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Filmmaker and recovery podcaster Ben Fraser shares ways we can reframe our thinking about porn addiction. You are good.

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027 Father's Day

Brick HouseJun 17, 2015

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081 To Your Health!

081 To Your Health!

Dec 15, 201914:04
080 Hello Again!

080 Hello Again!

Sep 05, 201913:19
079 Anger, Anxiety and Therapy

079 Anger, Anxiety and Therapy

Ben is angry today. That’s a trigger, but so is anxiety. Is porn use the best way to deal with these feelings? Probably not.

Somatic Experiencing: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somatic_experiencing

Appreciation: Brené Brown
www.newsweek.com/brene-brown-netflix-special-vulnerability-quotes-ted-talk-call-courage-1400956

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May 28, 201914:53
078 Miistakes and Other Disasters

078 Miistakes and Other Disasters

Ben tells the story of a recent “disaster” at an open mic performance. Rather than being mad about it, he laughed instead.

Appreciation: Amazon Alexa Echo Dot. amzn.to/2FMl8Vt

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Apr 01, 201917:23
077 Comfort and Joy

077 Comfort and Joy

God rest ye merry gentlemen Let nothing you dismay Remember Christ our Savior Was born on Christmas Day To save us all from Satan's pow'r When we were gone astray Oh tidings of comfort and joy Comfort and joy Oh tidings of comfort and joy Music this week by Sharon Jones & the Dap Kings “God Rest Ye Merry Gents” https://youtu.be/UewEIBZ7VHM Check out the new movie - “Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse” Watch the web series http://www.brickhousewebseries.com The Brick House Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Brick-House/266939153469555 Also, follow on twitter @brickhousetv Or help people find it by giving a review or a rating on iTunes! http://bit.ly/1zhJnUj
Dec 24, 201806:50
076 Ogling

076 Ogling

This week Ben answers a question from a listener (and accountability partner) about ogling. It seems like it can easily be an edging behavior. How can we change that pattern?
Appreciations: Dear Sugars podcast about dating an addict
www.wbur.org/dearsugar/2017/12/02/a-spy-in-the-house-of-love-with-ariel-levy

Without Fail podcast interview with Ira Glass about being a mentor.
www.gimletmedia.com/without-fail/ira-glass

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Dec 17, 201814:47
075 Easy Women

075 Easy Women

Porn offers the persistent fantasy that women exist in order to please men. But that doesn’t match up with reality very well. Or does it?

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Dec 03, 201812:09
074 Restructuring Your Life

074 Restructuring Your Life

It may be that some of the triggers that cause you to act out have to do with major aspects of your life - like relationships and work - and the only solution is to make major changes in the underlying structure of your life.

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Nov 19, 201815:19
073 VOTE! (for the person you want to be)

073 VOTE! (for the person you want to be)

Every decision you make in your daily life is a vote for the kind of person you want to be - whether it’s an athlete, a musician, or a person with a healthy sexuality.

Inspired by James Clear’s book Atomic jamesclear.com/

Matt Dobschuetz Porn Free Radio Podcast: recoveredman.com/category/pfr/

Meditation app: Headspace:https://www.headspace.com/

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Nov 05, 201810:34
072 Sustainability

072 Sustainability

Ben muses on what it takes to change your habits permanently. What is sustainable and what’s not?

Darya Rose Foodist Podcast - ideas about sustainability -
soundcloud.com/darya-pino-rose/dr-yoni-freedhoff-why-you-must-like-your-life-if-you-want-to-keep-weight-off

Darya Rose interview with James Clear - systems are more important than goals. soundcloud.com/darya-pino-rose/james-clear-the-4-laws-of-behavior-change

Appreciation:
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Oct 22, 201815:29
071 Love and Compassion

071 Love and Compassion

Major events can show us that life is short, and precious. Do we want to spend it pursuing compulsive behavior, or in finding love and compassion with those we are close to?

Appreciation: Libby meet.libbyapp.com/. Borrow thousands of ebooks and audiobooks free from your library for free.

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Sep 24, 201810:42
070 Learning From Relapse

070 Learning From Relapse

Ben had a relapse, which is a drag. But what did he learn from it? And what can you learn from his mistakes?

Appreciation: Vacations! Take more of them.

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Sep 10, 201820:33
069 Vulnerability

069 Vulnerability

This week, Ben talks about a simple strategy to deal with times when your sobriety is more vulnerable. Hint: it may have something to do with connection.

Appreciation: Johann Hari’s book: Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions. http://a.co/0zogguW

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Jul 24, 201807:46
068 Change Is Possible

068 Change Is Possible

If you are an addict, it’s easy to get discouraged that things will never change. Ben Fraser says that change is not only possible, it’s unavoidable. There is hope!

This episode was inspired by an Invisibilia podcast. www.npr.org/programs/invisibilia/482836315/the-personality-myth

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Jun 27, 201817:11
067 Porn Saved My Life

067 Porn Saved My Life

You might think that porn ruined your life. But is it possible that it also saved your life? Ben Fraser explores the impact of compulsive porn use on his early life.

Foodist Podcast with Darya Rose
soundcloud.com/darya-pino-rose/how-to-stop-yourself-from-nighttime-bingeing

Appreciation: Science Vs. Guns
www.gimletmedia.com/science-vs/guns

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Jun 05, 201810:49
66 The Meaning of #MeToo

66 The Meaning of #MeToo

As Harvey Weinstein goes to court to face charges of rape, Ben Fraser reflects on what meaning the #MeToo movement has for those of us struggling with porn addiction.

Tea and Consent: youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8

Slate Interview with Weinstein accusers. slate.com/arts/2017/11/harvey-weinsteins-accusers-in-conversation.html

Fresh Air interview with Tig Notaro (partly on Louis CK) www.npr.org/2018/05/16/611585606/comic-tig-notaro-wants-you-to-know-shes-happy-to-be-here

Appreciation: The Hamilton Soundtrack soundcloud.com/user-247547064/hamilton-an-american-musical-full-soundtrack

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May 25, 201819:05
065 Resistance

065 Resistance

Ben Fraser reflects on how resisting something might actually make us more likely to engage in the behavior, and how to deal with that. Also, are current events triggering you?

Appreciation: The Instant Pot! http://a.co/d9DQaNR

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May 15, 201813:36
064 Three Useful Tools

064 Three Useful Tools

In this practical episode, Ben Fraser talks about three tools that have been very useful in his recovery - a filter, meditation, and the FAST check in.
A filter that Ben uses: x3watch.com/

A meditation app that Ben likes:
www.headspace.com/headspace-meditation-app

F.A.S.T. check-ins.
recoveredman.com/106-back-2-basics-f-a-s-t-t-check-ins/

Appreciation: Thunderstruck by Erik Larson
eriklarsonbooks.com/the-books/thunderstruck/

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May 03, 201818:15
063 A Diet of Junk Food

063 A Diet of Junk Food

Ben Fraser discusses how porn is like junk food. Consuming it gives you nothing of value, and is a poor substitute for what you really want.

Inspired by Darya Rose’s class on Creative Live called “Lose Weight without Dieting.”
cr8.lv/2HhJaep

Also check out her Foodist podcast. www.summertomato.com/podcast

And her website, Summer Tomato: www.summertomato.com/

Appreciation: Michael Pollan’s book “In Defense of Food.”: amzn.to/2JeT0KD

Special thanks also to Kevin, Cameron, Thomas and InProgress for encouraging me to podcast again!

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Apr 21, 201815:45
062 Behind the Scenes of the Porn Industry

062 Behind the Scenes of the Porn Industry

It’s easy for a consumer of porn to forget that there is a human being behind the photos and images. And that smile is probably fake. Ben Fraser tells the story of one woman who got involved in the porn industry in the late 70s, and how her life was destroyed by it.

This podcast was inspired by an episode of the wonderful podcast: “You Must Remember This” by Karina Longworth.

www.youmustrememberthispodcast.com/episodes/2017/4/20/dorothy-stratten-dead-blondes-episode-13

A pulitzer prize winning article on this subject from 1980.
reprints.longform.org/death-of-a-playmate

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May 19, 201713:12
061 "Unbroken Brain" - Porn addiction is a developmental disorder

061 "Unbroken Brain" - Porn addiction is a developmental disorder

Ben Fraser reviews “Unbroken Brain” by Maia Szalavitz, and discusses why adolescents are more vulnerable to addiction and why kindness and hope is most helpful to treating addiction.

