Boy Problems Podcast
By Recovering Too: Families Navigating Addiction
Boy Problems PodcastFeb 23, 2024
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As the conversation unfolds, Katie shares updates on her own mental health journey and the struggles faced by participants in her support groups, shedding light on the broader spectrum of personal crises that often accompany addiction recovery. The discussion then shifts to the pressure of maintaining regular podcast episodes and the importance of taking breaks when needed. Katie acknowledged a moment of guilt, such as forgetting her husband's sobriety anniversary, while also recognizing the progress he has made in his recovery journey.
The conversation delves into the complexities of pain management in recovery, particularly in the context of surgeries. Katie and Jessica recount their experiences advocating against narcotic painkillers for their husbands, highlighting the delicate balance between managing pain effectively and avoiding triggers for addiction. This leads to a discussion about celebrating sobriety milestones and navigating events like concerts, where triggers may be present. Katie shares her concerns about her husband's lack of self-control with gambling and plans for an upcoming Grateful Dead concert, illustrating the ongoing challenges of addiction recovery in everyday life.
Amidst the challenges, there are moments of personal growth and celebration. Jessica discusses her therapy journey and newfound freedom from the constant stress of managing Casey's addiction. Shannon reflects on the positive changes in her own life and Jay's transformation towards prioritizing health and wellness. The episode concludes with a message of hope and resilience, emphasizing the importance of embracing personal growth and navigating challenges with courage and determination in the journey of addiction recovery.
96. Attachment Nerd, Eli Harwood | Healthy Attachments in Relationships
On today's episode we're thrilled to have Eli Harwood aka @attchmentnerd join us to discuss healthy attachments in relationships with a special focus on relationships that are impacted by addiction. Eli Harwood is a licensed therapist, author, and educator who has more than 17 years of experience helping people process their early traumas and develop secure attachment relationships with their children and partners. Eli is an adult child of an alcoholic and has three children, one husband, one cat, and an extraordinary number of plant babies.
You'll learn about:
- How to talk to kids of different ages about the disease of addiction and how they feel about it.
- Different attachment styles.
- Tips to cause the least amount of hurt when getting a divorce.
- How to talk to kids about trauma they may have experienced with the disease.
- Ways a person in recovery can start to mend relationships with kids.
You can find her at attachmentnerd.com and @attachmentnerd on socials.
Other ways to connect with Eli:
- Pre-order her new book Securely Attached - https://attachmentnerd.com/books
- Get a Secure Attachment Coach - https://attachmentnerd.com/attachment-labs
- Join the Nerd Herd - https://attachmentnerd.com/membership
94. Too Much Self Reflection?
93. Depression
Today's episode continues our conversation on mental health with Katie sharing about her journey with depression. Jessica also chimes in to share how she experienced similiar struggles during postpartum. Since so many of our loved ones struggle with a dual diagnosis, we hope sharing our experiences with mental health disorders help you better understand them. And, in turn, better understand and support your loved ones. Listen in, leave us a review and as always, keep coming back.
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92. Navigating Stigmatized Loss
Today's episode features special guest Julia of @juliainvisions. Since her husband's passing from an accidental overdose, Julia has been sharing her grief and healing journey through her online community. Julia joins us to today to share her own story of recovery, her husband's struggles with addiction, what it was like to lose him, her experience as a newly solo parent, and how she and her kids are navigating the grief of a stigmatized loss. Julia's perspective is beautiful, her soul is strong and her story is inspiring. We hope you enjoy hearing from her as much as we did.
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91. Friendship Counseling
Have you ever had a rift with a friend, and you weren't sure how to move past it? This happened to Katie and Jessica, and led them to friendship counseling. They share how they got to that point and how the counselor helped them discuss their feelings. They were able to break down the barrier that had built up between them and get back to being friends, with more self-awareness and a better understanding of each others needs.
We also get a mental health update from Jessica. Last fall we did a deep dive into her most recent generalized anxiety episode. Now she shares about her new treatment plan and the improvements she's seen in the last few months.
Boy Problems Podcast episodes referenced:
68. Uncomfortable Conversations
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90. 2023 Check In
Catch up on the latest with Katie, Jessica and Shannon on today's epsiode where they share what's been happening in their lives and relationships lately. Shannon shares about her new job and how her work on this podcast came up on one of her first days! Jessica shares about the holiday season and how she and Casey did throughout that historically difficult time. And, Katie chats about how she's doing with the cigar saga.
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89. Indiana Drug Czar - Doug Huntsinger
Today's episode features special guest Indiana Drug Czar, Doug Huntsinger. Doug serves as the Executive Director for Drug Prevention, Treatment & Enforcement and Chairman of the Indiana Commission to Combat Substance Use Disorder. Listen in as Doug gives us an overview of the drug crisis in Indiana and the work being done to combat it. We also discuss the stigma surrounding addiction and harm reduction.
More About Doug:
As a Senior Adviser to Governor Eric J. Holcomb and a member of the Governor’s Cabinet, Doug oversees the coordination of the Governor’s NextLevel Recovery initiative, aligning and focusing the State of Indiana’s response to the drug crisis. He also serves as a member of the Justice Reinvestment Advisory Council and the Governor’s Health Workforce Council.
Organizations across Indiana have recognized Douglas for his efforts. The Indiana Judges Association named him the 2021 Champion of Justice in recognition of his work supporting family recovery courts and behavioral health services for justice-involved individuals and families. Overdose Lifeline recently presented Douglas with the Policy Advocate of the Year award for his steadfast commitment to serving our most vulnerable Hoosiers and THRIVE Recovery Community Organization recognized him for his distinguished service, presenting him with the inaugural State Partner of the Year Award.
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88. Feel Your Feelings
Rachel Kaplan joined us for our podcast to talk all things emotions and healing. She started her journey of healing after trauma in her early teen years. She now has a deep desire to help more than just the clients she sees in her office. We talk about the significance of truly feeling your emotions and taking care of yourself.
We also cover:
- Thinking vs. Feeling
- Codependency
- Boundaries
- Why it’s better to be curious about your emotions rather than shaming yourself for them
- Future Tripping
Rachel's Bio: Rachel Kaplan is a California based licensed psychotherapist in practice for 16 years. After the suicide of her first love at age 14, she spent more than 25 years scouring the worlds healing technologies through both Eastern spiritual practices and western psychological methodologies. She found the single most necessary ingredient for healing, emotional resilience, and self love is no more complicated than taking a poop. Rachel is now a psycho educator or emotional potty trainer, spreading the feelings movement by teaching people how to work with their emotions effectively for the purpose of genuine healing. She focuses on short form content on Instagram, TikTok, has her own podcast, the Healing Feeling Shit Show and leads people through coursework and individual therapy as well.
Connect with Rachel: https://www.thefeelingsmovement.com/connect
87. Anxiety Attack (part 2)
Jessica’s story of her journey with anxiety continues in today’s episode. We discuss how to help those you care about struggling with anxiety, how to ask for help if you’re struggling and how Jessica managed (or really, avoided) her relationships with Katie and Shannon and how that has impacted things for them.Topics also discussed:
- Anxiety
- Mental Health
- Relationships
- Addiction
- Recovery
- Friendship
- Support
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Instagram: @recoveringtoo
Facebook: @recoveringtooAdditional Resources:
Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/
Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
86. Anxiety Attack (part 1)
Topics also discussed: Relationships Drug Use Recovery Marriage Family Kids
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Additional Resources: Co-Dependents Anonymous: coda.org/ Al-Anon: al-anon.org/ Nar-Anon: www.nar-anon.org/ National Helpline: www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline Treatment Locator: findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
85. Recovery Hardware with Gina Schaefer
Katie's professional life introduced her to Gina Schaefer, the CEO of A Few Cool Hardware Stores. Katie was already impressed with Gina because of her success in a male-dominated industry, but she became an even bigger fan after learning about her connection to recovery. When Gina opened her first hardware store, she hoped to help revitalize the neighborhood. She had no idea it would become a safe space for people in recovery or that she would become an advocate for people in recovery and eventually write a book, but that's exactly what happened. Recovery Hardware shares stories and lessons from her employees who previously struggled with substance abuse. It helps to break down the stigma and show why those in recovery make great employees. We really enjoyed our conversation with Gina and hope you do too.
