Mormon Mixed Faith Marriage Podcast
By Brooke Booth
Mormon Mixed Faith Marriage PodcastJul 10, 2022
130. Mixed Faith Marriage Panel Discussion: Tithing
In this panel discussion with Chris Rich and Suzette Halterman we talk about the sometimes delicate topic of tithing.
We talk about:
-How we deal with it in our marriages
-How we see clients deal with tithing
-Why is can be such a hot topic
-Tips on how to talk about tithing
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129. Talking to Kids About Your Faith Transition
I get a lot of requests on how to talk to kids about a faith transition. Good news, I put together a script for you to use and modify to make your own.
In this podcast I give some general tips on how to talk to kids about hard things (like a faith transition) and I share some steps to follow and even provide a sample script.
Ready to get more help? Go to BrookeBoothCoaching.com to learn more about working with me.
126. Interview with Samantha Conley on Faith Transitions and Relationships
Samantha Conley shares her experience of being a single member who has a faith transition and how that played out in her family and friendships.
We discuss relationship and personal development and how they change over time.
This is a great podcast if you have had a faith transition or love someone who has had a faith transition.
FYI - The background is a bit noisy.
128. Mixed Faith Marriage Panel Discussion: RESPECT
Chris Rich, Suzette Halterman and myself talk about respect in a mixed faith marriage.
We share:
- Our definitions of respect (what it is and what it is NOT).
- How lack of respect can be a big deal or small potatoes
- How our own judgment can stop us from showing respect.
-How respect looks like in conversations (interrupting or not)
-How to respect someone who has different religious beliefs
AND SO MUCH MORE!
Go here to learn about my course to help you fall in love with your mixed faith marriage:
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127. Passive and Active in a Mixed Faith Marriage
This is a little addendum to the last podcast on codependency.
In this episode I dive into what it looks like to be passive and active in a marriage and in life.
I invite you to be a little more active in your mixed faith marriage and provide examples to help you see where you may be passive.
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126. Codependency Part II
Listen to episode 44 for the first part of this series!
In episode 44 I talk about what codependency is and how it presents. Here I talk more about what to do about it. I share 13 things to help you stop being codependent in your mixed faith marriage.
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125. Talking About Church Stuff
Talking about the Sunday school lesson, who you saw at the RS activity and how your primary lesson went used to be normal topics of conversation ... until the faith transition.
Talking about church can be hard. In this podcast I re-visit emotional bids and offer a few ideas on talking about church.
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124. Awkward and Awesome
In this podcast episode I talk about a coaching I tool I love to use with my clients in a mixed faith marriage. It's the basic idea that a marriage is going to be both awesome and awkward and that is okay!
However, I also think that this tool should be used with discretion. Not all coaching tools apply to all situations equally.
Here I walk you though the criteria to apply when deciding if this took is a good fit for you.
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123. Mixed Faith Marriage Panel Discussion: If I had known I would not have married you
"If I had known about this .... I would not have married you" is something that comes up in a mixed faith marriage after a faith transition.
In this mastermind panel discussion Suzette Halterman, Chris Rich and myself discuss this phrase.
We talk about :
-Our own personal experience with this kind of phrase
- When it might be a valid and important part of communication
-How much conscious choice we exercise when choosing our spouse
-How to choose your spouse now if that is the right decision
122. Invisible Labor in a Mixed Faith Marriage (Part 3 of 3)
In the third installment of my three part series on patriarchy I talk about invisible labor and more specifically emotional labor.
Emotional labor is disproportionately the responsibly of women.
In this episode I share how this may show up in a mixed faith marriage.
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121. Why Are You Feeling Rage/Anger? (Part 2 of 3)
Part 2 in my 2 part series on patriarchy in a mixed faith marriage.
In this episode I talk about a cycle I see with many women that often ends in feeling suppressed or expressed anger and frustration.
Spoilers, this is often a because of how women as socialized in a patriarchy and this cycle can be part of a mixed faith marriage.
Learning about the cycle can help you have the awareness needed to break the cycle.
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120. Patriarchy and a Mixed Faith Marriage (Part 1 of 3)
I am doing a three part series on the impacts of Patriarchy in a mixed faith marriage.
In part one I am exploring some of my own musing and conclusions based on my own observations and training (I have completed the Advanced Feminist Certified Coaching program).
In this podcast I walk through the differences men and women may face in a mixed faith marriage.
They are both challenging but it can be helpful to have language around the differences to understand your own experience better.
If you are ready to get some help, let's talk. Reach out and grab a slot for a free consult. I have a few spots available. https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=21674062&appointmentType=19524597
119. Mixed Faith Marriage Panel Discussion: Listening
This panel discussion is all about listening. We share our horror stories and our successes when it comes to listening. We talk about the things blocking us from being better listeners. We acknowledge listening is a hard skill and you will not always be able to listen perfectly. We share some ideas on how to develop your listening skills. This episode is packed with ideas, suggestions, and tips.
Join Chris Rich, Suzette Ward Halterman and myself as we do a deep dive into listening in your mixed faith marriage.
