Being A Dad...On Purpose
By Bobby Benavides
This podcast will aim to discuss topics important to dads. We will cover topics from finances, health, spirituality, encouragement, discipline, and much more! Come and join in the fun as we focus on Being a dad...On Purpose!
Being A Dad...On PurposeMar 06, 2020
Congrats, your partner is preggo! Now, what?
In this episode I cover what to do when you find out your partner is pregnant. I share some thoughts on how to talk to them, how to help, and how to be supportive. This book, DUDE! You're Gonna Be A Dad! helped me prepare and gave some laughs along the way. Enjoy!
Brandon Jones: Founder and CEO of BEDADLY.com
Brandon Jones, the founder of Be Dadly, discovered that his oldest son was struggling with severe behavioral issues that led to his expulsion from kindergarten. After numerous attempts, Brandon realized that his inherited parenting techniques were ineffective and decided to make drastic changes. His new approach yielded better results, and he's now dedicated to helping fathers improve their children's behavior without resorting to yelling, spanking, or anger. Over the last decade, Brandon has studied and implemented the most effective parenting techniques, and he has become a Certified Parent Educator.
In this interview, we will discuss the crucial adjustments that Brandon made to assist his misbehaving child, as well as the techniques he teaches to his clients.
Connect with Brandon here
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brandonrayjones/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tantraveler
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0YM804Xl92Kn7l41QgV0yT
Love Languages and Why They Are Important
Find out more about the 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman and the quiz here.
Purchase The 5 Love Languages of Children here.
Anger and How We Handle It
This episode is a quick conversation on anger management and how to handle it. This is not a focus on discipline, but reacting with anger. Some people may think spanking is a good form of discipline, some people don't. That is up to each and every parent's own discretion. This is about hitting with anger. Some tips are shared, some thoughts on counseling, and some important steps to take when you are feeling angry with your kids or partner.
There might be some thoughts you don't agree with, and that's okay. Feel free to reach out to discuss: beingadadonpurpose@gmail.com .
For counseling services: Better Help is a great place to start.
The Value of Boundaries
New Year, New Memories
Take some time this New Year to make some new memories. Not all memories have to be expensive or grand. Board game nights, hiking trips, reading special stories, blanket forts, and much more can be great memories that last forever! Remember, It's not about being the best dad in the world, but being the best dad for our kids right now!
Board Game Ideas:
Book Ideas:
Gregory's Big Move (Yes, this is my book...shameless plug)
Don’t Let Go Too Soon
Fatherhood and Grief
In this episode I speak with Josh Chiado, band director from Grafton, WV and Dan Luigs, host of Journey of a Christian Dad Podcast. We discuss their stories of miscarriage and how they coped with grief with their wives. They are hard stories, but necessary for us to hear as we work through the trial of losing a baby. Grief isn't spoken of enough for men. We need to be able to share our pain and work through it with each other. Being a healthy dad means being emotionally healthy as well. Work through grief.
If you need to talk, reach out to me Bobby@beingadadonpurpose.com
Dan Luigs at the link above.
Intro and Outro Music by iEarnFist Music support his music
Goals, Motivation, and Expectations
Questions or topic requests: bobby@beingadadonpurpose.com
An Interview with Adam Cheeseman on Gun Violence and Supporting Our Teachers
This episode I have a conversation with Adam Cheeseman, Superintendent for Doddridge County schools in West Virginia. We discuss trends in causes fro gun violence in schools, how school systems are addressing the issue, and how parents can be more supportive of our school staff. It does take a village and teachers are a part of that village. We need to care for everyone involved in the process of caring for our children.
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Leaving a Legacy of Character
Quality character is essential when it comes to raising our children. We want our kids to grow up carrying our character not defending it. How are we treating others? How are we handling stress? How are we being honest? How are we treating the other parent? There's so much to consider, but if we are wise and work at it, we will have a character that our kids will carry at the end and they don't have to defend it.
If you like what you're hearing, subscribe/like/share on social media. It will help get the word out as I continue to develop new episodes.
If there's a topic you would like to hear about or listen to me to discuss, email me at beingadadonpurpose@gmail.com
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My Children's Book: Gregory's Big Move
Gun Violence and Trauma: A Discussion with Ray Nelson
This was an interview recorded on June 2nd. There has been some delays in getting this episode uploaded. It is still relevant and necessary.
Gun violence is a major issue facing America. Our kids are learning how to hide from active shooters in schools, kids in the inner city are walking on different sides of the street to avoid altercations, and much more. Our children are victims even if they aren't near the shooter. They wonder if their school is next, their friend is next, or their family is next. It's traumatizing and unfair. So, how do we as parents address it? How do we bring comfort? How do we help them understand their value and the value they bring to others?
In this conversation, I am joined by Ray Nelson, Director of Outreach and Soul Care at The House D.C. in Washington, D.C.
This is a hard conversation, but necessary. I hope you can engage and listen to what is said. This is not political. This is just a focus on how to address the issue with our children and how to be a safe space.
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Link to articles shared in the episode:
Saving For Education:A Conversation with Jim Uren-Financial Advisor
In this current economic climate we want to be sure we are making wise decisions with our finances, especially when it comes to saving for our kid's education. Jim Uren, Financial Advisor for Phase 3 Advisory Services and Royal Alliance Services joins me to answer some questions about saving and specific funds to consider.
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A Heavy Heart
Alan Smyth Discussion on Human Trafficking and Authentic Masculinity
On this episode I have a great discussion with Alan Smyth, Co-Author of Men! Fight For Me The Role of Authentic Masculinity in Ending Sexual Exploitation and Trafficking. We speak on the importance of standing up and fighting for those who need our voices. Dads have a role to play in speaking and standing up.
Alan shares the 4 pillars of "authentic" manhood:
○ Accepts responsibility; ○ Leads courageously; ○ Lives a life of service; ○ Understands who he is is more important than what he does.
You can visit: fightforme.net and/or www.savinginnocence.org for more information.
Rhythm Makers
It is so good to be back! I am finally back into the rhythm of life!
In this episode I am talking about maintaining a healthy rhythm, and regaining a rhythm.
If you like what you hear, rate and subscribe! Leave a comment. I would love to connect!
Happy Thanksgiving Dads!
A little conversation about Gregory’s Big Move! I wrote a book!
Allow Me to Reintroduce Myself
Just saying hello again. It's been awhile and I want to remind you why I have this podcast and what it's about. I hope to have you continue on the journey with me.
Thoughts on Simone Biles and Creating Healthy Boundaries.
A Discussion with Sean Galla-Founder of Mensgroup.com
I am joined by Sean Galla, the founder of Mensgroup.com, and we discuss the importance of community for men, but especially for dads. I hope you enjoy this episode and consider getting into a group of men on your fatherhood journey.
Thank you to our sponsor The Fitness Rebellion where you can save 10% on a fitness coaching program using the BADOP referral code.
A Discussion with Jim Dalrymple About Waiting to Have Kids
This is a great discussion with Jim Dalrymple, the founder of The Nuclear Meltdown Newsletter. He shares his thoughts on waiting to have children based on the article he wrote on the topic, what he learned about himself, and thoughts on deciding to wait. I hope you enjoy the episode! Remember to subscribe and share.
Thanks to our sponsor:
The Fitness Rebellion where you can get 10% off your fitness coaching by using BADOP in the referral code.
