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Not As I Will…

Not As I Will…

By Brother James

Shifting from purely a podcast geared to help men get set free from sexual addiction. I am moving into what is God's will for your life. Basing it off of 1 Thessalonians 4:3, 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 and 1 Peter 2:15. In addition to sex, we will be discussing apologetics (to give an answer for why we believe) and the triumphs/issues with the modern church.
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Cults and the 2nd coming

Not As I Will…Mar 04, 2024

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Cults and the 2nd coming

Cults and the 2nd coming

Talking about Cults (specifically David Koresh of Waco). Along with a basic understanding of the revelation and the second coming of Christ.

References: Kon Tweeten (masters of Theology), Eric Jackson, 2 Thessalonians 2:1-10 NKJV

Mar 04, 202425:59
Service and Entertainment

Service and Entertainment

Comparing service as what people are really looking for to be fulfilled. Entertainment and stimulation as the current state of our hearts as an American church and America as a whole.


References: Mark 10:45 NKJV, Matthew 6:16-18 NIV

Jan 27, 202418:31
Debunk: You can be anything you want to be

Debunk: You can be anything you want to be

Addressing the statement: "You can do anything you put your mind to." or "You can be anything you want to be."

References: Romans 12:3-6a (NKJV)

Older men should be calm and temperate with patience.

Reference: Titus 2:1-2 (NKJV)


Nov 23, 202316:44
There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end leads only to death

There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end leads only to death

Financial crisis and causes.

references (Revised Standard Version, 1953)

Scales and Title: Proverbs 16:11, 25

Warning to the dishonest rich: James 5:1-6

Do not fret for those who do wrong: Psalm 37:1-2

Discipline: Hebrews 12:10-11

Oct 12, 202316:01
I want my child to have it better than me and Scripture memory segment

I want my child to have it better than me and Scripture memory segment

Biblical References:

Matthew 19:21-24 (KJV)

Psalm 90:10 (NKJV)

Scripture memory verse: 1 Thessalonians 4:5 (NKJV)


other references:

Bible hub for the greek word "Eido" and its meaning





Sep 14, 202317:07
The Way You Live Your Life Matters

The Way You Live Your Life Matters

A Monologue over having a level of disgust for society, The Social Church, Law vs. Grace teaching, and how you live matters.

Biblical references: Matthew 8:22 NKJV (...Let the dead bury their own dead.), Matthew 16: 24 NKJV (Take up your cross...), Matthew 19:21 NKJV (Go and sell all you have...)

Jul 28, 202331:27
Scripture memory Segment: 1 Thessalonians 4:4

Scripture memory Segment: 1 Thessalonians 4:4

Brief Reflection of verse 4

Going through how to effectively memorize 1 Thessalonians 4:4 (NKJV)

Jul 24, 202310:11
Scripture memory: 1 Thessalonians 4:3

Scripture memory: 1 Thessalonians 4:3

Quick commentary over sexual immorality. Reference (1 Timothy 4). Then scripture memory segment (1 Thessalonians 4:3 NKJV).
Jun 30, 202313:31
The Cities The Churches and The Heart

The Cities The Churches and The Heart

Cities and churches and the comparison to the heart of someone. Commentary of Revelation 2 and 3. As someone who speaks into the lives of other's, you can't do it alone. There has to be multiple people in the lives of those in your ministry.
Biblical References: Revelation 2 and 3 (NKJV), Ezekiel 27:3-11 (NKJV), Matthew 11:20-24 (NKJV)
May 21, 202351:57
Scripture memory segment: 1 Thessalonians 4:2 (NKJV)

Scripture memory segment: 1 Thessalonians 4:2 (NKJV)

Memorizing the chapter of 1 Thessalonians 4. This is our verse 2 segment courtesy of the New King James Bible
Apr 13, 202304:33
The Truth about Homosexuality

The Truth about Homosexuality

What is the truth about homosexuality? What does God think about homosexuality? does Jesus change that? Homosexuality is not the unforgivable sin. References: Leviticus 18:21-23 (NKJV), 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (NKJV), Hebrews 12:11 (NKJV)
Mar 24, 202319:23
Keys to understanding christianity

Keys to understanding christianity

1. Money: Be aware when you are being asked for Money. Matthew 10:9 (NKJV) is pretty clear about what God wants his disciples to do and how he wants them to do it. Reference a story in Acts 16 where the girl is making her masters money because of her fortune telling.

