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The Authentic Wife Show

By Beth Rowles

Welcome AWESOME AUTHENTIC WIFE
We are so glad you found us because that means you have a burning desire to give your kids the family all of you deserve... with a marriage that models a healthy relationship.

You are in the right place.

Here at The Authentic Wife, we know all too well the challenges of raising your kids and loving your husband and you need more than just great resources (which we have) you also need a strong support system (we have that too).

I'm Beth Rowles, Family Alchemist and author of The Authentic Wife, and I'll be your host.
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10: How to Have Better Communication With Your Husband

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27: The Secret To Manifesting Abundance with Victoria Rader
27: The Secret To Manifesting Abundance with Victoria Rader
If you've been trying to attract and manifest abundance in your life, this show is for you! In episode 27 of The Authentic Wife Show, you'll learn the secrets to manifesting abundance in your life, especially financial abundance, with my guest Victoria Rader. Victoria is a Possibility Coach, Author, Transformational Speaker, and the founder of Yu2Shine. She has a fantastic way of describing how we become more authentic and why energy matters so much. To read the transcript, watch this episode on YouTube, or access the resources mentioned in the show, please visit its page: https://bethrowles.com/27-the-secret-to-manifesting-abundance-with-victoria-rader/
33:16
December 04, 2022
26: How to Help Husband With Depression
26: How to Help Husband With Depression
In episode 26 of The Authentic Wife Show, you'll learn how to help your husband with depression, and what he can do to begin to shift out of it. I talk about what causes it, what to say, and how to avoid losing your own joy while he's in it. To access the transcript or resources mentioned in this show, visit its page: https://bethrowles.com/26-how-to-help-husband-with-depression/ If you're ready to create the marriage you and your kids deserve, get started by clicking here. 
24:48
November 27, 2022
25: Awakening The Masculine in Your Man with Andre Paradis
25: Awakening The Masculine in Your Man with Andre Paradis
Awakening the masculine in your man is exactly what most wives I know want out of their relationship. Masculine energy is the doing, protecting, and providing energy that, at its healthiest, makes a mother and her children feel safe and loved. The problem is that a lot of us women are now living in our heads, trying to fill both roles of provider and nurturer, and we've not left any space for the masculine in our husbands to emerge. We inadvertently coddle him and keep him feeling like mommy's favorite little boy, which infuriates us, but we don't know how to change it. In episode 25 of The Authentic Wife Show, you'll learn how the choreography of a healthy relationship dance begins with your energy with Relationship Coach Andre Paradis. "The men don't care about your money. Men don't care about your career. Men don't care about any of that shit. They don't, I'm sorry, have to be harsh, but like this is, this is what, it's such a lemon you've been sold that to be a valuable woman, you have to be productive. No, that's masculine. That's masculine. You don't have to be productive to attract men. You have to be feminine to attract men." To find the resources mentioned in this show, visit its page at: https://bethrowles.com/25-awakening-the-masculine-in-your-man/ You can find my guest and Relationship Coach Andre Paradis at https://www.projectequinox.net/
56:00
November 20, 2022
24: What Does Inauthenticity (Fear) Look Like in a Relationship?
24: What Does Inauthenticity (Fear) Look Like in a Relationship?
I recently had the birthday blues, you know when you just feel sad on your birthday for no apparent reason? In this episode, I walk you through my process for shifting out of that sadness, what I discovered, and how this kind of fear shows up as inauthenticity in a relationship when we blame the other person for the yucky feelings we have going on inside.  Learn how I processed the birthday blues to stop blaming my husband for how I was feeling and to actually heal a part of me I'd forgotten. You can find out more at this episode's page: https://bethrowles.com/24-what-does-inauthenticity-fear-look-like-in-a-relationship/
32:25
November 13, 2022
23: Embodying Your Growth with Michelle Grosser
23: Embodying Your Growth with Michelle Grosser
Embodying your growth means that you've healed and shifted at a cellular level, that you don't just know something cognitively, but that you can actually BE that person in your body. In episode 23 of The Authentic Wife Show, you'll learn ways to heal through your body so you can truly become everything you've learned by moving from your head to your heart. My guest is Michelle Grosser, a motherhood coach, litigator, and host of The Motherhood Podcast. She and I discuss healing through somatic experiencing. sitting in joy, and what she calls the five different personality patterns. Read more about this episode or watch it on its page here: https://bethrowles.com/23-embodying-your-growth/ Michelle Grosser is a motherhood coach and host of The Motherhood Podcast. Michelle spent the better part of the last decade in the courtroom as a trial attorney, and from the outside looking in, she had it all together. But in reality, she was exhausted, overwhelmed, and burned out. So, she flipped the script, became certified as a Master Coach, and is now on a mission to help other women redefine motherhood. She deeply believes that the most profound thing we can offer our children is our own healing. Through somatic and neuroscience-based modalities, she coaches women through discovering what’s beneath their triggers and emotions, so they can begin their healing journey and find peace in the present. She and her husband Jeff have two daughters and live in Miami, FL. www.michellegrosser.com www.facebook.com/ The Motherhood Podcast https://www.instagram.com/themotherhood.podcast/
44:03
November 06, 2022
22: How Fear Kills Communication
22: How Fear Kills Communication
Why Emotions Are A Thought Process And Need To Be Processed Before Problem-Solving Do you get tired of trying to exist when suddenly your husband is defensive or feels criticized? Does communication with him feel like a dead-end street? In this episode, I share with you what is happening and what you can do about it. We explore the brain science behind it and the fatal assumption that communication scholars held for many years that was detrimental to negotiation.  To read the transcript and get any resources mentioned in this episode, visit the show's page: https://bethrowles.com/22-how-fear-kills-communication/
32:27
October 30, 2022
21: Discovering The Art of Self-Worth
21: Discovering The Art of Self-Worth
This is one of my absolute favorite conversations! Today's guest is Michaell Magrutsche, an Austrian-Californian multimedia Artist, educator, author of 5 art-related books, podcaster, coach, creative advisor, and former Newport Beach CA arts commissioner. Our conversation explores the discovery of our human potential through the contrast of man-made systems, which can keep us stuck in a worthiness shame loop while we waste the most precious gift of all, time. Learn how your non-physical essence is an important puzzle piece in all of humanity. To find the transcript and any resources mentioned in this show, please visit its page: https://bethrowles.com/21-discovering-the-art-of-self-worth/ You can find Michaell at michaellm.com
43:37
October 23, 2022
20: How to Get Support to Achieve Your Dream
20: How to Get Support to Achieve Your Dream
Wondering how you'll ever get support to achieve your dream? Maybe you hate your job but the pressure to provide for your family is just too much. Or maybe you're already willing to take the risk to start the business, but your husband is totally stuck in scarcity and lack, afraid to put any resources into your well-thought-out idea. In episode 20 of The Authentic Wife Show, you'll learn how to get confirmation to take that leap from what society told you to do to what your soul is telling you to do, how to grow a truly supportive support team, and how to figure out what your dream even is. For the transcript and all resources, please visit the show's page at https://bethrowles.com/20-how-to-get-support-to-achieve-your-dream/ I'm excited to be welcoming my first guest ever to The Authentic Wife Show and I think you'll find her as inspiring as I did. She's a former hospital COO who chased happiness up the ladder until she realized living an inauthentic life would never make her happy no matter her title or how much money she made. Now a coach, consultant, and author, she is here to help others listen to their heart and pursue their dreams, from astronaut to athlete. If your dream is a long-buried seed or squashed bud, she's here to help you replant it, nurture it, and bring it to full bloom. Please welcome Dream Pollinator and New Yorker Debby Kruszewski to the show.   You can find Debby at https://debbykrusz.com/  https://www.facebook.com/DebbyKrusz/  https://www.linkedin.com/in/debbykrusz/  https://www.instagram.com/debbykrusz/  https://twitter.com/DebbyKrusz  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPAZmthMVoBGNlb1ZYcoejA  https://www.pinterest.com/debbykrusz/  https://www.tiktok.com/@debbykrusz
53:26
October 16, 2022
19: The Surprising Power of Self-Regulation
19: The Surprising Power of Self-Regulation
