
Brick House
By Brick House - The Podcast
Filmmaker and recovery podcaster Ben Fraser shares ways we can reframe our thinking about porn addiction. You are good.
More at www.brickhousewebseries.com
More at www.brickhousewebseries.com

081 To Your Health!
Rather than thinking that “porn is bad,” maybe it’s more useful to think of it as “bad for your health.” Ben also explores the similarity between healthy activities and recovery activities.
Appreciation: local wildlife! (especially chipmunks)
Contact Ben or watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
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14:04
December 15, 2019

080 Hello Again!
After a hiatus, Ben Fraser returns to podcasting and reintroduces himself and his perspective on quitting porn. It’s a worthwhile journey!
Links:
Matt Dobschuetz’s PornFree Radio podcast https://recoveredman.com/024-creativity-and-recovery-with-ben-fraser-creator-of-brick-house/
Unwanted - book by Jay Stringer https://jay-stringer.com/book/
Contact Ben or watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
Help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj
13:19
September 05, 2019

079 Anger, Anxiety and Therapy
Ben is angry today. That’s a trigger, but so is anxiety. Is porn use the best way to deal with these feelings? Probably not.
Somatic Experiencing: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somatic_experiencing
Appreciation: Brené Brown
https://www.newsweek.com/brene-brown-netflix-special-vulnerability-quotes-ted-talk-call-courage-1400956
Contact Ben or watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
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14:53
May 28, 2019

078 Miistakes and Other Disasters
Ben tells the story of a recent “disaster” at an open mic performance. Rather than being mad about it, he laughed instead.
Appreciation: Amazon Alexa Echo Dot. https://amzn.to/2FMl8Vt
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
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17:23
April 01, 2019

077 Comfort and Joy
God rest ye merry gentlemen
Let nothing you dismay
Remember Christ our Savior
Was born on Christmas Day
To save us all from Satan's pow'r
When we were gone astray
Oh tidings of comfort and joy
Comfort and joy
Oh tidings of comfort and joy
Music this week by Sharon Jones & the Dap Kings “God Rest Ye Merry Gents”
https://youtu.be/UewEIBZ7VHM
Check out the new movie - “Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse”
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
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06:50
December 24, 2018

076 Ogling
This week Ben answers a question from a listener (and accountability partner) about ogling. It seems like it can easily be an edging behavior. How can we change that pattern?
Appreciations: Dear Sugars podcast about dating an addict
https://www.wbur.org/dearsugar/2017/12/02/a-spy-in-the-house-of-love-with-ariel-levy
Without Fail podcast interview with Ira Glass about being a mentor.
https://www.gimletmedia.com/without-fail/ira-glass
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
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14:47
December 17, 2018

075 Easy Women
Porn offers the persistent fantasy that women exist in order to please men. But that doesn’t match up with reality very well. Or does it?
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12:09
December 03, 2018

074 Restructuring Your Life
It may be that some of the triggers that cause you to act out have to do with major aspects of your life - like relationships and work - and the only solution is to make major changes in the underlying structure of your life.
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
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15:19
November 19, 2018

073 VOTE! (for the person you want to be)
Every decision you make in your daily life is a vote for the kind of person you want to be - whether it’s an athlete, a musician, or a person with a healthy sexuality.
Inspired by James Clear’s book Atomic Habits.https://jamesclear.com/
Matt Dobschuetz Porn Free Radio Podcast: https://recoveredman.com/category/pfr/
Meditation app: Headspace:https://www.headspace.com/
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
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10:34
November 05, 2018

072 Sustainability
Ben muses on what it takes to change your habits permanently. What is sustainable and what’s not?
Darya Rose Foodist Podcast - ideas about sustainability -
https://soundcloud.com/darya-pino-rose/dr-yoni-freedhoff-why-you-must-like-your-life-if-you-want-to-keep-weight-off
Darya Rose interview with James Clear - systems are more important than goals. https://soundcloud.com/darya-pino-rose/james-clear-the-4-laws-of-behavior-change
Appreciation:
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv
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15:29
October 22, 2018

071 Love and Compassion
Major events can show us that life is short, and precious. Do we want to spend it pursuing compulsive behavior, or in finding love and compassion with those we are close to?
Appreciation: Libby https://meet.libbyapp.com/. Borrow thousands of ebooks and audiobooks free from your library for free.
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
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10:42
September 24, 2018

070 Learning From Relapse
Ben had a relapse, which is a drag. But what did he learn from it? And what can you learn from his mistakes?
Appreciation: Vacations! Take more of them.
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
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20:33
September 10, 2018

069 Vulnerability
This week, Ben talks about a simple strategy to deal with times when your sobriety is more vulnerable. Hint: it may have something to do with connection.
Appreciation: Johann Hari’s book: Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions. http://a.co/0zogguW
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
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07:46
July 24, 2018

068 Change Is Possible
If you are an addict, it’s easy to get discouraged that things will never change. Ben Fraser says that change is not only possible, it’s unavoidable. There is hope!
This episode was inspired by an Invisibilia podcast. https://www.npr.org/programs/invisibilia/482836315/the-personality-myth
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
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17:11
June 27, 2018

067 Porn Saved My Life
You might think that porn ruined your life. But is it possible that it also saved your life? Ben Fraser explores the impact of compulsive porn use on his early life.
Foodist Podcast with Darya Rose
https://soundcloud.com/darya-pino-rose/how-to-stop-yourself-from-nighttime-bingeing
Appreciation: Science Vs. Guns
https://www.gimletmedia.com/science-vs/guns
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
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10:49
June 05, 2018

66 The Meaning of #MeToo
As Harvey Weinstein goes to court to face charges of rape, Ben Fraser reflects on what meaning the #MeToo movement has for those of us struggling with porn addiction.
Tea and Consent: https://youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8
Slate Interview with Weinstein accusers. https://slate.com/arts/2017/11/harvey-weinsteins-accusers-in-conversation.html
Fresh Air interview with Tig Notaro (partly on Louis CK) https://www.npr.org/2018/05/16/611585606/comic-tig-notaro-wants-you-to-know-shes-happy-to-be-here
Appreciation: The Hamilton Soundtrack https://soundcloud.com/user-247547064/hamilton-an-american-musical-full-soundtrack
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
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19:05
May 25, 2018

065 Resistance
Ben Fraser reflects on how resisting something might actually make us more likely to engage in the behavior, and how to deal with that. Also, are current events triggering you?
Appreciation: The Instant Pot! http://a.co/d9DQaNR
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
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13:36
May 15, 2018

064 Three Useful Tools
In this practical episode, Ben Fraser talks about three tools that have been very useful in his recovery - a filter, meditation, and the FAST check in.
A filter that Ben uses: https://x3watch.com/
A meditation app that Ben likes:
https://www.headspace.com/headspace-meditation-app
F.A.S.T. check-ins.
http://recoveredman.com/106-back-2-basics-f-a-s-t-t-check-ins/
Appreciation: Thunderstruck by Erik Larson
http://eriklarsonbooks.com/the-books/thunderstruck/
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
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18:15
May 03, 2018

063 A Diet of Junk Food
Ben Fraser discusses how porn is like junk food. Consuming it gives you nothing of value, and is a poor substitute for what you really want.
Inspired by Darya Rose’s class on Creative Live called “Lose Weight without Dieting.”
https://cr8.lv/2HhJaep
Also check out her Foodist podcast. http://www.summertomato.com/podcast
And her website, Summer Tomato: http://www.summertomato.com/
Appreciation: Michael Pollan’s book “In Defense of Food.”: https://amzn.to/2JeT0KD
Special thanks also to Kevin, Cameron, Thomas and InProgress for encouraging me to podcast again!
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
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15:45
April 21, 2018

062 Behind the Scenes of the Porn Industry
It’s easy for a consumer of porn to forget that there is a human being behind the photos and images. And that smile is probably fake. Ben Fraser tells the story of one woman who got involved in the porn industry in the late 70s, and how her life was destroyed by it.
This podcast was inspired by an episode of the wonderful podcast: “You Must Remember This” by Karina Longworth.
http://www.youmustrememberthispodcast.com/episodes/2017/4/20/dorothy-stratten-dead-blondes-episode-13
A pulitzer prize winning article on this subject from 1980.
http://reprints.longform.org/death-of-a-playmate
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
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13:12
May 19, 2017

061 "Unbroken Brain" - Porn addiction is a developmental disorder
Ben Fraser reviews “Unbroken Brain” by Maia Szalavitz, and discusses why adolescents are more vulnerable to addiction and why kindness and hope is most helpful to treating addiction.
The book:
https://www.amazon.com/Unbroken-Brain-Revolutionary-Understanding-Addiction/dp/1250055822/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8
Fresh Air interview with the author
http://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2016/07/07/485087604/unbroken-brain-explains-why-tough-treatment-doesnt-help-drug-addicts
Appreciation: The Storied Life of AJ Fikry.
https://www.amazon.com/Storied-Life-J-Fikry-Novel-ebook/dp/B00GU2RLMC/ref=dp_kinw_strp_1
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
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09:57
May 08, 2017

060 An Artist's Approach to Porn Addiction
Musician, filmmaker and creative person Ben Fraser shares some of his ideas about an artist’s take on porn addiction, including changing the narrative, listening to your feelings, and when to ignore your feelings.
Matt Dobschuetz’s Excellent podcast:
http://pornfreeradio.com/
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
Hunt for the Wilderpeople movie
https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/hunt_for_the_wilderpeople
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16:08
August 28, 2016

059 Internet Dating For Porn Addicts
Ben Fraser talks about the specific challenges of internet dating as it relates to recovering porn addicts, including fantasy and projection, taking sex out of the picture, and being a good potential partner.
Matt Dobschuetz’s Porn Free Playbook: http://recoveredman.com/your-porn-free-playbook/
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
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14:11
July 03, 2016

058 After The Breakup
Ben Fraser talks about the challenges of refraining from porn and masturbation in the 7 days immediately after a breakup. He faces the triggers of feeling bad about himself, isolation, and lack of sleep, and offers suggestions on how to cope. Also, is it too early for online dating?
Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
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23:00
April 13, 2016

057 Ben Grosscup Song And Interview
Ben Fraser interviews activist folksinger and organizer Ben Grosscup. Ben G. also sings an original song about internet porn addiction, “Every Day”. Discussion ensues!
Check out Ben Grosscup’s songs on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLCZd4eJIEobjW4r3Nj0FVSuBFyZKYNDaF
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
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14:18
April 06, 2016

056 Feeling The Love
After a 3 month break, the podcast is back! Season 2 of the web series is available now!
http://brickhousewebseries.com/ Ben reflects on how it feels to produce a web series about porn addiction, and reads some feedback from viewers.
Read the feedback: http://brickhousewebseries.com/feedback/
Appreciation: Garry Shandling. Two clips made me laugh like crazy: https://youtu.be/Tg7fis-UY-s https://youtu.be/Cum77Y1Ex0g
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
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11:05
March 30, 2016

055 Happy New Year!
As we think about the New Year, Ben chooses a few key points from the past year that have helped him to quit porn and stay sober.
PornFree Radio episode about making a plan for 2015
http://pornfreeradio.com/057-go-porn-free-in-2016/
Going after a good life - the rat park episode:
https://soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/026-the-rat-park
Appreciation: Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain: http://www.drawright.com/ The Artist’s Way: http://juliacameronlive.com/books-by-julia/the-artists-way-a-spiritual-path-to-higher-creativity/
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv
Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj
09:48
December 31, 2015

054 Self Care
Are you taking good care of yourself? That is a key step in the challenge to quit porn.
Matt Dobschuetz - PornFree Radio episode about making a plan for 2015
http://pornfreeradio.com/057-go-porn-free-in-2016/
Appreciation: Sue Grafton’s books about Kinsey Milhone http://www.suegrafton.com/bookshelf.php
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv
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13:26
December 25, 2015

053 Darkness And Light
Ben Fraser reflects on the challenge of dealing with the darkness in our lives, literally and figuratively.
This 2013 article has some interesting facts about the Winter Solstice: http://mashable.com/2013/12/20/winter-solstice-2013/#ML1cWk1.6sqA
Leonard Cohen song “Anthem” https://youtu.be/_e39UmEnqY8
Appreciation: Holidays!
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
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08:43
December 16, 2015

052 What I Learned From Juggling
How is learning to juggle like learning how to quit porn? Ben Fraser counts the ways.
The show about yoga: https://soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/039-breathe-into-it-things-i-learned-from-yoga
Learn to juggle: https://youtu.be/kCt1bmSASCI
Appreciation: Every Frame a Painting https://www.youtube.com/user/everyframeapainting
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
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09:21
December 10, 2015

051 The Wrong Reasons To Quit
Ben Fraser talks about some of the wrong reasons to quit porn, and eventually gets to the right reason.
Appreciation: Dogs Decoded PBS documentary. Watch on Vimeo for free.https://vimeo.com/19472436
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
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08:37
December 02, 2015

050 Gratitude
As a porn addicts, it’s easy to feel bad about ourselves, or notice how difficult things are. On this Thanksgiving, Ben Fraser takes a moment to think about what we he is thankful for.
Some of the things I am grateful for:
“This must be the place” - Shawn Colvin
https://youtu.be/Aac0X3VpOuU
Allen Toussaint - “The Bright Mississippi”
https://youtu.be/-npYGLxnzzk
Silly videos that make me laugh.
The puppy video
https://vine.co/v/eEZXZI1rqxX
The cat video (“Sail!”)
https://youtu.be/Awf45u6zrP0
Theater that fills me with awe
http://www.doubleedgetheatre.org/traveling-spectacles.html
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
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09:15
November 25, 2015

049 Advice To My Younger Self
Today Ben thinks about what he would say to his younger self about porn, specifically when he was 12 years old. He’s learned a lot in the last 40 years.
Appreciation: Alexander Rhodes, the founder of NoFap. Thanks Alex! http://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
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10:15
November 18, 2015

048 I Wouldn't Date A Woman Who...
Back in Ben’s single days, there were a few woman who he wouldn’t consider dating because of the way they looked. But now he wonders if maybe his porn consumption got in the way of meeting possible partners who might’ve been a good match.
Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact
Appreciation: Artists! Here’s Ira Glass in a short video about creativity: https://vimeo.com/24715531
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
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09:26
November 12, 2015

047 Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places
You may know the old country song by Johnny Lee. Looking at porn is kind of like looking for love in all the wrong places, since porn cannot give you love. But we try anyway!
Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact
Marc Maron's interview with James Taylor http://www.wtfpod.com/podcast/episodes/episode_648_-_james_taylor
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
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09:00
November 05, 2015

046 Entertainment For Men
If you grew up with a certain magazine, then you know that phrase. Ben Fraser talks about how being a man makes us vulnerable to the “sex sells” techniques of capitalism, and encourages everyone to not be a cog in the machine.
Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact
Appreciation: Rise Up Singing and Rise Again Songbooks: https://www.riseupandsing.org/songbooks
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
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10:04
October 28, 2015

045 Feeling Terrible
Most of us use porn to avoid feeling terrible. But the only way to really quit using is to just feel terrible for a while.
Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact
Appreciation: Man On Wire documentary http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/man_on_wire/
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
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07:35
October 22, 2015

044 All I Need
When you’re craving porn, you think it will satisfy your needs. But it never does. What do you really need?
Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact
Appreciation: Bernie Sanders. https://www.facebook.com/berniesanders
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06:50
October 15, 2015

043 Day Four
What it feels like to be on Day Four after a relapse. I hope you learn from my mistakes.
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Appreciation: Naomi Klein. Here’s an interview she did with Bill Maher. https://youtu.be/8vi26l8T1c0
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11:23
October 07, 2015

042 Choose Life (song demo)
The podcast is on a break this week, so Ben Fraser is sharing a demo of a new song from the web series - “Choose Life.” Vocals by Gershon Eigner. The final song will be re-mixed and mastered with new rhythm tracks. This song is an attempt to give advice to someone trying to quit porn, with a few helpful tips to keep in mind.
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04:48
October 01, 2015

041 Ramblings
Ben Fraser speaks on a wide variety of topics, including why he is doing the podcast, how a headache is affecting him, some of his most popular triggers, and the 10% solution to solving all the world’s problems.
Appreciation: Music videos by OK Go.
Rube Goldberg Machine: https://youtu.be/qybUFnY7Y8w
The one in the park: https://youtu.be/V2fpgpanZAw
The one with the dogs: https://youtu.be/nHlJODYBLKs
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13:34
September 23, 2015

040 I Am An Addict, Dammit!
Ben Fraser refutes Dr. David J. Ley’s claim that "the label of 'porn addict' causes depression, but porn watching doesn’t." While shame is indeed an issue, the label isn’t the problem, but in fact can be a solution.
We’re fundraising to make new episodes of the web series! $5 can help a lot!
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The article by David Ley. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/women-who-stray/201509/your-belief-in-porn-addiction-makes-things-worse
Appreciation: Chocolat movie (2000)
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0241303/
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07:46
September 17, 2015

039 Breathe Into It - Things I Learned From Yoga
Ben Fraser has been doing yoga for 34 years. Along the way, he learned a few things that are useful if you want to quit an addiction like porn. For instance, try to “breathe into the pain” instead of numbing it.
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10:17
September 09, 2015

038 My Story - Part 3: Lowest Of The Low
Ben Fraser talks about “hitting bottom” and why he finally decided it was time to quit looking at porn.
We’re fundraising to make new episodes of the web series! $5 can help a lot!
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My story - part 1:
https://soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/004-my-story-part-1
My story - part 2
https://soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/006-my-story-part-2-seeds-of-addiction
The recovery board
http://www.npsupport.net/community/
Appreciation: photography - “Ten Tips for taking photos with your iphone”
http://www.imore.com/ten-tips-taking-great-iphone-photos
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11:01
September 03, 2015

037 Willpower
There’s a common idea that to quit an addiction, you need to have a lot of willpower. But Ben Fraser thinks willpower is only one component to quitting porn addiction, and there are other things more important.
We’re fundraising to make new episodes of the web series! $5 can help a lot!
http://www.igg.me/at/brickhousetv Thanks for checking it out!
Matt Dobschuetz podcast on Making a Plan
http://pornfreeradio.com/042-getting-started-pt-3-your-plan/
My own recovery plan from 2006.
http://brickhousewebseries.com/files/Recovery_Plan.pdf
Appreciation: The Demo Diva http://www.wnyc.org/story/in-new-orleans-becoming-demo-diva/
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07:10
August 26, 2015

036 Give Yourself A Break
If you’re an addict, your idea of taking a break is probably doing the addictive behavior, If you quit the addictive behavior, it’s sometimes hard to figure out what to do to relax.
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How to check out a movie to see if the content might be triggering: Check out http://www.kids-in-mind.com/
Or go to IMDB.com, and type in the title of a film or TV show that you want to see. When the page for the film in question comes up, scroll down, past the rating, past the cast listing, until you get to the “Storyline” section. Right after the MPAA rating, it says “Parent’s Guide” Click on “View content advisory.”
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08:32
August 19, 2015

035 Good Sex
Ben Fraser wonders what good sex really looks like. Is it something we are used to seeing, or is it completely different?
Dr. Ruth: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ruth_Westheimer
Appreciation: Easy-going people
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09:56
August 12, 2015

034 How Does It Feel?
Ben Fraser walks through a hypothetical porn experience and examines the feelings along the way. Obviously, there’s some pleasure. But what other feelings come along for the ride?
Appreciation: Tune In: The Beatles: All These Years by Mark Lewisohn
http://www.amazon.com/Tune-In-Beatles-These-Years/dp/1400083052/
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11:10
August 06, 2015

033 I Am You
Being an addict is no fun. But if you look around, you may notice that everyone else around you is addicted to something, whether it’s porn, or caffeine or sugar, or just bad TV. This means that addiction can give us compassion. And that is a kind of gift.
Appreciation: Stickers!
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06:57
July 30, 2015

032 Entitlement and Deprivation
Ben Fraser examines how, as addicts, we might feel entitled to look at porn, because we feel deprived. We feel like we deserve it. But maybe there are better ways to think about it.
Check out other episodes (including the missing #31) here:
https://soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19
An Honest Liar movie about The Amazing Randi
http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/an_honest_liar/
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08:34
July 23, 2015

030 The Turning Point
Ben Fraser reflects on what it’s like to be in the middle of a binge, and then re-commit to sobriety. He also talks about the feelings that come up when deleting a stash.
Appreciation: the Pixar Movie “Inside Out” http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/inside_out_2015/
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08:02
July 09, 2015

029 Starting Over
Ben Fraser talks about his strategy for starting over after a slip. This method works for him. What works for you?
Appreciation: Community Fireworks
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07:35
July 02, 2015

028 Asking For Help
Ben Fraser wonders why asking for help is so difficult, when it’s so obvious that we need it. What kind of help can you get if you are trying to quit porn? And how much should you lean on your significant other?
A great list of ways to get support:
http://yourbrainonporn.com/discussion-board
Appreciation: Live music in the park.
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09:22
June 24, 2015

027 Father's Day
Ben Fraser talks how his father’s magazines were his first exposure to pornography, and an alternative to blaming. How do you stop addiction when it’s passed down from father to son?
Appreciation: The library
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Library
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11:53
June 17, 2015

026 The Rat Park
Ben Fraser talks about the Rat Park experiments of Bruce Alexander. What happens to rats who get addicted to morphine? And how do they become drug free?
A great cartoon explanation of the Rat Park idea.
http://www.stuartmcmillen.com/comics_en/rat-park/
Bruce Alexander’s account of the Rat Park, with photos.
http://www.brucekalexander.com/articles-speeches/rat-park/148-addiction-the-view-from-rat-park
I first heard about the Rat Park from Johan Hari’s Book “Chasing the Scream.”
http://www.powells.com/biblio/1-9781620408902-0
Huffington post article about Chasing the Scream
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/johann-hari/the-real-cause-of-addicti_b_6506936.htmlea
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Appreciation: Cooking!
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05:54
June 11, 2015

025 Opening Your Heart
Ben Fraser talks about how opening your heart might be key to recovery from porn addiciton.
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Appreciation: bike paths! Find trails in your area:
http://www.traillink.com/
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09:33
June 04, 2015

024 Update
Ben Fraser shares updates about his recovery, trigger challenges, and his recent guest appearance on an internet radio talk show. He also explores the question of what tolerance might mean in porn addiction.
The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555
News podcast: http://www.npr.org/podcasts/500005/hourly-news-summary
Appreciation: The Cartoon Introduction to Climate Change by Yoram Bauman and Grady Klein http://islandpress.org/cartoon-introduction-climate-change
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08:33
May 28, 2015

023 Springtime!
Spring brings some challenges for the recovering porn addict. The winter coats are gone and it’s easier to see the shapes of people’s bodies, so how do we keep focused on recovery when temptations are more apparent?
Appreciation: Social Dancing! Here’s some videos on how to swing dance.
http://www.howcast.com/guides/968-how-to-swing-dance/
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07:58
May 21, 2015

022 Three Short Stories
Ben reads three short stories related to the struggles of porn addiction. Do you have any stories that you’d like to share? Pass them along!
Poem by Portia Nelson about the hole in the sidewalk
http://www.simplybeing.org.uk/index.php/poetry/89-autobiography-in-five-short-chapters-by-portia-nelson
Dog on a Nail story:
https://philipchircop.wordpress.com/2013/02/15/get-off-the-nail/
The version I heard was by Amanda Palmer, from The Art of Asking.
Feed the right wolf story:
http://www.firstpeople.us/FP-Html-Legends/TwoWolves-Cherokee.html
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08:56
May 14, 2015

021 Accepting The Present
Ben takes a road trip and talks about acceptance and being present. Porn is a great escape. But if we can be more satisfied with the present, porn and other drugs will be less appealing.
James Taylor’s song “The Secret O’ Life”
https://youtu.be/sW7Z1VttPKk
Appreciation: The Magicians by Lev Grossman
http://www.powells.com/biblio/17-9780452296299-4
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09:59
May 07, 2015

020 Ben Fraser Interviewed By Jeremy Jones (Tea And Crumpets Podcast)
Ben Fraser gets interviewed by Jeremy Jones for the Tea and Crumpets Podcast and answers questions about the Brick House Web Series. Topics include how the series developed, new cast for Season 2, and why he chose “quitting porn” as the theme.
- By the way, in case you are wondering, there is no such thing as the Tea and Crumpets podcast. ;)
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09:18
April 30, 2015

019 You Are Still Good
Ben reminds every one struggling with addictive behaviors that feeling bad about yourself doesn’t help. If you have a set back, how can you turn things around so you feel better?
Appreciation: http://pornfreeradio.com/027-how-idiots-track-success/ A podcast by Matt Dobschuetz about 5 additional ways to measure success besides counting sober days.
Another episode that relates to the topic - knowing that you are lovable.
http://pornfreeradio.com/002-unlovable/
Ben refers to the 1981 movie “American Werewolf in London,” but does not recommend it because it has some potentially triggering scenes. Sorry guys! We can’t watch “R” rated movies from the ‘80s.
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07:53
April 23, 2015

018 Checking In
Ben does a check-in about the challenges of staying sober this week, including unexpected triggers like helping a friend with computer stuff.
Appreciation: Iyengar Yoga:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Iyengar_Yoga
Want to do the “legs up the wall pose/” It’s actually called“Viparita Karani” and it’s very easy to do. http://www.yogajournal.com/pose/legs-up-the-wall-pose/
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10:22
April 16, 2015

017 Ignoring The Obvious
Sometimes you can get caught up in the addiction and ignore the obvious things you can do to quit. Ben talks about H.A.L.T.S., which stands for Hungry, Anxious, Lonely, Tired, and Stressed. (Some people think the “A” stands for Angry, which works too!)
More about HALT: http://www.balboahorizons.com/halt-staying-sober-how-to-avoid-a-relapse-in-recovery/
If you can prevent yourself from feeling these triggers, it’s a lot easier to avoid the addictive behavior. For instance, if sleep is the trigger, then get more sleep! Here’s a site with some tips for getting more sleep.
http://sleepfoundation.org/sleep-tools-tips/healthy-sleep-tips
Appreciation: 2002 movie “About Schmidt” starring Jack Nicholson.
http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/about_schmidt/
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07:55
April 09, 2015

016 A Little Seed Of Hope (Song)
The podcast is on vacation this week, so Ben is sharing a song. Originally written and recorded in 2008, Ben was wrestling with urges on a daily basis. The process of writing and recording the song helped him get through a difficult time. He hopes it will inspire you as well.
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04:39
April 01, 2015

015 Beautiful Girls
This phrase, often used in porn, seems harmless, but what are we saying when we use it? How are men and women affected by standards of beauty that are portrayed in the porn industry and commercial culture?
Appreciation: http://www.beautyredefined.net/lessons-from-porn-women-are-objects/ This article talks about how women and men are affected by the portrayal of women in pornography.
Photoshopping real women into Cover models
https://youtu.be/zRlpIkH3b5I
“Dove Evolution” how a model is photoshopped for an ad.
https://youtu.be/iYhCn0jf46U
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12:21
March 26, 2015

014 Not Enough Porn In The World
The internet is full of porn, but Ben thinks that it is still not enough. He’ll tell you why that is, and also what happened recently when he had a relapse after 498 days of sobriety.
Appreciation: Gary Wilson’s website: http://yourbrainonporn.com/ Also, check out Gary’s TED talk The Great Porn Experiment https://youtu.be/wSF82AwSDiU
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13:43
March 19, 2015

013 That Would Be Telling
Ben answers a question from Chris about when and how to tell a significant other about his porn habit. The answer is: it depends. But you should definitely tell.
Appreciation: The NoFap (no masturbation) community at Reddit. Find some people who are struggling with the same thing you are.
http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/
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11:44
March 12, 2015

012 Is Porn Bad?
The answer may not be what you think. In any case, it doesn’t help to feel guilt or shame about it. Ben continues his discussion with Jim from episode 9.
Appreciation: Johann Hari article about real causes of addiction. Hopeful and fascinating.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/johann-hari/the-real-cause-of-addicti_b_6506936.html
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08:20
March 05, 2015

011 Fifty Shades Of Grey
Ben hasn’t watched it, but he still has a lot to say about it. What’s it like to be a recovering porn addict and be inundated with the media frenzy regarding a popular book and movie that is about a BDSM relationship?
Here’s a movie that Ben recommends you watch instead: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
http://youtu.be/lnSgSe2GzDc
Appreciation: Free Ebook - Ten Keys to Breaking Pornography Addiction.
http://www.no-porn.com/#!tenkeys/cjg9
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08:00
February 26, 2015

010 Snowed In!
Ben Fraser was recently snowed in at a motel far from home with nothing to do. Triggers! Hear how he dealt with real triggers in real time, without relapsing!
More advice for traveling porn free by Matt Dobschuetz: http://pornfreeradio.com/005-pornfree-travel-hotel-tips-and-trip-planning/
Appreciation: Ran Gavrieli Why I Stopped Watching Porn. http://youtu.be/gRJ_QfP2mhU
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13:26
February 19, 2015

009 Joking Around With Jim
There’s a lot of laughing going on during this episode when Ben talks to a guy who uses humor to help ease the tension when talking about quitting porn. Jim quit looking at porn over 8 years ago, and is one of the key people who helped Ben quit himself.
Appreciation: the Dalai Lama: https://www.facebook.com/DalaiLama
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11:36
February 12, 2015

008 Aliens Attack! Radio Play By Ben Fraser
An original comedy radio play is featured this week. What happens when aliens try to attack Earth? How can the Earthlings resist if they are in a porn-induced stupor?
Appreciation: The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg http://www.powells.com/biblio/2-9780812981605-3
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09:05
February 05, 2015

007 A Year Without Porn
Ben Fraser talks about what he did to make it through one year without porn, including exercise, counseling, compassion for yourself, and not counting days.
Appreciation: Matt Dobschuetz at http://www.PornfreeRadio.com
Craig Perra http://www.themindfulhabit.com/
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08:42
January 29, 2015

006 My Story - Part 2 Seeds Of Addiction
Telling stories of early struggles can be a great step in the recovery process. Combine porn magazines, a sex education book, and feelings of isolation and shame, what do you get? But it’s not your fault.
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09:08
January 22, 2015

005 I'm Not An Addict! Am I?
Ben Fraser talks about the word “addiction” in regards to a porn habit, and says why he thinks it applies to himself. And how is compassion related to addiction?
Links: Dr. Gabor Maté’s book “In the Realm of the Hungry Ghosts” http://bit.ly/1xtVs6E
Fantastic article about addiction: http://huff.to/1yLbpIi
Excellent discussion of “Porn Addiction Myth” by Luke Gilkerson (Covenant Eyes) http://bit.ly/1Bm9yIG
Controversial article by Dr. David Ley - “Porn is not the Problem” http://bit.ly/1mbYPJd
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07:28
January 15, 2015

004 My Story - Part 1
Telling our stories can be a way to end feelings of isolation. You may recognize yourself in Ben's story of how he first encountered pornography as a kid, and how it led to addiction. Yes, there was a time before porn!
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09:35
January 08, 2015

003 Why I Quit Porn
Reasons Ben Fraser quit porn. If you are trying to quit, you may sometimes forget why you are doing it. Here are some reasons that have been useful to Ben in his recovery. What are some reasons that have worked for you? Add your comments in iTunes, or on Soundcloud.
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09:32
January 01, 2015

002 How To Deal With How You Feel
How do you deal with the feelings that come up when you quit an addiction? Ben Fraser gives you some tips. More info at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com
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06:28
December 26, 2014

001 Quitting Porn - The Hero's Journey
Ben Fraser talks about how quitting porn is like the Hero's Journey as described by Joseph Campbell. What is your "Call to Adventure?" Who are your allies? Who are your enemies?
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08:04
December 03, 2014