Becoming Unsilenced: Leading Boldly with Authenticity

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Michelle Duhigg, Empowerment Coach and Business consultant, takes real talk in this episode about how a person can move from being caught in the hustle, bustle, and grind of the corporate workplace to living a more balanced being overdoing life.

She shares her #1 key is learning to listen to intuition.  Intuition guides a person to better understand the world around and act with focus and clarity.

Michelle offers great real-life strategies about how to incorporate mindfulness into a busy day and shares with us her 3 secrets to doing this for herself!

1. Reflect - how did you get where you are at now?
2. Reset - Where do I want to be?  Creating an intentional and clear vision about where you want to be in your life.
3. Rewire - Develop practices that reaffirm and rewire the old messages and replace them with new messages that reflect your worthiness and deservingness of the life you desire.

Three powerful rewiring strategies you can implement today are Gratitude, Affirmations, and Journaling.

I found one of the most insightful takeaways from our conversation to be this idea “Good Strategy comes from Vision!”

You can find Michelle online in the following places!

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Join me for an inspiring conversation on Conscious Leadership with Vicki Bradley CEO and founder of Women In Leadership Empowered!

Vicki shares her passion for being a catalyst to move women from reactive, overworked, stressed out, fearful performance in the workplace to responsive, being-centered, creative living.

She shares her story of 30 years as an executive in the corporate world and then how her body said “no more.”  Soul searching for a new career that supported a more balanced life she chose coaching.

Her programs help women come together for coaching, networking, peer-to-peer mentoring, and skill development.

She defines conscious leadership as helping you to be present and learning how to respond vs react in stressful situations!

Here program Conscious Leadership launches in January 2022!

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MEET VICKI BRADLEY!  

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Vicki Bradley is a catalyst for change and advocates for women to be at their optimal.

She is the founder of Vicki Bradley and Company and WIL Empowered, businesses that focus on supporting women to enhance their leadership and be at their optimal performance in all aspects of life.

At Vicki Bradley and Company, I’m an executive coach who helps businesses attract, retain, and develop talent to support bottom-line results in the retail, technology, professional services, and financial sectors.

As a mentor and coach for top executives, I discovered that most women were struggling to advance their careers due to under-developed soft skills and a lack of support. I created the WIL Empowered program to provide all of the tools and training necessary for women to become effective leaders and accelerate their careers. WIL Empowered is the only women's leadership program of its kind - where women in business can harness the power of networking, mentorship, and career advancement all at one time.

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CONNECT WITH VICKI BRADLEY HERE!

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In this episode, we dive into the power of the subconscious mind!  Learn how Arthur Fratelli was introduced to the power of the mind by a professor and how it lead him to a 21-year career of performing onstage.  He shares his strong belief that you can do anything when you partner the power of the subconscious mind with skill development.

He shares his real-life experience of recovering from surgery through learning a card shuffling technique and role models that concept that you truly can learn amazing things one step at a time!

We wind out this fun episode by exploring why he believes that connecting back to your own inner self is always the path to creating your best future  AND he teaches us the breathing technique that he uses to calm himself in stressful moments!

ABOUT ARTHUR FRATELLI

As a speaker, Arthur Fratelli inspires audiences to move beyond the past and seize the present, making every moment count in real and meaningful ways. Using everything from gut-busting comedy hypnosis to science-based brain training, Arthur’s highly captivating community-building presentations teach you to harness the hidden power of your own subconscious and become your most powerful self.

Melanie was born and raised in Antelope County, Nebraska. She lived on the East Coast for thirty years where she attended seminary, was ordained in the United Church of Christ and served churches in Maine, New York and Virginia. She returned home fall of 2015 and is raising cattle, preaching, writing, building community and her dream home.

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Pastor and cattle producer Melanie Miller candidly shares her experiences of growing up in fundamental conservative religion, how it influenced her thinking and how she began to discover her voice and gain confidence in her knowledge, and expertise.  She says the fundamental harmful message that women receive through religion is that Eve is the problem of everything.  Listen to how she feels this myth has shaped religion, female experience, and has deeply shaped the fabric of our culture of misogyny and patriarchy.

She shares how during seminary she began to deconstruct the beliefs that had been given to her as foundational and true in her youth and let go of the superiority that had been indoctrinated into her.  She chose to live a path of authenticity and not hide the fact that she believes in the fundamentalist religious framework and that she believes that the old framework does enormous harm to women and men.

She recognizes her role in uniting people together through finding common ground and expanding perspectives and mindsets.

This is a power-packed episode that you will want to make sure you listen to all the way to the end!

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SEASON 2 EPISODE 21

Join Vicki and co-host Janet Hudson as they share a candid conversation on their individual paths of personal transformation

Discover how having key support people and small groups of like-spirited friends traveling the same path is the key to making it or giving up (or getting stuck!) on our personal growth journey!