The book:
www.amazon.com/Unbroken-Brain-Revolutionary-Understanding-Addiction/dp/1250055822/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8

Fresh Air interview with the author
www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2016/07/07/485087604/unbroken-brain-explains-why-tough-treatment-doesnt-help-drug-addicts

Appreciation: The Storied Life of AJ Fikry.
www.amazon.com/Storied-Life-J-Fikry-Novel-ebook/dp/B00GU2RLMC/ref=dp_kinw_strp_1

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May 08, 201709:57
060 An Artist's Approach to Porn Addiction

060 An Artist's Approach to Porn Addiction

Musician, filmmaker and creative person Ben Fraser shares some of his ideas about an artist’s take on porn addiction, including changing the narrative, listening to your feelings, and when to ignore your feelings.

Matt Dobschuetz’s Excellent podcast:
pornfreeradio.com/

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Hunt for the Wilderpeople movie
www.rottentomatoes.com/m/hunt_for_the_wilderpeople

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Aug 28, 201616:08
059 Internet Dating For Porn Addicts

059 Internet Dating For Porn Addicts

Ben Fraser talks about the specific challenges of internet dating as it relates to recovering porn addicts, including fantasy and projection, taking sex out of the picture, and being a good potential partner.

Matt Dobschuetz’s Porn Free Playbook: recoveredman.com/your-porn-free-playbook/

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Jul 03, 201614:11
058 After The Breakup

058 After The Breakup

Ben Fraser talks about the challenges of refraining from porn and masturbation in the 7 days immediately after a breakup. He faces the triggers of feeling bad about himself, isolation, and lack of sleep, and offers suggestions on how to cope. Also, is it too early for online dating?
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Apr 13, 201623:00
057 Ben Grosscup Song And Interview

057 Ben Grosscup Song And Interview

Ben Fraser interviews activist folksinger and organizer Ben Grosscup. Ben G. also sings an original song about internet porn addiction, “Every Day”. Discussion ensues!

Check out Ben Grosscup’s songs on YouTube! www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLCZd4eJIEobjW4r3Nj0FVSuBFyZKYNDaF

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Apr 06, 201614:18
056 Feeling The Love

056 Feeling The Love

After a 3 month break, the podcast is back! Season 2 of the web series is available now!
brickhousewebseries.com/ Ben reflects on how it feels to produce a web series about porn addiction, and reads some feedback from viewers.

Read the feedback: brickhousewebseries.com/feedback/

Appreciation: Garry Shandling. Two clips made me laugh like crazy: youtu.be/Tg7fis-UY-s youtu.be/Cum77Y1Ex0g

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Mar 30, 201611:05
055 Happy New Year!

055 Happy New Year!

As we think about the New Year, Ben chooses a few key points from the past year that have helped him to quit porn and stay sober.

PornFree Radio episode about making a plan for 2015
pornfreeradio.com/057-go-porn-free-in-2016/

Going after a good life - the rat park episode:
soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/026-the-rat-park

Appreciation: Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain: www.drawright.com/ The Artist’s Way: juliacameronlive.com/books-by-julia/the-artists-way-a-spiritual-path-to-higher-creativity/

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Dec 31, 201509:48
054 Self Care

054 Self Care

Are you taking good care of yourself? That is a key step in the challenge to quit porn.

Matt Dobschuetz - PornFree Radio episode about making a plan for 2015
pornfreeradio.com/057-go-porn-free-in-2016/

Appreciation: Sue Grafton’s books about Kinsey Milhone www.suegrafton.com/bookshelf.php

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Dec 25, 201513:26
053 Darkness And Light

053 Darkness And Light

Ben Fraser reflects on the challenge of dealing with the darkness in our lives, literally and figuratively.

This 2013 article has some interesting facts about the Winter Solstice: mashable.com/2013/12/20/winter-solstice-2013/#ML1cWk1.6sqA

Leonard Cohen song “Anthem” youtu.be/_e39UmEnqY8

Appreciation: Holidays!

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Dec 16, 201508:43
052 What I Learned From Juggling

052 What I Learned From Juggling

How is learning to juggle like learning how to quit porn? Ben Fraser counts the ways.