118. Mixed Faith Marriage Analogy - The Designer and The Engineer
I hear a lot of clients tell me they should be on the same page in their marriage. However, being in a mixed faith marriage often means you are not and that can be a constant sore spot. What if it was okay or even amazing that you are NOT on the same page? In this podcast I offer the analogy of the designer and the engineer to show that not being on the same page can be a good thing.
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117. Respect in Relationships
Respect is often touted as super important in a marriage (and I agree). However, there are so many definitions of respect, some of which may hurt one's sense of belonging in their marriage. What does respect mean in your mixed faith marriage? What can respect mean in your mixed faith marriage?
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116. Learn to Fall in Love Again
The most important work I do is to teach clients how to fall in love again after a faith transition and mixed faith marriage.
As part of this process it's helpful to (1) identify what stopped you from loving and (2) kick start the practice of falling in love again.
In this podcast episode, I talk about both in detail.
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115. Mixed Faith Marriage Panel Discussion - Garments
In this panel discussion myself (@BrookeBoothCoaching), Chris Rich (@ChrisRichCoaching) and Suzette Halterman (@SuzetteHaltermanCoaching) talk about garments.
We talk about the impact of taking off garments in your relationship. We tell our own experiences and share insights from our professional work. We also get into how modesty, betrayal and sex can be linked to garments.
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114. Fitting in v. Belonging
For years I sought to fit in to my marriage only to find I didn't actually belong. My mixed faith marriage helped me to see that my efforts to belong (i.e. fitting in) were actually stopping me from belonging.
113. They Don't Approve
This episode is for those of you who have had the faith transition. If you are like me, after your faith transition you believed that your spouse didn't approve of you anymore or didn't like you. I certainly believed both. This led me to create distance and withdraw even though I wanted to be close and belong. Here I talk about how to lean back into love and fall in love again.
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112. Mixed Faith Marriage Panel Discussion: Partnership
In this panel discussion myself (@BrookeBoothCoaching), Chris Rich (@ChrisRichCoaching) and Suzette Halterman (@SuzetteHaltermanCoaching) talk about partnership. In this discussion we talk about definitions of partnership, how to develop a partnership (even if your spouse is not interested), and compare partnership to other types of relationships. We share our own experiences with partnership in our individual mixed faith marriages.
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111. Intention and Impact in a Mixed Faith Marriage
Most of the time our intention is very good in our mixed faith marriage. We want what's best for our spouse and we love them. However, we stop there and do not look closely at the impact of our words and behavior.
Good intention does not nullify bad impact.
In this episode I give some examples of language that is probably from a good intention but may create a bad impact.
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110. Self Care
Self care is a bit of a cliche but also essential.
A mixed faith marriage and a faith transition are not light lifts. They can be really intense.
Are you taking care of yourself?
In this episode I talk about the four pillars of self care:
1. Boundaries
2. Self Compassion
3. Value Based Decisions
4. Self Empowerment
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109. Marriage on a Pedestal
One of the reasons a mixed faith marriage can be so challenging is because we place our marriage on a pedestal. In this episode I talk about the impacts of placing our marriage on a pedestal. Here I talk about how to take your marriage off a pedestal to prevent or release a build up of stress and pressure.
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108. Mixed Faith Marriage Panel Discussion: Alcohol
Suzette Halterman (@SuzettelHaltermanCoaching), Chris Rich (@ChrisRichCoaching) and myself (@BrookeBoothCoahching) continue our conversation on mixed faith marriages.
The combined insight of three coaches all in their own mixed faith marriages provides many invaluable insights.
In this episode we discuss: Alcohol.
We address some of these questions:
Why is alcohol such a hot topic/ scary?
How to communicate about alcohol?
Tips for those you drink and those who do not drink and much more.
107. Marriage Advice
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106. 4 Pillars of Communication
I want to revisit communication. Here I share what I consider to be the four pillars of communication.
1. Know your preferences
2. Communicate Desires
3. Clarity Expectations
4. Repair
I explain each of the four pillars and how they apply to a mixed faith marriage.
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105. This is not how its supposed to be
I hear two phrases on the regular in my coaching practice.
This is not what I signed up for.
This is not how it's supposed to be.
I want to suggest that you are right. This is not how it's supposed to be and not what you signed up for.
AND staying in that mindset is like staying in waves that keep crashing you against the rocks.
Here I talk about leaving the "supposed to's" behind if that makes sense to you.
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104. Mixed Faith Mastermind - Connection
Chris Rich, Suzette Halterman and myself are starting a series where we combine our knowledge, expertise and experience to help you in your mixed faith marriage. In this first installment we talk about connection.
-What connection means?
-How to create more of it?
-What types of connection exist
-Is there a certain balance of connection and disconnection you should aim for?
To learn more about my course - Loving and Strengthening Your Mixed Faith Marriage.