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- Instagram: @recoveringtoo
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Resources:
- Anticipatory Grief Article: https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/what-is-anticipatory-grief/
- Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/
- Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/
- Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/
- National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
83. Shannon's Story (part 2)
Our stories - past and present - are scattered across 3 years' worth of episodes. Now we’re taking turns interviewing each other in episodes dedicated to our individual lives. Today we're continuing Shannon's story with part 2. This takes us from the time Kemmon went to rehab to present day.
If you want to learn more about some of the things Katie talks about, check out her recent blog series and these episodes:
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82. Shannon's Story (part 1)
Our stories - past and present - are scattered across 3 year’s worth of episodes. Now we’re taking turns interviewing each other in episodes dedicated to our individual lives. Today is part 1 of Shannon's story, which covers the beginning of her relationship with Jay, the progression of his addiction, the first stint in rehab, and her reasons for staying with him during this time.
If you're interested in learning more about Shannon & Jay, check out some of these past episodes:
Episode 1: Welcome to Boy Problems Podcast
Episode 69: Euphoria's Portrayal of Addiction
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81. Katie's Story (part 2)
Our stories - past and present - are scattered across 3 years' worth of episodes. Now we’re taking turns interviewing each other in episodes dedicated to our individual lives. Today we're continuing Katie's story with part 2. This takes us from the time Kemmon went to rehab to present day.
If you want to learn more about some of the things Katie talks about, check out her recent blog series and these episodes:
Episode 1: Welcome to Boy Problems Podcast
Episode 26: Meet Steve (Kemmon)
Episode 59: Trust: The Receipts that Set Me Free
Episode 68: Uncomfortable Conversations
Episode 80: Katie's Story (part 1)
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80. Katie's Story (part 1)
Our stories - past and present - are scattered across 3 year’s worth of episodes. Now we’re taking turns interviewing each other in episodes dedicated to our individual lives. Today is part 1 of Katie’s story, which covers from the first time she met Kemmon up to the point where he’s about to enter treatment. During this time, Katie knew things were not good in the relationship, but she did not know drugs were involved.
If you want to learn more about some of the things Katie talks about, check out her recent blog series and these episodes:
Episode 1: Welcome to Boy Problems Podcast
Episode 26: Meet Steve (Kemmon)
Episode 59: Trust: The Receipts that Set Me Free
Episode 68: Uncomfortable Conversations
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79. Jessica's Story
Our stories - past and present - are scattered across 3 year’s worth of episodes. Now we’re taking turns interviewing each other in episodes dedicated to our individual lives. First up is Jessica. She gives us an overview of her relationship with Casey, from their first date on NYE 2012, to having a baby in 2020, and everything in between.
If you want to learn more about some of the things Jessica talks about, check out these episodes:
Episode 1: Welcome to Boy Problems Podcast
Episode 8: Meet Charlie (Casey)
Bonus Episode: Check-in with Alex (Jessica)
Episode 61: Jessica and Casey - Life after a Relapse
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78. Reflections
It's been a year since we decided to really embrace our stories and share them with all of you. (See Episode 52. Why Are We Hiding?!) It made us feel anxious and uncomfortable at times, but mostly really proud. Best of all, it's allowed us to better connect with so many people in this community, and for that we are extremely grateful.
In today’s episode, we’re reflecting on the journey that led us to this point. We share our memories of the first time we met and how that evolved into a friendship and eventually the podcast. We discuss the pros and cons of no longer being anonymous, balancing the role addiction plays in our life, and the purpose behind sharing our stories.