2. Discipline masks immaturity: More of an observation and personal testimony than truth

3. Mysticism: Matthew 14:1-12 (NKJV). Believing God/Jesus to be magic.

Feb 23, 202316:58
Scripture Memory Episode: 1 Thessalonians 4:1 NKJV

Scripture Memory Episode: 1 Thessalonians 4:1 NKJV

The process of embedding the word in your heart.

Feb 17, 202301:17
The past has brought you here and cultural views of Christ

The past has brought you here and cultural views of Christ

Talking about how Gods expectation of us is to thank Him, and we will not be anxious. Phillipians 4:6-7 (NKJV). Cultural comparison to the Jews of Jesus time and our current culture.
Dec 29, 202219:08
Vexations of The Modern Church

Vexations of The Modern Church

Personal Vexings:
1. Social dilemma (Older White Males, Young Black men)
2. Expectations of unbelievers
3. Class Systems
4. Sexual Distortion: A symptom of "The Love of Money" (1 Timothy 6:10)
Ezekiel 16:49-50 (NIV)
49 “‘Now this was the sin of your sister Sodom: She and her daughters were arrogant, overfed and unconcerned; they did not help the poor and needy. 50 They were haughty and did detestable things before me. Therefore I did away with them as you have seen.
5. Extreme Debt vs. being Poor also a symptom of "The Love of Money"
Nov 24, 202220:58
Divorce Part 2

Divorce Part 2

Divorce and God's Requirement of us Micah 6:8 NKJV.

Priority List

Causes of divorce and hope even if divorce does happen.

Personal testimony on intimacy.


Oct 09, 202223:58
Divorce and In Marriage non negotiables part 1

Divorce and In Marriage non negotiables part 1

Part I Addressing divorce and non negotiables. Putting yourself in bad situations ahead of time mentally so you can praise God when it doesn't happen. But if it does, you may have already been there and will be more at peace when it comes.

Biblical References:

(NKJV) Matthew 5:27-28, 31-32

(NKJV) Hebrews 9:16-18- Where the new testament actually begins: The Cross.


Sep 06, 202221:19
Abstain From Idol Pollution and Sexual immorality

Abstain From Idol Pollution and Sexual immorality

Acts 15:19-20
Behind every idol is a demon: 1 Corinthians 10:14-22
Putting regulations on: Collosians 3:20-23
Aug 06, 202219:46
God's Will Introduction Part II: Apologetics

God's Will Introduction Part II: Apologetics

Addressing the questions of Meaning (What is true Love?), Purpose (Why am I here?), Destiny (why do good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people?)

Different words for love in the greek: Agape-Unconditional (selfless), Phillia-Deep friendship (Love for a brother or sister), Eros-Sexual Passion, Storgi-Companionship, Ludus-Playful love (flirting-early stages of relationships), Pragma-Long standing Love (Love of a couple together for a long time), Philautia-2 types of self love (narcissism and the ability to love and accept ourselves)

  • Reference: http://www.yesmagazine.org/happiness/the-ancient-greeks-6-words-for-love-and-why-knowing-them-can-change-your-life

All scriptures quoted are courtesy of NKJV translation

Jul 04, 202256:07
God's Will introduction Part I: Testimonial and the modern church

God's Will introduction Part I: Testimonial and the modern church

References (All NKJV): 1 Thessalonians 4:3, 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, 1 peter 2:15, Galatians 2:20, Romans 8:1, Romans 8:28-30

Testimonial and the Christian Spectrum: 

in order from right to left: Calvinism, Baptists, Eastern Orthodox, Episcopalian, Protestant (Methodists, presbyterians, lutherans, Assemblies of God, etc.), "non denominational" modern church (from middle of spectrum to 25% toward left end of spectrum, Roman catholic, Charismatic/pentecostal, Armenism.

Jun 24, 202236:27
If I Had a Son Finale: The Lust Of The Eyes

If I Had a Son Finale: The Lust Of The Eyes

Finishing up the series of If I had a son and transitioning into a remastered pornography series from an earlier podcast series that I created over a year ago.

Reference: 1 John 2:14-17 NKJV

Feb 21, 202211:14
If I Had A Son: Part 3 (Controversy and The Abortion Dilemma)

If I Had A Son: Part 3 (Controversy and The Abortion Dilemma)

What are controversial things we see in the church today? Why is abortion so hated, when sleeping with our significant other is accepted? Using biblical references to help understand abortion and what happens to the unborn. Why we can trust Jesus to settle our mis-understanding. Jesus is above morality. Read your bible to settle your heart: reading a scripture 1 time isn't enough, 20 times is better, 100+ times is best.

