After a hiatus, Ben Fraser returns to podcasting and reintroduces himself and his perspective on quitting porn. It’s a worthwhile journey! Links: Matt Dobschuetz’s PornFree Radio podcast https://recoveredman.com/024-creativity-and-recovery-with-ben-fraser-creator-of-brick-house/ Unwanted - book by Jay Stringer https://jay-stringer.com/book/ Contact Ben or watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben is angry today. That’s a trigger, but so is anxiety. Is porn use the best way to deal with these feelings? Probably not. Somatic Experiencing: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somatic_experiencing Appreciation: Brené Brown https://www.newsweek.com/brene-brown-netflix-special-vulnerability-quotes-ted-talk-call-courage-1400956 Contact Ben or watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben tells the story of a recent “disaster” at an open mic performance. Rather than being mad about it, he laughed instead. Appreciation: Amazon Alexa Echo Dot. https://amzn.to/2FMl8Vt Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

God rest ye merry gentlemen Let nothing you dismay Remember Christ our Savior Was born on Christmas Day To save us all from Satan's pow'r When we were gone astray Oh tidings of comfort and joy Comfort and joy Oh tidings of comfort and joy Music this week by Sharon Jones & the Dap Kings “God Rest Ye Merry Gents” https://youtu.be/UewEIBZ7VHM Check out the new movie - “Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse” Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

This week Ben answers a question from a listener (and accountability partner) about ogling. It seems like it can easily be an edging behavior. How can we change that pattern? Appreciations: Dear Sugars podcast about dating an addict https://www.wbur.org/dearsugar/2017/12/02/a-spy-in-the-house-of-love-with-ariel-levy Without Fail podcast interview with Ira Glass about being a mentor. https://www.gimletmedia.com/without-fail/ira-glass Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Porn offers the persistent fantasy that women exist in order to please men. But that doesn’t match up with reality very well. Or does it? Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

It may be that some of the triggers that cause you to act out have to do with major aspects of your life - like relationships and work - and the only solution is to make major changes in the underlying structure of your life. Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Every decision you make in your daily life is a vote for the kind of person you want to be - whether it’s an athlete, a musician, or a person with a healthy sexuality. Inspired by James Clear’s book Atomic Habits.https://jamesclear.com/ Matt Dobschuetz Porn Free Radio Podcast: https://recoveredman.com/category/pfr/ Meditation app: Headspace:https://www.headspace.com/ Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben muses on what it takes to change your habits permanently. What is sustainable and what’s not? Darya Rose Foodist Podcast - ideas about sustainability - https://soundcloud.com/darya-pino-rose/dr-yoni-freedhoff-why-you-must-like-your-life-if-you-want-to-keep-weight-off Darya Rose interview with James Clear - systems are more important than goals. https://soundcloud.com/darya-pino-rose/james-clear-the-4-laws-of-behavior-change Appreciation: Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Major events can show us that life is short, and precious. Do we want to spend it pursuing compulsive behavior, or in finding love and compassion with those we are close to? Appreciation: Libby https://meet.libbyapp.com/. Borrow thousands of ebooks and audiobooks free from your library for free. Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben had a relapse, which is a drag. But what did he learn from it? And what can you learn from his mistakes? Appreciation: Vacations! Take more of them. Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

This week, Ben talks about a simple strategy to deal with times when your sobriety is more vulnerable. Hint: it may have something to do with connection. Appreciation: Johann Hari’s book: Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions. http://a.co/0zogguW Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

If you are an addict, it’s easy to get discouraged that things will never change. Ben Fraser says that change is not only possible, it’s unavoidable. There is hope! This episode was inspired by an Invisibilia podcast. https://www.npr.org/programs/invisibilia/482836315/the-personality-myth Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

You might think that porn ruined your life. But is it possible that it also saved your life? Ben Fraser explores the impact of compulsive porn use on his early life. Foodist Podcast with Darya Rose https://soundcloud.com/darya-pino-rose/how-to-stop-yourself-from-nighttime-bingeing Appreciation: Science Vs. Guns https://www.gimletmedia.com/science-vs/guns Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