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77. Confidence Empowerment
When we love someone with addiction, it’s easy to get sucked into their chaos and let our own well-being suffer. The anxiety, fear, shame, and self-doubt take a toll on our mental and physical health. Years of feeling crazy due to lies and manipulation) make it hard to trust not only our loved one, but also ourself. We may feel stuck and out of touch with our wants and needs. That's why we are so excited for today's guest, Isobel Stewart, a Confidence Empowerment Coach. Her work helps people overcome perfectionism, people pleasing, and self doubt so they can live life feeling confident, inspired and fulfilled. In this episode, we discuss:
- Why we lose confidence as we grow up
- Perfectionism and people pleasing as coping mechanisms
- The impact of addiction on our self-trust
- Setting boundaries
- Being the alter ego of yourself
- The one thing we all have in common at our core
- How our thoughts connect to our feelings and actions
Connect with Isobel on Instagram: @EvolveWithIsobel
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Support our work by becoming a Patron: Patreon.com/recoveringtoo
Resources:
- Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/
- Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/
- Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/
- National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
- Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
76. A Work in Progress
It's been a while since we've checked in, so today we're catching up on life. Jessica starts off by sharing that she's been under stress at work but things with Casey are going well. However, sometimes this makes her question if things are *really* ok. This leads to a discussion about how normal, everyday things (like sweating, sleeping, irritated eyes) can make us wonder when the other shoe will drop. We share some recent examples that reminded us of past using times and discussed our reactions in the moment. Over the years we've learned ways to cope better, but we're all a work in progress. One of the best tools has been counseling, both individually and as couples. Katie and Jessica share that they are currently in couples counseling with their husbands, and we talk about how it's a different experience at this point in their relationships versus when they were in the midst of active use and early recovery.
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- Instagram: @recoveringtoo
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Resources:
- Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/
- Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/
- Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/
- National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
75. Overcoming the Statistics
Brandi Bennefield is a tattoo artist from Alberta Canada who has created a following on social media sharing her life stories. Many of these stories stem from the chaos and dysfunction of growing up with parents in active addiction. In today’s episode we discuss:
- Brandi’s childhood and the ways she coped
- Choosing sanity over family
- Holding yourself hostage and letting go of that mindset
- Becoming a healthy, successful person despite the hardships
- The sad reality that some people will choose not to get better
- Brandi reconnecting with her dad after he got sober, an example that it is possible for people to grow and change.
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- Instagram: @recoveringtoo
- Facebook: @recoveringtoo
- Support Us: Patreon.com/recoveringtoo
Connect with Brandi:
- Instagram: @banditinkorporated
- For appointments: call Solarium 7803527855
Resources:
- Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/
- Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/
- Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/
- National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
74. Anticipatory Grief
Have you ever found yourself planning your loved one’s funeral or imagining your life without them in it? Or maybe you’ve felt a range of emotions around a looming change or impending loss. There’s a term for this, and it’s called anticipatory grief. In this episode of Boy Problems Podcast, Katie and Shannon discuss their own experiences with anticipatory grief. Shannon shares her struggles during Jay’s last relapse, and Katie talks about the importance of preparation.
Topics also discussed: Relationships, Drug Use, Recovery, Shame, Rehab, Marriage, Family, Separation, Relapse
Other episodes referenced:
- 49.Sarah with Hazelden Betty Ford
- 51.A Mother’s Love
- Bonus: Check-in with Liz (after episode 3)
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- Instagram: @recoveringtoo
- Facebook: @recoveringtoo
- Support Us: Patreon.com/recoveringtoo
Resources:
- Anticipatory Grief Article: https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/what-is-anticipatory-grief/
- Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/
- Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/
- Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/
- National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
73. Parenting & Addiction Part 2
This is Part 2 of the Parenting & Addiction podcast. Parenting with an addicted loved one is a question we get a lot, so we asked one of our favorite guests, Lizzie, to come back and join us for this conversation.
Katie and Lizzie talk about:
- What things we've put in place to protect our kids from our husband's addiction.