In this episode we chat about how our personal growth has transformed our selves, our families, our careers --- and well pretty much our entire lives!!

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SEASON 2 EPISODE 20

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In this episode, I launch the season by sharing how my inspired intuitive living journey has unfolded over the summer.  The ups and downs of the summer have culminated in a 7+ year dream of living in Mexico.  I recorded this episode in the first apartment I have ever had just for myself!

• Adjusting to new surroundings
• Consciously creating how I want to be:  food, activities, time, exercise,
• Celebrating
• Relaxing my spirit where it’s still uptight!

Shifting from my son living in our home  to renting the house.

New programs are launching in business this month! Ambassadors; 1:1 coaching: Sweeter Life Circles; New Season of the Podcast!

Where I am now:  Mexico; accomplished PCC; Daughter graduated/off to college

I also share how the inspired number 22 has welcomed me to my new home in Mexico!

What I have learned on my journey to follow my inner voice:

• Complete Flexibility  (Let go of advance analyzing and planning)
• Focusing on the present moment (releasing worry/my “crack”)
• Feel ALL of my feelings (learn how to hold joy/sadness at the same time)
• Establishing new ways of being with loved ones through change
• A dream feels like a LEAP from a distance but when you focus on each step one day the fulfillment of that dream is just the next step that you take.  Sometimes it doesn’t look as anticipated (tears at the airport! Sheryl asking...how happy are you)
• Letting go of control

My inner voice has shifted and feels much more integrated into who I am every moment.  It used to feel like something “outside” of me that I really had to listen to - now feels like it is a part of me in each moment.

• Key Insight - When my spirit is in alignment with the universe everything I decide/do from that space is also an aligned decision.  Makes decision-making easier.
• My guiding words for the next month are: Simple, Ease, Abundance, Be in Relationship.

• The Universe Always had a Plan:  Matt Kahn
• Everything is here to help you: Matt Kahn

Activities that have been Helpful

• Gratitude
• Celebration
• Feeling all my sadness
• Intentionally meeting with people before I left

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Un-si-lenced  /- When one no longer acts from past trauma, doubt, fear, or hurt stemming from personal, generational, or cultural wounds and instead speaks, acts, lives, and works from her inner integrity. Her entire life is aligned with her inner wisdom & she thereby lives her greatest potential each day.  Her life is full of confidence, joy, peace, and significance.  She changes her world by changing herself.  

Vicki and her daughter visited the Eiffel Tower in Summer of 2019.  The experience was life-changing and has become a metaphor that Vicki uses in all of her work.  Construction began on the Eiffel Tower in January of 1887 (did you hear my error in the podcast!?).  Engineers had been competing since the mid-nineteenth century to create a structure over 1000 feet high.  Even though it didn't seem possible, Mr. Eiffel had a vision and in 2.2 short years he built the world's tallest structure to date measuring 1,063 feet high!    Hear how Vicki uses this inspiring metaphor to help individuals, families, and organizations achieve their own Eiffel Tower size Greatness!  

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Un-si-lenced  /- When one no longer acts from past trauma, doubt, fear, or hurt stemming from personal, generational, or cultural wounds and instead speaks, acts, lives, and works from her inner integrity. Her entire life is aligned with her inner wisdom & she thereby lives her greatest potential each day.  Her life is full of confidence, joy, peace, and significance.  She changes her world by changing herself.  

DO YOU SHARE THE VISION AND DESIRE TO HELP OTHER WOMEN BECOMING UNSILENCED?  We are looking for women just like you to be part of our ambassador community.  Find a place to plug in and recharge your own battery AND participate in shining the light for others by helping us reach all corners of the world!  

Un-si-lenced  /- When one no longer acts from past trauma, doubt, fear, or hurt stemming from personal, generational, or cultural wounds and instead speaks, acts, lives, and works from her inner integrity. Her entire life is aligned with her inner wisdom & she thereby lives her greatest potential each day.  Her life is full of confidence, joy, peace, and significance.  She changes her world by changing herself.  

IN THIS EPISODE DISCOVER THE POWER OF LEADING AT A HIGHER LEVEL!  Have you been on your own discovery journey and now you feel called to their greatest potential?  Whether you are an executive, front-line employee, entrepreneur, or full-time mom your authentic self is needed in our world today.  Today, more leaders than ever are needed who are committed to breaking cycles, creating strong cultures, and leading. the way through their own commitment to growth and change.  You too can create Unsilenced individuals, teams, and organizations by sharing your gifts with the world and continuing to grow and sharpen your skillset!  