As Harvey Weinstein goes to court to face charges of rape, Ben Fraser reflects on what meaning the #MeToo movement has for those of us struggling with porn addiction. Tea and Consent: https://youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8 Slate Interview with Weinstein accusers. https://slate.com/arts/2017/11/harvey-weinsteins-accusers-in-conversation.html Fresh Air interview with Tig Notaro (partly on Louis CK) https://www.npr.org/2018/05/16/611585606/comic-tig-notaro-wants-you-to-know-shes-happy-to-be-here Appreciation: The Hamilton Soundtrack https://soundcloud.com/user-247547064/hamilton-an-american-musical-full-soundtrack Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser reflects on how resisting something might actually make us more likely to engage in the behavior, and how to deal with that. Also, are current events triggering you? Appreciation: The Instant Pot! http://a.co/d9DQaNR Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

In this practical episode, Ben Fraser talks about three tools that have been very useful in his recovery - a filter, meditation, and the FAST check in. A filter that Ben uses: https://x3watch.com/ A meditation app that Ben likes: https://www.headspace.com/headspace-meditation-app F.A.S.T. check-ins. http://recoveredman.com/106-back-2-basics-f-a-s-t-t-check-ins/ Appreciation: Thunderstruck by Erik Larson http://eriklarsonbooks.com/the-books/thunderstruck/ Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser discusses how porn is like junk food. Consuming it gives you nothing of value, and is a poor substitute for what you really want. Inspired by Darya Rose’s class on Creative Live called “Lose Weight without Dieting.” https://cr8.lv/2HhJaep Also check out her Foodist podcast. http://www.summertomato.com/podcast And her website, Summer Tomato: http://www.summertomato.com/ Appreciation: Michael Pollan’s book “In Defense of Food.”: https://amzn.to/2JeT0KD Special thanks also to Kevin, Cameron, Thomas and InProgress for encouraging me to podcast again! Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

It’s easy for a consumer of porn to forget that there is a human being behind the photos and images. And that smile is probably fake. Ben Fraser tells the story of one woman who got involved in the porn industry in the late 70s, and how her life was destroyed by it. This podcast was inspired by an episode of the wonderful podcast: “You Must Remember This” by Karina Longworth. http://www.youmustrememberthispodcast.com/episodes/2017/4/20/dorothy-stratten-dead-blondes-episode-13 A pulitzer prize winning article on this subject from 1980. http://reprints.longform.org/death-of-a-playmate Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser reviews “Unbroken Brain” by Maia Szalavitz, and discusses why adolescents are more vulnerable to addiction and why kindness and hope is most helpful to treating addiction. The book: https://www.amazon.com/Unbroken-Brain-Revolutionary-Understanding-Addiction/dp/1250055822/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8 Fresh Air interview with the author http://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2016/07/07/485087604/unbroken-brain-explains-why-tough-treatment-doesnt-help-drug-addicts Appreciation: The Storied Life of AJ Fikry. https://www.amazon.com/Storied-Life-J-Fikry-Novel-ebook/dp/B00GU2RLMC/ref=dp_kinw_strp_1 Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Musician, filmmaker and creative person Ben Fraser shares some of his ideas about an artist’s take on porn addiction, including changing the narrative, listening to your feelings, and when to ignore your feelings. Matt Dobschuetz’s Excellent podcast: http://pornfreeradio.com/ Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Hunt for the Wilderpeople movie https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/hunt_for_the_wilderpeople Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser talks about the specific challenges of internet dating as it relates to recovering porn addicts, including fantasy and projection, taking sex out of the picture, and being a good potential partner. Matt Dobschuetz’s Porn Free Playbook: http://recoveredman.com/your-porn-free-playbook/ Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser talks about the challenges of refraining from porn and masturbation in the 7 days immediately after a breakup. He faces the triggers of feeling bad about himself, isolation, and lack of sleep, and offers suggestions on how to cope. Also, is it too early for online dating? Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser interviews activist folksinger and organizer Ben Grosscup. Ben G. also sings an original song about internet porn addiction, “Every Day”. Discussion ensues! Check out Ben Grosscup’s songs on YouTube! https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLCZd4eJIEobjW4r3Nj0FVSuBFyZKYNDaF The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