- Lizzie answers if she would have stayed with Drew if she didn't have kids with him.
- Katie spoke about why she decided to have a second child now knowing Kemmon was an addict.
- How we built back trust with our husbands
Want to hear more of Lizzie’s story?
Check out these other podcasts:
57: One Foot Out the Door
45: Drugs for Coffee
13: Meet Lizzie
Topics also discussed: Relationships Drug Use Recovery Shame Rehab Marriage Family Kids
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Instagram: @recoveringtoo
Facebook: @recoveringtoo
Support Us: Patreon.com/recoveringtoo
Additional Resources: Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/ Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/ Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/ National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
72: Parenting & Addiction - Part 1
Lizzie is back! We get so many messages and questions about parenting with someone who is in recovery or in active use. While Jessica and Katie’s husbands weren’t in active use when they had their children, that was not the case for Lizzie. Lizzie and Drew have 5 children and have been through the ups and downs of recovery and active use.
Lizzie talks about:
- Having a newborn and Drew leaving for a 90-day rehab out of state.
- Getting her 3-year-old therapy.
- Disciplining their junior in high school who was caught drinking.
- How she talks to her little kids about Drew’s ‘allergy’.
Want to hear more of Lizzie’s story?
Check out these other podcasts:
57: One Foot Out the Door
45: Drugs for Coffee
13: Meet Lizzie
Topics also discussed: Relationships Drug Use Recovery Shame Rehab Marriage Family Kids
Follow us at:
Instagram: @recoveringtoo
Facebook: @recoveringtoo
Support Us: Patreon.com/recoveringtoo
Additional Resources: Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/ Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/ Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/ National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
71. Too Independent?
Is being too independent a bad thing? Oftentimes, when you're dealing with a loved one in active addiction, all of the responsibilities fall on one person. When Jessica and Shannon's partners were out of their homes they had to take on everything. Katie was responsible for managing the household budget, chores and taking care of their newborn baby while Kemmon was away at meetings 6 days a week. Being independent, for some of us, came out of necessity. The ladies also discuss how they balance self-care and their partner's recovery schedules.
Topics also discussed: Relationships Drug Use Recovery Shame Rehab Marriage Family Kids
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Instagram: @recoveringtoo
Facebook: @recoveringtoo
Support Us: Patreon.com/recoveringtoo
Additional Resources: Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/ Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/ Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/ National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
70. A Husband's Perspective
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Topics also discussed:
Relationships Drug Use Recovery Shame Rehab Marriage Family Kids
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Instagram: @recoveringtoo
Facebook: @recoveringtoo
Support Us: Patreon.com/recoveringtoo
Additional Resources:
Co-Dependents Anonymous: coda.org/
Al-Anon: al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
69. Euphoria’s Portrayal of Addiction
- their thoughts on the way addiction is portrayed in the show
- the feelings and triggers each experienced while watching
- examples of personal experiences that are similar to certain scenes
FYI: you do not have to watch Euphoria to follow along with the conversation. Additionally, addiction is just 1 of several storylines, so this episode won’t spoil the show for you if you plan to watch sometime.
Extra: Head to our Patreon page for a post-season finale convo, that includes thoughts on D.A.R.E.’s criticism of the show and Zendaya’s statement. Patreon.com/recoveringtoo
Topics also discussed:
Relationships
Drug Use
Recovery
Shame
Follow us at:
Instagram: @recoveringtoo
Facebook: @recoveringtoo
Support Us: www.patreon.com/recoveringtoo
Additional Resources:
Co-Dependents Anonymous: coda.org/
Al-Anon: al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
68. Uncomfortable Conversations
Have you ever DREAD a conversation you have to have with someone? Unfortunately those conversations seem to happen often when a loved one is dealing with substance use disorder. Today's episode was inspired by an uncomfortable conversation Katie had to have with Jessica and Shannon recently. Listen in as we chat about some of those conversations we've had with families and loved ones and reflections we've taken away.
Topics also discussed:
Relationships Drug Use Recovery Shame
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Instagram: @recoveringtoo
Facebook: @recoveringtoo
Additional Resources:
Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/
Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
67. Methadone Myths
Our dear friends, Dr. Greer and Angie, from the Bowen Recovery Center join us today to share their wisdom on Medicines for Addiction Treatment (MATs), specifically Methadone. There’s so much we didn’t know (and frankly, misjudged) about some of these medications. We’re always trying to stay educated, inclusive and at the end of the day help others keep their loved ones alive. Listen in to learn more about these life saving tools!
Topics also discussed:
- Addiction
- Medications for Substance Use Disorders
- Relationships
- Treatment programs
- Treatment options
- Drug Use Recovery
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Instagram: @recoveringtoo
Facebook: @recoveringtoo
Additional Resources:
Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/
Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
66. Playing Detective to Find the Truth
Have you searched your loved ones phone, computer or other personal belongings to find evidence they are lying or using? Well, if you have, you aren’t alone. On this episode of Boy Problems Podcast we share our journey with being a detective in our relationships, where this drive comes from for us and how it makes us feel.
Topics also discussed:
- Boundaries
- Relationships
- Addiction
- Trust
- Love
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Instagram: @boyproblemspod
Twitter: @boyprobspodcast
Facebook: @boyproblemspod
Additional Resources:
Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/
Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
65. 2021 Holiday Update
Happy New Year! Today, we chat about how the holidays went for us and reflect on how they've compared to past years. We're hopeful for 2022 and grateful you're joining us along this wild ride!
Topics also discussed:
- Boundaries
- Relationships
- Addiction
- Trust
- Love
Follow us at:
Instagram: @boyproblemspod
Twitter: @boyprobspodcast
Facebook: @boyproblemspod
Additional Resources:
Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/
Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
64: Re-Release - Recovery Houses
Topics also discussed:
* Trust
* Group and individual therapy
* Empowerment
* Self-care
* Recovery
* Relapse
* Drugs
* Boundaries
* Relationships
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Instagram: @boyproblemspod
Twitter: @boyprobspodcast
Facebook: @recoveringtoo
Additional Resources:
recoveringtoo.com
Co-Dependents Anonymous: coda.org/
Al-Anon: al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: www.nar-anon.org/ National Helpline: www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
63: PTSD & Addiction
We have a special guest today! One of our favorites, Jay, is back to chat with us about trauma and PTSD. Jay is a licensed addiction therapist and a frequent guest of our show. We’re so excited to share this wonderful conversation with you!
Topics also discussed:
- PTSD
- Trauma
- Boundaries
- Relationships
- Addiction
- Trust
- Love
Follow us at:
Instagram: @boyproblemspod
Twitter: @boyprobspodcast
Facebook: @boyproblemspod
Additional Resources:
Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/
Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
62. The Relapse Rehash
Topics also discussed:
Relapse
Boundaries
Relationships
Addiction
Trust
Love
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Instagram: @boyproblemspod
Twitter: @boyprobspodcast
Facebook: @boyproblemspod
Additional Resources:
Co-Dependents Anonymous: coda.org/
Al-Anon: al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
61: Jessica and Casey - Life after a Relapse
Today is a special episode with Jessica and Casey. Listen in as they discuss a recent relapse and how they’re dealing with it. We hope this episode serves as an example of what recovery (and relapse) can look like in a relationship - spoiler alert - it’s not perfect!
Topics also discussed:
Mental Health
Relationships
Addiction
Trust
Love
Follow us at:
Instagram: @boyproblemspod
Twitter: @boyprobspodcast
Facebook: @boyproblemspod
Additional Resources:
Co-Dependents Anonymous: coda.org/
Al-Anon: al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
60: Sex After Trauma
We are so excited for Dr. Emily Jamea to join us today as we discuss intimacy during addiction and throughout recovery. How do we navigate rebuilding relationships with someone who has broken our trust? How do we become intimate with ourselves? Listen in as Dr. Emily shares tips on the types of hurdles we may encounter in our relationship with our recovering loved one.
