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Betrayal Recovery Radio: The Official Podcast of APSATS

Betrayal Recovery Radio: The Official Podcast of APSATS

By Betrayal Recovery Radio

Betrayal is traumatic, and those who have been betrayed by partners living secret lives of sexual addiction deserve to be empowered and supported with knowledge and resources to allow them to move from shock through grief and into growth. On Betrayal Recovery Radio, our host, Dr. Jake Porter, lays out important topics for both sex addicts and their betrayed partners through conversations leading to hope and healing.

Betrayal Recovery Radio is the official podcast of The Association of Partners of Sex Addict Trauma Specialists (apsats.org). Dr. Jake Porter can be reached at drjakeporter.com.
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Betrayal Recovery Radio: The Official Podcast of APSATSApr 18, 2019

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Navigating the Holiday Season in the Midst of Betrayal with Rebecca Ray

Navigating the Holiday Season in the Midst of Betrayal with Rebecca Ray

In today's episode of Betrayal Recovery Radio, we delve into the complexities of the holiday season, a time filled with joy but often marred by the challenges of betrayal trauma. Joined by Rebecca Ray, we'll navigate the delicate dynamics faced by those affected by betrayal, whether as the betrayed or the betrayer.


Rebecca Ray is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, licensed in Texas, Colorado, Missouri, and Florida and owner/founder of Ray Family Therapy in Houston, Texas. Rebecca is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, Certified Clinical Partner Specialist, and certified in EMDR therapy. Rebecca is married, has three children ages 18, 14, and 9. In her free time, she loves reading, hiking with her dog, and when it isn't too hot she does HIIT workouts in her garage. In January, Ray Family Therapy will offer training to therapists and coaches to develop practical skills working with adoptees and adoptive families; Treating Adoptees and Adoptive Families Across the Lifespan. As an adoptee, Rebecca understands first-hand the trauma experienced in foster care and the adoption process. Additionally, Rebecca wrote an ebook, The Ultimate Guide for Creating a Healthy Relationship, to help couples get off autopilot and into the core awareness of their core needs and desires. 


Links to find Rebecca:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rayfamilytherapy

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rayfamilytherapy

LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/rayfamilytherapy

LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/rebeccaraytherapist

Ray Family Therapy: www.rayfamilytherapy.com

Ray Family Therapy Adoption Training: https://www.rayfamilytherapy.com/adoptiontraining


To download The Ultimate Guide for Creating a Healthy Relationship go to:

https://keap.page/ivx304/creating-healthy-relationships.html

Dec 15, 202345:50
The Prevalence of Domestic Violence in the Lives of Partners of Sex Addicts | With Lisa Taylor

The Prevalence of Domestic Violence in the Lives of Partners of Sex Addicts | With Lisa Taylor

In this interview I share the results of my Masters thesis which show that rates of domestic violence are considerably higher in the lives of partners of sex addicts than in the general population. This is significant because women are arriving daily on therapists’ doorsteps seeking help for betrayal trauma, but with their experiences of DV under recognized and under disclosed. Moreover the study looked into what factors were associated with more frequent violence and damaging types of violence (i.e., physical and sexual) and what factors were associated with violence mitigation. 


Links to find Lisa!

https://beyondbetrayal.community


https://nakedtruthproject.com/get-help/


2024 Daring Way Retreats: https://go.drjakeporter.com/daringway2024?r_done=1

Oct 26, 202350:30
Navigating Betrayal: Answering the Hard Questions with Conversations Podcast

Navigating Betrayal: Answering the Hard Questions with Conversations Podcast

Welcome to another thought-provoking episode of Betrayal Recovery Radio, hosted by Dr. Jake Porter. In this engaging installment titled "Navigating Betrayal: Answering the Hard Questions with Conversations Podcast," we delve deep into the complex landscape of betrayal within relationships.


Joining Dr. Jake in this enlightening discussion are esteemed colleagues: Wendy Conquest, Dan Drake, Jeanne Vattuone, and Tim Stein. These experts are not only colleagues but also close friends who co-host the Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships Podcast. Their chemistry is palpable, and their wisdom profound.


In this episode, we confront the challenging questions frequently posed by those grappling with the revelation of betrayal in their relationships. You'll witness a civil and enlightening exchange of perspectives, showcasing the power of dialogue and empathy in navigating the intricate web of betrayal.



Links in this episode:


Check out Conversations!:

https://open.spotify.com/show/2ZpYca91XJ0DIkTt2CCjSZ


https://podcasts.apple.com/is/podcast/conversations-on-sex-addiction-and-relationships/id1576738924


Dan Drake: https://www.banyantherapy.com


Wendy Conquest: https://wendyconquest.com


Jeanne Vattuone: https://jeannevattuone.com


Time Stein: https://timsteinmft.com


Jake Porter: https://go.drjakeporter.com/?r_done=1

Oct 05, 202356:01
Considering the Impact for Neurodiverse Couples with Autism and Asperger Traits | with Shawna Meek

Considering the Impact for Neurodiverse Couples with Autism and Asperger Traits | with Shawna Meek

Often when doing couples recovery work, the approach is from a neurotypical lens following betrayal trauma and sex addition. This may work for many couples, but what about when these approaches aren’t working for the long term healing of the relationship? Many couples share that it can be frustrating and discouraging especially when both partners in the couple ship desires growth and change. We are going to be talking about another lens and perspective to consider when one or both partners are autistic, have Asperger traits, or wonder if they may be on the spectrum. We will be: • Recognizing this may be a consideration to explore • Understanding the impact on healing and recovery • Moving forward with adjustments and unique tools Navigating The Depths Summit: navigatingthedepths.com

Aug 31, 202351:51
Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training, with Aviva Kohl and Barbara Steffens
Aug 18, 202359:13
Peak Parenting in the Midst of Betrayal & Addiction

Peak Parenting in the Midst of Betrayal & Addiction

Sex addiction and betrayal doesn't have to take your parenting to new lows. In fact, by focusing on your core values you can realign your efforts to breathe new life into your parenting. People wonder what to tell the children and how to become a "family in recovery." It is possible to achieve peak parenting by recognizing your weak spots and using tools to combat the things that are pulling you into defeat. Join us as we discuss how to navigate the road of recovery while reaching new, more meaningful connections with your children. Believe it or not, your family relationships can blossom and flourish during this time. Windell Gill interviews Stacey Sadler for this impacting session.

Aug 10, 202353:06
Recognizing and Responding to Destructive Relationship patterns in your relationship | With Kimberly Day

Recognizing and Responding to Destructive Relationship patterns in your relationship | With Kimberly Day

When your partner has a sexual addiction, acting out comes with the territory. Dealing with it is hard, even learning about it can be traumatic. But what about the behaviors INSIDE the relationship? How do you recognize and respond to inappropriate treatment from a partner? How do you become personally and relationally healthier when at least some of the trauma you find yourself experiencing is due to your partner's behavior inside the relationship? Whether overt or covert, whether emotional, psychological, sexual, or physical- considering the health of the patterns within the relationship can add another layer of complexity when looking at partnerships struggling with sex addiction. And yet, it is so necessary to take a deeper look at what is happening in order to really understand and serve women and men impacted by addiction.

Links to find Kim: www.onesafespace.com (Safe Space Facebook page is: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100082947741547)

kim@lifechangingservices.org or kimssafespace@gmail.com

Aug 05, 202347:21
Unraveling Cognitive Distortions: Navigating Healing Post Betrayal, with Pam Blizzard and Dr. Jake Porter | Part 2

Unraveling Cognitive Distortions: Navigating Healing Post Betrayal, with Pam Blizzard and Dr. Jake Porter | Part 2

In this episode, the Dr. Jake and Pam Blizzard delve into the realm of cognitive distortions often experienced by partners post-betrayal. They explore how trust erosion affects perception, leading to misconceptions such as overgeneralization, emotional reasoning, and catastrophizing. Real-life stories illustrate these distortions, while expert Jake and Pam offer practical advice for overcoming them. The discussion provides insight into how such distortions can sabotage relationship recovery and suggests strategies for fostering communication, understanding, and healing post-betrayal. 

Links in this episode:

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/recoveredpeace/?hl=en

Self-paced course on Cognitive Distortions:

https://recoveredpeace.com/clarity

Group Coaching: Clarity and Peace with Boundaries for betrayed partners: https://recoveredpeace.com/learnboundaries

Website:

https://RecoveredPeace.com

Facebook Group Peer Support for Betrayed Spouses in Recovery:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/recoveringspousesofsa/

Jul 27, 202331:46
Unraveling Cognitive Distortions: Navigating Healing Post Betrayal, with Pam Blizzard and Dr. Jake Porter | Part 1

Unraveling Cognitive Distortions: Navigating Healing Post Betrayal, with Pam Blizzard and Dr. Jake Porter | Part 1

In this episode, the Dr. Jake and Pam Blizzard delve into the realm of cognitive distortions often experienced by partners post-betrayal. They explore how trust erosion affects perception, leading to misconceptions such as overgeneralization, emotional reasoning, and catastrophizing. Real-life stories illustrate these distortions, while expert Jake and Pam offer practical advice for overcoming them. The discussion provides insight into how such distortions can sabotage relationship recovery and suggests strategies for fostering communication, understanding, and healing post-betrayal. 



Links in this episode:


Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/recoveredpeace/?hl=en


Self-paced course on Cognitive Distortions:

https://recoveredpeace.com/clarity


Group Coaching: Clarity and Peace with Boundaries for betrayed partners: https://recoveredpeace.com/learnboundaries


Website:

https://RecoveredPeace.com


Facebook Group Peer Support for Betrayed Spouses in Recovery:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/recoveringspousesofsa/


Jul 21, 202330:41
Adult Children of Sex Addicts: Hidden Effects on Those in the Periphery - Part 2

Adult Children of Sex Addicts: Hidden Effects on Those in the Periphery - Part 2

The field of Sex Addiction has grown and expanded immensely over the last two decades, and as a result the field has a much greater understanding of not only the betraying partner but the betrayed. However, those who were in early childhood, perhaps teens, two decades ago have since grown into adulthood. As a result the sex addiction field is rapidly picking up pace in gaining an understanding of what the effects were on the children of these addicts. In this interview we hope to address hard questions, like, "How could a parent's sex addiction or betrayal effect a child who might not have known what was going on?" We will also debunk some common myths, such as, "My children knew everything, so they have processed it all."


Conrad and Kathy Reynolds interview Carley Pool for this powerful and important session.

Jul 13, 202326:58
Adult Children of Sex Addicts: Hidden Effects on Those in the Periphery - Part 1

Adult Children of Sex Addicts: Hidden Effects on Those in the Periphery - Part 1

The field of Sex Addiction has grown and expanded immensely over the last two decades, and as a result the field has a much greater understanding of not only the betraying partner but the betrayed. However, those who were in early childhood, perhaps teens, two decades ago have since grown into adulthood. As a result the sex addiction field is rapidly picking up pace in gaining an understanding of what the effects were on the children of these addicts. In this interview we hope to address hard questions, like, "How could a parent's sex addiction or betrayal effect a child who might not have known what was going on?" We will also debunk some common myths, such as, "My children knew everything, so they have processed it all."

Conrad and Kathy Reynolds interview Carley Pool for this powerful and important session.

Jul 06, 202328:17
From Crisis to Purpose and Passion with Fran Hopwood | Part 2

From Crisis to Purpose and Passion with Fran Hopwood | Part 2

In the second part of this moving interview, Dr. Jake asks Fran Hopwood to reflect on the healing and recovery journey that she and her late husband Richard followed over the last nine years. The focus will be on Richard and his story of transformation and growth as an individual and as part of a coupleship. Richard's early problematic sexual behaviour re-emerged with the advent of broadband internet. After Fran's D-Day in 2013, Richard started his journey of recovery. Early on he realised this was more than just maintaining sobriety. He was committed not only to addressing the root causes of his addiction and the behavioural effects of his dysfunctional childhood, but also to learning how to help Fran heal, to rebuild their relationship, and to continue his own personal growth journey. Gradually he became able to open up and share his secrets so that they were able to fight their respective trauma demons together. Richard took full responsibility for his actions and fully embraced recovery so that they could build a fuller and deeper relationship, increasing intimacy at all levels, especially emotionally and spiritually. They were deliberate in creating new memories and in making the most of moments of joy. As part of his post-traumatic growth, Richard was deeply committed to supporting other men in recovery gain freedom and growth.

Jun 29, 202325:25
From Crisis to Purpose and Passion with Fran Hopwood | Part 1

From Crisis to Purpose and Passion with Fran Hopwood | Part 1

In this moving interview, Dr. Jake asks Fran Hopwood to reflect on the healing and recovery journey that she and her late husband Richard followed over the last nine years. The focus will be on Richard and his story of transformation and growth as an individual and as part of a coupleship. Richard's early problematic sexual behaviour re-emerged with the advent of broadband internet. After Fran's D-Day in 2013, Richard started his journey of recovery. Early on he realised this was more than just maintaining sobriety. He was committed not only to addressing the root causes of his addiction and the behavioural effects of his dysfunctional childhood, but also to learning how to help Fran heal, to rebuild their relationship, and to continue his own personal growth journey. Gradually he became able to open up and share his secrets so that they were able to fight their respective trauma demons together. Richard took full responsibility for his actions and fully embraced recovery so that they could build a fuller and deeper relationship, increasing intimacy at all levels, especially emotionally and spiritually. They were deliberate in creating new memories and in making the most of moments of joy. As part of his post-traumatic growth, Richard was deeply committed to supporting other men in recovery gain freedom and growth.

Jun 22, 202329:43
Taking on the Hard Questions, with Lyschel Burkett, Bonnie Burns, Pam Blizzard, and Dr. Jake Porter

Taking on the Hard Questions, with Lyschel Burkett, Bonnie Burns, Pam Blizzard, and Dr. Jake Porter

"What if my husband won't see a therapist?"

"When should we start having sex again?"

"Why is he sober but still not connecting?"

In this episode, Dr. Jake interviews the hostesses of the Hope for Wives podcast — Lyschel Burkett, Bonnie Burns, and Pam Blizzard. The three women are able to balance a plain-spoken, no-nonsense telling of the truth with compassion, support, and wisdom. Drawing from both their personal experience and professional expertise, Lyschel, Bonnie, and Pam take on hard questions Dr. Jake has received from betrayed partners of sex addict. You won't want to miss this informative and hope-giving episode!


Links in this episode:

http://apsats.org

http://drjakeporter.com

https://hopeforwives.com/

http://hoperedefined.org

http://strongwives.com

http://recoveredpeace.com

Jun 08, 202347:40
Returning to You™: A Conversation on Betrayal Trauma with Stacey Sadler, Cheryl Rogers, Kathy Reynolds, and Dr. Jake Porter
May 04, 202353:08
Grief and Mourning as a Collective Experience, with Cat Etherington and Dr. Jake Porter
Mar 23, 202352:03
Help. Her. Heal. with Carol "the Coach" Juergensen Sheets and Dr. Jake Porter
Mar 16, 202342:42
Connection: Brain-Based Healing, Empathy, and Authentic Living - with Dr. Windell Gill, PSAP, and Laura Childers, LPC, CCPS
Mar 09, 202357:50
The Unexpected Gift of Betrayal: Friendship, with Lyschel Burket and Dr. Jake Porter
Mar 02, 202350:15
Emotional Abuse and Sex Addiction Recovery, with Tamara Lichfield and Dr. Jake Porter
Feb 23, 202344:19
"That's Gaslighting!" (Or Is It?) with Sarah Morales and Dr. Jake Porter

"That's Gaslighting!" (Or Is It?) with Sarah Morales and Dr. Jake Porter

While GASLIGHTING is now a pop-culture buzz word, AND Merriam-Webster's word of the year, a lot of what is out there is either misinformation, or incomplete information. The result? A LOT of people are incorrectly slapping the label of gaslighting on to situations that are actually NOT a gaslighting experience. The overuse of the word has left most of us with MORE questions than answers.  Let's take a few situations and look at whether or not gaslighting is occurring, and if not — why not!