After a 3 month break, the podcast is back! Season 2 of the web series is available now! http://brickhousewebseries.com/ Ben reflects on how it feels to produce a web series about porn addiction, and reads some feedback from viewers. Read the feedback: http://brickhousewebseries.com/feedback/ Appreciation: Garry Shandling. Two clips made me laugh like crazy: https://youtu.be/Tg7fis-UY-s https://youtu.be/Cum77Y1Ex0g The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

As we think about the New Year, Ben chooses a few key points from the past year that have helped him to quit porn and stay sober. PornFree Radio episode about making a plan for 2015 http://pornfreeradio.com/057-go-porn-free-in-2016/ Going after a good life - the rat park episode: https://soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/026-the-rat-park Appreciation: Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain: http://www.drawright.com/ The Artist’s Way: http://juliacameronlive.com/books-by-julia/the-artists-way-a-spiritual-path-to-higher-creativity/ The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Are you taking good care of yourself? That is a key step in the challenge to quit porn. Matt Dobschuetz - PornFree Radio episode about making a plan for 2015 http://pornfreeradio.com/057-go-porn-free-in-2016/ Appreciation: Sue Grafton’s books about Kinsey Milhone http://www.suegrafton.com/bookshelf.php The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser reflects on the challenge of dealing with the darkness in our lives, literally and figuratively. This 2013 article has some interesting facts about the Winter Solstice: http://mashable.com/2013/12/20/winter-solstice-2013/#ML1cWk1.6sqA Leonard Cohen song “Anthem” https://youtu.be/_e39UmEnqY8 Appreciation: Holidays! The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

How is learning to juggle like learning how to quit porn? Ben Fraser counts the ways. The show about yoga: https://soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/039-breathe-into-it-things-i-learned-from-yoga Learn to juggle: https://youtu.be/kCt1bmSASCI Appreciation: Every Frame a Painting https://www.youtube.com/user/everyframeapainting The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser talks about some of the wrong reasons to quit porn, and eventually gets to the right reason. Appreciation: Dogs Decoded PBS documentary. Watch on Vimeo for free.https://vimeo.com/19472436 The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

As a porn addicts, it’s easy to feel bad about ourselves, or notice how difficult things are. On this Thanksgiving, Ben Fraser takes a moment to think about what we he is thankful for. Some of the things I am grateful for: “This must be the place” - Shawn Colvin https://youtu.be/Aac0X3VpOuU Allen Toussaint - “The Bright Mississippi” https://youtu.be/-npYGLxnzzk Silly videos that make me laugh. The puppy video https://vine.co/v/eEZXZI1rqxX The cat video (“Sail!”) https://youtu.be/Awf45u6zrP0 Theater that fills me with awe http://www.doubleedgetheatre.org/traveling-spectacles.html The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Today Ben thinks about what he would say to his younger self about porn, specifically when he was 12 years old. He’s learned a lot in the last 40 years. Appreciation: Alexander Rhodes, the founder of NoFap. Thanks Alex! http://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Back in Ben’s single days, there were a few woman who he wouldn’t consider dating because of the way they looked. But now he wonders if maybe his porn consumption got in the way of meeting possible partners who might’ve been a good match. Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Appreciation: Artists! Here’s Ira Glass in a short video about creativity: https://vimeo.com/24715531 The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

You may know the old country song by Johnny Lee. Looking at porn is kind of like looking for love in all the wrong places, since porn cannot give you love. But we try anyway! Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Marc Maron's interview with James Taylor http://www.wtfpod.com/podcast/episodes/episode_648_-_james_taylor The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

If you grew up with a certain magazine, then you know that phrase. Ben Fraser talks about how being a man makes us vulnerable to the “sex sells” techniques of capitalism, and encourages everyone to not be a cog in the machine. Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Appreciation: Rise Up Singing and Rise Again Songbooks: https://www.riseupandsing.org/songbooks The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Most of us use porn to avoid feeling terrible. But the only way to really quit using is to just feel terrible for a while. Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Appreciation: Man On Wire documentary http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/man_on_wire/ The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