Topics also discussed:
Sex
Intimacy
Self-Care
Relationships
Addiction
Trust
Love
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Twitter: @boyprobspodcast
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Additional Resources: Website: emilyjamea.com/
Podcast: Sex and Love with Dr. Emily Jamea
Instagram: @dremilyjamea
Co-Dependents Anonymous: coda.org/
Al-Anon: al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
59. Trust: The Receipts That Set Me Free
Earning back trust starts small. When her husband was starting his recovery, she couldn't trust his words or actions so she relied on concrete examples of the truth: receipts. This physical proof that he was keeping his word was the foundation of earning back that trust. Katie will talk about her relationship with her husband, how the trust was broken in their relationship and give examples of ways to get it back.
Katie presented at the Soul Recovery Event hosted by Our Story Their Addiction in September 2021. Today we share her presentation as we know trust is such a crucial element in any relationship.
Topics also discussed: Control Addictive Mindset Recovery Trust Personal Growth Navigating Relationships Boundaries Personal Journey Addiction Hope Follow us at: Instagram: @boyproblemspod Facebook: @boyproblemspod. www.recoveringtoo.com
58. Out of Our Control
Topics also discussed:
Control
Addictive Mindset
Recovery
Trust
Personal Growth
Navigating Relationships
Boundaries
Personal Journey
Addiction
Hope
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Twitter: @boyprobspodcast
Facebook: @boyproblemspod
57. One Foot Out the Door
Recovery
Infidelity
Trust
Personal Growth
Self-care
Personal Journey
Addiction
Hope
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Twitter: @boyprobspodcast
Facebook: @boyproblemspod
56. Overdose Lifeline - Re-release
Topics also discussed:
Overdose
Naloxone
Recovery
Drugs
Addiction
Substance abuse disorder
CRAFT
Additional Resources:
Overdose Lifeline: www.overdoselifeline.org/
CRAFT: www.soberfamilies.com/about-craft
Co-Dependents Anonymous: coda.org/
Al-Anon: al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
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Instagram: @boyproblemspod
Website: recoveringtoo.com
Facebook: @boyproblemspod
55. Infidelity & Addiction
We’re so excited for you to hear from our guest, Angie from Our Story Their Addiction. Angie speaks for the first time about her experience with infidelity during her spouse’s addiction and how she navigates relationships now. She’s a joy and we’re grateful we got to chat with her!
Topics also discussed:
- Recovery
- Infidelity
- Trust
- Personal Growth
- Self-care
- Personal Journey
- Addiction
- Hope
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Instagram: @boyproblemspod
Twitter: @boyprobspodcast
Facebook: @boyproblemspod
Instagram: @our.story.their.addiction
Website: https://ourstorytheiraddiction.com/
Virtual Conference: Soul Recovery - Turning Trauma into Triumph
When: Sep 18, 2021 09:00 AM Eastern Time (US and Canada)
54. Addiction Makes Three
Today we welcome Mrs. L from @addictionmakesthree. We’re so excited to share her story with you - she’s one of us and has created a safe, encouraging and honest community through her instagram. Listen in to meet Mrs. L!
Topics also discussed:
- Recovery
- Personal Growth
- Self-care
- Personal Journey
- Addiction
- Hope
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Instagram: @boyproblemspod
Twitter: @boyprobspodcast
Facebook: @boyproblemspod
53. California Sober
Today Jessica shares about Casey being California Sober and what that means for them. Also, the girls announce they're starting a virtual support group! Listen in to hear the latest.
Topics also discussed:
Recovery
Personal Growth
Anonymity
Self-care
Personal Journey
Addiction
Hope
Additional resources
https://www.confidentialrecovery.com/blog/is-it-okay-to-be-california-sober/
https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=California%20Sober
52. Why Are We Hiding?!
Topics also discussed:
Recovery
Personal Growth
Anonymity
Self-care
Personal Journey
Addiction
Hope
51. A Mother's Love
Meet Steve's Mom! Annette is the daughter, sister and mother of people struggling with Substance Use Disorder. Listen in as she talks about her the disease that runs through her family and shares why she hasn't told anyone about Steve's recovery.
