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The Dave Glaser Podcast

The Dave Glaser Podcast

By Dave Glaser
The Dave Glaser Podcast is for partnered and single adults looking to understand relationships through the lens of The Enneagram, attachment theory, self-awareness and personal growth. If you're like me, you're overwhelmed with all the choices available to you and the mixed signals that you receive are hard to navigate. A few years ago, I was in the same place so I sought out relationship experts and real life daters to guide you to understand how to navigate the dating "scene" where texting, social media and dating apps are ways that people connect and communicate in the modern world.
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230. What to Look for On a First Date with Dr. Carrie Johansson
On this week's episode, I welcome back Dr. Carrie Johansson to speak with me about psychological flexibility, modern marriage and what to look for on a first date.  We both believe that fear and anxiety hold people back in relationships and I cannot thank Dr. Carrie enough for joining me to provide a reflection for me about my recent break up. We dig into so many awesome topics on this podcast and here are a few of the biggest takeaways: Psychological flexibility is the ability to notice the things around you while putting less weight to it. Spinning in outrage keeps you in the stance of the victim. A lot of modern daters want everything to move quickly and the point of a first date is to determine if you want a second. If Dr. Carrie's message resonates with you today, please listen to her previous episode and reach out to her via her website at selfhelponthego.com and pick up a copy of her new book! If you're looking for more support in your relationship right now, please reach out to me with any questions on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs or on Tiktok @dave.glaser
47:15
June 27, 2022
229. How to Get the Most Out of Online Dating with Tiffany Gingrich, type 7
On this week's episode of the podcast, I am joined by Tiffany Gingrich, NLP Practitioner and Yoga instructor, to discuss modern online dating.  Modern dating includes how people communicate through text messaging, social media and dating apps as a means to connect and get to know other singles. With a degree in psychology and an extensive knowledge of the subconscious and how it works, Tiffany brings her professional and personal views on online dating to the conversations today. We dig in to how people show up online in the modern world, how we can better understand our attachment styles plus how our masculine and feminine energies play a part in dating online and in person. If her message resonates with you today, please connect with Tiffany on her website tiffanpygingrich.com or on Tiktok @tiffanygringrich Subscribe and share this episode today!
54:60
June 20, 2022
228. What Men Experience When They Cheat with Stuart Motola
On this week's episode, we welcome back Stuart Motola for a follow up interview to catch up with him after years of international travel.  Stuart Motola is a men's relationship coach who offers guys and couples concrete strategies for how to get unstuck in relationship. With over 15 years working with thousands of men on their relationships and personal growth, Stuart utilizes a unique system that breaks the patterns that keep men tied up in frustrating relationships. Stuart and I dig deeper into the psyche of the Nice Guy and how he shows up in relationship as a martyr or victim and how he self-sabotages his relationships.  Have you been in a relationship with a Nice Guy?  Have you seen Nice Guy tendencies show up in yourself in a relationship?   Please connect with Stuart on his website, stuartmotola.com or on YouTube @stuartmotola to learn more about how he supports men and couples in their relationships. If you're looking for more support in your relationship right now, please reach out on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs via my website daveglaser.com or on Tiktok for a more candid look at modern dating @dave.glaser
48:57
June 13, 2022
227. How Men Go Wrong in Relationships with GS Youngblood
On this week's episode of the podcast, we welcome back GS Youngblood to the program to talk all things embodiment and how men show up in relationship.  GS is the author of The Masculine in Relationship and is set to dive deeper into embodiment practices with his new work.   Before we recorded, I polled our listeners and asked them to submit questions they may have about how the masculine shows up in the modern world and the two questions we dig into do not disappoint!  If his message resonates with you, please connect with GS on Instagram @gsyoungbloodmir or on his website at gsyoungblood.com I have two limited availability spots for one on one coaching and if you're looking to get clear on life, love and relationships, please connect with me on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs or via my website daveglaser.com Please subscribe to the podcast or on YouTube and share this episode with just one person you feel would get value out of the conversation today!
51:27
June 03, 2022
226. Five Reasons to Delete Your Dating App
On this week's solo episode, I offer up five reasons you would want to delete your dating apps... for good this time!  Within each of these, there are reasons why dating apps can be used as a self-awareness and become a big part of your personal development if you're willing to dig in and ask the deep questions as these situations come up for you; as they most certainly will. Join me for a free week trail of private group coaching each week as we dig into topics that help you navigate modern dating when texting, social media and dating apps rule the way we connect, meet and communicate in relationships. Send me a message on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs to learn more today!
24:57
May 27, 2022
225. Live Episode: What are Dating Red Flags, Stalking Exes and Breaking Up with Dating Apps
I recently went live on Tiktok and the engagement and questions were too good not to bring to you here on the podcast!  From dating red flags to setting boundaries with a stalker, the community and I dig into how to navigate modern dating where people tend to use texting, social media and dating apps to communicate and meet one another. Don't hesitate to reach out with follow up questions and connect with me on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs for more details on private group coaching to understand what's coming up for you as you're out there dating in the modern world. Subscribe on your favorite podcast platform or YouTube to be the first to hear new episodes and advice from Dave Glaser, CSCS. 
20:52
May 20, 2022
224. What It's Like Dating as an Actress in L.A. with Grace Patterson, type 7
Joining me on the podcast this week is Grace Patterson, an actress that is making it happen in Los Angeles. While growing up on a farm in Texas, Grace always knew that the life of an actress was her calling and she went against all of her family's advice and took the leap.  Since moving to LA, she has gone through a break up and her first real period of single hood, which we dig into during our conversation! If her message resonates with you, please connect with her on Instagram @gracevictoriapatterson now and follow along as she gets back out there dating and loving life while traveling the world. If you're looking for more support in your life right now, please connect with me on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs and share with me what's coming up for you in your life and we will book a time to check out our coaching programs.
52:05
May 13, 2022
223. What are Kinks, Intimacy and How to Communicate Your Desires with Dr. Kate Balestrieri
On this week's podcast episodes, I am joined by Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a licensed sex therapist and PACT trained counselor and we do not hold back in our conversation about sexual kinks, deep intimacy and how to communicate your desires with your partner.  If there is one episode you will want to listen to from start to finish, this is it.  The depth you will hear in this conversation may greatly change the way you approach your sexuality and perception of your partner's desires, wants and needs.  If her message resonates with you today and you'd like to learn more, connect with Dr. Kate on Instagram @drkatebalestrieri or at modernintimacy .com In honor of May being Mental Health Awareness month, I am inviting each member of our community to connect with me one on one to work through whatever it is that may come up in your life; be it fitness, nutrition or life coaching.  Reach out to me on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs to schedule a free call today. 
48:03
May 06, 2022
222. Fitness facts, Cramping up in bed and Selfishness vs. Selflessness with Dave Glaser
I am back with a solo episode this week and I cover so much that you will want to make sure you aren't driving, so pull over really quick as I dig into how fitness can make you better in bed, taking a water break during sex and how I've been selfish to become selfless in my next relationship. If you're looking for more support in your lifting, life and relationships, message me with your questions on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs and join me for a free week of group coaching now until the end of May before we begin another Get Over Your Ex challenge!
24:07
April 29, 2022
221. TikTok Dates, Dating in Denver and Limiting Beliefs with Nicole Kay, type 2
I am honored to have Nicole Kay join me on the podcast this week to share her experience as an independent woman dating in the modern world.  Texting, social media and dating apps have us believing we need instant access to each other.  What we discuss today will challenge the narrative that love needs to be a certain way. Nicole and I orginally connected on TikTok through our common interest in the savagery that can be modern dating.  We discuss two relationships that came about over Tiktok and what Nicole learned as a result.  If her message resonated with you today, please connect with her on Instagram @nakdash or on TikTok @theogpicklequeen  If you're looking for more support in your relationships today, please message me on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs for a free week trial of our 21 Day Challenge to Get Over Your Ex group coaching program now!  Or click here for all the details and sign up today.
56:22
April 22, 2022
220. What It's Like to Date a Conspiracy Theorist with Gina LoPinto, type 4
On this week's episode, we are joined by Gina LoPinto from New York City.  I recently put an invitation out on Instagram for guests to share their stories on the podcast that may help others recognize authenticity when dating in the ups and downs of a global pandemic. As you listen to today's episode, I want you to be open to what (in)compatibility in a relationship can look and feel like through Gina's personal story while dating a conspiracy theorist in 2021. She and I also dig into what it looks like to date an ex after many years apart and why you would consider it a good idea... or not!  We also discuss how to approach responding when someone is beginning to project their personal BS onto their date or partner.  What comes up for you when you listen in on today's conversation with Gina?  Feel free to connect with her on Instagram or TikTok @ginaalo and let her know she's not alone in her journey of dating in NYC!  If you're looking for more support in your own relationship or dating life, connect with me on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs and I'll sit down with you for an hour to sort through what's coming up for you that is holding you back from what you truly want in life and love!
44:35
April 15, 2022
219. What is the Myth of Finding "The One" with Dr. Liz Fedrick, type 3
If there is one episode of the podcast that I would recommend you listen to from beginning to end, this one is it. This is The One!  On this week's episode of the podcast, we welcome back Dr. Liz Fedrick from Evolve Counseling to discuss relational programming and how it plays a role in how we choose partners.  From childhood to adulthood, our family systems and relational programming lay the foundations in our subconscious for how we choose romantic partners. Dr. Fedrick is an expert in the field of human psychology, behavior and attachment theory accepting clients at two locations in Arizona and if her message resonates with you today, please connect with her on Instagram @evolvecounselingaz Check out more information about the Infinity Loop she mentioned in our interview here. If you're looking for more support in your life and relationships right now, please join us for a free week trial of our private, small group coaching program that meets every Monday evening via zoom at 7 pm mst.  Message me on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs to apply for an invitation today!
45:60
April 08, 2022
218. What Happened with Will Smith at The Oscars with Dave Glaser
Let's take a look at what occurred at the Oscars from a different angle on today's solo podcast episode.  Did you catch what happened between Will Smith and Chris Rock?   What came up for you when you saw what went down between the two involved?  For me, compassion and curiosity were at the forefront of the interaction.  Did I have initial judgement while watching the altercation through my own lens and experiences?  Absolutely.  And I chose to sit with the emotions that showed up for me and decided to go live on TikTok to provide support for our community with what showed up for them as well.   Tune in as I share what my thoughts and feelings were about the whole scenario including the memes, videos and assumptions that appeared on social media over the next day.  Subscribe now and be the first to hear what our expert guest has to say about relational programming and cognitive dissonance on next week's episode with returning guest and psychologist, Dr. Liz Fedrick.
10:34
April 01, 2022
217. How Does the Fear of Being Found Out Show Up in Relationships with Dave Glaser
On this week's quick solo episode, I want to hit you with some hard truths about modern relationships with texting, social media and dating apps as main ways people connect.  I've been given the opportunity to interview 100s of experts on the podcast and they all answer the same when asked, "What holds people back in modern relationships"?  Their answer is always the same: FEAR. Today, I dig into the fear of being found out or discovered that holds you back in your relationships.  From vulnerability to intimacy, I cover everything you may not have realized about yourself until now.  So let's dig in and if you have follow up questions, please message me on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs for more of this conversation!  
12:43
March 25, 2022
216. Exploring Sobriety and Sober Curious with Debbie Scheer, type 8
On this week's episode of the podcast, I am joined by Debbie Scheer, MC and comedian from Denver, Co.  We met through a previous podcast guest, Meghann Conter, and this week we expand on sobriety, being sober curious and how we both show up when dating in Denver.  Debbie shares her unique perspective on relationships, parenting and dating in the LBGTQ community while living a sober life. Debbie's powerful story resonates with me today and if you connect with her message in any way, please connect with her further at www.debbiescheerspeaks.com or on Instagram @debbiescheerspeaks If you are looking for more support in your own dating journey, please send me a direct message to me on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs and I will get you an invitation to join our private, small group zoom call for a free week trial!
51:47
March 18, 2022
215. How to Date After Divorce with Jade Bianca
On this week's episode, I am joined by Jade Bianca to talk all about dating after divorce.  We spend our time today navigating how long a person should wait after a divorce to "get back out there" and we came up with something unexpected that you won't want to miss!  From dating frogs to getting a second chance at love, Jade and I do not hold back! If her message resonates with you today, please connect with her on Instagram @dating_after_div about her matchmaking and coaching for divorcees. If you are looking for more support in your dating life right now, please connect with me on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs to learn more about one on one private or exclusive small group coaching programs today!
44:55
March 11, 2022
214. My Jiu-Jitsu Journey to Purple Belt with Dave Glaser
After five years of training in the "gentle art" of Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, I was honored and humbled to receive my purple belt from the Easton Academy in Denver, Co.  I wanted to include our community in the celebration of that promotion as it has so much to do with moments in my life where I was tested and needed to stay grounded. Jiu-jitsu is a practice that helps me do that in the healthiest way possible.  In January of '22, I was consumed with work and I felt my reactivity showing up more than I would have liked through the stressful busy season.  Now it's March and I am back to training and facing the next chapter in my life with humility and a new mindset, which impacts my relationships in every area of my life. Tune in now to hear the full story and celebrate with me today!  If you are looking for more support in your life, send me a message on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs to learn about one on one or group coaching for nutrition, fitness, life and love with me today!
19:34
March 05, 2022
213. Dating Options, Fear of Rejection, and Anxious Attachment with Amy Elizabeth, type 2
On this week's episode of the Lift Laugh Love podcast, I am joined by Amy Elizabeth Conway from the Beloved Blonde podcast where we discuss options when it comes to dating in the modern era.  From fear of rejection and vulnerability all the way to our attachment styles, we dig deep into what it's like to date in the modern era with texting, dating apps, and social media. If her message resonates with you today, reach out to Amy on Instagram @thebelovedblondepodcast and share this episode with one person you feel would benefit from our conversation today! I am opening up our small group coaching program to five women who want to make a change in their dating journey today.  Click here to get your first week for free and reach out to me on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs
01:03:20
February 25, 2022
212. Reality TV and Dating after 40 with Karen Larrea
On this week's episode of the Lift Laugh Love podcast, I am joined by Karen Larrea from My Mom, Your Dad, a hit HBO Max reality dating show.  College aged children nominate their parents for a second chance at love on this heartwarming and satirical approach to modern dating.   Karen Larrea is a single mom from Miami, Fl who sits down with me to talk about how fear and our past patterns show up in modern dating.  Karen and I discuss what happens when we are faced with ghosting and poor communication, how does our ego show up to protect us.  If her message resonated with you today, please connect with Karen on Instagram @kmlm21 Tune in to the whole episode, subscribe today, and share with a friend who would enjoy this conversation!
48:35
February 18, 2022
211. Failing Forward, Worthiness, and Relationships with Dave Glaser
On today's episode, I talk about the core limiting beliefs I saw in myself and my clients when I first began coaching as a personal trainer.  As I grew, so did my awareness of how the core limiting belief of "I am not worthy" was showing up in every area of my life and relationships.  By discussing how I failed my way to being a success, I want to illustrate that your self-worth is not tied to your decisions or mistakes. If this episode resonates with you, subscribe now and share with a friend that you feel would get value out of the conversation.  Don't hesitate to reach out and start a conversation with me about today's topic on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs on TikTok @dave.glaser or on Facebook.
23:33
February 11, 2022
210. Break ups and Online Dating with Dave Glaser
New Series!  We kick off the Lift Laugh Love series of the Believe Be Real Be Bold podcast with an episode you've been dying to hear!  I will catch you up on how Covid Fatigue hit me hard last fall, causing me to evaluate what were my top priorities.  I will update you on how I have been healing from my break up from last August and introduce you to how non-attachment comes into online dating for me now. In each of the next few episodes, I will drop some fitness facts on you that you may not have heard before and would love to start the conversation on social media.  Drop me a line on TikTok @dave.glaser or on Instagram @daveglaser_cscs to get more details on the Lift Laugh Love podcast with Dave Glaser, CSCS Group coaching begins Feb '22 with two time slots to get involved and as always, send me a DM if you are interested in one on one fitness or relationship coaching.
19:44
February 04, 2022
209. What is a 3% Man with Paul Bauer, type 3
On this week's episode of the podcast, I am joined by Paul Bauer, host of the C'mon Man Podcast from Grand Junction, Co.  We discuss Nice Guy Syndrome and how it showed up in our own lives before we decided to uncover what was coming up in our own lives that held us back in relationships. Paul believes that we are taught limiting beliefs about relationships from our family systems, and I couldn't agree more.  We touch on masculine and feminine energy dynamics with a discussion about Christian Grey and covert contracts.  One major takeaway from today's episode are 5 traits of a Nice Guy that Paul and I break down for you to recognize in yourself plus recommendations to right the ship of your life! If Paul's message resonates with you today, please don't hesitate to reach out to him via his podcast, on Instagram @comeonmanpodcast or on TikTok @comeonmanpod 
54:02
September 27, 2021
208. How to Date with Anxiety
On this week's episode, I walk you through my personal experiences while dating with generalized anxiety disorder and depression.  It's already challenging enough to navigate modern dating with apps, text messages, and social media playing a huge part in how people meet and communicate. I share how becoming aware of what brings on feelings of anxiety has improved my approach to my attachment style and navigating making better choices to lessen the feelings of anxiety taking over my life.  I finish today's episode with you how my break up happened and what I've been going through since my relationship ended. If you have questions about today's episode, please don't hesitate to reach out and send me a direct message on Instagram @davemglaser
27:50
September 20, 2021
207. How to Face Death with Christine Hernandez, type 8
On this week's episode of the podcast, I am joined by Christine Hernandez, who's mission in this world is to help people live bold in their relationships, bodies, businesses, and in life. She has found this is only possible if we addressed the pain conflict and challenge head-on paired with extreme grace and love. She has been called the queen of conflict and she loves to help others embrace conflict because the result can be life changing. Christina is the owner of Revenue tribe, a local Denver business, where she stops at nothing to help clients succeed. Christine is on a mission to show people that anything is possible and that they can transform undesirable challenges into powerful opportunities. Throughout Christine's life, she has turned the seemingly impossible into the possible by shifting her mindset, including overcoming a terminal brain condition called chiari malformation. It was during this time that she courageously decided to choose her life over her diagnosis and was able to fully heal from the condition. If Christine's message resonates with you today, please don't hesitate to reach out to her via LinkedIn or on Instagram @boldleaderco
57:57
September 13, 2021
206. How to Have a Tender Hearted Soul with Jamie Elizabeth Thompson, type 8
On this week's episode of the podcast, I am joined by Jamie Elizabeth Thompson who's mission in life is to look at how sex and sexual desire is key to being your authentic self. She believes that you came here to be all of who you are and sex and intimacy are the ultimate playground of discovery. Jamie Elizabeth has developed a holistic body of work to support women men and couples with letting go of limiting patterns around sex so they can have a fulfilling intimate life and taste their most exquisite erotic expression. She contributes regularly to the field of sex education and pioneering original and Lasting solutions for challenges in Sex and intimacy. If her message resonates with you today, please connect with her on Instagram @holisticsexcoach or her website linked here now jamieelizabeththompson.com On today's episode, we go far beyond just sex and intimacy and we view it from the lens of the Enneagram and the type 8, Challenger, personality type. Like me, Jamie is an 8 and has a social subtype versus my sexual subtype, which gives us a clear distinction of who we are and how we show up in the world. I truly enjoyed today's conversation, as she was a wonderful mirror for me to take a look at my own "stuff" that comes up in relationships.
50:37
September 06, 2021
205. How Less Can Be More with Samantha Joy, type 7
Samantha Joy joins me on the podcast this week as an Enneagram type 7, and author of the book The Less Effect: Design Your Life for Happiness and Purpose. Her mission is to educate people on how to step into their authentic self by letting go of items in your physical, social, and habitual environments. On today's episode, we dig deep into how she was possibly mistyped as a type to the helper for years and years and years before she finally uncovered that she was an Enthusiast on the Enneagram personality testing system. We talked a lot about parenting and her career in upper level management in the financial industry before she set out on her own. Samantha is running a program right now based on how she went from food stamps to six figures in nine months. If you enjoyed today's conversation, please share it with one person. And while you're at it, leave us a five star rating and a written review on iTunes or Spotify. That really helps us get the message of the podcast out to more people. If Sam's message resonates with you today, please connect with her @iamsamanthajoy or via email at hello@thelesseffect.com
55:18
August 23, 2021
204. How to be Misunderstood as The Challenger with Libby Cole, type 8
 Libby Cole, owner of Expand Coaching and Consulting and an Enneagram 8w7, joins me on the podcast to talk about her experience as The Challenger personality type. She has learned through her life and business experience that Challengers who are women are often times the most misunderstood Enneagram type. Libby wants to set the record straight that female 8s can be soft, influential, and great leaders all at the same time! I couldn’t agree more that she shows up with empathy, sensitivity, and a lot of fire for her mission in life. Libby’s background professionally was mostly higher education before taking the leap to become a business owner and empowering herself to lead others through Enneagram coaching. Libby believes that misunderstanding and miscommunication is what holds people back in relationships. In her words, “When people begin to learn more about themselves, they can also be more understanding of others. This is a beautiful outcome of learning the Enneagram, the awareness that there are 8 other ways of approaching something. It can also give you permission to step into your true, authentic self without apology.” If her message resonates with you today, please connect with her on Instagram @enneagramtoexpand or via email at libby@expandcandc.com To connect with me about in home personal training, click fitlifechampions.com now to book a complimentary consultation to learn more about your top three goals in fitness and wellness!
49:52
August 16, 2021
203. I Have Thoughts about My Feelings with Jordan Pendleton, type 5
On this week's episode of The Challenger Podcast, we welcome Jordan Pendleton an "Observer", type 5, on the Enneagram. When I feel a lot of stress, I resemble the tendencies of a five a lot!  Especially when she said, "5s have a lot of thoughts about their feelings."  We also discuss numbing out with all kinds of vices, having a scarcity mindset, and how we each deal with grief. This was a timely conversation for us, as we had just seen each other at a memorial service for a friend, giving us the chance to process our grief and sadness.  So many amazing nuggets of wisdom from Jordan in today's episode, digging into the amazing attributes of the type 5, also known as the Investigator or Observer. If her message resonates with you today, please connect with her on Instagram @jordanypendleton and tune into her rebranding of Revenue Tribe. We are pleased to announce brand new workout programs at Fit Life Champions and on August 16th, 2021, we are taking applications for this next round of elite level coaching! Click here for all the details today.
51:11
August 09, 2021
202. What are Plateaus in Personal Growth with Robert Wunderlich
On this week's episode, we welcome back Robert Wunderlich, professor and black belt at The Academy of Jiu-Jitsu in Arvada, Co.  We reconnected after last years interview because he was kind enough to walk me through a plateau in my Jiu-Jitsu journey recently. We dig deep into how plateaus in fitness, Jiu-Jitsu, and personal growth can be beneficial for us in the long run, encouraging us to process all that comes up for us and to allow the subconscious mind to "play catch-up".  Robert and I connect on a deeper level through my competition experience and how the body holds onto trauma which can be released by new trauma; for example, a car accident. If Robert's message resonates with you today, please connect with him on Instagram @wunderbjj99 or at arvadajiujitsu.com To connect with me about in home personal training, click fitlifechampions.com now to book a complimentary consultation to learn more about your top three goals in fitness and wellness!
55:37
August 02, 2021
201. Jiu-Jitsu and The Enneagram with Black Belt Robert Wunderlich
Today's episode is part one of a two part series with Robert Wunderlich, a BJJ Black Belt and the owner of The Academy of Jiu-Jitsu in Arvada, CO. We connected last year during the peak of Covid to discuss what people were experiencing from an anthropologist's point of view. Besides creating the Wyoming Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Federation, Robert has a Masters in anthropology from the University of Wyoming and has impacted many students as an instructor in BJJ. Tune into this insightful episode to learn about Robert's white belt mentality, his experience in fatherhood, and why he is so passionate about studying human history. If Robert's message resonates with you today, please connect with him at The Academy of Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu in Arvada or on Instagram @wunderbjj99 If you're looking for mentorship in life, love, and business, click here now to join the brand new SAEL (self-awareness, attachment theory, the enneagram, and leadership) group coaching program for men beginning August '21!
01:08:46
July 26, 2021
200. How to Challenge Each Other with Perri Chase, type 8
On this week’s podcast episode, my guest is Perri Chase, a powerhouse, badass, and challenger on the enneagram, like me! We do not hold back and one of the things I appreciated most about our conversation is that she… Challenged me. Yep, you read that right. I get pumped up for a good challenge and this interview does not disappoint! We talk about everything. And I do mean everything; from triggers and alchemizing them on down to “is my enneagram type me? or is it my ego showing up?” We close out the episode talking about d!ck pics and that’s a first time topic on the podcast… don’t miss it! If you’d like to connect deeper with Perri, please check out her upcoming program Slay at perrichase.com/slay or find her on Instagram @perri.chase If you're looking for mentorship, support, or coaching from Dave, please connect with me on Instagram and send me a direct message @thechallengerpodcast 
01:03:11
July 19, 2021
199. How Does Anger Show Up for The Challenger
On today's episode, I discuss how the challenger personality type becomes solidified within us and often times, that is as a result of an instance of trauma or repeated trauma in our formative years.  I alert you with a heads up at the time during the episode where you may want to fast forward.  We will dive deep into the enneagram, attachment styles, and self-leadership to learn more about what our anger is trying to teach us throughout the episode and it will be confronting, I promise. The challenger personality type on the Enneagram reacts first with anger, as do the 9 and the 1, as they are part of the body feeling triad.  Over the past few years, it has been part of my journey to get in touch with that anger to understand more clearly what is lying beneath it.  I also answer our audience members' questions of how to recognize and display a clean version of our anger so that we can form deeper and more intimate relationships without blowing our lids! To try out a free week of our private group coaching program, please click here before the price goes up in August '21.  Please share this episode with one person you feel would benefit from hearing the message and leave us a 5 star rating and written review on your favorite podcast platform.   
11:57
July 12, 2021
198. What is an Embodiment Practice
On today's episode, I will share what I've learned through my own embodiment practices and how they relate to The Enneagram, attachment styles, and self-leadership.  As a challenger on the Enneagram, I tend to lean towards more intense activities that teach me how to embody strength, confidence, humility, and direction in my life. If you say someone embodies patience, you may see them pausing before they respond to you in ALL situations, no matter their emotional state. If you say that someone is present in the moment, you may see them joking or laughing with the group or supporting one person off to the side, speaking softly as they comfort them through a difficult time. If you say that someone is the embodiment of a quality, you may mean that that is their most noticeable characteristic or the basis of all they do.  If you're looking for more support as you navigate modern dating, please try out our private, small group coaching program now!  It's free for your first week and click here now to sign up.
18:02
July 05, 2021
197. Empathy and The Challenger
On today's episode, I will walk you through how I learned that I needed to show more empathy for others and the journey I've been on since.  What is empathy?  There are three types of empathy: cognitive, emotional, and when you combine the two... compassionate.   It took a series of tough life experiences to show me that I could communicate with empathy in a more compassionate way.  In today's episode, I dig deeper into empathy with a Maya Angelou quote to exemplify this, "Do the best you can until you know better.  Once you know better, do better." What comes up for you as you listen to today's episode?  Join us for a free week of group coaching to learn better how to use your intuition to communicate better with empathy in your relationships!  Click here to sign up now and for a limited time, I will include a 60 minute coaching call with me.
16:12
June 28, 2021
196. Boundaries and The Challenger
how have you communicated your boundaries in the past?  how would you like to communicate your boundaries today?  what will it look like to set healthy boundaries in the future?    these questions and more will be answered on today's solo podcast episode.  there are three kinds of boundaries we will discuss today: porous, healthy, and rigid.  and I can remember using all three at different times in my life.   we will dig deep into how the challenger personality type shows up when setting boundaries, how each attachment style feels about boundaries, and what self-leadership can do to enhance your communication when setting important boundaries. like a 2 am text, for example.  how would you handle a text message that late?   today, I will leave you with a few different ways to approach setting that boundary depending on your attachment style. If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to reach out to me on Instagram @thechallengerpodcast    
12:49
June 21, 2021
195. How Astrology and The Enneagram Relate with Gail Evans, type 3
how do you go deeper than your Enneagram type or astrological sign?  what can you gain from the self-awareness that these two tools can show you? Gail Evans @your.soul.revelead joins me on the podcast this week to answer these questions and so much more.  she is a 2w3 and a 1:1 subtype which gave me a new mirror to see myself in as we recorded this fun live event a couple weeks ago.  we take this opportunity to dig even deeper into my cancer sun, leo moon, and aquarius rising signs as they parallel my enneagram personality type 8w7 with a 1:1 subtype. would you like more of this conversation with Gail and I?  we are hosting a limited live event soon to go over your enneagram and astrological chart with a fun virtual vibe absolutely free!  Click here to get all the details now. are you looking for more support in your relationships?  join us in our private virtual group coaching program free for a week where I will facilitate your growth through the enneagram and attachment style to encourage leadership in your relationship!  click here to sign up free for a week! 
46:08
June 14, 2021
194. How Does Leadership Show Up in Relationship with Jessica Smith, type 6
who pays on the first date? what are ways in which you can show up in a relationship to lead?  why is that so important? these questions and more will be answered with my guest Jessica Smith; author, dating coach, and international yoga retreat leader.  Jessica joins me this week on the podcast to educate us on how the masculine core energy can show up with leadership in a relationship. Jessica Smith @jessicasmith.love and I have been friends for years and we have a familiarity with how we each have shown up in relationships in the past.  she is a loyalist on the Enneagram and we discuss how her anxious attachment style showed up in a recent relationship for her.  that story was shared on her podcast Game of Love and that inspired our in depth conversation today to answer questions for our masculine core essence listeners.  we also hope that our feminine audience finds a lot of value in her advice today! I’ve seen my lack of leadership show up in my past and have experienced a lot of growth in the past few years when facing those tendencies and learning more about how I can show up for myself and my partner.  in our interview today, Jessica and I focus on how men can take the lead when they meet someone on a dating app, before the first date, and share our thoughts on who texts first after the date! to stay connected and get more information on coaching to discover more about yourself through the enneagram, attachment theory, and leadership in relationship click here now and sign up for a free week!  for a limited time, I am including a free 60 minute call with me to learn more about what you're looking for in a relationship!
01:16:18
June 07, 2021
193. How Does The Masculine Show Up in Relationship with GS Youngblood
on this week's episode, GS and I discuss the depths of an intimate relationship, what shame looks like for men, and how authentic relating can expand our experiences in life.  we take the time to dig into what our mindset around fear looks like and that most fears arise and yet are left unexamined.  GS and I discuss edgy topics in this thoughtful and heartfelt conversation about the masculine in relationship today. We don’t stop there! We dig into sexual leadership and the impact masculine leadership can have on a relationship. If you follow his blueprint for success, you will find your partner trusting your leadership more and more the deeper you go within yourself. That Masculine in Relationship blueprint can be summed up with these three foundational principles Respond vs React Create Safety Provide Structure I have been anticipating the release of today’s episode with @gsyoungbloodmir for the past couple of weeks! His book can be found here- The Masculine in Relationship -has opened my heart to new depths of what leadership by the masculine energy means to me. Please connect with him on Instagram @gsyoungbloodmir to learn more about his work with men. New private support groups are forming now to kick off June 15th, 2021!  If you or someone you know are looking for a supportive community that will be your guide to self-awareness through the enneagram, attachment theory, and leadership, click thechallengerpodcast.com now and sign up for a free week to try it out!
01:00:59
June 01, 2021
192. How Does the Fear of Vulnerability Show Up with Pedro Meyer, type 8
Pedro Meyer is a Brazilian singer, musician, songwriter, and a teammate of mine at Easton Training Center who joins me on the podcast this week to discuss Muay Thai competitions, the challenger personality type, and masculinity in the modern world.  Pedro and I agree that vulnerability is a massive challenge for men in the world today. We dig into all things martial arts and relating as the challenger as we date in the modern world. He was born in Brazil and came to the United States at the age of 23 to pursue a better life for himself and his family. Pedro shares his vulnerability as he describes a divorce and a break up that teaches us gratitude through a simulated death.  Other topics we discussed today were toxic positivity, grieving a relationship, suppression of emotions, boundaries, and so much more! I hope you are inspired by Pedro's powerful message and if his story resonates with you today, please connect with him on Instagram @_thewarriorpoet or on his website www.musicbypedromeyer.com  New groups are forming now to kick off June 15th, 2021!  If you or someone you know are looking for a supportive community that will be your guide to self-awareness through the enneagram, attachment theory, and leadership, click here now and sign up for a free week to try it out!
01:18:29
May 24, 2021
191. How Does Isolation Impact Men with Robert Joseph
On today's episode, I am joined by Robert Joseph @rjcoachingnyc has a mission to serve with strength, love, and humility.  he is constantly sharing his poetry, thoughts, and philosophy on the challenges men face in the world today. I’ve seen friends of mine isolate themselves when they are going through a transition or major change in their lives such as a break up or a job loss.    why do mean shut others out by isolating themselves? why do men need the support of other men? these questions and more will be answered with my guest this week Robert Joseph, author, speaker, and mens coach.  Robert joins me to share his powerful story with us on how finding like minded men to speak to helps us grow. that is the most common time men reach out for support and I can relate because a year ago, I lost a great job and income without having any idea where to turn. that's when I sought out my own community for support and I am grateful that I did.  what I took away from our conversation is too lengthy to list here, so tune in to the full conversation on your favorite podcast app and leave us a 5 star rating and a written review.   to connect and get more information on coaching with Dave Glaser, CSCS, click here now and sign up for a free week! please connect with us @thechallengerpodcast on social media to ask questions, provide feedback, and go deeper in the conversation with us.
56:45
May 17, 2021
190. The Nice Guy and The Challenger with Traver Boehm, type 8
On this week's episode, Traver joins me to educate us on how the Nice Guy shows up for men in relationships. Traver Boehm @traverboehm is a former MMA fighter, a Challenger on the Enneagram like me, and the author of Man Uncivilized.  it is a ground breaking work of poetry, thoughts, and an honest portrayal of the challenges men face in the world today. I’ve seen the Nice Guy show up in my past and have experienced a lot of growth in the past few years when facing those tendencies and integrating that part back into my psyche.   what does it mean to be a man? why do men numb out to deal with internal conflict? these questions and more will be answered by my guest Traver Boehm, author, speaker, and facilitator of the Uncivilized Nation.  Traver and I focus on how we can solve what needs all of our attention in our modern world; that it’s ok to be a man. what I took away from our conversation is too lengthy to list here, so tune in to the full conversation on your favorite podcast app and leave us a 5 star rating and a written review.   to stay connected and get more information on enneagram coaching with Dave Glaser, CSCS, click here now and sign up for a free week! I am giving away one copy to a lucky listener on our instagram account this week so please connect with us @thechallengerpodcast on social media to ask questions, provide feedback, and go deeper in the conversation with us.
01:29:07
May 10, 2021
189. Finding Mr. Height with Ali and Roark
From New York to Los Angeles, Ali (type 8) and Roark (type 3) have your dating questions covered!  The vibrant cohosts of the fun and informative dating podcast join me on this week's podcast to dig into dating after a year of dealing with Covid and shelter in place.  From long distance love bombs to what to say when an ex reaches out, you will not want to miss this episode or a single episode of Finding Mr. Height, available at findingmrheight.com/podcast and on Instagram or Tik Tok under the same handle. Join us for a free live event and open house with Morgan Wade on April 13th at 7 pm mst to learn how to create a safe space within a relationship!  Click here to sign up and reserve your spot now!
49:09
April 05, 2021
188. How to Find Love After Divorce with Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo
On this week's episode, we are joined by Ben Heldfond and Nikki DeBartolo, co-authors of Our Happy Divorce, a personal story of divorce and coming together as a team to raise their son.  I too went through an unhappy divorce from my daughter's mother and can resonate a lot to Ben's account of taking ownership and a need to face his ego.   What does it take to set aside the need to win in divorce?  We dig deep into this question with a new mindset from our guests today that have a mission to share their story in the hopes that it will help others navigate the waters of divorce and coparenting with their new partners.  If their message resonated with you today, please connect with them at ourhappydivorce.com  Are you struggling with a divorce or know someone who is?  Introduce them to our private small support group that meets weekly with a passion for sharing tools to navigate conflict, love, and dating.  Click here for more details and to apply today!
58:26
March 29, 2021
187. How Dating Multiple People Works... or Doesn't
Picture this. It’s late 2021. You’re out there reconnecting with the world, the people in it, and all those possibilities. After way too much time socially distanced, you and a lot of other people are hungry for conversation and closeness.   One solution: dating multiple people (safely, obviously!)  These days, dating more than one person at one time is not unusual. In fact, I am willing to bet the trend will grow even bigger.   But how does dating multiple people actually sit with you? What would that really look like?  That’s something harder to nail down. Especially if you’re unaware of your attachment style.  In this episode, we’ll dig into what dating more than one person looks like, but we’ll do it through the lens of your attachment style. This will help focus your options, minimize discomfort, and optimize your dating strategy.   We’ll quickly break down all 4 attachment styles and some ways they manifest. Then, I’ll lay down specific advice for what to expect—and how to process—dating multiple people.  Are you looking for more support right now in your dating life?  Apply here for a free week trial of our small group coaching program that meets every Tuesday at 7 pm mst.
28:05
March 22, 2021
186. What are Red Flags When Beginning to Date with Dr. Sheva Assar, type 2
On this week’s episode of the podcast, Dr. Sheva Assar and I discussed how social media plays a big part in today's modern dating. We ask a question submitted by our audience, “What are some red flags to look out for when we are vetting our dates we met online?”  This episode is for both educational and entertainment purposes as we laughed and laughed at a couple stories from my dating history; including the one time I got engaged on Facebook before proposing! "I'm sorry Dave, did you say engaged on Facebook?" It just might have been my first experience with an activated anxious attachment and a trauma bond for me.   Dr. Sheva and I also discuss setting healthy boundaries around social media use and what we can do to reduce our use to improve our self-esteem and confidence! If her message resonates with you today, please connect with Dr. Sheva, clinical psychologist and coach on Instagram @drsheva or through her website drshevaassar.com/coaching
01:02:04
March 15, 2021
185. How to Create a Safe Space in a Relationship with Morgan Wade, type 2
On this week’s episode of the podcast, Morgan Wade and I discussed how the body holds onto memories in “trauma knots”. Morgan, a Focalizing Practitioner, believes that healing is a return to wholeness for us all.  We ask the question, “What is change?” and want to remind you that when we change, our relationship dynamics change as well. My biggest takeaway from our conversation is that “whatever is coming up within us, is coming up for us”.  To me, that means that the only way out is through the emotions and experiences that caused the hurt.  Our conversation led us into a story from my parenting experience where my daughter Madison told me “Don’t ever shake a baby!” That's good advice.  Morgan and I had the opportunity to discuss how attachments with our caregivers form in childhood to inform our adult relationships. We close out the episode with some scenarios where a parent can create a safe space for their child to form a secure attachment!   If her message resonates with you today, please connect with Morgan on Instagram @thelovingkind_ or through her podcast @deadhearts.club
49:49
March 08, 2021
184. How to Handle Social Media when in a Partnership with Karl Sona
Would you agree that social media comes into play every day whether you’re dating, in a relationship, or single?  On today’s episode, we are joined by Karl Sona and we dive deep into how to live publicly on social media while dating amidst a pandemic.   Karl opens up about his relationship and how living publicly on social media can come with some unwanted negative energy from followers and trolls. My biggest takeaway from our conversation is that as your influence grows, so does your responsibility to be a leader in every area of your life. Karl Sona’s mission in life is to educate and empower black leaders to make a lasting impact through their personal and professional missions! We take a break from the heavy hitting conversation to learn more about his passion project and podcast, Dear Black CEO. His platform comes from taking huge leaps in his professional life that brought him to Denver almost three years ago. Just over a year ago, that’s when he met his partner Julia while playing basketball in Washington Park outside of downtown Denver. His vibe that day was authentic and his intention was to get a daily reset outside shooting hoops. Their story is a true testament to what you can attract into your life without even trying too hard. If his message resonates with you today, please connect with Karl on Instagram @karl.sona or through his website karlsona.com Post navigation 
45:60
February 22, 2021
183. What the World Needs Most from Men with Dallas Hartwig, type 4
On today’s podcast, Dallas Hartwig and I dig into what the world needs most from men right now. He is the co-author of two New York Times bestselling books, Whole 30 and It Starts with Food. In his latest book, The 4 Season Solution, Dallas lays out the groundbreaking plan for feeling better, living well, and powering down our always-on lives. Our conversation begins with his journey from being passionate about fitness and nutrition to raising his son with intention in a time when boys need initiation into manhood more than ever. His mission in life is to share how to make healthy lifestyle choices in this crazy world and I couldn’t be more on board with his passion for sharing the importance of nutrition. As an Enneagram type 4, The Individualist, Dallas tends to be on a lifelong mission to find himself and we dive deep into his journey. Digging into his Enneagram personality type, we begin to understand how fluidly we can experience life through the heart of an Individualist. He shares a deep story of how he can relate to my experience as a Challenger because of an overbearing mother. I also truly value Dallas’s perspective on attachment styles as it pertains to the immature masculine energy, of which I can deeply resonate to his share. So sit back, grab a pen and paper, and take thoughtful notes on this intense conversation with Dallas Hartwig, father, speaker, and leader. If his message resonated with you today, please connect with him on Instagram @dallashartwig
53:45
February 15, 2021
182. How Do You Ask for Help in Relationship Conflict with Geoff Laughton
Geoff Laughton, two time national best selling author, and Your Relationship Architect was one of my men's group leaders for a year and is always a good friend of the podcast.  He returns for the third time to discuss when is the best time for a couple to reach out for help from a neutral party during conflict. We also dig deep into how conflict in a safe container can be a good thing to bring growth, what to do when you or your partner is making work more important than your partnership, and how to turn around a bad movie date!  Lastly, we get to the bottom of what women qualities they really want in their partnership and the 3 signs couples should look for in their relationship to know it's the right time to reach out for counseling or coaching.  To connect with Geoff professionally, check out his websites yourrelationshiparchitect.com or theevolvingman.com for his men's group. Join us for a live virtual event this Tuesday with Modern Matchmaker Abby Rosenblum where she will join us in our weekly group coaching call to share her tips to dating during a pandemic, online and off!  Click here to sign up for free now!
01:09:56
February 08, 2021
181. Five Ways Conflict Shows Up in a Relationship with Dave Glaser
What are conflict styles and how do they show up in an argument?  On today's episode, I dive into the 5 conflict styles as researched by the Gottman Institute.  They are conflict avoiders, volatile, validating, hostile, and hostile-detached and the research has found that one is more likely to cause big problems in a relationship than the others!  This series concludes with a wrap up of how attachment styles, the enneagram, and understanding conflict will help you build trust in a relationship.  If you would like to read more, click here to see the full article from the Gottmans. We are inviting 5 lucky people to a FREE live virtual event with Modern Matchmaker, Abby Rosenblum, on Feb. 9th, 2021!  Click here for all the details and to reserve your seat today!
12:27
February 01, 2021
180. Four Things that Break Trust in Your Relationship
On this week's episode of the podcast, I share the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in your relationship when you are having conflict with your partner.  They are defensiveness, stonewalling, criticism, and contempt.   If you've ever been in a long term relationship, you know you will come across some kind of conflict with your partner.  Its normal to have the people close to you push your buttons!  Conflict can also help you grow closer to your partner because it opens up an opportunity to repair any wrongdoing.  I want to walk you through a couple of personal experiences of my own from the past couple years looking for a partner while dating in the modern world.   While doing so, I hope to show you the warning signs of bad conflict behaviors and share the antidotes to them at the same time!  If you're looking for support while in conflict in your relationship, please join us in our small group coaching program free for one week, where you will get the answers you need to create your ideal relationship now!  Click here to apply for our next coaching call Tuesday at 7 pm mst. 
19:16
January 25, 2021
179. How Conflict Shows Up for the Enneagram Challenger
Do you find conflict coming up in your relationship?  Whether your in a romantic relationship with a Challenger or any other Enneagram type, conflict is bound to come up when your partner calls you forward. On today's episode, I'll walk you through the experiences I've had as the Challenger, a Nice Guy, and the avoidant attachment style to show you how conflict can be a positive experience in your life.  Your relationship will be your greatest teacher in life, constantly reflecting your shadow and short comings back to you so that you can grow to become your most authentic self! To get a FREE month of coaching with Dave in the private men's group coaching program, join us tonight by applying here now!  You'll get access to a private support group of men just like you that want deeper meaning in your life plus a weekly group coaching call to see that you're not alone in your journey to freedom in work, life, and love.
14:49
January 18, 2021
178. How Your Physical Wellness Impacts Your Mental Health with Erica Weiner, type 2
On this week's episode of the podcast, I am joined by Erica Weiner who is an Integrative Health Practitioner and Certified Health Coach so we had plenty to talk about with our shared enthusiasm for fitness, nutrition, and mental health advocacy.   Her mission in this life is to help heart-centered high achievers sleep better, heal anxiety and find joy in each moment. We dive deep into her journey through inflammatory responses to certain foods, alcohol, and how quickly traveling 50% of the time for work caught up to her in every area of her health.   As a Helper on the Enneagram, Erica has grown immensely beyond a life of people pleasing and perfectionism.  Tune in to her full story on Instagram @ericaallisonwellness, download her podcast episodes There's a Hack for That, or through her website ericaalisonwellness.com  Check out the online workout programs available through my fitness and nutrition business at fitlifechampions.com for a free week trial of remote coaching or small group training via zoom!    Huge thanks to our partners Root Insurance!  If you'd like to save a ton of money on your car insurance, check out our partner Root Insurance for a test drive of their program at rootbonus.com/daveglaser2 I personally am saving $70 a month by switching!
56:03
January 11, 2021