Borderline Idealist – BPD, Anxiety, & Depression

Borderline Idealist – BPD, Anxiety, & Depression

By AJ & Cris
**New episodes every other Sunday**

AJ shares his experiences with BPD, anxiety, and depression along with his husband Cris. Together they discuss their relationship's special challenges, mental health issues, and their lives as introverts.
Our goal is to share personal struggles and different mental health journeys. We are not mental health professionals and have no mental health qualifications but our own experiences. We're just two introverts in love dealing with life.♥️If you have a comment about an episode, email us at borderlineidealist@gmail.com.
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Valene's Story: Childhood trauma, drug abuse, BPD
Valene gives us a look into her life growing up in a hectic household, struggling to find her place, and the courage to press forward.
1:13:36
March 22, 2020
Self-care Walk: March 17
🌈Walkin & Talkin
17:57
March 18, 2020
Walky+Story: March 16
AJ shares one of his sacred stories from his secret stash on this walk.
30:37
March 17, 2020
Self-care Walk: Ides of March
Trivia: The Ides of March is the 74th day in the Roman calendar that corresponds to 15 March. It was marked by several religious observances and was notable for the Romans as a deadline for settling debts. In 44 BC, it became notorious as the date of the assassination of Julius Caesar which made the Ides of March a turning point in Roman history.
22:56
March 16, 2020
Self-care Walk Talk: March 14
Sweetwater Creek was a great experience for us! It's our second time going and this time with friends. Here's a chat about the adventure ♥️
33:21
March 15, 2020
Self-care Walk: March 13
Are we still doing this? Yes. Yes we are. 🚶🏾‍♂️🚶🏿‍♂️🚸
28:15
March 14, 2020
Self-care walk: March 12
It’s official! AJ’s psychologist recommended a daily walk, so we thought we’d share this time with you ♥️ We encourage you to walk along with us or consider doing something outside of your regular routine. ✌🏽
31:11
March 13, 2020
Self-care Walk: March 11, 2020
It’s official! AJ’s psychologist recommended a daily walk, so we thought we’d share this time with you ♥️ We encourage you to walk along with us or consider doing something outside of your regular routine. ✌🏽
38:06
March 12, 2020
Self-care Walk: March 10, 2020
It’s official! AJ’s psychologist recommended a daily walk, so we thought we’d share this time with you ♥️ We encourage you to walk along with us or consider doing something outside of your regular routine. ✌🏽
24:43
March 11, 2020
Starting Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
AJ finally begins DBT. We discuss finding a doctor and finally moving forward. (This episode was previously posted Sunday, but due to technical error we posted it again today)
1:03:49
March 9, 2020
Movie Night Teaser
Here's a look at our special miniseries we're providing for Patrons each month. Thank you for all the support! Our first movie is Girl, Interrupted. Join our Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/borderlineidealist
19:26
March 9, 2020
Allie's Story: Sexual Trauma, BPD, and Therapy
We interview Allie, a friend from our Discord channel, that asked if we had done another episode about sexual trauma. She volunteered to be interviewed about her own experiences to further help others and spread awareness. Allie’s email is TIXSURVIVORS@gmail.com | Need help? Call 800.656.HOPE (4673) or RAINN.ORG. 
1:12:26
February 23, 2020
Valentine's Day
For some, Valentine’s Day can make them feel lonely or left out. We’ll discuss why it is important to focus on yourself and the love you can cultivate from within. We will also discuss our own dating past and habits that helped us develop who we are today.
57:44
February 10, 2020
Personality Growth
AJ & Cris retake the personality test to see if they've changed and discuss how personality can evolve over time and by experiences.
50:50
January 27, 2020
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02:24
January 18, 2020
Episode 56 - Is Medicine An Easy Fix? (LIVE)
Some say taking medicine to treat symptoms of BPD is unnecessary and more harm than good. Why take something that causes side effects? We look at AJ's journey of begining meds and trying to be without. (This audio is from a live recording. Check out the video on BorderlineIdealist.com)
59:37
January 13, 2020
Episode 55 - Borderline Idealist 2019
Cris and AJ take a look back on their favorite episodes of 2019.
26:14
December 30, 2019
Episode 54 - Caregivers
Cris is more than a husband; he's my best friend, confidant, lover, and lifeline. Sometimes those that help others are overlooked, but Cris and I wanted to do an episode to remind everyone to reach out, talk, share, grow!
47:12
December 16, 2019
Episode 53 - BPD Anger: Anxiety and Anger Part 2
Those who have BPD are known to have trouble with anger. Join us as we talk about how it can affect dating/relationships and how to process it around loved ones.
1:00:05
December 2, 2019
Episode 52 - Alcohol & BPD
Our last conversation really hit home with one of our listeners, Sarah. Those with BPD might relate to her story of early substance abuse and childhood trauma. The important morale of her story is to move forward with life, that we all suffer from a past we might regret, but we can break the cycle.
58:19
November 17, 2019
Episode 51 - Anxiety and Anger: Part 1
Self-medicating can make problems worse. We discuss how Anxiety can manifest itself and the Detriment of keeping your problems to yourself.
52:04
November 4, 2019
Episode 50 - Suicidal Ideation
Those that suffer from borderline personality disorder may have the symptom of suicidal ideation or self-mutilation. We speak about how these things can affect our life and how to grow from the experience.
51:15
October 21, 2019
Episode 49 - Between Jobs
Sometimes having BPD and finding the right career can be a challenge. AJ speaks about his anxiety and frustration trying to find the right job and exploring possible therapy to continue his career journey.
56:28
October 7, 2019
Episode 48 - Schizoaffective Disorder
AJ's brother Gyasi speaks out for the first time about his diagnosis as Schizoaffective; a mental health condition that includes schizophrenia and mood disorder symptoms.
52:41
September 22, 2019
Episode 47 - Inspiration & Being Yourself
We talk with a friend Adam about him BPD journey and how creativity has helped him express himself.
1:00:37
September 8, 2019
Episode 46 - Borderline Idealist: Home Owners Edition
The papers are signed and the house is officially ours! Join us as we begin moving things out of our old house and stay tuned for a bonus clip at the end!
42:44
September 2, 2019
Episode 45 - Hope in Hopelessness
AJ & Cris share how feelings of hopelessness have affected them and how togetherness can motivate and help heal the feelings of emptiness.
35:16
August 19, 2019
Episode 44 - Dating the Abandoned
AJ & Cris reflect on their past dating lives, the feelings of abandonment, and learning when to let go of unhealthy relationships without feeling guilty.
58:37
August 5, 2019
Episode 43 - Starting A Conversation
Jennifer who wants to start a podcast about living with MS and depression visit AJ & Cris to find out about podcasting and what to know as a beginner.
54:06
July 28, 2019
Episode 42 - Uncertainty
We are all excited and afraid of what the future holds. AJ & Cris chat about finding a balance and learning to live with the feeling of not knowing what's to come and how to find peace no matter the outcome.
47:43
July 22, 2019
Episode 41 - BPD Relationship: The Real Me
We sometimes don't realize how we act inappropriately towards others when stress and life altering decisions are in front of us. We should appreciate those that stand by us no matter what.
51:19
July 15, 2019
Episode 40 - Trusting Your Decisions
AJ talks with Cris about his job and distorted self awareness. How can you trust yourself if you have BPD?
51:05
July 7, 2019
Episode 39 - Happy Pride!
We chat about what gay pride month means to us and why representation is important.
57:28
June 16, 2019
Episode 38 - BPD & Dating
Braelynn joins us to talk about dating with BPD and dealing with rejection.
1:13:23
June 3, 2019
Episode 37 - Learning To Love Yourself
Cris & AJ talk self-esteem and how to learn to love yourself for who you are and the talents you can share with others.
39:42
May 26, 2019
Episode 36 - BPD Memes
Gordon of We're Warriors BPD Support Group joins us to discuss why BPD memes are so popular in the community and how the humor relates to mental health struggles.
1:16:21
May 13, 2019
Episode 35 - BPD Recovery & Remission
Discussion on recovering from BPD, remission, and the hope for a cure.
32:43
May 6, 2019
Episode 34 - BPD Relationship: First Wedding Anniversary
AJ & Cris discuss the first year of marriage and how it has made their love stronger.
49:50
April 29, 2019
Episode 33 - Living with Three Personality Disorders
Shelby shares about her multiple diagnosis and how her hope and need to help others makes her stronger each day.