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Un-si-lenced  /- When one no longer acts from past trauma, doubt, fear, or hurt stemming from personal, generational, or cultural wounds and instead speaks, acts, lives, and works from her inner integrity. Her entire life is aligned with her inner wisdom & she thereby lives her greatest potential each day.  Her life is full of confidence, joy, peace, and significance.  She changes her world by changing herself. 

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SEASON 2 EPISODE 23  

In this episode discover how your current work circumstances may be pushing you to align your work with your true values, strengths, and purpose.  We spend a majority of waking hours that we are not with our family engaged in work of some type.  Whether you are an executive leader or a full-time mom if your work is not aligned with who you are it's likely to be draining you.  Instead, discover how to be fully energized and serving others through your unique gifts, talents, and skillset!  

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Un-si-lenced  /- When one no longer acts from past trauma, doubt, fear, or hurt stemming from personal, generational, or cultural wounds and instead speaks, acts, lives, and works from her inner integrity. Her entire life is aligned with her inner wisdom & she thereby lives her greatest potential each day.  Her life is full of confidence, joy, peace, and significance.  She changes her world by changing herself.  

Season 2 Episode 22

In this short episode discover the amazing possibilities YOU have on creating change for yourself and your families.  Each woman committed to her own connection and healing can become the catalyst for healed, healthy families!  

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Un-si-lenced  /- When one no longer acts from past trauma, doubt, fear, or hurt stemming from personal, generational, or cultural wounds and instead speaks, acts, lives, and works from her inner integrity. Her entire life is aligned with her inner wisdom & she thereby lives her greatest potential each day.  Her life is full of confidence, joy, peace, and significance.  She changes her world by changing herself.

Season 2 Episode 21

In this short episode discover the foundational principle of connecting back to and rediscovering the person you always have been!  Although layers of distortion have been put on you since birth it is possible to peel them away and discover the worthy, beautiful, valuable individual you are.  You are as unique as your fingerprint and this world needs YOUR unique version of YOU!  

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Un-si-lenced  /- When one no longer acts from past trauma, doubt, fear, or hurt stemming from personal, generational, or cultural wounds and instead speaks, acts, lives, and works from her inner integrity. Her entire life is aligned with her inner wisdom & she thereby lives her greatest potential each day.  Her life is full of confidence, joy, peace, and significance.  She changes her world by changing herself.

SEASON 2!!!

In this episode get straight to the facts on the ways that women are silenced in today's daily life!  You may have some additional to add - please leave a comment about your own experience!  

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In Today’s episode, I chat with Nas Echevarria, Business Growth Strategist from The Next Level UP CEO.  She shares her own journey of shifting from being raised with an extremely conservative view of money and the shift that happened for her to open up and begin living each day with a priority to show up as her greatest self which led to a dramatic shift in her business and financial abundance!  Her “No Fluff” strategy and real conversation will leave you with an incredible sense of new possibilities.      

We talk about... 

00:00 Women, Money, Culture, and Embracing Wealth! 

03:00 Nas Shares her story of how her mom cautioning her to not spill one drop of shampoo influenced her money story! 

06:00 How she went from being working her first job at 14 and hoarding everything that she earned to embracing the possibilities of unlimited abundance. 

09:30 How the Near-Death Experience with her baby daughter was the catalyst for this change and for trusting her intuition at a deeper level. 

17:00 How the concept of “unconditional growth” changed everything for Nas 

18:00 How sharing her recent financial success in business in a Women’s Entrepreneur Facebook group had shocking results.  We ask the questions….  

20:28 What ideas about money have women inherited culturally (did you know it’s only been since the 1960s that a woman could LEGALLY open a bank account in her own name?!) 

23:00 Why are women ashamed to talk about their successes and attack and tear each other down instead of pushing each other greatness. 25:00 Nas encourages each individual to own their own money story and uncover the beliefs that keep each woman playing small.  It’s time to own our potential! 

27:00 Developing a Relationship with Money 29:00 Nas and the Easy Yes Lead system - https://easyyesleads.com/ 

30:43 How has this journey with money helped you to become unsilenced in your life and awaken you to your greatest potential?  

Nas Echevarria, Business Growth Strategist and founder of the Unconditional Growth Method. The Unconditional Growth Method is how I have taught hundreds of people to grow their businesses and their lives beyond their wildest dreams. It’s the method that has helped people build sustainable, impactful, and profitable businesses that balance their passion and purpose and grow unconditionally through strategies and systems that strengthen and flourish from the foundation up.  

Website: https://nextlevelupceo.com/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Nextlevelupceo/ 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NextLevelUpCEO

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In this episode of my own version of Michael Singer’s Surrender Experiment, I give an update on how I am living a life based on the leading and inner guidance of my inner intuitive voice.

What I am Focusing On

• Learning from Life Situations
• Alignment Before Action; acting from fear or love
• Living Life from Inner Guidance

Conscious Life Living Updates!

00:00 I put the house on the market on 3-22-21.  Only later realizing the 222 number series that has guided my life!

05:00 Spoke at a Waste Industry Conference which inspired me to reconnect with and clearly define my leadership philosophy around NeuroLinguistic Heart-Centered Leadership. (this feels super important for the future!)

07:00 Intuitive Eating update including experiencing an RTT Session.

My Inner Guidance This Month

17:00 Messages from my Inner Voice this month

20:50 Insight that in certain situations I still help others to my own harm.

26:00 Flowing things that have happened to me!

• Reconnected with a cousin
• Was reminded one day 4 times that the universe is listening!
• New books flowed into my world.

30:23  Books that have been significant this month:

• Women Food and God by Geneen Roth
• Search Inside Yourself by Chade-Ment Tan (A great look at how Google is using
• Mindfulness to increase happiness in the workplace)
• The Joy of Living by Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche (know as the happiest man on earth)

31:43 Activities that have been Helpful

• The WORK by Byron Katie - download all of her resources from her website.
• Loving-Kindness Meditation
• RTT with practitioner Elli Pearl from Australia. For more information check out Elli's website!  www.elliperl.com

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In this episode of Becoming Unsilenced, I chat with Robin Eaton, Teacher, Shaman, and Coach,  about what it’s necessary to slow down to speed up.  We discuss how slowing down allows one to study life in a new way and then intentionally choose what to keep, what to release, and the next path to travel.  Robin defines the difference between destiny and fate and helps us understand the four lines of fate the typically keep a person "hooked" stuck.  She shares with us the science behind the FLOW Formula and how to apply it to life.  We cover a lot of topics that all tie in together such as values, emotions, family genetics, and how you can build a life you don't need a vacation from.  Check out the entire episode or jump straight to the part you most want to listen to  

00:00 Slow Down to Speed Up with Robin Eaton 

05:43 The Formula for Flow 

12:17 The Four Lines of Fate 

15:50 Heart-Centered Values 

24:10 Slowing Down Allows us to Study Patterns 

27:00 Emotions as Keys to Freedom 

32:22 Healing Emotions and Slowing Down Influence the Formula 

39:00 Acceptance and Forgiveness 

46:17 Facing Fears Brings Us Closer to Our Center 

49:48 How have you become Unsilenced in Your Own Life? 

52:00 How has connecting with your Spirit allowed you to Develop to the greatest of Your Potential?  

To Claim Robin’s Free Gift of her Flow with Intention Class email her and mention this podcast:  Robin@soultouchedbyrobin.com   

CONNECT WITH ROBIN 

Website: https://www.soultouchedbyrobin.com/ 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/soultouchedbyrobin   

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In this episode of Becoming Unsilenced Podcast, I chat with Dr. Denise Trudeau Poskas of BlueEgg Leadership.  I wanted to bring her on the podcast today for several reasons.  The first is she has been a significant part of my own journey in “Becoming Unsilenced” and one of the major catalysts in finding my path as a coach.  The second reason is she shares her vast wisdom on how our physical brain works and partners with us to grow emotional intelligence.  Her work shows individuals how to grow EQI (emotional intelligence) through tools, techniques, language, and understanding the brain.   

We chat about the function of the brain and how unprocessed trauma keeps an individual stuck in a negativity loop of fear and worry and reacting in fight/flight.   Embracing new tools such as the WORK by Byron Katie and Mindfulness help an individual begin to access the higher, more resourceful areas of the brain and step out of the negativity.  This personal development work opens up limitless areas of new possibility when you can live into the highest intention for your own self.  It gives you permission to break out of the mold and take ownership of your own journey and create a growth mindset.  Doing this work helps you discover that you are worthy of your potential.

In this episode of Becoming Unsilenced I speak with Coach and EFT Practitioner Jenny Li Ciccone.  In the first half of the episode, she explains what EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique sometimes called Tapping) is and how it is used to help release stored emotions in the body.  Jenny teaches how to pay attention to the pain/discomfort of the body and then use tapping and speaking to release the store energy and more importantly get to the root of pain - emotional, physical and mental.

1st In a series where I will share directly from my own life journey where I am committed to using my life situations as learning experiences, alignment before action, and letting my life be guided completely by my intuitive wisdom.

In This Episode, I define what it looks like to live life based on these 3 priorities:

1) Learning from Life Situations

2) Alignment Before Action - acting from fear or love

3) Living Life from Inner Guidance

I Share the 3 areas of my life that I am growing the most in right now:  Money, romantic relationships, and eating and how I am embracing the concept "Slow Down to Speed up."

Embracing this philosophy has brought me to a slower pace than ever imagined and allowed me to really finally blow up some longstanding issues - like the final roots of my money fear, cycles of workaholism, even awareness of eating patterns I have dealt with all my life, and now has my standing on the brink of some pretty exciting shifts!