When a marriage is struggling, it's common to think that there are only two options: stay miserable or divorce. In this episode, I share why self-regulation is the third option which is relationship-changing, and why it matters that we develop this skill. Visit this episode's page at https://bethrowles.com/19-the-surprising-power-of-self-regulation/
15:26
October 09, 2022
18: How to Give Your Husband Responsibility for His Own Life
18: How to Give Your Husband Responsibility for His Own Life
You don't have to protect your husband from the discomfort of his own results. Here are 3 ways to give him back responsibility for his life. To read the transcript and find all resources mentioned in this show, please visit its page at: https://bethrowles.com/18-how-to-give-your-husband-responsibility-for-his-own-life/
29:48
October 02, 2022
17: Why You Feel Like the Only Adult in the House
17: Why You Feel Like the Only Adult in the House
This episode of The Authentic Wife Show is for moms who are feeling like they have to do it all and are tired of the responsibility. Maybe their husband feels like another child to raise or it seems like they're the only "bad cop" making sure all of the "adulting" is handled.    To read this episode, listen to it on my podcast, or get all of the resources mentioned, please visit https://bethrowles.com/17-why-you-feel-like-the-only-adult-in-the-house/   #codependency #boundaries #marriageadvice #consciousmarriage #consciousparenting
30:55
September 25, 2022
16: How to Model Healthy Boundaries for Your Kids
16: How to Model Healthy Boundaries for Your Kids
Getting our kids to behave the way we hope they'll always behave in the world requires modeling the boundaries we hope they'll have. In this episode, I quickly go over the basic 4 limits we need to model for our kids, but I also talk about how important it is that we call out any unconscious behavior, or boundary-violating behavior, whenever we see it... including from our husband (or wife, or partner).  And if you're afraid to do that, ask yourself why it's important to "not disrespect my husband" but not important to also ponder, "why is it ok for my husband to disrespect my child?"  You can also read the show transcript and find all resources mentioned here: https://bethrowles.com/16-how-to-model-healthy-boundaries-for-your-kids/
18:29
September 18, 2022
15: Why Divorce Should Be The Last Boundary You Hold
15: Why Divorce Should Be The Last Boundary You Hold
Wondering why divorce should be the last boundary you hold? And what is a boundary, anyway? In episode 15 of The Authentic Wife Show, you'll learn how to create the marriage you and your kids deserve by holding boundaries long before the boundary of divorce. This is for you if you're not even really sure what a boundary is, how to hold it, or how they're meant to be held throughout your relationship and not just when something goes terrible wrong. Be sure to visit the page for this episode to get all of the resources mentioned: https://bethrowles.com/15-why-divorce-should-be-the-last-boundary-you-hold/
28:42
September 11, 2022
14: How Do You Know If Your Chakras Are Blocked?
14: How Do You Know If Your Chakras Are Blocked?
There are seven energy centers in the body that correlate to different phases of our development. In this episode, I give you a quick run-through of each and help you see how they could have become damaged or blocked and what you can work on to open them.  Episode page: https://bethrowles.com/14-how-do-you-know-if-your-chakras-are-blocked/ You can also read more on my website on the blog What Are Chakras?
28:59
September 04, 2022
13: Why We Blame Others and the 4 Levels of Consciousness
13: Why We Blame Others and the 4 Levels of Consciousness
When nothing is going our way or we're struggling, it means we're in ego frequency. This state has us believing that we're a victim of our life or our marriage, instead of the creator of it. In this episode, I talk about the four levels of consciousness or To Me, By Me, Through Me, and As Me.  Visit this episode's page here: https://bethrowles.com/why-we-blame-others-and-the-4-levels-of-consciousness/ The books mentioned are: Quantum Love: Use Your Body's Atomic Energy to Create the Relationship You Desire by Dr. Laura Berman The Inside Track: An Inspirational Guide To Conquering Adversity by Peter Sage Energetic Selling and Marketing; A New Way to Create Extraordinary Growth in your Business by Lenka Lutonska You can download The Princess & The Peeve Emotional Assessment here: theprincessandthepeeve.com
25:34
August 28, 2022
12: What To Do When Your Husband Doesn't Help Around The House
12: What To Do When Your Husband Doesn't Help Around The House
You are doing all the work at home. Your husband isn't helping with the kids as much as you like, whether that's helping them get dressed or even holding space for their big emotions. He's not washing the dishes, emptying the trash, generally it just feels like you have another child to take care of. To read more about this episode, visit https://bethrowles.com/what-to-do-when-your-husband-doesnt-help-around-the-house/
30:13
August 21, 2022
11: The Reality of Southern Charm and Prince Charming
11: The Reality of Southern Charm and Prince Charming
One of my guilty pleasures is watching Bravo's Southern Charm, and I realized while watching a recent episode that Shep Rose and I have a lot in common when it comes to our thoughts on marriage. (Maybe he read my book after all?!)  In this episode, I talk about how the Disney princess fairytale set us up for unhappy marriages and the reality of real men, and who's actually going to save us.  Visit the episode's page here: https://bethrowles.com/the-reality-of-southern-charm-and-prince-charming/
27:43
August 14, 2022
10: How to Have Better Communication With Your Husband