References:

Story of Solomon: 2 Chronicles Chapter 1 and 1 Kings Chapter 3

James 2:1-14 (NKJV), Isaiah 7:15-16 (NKJV), Deuteronomy 1:39 (NKJV), Jeremiah 7:31-34 (NKJV)

Dec 31, 202126:56
If I Had A Son: Part 2

If I Had A Son: Part 2

Keys to Peace and your mind and your families mind. Do you want the war in your mind to end? Come see a few things that we have experienced growing up that shaped us. Whether good or bad and how we can change how our kids are brought up. What do we need to hang on to from past generations and what should we discard. Things we have heard that have continuously been said over and over and things that we can do differently to break that cycle and have peace. References: James 1:12-16 NKJV, Matthew 11:28-30 NKJV, Romans 8:1 NKJV.

Nov 24, 202117:32
If I Had a son: The Framework for Spiritual health

If I Had a son: The Framework for Spiritual health

"I would tell him: your whole life may not be seen by anyone but God, and that is all that matters. Because in the end we will all be exposed for who and what we are. And it will be clear, if we knew, God was watching the whole time."
We are looking at non related external symptoms to one spiritual problem. Though unrelated are all connected?Using Galations 5:9 and James 2:10 NKJV as reference to God's word. Genesis 14-19 NKJV (paraphrased story of Lot). Jordan Peterson "Maps of meaning" (Chapter 1). Other biblical references: Ecclesiastes 7:10. Thomas Aquinas (The Pocket Aquinas: pgs. 30-50).
Oct 09, 202131:20
Scripture memory Episode: 1 Corinthians 6:20

Scripture memory Episode: 1 Corinthians 6:20

Finishing up 1 Corinthians chapter 6. After, essentially a year.

Oct 09, 202105:54
Preparation for Marriage with scripture memory of 1 Corinthians 6:19

Preparation for Marriage with scripture memory of 1 Corinthians 6:19

As my marriage progresses. I noticed three key points prior to being married that have helped make the transition easy. Referencing Isaiah 58:3-6 NKJV, 2 Timothy 4:19-22 NKJV. 

Aug 26, 202125:11
3 post marriage reflections with our scripture memory segment: 1 Corinthians 6:18

3 post marriage reflections with our scripture memory segment: 1 Corinthians 6:18

After being married for 2 months as a single man who had been praying and eagerly waiting for a spouse. Using Matthew 10:26 as reference, these are three key reflections I have found: 1. Who you were before marriage will come with you into your marriage (fortunately we are able to grow with the holy spirit and our spouse). 2. People who are doing it the wrong way will be exposed and we need to not fear them, but rather fear Him who can destroy both soul and body in hell. (Matthew 10:28). 3. Do not hide anything from your spouse that can effect intimacy. Practice pre marriage by exposing yourself to God.

Jun 21, 202119:21
Sexual restraint and Being equally yoked with 1 Corinthians 6:17 memory segment

Sexual restraint and Being equally yoked with 1 Corinthians 6:17 memory segment

What does it mean to be equally yoked? Using the verse in 2 Corinthians 6:14 (NIV). We talk about a real world example of being equally yoked and what it means to maintain purity prior to marriage. What does it mean if you aren't pure before marriage? God Can still heal this in your relationship but there is a lot to work through on top of whatever else you have to work through as a couple in marriage or outside of marriage. Do not be deceived by society, we have personified pre marriage relations and it is tempting as christians to see even people in the church moving in together. Do not follow them, you will find yourself in a place you never thought you would be.

Apr 22, 202118:24
Boundaries in relationships with our Scripture memory segment: 1 Corinthians 6:16 NKJV

Boundaries in relationships with our Scripture memory segment: 1 Corinthians 6:16 NKJV

Talking about boundaries in relationships prior to marriage. (reference Hebrews 13:4 NKJV) Be specific. Do you know yourself enough to set up realistic boundaries? Do you know the truth of God's word? Do you know the enemy? ("the devil sleepeth not and neither is the flesh as yet dead, therefore cease not to prepare thyself to the battle, for on thy right hand and thy left are enemies that never rest."-Thomas a Kempis) You should learn about these two enemies and you will be able to withstand all the attempts of either the devil or your flesh. "If you know yourself and not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat, if you know yourself and the enemy you need not fear the result of a hundred battles, if you know neither yourself or the enemy you will succomb in every battle."-Sun Tzu