102. Suzette Halterman a Couples Expert
-Her passion for couples work and training
-The difference between individuation and differentiation
-One of her favorite tools (spoiler its speaking and listening)
-Difference between coaching and therapy
-Her own story of her mixed faith marriage
To learn more about Suzette go to www.suzettehaltermancoaching.com
Instagram: @suzettehalterman
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103. General Conference
We used to spend the weekend chilling on the couch and playing bingo with our kids. Then it became this tense time where everyone was on eggshells.
It doesn't have to stay that way. In this podcast I walk you though some questions to help take a more intentional approach to conference weekend.
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101. Hiding in Your Mixed Faith Marriage
There is a cycle I see where we start to hide things from our spouse because we are afraid of judgment and/or afraid of rocking the boat. This hiding is done to protect the relationship but it doesn't work out that way. Hiding often creates disconnection. This podcast episode discusses why we hide, its unintended consequences and provides some ways to overcome the tendency to hide.
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100. Let's Catch Up
For the 100th episode I share how my mixed faith marriage was a huge catalyst for my own self development and self acceptance journey. Here I share a little more of my own story and how I am using my mixed faith marriage to take better care of me at this stage in my life.
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99. Projection
Projection or mirroring is a pretty common in relationships and mixed faith marriages. Learning about it and building awareness can help you not fall into projection habits that can potentially hurt your relationship.
This episode will help you be more familiar with projecting so you can be aware and I will offer you a suggestion to help stop you from projecting.
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98. Managing v Solving Issues in a Mixed Faith Marriage
There are some issues that need to be solved in a marriage and some things that need to be managed. I think we sometimes want to solve things that need to be managed. Sometimes we resist managing things because we think they should be solved. Being in a mixed faith marriage is often an issue that needs to be managed and not solved. I offer two things to try to help you manage your mixed faith marriage with more love and gentleness.
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97. Future Tripping and a Taoist Story
I share a simple Taoist story that I feel applies to a LDS mixed faith marriage.
I have seen clients get very concerned about what may happen in the future. The concern may even cause harm and damage in the relationship today.
In the podcast I share two examples of how we can let future tripping trip us up in a mixed faith marriage.
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96. Sunk Costs in a Mormon Mixed Faith Marriage
Let’s talk about sunk costs in a mixed faith marriage.
In this episode I describe a sunk cost fallacy and how it might be showing up in your mixed faith marriage.
I give a few suggestions on how to not let sunk costs stop you from having the life and marriage you want.
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95. The Story You Are Telling About Your Mixed Faith Marriage
In this podcast episode I teach a concept from my online course - Loving and Strengthening Your Mixed Faith Marriage. The concept is to bring awareness to the story you are telling about your mixed faith marriage. Often a faith transition can trigger the start of a negative story and then it perpetuates for months and even years if we don’t develop the awareness around our own stories.
94. Assumptions and Subtext in Communication
I think it’s not uncommon for 80% of communication to be assumptions and subtext and 20% to be direct and verbal. I suggest that in a mixed faith marriage you may want to flip that around and bring more communication into the explicit and verbal to avoid hurt and frustration. In this podcast I talk about how to develop awareness around your assumptions and how to make them more direct.
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93. Couple Counseling
92. Pendulum Effect
91. Substance Use in Your Mixed Faith Marriage
90. Grief and Trust
As I continue to do my own work on being in a mixed faith marriage I realized I needed to revisit grief. For me, trust and betrayal were hiding/masking grief. If you feel your trust has been violated or you have been betrayed in your mixed faith marriage you will want to listen to this episode.
89. Honesty in Communication
A mixed faith marriage opens the door to some pretty serious conversation. Conversations about values, parenting, eternity, etc. In retrospect I would have approached my mixed faith marriage and talking about my issues with the church in a completely different way. In this podcast I talk about using your judgment to know when to talk about heavier and harder topics and when to wait.
90. Interview with Reed Dean on Faith and Relationships
In this podcast Reed Dean (certified life coach) and I discuss how our faith journeys have impacted our relationships. We also share some pillars of relationships that we have learned from our own experiences. Reed is a smart and thoughtful coach and her wisdom abounds in this episode.
You can find Reed on Instagram at reeddeancoaching. Or use this link:
91. Interview with Melisa Mons a LGBTQIA+ activist in a mixed faith marriage
In honor of Pride Month I interview Melisa Mons is a LGBTQIA+ activist and ally. Melisa is also in a mixed faith marriage. In this podcast we talk about her activism and its impact in her marriage. She shares an interesting analogy about conditional and unconditional love that you will want to hear. She also gives some great advice if you are the parent of a LGBTQIA+ child.
88. Rocking the Boat
I hear people say all the time that they don’t want to rock the boat. This is often associated with their faith transition and new mixed faith marriage. In this podcast I suggest that (1) change does not have to be feared and (2) boats are supposed to rock. Maybe I take this metaphor too far, but I couldn’t help myself! Enjoy my rocking the boat episode.
87. Quiet Quitting
86. How to Fight
Fighting can be a huge problem in a mixed faith marriage and it can be an excuse to avoid talking about important topics. Here I discuss various definitions of fighting and question what type of fighting is harmful and what type may be helpful.