10: How to Have Better Communication With Your Husband
Learning how to have better communication with your husband begins with learning how to self-regulate and manage your own energy, so you don’t get hooked by his fear. Read more about this topic at the episode's page: https://bethrowles.com/how-to-have-better-communication-with-your-husband/ 1. The biggest problem with the way we communicate now is that we're not even aware that our energy is matching theirs a. They go into fear b. We drop into fear and find a story to match it c. We both end up on the defense the whole time and no one gets anywhere 2. When we are able to stay in an authentic place, this energy of love and not fear, then we can truly listen to their needs and express ours a. From a place of love I can hear the little boy inside who's scared b. We can get to the real thing below the words you're saying 3. When someone comes at us with an "when you BLANK I feel BLANK" they're trying to make us responsible for their triggers, their emotions a. Only from a place of empathy can we help them process the trigger or emotion beneath what they're saying b. Most communication issues come down to wanting to be understood but not wanting to understand Download 30 Texts to Get More Help here: www.bethrowles.com/marriage
29:14
August 07, 2022
9: How to Find a Balance That Works for Both Partners in Sex Life After Having Children
9: How to Find a Balance That Works for Both Partners in Sex Life After Having Children
This episode is about navigating differing desires and needs in the bedroom, especially as a busy mom who already feels pretty overwhelmed by motherhood itself.  I talk about: 1. You should never do it when depleting emotions are present around it.  a. If you feel angry, resentful, hatred, disgust, etc.… it's not the time for sex b. My theory is that if we're not feeling like we can raise our current children well at the moment, we won't be in the mood for sex even if having more children isn't a possibility… at a deeper level we shut down to it. It's like our body's like woah lady you're drowning now is NOT the time c. You have to get clear on what your soul is asking you to do to make sure you have a better partnership and stop taking on everything alone 2. We have different needs a. Men need it differently than women do, to them it's the way they feel the energy of your love… remember they aren't empaths as often as we are, they aren't picking up on your energy, but touch can bring them right into connection with it b. There's nothing wrong with a quickie when you're just kind of feeling neutral about it… remember that to men it feels like a pretty real need and when we agree to be monogamous we do have some level of responsibility to allow them to meet that need with us 3. Sex is an energetic exchange first and foremost  a. If you're going into it with the intention to make him happy or feel wanted, you need to explore those inner child needs first… you can't come to the bed with that kind of baggage and experience sex the way it's meant to be experienced, it will never fill you up b. Your intention should be for him to feel your love and for you to receive his You're looking to have a connection with your higher self or soul during the experience, it is so much more than what our society has sadly made it out to be Read more about this episode here: https://bethrowles.com/how-to-find-a-balance-that-works-for-both-partners-in-sex-life-after-having-children/ Be sure to read Quantum Love by Dr. Laura Berman and you might also be interested in this blog: https://bethrowles.com/3-things-unhappy-wives-wish-their-husbands-knew/
29:19
July 31, 2022
8: [Story time] What It's Like Being a Daughter of Divorce
8: [Story time] What It's Like Being a Daughter of Divorce
In this episode, I share my story of how my parents' divorce impacted my life. If you've ever wondered what life would be like for your children if you were to get a divorce, this may give you some insight on what it feels like. Thank you for joining me for this vulnerable share. If you'd rather read it, you can visit https://bethrowles.com/what-its-like-being-a-daughter-of-divorced-parents/ For the show notes and resources visit https://bethrowles.com/story-time-what-its-like-being-a-daughter-of-divorce/
43:31
July 24, 2022
7: How Authenticity Ends Anxiety For Moms
7: How Authenticity Ends Anxiety For Moms
If you're an anxious mom, this one's for you. Let's talk about how becoming more authentic ends anxiety for moms. We discuss: When we don't have a healthy model, but the stakes are high (with our kids), we feel so much pressure to get it right that we rely on what we know, which is our intellect and gaining knowledge to know the way forward But this creates a ton of anxiety, and our old way of just controlling everything to feel safe stops  working because now we have humans in the mix, and we can't control other humans So we're looking everywhere for the right way to do things, and realizing that this huge deficit that we feel is, in fact, our inability to feel our emotions and use their guidance So to get out of this cycle of trying to control the crap out of everything and feeling endless anxiety, we have to learn how to DO less and BE more, how to mind our thoughts, how to live in the present moment, how to trust that the energy coursing through our body in the form of emotions is here to guide us And we have to stop caging ourselves, our kids, or our husband with expectations from old belief systems… that model never worked anyway and wasn't healthy. You can check out my masterclass on emotions, Royally Guarded on my website, www.theauthenticwifeandmom.com or visit https://bethrowles.com/the-authentic-wife-uncaging-yourself-through-marriage-by-beth-rowles/ for the show notes and resources.