Mar 18, 202116:24
Aspirations Of The Dead

Aspirations Of The Dead

Referring to Galatians 5:17-21 NKJV before the fruits of the spirit and Matthew 8:21-22 NKJV. We are highlighting the fruits of the flesh and Jesus calling us to follow Him and let the dead bury their own dead. I compiled a personal list of what dead people do and are caught up in. 1. Sex that transcends reality with someone you don't know. 2. Politics (Romans 13:1-3 NKJV) 3. Course Jesting 4. Sexting and talking about sex 5. Laughing at a joke to tease someone else. 6. Recognition from people. These are modern day visuals of Galatians 5:17-21.
Feb 27, 202127:27
Can you explain your salvation? With a healing testimony and Scripture memory 1 Corinthians 6:16 NKJV

Can you explain your salvation? With a healing testimony and Scripture memory 1 Corinthians 6:16 NKJV

Helping to align those who are spirit led believers in Jesus Christ with understanding your salvation. Something I recently have been aligned with using Galatians 2:20 NKJV and 1 John 4:17b NKJV to support our salvation as Christ Living his life through us. Not by trying to live morally but understanding we have a new life after being crucified with Him and being raised to life again. Amen. A testimony of God miraculously healing me, despite my poor decisions and to end with our scripture memory segment. 1 Corinthians 6:16 NKJV.

Jan 30, 202126:60
Scripture memory segment: 1 Corinthians 6:15 NKJV

Scripture memory segment: 1 Corinthians 6:15 NKJV

Going through the process of memorizing scripture. With an emphasis on verse 15.
Jan 19, 202108:59
Online dating and Internet Safety with Andrea O Hara MA

Online dating and Internet Safety with Andrea O Hara MA

What are the platforms for online dating? How do we navigate them in general as a society? What causes people to date online? Biblical references to generational issues regarding sexual behavior (Genesis 14-19 summarized). Looking at the process to meeting someone today safely: Emotionally and physically. (Reference Matthew 16:24-27 NKJV as our intent to hold on to things and it costing us in the end. Proverbs 7:4-6 NKLV) 

"What Dating and sex looked like in a previous Historical Pandemic."-Cosmopolitans Jillian Goltzman

Dec 31, 202043:57
Scripture memory: 1 Corinthians 6:14 NKJV

Scripture memory: 1 Corinthians 6:14 NKJV

Going through the process of memorizing scripture with emphasis in verse 14 of 1 Corinthians 6. Instructions to combat those who believe sex outside of marriage is ok. If someone does believe something isn't written for them (Reference Hebrews 13:1-6 NKJV, focus in verse 4), then they do not believe the whole bible is true. Which is ok for them. But they are taking their chances on the last day when they see the Lord face to face (reference James 4:11-12 NKJV). And there is no need for you to argue with such a person.

Dec 29, 202012:16
Scripture memory: 1 corinthians 6:13 NKJV

Scripture memory: 1 corinthians 6:13 NKJV

Going through the tedious process of memorizing scripture. But "yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it."-Hebrews 12:11b. Mentioning the correlation in Verse 13 of 1 corinthians 6 of the scientific comparison of sex addiction and food addiction as having the same effect on the brain and also being within the same verse.

Dec 20, 202012:05
A woman's perspective part 5: Discussion With Brooke

A woman's perspective part 5: Discussion With Brooke

A single woman's perspective and her experience with Married couples and the pornography issues that arise in marriages. 

Dec 20, 202025:51
Opposite sex Friendships Part 2 with Baby bear

Opposite sex Friendships Part 2 with Baby bear

Part 2 to the last segment regarding opposite sex friendships. Talking primarily about older positive relationships with the opposite sex that yield much fruit. Brief strategy for what your looking for in someone. Long term is the key, using Isaiah 40:6-8

Dec 13, 202022:10
Scripture memory episode: 1 Corinthians 6:12

Scripture memory episode: 1 Corinthians 6:12

Going through the process of learning how to memorize whole chapters of scripture. Emphasizing Verse 12. Brief devotional after.

