Bucovery
By Bucovery
BucoveryApr 26, 2024
It's In Front of Your Face
Join Tyler Woods, PhD as she talks about trying to stop seeking the answers outside of ourselves and realizing that we have everything right there in front of our faces. She shares the story of a Buddhist Rinpoche she met with, who told her that we do not see right in front of our faces and we tend to look beyond what is right in front of us. Listen to the rest of the story of seeing what is right in front of us.
Training The Mind
Join Tyler Woods Ph.D. as she talks about the book Training the Mind and Cultivating Love and Kindness. She shares how training the mind is to allow yourself to let go of your suffering and be kind to all. She believes that training the mind is about commitment and purpose. She believes setting intentions is about how we navigate our daily lives and cultivating a mindset that will guide our actions, emotions, and thoughts to teach us love and kindness.
Why Buddhism
Join Tyler Woods as she tackles a question: Why did she leave Christianity for Buddhism? She talks about running into Buddhism while she was in college and shares how she wanted to grow spiritually rather than feel religiously trapped. She shares how we should let go of past hurts and feel inner peace. She shares how mindfulness and equanimity help us foster forgiveness and let go of our past.
Ego and Fear
Join Tyler Woods today as she talks about how fear is a product of ego. She recently visited fear for a while and learned that fear is a protective reaction of the ego which wants s to hold, to have, and not to let go. She explains that the ego looks for fearful situations and helps protect us by keeping it active. It looks to seek out. Join her as she talks about ways to defeat fear so ego cannot harm us.
Loving As Is
Join Tyler Woods today as she talks about loving people as is unconditional love. Love is a spiritual practice and a spiritual freedom. In Buddhism, Lovingkindness, compassion, appreciative joy, and equanimity are classic teachings of love. Today Tyler will focus on when you love someone as is, you are showing you are okay with who they are because you are okay with who you are.
Beginning to Understand Ego
Join Tyler Woods today as she begins to start talking about ego. She realizes people get upset when we talk about ego, and no one wants to talk about it. Woods believes that it is important to realize in Buddhist psychology that the ego doesn't need to go completely away rather, we need to take the time and recognize what it does to us and begin to change by exploring it and gaining an understanding of it.
Being With My Friend Dying and Buddhism
Join Tyler Woods as she talks about having the joy and sadness of being with a friend who's life is ending. Tyler talks about how death is undeniable and inescapable and with that said, she believes it is about understanding how important life and death really is from a Buddhist psychology aspect. Join her today as she talks about death, impermanence and acceptance.
Practicing Patience
Tyler Woods believes Buddhism teaches that true patience being in the very moment and the willingness to accept things as they are. Things happens, and a compassionate response the suffering of impatience would be to have an act of compassion toward ourselves. But how do we learn patience? Listen to today's episode.
Buddhism and Recovery
Join Tyler Woods PhD as she talks about Buddhism, addictions and recovery. She has been sober for over 33 years. She started off in AA and the path was not spiritual rather more on the Christian side. She began to learn more about the truth of her suffering through Buddhism and remains sober today.
If you are new to recovery, try a little bit of both worlds, traditional AA as well as Buddhist recovery. If you are interested in recovery using Buddhism check out
https://www.buddhistrecovery.org/
https://recoverydharma.org/
https://www.refugerecovery.org/
Buddhism and Conflict
Join Tyler Woods as she talks about how people need some sort of conflict it seems in their lives. Conflict seems like the spice of life. After all, what is fiction without great conflict? In Buddhism, conflicts arise when we lack real insight. Buddha usually tried to bring peace in situations of conflict and Buddhism teaches us some general rules about conflict, mainly loving-kindness and a positive state of mind. If we keep that state of mind, conflict is easier to deal with.
Anger. Letting Go As A Buddhist Practice
Join Tyler Woods as she talks about letting go of anger. Buddhist teachings is to let go of the anger. It is about releasing the knots that bind us to the anger. Releasing anger and choosing not to suffer only sets you free and makes you a kinder, gentle person who is filled with growth, integrity, and joy. So, what’s in your anger and are you willing to work through it?
Impermanence and Buddhism
Join Tyler Woods today as she shares about a friend that is dying and impermanence. There is a saying that says “whatever is will be was.” It is that simple really. Impermanence is inescapable and it is a painful fact of life and if we examined the nature of reality she believes that we would all discover that things are constantly changing.