The show about yoga: soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/039-breathe-into-it-things-i-learned-from-yoga

Learn to juggle: youtu.be/kCt1bmSASCI
Appreciation: Every Frame a Painting www.youtube.com/user/everyframeapainting

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Dec 10, 201509:21
051 The Wrong Reasons To Quit

051 The Wrong Reasons To Quit

Ben Fraser talks about some of the wrong reasons to quit porn, and eventually gets to the right reason.
Appreciation: Dogs Decoded PBS documentary. Watch on Vimeo for vimeo.com/19472436

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Dec 02, 201508:37
050 Gratitude

050 Gratitude

As a porn addicts, it’s easy to feel bad about ourselves, or notice how difficult things are. On this Thanksgiving, Ben Fraser takes a moment to think about what we he is thankful for.

Some of the things I am grateful for:
“This must be the place” - Shawn Colvin
youtu.be/Aac0X3VpOuU

Allen Toussaint - “The Bright Mississippi”
youtu.be/-npYGLxnzzk

Silly videos that make me laugh.
The puppy video
vine.co/v/eEZXZI1rqxX
The cat video (“Sail!”)
youtu.be/Awf45u6zrP0

Theater that fills me with awe
www.doubleedgetheatre.org/traveling-spectacles.html

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Nov 25, 201509:15
049 Advice To My Younger Self

049 Advice To My Younger Self

Today Ben thinks about what he would say to his younger self about porn, specifically when he was 12 years old. He’s learned a lot in the last 40 years.

Appreciation: Alexander Rhodes, the founder of NoFap. Thanks Alex! www.nofap.com/forum/index.php

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Nov 18, 201510:15
048 I Wouldn't Date A Woman Who...

048 I Wouldn't Date A Woman Who...

Back in Ben’s single days, there were a few woman who he wouldn’t consider dating because of the way they looked. But now he wonders if maybe his porn consumption got in the way of meeting possible partners who might’ve been a good match.

Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben brickhousewebseries.com/contact

Appreciation: Artists! Here’s Ira Glass in a short video about creativity: vimeo.com/24715531

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Nov 12, 201509:26
047 Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places

047 Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places

You may know the old country song by Johnny Lee. Looking at porn is kind of like looking for love in all the wrong places, since porn cannot give you love. But we try anyway!

Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben brickhousewebseries.com/contact

Marc Maron's interview with James Taylor www.wtfpod.com/podcast/episodes/episode_648_-_james_taylor

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Nov 05, 201509:00
046 Entertainment For Men

046 Entertainment For Men

If you grew up with a certain magazine, then you know that phrase. Ben Fraser talks about how being a man makes us vulnerable to the “sex sells” techniques of capitalism, and encourages everyone to not be a cog in the machine.

Want to be a guest on the show? I’d like to hear your voice! Email Ben brickhousewebseries.com/contact

Appreciation: Rise Up Singing and Rise Again Songbooks: www.riseupandsing.org/songbooks

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Oct 28, 201510:04
045 Feeling Terrible

045 Feeling Terrible

Most of us use porn to avoid feeling terrible. But the only way to really quit using is to just feel terrible for a while.

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Appreciation: Man On Wire documentary www.rottentomatoes.com/m/man_on_wire/
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Oct 22, 201507:35
044 All I Need

044 All I Need

When you’re craving porn, you think it will satisfy your needs. But it never does. What do you really need?

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Appreciation: Bernie Sanders. www.facebook.com/berniesanders
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Oct 15, 201506:50
043 Day Four

043 Day Four

What it feels like to be on Day Four after a relapse. I hope you learn from my mistakes.

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Appreciation: Naomi Klein. Here’s an interview she did with Bill Maher. youtu.be/8vi26l8T1c0

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Oct 07, 201511:23
042 Choose Life (song demo)

042 Choose Life (song demo)

The podcast is on a break this week, so Ben Fraser is sharing a demo of a new song from the web series - “Choose Life.” Vocals by Gershon Eigner. The final song will be re-mixed and mastered with new rhythm tracks. This song is an attempt to give advice to someone trying to quit porn, with a few helpful tips to keep in mind.

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Oct 01, 201504:48
041 Ramblings

041 Ramblings

Ben Fraser speaks on a wide variety of topics, including why he is doing the podcast, how a headache is affecting him, some of his most popular triggers, and the 10% solution to solving all the world’s problems.