Dec 06, 202010:49
A woman's perspective part 3: Opposite sex Friendships Part 1 with Baby bear

A woman's perspective part 3: Opposite sex Friendships Part 1 with Baby bear

Talking about different points of view of opposite friendships. Two polar opposites in approach and situations when it comes to opposite sex friendships. Living with non romantic opposite sex friends? Could leave you up for emotional disturbances and issues. But coming from my sister Baby bear's point of view, she has lived with many males in different situations that were not issues or romantic in any way. Interesting conversation  for a topic i'm sure many have an opinion on. I would love to hear yours at my email jay.monty8999@gmail.com

Dec 06, 202023:24
Scripture memory episode: 1 Corinthians 6:11 NKJV and Gods will

Scripture memory episode: 1 Corinthians 6:11 NKJV and Gods will

Covering the process to memorize a chapter of scripture in 1 Corinthians 6, focusing on verse 11. Then having a brief reflection and underlying thoughts on Gods will for our life. References: 1 John 2:14-17NKJV, 1 Thessalonians 4:3NKJV, James 1:12-17NKJV, Matthew 8:21NKJV, Mathew 16:24-27NKJV.
Nov 23, 202020:57
Scripture memory episode: 1 Corinthians 6:10

Scripture memory episode: 1 Corinthians 6:10

Walking through the process to memorize a full chapter of scripture. “Your word I have hidden in my heart, that I MIGHT not sin against you.” Psalm 119:11. Emphasizing might: I pray we do all in our power to combat the enemy. Leave nothing out as means for victory in this life.
Nov 08, 202005:60
A woman’s perspective part 2: Consensual relations with Andrea O Hara, MA
Nov 08, 202028:01
A woman’s perspective part 1 with Andrea Ohara psychotherapist, MA
Nov 02, 202031:34
Scripture memory episode: 1 Corinthians 6:9b

Scripture memory episode: 1 Corinthians 6:9b

Emphasizing a different word as we focus in 1 Corinthians 6:9b.
Nov 02, 202005:38
3 warnings and strategies for freedom

3 warnings and strategies for freedom

3 warnings: justification of sin, “this is who I am” statements, and formulas set out by trusted council. Strategies: writing down frustrations and sexual frustrations in detail, getting mad at God is not bad, it brings him into your pain, and attraction to women is not bad. A thought of sex is not sin, planning how you are going to do that is sin, 10 second window max. Challenge: bring Jesus into something you enjoy and do it regularly. Amen. Scripture memory 1 Corinthians 6:9a NKJV. Other scriptures: James chapter 2, Ecclesiastes 7:3
Oct 25, 202022:03
To rid ourselves of all vices so that we can be used at capacity.

To rid ourselves of all vices so that we can be used at capacity.

My prayer is that we remove all vices and control the controllable’s in our lives. “This is the will of God for your life, your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality.” 1 Thessalonians 4:3. Do not be deceived God uses everyone in every state. But our goal should be to be used by God every minute of every day. Amen. “The devil sleepeth not neither is the flesh as yet dead. Therefore, cease not to prepare thyself to the battle. For on thy right hand and on thy left, are enemies who never rest.” Thomas a Kempis. Scripture memory: 1 Corinthians 6:8 NKJV
Oct 17, 202026:47
Discussion with brother Cyrus: champion of fasting

Discussion with brother Cyrus: champion of fasting

Insight into fasting practice in an extreme way that can also be dangerous health wise. Be aware of health risks but if God calls you to fast, trust he will sustain you.
Oct 10, 202028:03
Discussion with Billy Horton: Personal recollections and fasting advice.

Discussion with Billy Horton: Personal recollections and fasting advice.

Discussing personal past with sex and pornography. Also the regular practice of fasting that leads to spiritual discipline. “The 7 day fast” by: Billy Horton. Scripture memory from 1 Corinthians 6:7a NKJV
Oct 04, 202028:41
Fasting part 1: biblical references to fasting, spiritual and health benefits.

Fasting part 1: biblical references to fasting, spiritual and health benefits.

Going over foundations of fasting as means to control your flesh after all strategies have been exhausted to this point. Noted: also to help other people in your life with their afflictions that God places in your path. Covering the health benefits from an article by Rachel Link, MS, RD “8 health benefits of fasting backed by science.” 1 Corinthians 6:6 memory verse.
Sep 27, 202025:23
Repentance process with pastor Kurt Cotter of living streams church

Repentance process with pastor Kurt Cotter of living streams church

Scenarios of times where repentance with the Lord and others is necessary. The process to true repentance no matter the issue. The difference between forgive me and I’m sorry. Scripture memory 1 Corinthians 6:5
Sep 17, 202033:14