Here are the Real-Life Situations I have face the last 3 months and share about in this episode:

🔵  Death of my Father

🔵  What I decided to do with a growing Facebook group that didn’t feel aligned anymore

🔵. My Entrepreneur Journey and What unfolds next

🔵. Being Empty Nester soon

🔵.  How I am making decisions about my house.

Key Lessons Insights I have had from the last 3 months of slowing down:

🟣  Living the  Abundance Change me Prayer by Tosha Silver - being a conduit for abundance from Tosha Silver's Book  - It’s Not Your Money

🟣  Not making decisions based on money, fear, insecurity, or lack - takes holding strong in the face of uncertainty.

🟣 Being Comfortable with Uncertainty - Trusting that the path will be made clear and when it’s time to act I will know exactly what to do.

🟣 I was acting with the emotional intelligence of a 13-year-old in some aspects of dating

🟣 Inconsistency in my life comes from A Core need for approval - yet when I was a child you got “approval” when you were behaving according to someone else’s ideal standard and hiding your true inner light  - and extreme punishment/humiliation/pain if you acted according to who you really were and it was in opposition to the leaders.  So in my life today I strive to always living authentically in alignment but at times the “approval” and excitement of others actually caused me to go back into hiding. - losing weight/ recognition for business/  So this Kept core wound kept me from living consistently and authentically all the time.     ANSWER:  Unconditional LOVE and Acceptance of Myself

🟣. Stop Chasing and Allow - one way to do this is to begin making a decision based on Joy not analyzing how I will possibly feel about it in the future

Where I see I have grown:

🟢. No longer judging myself

🟢. Not calling anything a failure

🟢. More Comfortable with the Uncomfortable

🟢. Enjoying Life more even in the midst of uncertainty

🟢. My Humor is surfacing

🟢. Living more relaxed than at any point in time in my life

Key Resources I have used the last few months

🟠  Intuitive Journaling

🟠  Meditation/Mindfulness

🟠. Awareness

🟠  It's Not My Money by Tosha Silver 

🟠. The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer

🟠. Eckhart Tolle - books/video resources

🟠. EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique

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George Kao, Authentic Business Coach for Soulful Entrepreneurs, has been a mentor for me while growing Transcending Limits.  I completely admire his quiet wisdom and commitment to operate his business from a place first of respect to those he serves and has his own personal growth practice.  Last year I had the privilege of being in his Masterheart Program and receiving direct mentoring from George.  I was always curious about what made George who he was today as he often shared a turning point in his business journey where he revamped and changed everything to align with authenticity.  In this episode, I got to ask George about the catalyst for this shift and get the behind the scenes story.

Whether you are an entrepreneur searching for an authentic way to grow your business or just human being traveling this life journey and desiring to be the best you can be this conversation with George will inspire you!

You can Find more about George here:  https://www.georgekao.com/about.html

Vicki is an Adventurer, Life Guide, Coach and Inspirer.  She shares wisdom, tools and techniques that inspire others to live Unsilenced lives and Evolve into the truly amazing human beings they were born as!

Conversations and Wisdom from the Path

Janet and Vicki explore the messages they received as young people around emotions and how that cultural conditioning influenced how we each perceived emotions and used emotions in our early lives.  Showing emotion has been seen as a source of weakness and shame.  These harmful messages kept Janet and Vicki stuck in pain in each of their own unique ways.  

Then the teachings of Michael Singer and Eckhart Tolle began to help each of them perceive emotions in a new way.  These teaching brought new meaning to emotions and new words to describe what happened to the trapped emotions inside of us.  Michael Singer speaks of Samskaras and Tolle of the Pain Body.

Unfelt-emotions stay stuck and trapped in the energy field of the body.  Each time a person, place, or thing "touches" that stuck emotion it triggers us.  In this episode, Janet and Vicki talk about how they have learned to process and feel those emotions and how doing so have brought each of them deep healing in themselves and the relationships around them.

Janet G. Hudson, Ph.D., ACC, certified coach supporting purpose-driven professions to tame their inner chaos so they can make the significant contributions they desire. Find me @ http://tametheinnerchaos.com/about

Contact Janet: janet@tametheinnerchaos.com

“I will hear myself above the noise, I will hear my voice above the opinions of others, I will listen and I will hear me.”

In Today’s Episode, I interviewed Kathy Whitham, Child Behavior Specialist.  We dig deep into how the power struggle with her child launched her on a new path of uncovering how the family dynamic in her childhood home shaped her adult behavior - and how understanding that has led to her career in helping parents and caregivers get underneath the behavior of their child to really understand where that behavior originates from.