A conversation with author and speaker Sue Donaldson
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Speaker, author, Sue Donaldson and her husband, Mark, live in San Luis Obispo, California. Sue taught high school English, part of the time in Brazil with Wycliffe Bible Translators. She and her husband, Mark, have raised 3 daughters who keep them at the bank and on their knees. Sue loves connecting people to one another, to God, and to His Word, and has been speaking for the last 20 years or so with long pauses for babies, diapers and soccer pasta parties. She blogs at WelcomeHeart: Knowing and Showing the Heart of God and hosts a weekly podcast: Make it Count: Living a Legacy Life- welcomeheart.com/podcast
Sue’s books can be found here: welcomeheart.com/from-welcome-heart
Come to My Table: God’s Hospitality and Yours
Hospitality, 101: Lessons from the Ultimate Host, a 12-Week Bible Study
Table Mentoring: A Simple Guide to Coming Alongside
Say Something Special: 252 Conversation Starters, The Ultimate Guide to Stimulating Table Talk
Sue's 15 keynotes and 8 Retreat Series can be found here: welcomeheart.com/speaking-topic-detail
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Finding Your Mission Statement for Yourself and Your Family: A Discussion with Ray Nelson
In this episode I have a conversation with my good friend, Ray Nelson from the 4th Quarter, LLC. He is a mentor, public speaker, community activist, leader, and most importantly, a father and husband. He cares deeply about his family and lives a life with purpose and conviction. In our discussion we focus on the importance of developing a mission statement for yourself as a parent, but also a mission statement for your family. Enjoy the show!
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Life Insurance Discussion with Jim Uren
In this episode Jim Uren, from Phase III Advisory Services, discusses the different options in life insurance, why it's important, and what to be looking for when deciding on a policy.
An Interview With Ken Scarborough on Encouraging Fatherhood Engagement
Ken Scarborough joins me to discuss the issue of absentee fathers, how to encourage fathers to step into their roles, and why we need to be proactive in engaging with our children. Enjoy the conversation.
Learn more about Ken and Healthy Start Fatherhood work here: http://www.nationalhealthystart.org/about_us/staff
Strengthening Our Marriages and Keeping Them Alive: A Conversation with Bryon Harvey
In this episode I have a conversation with Bryon Harvey and discuss the book he co-authored with his wife, OPERATION: THRIVING MARRIAGE. It is a great conversation on strengthening our marriages, keeping the relationship healthy, and building a better bond with our spouse after children arrive.
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How to Speak with Our Kids About Racism: A discussion with William Mack and Matt Ness
In this episode, I am able to have a great conversation with William Mack, Pastor of Grace Church in Louisville, Kentucky and the Community Facilitator for the Fatherhood Program our of The University of Louisville; and Matt Ness, Pastor of ONE Church in Louisville, Kentucky about the reality of racism and how we should approach the discussion with our children. This is an honest conversation of what we have all experienced and good advice as to why it is necessary for our children to have us talk about the issues facing our world today.
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Interview with The Fitness Rebellion Co-Founder and Lead Trainer Matt Wilbur
I have the opportunity to interview Matt WIlbur from The Fitness Rebellion. Matt was a competitive bodybuilder who found himself wanting to encourage dads to be the healthiest they could be for their kids. He helped begin The Fitness Rebellion to encourage and equip dads with the tools to move in a healthier direction.
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Teaching Kids Financial Responsibility with Jim Uren
In our monthly interview with Jim Uren, Financial Advisor Specialist for Phase III Advisory, we have a great discussion about encouraging financial responsibility with our kids. He gives some great advice and I hope you enjoy the conversation! Be sure to rate, share and subscribe to the podcast!
The book Jim mentions in the interview: The First National Bank of Dad by David Owen
An Interview with Ryan Roy: Breaking Generational Barriers That Can Hinder Our Fatherhood
In this episode Ryan Roy, author of Be The Dad You Wish You Had and founder of FBI Dads, joins me again to discuss breaking down generational barriers that can hinder our ability to be the best dads for our kids right now. We talk about forgiveness, positivity, and pushing beyond our past experiences. It's a great conversation. I hope you enjoy it!
An Interview with Adam Starks
In this episode, I have the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Adam Starks author of Broken Child Mended Man and Love Will Find Your Home. He has a powerful story of resiliency and strength. A story that should encourage dads who have been through the foster care system and foster parents alike. I hope you enjoy this episode of Being A Dad...On Purpose.
Interview with Dr. Srikanth Garlapati
On this episode I have a great conversation about well-child visits with Dr. Srikanth Garlapati from Davis Medical Center in Elkins, WV. He shares some insight into why we should take well-child visits seriously and why dads should be engaged in the process.
We also have our monthly financial segment with Jim Uren, Certified Financial Planner with Phase III Advisory Services out of Buffalo Grove, Illinois. He shares some wisdom around wills and trusts.
Enjoy the episode! Remember to like, rate, and/or share this podcast for others to engage in the conversation!
Interview with Ryan Roy-Founder of FBI Dads
In this interview, Ryan Roy discusses breaking down generational barriers, gives some insight into encouraging and expressing love to your kids, and much more. It's a great interview!
BE THE DAD YOU WISH YOU HAD: fbidads.com/freebook
-Just Say I Love You
-Tell your kids you believe in them
-Tell your kids you trust them
-Tell your kids you are proud of them
Instilling Character and Integrity Into Our Kids
What are we doing to instill quality character and integrity into our kids? How are we demonstrating it? We want our kids to make a difference in the world and one of the best ways is to have quality character in public and private. In this episode, I share some thoughts on why it's important. I hope you enjoy this episode!
Link to my DAD LOVES me! by Marianne Richmond
An Interview with Jasmine Jennings
An Interview with Cori Luigs
I had the honor of interviewing Cori Luigs, author of Nate Saves The World. She shared her writing process, how her husband Dan was an encouragement, what it is like to write with children, and more. You can connect with Cori on social media, but can also visit https://doodlebearpub.com/ for more information on her upcoming books!
New intro music produced by iEarn Fist.
Funding College and Valentine's Day...Somehow they go together
In this episode we have our monthly financial segment with Jim Uren, a Certified Financial Planner from Phase 3 Advisory Services out of Buffalo Grove, Illinois. You can visit Phase3advisory.com for more information. I also take a few minutes to discuss Valentine's Day and why we should at least try to do something, but it shouldn't be the only time we do.
Here is the list from the document of information for college savings Jim mentioned in our segment.
College Savings Account Comparison
Regular Taxable Account (eg Individual or Joint)
PERSON(S) WITHDRAWALS CAN BE USED FOR: No restrictions
WITHDRAWALS MUST BE USED FOR: No restrictions
TAX BENEFITS: No special tax benefits
FINANCIAL AID TREATMENT: Fairly favorable
NOTES: Often favored by those in lower tax brackets
UTMA/UGMA (ie a custodial account opened in a child's name)
PERSON(S) WITHDRAWALS CAN BE USED FOR: Only the child for whom the account was opened
WITHDRAWALS MUST BE USED FOR: Anything for the benefit of the child including but not limited to college expenses
TAX BENEFITS: Child may be eligible to pay a lower tax rate on income and capital gains than the parent(s)
FINANCIAL AID TREATMENT: Unfavorable
NOTES: Child has full control over accounts at age of majority (varies by state)
State Sponsored 529 Savings Plan
PERSON(S) WITHDRAWALS CAN BE USED FOR: Any of your children or close relatives
WITHDRAWALS MUST BE USED FOR: Qualified college expenses; Up to $10,000 K-12 tuition
TAX BENEFITS: Tax deferred earnings and withdrawals may be tax-free; State tax duction for contributions in some states.
FINANCIAL AID TREATMENT: Fairly favorable
NOTES: Limited investment options and investment changes
Coverdell Education Savings Account
PERSON(S) WITHDRAWALS CAN BE USED FOR: Any of your children or close relatives under age 30
WITHDRAWALS MUST BE USED FOR: Qualified college and K-12 expenses
TAX BENEFITS: Tax deferred earnings and withdrawals may be tax-free
FINANCIAL AID TREATMENT: Fairly favorable
NOTES: Limited to $2,000 contribution per child per year; Some income restrictions; Account must be closed at age 30
NOTES
When it comes to choosing a college savings account, no one type is best for everyone. The above table highlights some of the major differences between the accounts most commonly used for college savings. These accounts tend to vary in terms of the potential tax benefits and the restrictions they impose on the funds invested. Be sure to consult with your tax and/or financial advisor before making any investment decision. And remember, all investing involves risk including the possible loss of principal.
Jim Uren, CFP®
Phase III Advisory Services, Ltd.
A Registered Investment Advisory Firm 1110 W. Lake Cook Rd., Ste 265 Buffalo Grove, IL 60089
(847) 520-5545 juren@phase3advisory.com phase3advisory.com
Securities offered through Royal Alliance Associates, Inc. (RAA), member FINRA/SIPC. Investment advisory services offered through Phase 3 Advisory Services, Ltd. RAA is separately owned and other entities and/or marketing names, products or services referenced here are independent of RAA. RAA does not provide tax or legal advice.
Leading Our Home Well: An Interview with Dan Luigs
YOU CAN DO THIS!
In this episode, I discuss a study from 2019 that shared many dads feel like they can't do a good job as a dad. Well, I'm here to encourage you and let you know that: YOU CAN DO THIS! Enjoy the discussion.
POD PLANS for 2021...and a little on reading to your kids
In this short episode, I just want to give an idea of what my plans are for the Being A Dad...On Purpose Podcast. Some big plans. Hope you'll join me and invite some others to come along!
The Value of Budgeting: An Interview with Jim Uren
In this episode, I have a conversation with Jim Uren, a Certified Financial Planner Professional with Phase III Advisory Services out of Buffalo Grove, IL.
Jim shares some fantastic information on creating and keeping a healthy budget.
- Why is budgeting important? (goals, debt relief, stress relief, and more)
- Where should we start when it comes to creating a healthy budget? (Income, Fixed Expenses, and miscellaneous expenses)
- What are common mistakes? (Overly complicated, Lack of review, and not enough time given for the budget to work)
- What tools are available for people creating a budget? (Quicken, Mint.com, YNAB.com, EveryDollar App)
Goal Setting: HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Happy New Year! In this episode, I talk about setting goals as a dad. Why are they important? What benefits can you receive from it? Why will your kids benefit from it? Goals are essential, but we have to make them in a healthy way. Enjoy the episode! Leave some feedback.
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Fighting Fair and Why It Matters
In this episode I share from an article written in 2018 about fighting fair. We need to have boundaries and protect ourselves when it comes to arguments. We also have to protect our partner. We cannot be too mean, angry, harsh, etc. We have to practice fair fighting. You can read the article here.
An Interview with Mike Reynolds on Co-Parenting
In this episode, I am able to speak with Mike Reynolds about his co-parenting story. He shares how he and his ex-wife were able to support each other and continue being parents together for their two daughters. It is a great conversation around successful co-parenting.
The Value of Traditions
In this episode I talk about traditions. Why are they important? How are we encouraging traditions in the lives of our children? I ask you to share some of your traditions. You can do that on our Facebook group page or follow us on twitter @beadadonpurpose and share your traditions.
Encouraging Gratitude with Our Kids
In this episode I share some insight on the value of giving thanks, why we should demonstrate thanks-giving with our children, and some practices to encourage gratitude with our kids. I hope you enjoy the episode.
Defining, or Redefining, Manhood
In this episode I talk about manhood. What have we been taught manhood actually is? Hw has our idea of masculinity influenced the way we parent? How should we bee defining, or redefining, being a man, for the sake of our children and our own health? I hope to tackle some of the answers in this episode today. I hope you enjoy it!
The Value and Pain of Self-Awareness
In this episode I talk about the value and pain of being self-aware. Self-Awareness is defined as "having conscious knowledge of one's own character and feelings." The reality is, we need to be aware of what triggers us in our character flaws. We need to know how to respond to the issues we carry. Everyone has baggage, some of us just know how to carry it better. It's important for us to work through the issues and be aware of what causes us to think or act certain ways. I hope this is an encouraging episode, and it's a topic we will be revisiting again in the near future.
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Election Conversation
In this episode, we are back to discuss handling the election conversation and setting a good example for our kids during this time. We hope you enjoy the conversation.