Equanimity and Peace of Mind
Join Tyler Woods today as she talks about equanimity. She believes it is the grounds for wisdom and the protector of compassion. Research psychologists have begun to focus on the benefits of equanimity, a form of mental stability that can be enhanced through mindfulness and is recommended as an aid to a mood regulation practice and peace of mind.
Dysfunctional Family Part 2
Join Tyler Woods as she continues dysfunctional families in part 2. How does a practicing Buddhist deal with it? Remember, talking to them will not change them. When we change what’s in our hearts, we can change our own reactions and outward behavior.
Dysfunctional Family and Coping Part 1
Join Tyler Woods as she talks about a Buddhist approach to dysfunction family. In part one she talks about he Eightfold Path to dysfunctional family and how it can be very helpful to you. She feels it can be a check list to keep you living a peaceful and mindful path with yourself and with any relationship.
Ten Days Of Patience
Today Tyler Woods will take you on a ten day journey into patience and peace. She will offer you ten days of ways to remind you to practice patience in hopes is it might help and aid others in times of needing patience. The Buddha considered patience to be the supreme peace, and act of self compassion. With that said welcome to the ten-day journey of patience. It is her hope that it will help motivate you towards practicing patience and peace.
Positivity Happiness and Buddhism Part 1
Tyler Woods has recently on social media, not been liked by some people because they think she is too positive. She is not alarmed by this at all rather filled with gratitude that she has positive energy. She thanks her Buddhist practice and teachers and has a deep gratitude to be living a positive life. She wishes people knew and understood that for Buddha, the path to happiness starts from an understanding of the root causes of suffering which can take away our positive emotions and our goal is to suffer less by following a certain path. Enjoy part 1.
Aging and Buddhism
Join Tyler Woods as she talks about aging with grace and spirituality. She talks about how the Buddha said everything changes and as we age those changes can mean a decline, however, we still have a strong life force and declining and aging go hand in hand. She believes by following Buddhist teaching, aging can be a new beginning and you can see aging as a fully blossomed senior with grace.
Changes As We Age
Join Tyler Woods as she talks about changes as we age. She talks about how the Buddha says all conditioned things are impermanent and that includes age. Tyler shares that whenever we cling to resistance to change, we will suffer with inner conflict and will not be at peace. She shares how the solution is to recognize that nothing can be permanently satisfying and that everything is always changing and that means us as we age. We are all on a path of endless change. If we are to find inner peace, we can’t waste all of our time and effort fighting the natural law of change such as aging. We must embrace it and allow it in without resistance.
Anger and How to Transform It into Change
Join Tyler Woods today as she talks about how you can make changes because you were angry. She talks about part how part of being positive is to allow yourself to feel emotions like anger when it is appropriate. She stated that in Buddhism it is said that within our consciousness there are blocks of pain, anger and frustration called internal formations. They are also called knots because they tie us up and take away our freedom. Learning lessons from anger and creating positive changes can help us heal and untie the knots that bind us.
Overcoming Hate, Anger and Fear
Join Tyler Woods PhD today as she talk about what the Buddha said about hate. The Buddha's message is that you deserve a life where you can move on and find happiness by letting go of hate. Letting go of hate means to educate ourselves on our fears. Sadly, what people do not understand is that that on the other side of every fear is freedom. Freedom to understand and not hate. Hate comes from ignorance and when we get angry, we lose the dignity of our intelligence so first and foremost removing ignorance and educating yourself is one of the greatest way to cope with anger which is simply fear. We have a seed of anger in us and we have a seed of compassion in us. Which one do you wish to plant?
Spirituality and Religion Are Not the Same
Join Tyler Woods as she explains how religion and spirituality differ. She tries to clear one thing up, while religion is an aspect of spirituality, spirituality is not an aspect of religion. So many people think spirituality is religion, but that is not the case at all. Tyler talks about the difference between the two. She feels that spirituality is for those who recognize that life brings to them that which they create through their thoughts and actions and spiritual practices, and that people are responsible for their own spiritual life experience and believes that spirituality has to do with living with deliberation, consciously and intentionally.
Calmness Is A Superpower
Join Tyler Woods today as she talks about calmness being a superpower. The foundation for calmness is about the four immeasurable which are emphasized in Buddhist teachings of loving-kindness, compassion, joy, and serenity. These four attitudes can help people overcome the things that upset them and disrupt balance. It helps create a gentle switch in perspective that makes it easier to get through difficult times and people.