Kathy openly shares how growing up in a  family home where she experienced a lot of love and security yet there was a triangulation and feeling caught between parents that were not a good fit for each other impacted her.  It gave her insight to see that a depressed parent can be experienced by a child as neglect and it leads to a quiet trauma that impacts negatively the ability for resilience. As an adult, she learned how this impacted her and awakened when she went through a 2nd divorce where she came face to face with her desire to rescue, control, and fix another person.

We don’t change habits and dynamics by wishing them away.  There is real work that needs to be done internally.

Change only comes when you are ready to face reality head-on.  Alanon helped Kathy begin to sort out what she could not control and she was ready to reclaim her voice.

Her healing journey led her to Her path guides such as Brene Brown that taught her the physiology of when shame shows up and family constellation work that shows how the dynamic of past generations influences us today.

She also studied trauma and attachment and how it impacts stability.  She began to build empathy and detachment and to validate that there was room for all of the feelings she had.

Today she uses all of this life wisdom her No-Yell parenting approach!  She has created a special video on resilience just for this audience! - you can get it by emailing her at kathy@parentingbeyondwords.com with the subject line: Unsilenced Resilience!

Additional Resources Suggested by Kathy:

Brene Brown - The Gifts of Imperfection

Family Constellation work at  Suzietucker.com

(for understanding kids) Beyond Consequences Logic and Control - Brian Post

The Body Keeps the score by Bessel Van der Kolk M.D.

Jeanette LaBlanc who teaches how to share your words (https://www.jeanetteleblanc.com/)

In  Today's episode, I chat with Justin Atherton from Confidence Unchained.  Justin is a men's leadership and emotional intelligence coach.  He has a background in law enforcement and has taken on the fun challenge of teaching men to be more aware of their emotions.  Today he shares how is does this through the use of an Emotional Inventory tool.   Men have been conditioned throughout the years to NOT show emotions, while women have been told they show too many emotions.  Today, Justin shares how you can begin identifying the emotions running underneath the surface and how releasing emotions leads to higher cognitive brain function and decision making.    Justin also shares 3 levels of emotional intelligence growth to help relationships thrive.  Taking responsibility for one's own emotions; being aware of the other person's emotions, and helping others manage and identify their own emotions.    

About Justin Atherton

With over 14 years of Law Enforcement experience in SWAT, Investigations, Officer Training and Leadership roles, Justin developed and shared tactics and techniques that helped forge the next generation of leaders.

After departing the SWAT team, he launched Confidence Unchained, a company that teaches these same leadership principles to men from any walk of life. From business owners, CEO’s and entrepreneurs, Justin has helped men across a broad range of industries build their own Peak Performance and regain their EDGE.

Now, detailing the mind-set and principles that enable Detectives and SWAT teams to accomplish the most difficult missions, Confidence Unchained shows how to apply them to any man, family or organization.

Register for the Confidence Unchanged Summit!

I met Nancy recently in a facebook group when she made a post called "I WANT TO START A BRA-LESS MOVEMENT"

Within a short amount of time Nancy had more than 400 comments on the thread!  Everything from women who wanted in on the movement to women who were fine with their level of bra-wearing.

I invited Nancy to this conversation as a way of examing our belief around bra-wearing and to lighten up my sometimes intense nature!  We laugh and weave through the conversation and share our own experiences with letting go of the bra and the conditioning that keeps us doing things just so that others around us are comfortable.

Nancy also brings her wise wisdom of being a physical therapist to the table and shares how the physical restriction of a bra can lead to long-term health issues. She challenges us to begin there - with the physical and then to move into asking questions.

Do I wear a Bra because it's comfortable for me and I enjoy it?  or is bra-wearing a society expectation?

We would love to hear your thoughts on this episode!   Are you ready to ditch the bra in favor of a more authentic life?  

Just as I always encourage people to fear-less so that they can become more limit-less today I am encouraging you to fear-less and be bra-less and see where it leads!

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Join me today for an inspiring conversation with Sarah K Ramsey!  She is the expert on how to be Toxic Person Proof and helping you Bounce Back Better after toxic relationships! Her Book Toxic Person Proof is soon to be released!

Our conversation today took an unexpected turn when I discovered that Sarah and I share the common thread of having grown up in toxic religious organizations!  Funny how the universe brought us together to clearly share how dangerous churches, organizations, and businesses can become when the leader(s) have a taste of power and manipulation go to their head.  Spiritual abuse tops the list of dangerous forms of abuse yet it's rarely spoken about.  Many women who go on to have toxic or narcissistic relationships are "set-up" to be controlled from these types of experiences.

It can work the other way also - people seeking meaning and significance as they walk away from toxic relationships can become prey for people and organizations who seem on the surface to be kind, connected, caring communities.

In this episode, Vicki shares how different life looks when we can relax and let go of fixed thinking that keeps us stuck in a prison of our own creation.   What if the only mode of communication that you used today was the telephone that your mother used when you were a child?

