Live Life Extraordinary

After over 40 years of working with national and international corporations and businesses, world-class sky-divers, cyclists, triathletes, golfers, and thousands of individuals who want to succeed in life, Bill has distilled his knowledge and experience into a series of books that have just one goal; to help people become better versions of themselves.  

Bill's latest book, 'How to Be Bulletproof From Criticism' has attracted rave reviews from health professionals, business owners and world-class entrepreneurs.

I used to wake up daily with anxiety, there never seemed to be a reason for me having this anxiety but everyday I woke up feeling it. I see so many people online posting about their struggles with anxiety so I wanted to share what I did to overcome it and how I manage it anytime it comes up.

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1. Journal

This is especially helpful if you are feeling anxious about something but you aren't sure what is causing the anxiety. Writing is linked to the subconscious mind and journaling is a great way to bring light to the issues that are stuck there. As you bring awareness to them it's easy to start reworking them and reframing them to manage your minds fears.

2. EFT

Dave is a Master Life Coach, NLP Master Practitioner and an Etiquette Expert. 

He has worked as a corporate trainer. Having learnt a lot from his life and wanting to share his experiences,  he took coaching as his passion to help people to lead a happier life. His service is provided all over the world.

For more, listen to Dave's my  'The Elegant Diplomacy' which talks about every day life diplomacy and how it can make your life easy, with a point of view of life coaching.

Connect with Dave online:

After years of studying manifestation from every "guru", book, teacher, documentary, etc. This is what I've learned WORKS and what doesn't. This is my signature 10 step process that isn't about LOA and visualization but is about taking a MIND-BODY-SPIRIT approach to successfully manifesting the life of your dreams.

1. Believe that you have the ability to manifest your desires

2. Identify what YOU truly want for your life (tune out the noise of the external world)

3. Breakthrough subconscious limiting beliefs that stop you from manifesting

4. Embody the version of yourself that already has that which you desire

5. Seek higher guidance and support through your spiritual practice

6. Take aligned action towards your goals, dreams and desires

7. Surrender your need for your desires. Allow things to flow. Trust in the process

8. Celebrate everything in your life that is already thriving. Master the art of gratitude

9. Protect your energy and your desires from outside influences

10. Commit to daily alignment, embodiment and action

Podcast Episodes to Check Out:

Tanya Hackney graduated with a B.A. from Middlebury College in 1997, where she majored in English and double-minored in French and Education. 

She married her high school sweetheart and taught kindergarten in Atlanta, Georgia before transitioning to homeschooling her own five children aboard sailing vessel Take Two. 

She’s lived aboard, traveled, and written for the Take Two Sailing blog for more than a decade. She has always had a bad case of wanderlust, having taken countless road trips as a child, spent a semester abroad during college, and honeymooned in Central America. 

She recently published an award-winning memoir, Leaving the Safe Harbor: the Risks and Rewards of Raising a Family on a Boat. In her free time, she plays the ukulele, paints landscapes, and kayaks.

This isn't a step by step list of drink water, work out, eat plant based, make a million dollars. This is YOUR intuitive guide to discovering what is best for YOU 

In this episode I share my personal journey with stress and burnout as well as the unlikely factor that caused it (not just overworking, something deeper than that) plus learn what I did to heal and transform this!

Over the last several years of studying self development, self care, personal growth and spirituality I have become very familiar with the "Law of Attraction" and many similar concepts.

Recently I discovered what it is about Law of Attraction that is TRUE and what parts of Law of Attraction have been blown out of proportion. In this episode we demystify law of attraction, the concept of "act as if", money manifestation principles, "what you focus on will grow" and more.

If you have questions, something you'd like to add to this conversation or anything else you'd like to share you can email me at hello@biancamjohnson.com

When you're applying for a job, if you list "perfectionism" as one of your skills on your resume, you might be considered the "ideal candidate", we pride ourselves on being perfect. But perfectionism is an unattainable ideal that stops us from being the best version of ourselves and from creating the life of our dreams.

When we choose perfectionism, we are saying "no" to our realness, rawness, authenticity, uniqueness, humanness and vulnerability. What even is "perfect"? If your ideal of perfection and mine are totally different, there is no true "perfection". Our BEST self is the real and authentic version of who we TRULY are, at the core of our being. Showing up in the world as "perfect" is a distraction from who we truly are. It causes us to be "fake", it causes our relationships to lack depth and meaning. It sacrifices real experiences. 