30:13
July 17, 2022
6: The Myth of The 5 Love Languages
6: The Myth of The 5 Love Languages
Did you know that the 5 love languages model has been debunked? Studies show that it's ineffective at improving relationships. But do you know what works? Self-Regulation! AND the female in the relationship has the most impact on changing it. In this show, I break down the differences between love and care, why self-regulation matters, and what to explore as inner work based on your own "love language." Show link here: https://bethrowles.com/the-myth-of-the-5-love-languages/ Read more about it on my blog as well: https://bethrowles.com/5-love-languages-debunked/
27:58
July 10, 2022
5: A Better Word For Wife
5: A Better Word For Wife
Does the word 'wife' bother you? Do you know its origins? What unconscious intention goes with the idea of being a 'wife' or having a husband? Let's talk about why it bothers you to think of yourself as a wife, the differences between men and women, and how you can start looking at your husband differently to begin to improve your marriage. Read more about this episode here: https://bethrowles.com/a-better-word-for-wife/ You can buy The Authentic Wife: Uncaging Yourself Through Marriage on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2OcaNUJ
27:34
July 03, 2022
4. What is an Authentic Wife and How to Make Authentic Choices
4. What is an Authentic Wife and How to Make Authentic Choices
So what is an Authentic Wife? What does it mean to make authentic choices? And what do we do if we chose our marriage from an inauthentic place? Life shows us what we don't want with contrast Life is our data, our feedback loop so we can find the root cause and optimize Changing our role in the relationship dynamic changes it People will be who we show them they are Read more here: https://bethrowles.com/what-is-an-authentic-wife-and-how-to-make-authentic-choices/ Buy The Authentic Wife: Uncaging Yourself Through Marriage on Amazon
30:08
June 26, 2022
3: How to Stop Letting Your Partner's Negativity Drain You
3: How to Stop Letting Your Partner's Negativity Drain You
Does it seem like your husband’s negativity sucks you down from your happy place and is inescapable? In this episode, I talk about how to navigate that fearful energy and scarcity mindset without finding a new husband. You can read more about this at https://bethrowles.com/how-to-stop-letting-your-partners-negativity-drain-you/ where you'll find more resources for protecting your boundaries as well. You can also visit https://bethrowles.com/what-to-do-when-your-partners-negativity-is-draining-you/ to hear more. 
26:58
June 19, 2022
2: How To Use Your Marriage To Become Happier
2: How To Use Your Marriage To Become Happier
What is happiness, and how can you use the conflict in your marriage to find it? In this episode we talk about: - What is happiness - How to use your relationship to figure out why you’re not happy - How to meet your own needs - What emotions are - How you heal others To read more about this episode visit https://bethrowles.com/how-to-use-your-marriage-to-become-happier/ where you'll also find supportive resources to help you become happier.
33:13
June 12, 2022
Why Your Parents Depended On You
Why Your Parents Depended On You
In this episode of The Authentic Wife Show, we discuss why our parents depended on us and how to in turn put that dependence onto our husbands. We uncover the real reason why you can't get your husband to do what you want him to do, and how the amount of attention a child requires can be beyond our capacity. Visit https://bethrowles.com/why-your-parents-depended-on-you/ to read more about this episode and find resources to help you create the marriage you and your children deserve. 
30:29
June 08, 2022