Our mind is limited in it's ability to perceive and see future options.  It can only create combinations of options from what it can see right in front of it. Experiencing trauma as a child or an adult adds another layer of limited perception.  It's like shopping for clothes but seeing your only option as the 3 outfits featured in the store window.

The truth is these outfits may not even be ideal for you - yet if these outfits become the only options we allow ourselves to choose from we miss out on all of the amazing opportunities that lay just on the other side of opening the door to the store.

Expanding our perception and thinking are not skills most of us were taught as a child yet if we don't learn these skills we stay trapped in the prison of our own limited thinking.

Opening up to new opportunities and possibilities allows us to connect to who we really are and to move in the direction of living an Unsilenced Life - A life where who we are on the inside exactly matches who we are on the outside.

You too can move beyond what keeps you stuck and discover the greatest potential waiting for you on the other side of the bars of limited thinking.

Vicki and Chef Jaime Llano get real on what the secret sauce for success is on the patio of Casita Maria in Mazatlan, Mexico.  Vicki first Met Chef Llano in 2019 at his restaurant.  Over glasses of wine poured from his own wine label, Chef Llano shared his life story of facing and moving through challenge after challenge.  In December 2020, Vicki returned to record his story so that others would be inspired.  From losing his mother at age six, to losing his dreams and plans of building a restaurant in the United States to opening his first tiny restaurant in Mazatlan and then having. to close it Chef Llano has faced and pushed through loss and persevered in believing in his dreams.  He shares that building his castle in his mind was the first step and the secret sauce has been to never, never give up.  Even when he was out of money and food he still did not doubt that his dreams would materialize.  Today, he has a beautiful restaurant one block from the beach, thirteen different varieties of wine under his wine label, a true secret sauce that will be in grocery stores soon, and dreams of getting his pilot's license.    

Meet Beth Petta!   In this interview, she shares how she survived and broke free of a toxic marriage plagued with alcoholism, a religion that crushed her, and a job with a toxic boss that shredded the remained of her confidence.  She shares how things in her marriage of 22 years steadily more difficult as her partner sank deeper into alcoholism.  Because of her religious background, she felt like she needed to say and be the Martyr - it was her "cross to bear."  Ideas around shame about her past coupled with the teaching of the church that told her she was a "sinner and unworthy" kept her trapped in this toxic marriage.  She was told she needed to pray more and obey the church more when she asked for help.   With her pleas falling on deaf ears she began to sink into a depression.   A move to a new city gave her some hope she could break free.  It started with stepping out of the toxic job.  

Here are red flags Beth encourages you to watch for: Intimidation (male in power position using intimidation and causing fear) Pay attention to fear/feelings in your body Derogatory comments about women in general; your intelligence Derogatory/dismissive comments about you as a person (intelligence, personality, character)  

Follow along as Beth shares what the process of Non-violent communication looks like and how it has changed her relationships.  Seeking to reconnect with who she really is at the core has been her goal during her 7 years of recovery following divorce.  

If you or someone you know is experiencing similar circumstances as Beth please reach out here for information on how you too can break free:  inspire@tslimits.com.

How can you be part of the solution when it comes to high stakes conversations inside your own home and on a national level?  By learning how to hold Crucial Conversations.

What is a crucial conversation? Being 100% honest with your viewpoint and 100% respectful to all involved while searching for answers to this question:  What do I want for myself, the other person, and the relationship/group/nation?

Most of us never learned how to have genuine conversations that move us towards solutions that are in the greatest good of all involved.  So instead of having productive conversations, we end up avoiding them altogether or botching them completely.  There is a 3rd option.  Learning how to hold skillful conversations that actually move relationships, workplaces, groups, and nations forward.

To do that we have to ask ourselves - what truly is our motive?  Actions are generated from 4 different motive:

1. Winning - I have to prove that I am right and you are wrong which leads to me picking a fight and defending my perspective.  No progress is made from this place - especially when people become so identified with their own viewpoint that to question their view feels like questions them as a person.
2. Punishing - my actions are actually intended to "harm" the other person.  This may take the form of behind the scenes sabotaging what that person/group is working towards or it can be in the form of extreme violence and show of forcing others to believe how you want them to.  (Think - all wars!)
3. Silence - Keeping the Peace - I'll just keep my mouth shut instead of addressing the true issue that I see.  This contributes to the problem.  A person is afraid to express their view or opinion because of what someone else will do or say it causes an unsafe situation. If this is you I urge you to learn how to share your voice while having 100% respect for others because your voice IS needed!
4. OR searching for genuinely shared outcome that is best for all

I encourage you to ask yourself these questions:

What do I really want for myself? (as it relates to this issue)

What do I really want for others? (as it relates to this issue)

What do I really want for the relationship?

