeling good than simply looking good, you have to really like who you are and see value in yourself. That’s harder to do than contour […]
25:35
February 5, 2018
29 | Body Image Myth: Attractive People Have it All
You can’t help but believe this common body image myth. Thoughts and assumptions are very weird things, and I want to talk about a few right now. Have you heard of cognitive biases? Well, a man named Charlie Munger, partner to Warren Buffet at Berkshire Hathaway, introduced 25 cognitive biases in his talk, “The Psychology […]
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January 29, 2018
28 | How to Handle the Pressure to be Perfect with Brittney Bliss
Most women feel a pressure to be perfect in lots of areas of their life; at work, at home, and definitely in bed. What happens what you’re self conscious about your body and uncomfortable talking about it with your partner? Or even when you’re not in a serious relationship…what happens when that dry-spell starts messing […]
22:38
January 22, 2018
Your Identity and Body Image Changes with Brittany Hammond
Understanding your identity and body image starts at a very young age. When you’re young, the only way to know who you are is by comparing yourself to other people. This is normal and not necessarily unhealthy. If your comparisons are mostly negative and you’re telling yourself you’re “not good enough” compared to other people, […]
25:45
January 15, 2018
10 Things to Stop Doing to Start Believing in Yourself
Most women struggle with self doubt and confidence issues. You’re not the only one. We think, “I want to believe in myself, but I don’t know how when things get tough.” Yeah, I’ve been there. The good news? Resilience is a skill you can learn. You can actually teach yourself to “rebound” more quickly from […]
28:07
January 8, 2018
Self Value for Women in Business with Victoria Bauman
When you’re dealing with insecurities you inherently question your self value. You feel like you should be able to move on from things that make you feel unworthy, but pushing them down doesn’t make them disappear. The only way to truly dissolve your insecurities and embrace your worth as a woman is to face the […]
27:45
January 1, 2018
Perfection Doesn’t Equal Happiness with Karolina Kaczor
You might be thinking, “wouldn’t it be easy to be confident if my body was perfect? That’s what I’ve always wanted!” Well, the truth is your confidence has nothing to do with what you look like. If you feel like you need to stop worrying and start living your life, you need to know why […]
24:15
December 18, 2017
How to Battle Negative Body Image: Lessons from a Breast Cancer Survivor
I happily indulge in using movie quotes to drive home a point, so here’s a favorite. “Life moves pretty fast, if you don’t slow down and take a look around once in awhile, you might miss it.” I’m not going to tell you who said that or what movie it’s from, because you should KNOW. […]
21:49
December 4, 2017
Dedication v. Obsession: Health Shouldn’t Consume Your Life
I totally get it, getting healthy takes a long time, but you want results fast because it feels like a competition. Whether you’re on Instagram, Pinterest, or Facebook, everyone is trying to outdo each other one way or another. If you’re in the fitness world, it’s making gains and having a big butt. Decorating your […]
13:22
November 27, 2017
No Extra Points if You Die Pretty
God, the universe, whatever you believe in…they put you on this earth for a higher purpose than to be attractive. The purpose of your life can’t just be to be beautiful and have people like you. Thanksgiving is just around the corner, here in the US, and it’s got me thinkin’ about just how thankful I am […]
12:18
November 20, 2017
Changing Your Body Doesn’t Change Who You Are
My best friend Ali has a son named George (I know, it’s adorable) and sometimes George gets upset when we’re shopping. He really wants a toy. He wants to look at toys, buy toys, play with toys…he really likes cars and trucks. But Ali and I have been around the block once or twice with […]
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November 13, 2017
The Purpose of Your Body is Not to Look Good
It’s so easy to get caught up in comparisonitis! Yes, that might be a made up word, but it’s a good one. Comparing yourself to what you see in others is the fastest way to shred your confidence. Today on the podcast, I’m sharing a super quick way to fight that comparisonitis as soon as […]
10:40
November 7, 2017
What Does it Mean to Have Body Confidence?
Finding confidence is a personal journey you and I are both on. Being confident in who you are and what you look like is almost impossible without serious work being done everyday. You’re constantly being told you need to “fix” things about yourself. In the blog posts, product descriptions, and even email headlines you’re reading […]
07:31
November 4, 2017
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