Mormon Mixed Faith Marriage Podcast

In this panel discussion with Chris Rich and Suzette Halterman we talk about the sometimes delicate topic of tithing.

We talk about:

-How we deal with it in our marriages

-How we see clients deal with tithing

-Why is can be such a hot topic

-Tips on how to talk about tithing

Chris Rich, Suzette Halterman and myself talk about respect in a mixed faith marriage.

We share:

- Our definitions of respect (what it is and what it is NOT).

- How lack of respect can be a big deal or small potatoes

- How our own judgment can stop us from showing respect.

-How respect looks like in conversations (interrupting or not)

-How to respect someone who has different religious beliefs

AND SO MUCH MORE!

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Talking about the Sunday school lesson, who you saw at the RS activity and how your primary lesson went used to be normal topics of conversation ... until the faith transition.

Talking about church can be hard. In this podcast I re-visit emotional bids and offer a few ideas on talking about church.

Part 2 in my 2 part series on patriarchy in a mixed faith marriage.

In this episode I talk about a cycle I see with many women that often ends in feeling suppressed or expressed anger and frustration.

Spoilers, this is often a because of how women as socialized in a patriarchy and this cycle can be part of a mixed faith marriage.

Learning about the cycle can help you have the awareness needed to break the cycle.

I am doing a three part series on the impacts of Patriarchy in a mixed faith marriage.

In part one I am exploring some of my own musing and conclusions based on my own observations and training (I have completed the Advanced Feminist Certified Coaching program).

In this podcast I walk through the differences men and women may face in a mixed faith marriage.

They are both challenging but it can be helpful to have language around the differences to understand your own experience better.

I hear a lot of clients tell me they should be on the same page in their marriage. However, being in a mixed faith marriage often means you are not and that can be a constant sore spot. What if it was okay or even amazing that you are NOT on the same page? In this podcast I offer the analogy of the designer and the engineer to show that not being on the same page can be a good thing.

Respect is often touted as super important in a marriage (and I agree). However, there are so many definitions of respect, some of which may hurt one's sense of belonging in their marriage. What does respect mean in your mixed faith marriage? What can respect mean in your mixed faith marriage?

The most important work I do is to teach clients how to fall in love again after a faith transition and mixed faith marriage.

As part of this process it's helpful to (1) identify what stopped you from loving and (2) kick start the practice of falling in love again.

In this podcast episode, I talk about both in detail.

In this panel discussion myself (@BrookeBoothCoaching), Chris Rich (@ChrisRichCoaching) and Suzette Halterman (@SuzetteHaltermanCoaching) talk about garments.

We talk about the impact of taking off garments in your relationship. We tell our own experiences and share insights from our professional work. We also get into how modesty, betrayal and sex can be linked to garments.

This episode is for those of you who have had the faith transition. If you are like me, after your faith transition you believed that your spouse didn't approve of you anymore or didn't like you. I certainly believed both. This led me to create distance and withdraw even though I wanted to be close and belong. Here I talk about how to lean back into love and fall in love again.

In this panel discussion myself (@BrookeBoothCoaching), Chris Rich (@ChrisRichCoaching) and Suzette Halterman (@SuzetteHaltermanCoaching) talk about partnership. In this discussion we talk about definitions of partnership, how to develop a partnership (even if your spouse is not interested), and compare partnership to other types of relationships. We share our own experiences with partnership in our individual mixed faith marriages.

One of the reasons a mixed faith marriage can be so challenging is because we place our marriage on a pedestal. In this episode I talk about the impacts of placing our marriage on a pedestal. Here I talk about how to take your marriage off a pedestal to prevent or release a build up of stress and pressure.

I want to revisit communication. Here I share what I consider to be the four pillars of communication.

1. Know your preferences

2. Communicate Desires

3. Clarity Expectations

4. Repair

I explain each of the four pillars and how they apply to a mixed faith marriage.

I hear two phrases on the regular in my coaching practice.

This is not what I signed up for.

This is not how it's supposed to be.

I want to suggest that you are right. This is not how it's supposed to be and not what you signed up for.

AND staying in that mindset is like staying in waves that keep crashing you against the rocks.

Here I talk about leaving the "supposed to's" behind if that makes sense to you.

Chris Rich, Suzette Halterman and myself are starting a series where we combine our knowledge, expertise and experience to help you in your mixed faith marriage. In this first installment we talk about connection.

-What connection means?

-How to create more of it?

-What types of connection exist

-Is there a certain balance of connection and disconnection you should aim for?

To learn more about my course - Loving and Strengthening Your Mixed Faith Marriage.

There is a cycle I see where we start to hide things from our spouse because we are afraid of judgment and/or afraid of rocking the boat. This hiding is done to protect the relationship but it doesn't work out that way. Hiding often creates disconnection. This podcast episode discusses why we hide, its unintended consequences and provides some ways to overcome the tendency to hide.

Projection or mirroring is a pretty common in relationships and mixed faith marriages. Learning about it and building awareness can help you not fall into projection habits that can potentially hurt your relationship.

This episode will help you be more familiar with projecting so you can be aware and I will offer you a suggestion to help stop you from projecting.

There are some issues that need to be solved in a marriage and some things that need to be managed. I think we sometimes want to solve things that need to be managed. Sometimes we resist managing things because we think they should be solved. Being in a mixed faith marriage is often an issue that needs to be managed and not solved. I offer two things to try to help you manage your mixed faith marriage with more love and gentleness.

I share a simple Taoist story that I feel applies to a LDS mixed faith marriage.

I have seen clients get very concerned about what may happen in the future. The concern may even cause harm and damage in the relationship today.

In the podcast I share two examples of how we can let future tripping trip us up in a mixed faith marriage.

Let’s talk about sunk costs in a mixed faith marriage. 

In this episode I describe a sunk cost fallacy and how it might be showing up in your mixed faith marriage. 

I give a few suggestions on how to not let sunk costs stop you from having the life and marriage you want. 

I think it’s not uncommon for 80% of communication to be assumptions and subtext and 20% to be direct and verbal. I suggest that in a mixed faith marriage you may want to flip that around and bring more communication into the explicit and verbal to avoid hurt and frustration. In this podcast I talk about how to develop awareness around your assumptions and how to make them more direct.

In this podcast Reed Dean (certified life coach) and I discuss how our faith journeys have impacted our relationships. We also share some pillars of relationships that we have learned from our own experiences. Reed is a smart and thoughtful coach and her wisdom abounds in this episode.

You can find Reed on Instagram at reeddeancoaching. Or use this link: