Becoming the One Podcast

Today we’re going to tackle the challenges of living pure after promiscuity! So many of us are dealing with the residual effects of a lustful past, and we wanted to help our listeners with this candid discussion. We want you to know that you are not alone!

Joining us today, we have Laterras Whitfield. He is a TOU member and a man of God who opens up and shares his journey to freedom. In our culture today, the term promiscuity is typically assigned to women, and men who sleep around are considered more desirable or ungettable. But we know that God holds all of his children to the same standards.

“Honesty is telling the truth when a question is asked, but transparency is telling what they don’t even know to ask.”

You can follow Laterras on YouTube at “Dear Future Wifey” or on Instagram @Laterrasrwhitfield!

In today’s episode, we’re going to talk about Dating Smart with our special guest, Valerie Williams! Many of us have experienced abusive and manipulative relationships because we haven’t learned the healthy way to love. There is a stigma attached to domestic violence that makes victims shy away from getting help, but it could be a matter of life or death.

Valerie is a Speaker and Author, and she runs a non-profit organization called Love Smart. Here is a bit of her story and why she feels so passionately about this topic.

As you know, Becoming the One Podcast talks about all things dating, and today we wanted to help out our divorcees.

Dating after divorce can be really scary. You’re mourning a marriage and getting to know yourself all over again. But, when you are ready to get back out there, you’re going to need some tips and support along the way. Well, we’ve got you covered!

Today we’re talking to the 40 and up club!! We want to give a voice to all of our members here at TOU and highlight the various dating perspectives. Things change with time and experience, and we understand that this isn’t a one-size-fits-all scenario.

Today we’re unpacking some common misconceptions about godly dating!

As Christian singles, we tend to keep our eye on the ever-elusive prize…That is, getting to the altar. But, what does Kingdom-minded dating look like? And what does the word have to say about this?

Welcome back to this week's episode of Becoming the One Podcast with our NEW host — Sloane Crawford! Today we have an exciting discussion lined up with our founders, Jamal and Natasha Miller.

Welcome back to Becoming the One Podcast!

Wow!! Can you all believe that we’re already on season 4?!?

Our co-host, Amanda Ross, is back and… in a RELATIONSHIP!!  She recalls her single season and the faithfulness of God as she gushes over her new beau. Things are looking up, and they are hopeful for their future together.

Amanda is here today with a special announcement. With much excitement and anticipation, Amanda introduces Ms.Sloane Crawford, former TOU grad, current MMG team member, and...our new BTOP host!

So, who is Sloane? Listen to this episode and find out.

Ah, the question of a LIFETIME. 

You don't need us to tell you that marriage is a big deal. You already know that who you decide to marry is one of the most — if not THE MOST — important decision you'll ever make in your life. Who you marry can determine the course of your life...not to mention your ability to reach your heavenly potential and fulfill your calling in the earth. Wow. 

Marriage is something many of us want...but how do we know we're actually ready for such a big decision, commitment, and sacrifice? 

If you're wondering whether or not you're ready for the one...if you want to know what to look for when that time comes...or you have someone in mind who's processing these questions right now...today's episode is for you. 

One of the questions we've ALL asked ourselves is...God, how do I know this person is "the one"? 

It's probably safe to say that too many of us have found ourselves "blinded by love," thinking that God has sent us a blessing...when in reality, they were nothing but a straight COUNTERFEIT. So, if the devil knows what we WANT...but God knows what we NEED...how do we determine if the person we're with or the person we're interested in is actually "the one" — according to God's best? 

Give this episode a listen to find out, and don't forget to share, like, and subscribe for more! 

QUESTION: Do you believe in "soulmates"? Do you think that God created one man for one woman...and no other? 

This is a killer topic, and if it's something you've been asking yourself...this week's podcast episode is for you! The Becoming the One team dive into the concept of soulmates, and work through the idea that there's only ONE person for each of us. It's a good one, if we do say so ourselves. 

Give this episode a listen, and if you like what you hear, leave us a review! (Or share with your friends, spread the word on social media, or all of the above *wink wink*). 

Hey fam! We are SO excited to bring you today's episode, as this question is one we've received from at LEAST 57 people (and counting)...

"If I've been single for so long...does that mean I'm called to celibacy?" 

Y'ALL. If you've EVER ONCE in your life wondered this, today's episode is for you. This is for the single people (the "never dated," the "always a bridesmaid," the "divorcees," the single parents, and everyone in between). Because, even though it feels like it...a long waiting game doesn't mean you're called to a lifetime of celibacy. 

Check out this week's episode for more — and then don't forget to leave us a review, give us a like, and share us with your friends! 

Becoming the One Podcast FAMILY! If you've been rocking with us for a while, you know that our FAVORITE. TIME. of the YEAR is just around the corner...it's our free 5-day Pray For Your Future Spouse Challenge!