If you wait until you are perfect or until your life is perfect to start dating, to go to the gym, to start your dream business, to write a book, etc. You will wait your whole life. You won't ever be perfect, your life won't ever be perfect, but it can be REAL.

With Valentine's day right around the corner, the love is in the air! But what about self love?

You are worthy of your own love, validation, acceptance and appreciation.

We've all heard the phrase "You can only love another as much as you love yourself" BUT I'd like to take this idea a bit further... You can't love any aspect of your life (not your relationships, your career, your hobbies, etc) until you love yourself. The reason being, wherever you go, there you are. You are the common denominator for EVERY area in your life. It starts with you, baby!

Here are 3 ways to welcome more self love into your life:

1. Create a routine. A daily self care practice where you can truly nourish your body, mind, heart and soul!

2. Do what feels good. Duh. This seems obvious but we have a tendency to agree to too many things, things that we dont WANT to do in the first place. This is an act of self betrayal. Everything you say "yes" to is a "no" to something else. What are you saying no to? No to your own time? Energy? Sanity? No. No. No..

Rachel Isabela is the top banana at Heal Sing Love where she helps fatherless daughters heal their wounds of unworthiness and create happier lives. Using her own experience as a fatherless daughter and her personal evolution towards healing, she helps women with acceptance, grief, forgiveness, victim mindset and accountability. 

Rachel has been featured on the podcasts Fair Divorce and Awakening Aphrodite.

She’s lived in Argentina since 2006 and shares her home with her 13 year old son and a sassy cat named Miss Loli. She loves annoying them by singing Lady Gaga loudly around the house.

A former teacher and curriculum developer with her own tutoring company, Nellie is now a graduate student studying organizational psychology.  

Personally, Nellie has a busy household with three active boys, an English bulldog, and husband! 

Born in Kiev, Ukraine, Nellie came with her parents to the US when she was just two years old. 

Today Nellie shares with us the power of vulnerability and how it is one of the keys to living an extraordinary life!

Life's hard man. It is FULL of disappointment. We have big goals and dreams for how we think life should go and when it doesn't we feel defeated. We feel like it isn't possible. Like we aren't capable of making it happen. Like the whole thing is pointless. I FREAKING GET IT.

This episode has some raw, real and vulnerable stories about what I've gone through in the last several years but it also has some very practical steps for you to take on your journey moving forward with faith instead of fear. 

The steps to dealing with life's disappointments:

Melanie is an International Communication and Leadership Speaker, Best-selling Author. 

Melanie is on a mission to bring out the heart and authenticity of the speaker and communicator that supports growth and transformation. 

Melanie believes everyone has a voice and story to share, with a nurturing and supportive environment to be heard and understood. Melanie provides a personal heart-focused approach to empower, inspire and transform her clients' lives, work and businesses. This creates an impact and ripple effect in the world.  

Melanie has been featured in the World media including FOX, NBC, CBS, The Boston Herald, and NY Headline as the leading speaking coach Empowering women to have a voice in this world.

I started a guest interview series at the beginning of 2022. This episode was in cocreation with the universe. These weren't my ideas, I never planned to create an episode like this, it was pure unfiltered magic that I channeled while walking the beach totally tapped in to a force far larger than me. 

Lesson 1: Life rarely goes as planned but always goes as it's meant to

Lesson 2: Every shell on the beach is unique but exciting and valuable just like every person and situation in your life

Lesson 3: With space and trust you always find what you're looking for

Lesson 4: Always be open to what is of your highest good

Lesson 5: Your power is in your presence 

Lesson 6: Always trust that you will end up in the right place at the right time

Lesson 7: If you take a look around you, there is magic

Tonia Winchester has been in practice as a Naturopathic Doctor since 2007. 

Now, as a brain-based transformation coach, she uses contemporary neurological reprogramming techniques to help women break through burnout, stress, anxiety, and fatigue and find joy and energy again so that they can create exceptional lives for themselves, their families and communities. She guides her clients through a "Breakthrough" process where they easily and gently clear the past, and recode their unconscious minds so that they are primed to make and sustain positive changes in how they take care of themselves. The results are a strengthened connection to self - more self-love, worth, and value, ultimately allowing them to build happy, meaningful relationships and compelling futures.

Tonia has been featured on CTV, the Costco Connection, The Elephant Journal, Conscious Nutrition, The Autoimmune Simplified Podcast, the Better Sex Podcast, Creative Conversations, and the New Generation Entrepreneur Podcast. She is an executive contributor at Brainz Magazine writing monthly articles. When she's not transforming her lives she is getting lost (and found) in the forest, salsa dancing, and turning paper into pretty things.

This week on the podcast we are talking all about TRIGGERS! Woo!

Basically triggers are anything that cause an emotional upset within you, whether that's annoyed, angry, frustrated or something else.

You can be triggered by people, comments, situations, literally anything.

Triggers are a sign that something is unhealed within you, they are your opportunity to look within yourself and do some healing work.

As a society we tend to "deal" with triggers by over eating, drinking, scrolling social media, working out, spending time with people, too much nextflix, etc. etc. etc.

The problem is, while avoiding your triggers can "feel good" temporarily, they stay hidden in your subconscious mind. They manifest in sneaky ways that you aren't even aware of (cue 3 life situations that were all stemming from the same internal trigger).

Find a way to talk to your triggers so you can better understand them. Talk to them the same way you would talk to a little kid or your best friend. Tell them that the situation sucks and you're sorry and ask how you can be supportive. 

For help diving into your triggers email me with subject line "Triggers" and I'll give you a FREE 15 min coaching call to help you step into your best self this year miss.bianca.m.johnson@gmail.com

Benjamin is a Business & Transformation Coach.

 His career evolved from being a real estate consultant & investment officer for a family office where he invested over $1 billion dollars, to a serial entrepreneur, a father, advisor/coach and a student of life.  

Since embarking on his spiritual journey in the past decade, Ben shares unique perspectives through a blended approach described as holistic practicality: bridging the gap between one’s mind body, heart body and soul body.   

Ben is passionate about helping others unlock their inner and outer breakthroughs through his 1-on-1 coaching and Boom Vision Podcast, a show designed for driven professionals and entrepreneurs seeking clarity, purpose and happiness.

 His core values are to inspire, love and impact and his mission is to serve others to reach their highest potential and live a fulfilling life full of joy and purpose.

Becoming your best self and creating your best life is NOT about more money, a nicer car, a better relationship, etc.

It’s entirely about releasing the false identities of self that you’ve adopted over the years.

It’s about realizing what feels authentic to you, what really sets your soul on fire and leaning into that.

Quote from my evening tea “The purpose of life is to know yourself and love yourself and trust yourself and be yourself”

Years ago Elizabeth was struggling through eating disorder recovery, battling demons with alcohol addiction, and trying to find herself. It took her 18 years to tackle her addiction and find a solution that truly impacted her life. 

Her spiritual awakening has come in stages. As she learns to trust & relationship to God & the highest good she has continued to Rise Up, have an evolving awakening, and sharpening her intuition.

Setting small goals have led to quantum leaps in every area of Elizabeth's life! The more internal work she does, the more she glows! Today she walks in love & light, & is so grateful!

Elizabeth is a transformation & wholeness coach. She has been called to guide women through their own individual quantum leaps through small shifts every day that lead to abundance, confidence, happiness & love!

After years of living with limiting beliefs, being tired, stressed, burnt out and depressed, I finally started to discover WHO I truly am and WHAT I'm meant to do in this crazy thing called life.

Finding my life purpose came with tapping into my spiritual side, surrendering and allowing myself to be guided.

I hope this story inspires you to be your best self and create your best life in 2022!

We've all heard of divine timing. 

"It will all happen in divine timing"

"This happened in just the right timing"

But what is divine timing? Is it a random Tuesday at 4:04 pm? Or is is unrelated to "time" all together?

Divine timing, in my experience isn't about the right time but about the right ORDER of events. 

You see if we manifest things into our lives BEFORE we are able to hold space for them and sustain them, there's a strong possibility that we might lose them. 

Things happen when we are ready for them, so if you are feeling frustrated with your goals and dreams not coming to fruition, think about the version of yourself that you need to BE in order to hold space for that dream to be in reality.

Listen to the full episode for a story from my personal life about Divine Timing!

Hello Gorgeous soul!

In today’s episode of the podcast I’m sharing my FAVORITE self care tools to help you survive the holidays!

Let's talk about how to show up in your life as the highest and best version of yourself AKA your soul self.

We’re going to demystify this idea that finding yourself and becoming yourself is something that you do outside of yourself, it’s really a journey that you take in, of and with yourself.

There are three levels of our being, I'm not talking about Body Mind Spirit, that's a conversation for a different time, I’m talking about the Ego, the Shadow and the Spirit.

Together, we're going to break each of these down to have a better understanding of them and then we'll be talking about how you can start to align with your spirit more and how you can show up in your life as your spirit.

The Shadow is all of the wounded aspects of yourself,  every negative comment someone's made about you that makes you feel small, every limiting belief, every moment of feeling like you're not good enough. These thoughts/feelings can be something you're consciously aware of or it could be something you're unconsciously aware of. This can show up as self sabotage, people pleasing, perfectionism, etc.

Next we have our Ego. Our ego’s job is to protect the shadow, to protect us from experiencing more hurt, more discomfort, more pain. The Ego will do a lot of things to make sure this happens. One is to show up as perfect so no one knows about the painful aspects of ourselves. Another is casting judgment, because if we're judging, we get to project the hurt and pain before it hits us. The Ego is responsible for all of the fear we experience. Fear can be both a good thing and a bad thing, our ego doesn't know the difference between the fear of doing uncomfortable (but good) things for ourselves and the fear of a life or death situation (aka survival). Our Ego is always self-sabotaging us, whether we recognize it or not.

The final layer of our being is our spirit. Our soul is pure unconditional Consciousness, pure unconditional love, pure unconditional Joy. We are Spiritual Beings living a Human Experience, which means we all have a spirit but sometimes it’s so deep within us that it feels like we can't access it. This happens because of our life experiences, pain, hurt, trauma, liming beliefs, etc. To protect us our Ego puts up these walls of judgment, of attack, of fear, of manipulation. It thinks that it’s protecting us but really it’s just separating us from our authentic self.

We show up in our lives in one of two ways, one is out of love and one is out of fear. When we show up in the world in alignment with fear, we are showing up in alignment with our ego, when we show up in alignment with love, we are showing up in alignment with our soul self. You can make two exact same decisions with different energy behind them.

To be your soul self, acknowledge how you are showing up in your life, is it with love or is it with fear?

Practice quieting the ego (lovingly), healing your shadow & create space for your soul to show up in the world.

We've all heard about adding gratitude to our daily self care rituals but do you really know WHY you need to practice it?

In this episode we go over 3 of the main reasons that gratitude is an essential practice.

Today's episode of the Live Life Extraordinary Podcast is about finding YOUR spiritual path.

There are hundreds and probably even thousands of spiritual teachers and teachings in the world. No teacher out there has the TRUE spiritual knowing. As a spiritual teacher I can say, we have our own truths about spirituality based on our own lived experiences and out own understandings. This means, what is TRUE for me in my spiritual journey may resonate with you and it may not. 

If you are someone who grew up under a specific religion that doesn't resonate with you, or you are on a spiritual path and can't find the "right" text, teachings or teacher, then this is for you.

No one can tell you how to have a spiritual connection or a spiritual practice. Some people promote prayer, meditation, readings, groups, etc as THE way to have a spiritual connection and spiritual practice BUT it's up to you to take a test drive to find what works for you.

Where do you feel most connected to your soul, spirit or higher self?

What helps you feel connected to a higher power? (god, angels, ancestors, the universe, whatever you feel connected to)

The answer to those questions is within YOU, it's not in someone else's book, text or teachings. 

Maybe your connection is in a yoga class or on your meditation pillow or out in nature or dancing to music that sets your soul free. 

There is no right or wrong way to practice spirituality. As long as your practice and your connection feels authentic to YOU, it is right. 

On your journey you may find teachers that you resonate with and teachings that speak to your soul, but my suggestion is to not take everything they say as the ultimate TRUTH, only you can know what is true for you on your journey. 

My hope is that this inspired you to find a spiritual connection of your own understanding without feeling like it has to be a certain way or like you are doing it wrong. Because that's the farthest from the TRUTH.

What causes us to feel like we're not good enough?

Like we don't deserve something?

Or like, we aren't worthy of something?

These are all self limiting beliefs. And these can be things that you are consciously aware of, or it can be things that you are not consciously aware of that are subconsciously causing you to self sabotage in your life.

Signs of Self Limiting Beliefs:

-You feel small

-You feel ignored

-You feel like you aren’t important or valued

-You feel like people don’t want you around

-You feel like people don’t care about you

-You feel like people are bothered by you

-You have anxiety in social settings

-You worry about pleasing others

-You struggle with perfectionism

These are results of the self limiting belief “I’m not good enough”.

Most self limiting beliefs connect to the core belief of not feeling good enough. Feelings like I’m not deserving, I’m not worthy, I’m not capable, etc are all different variations of the core belief of not being good enough.

There's a lot of different ways self limiting beliefs show up in our lives. They can show up in our relationships, our jobs, our friendships, the care we give to ourselves, etc.

We are all spiritual beings living this human experience and the fact that you exist in and of itself means that you are completely good enough, worthy enough, deserving, etc. There's nothing you need to do. There's nothing you need to say. There's nothing you need to prove in order for that to be true.

If this is true, then why is it that so many of us have to make ourselves fall small? Why is it that so many of us feel like we have to restrict who we truly are in order to be loved and accepted? Why is it that so many of us are constantly sacrificing in order to feel good enough or to feel like we fit in? This is because of our self limiting beliefs. These self limiting beliefs start as early on as age zero and are formed through our entire lives.

Basically, what happens is situations take place within our lives and our brain assigns it some sort of meaning, then once we've assigned it a meaning, we start to show up in our lives based on the meaning we've given it. And then our situations continue to confirm that meaning, which solidifies a belief.

If you're looking for guidance on how to dive deep into your stories and work on the inner child beliefs, there's a couple of opportunities to do this with me:

In today's episode of the podcast, we're going to be talking about how to transform self hate into self love. We’re going to start by talking about what self hate might look like in your life. There's a lot of ways that we practice self hate without actually realizing it.

Ways self hate might be showing up in your life:

- working yourself past the point of burnout

- how you’re treating your physical bod

- anxiety

- not pursuing things that you actually desire

- the way that you speak about yourself

- the people and places you spend your time

-people pleasing

-perfectionism

These are often rooted in the subconscious beliefs that you are not good enough, worthy enough, capable enough, etc. So rather than confidently showing up in the world as your most authentic self, you keep yourself restricted and keep yourself small, which is the opposite of self love and self acceptance.

If you go out in the world, with the intention to be liked, and people don't like you, then you’ve failed at your intention. But if instead you learn to set the intention of rather than going out in the world to be liked, go out into the world with the desire to be authentic, to be true, to be your true self, then when you go out into the world, and you show up as this version of yourself, if people like you, you were successful at what you did, if people do not like you, you were still successful at what you did, because your intention was not dependent on other people's perceptions of you and other people's views of you. That is an act of radical self love.

Naturally as you start to do this, there are going to be people and things in your life that fall off. And that's okay. Because those things were only in alignment with the version of yourself that was small, the version of yourself that you compacted and constricted and restricted, in order to be loved, validated, approved of and respected. The beautiful thing is, in our life as things fall off, it creates space for new things to be born. And these things are in alignment with that true version of yourself.

And so there's no one path to this, it looks very different for everybody. For me, there was a lot of self care that went into this every single night putting oils in my diffuser, washing my face, putting my phone in a totally different room, reading my book, spending time with my partner. Waking up in the morning, not going on my phone. Getting movement practices, meditating, spending time with spiritual texts, journaling, all sorts of things like that just to have those moments of intimate connection with myself and showing myself care and showing myself love. As this became a practice, it became a practice in other areas of my life too.

Self love is something you embody, not something that you do.

Today's episode of the Live Life Extraordinary Podcast is all about having a positive mindset. The mind tends to be one of the strongest things that steers us in the wrong direction. If our mindset is unhealthy and negative, it causes us to have a disconnect from ourselves spiritually and a disconnect from our bodies.

There's a lot of stuff happening in the mind like: overthinking things, creating lists of things to do, coming up with reasons why we're not capable of doing things and why we're not good enough. The mind is where we store a lot of our trauma, trauma also gets stored in the body, but a lot of it is intellectualized in the mind.

We have a conscious mind that we're very aware of and we have the subconscious mind where some of our lesser known and recognized thought processes are taking place.

If you have a negative mindset, it is going to affect the way you show up in your life in your relationships, your career, your life purpose, etc. The mindset that you have about yourself and about the world around you, controls basically everything. You can be subconsciously, self sabotage and engage in behaviors that are not of your highest good.

Every single day, we have somewhere between 12,000 and 60,000 thoughts and about 90% of the thoughts you have today will be the exact same thoughts as you had yesterday. Now, if you are not actively working on your mindset, that means that these thoughts are going to be repeating over a course of time. These thoughts that are controlling your reality could be 10 or 20 years old. When we are children, and our mind is in the developmental phases, that shapes the way we think.

The mind can be tricky and can convince us that we need to be something else, do something else, go somewhere else, etc. In order to be good enough or worthy enough. Working on having a more positive mindset, a more aligned mindset is  beneficial in becoming the highest and best version of yourself and creating the highest and best version of your life. You can't have a negative mindset and be the highest version of yourself and be your soul's full essence. You can't be the best version of yourself with a negative mindset.

Reworking your mindset starts with being present and building awareness. If you are unconsciously going throughout your day, getting frustrated/irritated or avoiding your feelings by scrolling online or watching TV the first step is to become aware of what your thoughts are. What are you thinking about your job? What do you think about your relationship? How do you think about yourself? When you look in the mirror? What do you think about the people that you see, when you scroll online? Just start to get curious about the types of thoughts that you're having. And then after you have this awareness, the next part is to recognize that you are not your thoughts. This is incredibly important. Because we get so caught up in believing everything that we think is true. The first thought that you have in any given situation is often the programmed response, underneath that, is your soul's truth.

Once you have the awareness and you separate from the thoughts, it's then about choosing again, choosing the positive thoughts that are in alignment with your greatest truth.

Manifestation is incredible and so are you. You have the ability to be, do and have EVERYTHING that your heart desires but is manifestation the solution? Or is focusing on manifestation creating more of a problem?

Over the last several years of my personal journey with self healing, personal growth, spiritual awakening, etc. I have manifested MANY incredible things, things that added value to my life, things that allowed me greater freedom, joy and fulfillment BUT not nearly as much as healing, self love and self care has provided me. 

I manifested my dream house but laid depressed in my bedroom for 2 years. I manifested an incredible business but was only anxious, frustrated, stressed and burnt out. 

We only ever want to manifest something because of how we think it will make us feel, we want more money because we expect a sense of freedom. We want a relationship because we think it will make us feel loved and supported. We want, we want, we want but then when these things arrive and we're still depressed, anxious, frustrated, etc we immediately start trying for the "next thing".

Focusing on our ability to manifest can leave us constantly wishing for the future without ever enjoying the greatness of the now. If we spend our whole lives doing this, we wish our entire life away. 

The truth is I experienced the most amount of healing in my life when I learned how to self heal and allowed myself to FINALLY be my true self without needing to prove my innate enoughness. I experienced more joy when I stopped trying to get the "next thing" and instead learned how to be present and experience the joy of right now. I experienced more love when I learned how to unconditionally love myself then when I had a room full of friends that loved me. 

The key to your greatest life is you. 

There has been so much suffering in the last 2 years and manifesting a new car isn't going to fix it. A new career isn't going to fix it. A better relationship won't fix it. But learning to self heal, learning to love yourself, learning to be more gentle, to be kinder, to judge less, to self regulate, might just fix some of that. 

And that's what the world really needs, we don't need more of the external things. We need more of the internal relationship, the internal connection. 

And that's what I intend to give to you ♥

In today's episode of the Live Life Extraordinary Podcast, we talk about self care and why it's a lifestyle, and not just a routine of things you do in the morning.

Self Care is anything that you're doing, to take care of yourself mentally, physically, emotionally, energetically or spiritually. This can be things like yoga, breathwork, meditation or journaling, but it can also be things like, what you're eating, if you're exercising, the types of relationships you're participating in, how much media you're consuming, what type of media you're consuming, etc.

Living a self care “lifestyle” is about, every single moment of your life, assessing what is going to be for your best and highest good, and then making the decisions that are in alignment with that.

It can feel really good to lay down after work and watch Netflix while binge eating your favorite snacks, but is that of your best and highest good? Probably not.  Self care is not just about  waking up in the morning and meditating for 10 minutes, it’s a conscious choice in every moment of your life.

Living a self care lifestyle takes both boundaries and priorities. It's about prioritizing yourself in your life, which sounds very selfish but in reality, when you prioritize yourself, and prioritize the care of yourself, you are able to show up as the best version of yourself, for your family, in your household, at your job, etc.

Think about how you interact with the people and things in your life when you are in a really good mood, when you're really taking care of, when you're well rested, when you're feeling good. Then think about how you interact with those same people and things on days when you're exhausted, burnt out, stressed, frustrated, angry, etc. The interactions you have are probably much different. That's why self care is so important. Because as you become the highest and best version of yourself, you can show up in your life as that version of yourself. When you prioritize yourself, you are prioritizing your career, your health, your family, your wealth. You prioritize EVERYTHING in your life when you choose to prioritize yourself first.

*Trigger warning* This episode talks about trauma, what it is, signs of trauma, complexity of trauma, self healing, etc. If you have experienced trauma that has significantly impacted you please proceed at your own discretion.

In today's episode of the Live Life Extraordinary podcast, we're going to be talking about trauma and about self healing. Everybody on Earth has experienced some sort of trauma at some point within our lives. We often believe that trauma is a major event like what war veterans experience or someone in an abusive relationship experiences or someone in a really bad car accident experiences. But trauma very simply put, is anything that dysregulates the central nervous system. So you could be walking out of the bathroom at your house and someone that you live with as a joke could jump out to scare you and if it is a form of dysregulation, it was a form of trauma. It seems really, really silly but it's important for us to recognize this because there are a lot of traumatic experiences that happen in our lives and unless we are learning what trauma really is, and how it presents itself, and how we can heal it and move through it and process it, then we're going to continue to live with all of these experiences ingrained in our body, our minds, our hearts and our souls. And it's going to hold us back from being the version of the self that we want to be and living the version of our lives that we desire to live. 

In terms of trauma, the complexity of trauma has nothing to do with how severe the trauma is but at what age you experienced the trauma, which I think is very fascinating. Simple trauma is any type of trauma we experience in our adult years, complex trauma is anything we experience in our childhood years. This is because between the ages of zero and seven, everything that we are experiencing as we are in those developmental phases, gets ingrained within our bodies and our minds as the foundation. So if we are starting life in very traumatic situations, we are forming a foundation based on these situations, and then it's a little bit more challenging to heal from them. 

Regardless of whether you have trauma that's simple or complex, there is space for healing. If you’re an adult and you're not sure whether you have any trauma that you're holding on to and that's inhibiting your life, some of the signs that you can recognize of trauma are being chronically upset, whether that's chronically anxious, or depressed, or frustrated or angry or sad, or anything like that. And it might seem like there's no root to it, like “I just always felt irritated and I don't know why” or “I'm just always so frustrated and I don't know why”.

Another thing is chronic pain. If you are somebody who has chronic pain and you've gone to a doctor and a chiropractor and a massage therapist, yet for some reason, there seems to be no root cause, it could be mental and emotional trauma that has been stored within your physical body that is now being stuck there. Unfortunately, as humans, we are taught to be strong and to be rigid, and to hold ourselves together and to pull ourselves together, so we don't allow ourselves the time or the space to sit and  process what we've gone through and release it.

Resources I’ve used to heal trauma: licensed therapists, yoga, breathwork, EFT, Meditation.

Regardless of where you're at in your journey. My hope is that this was informative, and gave you some new perspectives so that you can move forward in an empowered way. Thank you so much for tuning in to today's episode, and I cannot wait to connect with you again in another episode of the Live Life Extraordinary podcast.

Today's Episode is all about Positive Affirmations. Learn why you should use them, how to create ones that are effective, and ways that you can use your positive affirmations once you craft the ones that are ideal for you.

Positive affirmations or mantras, are words or phrases that you can recite to yourself either silently, out loud or in written form, in order to reframe your mindset. For example, if you're struggling with anxiety, you can use affirmations like “I am at peace” or “peace begins with me”. What we focus on will grow. If you have constant thoughts about your fear, your anxiety and judgments of yourself, your neuro pathways, fire information from one neuron to the other, will strengthen and cause you to have more of these fears, anxieties and judgements.

Let's say you have a neural pathway in your brain that's all about fear and anxiety, every time you think about fear and anxiety, it comes a little bit faster, and a little bit easier to your mind. If instead, you’re thinking about the sensations of peace and calm, the pathway to anxiety will start to weaken and the pathway to peace and calm is going to start to strengthen.

One of the ways that we can start to rework these neural pathways is through positive affirmations.

Tips for creating custom affirmations:

1.  State your affirmations as if they are already true. Avoid using phrases like I will, I should, I wish, I desire, I hope I pray, etc. Instead use phrases like I am or I have. Affirmations like I will be peaceful or I desire peace or I pray for peace tell your brain that you aren’t already peaceful and  reinforces the stress or anxiety that you're going through. Use affirmations, like I am at peace, or I am grateful for the peace I experience in my life. If you’re in a really crappy situation, it might be hard for you to believe your affirmations. If your brain doesn’t believe your affirmations it will ignore them and continue focusing on the reality that it knows to be true.

2. Use positive statements to focus on what you desire.  Don’t use affirmations like I am debt free, I am losing weight or I am not broke because you're focusing in on the debt, on the anxiety weight or whatever it is you’re trying to let go of. Focus your affirmations insetad on the abundance that comes from not being in debt, or the freedom that comes from not being in debt and focusing specifically on what it is you desire. This is important because if I tell you not to think of a purple elephant. Basically your brain has to focus on the debt, anxiety, weight, judgement, etc to "unthink" it.

Three ways to use your affirmations:

• Recite them in meditation
• Write them in your journal
• Say them to yourself in the Mirror

There are tons and tons of other ways to use affirmations.

On my Colorado Road Trip I was the most aligned and in flow that I have ever been. I was truly living as my highest self and this was reflected in my environment. 

I was manifesting things from my vision board quicker than I could imagine and I was receiving signs from the universe and intuitive downloads left and right. 

Books mentioned in this podcast episode:

Today's episode of the Live Life Extraordinary Podcast includes special guest Danie!

Danie is a internationally known and accredited, board certified Life and Success Coach, Hypnotist, Neuro-linguistic Programming Practitioner, Emotional Freedom Techniques Practitioner and TIME Techniques Practitioner. Equipped with techniques that rewire the patterns of the brain, Danie is able to facilitate massive shifts in the life's of her clients which results in peace and growth in the mind body and spirit.

In the episode we talk about things like living authentically, manifesting your dreams and having faith in your manifestation process.

Danie is such a bright light in our world and isn't afraid to speak Truth with a capital "T". Her perspective on self development and spirituality is such a refreshing one.

If you want to connect with Danie further check out the links below!

If you learned about manifestation from the secret you might think that you can simply attract your desires through law of attraction but this is far from the truth. Law of attraction is ONE of the universal laws at play that help you manifest your desires.

Other universal laws include the law of karma, the law of divine balance and the law of inspired action.

But even with all of the universal laws, these are JUST the spiritual aspects of manifestation. You still have to have the proper mindset and the embodiment of your knowledge, this is why manifestation is a mind, body, spirit practice.

You can try to manifest through just hard work or just spiritual practices but there will always be something that is lacking or out of balance. 

Over that last several weeks members of our community have submitted questions about spirituality, intuition, manifestation, life purpose and more!

This week in the Live Life Extraordinary Podcast you get your questions answered!

• How to deal with negative thoughts and ways to cope with social anxiety?
• What does it mean when you ask for a sign and don't receive it?
• Can it feel wrong after you make a decision based on intuition?
• How to manifest your life purpose?
• What is something cool you've manifested?

Referenced in this episode are the following:

Have you ever heard of signs and synchronicities?

Things like angel numbers, pennies from heaven, spirit animals and more showing up in your reality.

Purple Elephants, Pineapples and Roses are all signs that I asked the universe/god/spirit to show me if I was on the right path or was being supported and they are ALL signs that I received BUT I never saw them in physical form... one was a billboard, one was a businesses logo and one was in an Instagram post. If I wasn't open to a world of possibilities I might have missed them!

Some signs show you that you're on the right track, while other signs are just showing you that you are supported even in difficult times. So how can you tell what the signs are telling you? Can you ask for signs about specific people or situations? What if you aren't receiving signs, does that mean you're on the wrong path?

I answer all of these questions and more in this weeks episode of the Live Life Extraordinary Podcast!

There are so many people out in the world living truly extraordinary lives. Some are traveling to different countries experiencing all that this world has to offer. Some are millionaires hanging out on their yachts. Some are NYT best selling authors, living in their divine life purpose. So how can you begin living a truly extraordinary life?

Well, the only way is to tune into your heart and your soul and decide what YOU truly want. Maybe you want to sell all your belongings and start living in an RV. Maybe you want to start a blog with your amazing cooking recipes. Maybe you want to retire early and go sit on a beach enjoying the sun shine. There is no RIGHT way to live "extraordinary" and no way of living is more extraordinary than the other. 

The truly extraordinary thing is know what you truly want and allowing yourself to have that, period. 

Now depending on how you were brought up and what influences you have had, you might have subconscious beliefs about yourself and the world around you. That's totally OKAY. This is the case for many of us. I recommend doing belief work and inner child healing to help you release your unconscious patterns and beliefs so that you can fearlessly go after the life of your dreams. 

In this episode I recommend that you check out the Transcendence series on Gaia (aka the spiritual Netflix) so here is the link to that series! https://www.gaia.com/series/transcendence?season=1 I specifically reference season 1 Episode 4 "Whose Goals Are We Chasing?". This is NOT an affiliate link and I do NOT receive a commission for you joining Gaia, I just love it SO much!