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Be Love Be Well Be Whole

Be Love Be Well Be Whole

By Nicole M. Raines, LMFT & Dr. Dena Scott

Be Love Be Well Be Whole is a holistic collaboration between two Gen X mental health professionals that takes a journey into the multiple pieces of experience that makes us whole. We will dive into relationships in all phases and stages, mental health and wellness.
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Tap Into Your Sensual Intelligence With Ask Goody
Tap Into Your Sensual Intelligence With Ask Goody
This stop on the journey is tapping into our sensual intelligence. Join Nicole and guest co-host Dr. Shanelle Watson as they chat with Goody Howard (aka Ask Goody) about the difference between being sensual and sexual, the numerous types of orgasms and how to honor your sensual self. Goody is a revolutionary and dynamic boss of sensual and sexual empowerment. These traits are expressed in her work as a sexologist. Learn more about and connect with Goody Instagram: @askgoody Website: https://www.askgoody.com Listener Love: Use the Code: BELOVE to receive a 20% discount thru December 31, 2022 Episode Theme Songs Goody: "Free Mind" by Tems Dr. Shanelle: "Focus" by H.E.R. Nicole: "Any Time, Any Place'" by Janet Jackson Listen to the Theme Songs on Spotify "Be Love Be Well Be Whole Mood" Episode Sign Posts 4:00 What's the difference between sensuality and sexuality? 5:30 You are a sensual human being having a sexual experience.  9:00 There are how many different types of orgasms? 12:25 How can I tap into my sensuality?  Follow us online: Instagram: @belovewellwhole Episode  Producer: Dr. Shanelle L. Watson
29:18
November 09, 2022
Gratitude in Grief II
Gratitude in Grief II
This stop on the journey has us continuing to explore the concept of gratitude within the grief process. Join Nicole and Dr. Dena and special guest producer and co-host Dr. Shanelle Watson as they define and discuss anticipatory grief and some ways to support yourself and others who are experiencing grief.  Learn more about and connect with Dr. Shanelle https://drshanellelwatson.com Instagram: @drslwatson Episode Sign Posts mark 5:45 defining anticipatory grief Loving Kindness Meditation  Episode Theme Songs Dr. Shanelle-  "United in Grief" by Kendrick Lamar Dr. Dena- " Choices" by E40 Nicole - " Cozy" by Beyonce Listen to the theme songs on Spotify Be Love Be Well Be Whole Mood Episode  Producer: Dr. Shanelle L. Watson
37:54
October 03, 2022
Financial Gems With Darvell Williams
Financial Gems With Darvell Williams
This stop on the journey is about getting our money together. Join Nicole and guest co-host Dr. Shanelle Watson as they chat with Darvell Williams about the relationship with money now and in the future. Darvell is an an educator and builder. These traits are expressed in his work as a financial professional.   Learn more about and connect with Darvell  Instagram: @darvellwfinancial email: dwilliams13@ft.newyorklife.com Episode Theme Songs Darvell: "Golden Time of Day" Maze with Frankie Beverly  Dr. Shanelle: "Perm" by Bruno Mars Nicole: "Run-in'" by Pharcyde Listen to the Theme Songs on Spotify "Be Love Be Well Be Whole Mood" Episode  Producer: Dr. Shanelle L. Watson
36:07
September 11, 2022
Gratitude in Grief
Gratitude in Grief
This stop on the journey has us exploring the concept of gratitude within the grief process. Join Nicole and Dr. Dena and special guest producer and co-host Dr. Shanelle Watson as they share their own experiences with losing their mothers and some of the things that have helped in their journeys. This episode is dedicated to those who have lost a mother but for anyone grieving the loss of a loved one, we encourage you to join the conversation.  Learn more about and connect with Dr. Shanelle https://drshanellelwatson.com Instagram: @drslwatson Episode Sign Posts Focus on the "here and now." Have boundaries that allow us to make sure we are tapping into our own needs. Have your affairs in order = talk about death in a meaningful way so the living know what to do.  Episode Theme Songs Dr. Shanelle- "Heaven" by Beyonce                      "Family Business" by Kaye West                      "Thankful" by Mary Mary                      "I'll Be Missing You" by Puff Daddy & Faith Evans                      "One Sweet Day" - Mariah Carey featuring Boyz II Men Dr. Dena- " Outstanding" by The Gap Band Nicole - " I'm Gonna Live Till I Die" by Sarah Vaughan              "Unwritten" by Natasha Bedingfield              " The Boss" by Diana Ross Listen to the Theme Songs Episode  Producer: Dr. Shanelle L. Watson