And we're doing something a little special this year to celebrate: We're giving you MORE #PFYFS content than ever before, starting with this week's episode of Becoming the One. Today, we're here to answer the question we know is pressing (especially now, mid-pandemic)...

"Why should I keep praying?" 

We're diving into the struggle that is unanswered prayer, especially when it comes to praying for your future spouse. If this sounds like you (or someone you know), don't be afraid to dive in and soak this one up. It's so, so good. 

Have you ever felt like you're only going to be ready for marriage once you FINALLY have *this* much in your bank account...or when you FINALLY have your book launched...or [insert life goal here]...? 

Or have you ever thought, "Maybe I'll just never be ready...and marriage isn't for me." 

Welcome to this week's episode of the Becoming the One Podcast, where we are ANNIHILATING the lie that you will ever actually "arrive." Because, the thing is, we'll always be growing, we'll always be healing, we'll always be maturing and learning and developing as individuals. 

So, there's no such thing as an arrival point, despite what much of society will try and make you think. 

Hey family! Welcome to another installment of our mini-series, "The 4 Biggest Lies About Being Whole." Today, our CEO Jamal Miller, and Director of Programs Amanda Ross, tackle the huge misconception that you *can't* identify wholeness in another person...

...because we believe otherwise! We have the mind of Christ, and God has given us discernment in order to guard our hearts and protect our minds (especially as we enter a vulnerable sea to navigate...like dating in the 21st century. It can get crazy out here!).

Check out this week's episode, and don't forget to like, share, subscribe, and leave us a review on your preferred listening platform!

Welcome to the third installment of our mini-series, "The 4 Biggest Lies About Being Whole." Today, we're tackling the big misconception that your DIRTY past DESTROYED your future.  

First off: That is a straight up LIE from hell, and we want to break this down so that you have a full understanding that God's grace really does reconcile you to Him (and it doesn't disqualify you from having a healthy future, including a healthy future marriage). Whew. Take a big sigh of relief, then put in your headphones and tune in. 

We have a very special mini-series inside the Becoming the One Podcast, and we're kicking it off with today's episode: "Lie #1 About Being Whole." Welcome! We're so happy to have you joining us! 

Over the next 4 weeks, we're going to dive into the 4 biggest misconceptions about what it means to be "whole." This is something we've seen both within and without the Church, and we want to equip you with the truth around wholeness — both for your current self, and your future marriage. 

Tune in to hear from today's hosts, Director of Programs Amanda Ross and Director of Content Sophie Sturdevant, as they tackle this first big lie. 

So, there's something we need to talk about. It's the idea that wholeness = perfection, and the only way that we can ever have healthy, life-giving marriages is to come into them whole (or perfect). 

And this is a total lie. We're seeing more and more — both in and out of the Church — an unrealistic expectation around wholeness. Welcome to a mini series called The 4 Biggest Lies About Being Whole. 

Over the next month, we're going to be breaking down these lies that are causing harm to us, regardless of our relationship statuses. Because, the thing is, it's so good for us to get healthy, work on our shortcomings, and walk purposefully before we ever get married...but we're still human. And we'll only ever see perfection — or ultimate, total wholeness — on the other side of heaven. 

Have you been asking yourself things like, "If I'm in quarantine, how am I EVER going to meet somebody? It was hard enough before?!" 

Or "This season makes me feel stagnant. Can I even fulfill my purpose like God wants me to right now — or am I stuck here?" 

Then those are some great questions. But, thankfully, we have a wise WORD from our host for this week's episode, Jamal Miller, here to discuss the HIDDEN blessing in a season of relational isolation (which, to be transparent, is an existing video from late 2019, but MORE RELEVANT than ever, thanks to COVID). 

Tune in to hear from Jamal about why isolation — though challenging, stretching, and just plain HARD — is actually a huge (but hidden) blessing. Because there's more than meets the eye...and GOD is still working. Amen? 

Have you ever looked around and thought, "Dang. Everybody AND their momma is in a relationship...why am I still single?" 

Firstly, you're not alone. We get asked this question ALL the time, from people in every age group, from every background, and from all around the world. Of course, maybe God is still preparing you (or your spouse) for the benefit of your (future) marriage, but there are 3 reasons you probably haven't considered...

Tune in to this week's episode of the Becoming the One Podcast to discover more from our host and founder of The One University, Jamal Miller! This is a throwback — one of our most-watched YouTube videos of all time, but remains as relevant as ever. 

Think that counseling is only for "other" people? Have you ever considered that it might actually be crucial to YOUR personal development? Regardless of your childhood, your story, your past...counseling could very well be the missing piece to your growth and maturity. 

But, of course, it comes with a stigma. *Especially* in the Church. Why? 

Welcome to this week's episode of the Becoming the One Podcast, with beloved guest speaker Susie Miller! Our host Natasha, alongside Susie, break down the stigma around counseling, life coaching, mentorship, and the like, as well as why seeing a professional is actually a necessity for some seasons of your life.

Welcome to the latest episode of the Becoming the One Podcast, and this week, hosts Jamal & Natasha Miller are tackling...

The "S" WORD! And nope, it's not what you think (if you were thinking "sex"). We're talking about SUBMISSION in marriage. Now, we know this is a tough subject, both inside and outside the church — "submission" has a lot of heavy, and very negative, connotations, that have played into skewed relationship dynamics. 

Tune in to hear from this powerhouse couple, and founders of The One University, about their take on submission. You'll walk away from this episode with a greater understanding of this biblical term, and with a healthier perspective on what submission according to the Bible truly means. 

Alright, fam! We KNOW this message is coming at you at just the right time. As we look forward to breaking free from quarantine and isolation, may we suggest planning a trip? 

You don't need a significant other to make the most out of travel. In fact, you don't need to plan around anyone to travel well...take a cue from today's episode of the Becoming the One Podcast featuring our FIRST EVER guest travel expert, Juliette Bush, also known as Jules the Explorer! 

She's coming in hot with tips and (safe) strategies to travel well as a single. If you're wondering where to go, what to plan for, and how to make sure you travel solo safely, this episode is for you. 

Serial monogamy is an interesting topic, especially in the church. Often assumed to be "innocent," serial monogamy is the act of moving from one serious relationship to the next. If you or someone you know always has a boo thing...you *might* be a serial monogamist. 

Why is this harmful? What prompts us to go from one relationship to the next? What are the implications? And how do we grow out of serial monogamy (and step into healing, freedom, confidence, and healthy relationships for LIFE)? We want to help you get there, based on personal experience...because we know that learning how to be content in your singleness is a must in order to be content in marriage.  

What's up Becoming the One family! Welcome to episode 3 of season 2, in which hosts Jamal & Natasha Miller are discussing the WHY behind having married friends. Yep, as a single person. 

It's deeper than just surrounding yourself with like-minded people and believers. We need to pursue friendships with people in varying stages of our life — so we can glean from, or teach, and always point each other back to Jesus. 

This episode is for singles, of course. BUT it's also for our married couples (because, couples, the singles need your wisdom, encouragement, and friendship). This is the Church. This is humanity. 

Tune in to today's episode, and if you like what you hear, click subscribe, share with friends, comment, and leave us a review. 

Welcome to Season 2 of the Becoming the One Podcast, where hosts Amanda Ross, Jamal Miller, and Natasha Miller help you reshape your mindset about singleness, thrive in your current season, and prepare for your future marriage.

In this episode, we're diving into contentment...the good, the bad, and the ugly. Because, the thing is, contentment isn't a relational issue (it's definitely not a singleness issue); it's a spiritual issue. If you're not content in your singleness, you won't be content in your marriage. 

Yes, you'll have a spouse. But until we learn how to truly and completely be satisfied with God right where we are, we will always find fault in our current season. Whew!

Wow! Isn't it incredible we're already nearing the end of Season 1 of the Becoming the One Podcast? In the last 6 weeks, we dove into everything from emotional soul ties to online dating to ghosting to celebrating Valentine's Day while single (and actually enjoying it). 

In episode 6, we're recapping our favorite moments from our pilot season...and then, we're giving you a sneak peek into what we have up our sleeve for Season 2! 

Of course, this won't be everything we cover. But we'll guarantee that every conversation will be raw, transparent, honest, and probably (in the midst of it all) insanely hilarious. Because that's dating in 2020, right? 

Who would know better about marital misconceptions than married powerhouse and co-founders of The One University, Jamal & Natasha Miller! Welcome to episode 5 of the Becoming the One podcast, in which our beloved hosts tackle 2 of the biggest lies singles believe about marriage. 

In fact, one of them *might* be the reason you're still single, even if you're ready for marriage! 

We don't want to give anything away...but we'll give a little sneak peek: There's no such thing as a soulmate. Tune in to discover more — you just might be surprised! 

Think that physical intimacy is the only way to form a soul tie? Think again, family! Welcome to episode 4 of the Becoming the One Podcast, with hosts Jamal Miller and Amanda Ross...this is one you cannot miss!  

Tune in to hear a very personal (and vulnerable story) from our beloved Ms. Ross, as she shares about en experience getting caught up in an EMOTIONAL soul tie. (Yep, you heard that right.) 

Sound familiar? Jamal will walk us through some personal development and applicable tips for moving forward healthily...also based on personal experience in his own journey of healing from an emotional soul tie. Praise God for redemption, amen?

Welcome to episode 03 of the Becoming the One Podcast! 

Alongside our powerhouse host Amanda Ross, we have Sophie Sturdevant — our director of communications — on with us today to talk through all things single season (especially those controversial topics, like dating apps, ghosting, and whether or not women can "drop the hanky" or "shoot their shot"). 

Tune in to hear some funny (and embarrassing!) stories, like when Sophie ghosted a young man of God and was called out for it. You'll walk away from this episode more equipped to navigate this strange modern dating world. And that's all we really want, right?