When you’re craving porn, you think it will satisfy your needs. But it never does. What do you really need? Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Appreciation: Bernie Sanders. https://www.facebook.com/berniesanders The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

What it feels like to be on Day Four after a relapse. I hope you learn from my mistakes. Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Appreciation: Naomi Klein. Here’s an interview she did with Bill Maher. https://youtu.be/8vi26l8T1c0 The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

The podcast is on a break this week, so Ben Fraser is sharing a demo of a new song from the web series - “Choose Life.” Vocals by Gershon Eigner. The final song will be re-mixed and mastered with new rhythm tracks. This song is an attempt to give advice to someone trying to quit porn, with a few helpful tips to keep in mind. The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com I’d love to hear from you! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser speaks on a wide variety of topics, including why he is doing the podcast, how a headache is affecting him, some of his most popular triggers, and the 10% solution to solving all the world’s problems. Appreciation: Music videos by OK Go. Rube Goldberg Machine: https://youtu.be/qybUFnY7Y8w The one in the park: https://youtu.be/V2fpgpanZAw The one with the dogs: https://youtu.be/nHlJODYBLKs The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com I’d love to hear from you! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser refutes Dr. David J. Ley’s claim that "the label of 'porn addict' causes depression, but porn watching doesn’t." While shame is indeed an issue, the label isn’t the problem, but in fact can be a solution. We’re fundraising to make new episodes of the web series! $5 can help a lot! http://www.igg.me/at/brickhousetv Thanks for checking it out! The article by David Ley. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/women-who-stray/201509/your-belief-in-porn-addiction-makes-things-worse Appreciation: Chocolat movie (2000) http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0241303/ The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com I’d love to hear from you! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser has been doing yoga for 34 years. Along the way, he learned a few things that are useful if you want to quit an addiction like porn. For instance, try to “breathe into the pain” instead of numbing it. We’re fundraising to make new episodes of the web series! $5 can help a lot! http://www.igg.me/at/brickhousetv Thanks for checking it out! The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com I’d love to hear from you! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser talks about “hitting bottom” and why he finally decided it was time to quit looking at porn. We’re fundraising to make new episodes of the web series! $5 can help a lot! http://www.igg.me/at/brickhousetv Thanks for checking it out! My story - part 1: https://soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/004-my-story-part-1 My story - part 2 https://soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/006-my-story-part-2-seeds-of-addiction The recovery board http://www.npsupport.net/community/ Appreciation: photography - “Ten Tips for taking photos with your iphone” http://www.imore.com/ten-tips-taking-great-iphone-photos The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com I’d love to hear from you! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

There’s a common idea that to quit an addiction, you need to have a lot of willpower. But Ben Fraser thinks willpower is only one component to quitting porn addiction, and there are other things more important. We’re fundraising to make new episodes of the web series! $5 can help a lot! http://www.igg.me/at/brickhousetv Thanks for checking it out! Matt Dobschuetz podcast on Making a Plan http://pornfreeradio.com/042-getting-started-pt-3-your-plan/ My own recovery plan from 2006. http://brickhousewebseries.com/files/Recovery_Plan.pdf Appreciation: The Demo Diva http://www.wnyc.org/story/in-new-orleans-becoming-demo-diva/ The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com I’d love to hear from you! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

