The (Complex) PTSD Guy

I give three examples of why it's important to know your triggers.

How I used to combat substance abuse all wrong, because it was coming from a place of Low Self-esteem... and how I think confidence building is the real solution.

Sharing two scenarios that happened today involving confronting a fear and the importance of not second-guessing yourself.

Remind yourself that your demons might not be as scary to face as you think they are.

I want to share how simply stopping drinking wasn't the full answer for me, I needed solutions to help me to stop desiring alcohol as a coping tool.

I have a real time situation happening and I want to share how I normally would respond (from a place of Low Self-esteem) vs how I now will respond (from a more confident headspace).

Dissociation and feeling disconnected from yourself because you've been trying to fit in. Confidence is the solution, in my opinion.

Why I think people with Complex PTSD are more predisposed to feeling wronged, which can lead to angry outbursts, and then it turns out we were incorrect to begin with.

I had to redo this episode due to technical problems.

How randomness can be a big part of feelings of dissociation.

Update on my technical stuff and topic for my next episode... dissociation and low Self-esteem.

Technical update

A recent situation that reminded me of the importance of having patience when we're triggered.

A recent series of events helped me to see how comforting my routine of reading, to cure boredom, really is.

An interesting observation about confidence, rudeness, rage and hobbies showing who we really are.

I want to share the importance of knowing the difference between a hobby and a therapeutic activity, because the sooner you know what your actual hobbies are the sooner you can engage with them.

Family, my own rules to life, and solutions.

How finding hobbies that bring you happiness is the key to building confidence AND why you don't want to choose hobbies simply to fit in or for an image.

Some points about long-term Memory and CPTSD

I share how that book I've talked so much about relates perfectly to the rude person I described recently.

How one of my triggers impacted me growing up and why it's affecting me less recently.

I was just told about a perfect example of where someone's low Self-esteem is being manipulated.

How to perceive someone gaslighting, confidence vs low Self-esteem examples.

I give an example of one activity I'm using to build my confidence.

I share how confidence is the key ingredient to building Resilience to certain triggers rooted in low Self-esteem. I used the book, "The Novel Cure: An A-Z of Literary Remedies" by Ella Berthoud and Susan Elderkin.

How I used a nuisance as a way of appreciating the value of something. And how my confidence has grown after learning I was struggling with low Self-esteem.

With PTSD our brains can actually not activate a region that informs us we have control over a stressor. This is where helplessness comes in.

I want to share a little bit from a mental health class I took today.

I want to share some key points about confidence building and how my approach is working so far.

A few comments about insecurity and ignorance. Two different subjects.

Fighting your fears means you're on the right path, and little signs might be shown to you.

Finding a project to work on, that takes time, can help us appreciate things more and help with impulse control.

The importance of delaying gratification in relation to impulsive behavior, and how projects can help with this.

How I learned to restrain my desire to think impulsively by following true crime for a year.

How impulsivity is one of the biggest hurdles with Complex PTSD.

The importance of getting back to your routine, if you get off track.

Why our relationships may dissolve

When your acceptance of disrespect is rooted in denial stemming from your family judging your passions in your youth.

The importance of not correcting someone who constantly corrects you. Hint, it's a waste of your time.

Are you second-guessing yourself? Don't.

Why some people accept rude behavior from their spouse, and what to do about it.

Some more info regarding possible hobbies for self-esteem.

Technical stuff related to podcast

I describe a "mind game", or someone pulling your leg and how this is similar to people excluding you in relation to abuse.

I list over a dozen hobbies passions and activities that might bring up some ideas for you if you are feeling a lack of zest for life, or if you struggle with low Self-esteem.

Abuse, and how it's simply a big waste of time.

Coming from abuse and the Envy it can create from us for others. I give a couple of possible remedies for low Self-esteem in relation to Envy.

Denial, and how fear of confrontation can be another way of describing it.

I share a few of the differences between physical and emotional abuse.

I discuss physical abuse in childhood and I found another term for Denial, which is Fear of Confrontation.