How would I behave if I really wanted these results?

Recommended Resources:

Crucial Conversations by Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, and Switzler

Non-Violent Communication by Marchall Rosenberg PhD

Join Vick and Janet Hudson for their first public conversation on how they have learned and applied spiritual teachings to actually experience greater peace and joy in their lives.  They drop the shame and fear to share how their own knowledge can kept them stuck and how experiencing & applying wisdom had created "miracle" shifts.  

In this episode, Vicki shares how she moved through a recent fear of money/insecurity through applying the knowledge the fear is an illusion and how applying the teaching of presence she was able to move through that fear.

Janet shares how she sorted out the stories of the mind through understanding the connection between the feelings and emotions were connected to thoughts it helped her realize how to move from "inner chaos."  She realized the criticism and judgment could not come from her authentic self.   

Together they share how resistance to change (ever wanted to do something? but couldn't get yourself to do?  then you know resistance!)  is tricky.  Resistance shows up in what is wanted and not wanted.   Our minds create stories that have now become part of our identity.  Recognizing stories and resistance moves us past limiting beliefs and choices that have kept us stuck.

Laugh and learn from the ups and downs and walk away with new wisdom to apply to your own path as you move towards living an awakened, unsilenced life.

Janet G. Hudson, Ph.D., ACC, certified coach supporting purpose-driven professions to tame their inner chaos so they can make the significant contributions they desire. Find me @ http://tametheinnerchaos.com/about  

Contact me @ janet@tametheinnerchaos.com

Join Vicki for a discussion of the five F's of Emotional Trauma: 

Fight (anger; silence or violence; picking a fight for no reason; dominate and control; bully; constant judgment/criticism) 

Flight (workaholism, panic, anxiety; over-worrying; extreme independence; over-analytical) 

Freeze (your voice freezes in your throat; Isolatate; detach; unable to make decisions; keeps you stuck) 

Faint (checking out as a method of avoiding triggering circumstances; brain fog; sleeping excessively, health issues that stop us in our tracks) 

Fawn (co-dependency, overhelping; can't say no always seeks to please others; walking on eggshells; become a chameleon in relationships)  

Awareness shows us what is not working for us anymore and shows what baggage of the past is ready to be released. the 5 F's of emotional trauma show us what we are ready to let go of now. It helps us to see how.   See how each of the 5 F's show up day to day living. To release these responses be willing to 1) Bring awareness into any area of your life where you see these symptoms. 2) Then seek a new perspective on why the 5 Fs are showing up in your life. 3) Be willing to seek help 4) Live from a heart-centered space instead of a fear-based space.

In this episode, we explore the 7 levels of growth and development to find your greatest potential.  Circumstances show up in our life as an alarm clock to wake you up to something greater in life.  When you hit snooze, the same painful circumstances repeat themselves with different characters.  Instead, begin to view your circumstances as a call to find your greatest self.   Learn how each level shows up in our life. 

Healing Level: 

1 - Survival; Unresolved issues/addictions - resolve issues of the past/childhood 

2 - Relationships; creating stability in life.  At this stage, we let go of toxic relationships and begin to form healthy stable relationships.  Standards and values begin to shape choices and heal relationships. 

3 - Connection Becoming internally motivated (identifying with your intuition/spirit) instead of externally motivated (acting on other recommendations) 

Mastering LIfe Stages:

 4 - Transformation - Learn to embrace continuous growth; develop support systems and networks; fulfilling relationships embrace our gifts and genius that we bring to the world. Inner world Aligns with Outer world. 

5 - Alignment & expansion - we eliminate anything that does not align with our authentic self - Discover your life's purpose & passion and advanced tools for life growth.

Total Life Mastery 

6 - Service - In this level, you seek to live a life of sharing your gifts with others; alignment of time and money freedom.
7 - Legacy - At this level, you are living as a master of life.  It's a space of contribution and cumulative enjoyment of life and wisdom.  Committed to the journey; unattached to the path it takes and enjoying every moment.

Vicki shares how the Becoming Unsilenced Podcast was born and the journey that she has been on to live an "unsilenced life."  She shares how the pain of toxic organizations and relationships pushed her to go on a journey of discovering what was inside of her.  Women's voices are silenced by shame, unequal treatment, tradition, culture, religion and family patterns.  Connecting back to our own spirit of wisdom that has always been inside of us leads us to the healing path that allows us to reclaim our voice.   Pain calls us to a greater awareness to who you are.  Painful circumstances in our lives are there as alarm clocks to awaken us to our greater connection with our soul.  Not seeing the purpose for painful circumstances leave us feeling like a victim.  Instead of looking at your painful circumstances as a problem - see them as a gift that calling you to awaken to your greatest self.  Look for the signs from the universe that are guiding you and calling you to connect back to the person you have always been inside.