49:56
August 22, 2022
Wandering Through Meaning and Purpose
Wandering Through Meaning and Purpose
This stop on the journey has us exploring meaning and purpose. Join Nicole and Dr. Dena as they wander though a discussion about finding meaning and purpose in life.  Episode Sign Posts Give yourself permission to not exist in just one way. Does this elevate or depreciate your energy? Episode Theme Songs Dr. Dena- " Closer" by Slum Village & Dwele Nicole - repeat of a previous episode (substitute "Lifted" by Trombone Shorty) Listen to the Theme Songs
24:38
July 05, 2022
You Are Here
You Are Here
In this bonus episode, Nicole guides us through a few mental health hygiene exercises in honor of Mental Health Awareness Month. Each exercise is a minute or less. Let go of your self judgment and use whatever that comes up as information. Tune in and engage!  Exercises: Sitting in Silence Deep Breathing 5 Senses Grounding  Global Theme Song: "Under Pressure" by Queen and David Bowie Listen to the Theme Songs
10:06
May 02, 2022
Taking Up, Holding, Sharing and Leaning into Space
Taking Up, Holding, Sharing and Leaning into Space
This stop on the journey has us thinking about the ways we take up space. Join Nicole, Dr. Dena and their guest Patrice Marshall McKenzie as they delve into ways to bring your whole self into the spaces that you occupy. Patrice is an orator, door opener and celebrator of others. She spends her professional time as an educator and community advocate. Connect With Patrice https://www.patricemarshallmckenzie.com Episode Sign Posts The relationship has its own life too. As you create your relationship, develop rhythms around engaging and restoring. Operating as if we automatically know how to be a good partner can create a barrier. Learn how to shift from being reactive to being proactive and responsive. Engaging outside supports like therapy can be done at anytime and does not mean it is the end. Resources "It's Time to Talk (and Listen): How to Have Constructive Conversations About Race, Class, Sexuality, Ability & Gender in a Polarized World" "4 Conflict Styles that Hurt Your Relationship" Episode Theme Songs Patrice- "Can You Feel It" by The Jacksons / "Workin' Day and Night" by Michael Jackson Nicole - repeat of a previous episode (substitute "Lifted" by Trombone Shorty) Dr. Dena- " Closer" by Slum Village & Dwele Listen to the Theme Songs
27:11
March 30, 2022
Conflict Could Be Where The Cool Stuff Comes From
Conflict Could Be Where The Cool Stuff Comes From
Nicole and Dr. Dena are back for their second season! This year's journey starts in the relational space with be love. Join Nicole, Dr. Dena and their guest, Brandon Raines as they debunk some of the common myths about conflict in relationships.  Brandon is a people mover, seeker of kindness and creator of reflection. His professional time is spent as an Organization Design and Enterprise Coach. Busting These Myths 1. Healthy relationships don't have conflict. 2. We should just know what a healthy relationship looks like. 3. Relationship toxic should always be zero. 4. It is the end if you go to relationship counseling or coaching.  Episode Sign Posts The relationship has its own life too. As you create your relationship, develop rhythms around engaging and restoring. Operating as if we automatically know how to be a good partner can create a barrier. Learn how to shift from being reactive to being proactive and responsive. Engaging outside supports like therapy can be done at anytime and does not mean it is the end.  Resources  "It's Time to Talk (and Listen): How to Have Constructive Conversations About Race, Class, Sexuality, Ability & Gender in a Polarized World" "4 Conflict Styles that Hurt Your Relationship" Episode Theme Songs Brandon- "Zoom" by The Commodores Nicole - "Virtual Insanity" by Jamiroquai Dr. Dena- " I Like It" by DeBarge Listen to the Theme Songs
39:37
February 26, 2022
Just Breathe
Just Breathe
This month we are hanging out at a quick rest stop. Join Nicole for a moment to just breathe.  Learn the science behind why breathing helps to calm us as well as two simple postures to practice belly breathing. 
