Angela and Patti share communication tips at work. How to stay in a job and manage difficult relationships. How to ask yourself the right questions to determine how to manage your emotions.
A meme Patti saw - I’m sorry that your terrible behavior caused me to act out of character. You should work on that!
What does this meme tell you?
Take a look at yourself.
Is the relationship problem really you?
What is it about this person that triggers you?
Is it past behavior? Do they remind you of someone? Do they remind you of something you don’t like within yourself?
Angela: Is this a group issue or is it an issue just for you. Do others in workplace share your issue? This points to something missing in the group environment.
Use the PAUSE and REFLECT Technique
PAUSE for three to five seconds before responding. This gives you time to change your response or don’t respond at all.
What if you receive a nasty passive/aggressive email from your boss or coworker?
Before responding back to the email. Write out your response. Don’t send it! Walk away for awhile. Sleep on it, if you don’t have to respond within the same day. Then rewrite it when you have calmed down. Have someone else read it that you trust to help tone it down before hitting the send button.
What to consider:
Should I stay at my current employment or move on?
Make a list of "why to stay" and "why to go". Be upfront and honest. No holding back from the truth of the matter! Look at which column has the most reasons? Make your decision from there. Is there more good reason to stay? Or reasons to leave.
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Here are other blog posts from Patti to explore:
How to Incorporate Pause into Leadership https://wp.me/p3W3dA-VCY
Feeling Stuck in a Dead-End Job? https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UTu
Warning Signs - Is It Time To Look For Another Job? https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UWs
Patti and Angela discuss using empathy in the coaching environment. Patti talks about using empathy in group dynamics as a leader. Angela discusses empathy within family and personal relationships.
Patti Oskvarek is a personal, leadership and work life balance coach. She is passionate about coaching supervisors and managers on becoming better leaders and creating a balanced fulfilling life. www.facebook.com/CoachingforInsp
Patti’s - Live Your Best Life Now - http://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/
and Patti's Blog Post on The Floating Experience for Work/Life Balance - https://wp.me/p3W3dA-V8L
Angela is a teacher who helps people love and understand themselves using the energy body, movement and awareness so they can resolve and manage their emotions and experience great love and joy in themselves and their relationships.
Learn about her Emotional Management Class here: http://transform.loveandrelationshipcoach.com/emotional-man…
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Patti talks about the benefits of taking time for yourself.
Let's the brain rest
Helps with problem solving
Reflection time to better understand yourself and be a nicer person
Creates relaxation and calmness
Spend time with family, spouse/partner and really give them our full attention without focusing and thinking of work.
How do we do this?
When should we do this?
How often should we do this?
What is really important to you?
Reflect on these questions and realize we really need our family, our spouse/partner in our lives. They keep us balanced, grateful and loved.
Angela talks about Family Dynamics can often be challenging for reasons we can’t always put our finger on. There is often a tension in families - that create unexpressed hurts from a situation in the past. So if you have a challenging family start by realizing your family is not unusual! we all have quirks in families - and some of us have really strong issues in families - so we tend to run away from them!
How do you move past these? Go back to questions above:How do we do this?When should we do this?How often should we do this?What is really important to you?
Do you want to work on changing your family dynamics? Angela has one on one coaching program called Transformed Relationships, you can book a Relationship Clarity Call at https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com and discover more about the program.
Do you want harmony and balance in your life? Patti has created a 21- Days Optimal Work/Life Balance Program. The program is designed to help you focus, de-stress and gain perspective. During the 21 days, you will receive emails with tips and a downloadable workbook. https://wp.me/P3W3dA-UwI
Patti’s blog posts about spending time with family and planning a vacation:
Summertime Inspiration https://wp.me/p3W3dA-URL
Time to Plan a vacation
What is the concept of Rediscovering Yourself and Rebirth?
Each day is a new beginning. The sunrises and the sunsets. Time to release the old and start again. Wiping the slate clean. It’s often difficult to release bad situations, relationships or past regrets. Rediscovering is about looking forward to the future and letting go of the past, which is holding us back on what we really want in life. When you watch a sunrise it affirms a brand new day and life continues to go on. In the cycle of life, plants died in the fall and rebirth in spring. There is a time to end and a time to begin. The challenge is facing the fear of transition and be willing to rediscover yourself.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 New International Version (NIV) A Time for Everything
Patti talks about career transition and making a career journal you can more learn more from these blog posts:
Making a Career Journal - https://wp.me/p3W3dA-UfY
Lifescaping ~ What is holding you back in life? https://wp.me/p3W3dA-V8n
Angela talks about rebirthing the Body. Sometimes your body needs to restore so your natural rhythms can come into sync and you can rebirth your spiritual energy or reinvigorate your aspirations.
Creating a “Fallow field” for the Personality Habit of Pushing. Giving yourself time to slow down. Become in rhythm with your needs, nature and not rush. Modern Society forces you to rush and it is becoming faster. How do you say - NO and find your natural rhythm? Letting go.