If you’re an addict, your idea of taking a break is probably doing the addictive behavior, If you quit the addictive behavior, it’s sometimes hard to figure out what to do to relax. We’re fundraising to make new episodes of the web series! $5 can help a lot! http://www.igg.me/at/brickhousetv Thanks for checking it out! How to check out a movie to see if the content might be triggering: Check out http://www.kids-in-mind.com/ Or go to IMDB.com, and type in the title of a film or TV show that you want to see. When the page for the film in question comes up, scroll down, past the rating, past the cast listing, until you get to the “Storyline” section. Right after the MPAA rating, it says “Parent’s Guide” Click on “View content advisory.” The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com I’d love to hear from you! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser wonders what good sex really looks like. Is it something we are used to seeing, or is it completely different? Dr. Ruth: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ruth_Westheimer Appreciation: Easy-going people The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com I'd love to hear from you! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser walks through a hypothetical porn experience and examines the feelings along the way. Obviously, there’s some pleasure. But what other feelings come along for the ride? Appreciation: Tune In: The Beatles: All These Years by Mark Lewisohn http://www.amazon.com/Tune-In-Beatles-These-Years/dp/1400083052/ The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Being an addict is no fun. But if you look around, you may notice that everyone else around you is addicted to something, whether it’s porn, or caffeine or sugar, or just bad TV. This means that addiction can give us compassion. And that is a kind of gift. Appreciation: Stickers! The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser examines how, as addicts, we might feel entitled to look at porn, because we feel deprived. We feel like we deserve it. But maybe there are better ways to think about it. Check out other episodes (including the missing #31) here: https://soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19 An Honest Liar movie about The Amazing Randi http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/an_honest_liar/ The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser reflects on what it’s like to be in the middle of a binge, and then re-commit to sobriety. He also talks about the feelings that come up when deleting a stash. Appreciation: the Pixar Movie “Inside Out” http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/inside_out_2015/ The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser talks about his strategy for starting over after a slip. This method works for him. What works for you? Appreciation: Community Fireworks The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you want to send wods of encouragement, or tell me about where you are in your recovery, go to: http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser wonders why asking for help is so difficult, when it’s so obvious that we need it. What kind of help can you get if you are trying to quit porn? And how much should you lean on your significant other? A great list of ways to get support: http://yourbrainonporn.com/discussion-board Appreciation: Live music in the park. The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser talks how his father’s magazines were his first exposure to pornography, and an alternative to blaming. How do you stop addiction when it’s passed down from father to son? Appreciation: The library https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Library The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser talks about the Rat Park experiments of Bruce Alexander. What happens to rats who get addicted to morphine? And how do they become drug free? A great cartoon explanation of the Rat Park idea. http://www.stuartmcmillen.com/comics_en/rat-park/ Bruce Alexander’s account of the Rat Park, with photos. http://www.brucekalexander.com/articles-speeches/rat-park/148-addiction-the-view-from-rat-park I first heard about the Rat Park from Johan Hari’s Book “Chasing the Scream.” http://www.powells.com/biblio/1-9781620408902-0 Huffington post article about Chasing the Scream http://www.huffingtonpost.com/johann-hari/the-real-cause-of-addicti_b_6506936.htmlea The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Appreciation: Cooking! Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser talks about how opening your heart might be key to recovery from porn addiciton. The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Appreciation: bike paths! Find trails in your area: http://www.traillink.com/ Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser shares updates about his recovery, trigger challenges, and his recent guest appearance on an internet radio talk show. He also explores the question of what tolerance might mean in porn addiction. The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 News podcast: http://www.npr.org/podcasts/500005/hourly-news-summary Appreciation: The Cartoon Introduction to Climate Change by Yoram Bauman and Grady Klein http://islandpress.org/cartoon-introduction-climate-change Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Contact Ben at: http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Spring brings some challenges for the recovering porn addict. The winter coats are gone and it’s easier to see the shapes of people’s bodies, so how do we keep focused on recovery when temptations are more apparent? Appreciation: Social Dancing! Here’s some videos on how to swing dance. http://www.howcast.com/guides/968-how-to-swing-dance/ Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben reads three short stories related to the struggles of porn addiction. Do you have any stories that you’d like to share? Pass them along! Poem by Portia Nelson about the hole in the sidewalk http://www.simplybeing.org.uk/index.php/poetry/89-autobiography-in-five-short-chapters-by-portia-nelson Dog on a Nail story: https://philipchircop.wordpress.com/2013/02/15/get-off-the-nail/ The version I heard was by Amanda Palmer, from The Art of Asking. Feed the right wolf story: http://www.firstpeople.us/FP-Html-Legends/TwoWolves-Cherokee.html Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben takes a road trip and talks about acceptance and being present. Porn is a great escape. But if we can be more satisfied with the present, porn and other drugs will be less appealing. James Taylor’s song “The Secret O’ Life” https://youtu.be/sW7Z1VttPKk Appreciation: The Magicians by Lev Grossman http://www.powells.com/biblio/17-9780452296299-4 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser gets interviewed by Jeremy Jones for the Tea and Crumpets Podcast and answers questions about the Brick House Web Series. Topics include how the series developed, new cast for Season 2, and why he chose “quitting porn” as the theme. - By the way, in case you are wondering, there is no such thing as the Tea and Crumpets podcast. ;) Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben reminds every one struggling with addictive behaviors that feeling bad about yourself doesn’t help. If you have a set back, how can you turn things around so you feel better? Appreciation: http://pornfreeradio.com/027-how-idiots-track-success/ A podcast by Matt Dobschuetz about 5 additional ways to measure success besides counting sober days. Another episode that relates to the topic - knowing that you are lovable. http://pornfreeradio.com/002-unlovable/ Ben refers to the 1981 movie “American Werewolf in London,” but does not recommend it because it has some potentially triggering scenes. Sorry guys! We can’t watch “R” rated movies from the ‘80s. Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben does a check-in about the challenges of staying sober this week, including unexpected triggers like helping a friend with computer stuff. Appreciation: Iyengar Yoga:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Iyengar_Yoga Want to do the “legs up the wall pose/” It’s actually called“Viparita Karani” and it’s very easy to do. http://www.yogajournal.com/pose/legs-up-the-wall-pose/ Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Sometimes you can get caught up in the addiction and ignore the obvious things you can do to quit. Ben talks about H.A.L.T.S., which stands for Hungry, Anxious, Lonely, Tired, and Stressed. (Some people think the “A” stands for Angry, which works too!) More about HALT: http://www.balboahorizons.com/halt-staying-sober-how-to-avoid-a-relapse-in-recovery/ If you can prevent yourself from feeling these triggers, it’s a lot easier to avoid the addictive behavior. For instance, if sleep is the trigger, then get more sleep! Here’s a site with some tips for getting more sleep. http://sleepfoundation.org/sleep-tools-tips/healthy-sleep-tips Appreciation: 2002 movie “About Schmidt” starring Jack Nicholson. http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/about_schmidt/ Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