Topics also discussed:
Families in recovery.
Addiction
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Instagram: @boyproblemspod
Twitter: @boyprobspodcast
Facebook: @boyproblemspod
Additional Resources:
Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/
Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
50. Self-Care with Life Coach, Dr. Zoe Shaw
Dr. Zoe Shaw joins the girls today to share her wisdom on self-care, codependency, boundaries and so much more. She’s a therapist turned author, podcaster and life coach that focuses on helping women redefine themselves. She’s a delight and we can’t wait for you to hear more from her!
Topics also discussed:
- Boundaries
- Codependency
- Self-Care
- Recovery
- Intuition
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Instagram: @boyproblemspod
Twitter: @boyprobspodcast
Facebook: @boyproblemspod
Additional Resources:
Dr. Zoe Shaw (Website): https://drzoeshaw.com/
Dr. Zoe Shaw (Instagram): https://www.instagram.com/drzoeshaw/?hl=en
A Year of Self-Care: link
Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/
Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
49. Sarah with Hazelden Betty Ford
Meet Sarah Weston, a licensed alcohol and drug counselor at the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation. She has a long history in working in the addiction space and a special interest in working with young adults, women and families. Sarah shares some insights on how to find a treatment center and what to expect as you navigate seeking recovery for the first time.
Topics also discussed:
- Recovery Centers
- Recovery Intake
- Families in recovery
- Recovery options
- Education
- Recovery
- Addiction
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Instagram: @boyproblemspod
Twitter: @boyprobspodcast
Facebook: @boyproblemspod
Additional Resources:
Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation: https://www.hazeldenbettyford.org / Phone Number: 1-877-830-4148
Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/
Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
48. Where's My Casserole?!
Today we discuss how the stigma of addiction prevents us from sharing our stories with those closest to us. And, how this leads to the feeling of isolation that typically comes with navigating substance abuse recovery. We hope this episode helps you navigate this conversation with the people in your support network or at the very least reassures you that you. are. not. alone. Send this to someone that you need to be by your side.
Topics also discussed:
- Support systems
- Stigma
- Self-care
- Allies for Addiction
- Education
- Active addiction
- Recovery
- Addiction
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Instagram: @boyproblemspod
Twitter: @boyprobspodcast
Facebook: @boyproblemspod
Additional Resources:
Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/
Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
47. Dentists Give Drugs Too
On today’s episode we speak to Dr. Whitman, a dentist and advocate for the safe use of narcotics in medical practices. With him we get a glimpse into ways to ensure proper pain management with patients seeking dental care in recovery. This episode will help those of us supporting our loved ones through recovery learn more about how to advocate for treatment that meets the unique challenges of recovery.
Topics also discussed:
- Trust
- Pill Shopping
- Pain Management
- Active addiction
- Recovery
- Relapse
- Addiction
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Instagram: @boyproblemspod
Twitter: @boyprobspodcast
Facebook: @boyproblemspod
Additional Resources:
Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/
Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/
46. How Long Do I Wait?
Special episode! Listen in as Alex and her dad, Fred, discuss her stepmom’s active addiction and the challenges he’s faced navigating the chaos. Fred also shares his relationship with alcohol while he and Alex discuss if it’s a healthy one for him. Most of all though, they weigh the all important question - how long do we wait? We love this conversation and hope the telling of his story helps you navigate yours.
Topics also discussed:
- Trust
- Active addiction
- Overdose
- Recovery
- Relapse
- Alcohol
- Boundaries
- Relationships
- Addiction
Follow us at:
Instagram: @boyproblemspod
Twitter: @boyprobspodcast
Facebook: @boyproblemspod
Additional Resources:
Co-Dependents Anonymous: http://coda.org/
Al-Anon: https://al-anon.org/
Nar-Anon: https://www.nar-anon.org/
National Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
Treatment Locator: https://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/g the way.