09:50
January 31, 2022
Being Brave
Being Brave
In this episode, our journey has us "getting off the porch." Feeling stuck or stagnant is not a bad thing, it means you're human. It is how we navigate those moments that makes a difference. Join Dr. Dena and Nicole and their guest Alicia Booker, as they discuss ways to move through a place of feeling stuck. Alicia is a bringer of big energy, steward of worthiness and advocate of empowerment. Her professional time is spent as a certified professional and executive coach and author. Connect with Alicia  Website: https://gettingofftheporch.com Instagram: gettingofftheporch_ GOTP Group Coaching with Alicia - January 2022 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/gotp-group-coaching-with-alicia-january-2022-tickets-202505016957?aff=efbneb Listen to the Theme Songs Be Love Be Well Be Whole Mood
32:46
October 31, 2021
Being Clutter Free
Being Clutter Free
In this episode, our journey takes us inside of our physical spaces for some Fall cleaning. Show love for your physical environment and incorporate it into your plan for your overall well-being. Join Nicole and guest Candace Davenport-Raines, as they declutter our perceptions of what it means to tidy our physical spaces. Candace is a confronter of clutter, dismantler of space shame and guide to organization. Her professional time is spent as an entrepreneur and professional organizer. Connect with Candace Website: https://theclutterboss.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theclutterboss 5 Tips for Decluttering from The Clutter Boss 1) Set a goal. 2) Include time as part of the goal.  3) Start small and use a timer.  4) Divide the room into 4 sections and work in one section at a time. 5) Take breaks. Listen to the Theme Songs Be Love Be Well Be Whole Mood Resources  "Feeling stuck? Guilty? Overwhelmed? Try clearing these feelings out of your home" https://ideas.ted.com/feeling-stuck-guilty-overwhelmed-try-clearing-these-feelings-out-of-your-home/ Buried in Treasures (peer facilitated groups)
34:22
September 29, 2021
Being Able to Quiet the Inner Saboteur
Being Able to Quiet the Inner Saboteur
In this episode, our journey takes us inside of our minds to check out our self-talk. Join Nicole, Dr. Dena and their guest ,Alicia R. McLain, MA, PCC, as they journey into the world of Positive Intelligence and Mental Fitness.  Alicia is a holder of empathy, organizational whisper and promoter of empowerment. Her professional time is spent as an entrepreneur and Executive & Leadership Coach. Connect with Alicia Twitter https://twitter.com/AgileLeaderSD  LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/aliciarmclain/ YouTube Channel  http://bit.ly/SBHC2020 And get more information on her business: • Operational Innovations: https://operational-innovations.com/  • Professional Coaching: http://operational-innovations.com/professional-coaching/ Check Out and Follow Our Mood Theme Songs (*Nicole's Song from this Episode "Distant Places" can be found on Apple Music on the Lowery Brothers Band's album "Jazz Life" The substitute song for the playlist on Spotify is "Sunsets") Be Love Be Well Be Whole Mood You can also join the journey on Instagram @belovewellwhole
32:04
August 04, 2021
Being About Feedback and Escapes
Being About Feedback and Escapes
In this episode, our journey takes us to the zone of dating feedback and healthy escapes. Join Nicole, Dr. Dena and their guest , Edwardo Jackson,  as the chat winds through many places.  Edwardo is a connoisseur of cryptocurrency, lover of movies and fan of dating feedback. He also spends time as CEO & Founder of CinemaDraft, LLC and as a Cryptocurrency Consultant. Connect with Edwardo  Twitter: @SwagPoker Instagram: @edwardojackson Check Out and Follow Our Mood Theme Songs Be Love Be Well Be Whole Mood You can also join the journey on Instagram @belovewellwhole
38:13
July 08, 2021
Being Free to Be You
Being Free to Be You
This part of the journey takes us to an authentic space.  Join Nicole, Dr. Dena and their guest , Tashiana Scott-Cochran,  as they chat about imposter syndrome and ways to handle when others project being an imposter onto you.  Tashiana is a seeker of knowledge and advocate of candor and optimism.  Episode Quote: "...freedom to let whatever is in you out, there's a journey in that."  Check Out and Follow Our Mood Theme Songs Be Love Be Well Be Whole Mood You can also join the journey on Instagram @belovewellwhole
20:55
June 21, 2021
Being Without Limits