38:13
April 21, 2019
Episode 32 - You have BPD, Now What?
AJ & Cris are joined by recently diagnosed Braelynn to talk about the process of coping with BPD as a new reality. 
52:03
April 14, 2019
Episode 31 - Working With Anxiety & Depression Part II
A follow up on working with mental illness. AJ speaks about challenges of self-worth and self-harm and choosing to value your best self.
42:46
April 7, 2019
Episode 30 - Working With Anxiety & Depression Part I
When you go to work with anxiety and depression it can distract you from being a productive employee. We talked about our experience with this on the job and how it can make us a better worker.
44:43
March 25, 2019
Episode 29 - Challenging Criticism
We use criticism to give feedback to others but it can hurt feelings and cause discord. How do we learn to navigate criticism with BPD? °•°•Patreon.com/Borderlineidealist°•°•
37:58
March 17, 2019
Episode 28 - BPD Relationship: Am I Worthy?
What makes you worthy of your partner and does being with someone with BPD make this relationship the worst Cris has ever been in?
46:41
March 11, 2019
10,000! 🎉😁 THANK YOU!
10,000 listeners have tuned in to Borderline Idealist!
02:57
March 5, 2019
Episode 27: After The Show!
What went on after ep. 27 ended?
05:47
March 4, 2019
Episode 27 - Dealing With Denial
We discuss denial in mental health and how to bring up the topic to loved ones.
41:13
March 4, 2019
Episode 26 - BPD Relationship: Settling Down
AJ & Cris talk about unpacking in their new house and what they hope for in the future.
24:51
February 25, 2019
Episode 25: After The Show!
An after the show special of our conversation about mental hospitals.
07:12
February 17, 2019
Episode 25 - Mental Hospitals & Programs
We join Carmella Young and share experiences from mental hospitals and wellness programs that help us deal with the stress of life when it seems like it's too much to handle alone.
33:01
February 17, 2019
Episode 24 - BPD Relationship: The Big Move
All about moving somewhere new as someone with BPD and having a super-neat husband.
44:09
February 10, 2019
Episode 23 - Truth About Medication
When dealing with depression and anxiety, medication is a possible tool on your journey to helping you cope. We talk about side effects and also the dangers of self-medication.
39:09
February 3, 2019
Episode 22 - Crippling Depression
Sometimes depression can be so severe it leaves you down and out. We explain what it feels like, steps you can take to feel better, and how family and friends can help.
35:14
January 28, 2019
Episode 21 - Leaving Home with BPD
When you're out with others that don't know you have a condition or much about it, how can you let them know and keep your anxiety under control?
30:39
January 21, 2019
Episode 20 - Introvert Birthdays
How introverts spend their birthdays!
31:16
January 14, 2019
Episode 19 - New Year & Christmas Anxiety
New Year & Christmas Anxiety
36:48
January 7, 2019
Better Than Depression - Dec. 30 - Youtube
Depression is going down!
03:20
December 30, 2018
Better Than Depression - Dec. 29 - Humor
Humor cures depression! Hahaha!
02:40
December 29, 2018
Better Than Depression - Dec. 28 - Nexflix
Movies are better than depression!
03:17
December 28, 2018
Better Than Depression - Dec. 27 - Website
Better than depression
02:41
December 27, 2018
Better Than Depression - Dec. 26 - XBOX
#depression
02:45
December 26, 2018
Better Than Depression - Dec.25 - Christmas
Merry Christmas!
02:08
December 26, 2018
Better Than Depression - Dec. 24 - Christmas Eve
Happy Christmas Eve!
02:01
December 25, 2018
Better Than Depression - Dec. 23 - Glasses
#depression
02:13
December 23, 2018
Better Than Depression - Dec. 22 - Shelter
#depression
02:23
December 22, 2018
Better Than Depression - Dec. 21 - Cooking
#depression
03:07
December 21, 2018
Better Than Depression - Dec. 20 - Photos
Fight depression with photos!
03:12
December 20, 2018
Better Than Depression - Dec. 19 - Clothing
Better than depression
02:55
December 19, 2018
Better Than Depression - Dec. 18 - Idealistic
Idealist
02:41
December 18, 2018
Borderline Idealist - Episode 17 - Religion & Mental Health
Zyrah from So Unbelievably Borderline joins us to chat about religion and mental illness, and her experience with borderline personality disorder and being Muslim.
49:07
December 10, 2018
Borderline Idealist - Episode 16 - Mother of Son with BPD
Understanding borderline personality disorder through the eyes of a mother
30:55
December 2, 2018
Introverts & BPD Holiday Survival Guide
Cris and I talk about our Thanksgiving and how being an introvert can make it difficult but interesting.
37:40
November 26, 2018
Better Than Depression - Nov. 25 - I've Got Life
Life is worth living!
03:00
November 26, 2018
Better Than Depression - Nov. 24 - Charisma
Better than depression
03:30
November 24, 2018
Better Than Depression - Nov. 23 - Travel with Cris
I get to go to the places I love with the person I love.
02:48
November 23, 2018
Better Than Depression - Nov. 22 - Thanksgiving
Thanksgiving is time with the ones that love you.
02:45
November 22, 2018
Better Than Depression - Nov. 21 - Friends
Friendships are better than depression.
03:09
November 21, 2018
Better Than Depression - Nov. 20 - Nachos!
Nachos, my comfort food that alleviates my depression.
02:37
November 20, 2018
Better Than Depression - Nov. 19 - I'm a loyal friend
I'm a good friend and that's a reason to be happy and not be depressed.
02:45
November 19, 2018
Better Than Depression - Nov. 18 - Family
Loving my family and having them with me keeps my depression at bay.
03:18
November 18, 2018
Postpartum Depression
We discuss with Jamila about postpartum depression and what friends and family can do to support a mother going through this ordeal.
32:44
November 18, 2018
Better Than Depression - Nov. 17 - Haircut
Something as small as a haircut can change your outlook on the world. #depression
03:01
November 17, 2018
Better Than Depression - Nov. 16 - Music
Music is better than depression!
03:12
November 16, 2018
Better Than Depression - Nov. 15 - Frida the kitten
My kitten Frida takes down my depression.
02:23
November 15, 2018
Better Than Depression - Nov. 14 - Poetry
Poetry is better than depression!
04:05
November 14, 2018
Better Than Depression - Nov. 12 - Cris, my soulmate
My husband Cris is the reason I can fight my depression everyday. #depression #mentalhealth #infp
03:23
November 12, 2018
Update On Our Lives
Update on AJ & Cris #infp #infj #bpd #depression #idealist
26:39
November 11, 2018
Voting & Anxiety + BPD
Voting for elections and referendums as an introvert. Here is how we rock the vote!
35:17
November 4, 2018
Social Media & Introverts
We discuss how social media can affect introverts that look inward on their problems and try to understand the world around them.
45:50
October 31, 2018
Procrastination and Motivation
How do we get over procrastination and find the motivation to do the things we love?
31:04
October 28, 2018
Sexual Violence & PTSD
Kelly Vines tells her story about sexual assault and the aftermath which left her with post-traumatic stress disorder.
55:17
October 25, 2018
Validation + BPD, Anxiety, & Depression
Searching for validation from our parents can leave us wanting more but also teach us life lessons.
39:32
October 24, 2018
BPD Relationships
We discuss being in a relationship with someone who has borderline personality disorder and the challenges that present themselves.
33:38
October 17, 2018
Misunderstandings & Misconceptions About Introverts & Extroverts
Just when you think you know someone, you find out an introvert or extrovert is not what you thought. Our special guest is the beautiful extrovert, Carmella Young.
26:59
October 15, 2018
Feelings in a Cold World
Are you ready to show your emotions? With all the negativity today, isn't it okay to be sensitive? Special guest: Issa the ISFJ
31:24
October 7, 2018
When you Succeed
What does it mean to be successful? Is it the things that you can see or how it makes you feel?
08:32
October 2, 2018
Standing up to Sigma
My husband Cristhtian, an INFJ, joins me to talk about stigma and how we can all learn from each other about the struggles we face if we take the time to be open.
39:00
September 29, 2018
Friendships
What it's like to be friends with an INFP and someone with BPD, and why our emotions make us such good friends.
09:27
September 28, 2018
Intro
An introduction to INFP+BPD, explaining what the Meyer-Briggs personality type INFP means and what the mental disorder borderline personality disorder is. I also expalin what someone with these two characteristics can contribute to the world.
14:33
September 25, 2018