Appreciation: Music videos by OK Go.
Rube Goldberg Machine: youtu.be/qybUFnY7Y8w
The one in the park: youtu.be/V2fpgpanZAw
The one with the dogs: youtu.be/nHlJODYBLKs

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Sep 23, 201513:34
040 I Am An Addict, Dammit!

040 I Am An Addict, Dammit!

Ben Fraser refutes Dr. David J. Ley’s claim that "the label of 'porn addict' causes depression, but porn watching doesn’t." While shame is indeed an issue, the label isn’t the problem, but in fact can be a solution.

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The article by David Ley. www.psychologytoday.com/blog/women-who-stray/201509/your-belief-in-porn-addiction-makes-things-worse

Appreciation: Chocolat movie (2000)
www.imdb.com/title/tt0241303/

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Sep 17, 201507:46
039 Breathe Into It - Things I Learned From Yoga

039 Breathe Into It - Things I Learned From Yoga

Ben Fraser has been doing yoga for 34 years. Along the way, he learned a few things that are useful if you want to quit an addiction like porn. For instance, try to “breathe into the pain” instead of numbing it.

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Sep 09, 201510:17
038 My Story - Part 3: Lowest Of The Low

038 My Story - Part 3: Lowest Of The Low

Ben Fraser talks about “hitting bottom” and why he finally decided it was time to quit looking at porn.

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My story - part 1:
soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/004-my-story-part-1

My story - part 2
soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19/006-my-story-part-2-seeds-of-addiction

The recovery board
www.npsupport.net/community/

Appreciation: photography - “Ten Tips for taking photos with your iphone”
www.imore.com/ten-tips-taking-great-iphone-photos

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Sep 03, 201511:01
037 Willpower

037 Willpower

There’s a common idea that to quit an addiction, you need to have a lot of willpower. But Ben Fraser thinks willpower is only one component to quitting porn addiction, and there are other things more important.

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Matt Dobschuetz podcast on Making a Plan
pornfreeradio.com/042-getting-started-pt-3-your-plan/

My own recovery plan from 2006.
brickhousewebseries.com/files/Recovery_Plan.pdf

Appreciation: The Demo Diva www.wnyc.org/story/in-new-orleans-becoming-demo-diva/

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Aug 26, 201507:10
036 Give Yourself A Break

036 Give Yourself A Break

If you’re an addict, your idea of taking a break is probably doing the addictive behavior, If you quit the addictive behavior, it’s sometimes hard to figure out what to do to relax.

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How to check out a movie to see if the content might be triggering: Check out www.kids-in-mind.com/
Or go to IMDB.com, and type in the title of a film or TV show that you want to see. When the page for the film in question comes up, scroll down, past the rating, past the cast listing, until you get to the “Storyline” section. Right after the MPAA rating, it says “Parent’s Guide” Click on “View content advisory.”

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Aug 19, 201508:32
035 Good Sex

035 Good Sex

Ben Fraser wonders what good sex really looks like. Is it something we are used to seeing, or is it completely different?

Dr. Ruth: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ruth_Westheimer

Appreciation: Easy-going people

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Aug 12, 201509:56
034 How Does It Feel?

034 How Does It Feel?

Ben Fraser walks through a hypothetical porn experience and examines the feelings along the way. Obviously, there’s some pleasure. But what other feelings come along for the ride?

Appreciation: Tune In: The Beatles: All These Years by Mark Lewisohn
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Aug 06, 201511:10
033 I Am You

033 I Am You

Being an addict is no fun. But if you look around, you may notice that everyone else around you is addicted to something, whether it’s porn, or caffeine or sugar, or just bad TV. This means that addiction can give us compassion. And that is a kind of gift.

Appreciation: Stickers!

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Jul 30, 201506:57
032 Entitlement and Deprivation

032 Entitlement and Deprivation

Ben Fraser examines how, as addicts, we might feel entitled to look at porn, because we feel deprived. We feel like we deserve it. But maybe there are better ways to think about it.

Check out other episodes (including the missing #31) here:
soundcloud.com/ben-fraser-19

An Honest Liar movie about The Amazing Randi
www.rottentomatoes.com/m/an_honest_liar/

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Jul 23, 201508:34