The podcast is on vacation this week, so Ben is sharing a song. Originally written and recorded in 2008, Ben was wrestling with urges on a daily basis. The process of writing and recording the song helped him get through a difficult time. He hopes it will inspire you as well. Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

This phrase, often used in porn, seems harmless, but what are we saying when we use it? How are men and women affected by standards of beauty that are portrayed in the porn industry and commercial culture? Appreciation: http://www.beautyredefined.net/lessons-from-porn-women-are-objects/ This article talks about how women and men are affected by the portrayal of women in pornography. Photoshopping real women into Cover models https://youtu.be/zRlpIkH3b5I “Dove Evolution” how a model is photoshopped for an ad. https://youtu.be/iYhCn0jf46U Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

The internet is full of porn, but Ben thinks that it is still not enough. He’ll tell you why that is, and also what happened recently when he had a relapse after 498 days of sobriety. Appreciation: Gary Wilson’s website: http://yourbrainonporn.com/ Also, check out Gary’s TED talk The Great Porn Experiment https://youtu.be/wSF82AwSDiU Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben answers a question from Chris about when and how to tell a significant other about his porn habit. The answer is: it depends. But you should definitely tell. Appreciation: The NoFap (no masturbation) community at Reddit. Find some people who are struggling with the same thing you are. http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/ Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

The answer may not be what you think. In any case, it doesn’t help to feel guilt or shame about it. Ben continues his discussion with Jim from episode 9. Appreciation: Johann Hari article about real causes of addiction. Hopeful and fascinating. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/johann-hari/the-real-cause-of-addicti_b_6506936.html Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben hasn’t watched it, but he still has a lot to say about it. What’s it like to be a recovering porn addict and be inundated with the media frenzy regarding a popular book and movie that is about a BDSM relationship? Here’s a movie that Ben recommends you watch instead: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind http://youtu.be/lnSgSe2GzDc Appreciation: Free Ebook - Ten Keys to Breaking Pornography Addiction. http://www.no-porn.com/#!tenkeys/cjg9 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser was recently snowed in at a motel far from home with nothing to do. Triggers! Hear how he dealt with real triggers in real time, without relapsing! More advice for traveling porn free by Matt Dobschuetz: http://pornfreeradio.com/005-pornfree-travel-hotel-tips-and-trip-planning/ Appreciation: Ran Gavrieli Why I Stopped Watching Porn. http://youtu.be/gRJ_QfP2mhU Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are listening to this, please let me know! http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or give a review on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

There’s a lot of laughing going on during this episode when Ben talks to a guy who uses humor to help ease the tension when talking about quitting porn. Jim quit looking at porn over 8 years ago, and is one of the key people who helped Ben quit himself. Appreciation: the Dalai Lama: https://www.facebook.com/DalaiLama Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com I’d love to hear what you think: http://brickhousewebseries.com/contact Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or give a review on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj Thanks for listening!

An original comedy radio play is featured this week. What happens when aliens try to attack Earth? How can the Earthlings resist if they are in a porn-induced stupor? Appreciation: The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg http://www.powells.com/biblio/2-9780812981605-3 Check out the musical comedy Brick House Web Series at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are finding the podcast useful, please rate us or give a review on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser talks about what he did to make it through one year without porn, including exercise, counseling, compassion for yourself, and not counting days. Appreciation: Matt Dobschuetz at http://www.PornfreeRadio.com Craig Perra http://www.themindfulhabit.com/ Brick House Web Series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are finding the podcast useful, please rate us or give a review on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Telling stories of early struggles can be a great step in the recovery process. Combine porn magazines, a sex education book, and feelings of isolation and shame, what do you get? But it’s not your fault. Watch the Web Series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are finding the podcast useful, please rate us or give a review on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser talks about the word “addiction” in regards to a porn habit, and says why he thinks it applies to himself. And how is compassion related to addiction? Links: Dr. Gabor Maté’s book “In the Realm of the Hungry Ghosts” http://bit.ly/1xtVs6E Fantastic article about addiction: http://huff.to/1yLbpIi Excellent discussion of “Porn Addiction Myth” by Luke Gilkerson (Covenant Eyes) http://bit.ly/1Bm9yIG Controversial article by Dr. David Ley - “Porn is not the Problem” http://bit.ly/1mbYPJd The Web Series (including the song “I’m Not an Addict”) http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you are finding the podcast useful, please rate us or give a review on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Telling our stories can be a way to end feelings of isolation. You may recognize yourself in Ben's story of how he first encountered pornography as a kid, and how it led to addiction. Yes, there was a time before porn! For more, go to http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you’re enjoying it, please subscribe and give a rating or review on iTunes. http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj Thanks for listening!

Reasons Ben Fraser quit porn. If you are trying to quit, you may sometimes forget why you are doing it. Here are some reasons that have been useful to Ben in his recovery. What are some reasons that have worked for you? Add your comments in iTunes, or on Soundcloud. https://soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/003-why-i-quit-porn To watch the webseries, go to http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you like this podcast, please rate it or review on iTunes: http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

How do you deal with the feelings that come up when you quit an addiction? Ben Fraser gives you some tips. More info at http://www.brickhousewebseries.com If you like this podcast, please rate or review it at iTunes: http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj

Ben Fraser talks about how quitting porn is like the Hero's Journey as described by Joseph Campbell. What is your "Call to Adventure?" Who are your allies? Who are your enemies? Watch the webseries: http://bit.ly/1zajKTJ More at: http://www.brickhousewebseries.com Hero's Journey: http://www.thewritersjourney.com/hero's_journey.htm If you like this podcast, please rate us or review on iTunes: http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj