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Being A Dad...On Purpose

Being A Dad...On Purpose

By Bobby Benavides
This is a podcast for dads! Sure, there are way more podcasts out there for dads, but why not make another one, right?!

This podcast will aim to discuss topics important to dads. We will cover topics from finances, health, spirituality, encouragement, discipline, and much more! Come and join in the fun as we focus on Being a dad...On Purpose!
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Gun Violence and Trauma: A Discussion with Ray Nelson
This was an interview recorded on June 2nd. There has been some delays in getting this episode uploaded. It is still relevant and necessary. Gun violence is a major issue facing America. Our kids are learning how to hide from active shooters in schools, kids in the inner city are walking on different sides of the street to avoid altercations, and much more. Our children are victims even if they aren't near the shooter. They wonder if their school is next, their friend is next, or their family is next. It's traumatizing and unfair. So, how do we as parents address it? How do we bring comfort? How do we help them understand their value and the value they bring to others?  In this conversation, I am joined by Ray Nelson, Director of Outreach and Soul Care at The House D.C. in Washington, D.C.  This is a hard conversation, but necessary. I hope you can engage and listen to what is said. This is not political. This is just a focus on how to address the issue with our children and how to be a safe space.  MUSIC by iEarn FIST. Support indie music and check out his album.  Link to articles shared in the episode: Gun Violence Archive
June 28, 2022
Saving For Education:A Conversation with Jim Uren-Financial Advisor
In this current economic climate we want to be sure we are making wise decisions with our finances, especially when it comes to saving for our kid's education. Jim Uren, Financial Advisor for Phase 3 Advisory Services and Royal Alliance Services joins me to answer some questions about saving and specific funds to consider. Intro music by: IEarn Fist Check out his music and shoot some support his way!
June 17, 2022
A Heavy Heart
The tragedy in Uvalde,Texas is weighing heavy on this nation. It’s weighing heavy on my mind and heart. We cannot stay silent and sit back while things like this occur. As parents, dads, we have a responsibility to care for our kids. Those children were our children. My heart goes out to the families who will be looking at toys in the yard this Memorial Day weekend and not celebrating the way many other families will be. It’s hard and heavy. More conversations are coming.
May 28, 2022
Alan Smyth Discussion on Human Trafficking and Authentic Masculinity
On this episode I have a great discussion with Alan Smyth, Co-Author of Men! Fight For Me The Role of Authentic Masculinity in Ending Sexual Exploitation and Trafficking. We speak on the importance of standing up and fighting for those who need our voices. Dads have a role to play in speaking and standing up.  Alan shares the 4 pillars of "authentic" manhood: ○ Accepts responsibility; ○ Leads courageously; ○ Lives a life of service; ○ Understands who he is is more important than what he does. You can visit: and/or for more information.
May 13, 2022
Rhythm Makers
It is so good to be back! I am finally back into the rhythm of life!  In this episode I am talking about maintaining a healthy rhythm, and regaining a rhythm.  If you like what you hear, rate and subscribe! Leave a comment. I would love to connect!
April 01, 2022
Happy Thanksgiving Dads!
Just a word of encouragement for dads this Thanksgiving!
November 24, 2021
A little conversation about Gregory’s Big Move! I wrote a book!
I wrote this children’s book and I think you might like it!
November 20, 2021
Allow Me to Reintroduce Myself
Just saying hello again. It's been awhile and I want to remind you why I have this podcast and what it's about. I hope to have you continue on the journey with me.
November 12, 2021
Thoughts on Simone Biles and Creating Healthy Boundaries.
In this episode I share my thoughts on the value of mental health, creating healthy boundaries, and encouraging our kids to do it well.
September 10, 2021
A Discussion with Sean Galla-Founder of
I am joined by Sean Galla, the founder of, and we discuss the importance of community for men, but especially for dads. I hope you enjoy this episode and consider getting into a group of men on your fatherhood journey.  Thank you to our sponsor The Fitness Rebellion where you can save 10% on a fitness coaching program using the BADOP referral code.
July 16, 2021
A Discussion with Jim Dalrymple About Waiting to Have Kids
This is a great discussion with Jim Dalrymple, the founder of The Nuclear Meltdown Newsletter. He shares his thoughts on waiting to have children based on the article he wrote on the topic, what he learned about himself, and thoughts on deciding to wait. I hope you enjoy the episode! Remember to subscribe and share. Thanks to our sponsor: The Fitness Rebellion where you can get 10% off your fitness coaching by using BADOP in the referral code.
July 09, 2021
A conversation with author and speaker Sue Donaldson
On this episode, I get to speak with author/speaker, Sue Donaldson on ways her father encouraged her and empowered her to be who she is today. There are some great stories and fantastic insight shared for dads raising daughters. There's also some encouraging words for dads raising sons, as well. Enjoy the show! Remember, if you like what you are hearing, hit the share button and subscribe to the podcast. Speaker, author, Sue Donaldson and her husband, Mark, live in San Luis Obispo, California. Sue taught high school English, part of the time in Brazil with Wycliffe Bible Translators. She and her husband, Mark, have raised 3 daughters who keep them at the bank and on their knees. Sue loves connecting people to one another, to God, and to His Word, and has been speaking for the last 20 years or so with long pauses for babies, diapers and soccer pasta parties. She blogs at WelcomeHeart: Knowing and Showing the Heart of God and hosts a weekly podcast: Make it Count: Living a Legacy Life- Sue’s books can be found here: Come to My Table: God’s Hospitality and Yours Hospitality, 101: Lessons from the Ultimate Host, a 12-Week Bible Study Table Mentoring: A Simple Guide to Coming Alongside Say Something Special: 252 Conversation Starters, The Ultimate Guide to Stimulating Table Talk Sue's 15 keynotes and 8 Retreat Series can be found here: Socials: FB Insta Pinterest Twitter:
July 02, 2021
Finding Your Mission Statement for Yourself and Your Family: A Discussion with Ray Nelson
In this episode I have a conversation with my good friend, Ray Nelson from the 4th Quarter, LLC. He is a mentor, public speaker, community activist, leader, and most importantly, a father and husband. He cares deeply about his family and lives a life with purpose and conviction. In our discussion we focus on the importance of developing a mission statement for yourself as a parent, but also a mission statement for your family. Enjoy the show! Remember, like, subscribe, and share the podcast! You can connect with Ray here: Instagram Facebook
June 25, 2021
Life Insurance Discussion with Jim Uren
In this episode Jim Uren, from Phase III Advisory Services, discusses the different options in life insurance, why it's important, and what to be looking for when deciding on a policy. 
June 18, 2021
An Interview With Ken Scarborough on Encouraging Fatherhood Engagement
Ken Scarborough joins me to discuss the issue of absentee fathers, how to encourage fathers to step into their roles, and why we need to be proactive in engaging with our children. Enjoy the conversation. Learn more about Ken and Healthy Start Fatherhood work here:
June 11, 2021
Strengthening Our Marriages and Keeping Them Alive: A Conversation with Bryon Harvey
In this episode I have a conversation with Bryon Harvey and discuss the book he co-authored with his wife, OPERATION: THRIVING MARRIAGE. It is a great conversation on strengthening our marriages, keeping the relationship healthy, and building a better bond with our spouse after children arrive.  Visit The Fitness Rebellion and use BADOP in the referral code to receive 10% your fitness coaching plan.
June 04, 2021
How to Speak with Our Kids About Racism: A discussion with William Mack and Matt Ness
In this episode, I am able to have a great conversation with William Mack, Pastor of Grace Church in Louisville, Kentucky and the Community Facilitator for the Fatherhood Program our of The University of Louisville; and Matt Ness, Pastor of ONE Church in Louisville, Kentucky about the reality of racism and how we should approach the discussion with our children. This is an honest conversation of what we have all experienced and good advice as to why it is necessary for our children to have us talk about the issues facing our world today. Check out our sponsor, The Fitness Rebellion, to get a consultation in your fitness goals. Put BADOP in the referral code to receive 10% off your coaching. Jason Reynolds Books John Lewis Civil Rights Comic Book
May 28, 2021
Interview with The Fitness Rebellion Co-Founder and Lead Trainer Matt Wilbur
I have the opportunity to interview Matt WIlbur from The Fitness Rebellion. Matt was a competitive bodybuilder who found himself wanting to encourage dads to be the healthiest they could be for their kids. He helped begin The Fitness Rebellion to encourage and equip dads with the tools to move in a healthier direction.  We are partnering with The Fitness Rebellion to offer 10% off a coaching package. Visit their website and put BADOP (or Being A Dad On Purpsoe if you like typing a lot) to receive a 10% discount today.
May 14, 2021
Teaching Kids Financial Responsibility with Jim Uren
In our monthly interview with Jim Uren, Financial Advisor Specialist for Phase III Advisory, we have a great discussion about encouraging financial responsibility with our kids. He gives some great advice and I hope you enjoy the conversation! Be sure to rate, share and subscribe to the podcast! The book Jim mentions in the interview: The First National Bank of Dad by David Owen
May 07, 2021
An Interview with Ryan Roy: Breaking Generational Barriers That Can Hinder Our Fatherhood
In this episode Ryan Roy, author of Be The Dad You Wish You Had and founder of FBI Dads, joins me again to discuss breaking down generational barriers that can hinder our ability to be the best dads for our kids right now. We talk about forgiveness, positivity, and pushing beyond our past experiences. It's a great conversation. I hope you enjoy it!
April 22, 2021
An Interview with Adam Starks
In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Adam Starks author of Broken Child Mended Man and Love Will Find Your Home. He has a powerful story of resiliency and strength. A story that should encourage dads who have been through the foster care system and foster parents alike. I hope you enjoy this episode of Being A Dad...On Purpose.
April 16, 2021
Interview with Dr. Srikanth Garlapati
On this episode I have a great conversation about well-child visits with Dr. Srikanth Garlapati from Davis Medical Center in Elkins, WV. He shares some insight into why we should take well-child visits seriously and why dads should be engaged in the process. We also have our monthly financial segment with Jim Uren, Certified Financial Planner with Phase III Advisory Services out of Buffalo Grove, Illinois. He shares some wisdom around wills and trusts.  Enjoy the episode! Remember to like, rate, and/or share this podcast for others to engage in the conversation!
March 26, 2021
Interview with Ryan Roy-Founder of FBI Dads
In this interview, Ryan Roy discusses breaking down generational barriers, gives some insight into encouraging and expressing love to your kids, and much more. It's a great interview! BE THE DAD YOU WISH YOU HAD:  DADS DAILY 4 -Just Say I Love You -Tell your kids you believe in them -Tell your kids you trust them -Tell your kids you are proud of them
March 19, 2021
Instilling Character and Integrity Into Our Kids
What are we doing to instill quality character and integrity into our kids? How are we demonstrating it? We want our kids to make a difference in the world and one of the best ways is to have quality character in public and private. In this episode, I share some thoughts on why it's important. I hope you enjoy this episode! Link to my DAD LOVES me! by Marianne Richmond
March 05, 2021
An Interview with Jasmine Jennings
In this episode, I take some time to listen to the story of my good friend, Jasmine. Jasmine is a dad who happens to be a transgender woman. She tells her story of transition, communicating with her kids, and what non-trans dads need to know about transgender people. I hope you'll listen. 
February 28, 2021
An Interview with Cori Luigs
I had the honor of interviewing Cori Luigs, author of Nate Saves The World. She shared her writing process, how her husband Dan was an encouragement, what it is like to write with children, and more. You can connect with Cori on social media, but can also visit for more information on her upcoming books! New intro music produced by iEarn Fist.
February 19, 2021
Funding College and Valentine's Day...Somehow they go together
In this episode we have our monthly financial segment with Jim Uren, a Certified Financial Planner from Phase 3 Advisory Services out of Buffalo Grove, Illinois. You can visit for more information. I also take a few minutes to discuss Valentine's Day and why we should at least try to do something, but it shouldn't be the only time we do. Here is the list from the document of information for college savings Jim mentioned in our segment. College Savings Account Comparison Regular Taxable Account (eg Individual or Joint) PERSON(S) WITHDRAWALS CAN BE USED FOR: No restrictions WITHDRAWALS MUST BE USED FOR: No restrictions TAX BENEFITS: No special tax benefits FINANCIAL AID TREATMENT: Fairly favorable NOTES: Often favored by those in lower tax brackets UTMA/UGMA (ie a custodial account opened in a child's name) PERSON(S) WITHDRAWALS CAN BE USED FOR: Only the child for whom the account was opened WITHDRAWALS MUST BE USED FOR: Anything for the benefit of the child including but not limited to college expenses TAX BENEFITS: Child may be eligible to pay a lower tax rate on income and capital gains than the parent(s) FINANCIAL AID TREATMENT: Unfavorable NOTES: Child has full control over accounts at age of majority (varies by state) State Sponsored 529 Savings Plan PERSON(S) WITHDRAWALS CAN BE USED FOR: Any of your children or close relatives WITHDRAWALS MUST BE USED FOR: Qualified college expenses; Up to $10,000 K-12 tuition TAX BENEFITS: Tax deferred earnings and withdrawals may be tax-free; State tax duction for contributions in some states. FINANCIAL AID TREATMENT: Fairly favorable NOTES: Limited investment options and investment changes Coverdell Education Savings Account PERSON(S) WITHDRAWALS CAN BE USED FOR: Any of your children or close relatives under age 30 WITHDRAWALS MUST BE USED FOR: Qualified college and K-12 expenses TAX BENEFITS: Tax deferred earnings and withdrawals may be tax-free FINANCIAL AID TREATMENT: Fairly favorable NOTES: Limited to $2,000 contribution per child per year; Some income restrictions; Account must be closed at age 30 NOTES When it comes to choosing a college savings account, no one type is best for everyone. The above table highlights some of the major differences between the accounts most commonly used for college savings. These accounts tend to vary in terms of the potential tax benefits and the restrictions they impose on the funds invested. Be sure to consult with your tax and/or financial advisor before making any investment decision. And remember, all investing involves risk including the possible loss of principal. Jim Uren, CFP® Phase III Advisory Services, Ltd. A Registered Investment Advisory Firm 1110 W. Lake Cook Rd., Ste 265 Buffalo Grove, IL 60089 (847) 520-5545 Securities offered through Royal Alliance Associates, Inc. (RAA), member FINRA/SIPC. Investment advisory services offered through Phase 3 Advisory Services, Ltd. RAA is separately owned and other entities and/or marketing names, products or services referenced here are independent of RAA. RAA does not provide tax or legal advice.
February 12, 2021
Leading Our Home Well: An Interview with Dan Luigs
In this episode, I have a great discussion with the host of "The Journey of A Christian Dad" Podcast. He shares some great insight into leading our families well. He shares thoughts on 1) Taking Ownership (Not a dictatorship); 2) Teaming with Your Family; and 3) Having a Solid Core of other dads around you. It is a great discussion, and I hope you enjoy it! Find Dan's Podcast here: There’s also a book review segment for Nate Saves the World by Cori Luigi, who happens to be Dan’s wife! Find her book on Amazon:
February 05, 2021
In this episode, I discuss a study from 2019 that shared many dads feel like they can't do a good job as a dad. Well, I'm here to encourage you and let you know that: YOU CAN DO THIS! Enjoy the discussion.
January 29, 2021
POD PLANS for 2021...and a little on reading to your kids
In this short episode, I just want to give an idea of what my plans are for the Being A Dad...On Purpose Podcast. Some big plans. Hope you'll join me and invite some others to come along!
January 15, 2021
The Value of Budgeting: An Interview with Jim Uren
In this episode, I have a conversation with Jim Uren, a Certified Financial Planner Professional with Phase III Advisory Services out of Buffalo Grove, IL. Jim shares some fantastic information on creating and keeping a healthy budget.  Why is budgeting important? (goals, debt relief, stress relief, and more) Where should we start when it comes to creating a healthy budget? (Income, Fixed Expenses, and miscellaneous expenses) What are common mistakes? (Overly complicated, Lack of review, and not enough time given for the budget to work) What tools are available for people creating a budget? (Quicken,,, EveryDollar App)
January 08, 2021
Goal Setting: HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Happy New Year! In this episode, I talk about setting goals as a dad. Why are they important? What benefits can you receive from it? Why will your kids benefit from it? Goals are essential, but we have to make them in a healthy way. Enjoy the episode! Leave some feedback. Contact Drew Lloyd on social: Contact Sovann Pen on social: Contact Josh Bomba on social:
January 01, 2021
Fighting Fair and Why It Matters
In this episode I share from an article written in 2018 about fighting fair. We need to have boundaries and protect ourselves when it comes to arguments. We also have to protect our partner. We cannot be too mean, angry, harsh, etc. We have to practice fair fighting. You can read the article here.
December 18, 2020
An Interview with Mike Reynolds on Co-Parenting
In this episode, I am able to speak with Mike Reynolds about his co-parenting story. He shares how he and his ex-wife were able to support each other and continue being parents together for their two daughters. It is a great conversation around successful co-parenting. 
December 11, 2020
The Value of Traditions
In this episode I talk about traditions. Why are they important? How are we encouraging traditions in the lives of our children? I ask you to share some of your traditions. You can do that on our Facebook group page or follow us on twitter @beadadonpurpose and share your traditions.
December 04, 2020
Encouraging Gratitude with Our Kids
In this episode I share some insight on the value of giving thanks, why we should demonstrate thanks-giving with our children, and some practices to encourage gratitude with our kids. I hope you enjoy the episode.
November 27, 2020
Defining, or Redefining, Manhood
In this episode I talk about manhood. What have we been taught manhood actually is? Hw has our idea of masculinity influenced the way we parent? How should we bee defining, or redefining, being a man, for the sake of our children and our own health? I hope to tackle some of the answers in this episode today. I hope you enjoy it!
November 20, 2020
The Value and Pain of Self-Awareness
In this episode I talk about the value and pain of being self-aware. Self-Awareness is defined as "having conscious knowledge of one's own character and feelings." The reality is, we need to be aware of what triggers us in our character flaws. We need to know how to respond to the issues we carry. Everyone has baggage, some of us just know how to carry it better. It's important for us to work through the issues and be aware of what causes us to think or act certain ways. I hope this is an encouraging episode, and it's a topic we will be revisiting again in the near future. Budgeting App: Join our facebook group:
November 13, 2020
Election Conversation
In this episode, we are back to discuss handling the election conversation and setting a good example for our kids during this time. We hope you enjoy the conversation.
November 04, 2020
Helping Our Kids Use Their Voice For Change- A Discussion with Mark Oestreicher
In this episode we speak with Mark Oestreicher (aka MarkO) about helping our kids use their voices to create change in this world. We want our kids to be strong and empowered, but we also want them to know how to stand up for those who can't stand for themselves. MarkO shares some great insight as to how his children have been naturally drawn to justice and how he and his wife encouraged their journey. Enjoy the show! If you would like to connect with Mark you can find him on social media: Twitter: Instagram:
August 22, 2020
Find Some Time For Yourself
In this crazy season, we may find ourselves feeling trapped or needing an outlet. Well, in this quick episode, Bobby shares some thoughts and ideas to make your alone time worth it. 
August 05, 2020
Interview with Drew Lloyd
In this episode, I had the opportunity to speak with Drew Lloyd about balancing entrepreneurship while being a dad and husband. He gave some great insight into pursuing your passion and purpose. There's a lot to listen to in this episode. Enjoy! You can connect with Drew on Facebook @ Drew Lloyd Instagram: @therealdrewlloyd
July 29, 2020
Interview With Tim Cross on Adoption
Tim Cross is a good friend of mine, and in this episode, he discusses the good, the bad, and the ugly side of the adoption process. Adoption is important, but it isn't easy. Have a listen.
June 13, 2020
An Interview with Sovann Pen
In this episode, I interview Sovann (Soh-VAHN) Pen and discuss the value and importance of self-care and emotional health. Have a listen and we hope you're encouraged.  We also hope that, if you're in need of help, please seek it! Suicide Prevention Hotline number: 1-800-273-8255. You can connect with Sovann Pen on or on social media @sovanpen 
May 11, 2020
Coaching Our Kids Through Grief
In this episode, Bobby speaks with Markus Watson, author of Beyond Thingification. Markus is not only an author, but a pastor, host of the podcast Spiritual Life and Leadership, and a dad. They cover the topic of grief and why it's important to be active in coaching our kids through it. Grief is necessary and it is essential for us to be examples of handling grief well. We hope you enjoy the conversation! Please excuse the coughs, Bobby has been dealing with a sinus and congestion issue.  visit to learn more about Markus and his work.
March 06, 2020
The Value of Valentine’s Day
In this episode, Bobby talks about the value of Valentine’s Day. How do we use this opportunity to demonstrate to our kids the value of loving each other and being loved. Grab some chocolates and enjoy the episode.
February 07, 2020
An interview with Josh Bomba focused on healthy living and habits
In this episode, I have a discussion with Josh Bomba, an independent health coach through OPTIVIA. He shares insight into how we, as dads, can pursue healthier habits and life choices. You can connect with Josh for more information about his program on Facebook or text him personally (909) 461-0477. From my experience, he actually answers the call. Enjoy the episode!
January 27, 2020
Just a start
This is technically a first episode, but it’s not. Our actual first episode will come out at the end of the month. Share away and get people involved in the conversation.
January 13, 2020
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