Dr. Jake is joined in this episode by Sarah Morales, CPC. Sarah is an APSATS certified life and relationship coach and member of the APSATS Board of Directors who has been coaching individuals and groups professionally for 10 years.  During that time, she has contracted with numerous helping professionals, spoken at national conferences, and been invited to speak on podcasts, all from the lens of her gaslighting expertise. In 2022, her gaslighting specialty culminated in her Deconstructing Gaslighting™ offerings: a free video series, signature 12-week course and podcast – all aimed at empowering others to better understand and identify gaslighting in their lives and relationships. Sarah’s passion to empower others to transform their lives fuels her work with her clients and pushes her to continue developing new programs on the cutting edge of helping others grow to know, trust, and love themselves more than they knew was possible.

Links in this episode:
http://apsats.org
http://drjakeporter.com
http://sarahmoralescoaching.com

Feb 16, 202357:18
How to Understand Your Partner's Sexual Fantasies - with Dr. Jake Porter and Drew Boa
Jan 26, 202357:12
Unlocking Family of Origin Issues - Part 2, with Dr. Jake Porter
Dec 08, 202251:04
Unlocking Family of Origin Issues - Part 1, with Dr. Jake Porter
Dec 01, 202238:58
Sexual Intimacy in the Betrayal Healing Process, with Dr. Jake Porter & Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck
Nov 10, 202255:05
Being Sober Is Not Enough, with Dr. Jake Porter and Dr. Eddie Capparucci
Oct 20, 202253:10
Is Betrayal Trauma Real? Part 2 - with Dr. Jake Porter
Oct 06, 202230:44
Is Betrayal Trauma Real? Part 1 - with Dr. Jake Porter
Sep 29, 202226:08
When Addicts Don't Want the Help They Need, with Tiffany Comiskey and Dr. Jake Porter
Sep 08, 202255:49
Divorce Prevention 101, with Kim Hansen Petroni, CPC and Dr. Jake Porter
Sep 01, 202240:32
What About the Kids? Disclosing Sex Addiction to Children, with Carley Pool and Dr. Jake Porter
Aug 25, 202249:21
Core Values for Couples (Part 2), with Dr. Jake Porter
Aug 18, 202249:42
Core Values for Couples, Part One, with Dr. Jake Porter
Aug 11, 202243:58
Empathy Heals Relationships
Aug 04, 202246:03
Adding Attunement to Empathy, with Julie St.Onge, CPC
Jul 21, 202241:31
Surviving Sexual Betrayal, with Dr. Barbara Steffens and Kathy Reynolds
Jul 07, 202250:21
Recognizing and Healing from Childhood Neglect, with Enod Gray and Dr. Jake Porter
Jun 30, 202243:07
Life Integrity, with Michelle Dyett-Welcome and Dr. Jake Porter
Jun 23, 202245:09
What I've Learned So Far: Essential Reflections on Working with Addiction and Betrayal, with Dr. Jake Porter
Jun 09, 202256:53
Disclosing Truth After Betrayal, with Dan Drake, Janice Caudill, and Dr. Jake Porter
Jun 09, 202254:58
Resiliency in the Wake of Trauma, with Sara Schulting-Kranz and Dr. Jake Porter

Resiliency in the Wake of Trauma, with Sara Schulting-Kranz and Dr. Jake Porter

Our difficult life experiences and traumas, including those we have collectively experienced in the last few years, have created an opening for personal growth, healing, and an opportunity to connect within our community in a way that we were never offered in the past. Through her own experience of walking through personal devastation and loss while healing in nature, Sara shares the principles she’s developed and uses to guide men and women on healing retreats in the Grand Canyon and Alaska. Together we create upward positive change while deepening internal relationships, fostering forgiveness, implementing thought-leadership tools that create belonging, and empowering through authentic leadership that fosters change in the world.
May 26, 202254:02
Putting Together the "Plan" After Betrayal w/ Tiffany Comiskey & Dr. Jake Porter

Putting Together the "Plan" After Betrayal w/ Tiffany Comiskey & Dr. Jake Porter

When someone is suffering from Betrayal Trauma, they are typically frightened, angry, confused, sometimes frozen in a state of shock wanting to just feel safe. So safety and stabilization is the immediate mission with a betrayed partner. Throughout the healing process the partner will constantly be pointed back to the issue of safety because that is the root to being able to trust again. Regardless of how long she has been on her journey, she can have a plan, which will be formable as she moves through the recovery process, on day one. This plan can benefit both the healing of the betrayed partner individually, and the healing of the relationship — if the betraying partner is willing to join in.
May 05, 202247:57
How Intimacy Clarifies Grief and Empowers Growth
Apr 21, 202249:12
Understanding Grief After the Discovery of Betrayal, with Dr. Jake Porter
Apr 14, 202259:34
When Self-Help Hurts, with Dr. Jake Porter and Jessica Guillory

When Self-Help Hurts, with Dr. Jake Porter and Jessica Guillory

Recovery is meant to be a journey, not a destination. Healing is not an end unto itself, but a process needed to make another way of living possible, without the weight of trauma and addiction. In this conversation between Dr. Jake and Jessica Guillory, an APSATS-trained LPC, they discuss how people can begin to see signs that efforts for recovery might be getting in the way of post-traumatic growth.
Apr 07, 202249:37
Addiction & Betrayal Q&A, with Dr. Jake Porter and Andrea Rogers, CPC

Addiction & Betrayal Q&A, with Dr. Jake Porter and Andrea Rogers, CPC

The twin processes of recovery from sex addiction and healing from betrayal trauma can be complicated. The complexity of the wounds, both individually and relationally, can leave people feeling disoriented and lost. In the Q&A session, Dr. Jake Porter and APSATS Certified Partner Coach Andrea Rogers take on those questions from actually folks in the trenches of the recovery process. Links mentioned during the show: http://APSATS.org https://www.fullyalivecoachingllc.com http://drjakeporter.com http://chooseconnectionsummit.com
Mar 31, 202201:00:23
Couples Heal with Empathy, with Carol the Coach and Dr. Jake Porter
Mar 24, 202257:01
Tell the Truth: Using Polygraphs Effectively w/ Stephen Cabler & Dr. Jake Porter

Tell the Truth: Using Polygraphs Effectively w/ Stephen Cabler & Dr. Jake Porter

The use of polygraphs in sexual addiction recovery has been a long-debated subject, but one with increasing use by many clinicians and coaches. Many disclosure processes now take advantage of polygraph technology as a tool to increase effectiveness. In this conversation with polygraph examiner Stephen Cabler, Dr. Jake draws out some basics about how to use polygraphs effectively in the recovery process.
Mar 17, 202257:02
Effective Advocacy After Spiritual Trauma w/ Stacey Sadler and Dr. Jake Porter
Mar 10, 202250:16
HONORING CAROL THE COACH: A CELEBRATION OF SERVICE w/ Dr. Jake Porter

HONORING CAROL THE COACH: A CELEBRATION OF SERVICE w/ Dr. Jake Porter

With 175 episodes and more than 200,000 listens, Carol Juergensen Sheets started APSATS' Betrayal Recovery Radio podcast and built it into an established and trusted source of information, comfort, hope, and help to individuals and couples suffering from the effects of sex addiction and betrayal trauma. After three years of service, Carol the Coach is stepping down as the show's host, passing the reins to Dr. Jake Porter. In this episode, Dr. Jake will host a time of celebration honoring Carol the Coach for her dedication to the field of betrayal trauma recovery. Join us for this special time of fun, laughter, and remembrance.
Feb 03, 202256:54