Being Without Limits
This month's journey takes us to a limitless mind space.  Join Nicole, Dr. Dena and their guest ,Dr. Shanelle L. Watson,  as they chat about living abundantly, gratitude in our daily lives and how to be optimistic without becoming a projector of toxic positivity.  Dr.Shanelle is a cultivator of empowerment, champion of caring and projector of passion.  These are expressed in her work as an Educational Psychologist and Behavior Interventionist. Learn more about and connect with Dr. Shanelle https://drshanellelwatson.com Instagram: @drslwatson Check Out and Follow Our Mood Theme Songs Be Love Be Well Be Whole Mood
28:49
May 08, 2021
Being Comfortable Talking About Sex
Being Comfortable Talking About Sex
The second part of this month's journey takes us to a sex positive space.  Join Nicole, Dr. Dena and their guest Crystal Harrison as they chat about becoming comfortable talking about sex.  Crystal is a radiator of caring, creator of comfort  and builder of confidence.  These are expressed in her work as a Project Coordinator and Bedroom Kandi Boutique Consultant.  Learn more about and connect with Crystal https://www.bedroomkandi.com/9011 Instagram: @bkpartiesbycrystal Check Out and Follow Our Mood Theme Songs Be Love Be Well Be Whole Mood
31:49
April 25, 2021
Being Still
Being Still
This month's journey takes us to a rest stop. Join Dr. Dena and Nicole as they talk about the value of the pause and provide some tips for being still in this ever moving world.  Read   "How Being More Productive Starts With Doing Nothing" Check Out and Follow Our Mood Theme Songs Be Love Be Well Be Whole Mood
18:29
April 05, 2021
A Taste of Wellness
A Taste of Wellness
The Pivot Episode This month's journey has us making a pivot and shifting course to A Taste of Wellness.  Join Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Nicole and Guest Host Chef Halili as they chat about morning mood makeovers and nighttime wind down routines. There is "thyme today" as they explore a "hug in a mug", simple grounding exercises and sleep hygiene. Chef Halili Davis is a creative entrepreneur, celebrity chef, caterer, and mental health advocate.  Connect with Chef Halili Website: https://www.palatesandpetals.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/palatesandpetals/?fref=ts Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/palatesandpetals/
27:09
March 26, 2021
Being a Vessel of Love
Being a Vessel of Love
This month's journey takes us to the "loveverse." Join us and our guest Chevvy Cheung, MSW, PsyD as we explore self-love and relationships. Chevvy is a champion of relationships, enhancer of dreams and humble collaborator.  These are expressed in his work as a relationship and life coach.  Learn more about and connect with Chevvy https://www.mindmuscleheartlifecoaching.com Find Your Love Language https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ Find Your Apology Language https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/apology-quiz/ Check Out and Follow Our Mood Theme Songs Be Love Be Well Be Whole Mood
37:48
February 28, 2021
Being a Student of Hope
Being a Student of Hope
This month's journey takes us to a hopeful space.  Join us and our guest Connie Ni Chiu as we discuss the various definitions of hope, grief as a gift and tips for how to tap into hope when your  whole being feels tired. Connie is a builder, lover of stories and storytelling.  These are expressed in her work as a Diversity Equity Inclusion Practictioner and Co-Founder of and,/now.  And,/now is a collective for racial justice and healing.  Find out more about Connie and and,/now at https://and-now-collective.com
41:08
January 25, 2021
 Being During the Holidays
Being During the Holidays
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Nicole and Dr. Dena chat with Chef Halili Davis about the daze of the holidays, loneliness and ways to honor being whole during this season.   Chef Halili is a creative entrepreneur, celebrity chef, caterer, and mental health advocate.  Connect with Chef Halili Website: https://www.palatesandpetals.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/palatesandpetals/?fref=ts Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/palatesandpetals/
40:41
December 22, 2020
Intro: Be On This Journey
Intro: Be On This Journey
A brief introduction into the space of Be Love Be Well Be Whole where we explore, relationships, mental health and the sense of what makes us whole.  
18:52
October 12, 2020