On May 11, 2019 Angela will be doing a Movement Meditation ~ Align with Nature in Sydney Australia https://www.facebook.com/events/308427649823591
Interested in releasing karma? Why not set up a Relationship Clarity Call with Angela to remove once and for all old habits of relationships.https://loveandrelationshipcoach.setmore.com
How Change Inspires Relationships!
Patti's Thoughts: Change is good in the workplace because people don’t get bored and they learn new things. It is easy to go through the motions if you do the same job function everyday. People leaving the team and new people coming onto the team is good. New ideas and new energy comes to the team. New projects and different new challenges keeps everyone thinking and motivated. The same old stuff day after day demotivates staff. Learning new ways and methods helps the team members grow. Now, change can come with upheaval at first. People have to learn how to communicate with each other. There maybe some growing pains. It also puts new perspective on the job. If you don’t like what is changing you have other options to move on yourself. That isn’t a bad thing. It is a way of reflecting is it time for me to make a change as well. It could be a new boss or a new job assignment that you just don’t like. What is this telling you about yourself or the job? Is it time to move on or will I stay and see how it works out for me? Change is part of life however at first it is scary and uncertain. Sometimes it is for the better and sometimes it helps us improve by the experience. It depends on how hard you fight it.
Angela's Thoughts on personal relationship: “Your partner is a mystery”.
Too often we get comfortable or bored with our partner. How do you know you really know them? You know their habits. Do you know them? How can you see your partner as a mystery? Do you have a question that you want to ask your partner - have you already assumed you “know” how they will answer...notice how you tend to put them in a box. Some ideas on how to get to know your partner in different context. Board games that involve moral questions like “scruples” , a new card game or game, dance class, a challenging hike or outdoor adventure, book a trip somewhere for a weekend and don’t tell them where you’re going. Take a train ride instead of the car. Trying different modes of transport and feel what it’s like to share a new experience with your partner.
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Episode 6 podcast - How's Your Love Life Competing With Your Phone? In this podcast Patti and Angela discuss how the cell phone can enhance and limit relationships with others. They also talk about their personal relationships with their own phones.
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INCREDIBLE WORK-LIFE BALANCE HACKS for BUSY LEADERS
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Put Your Relationship with yourself as a priority and discover a simple energy system with movement and exercises that empower you to accept yourself, overcome old habits and discover what love is that allows self acceptance to happen effortlessly.
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Angela and Patti discuss "What is being Authentic?"
Patti view: A truly authentic person doesn't put on a mask and become someone they are not or change to fit in. They express their true thoughts, feelings and views without apologizing. Being authentic is having integrity and being true to oneself and others.
Angela view: Sharing without forcing people to agree. Sharing without proving you are right or anyone is wrong. Sharing from your heart. Sharing to get understanding between people. Being in the heat of anger and needing to stand up and fight for what you believe in.
What is being authentic mean to you?
Accepting oneself for the good qualities you have. Everyone is unique and has some type of talent and gift. Comparing yourself to someone else just causes pain and envy. To stop those thoughts: Write down all your good qualities. Anytime you start to feel self-doubt, comparison or negative feelings reflect on those words you wrote and read them.
Self Reflection questions:
*Who were you at the beginning of 2018?
*How are you different now?
*What have you achieved?
*What are you happy about?
Episode 3 of Building Better Relationships at Home and Work with Angela and Patti - The Many Masks of Loneliness. This episode is about The Many Masks of Loneliness – What lies behind the masks?
Warning Signs of Loneliness:
1. Shopping a lot and care a lot about material possessions
2. Binge watching TV
3. Feel don't get enough sleep. Constantly tired. Sleep fragmentation when you can't sleep through the night and are continuously waking up.
4. Take a lot of hot showers or baths for comfort.
5. Get sick a lot with colds.
6. Feeling depressed.
7. Spend a lot of time of time on social media.
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Angela and Patti discuss being able to be social without being stuck to the phone.
People are losing face to face contact. There is home schooling, working from home, solo-entrepreneurs, single parenting and much more. Distance over internet makes people bold, they feel comfort behind electronics. Interacting face to face, shy people feel more uncomfortable and their not forced to socialize.
How do you get social away from the phone?
Go and get face to face with others, and put the phone away.
Go to the same place and same time every week and possibly you will see the same people every week and make a connection.
Start going to meetups groups.
Stretch out of your comfort zone.
People cut themselves off from social opportunities before they even get there.
Strategy - Pick a place and go once a week. Get past the What IF of past fear of rejection. Sometimes you may never know who you may meet by taking a chance. Take the risk and leave the what-ifs behind. The most fun times, has been talking to strangers about the weirdest things!
Connecting to your heart and writing exercise.
What do you want to experience socially?
Not everyone wants romance.
If someone invites you to go somewhere. Say yes.
Find people with same interests as you.
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Welcome to Building Better Relationships at Work and Home with Angela Ambrosia, Love & Relationship coach and Patti Oskvarek, Leadership & Work-Life Balance coach. We talk about today's relationships and how to enable you to create long-lasting relationships. This episode is about when to say no and when to say yes.