Letting Go of the Story You Hold Onto
Join Tyler Woods for this show as she talks about something that upsets people and that is holding onto their story of trauma. Tyler talks about how people hold on to their pain for so long that they would feel lost without the pain and suffering. Afterall, they would have no story to tell and that has become their identity. Buddhism talks about pain and suffering caused by attachment and yes there is an attachment to pain and the story of how the pain was created. The Buddha wanted us to realize that our suffering is the result of our emotional reactions and not the incident itself. So we learn the process of letting go to allow happiness and inner peace grow.
Letting Go and the Four Noble Truths
Join Tyler Woods as she talks about how people hold onto things until they lose everything. They have not learned how fear of emotional pain, loss, hurt, and not getting their way prevents them from fully living in the present. They are constantly living in the past and holding onto to hurts almost like a currency. The Buddha taught people about the power of changing their mental processes in order to alleviate emotional discomfort and embrace change. One of his insights were the four noble truths that helped people free themselves from the patterns of thinking and behaving that perpetuate their suffering. Learn more about this process with today's show.
Allowing Negative Experiences Turn to Growth Not Suffering
Join Tyler Woods as she talks about how in our life, it sometimes takes a negative event to make a positive change. We must keep in mind when someone tried to create suffering, it is because they are suffering deeply within and their suffering is simply spilling over. We have to remember that greatest of all lessons are often delivered through others. Tyler says that a Buddhist teacher reminded her about living lightly, which meant the less we hold on to what we think we want, the more content we become. Living lightly, forgiving and letting go is the Buddhist path that allows you to walk in peace.
Understanding Why Buddhist Psychology Works
Join Tyler Woods today as she talks about why Buddhist psychology works so well. Buddhist Psychology differs from many Western psychologies as it truly concerns itself with human potential rather than human pathology. When you experience problems with living, it doesn’t find you in need of fixing. Instead, Buddhist Psychotherapy views all suffering as an opportunity for growth and change. Tune in and learn why it is so powerful.
Ego and Buddhist Teachings That Help Regulate It
Join Dr. Tyler Woods today as she talks about one of the biggest things that get in our way is ego. Sadly people think ego is a bad thing. Actually ego is not bad, in fact we need it! Ego helps us strive, helps build better self-esteem and makes us feel good about our decisions. Here is the problem with ego. It gets in our way, it causes negative behaviors and we get attached to it. Join Tyler today as she talks about Buddhist teachings to help us coordinate and regulate healthy ego.
Walk In Peace
Tyler Woods likes to walk in peace and remind people daily to walk in peace. She sends peace out daily but what does walk in peace really mean? Today Tyler talks about how walking in peace is about inner peace. Finding our peace. She talks about how peace is calmness despite the potential presence of stressors. She shares how peace is learning how to tame the mind and finding inner peace.
Supresing Emotions Buddhist psychology
Join Tyler Woods as she talks about how suppressing emotions can cause more damage than you can imagine to the mind, body and spirit. It is not easy work to deal with thee emotions however, this is where Buddhism’s critical insight and resembles that of Western psychotherapy. His aim was to identify, explain and end human suffering. This is very similar to what therapists do today. Psychotherapy and Buddhism work well because combining these two methods of exploring the mind have many practitioners merging the two methods.
How and Why I got Into Buddhism
Join Tyler Woods today as she talks about how she got into Buddhism and why it was important for her to utilize it in her practice as a psychotherapist and life coach. Tyler says she became aware that Buddhism was the most psychological belief systems and the two work hand in hand. She shares how Buddha believed that the mind is the most dominant and Buddhism provides tools helping to alleviate psychological suffering and that since she was eight years old trapped in a religion she wanted to have nothing to do with, how she found home in Buddhism.
Buddhism and Emotionally Absent Parent
Many adults suffer because they had an emotional absent parent. Whether that parent was mentally ill, or was challenged, the child grown into the adult suffer because of the lack of emotional love, support, compassion and understanding they did not receive. Join Tyler Woods PhD and she talks about a Buddhist approach to ending the suffering of having an emotional absent parent. Mindfulness, meditation, being present, the Eightfold Path, and giving them what they could not give is all a pathway to healing and letting go of the attachment and moving on.
Leaving Christianity for Buddhism
Tyler said she get's asked often how did she get into Buddhism. Today she tells the story of being in a religion that was like a dogmatic slavery and how she felt worthless as a woman in that religion and she turned to drinking and drugging. She got sober in AA but discovered it was not teaching her what she knew, that she was suffering and she was attached to drugs and alcohol and by stopping the attachment, she would be sober. Tyler stated that at eight-years-old she knew we come back and do it over and over. Tyler discusses her exit from religion and went from dogma to feeling compassion and love.
Emotions and Buddhism
Join Tyler Woods PhD as she talks about powerful emotions like dealing with life and death and the 4 Noble Truths and the Eightfold Path. Suffering is inevitable in life; so why do we run from it so much? Why do we want to rush and extinguish the flames of emotions of despair and fear before they fully get ignited, before we can fully learn? When we face any kind of difficulty, we should try to embrace it with gratitude as an essential part of the path we are walking. We remember that life is impermanent and is always changing.
Making Mistakes
We all make mistakes; it is part of being human. Join Tyler Woods as she talks about how mistakes have a great deal to teach us and learning the power of letting go of the mistake once the lesson is learned. Mindfulness is an invaluable tool for helping us to let go of the mistake, learn the lesson and move on with no attachments. Mistakes are a part of life and we are stronger than our mistakes.
Buddhism and Resilience
Join Tyler Woods today as she talks about how a strong, resilient mind, can help us better manage our thoughts, emotions, and energy when we’re faced with stress or challenging situations. And ultimately, we gain the ability to remain cool, calm, and collected no matter what we’re up against. She refers to the story of the buddha which is one of the most powerful examples of resilience and how it is possible to transform our difficult emotions from one of suffering and avoidance to one which allows us to live in kindness, ease, wisdom, peace and love. Resilience is what allows some people to be knocked down and come back stronger than before. It makes us feel just okay when everything is happening at once and gives us some sort of mental balance when life is unbalanced.
Silence
Today Tyler Woods talks about silence and how nonstop noise and talking is about something and silence is about nothing and nothing can be far more important than something. The use of silence has a purpose. It’s to create the right conditions to be with ourselves and examine our internal self. Silence is vital for humans to exist peacefully. Silence encourages a strong spiritual development and creates a joyful peaceful world because it helps promote wisdom and compassion. So join Dr. Tyler Woods as she explores silence. Visit Bucovery at www.bucovery.com where east meets west in mental health and healing.
Buddhism and Taking Responsibility
Join Tyler Woods PhD ash she talks about how Buddhism teaches us all to have a strong conviction in human potential. Buddhism says that we are people that have a wonderful ability to take responsibility for what we say, think and do. It teaches us all to make our lives of expressions of wisdom and compassion. People who do not take responsibility tens to make their lives of selfishness, fear, and greed. Buddhism considers wisdom, rather than faith, to be the single most important virtue, and wisdom is taking responsibility for our thoughts and actions.
Forgiveness Can Help End Suffering
Join Dr. Tyler Woods today and she talks about how the Buddha said that only forgiveness will make our soul peaceful. Forgiveness is strong because it knows how to recognize sufferings of the past and understands the pain, therefor there is a powerful strength to forgiveness. It stands in front of you and asks you to stand bravely in front of your pain you and asks you to forgive and let go. The Buddha put emphasis on love, kindness, compassion and tolerance. To hold a grudge or to not forgive means we cannot hold onto to these values. Today Tyler explores forgiveness.
Gossiping and Buddhist View
Join Tyler Woods PhD as she talks about how in Buddhism there are teaching for mindful speech that focus on refraining from causing harm. In Buddhism is we try very hard to refraining from unkind speech and gossiping. We see gossiping as a form of dishonesty. Even listening to gossip is a form of dishonesty. Our goal is to communicate mindfully which can actually help others and ourselves suffer less. Join her as she discusses this very interesting and often hurtful topic.
Emotional Pain
So many people are in great emotional pain in our country as of late. Between the devastating school shootings, price gouging, the war, grief and sorrow, and past unhealed wounds, emotional pain is on the rise. Join Tyler Woods and she talks about Buddhism and emotional pain and how to get through it. We are stronger than we give ourselves credit for. It’s amazing that we have the power to handle emotional pain by using our power to transform our resentment to contentment. We can achieve this by understanding Buddhist teachings.
Talking Behind Others Back and the Right Speech
"Don’t worry about what people say behind your back. They are the people who are finding faults in your life instead of fixing their own." Join Tyler Woods today as she talks about how the Buddha taught that we can only trust what is gained through direct experience – every other kind of experience, such as what someone talks about behind our backs is subject to falsehood. She also shares about the elements of right speech which is tell the truth, don’t exaggerate, don’t gossip, and use helpful language. She gives a gentle reminder that people who talk behind others backs by remembering it has nothing to do with you and there is no need to be a victim of someone else’s issues.
Alcoholism, Recovery and Buddhism Bucovery
Join Tyler Woods as she celebrate 32 years of sobriety of alcohol on St Patrick's day. She talks about Buddhism and sobriety and how it felt better for her and eventually evolved to knowing that she had an attachment to alcohol, and attachments made her suffer and to end her suffering she had to give up her attachments to cocaine and alcohol. She used the 4 Nobel Truths which are the truth of suffering, the truth of the cause of suffering, the truth of the end of suffering, and the truth of the path that leads to the end of suffering which is the Eightfold path which are the Right Understanding, the Right Thought, the Right Speech, the Right Action, the Right Livelihood, the Right Effort, the Right Mindfulness and the Right Concentration. This path would become the journey to reclaim her life and other people's life from alcoholism.
Meditate Not Hate During this Time
There was a woman on social media using the Ukraine war to create division and hate in my own country. They were dividing using hate. I felt my anger go up and I had to stop, breathe and send compassion to this poor soul who was using social media to promote hate of US government. I meditated for peace for this poor woman, and I felt my anger dissipate as I sent her more and more compassion and love. I had to have patience and I had to have tolerance this woman. Join Tyler Woods today as she talks about using meditation and compassion for the people who are spreading division and hate. During this time of war and conflict, she reminds people how we need to remember that hatred, has never yet dispelled hate. Meditate not hate.
Buddhist Psychology--Bucovery
When Tyler Woods PhD. first started Bucovery, people were confused what it meant. Basically it is Buddhist psychology. Join her today as she talks a little about what Buddhist psychology is and why it is so important to end suffering. Today she talks about the Three Universal Truths, the 4 Nobel Truths and the 8 Fold Path. All three of these are critical for healing our suffering and learning to take better care of our mental health.
The Eight Fold Path Right Speech and Effective Communication
Join Tyler Woods PhD as she talks about communication and the Eight fold path and the right speech with effective communication. She talks about how the Buddha once said that words are only justified when they aim to keep the peace between people. She explains what the Buddha meant by that is every word we speak should be thought of as creating a positive way in communicating, even when we are hurt or angry. She explains that we need to learn to restrain our speech in moments of anger, hostility, or confusion, and how over time, we can train the heart to be more states of communication such as love, kindness and empathy. From these heart states she beleive the art of communication naturally arises.
The Second Arrow
Join Tyler Woods as she discusses the Buddhist parable The Second Arrow. The second arrow represents our reaction to a negative event such as a death, sickness, break-up, a loss of job, a car accident, break up, betrayal or a crisis of some sort. The second arrow can make a negative event much worse by the way we react. Sometimes when things happen, we can manage to get through it simply by how we react. Woods talks about how with the second arrow comes the possibility of choice. Another way to state it pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Join her today as she shares way to stop the second arrow and how much harm the second arrow can create.
Understanding Fear
Join Tyler Woods as she explores and helps the listener understand fear. The Buddha says fear is the root of suffering. It is a tool of oppression and imprisonment. Buddhists believe that dealing with fear involves the fact that you must deal with your own perceptions. What you perceive you will receive. So she teaches you in this podcast how to use fear to propel you into courage and not be attached to the suffering that fear can cause. She will explain how courage is a smart emotion and it recognizes fear and acts anyway. Woods will tell you that courage is NOT being without fear rather it allows you to understand fear better.
Holding a Grudge
Join Tyler Woods as she talks about people holding grudges. Tyler believes grudges are a great distraction from your real emotions and what lies underneath the cloak of grudges. Holding grudges doesn't make us feel better or heal our hurt. We tend to turn our grudges into an object and hold it like proof we were hurt and choose suffering. Tyler shares about letting go of grudges and to use the Fourth Noble truth for attaining the end of suffering which can lead you to the Eightfold Path.
Communication and Buddhism
Join Tyler Woods as she talks about mindfulness communication and being present with what you are doing, while you are doing it, with a nonjudgmental attitude. Not only is mindfulness a formal practice of meditation, it can also be the way one is engaged in communication. Successful communication helps us better understand people and situations. Basically mindful communication is gentle and in the present moment. It is nonjudgmental while listening to hearing. Mindful communication is simply the practice of attempting to bring our attention to our words as well as our our actions. Keeping it simple, it is being aware of what we’re speaking while we’re speaking it. Join her for this episode.