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But also, get therapy

But also, get therapy

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Yo, so you’re here now. We’re Mel and Halima, two best friends from West London navigating the world together. From relationships, healing our inner children, being raised by first generation immigrant parents, and to figuring out our identities. We’re about to explore it all. Learn from our mistakes… but also, get therapy!


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But also, breast milk butter

But also, get therapyDec 25, 2023

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But also, breast milk butter

But also, breast milk butter

Breast milk vs breast butter, the return of Kimchi the dog and lots of cheating hypotheticals!


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Dec 25, 202301:08:11
But also, thank you for your review

But also, thank you for your review

Our season finale! Halima's dog nibling, family therapy and a special friend challenge.


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Nov 21, 202301:17:13
But also, what's the 'crack'

But also, what's the 'crack'

Halima's office gremlin, Mel's trip to Portugal and more friendship anxiety!


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Nov 14, 202358:50
But also, jeggings were never in

But also, jeggings were never in

Halima's dry microwaveable dinner, Lipstick Alley and our experiences going out out!


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Nov 07, 202301:07:47
But also, needs? I don't know her

But also, needs? I don't know her

Mel's anxious attachment resurfaces, we went to watch Mahalia and people pleasing to our detriment!


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Oct 31, 202301:04:12
But also, get racist

But also, get racist

Accidentally calling your friend 'baby', friends with different political views and gentrifiers can go to hell.


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Oct 23, 202301:05:45
But also, do you even lift, bro?

But also, do you even lift, bro?

Halima is back from Brazil, navigating the gym as a femme person and feeling unsafe as a trans person. 


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Oct 16, 202301:14:37
But also, gripse thy neighbour

But also, gripse thy neighbour

Our love child (Plant Club), how do you go about finding community and feeling lonely in a big city.


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Oct 09, 202301:22:30
But also, 'your inner child' joined the chat

But also, 'your inner child' joined the chat

Do you man want a patreon, doing up baby voices in front of your friends and what parts of your inner child are you still trying to heal?


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Oct 02, 202301:14:01
But also, June in September

But also, June in September

Our first guest ever! We have @Junebellebabe with us this episode discussing running away from London, dating men as a non-binary trans femme person and what our types really are!


We want to apologise for the sound quality this episode, it's our first time recording with 3 people in the same tiny room!


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June: @junebellebabe

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Sep 25, 202301:23:01
But also, a friend of a friend of a friend

But also, a friend of a friend of a friend

We are back with SEASON 4!!! This week we're talking all things friends of friends!


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Sep 18, 202301:11:22
But also, we'd prefer if you didn't

But also, we'd prefer if you didn't

Boundaries, boundaries, and more boundaries!


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Jul 10, 202301:06:18
But also, should I unblock you?

But also, should I unblock you?

Mel's love for brick phones, M&S has boooookey white staff and and how to have love for exes and ex-friends.


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Jul 03, 202301:09:54
But also, hbd lol

But also, hbd lol

Thanking people at zebra crossings, Father's Day was shit and how we want to be celebrated!


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Jun 26, 202301:04:16
But also, content with resent

But also, content with resent

Our weekend in Cornwall, Halima surfing and our feelings of resent in life!


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Jun 19, 202301:05:24
But also, old buddy old pal

But also, old buddy old pal

Would we ever date, what can garlic NOT save and what we bring to friendships!


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Jun 12, 202301:12:36
But also, divorce is always on the table

But also, divorce is always on the table

Wearing the same outfit three days in the row, how being alone makes us feel and asking for space from your partner!


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Jun 05, 202301:07:54
But also, is your mum home?

But also, is your mum home?

Showing up at your friend's house unannounced, meeting your friend's parents and navigating relationships with your partner's parents.


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Han's Tattoo Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/han.gunji/ (@han.gunji)


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May 29, 202301:08:22
But also, come as you are

But also, come as you are

Dating someone who can't sing, feeling ugly and unlearning our fatphobia!


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May 22, 202301:07:07
But also, working 9 to Fine

But also, working 9 to Fine

Halima's work crush, our first jobs and imposter syndrome!


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May 15, 202301:19:10
But also, call me when it gets better

But also, call me when it gets better

What we've been up to over the last 6 months, grief, loss and how expensive funerals are!


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Follow @han.gunji on instagram if you want a tattoo!



May 08, 202301:19:10
But also, enjoy your Christmas bonus

But also, enjoy your Christmas bonus

Merry Christmas from us to you! 


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Dec 25, 202255:52
But also, I did nothing wrong this year

But also, I did nothing wrong this year

Happy season finale! Today we talk about shit sunday roasts, reflecting on our year in 2022 and our hopes for the coming new year!


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Dec 12, 202201:19:31
But also, you're on smoke

But also, you're on smoke

LinkedIn wankers, dealing with anger and how to self-regulate! 

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Dec 05, 202201:13:00
But also, wtf is bubble and squeak?

But also, wtf is bubble and squeak?

Halima never getting the ick, how we assimilated in this england and a disclaimer to white people! 

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Nov 28, 202201:12:31
But also, two break-ups away from peace

But also, two break-ups away from peace

Toilet etiquette, how to know when to break up and checking in on our friendship! 

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Nov 21, 202201:15:05
But also, forgive yourself

But also, forgive yourself

Stalking your friends, things we still can't forgive ourselves for and tips on how to forgive yourself! 

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Nov 14, 202201:09:53
But also, I'm sorry about last night

But also, I'm sorry about last night

Which colour would Halima move to, our relationship to alcohol growing up and surface level friendships! 

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Nov 07, 202201:13:30
But also, it's okay if they leave you

But also, it's okay if they leave you

What we brought to therapy this week, cleaning your airpods and attachment styles part 2! 


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Oct 31, 202201:29:28
But also, transfer me 12p

But also, transfer me 12p

Our relationship to money individually, in a relationship and with friends! 

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Oct 23, 202201:18:19
But also, do your parents lipse?

But also, do your parents lipse?

Mel gets recognised, parents showing affection and our first break up message!


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Oct 16, 202201:18:42
But also, 23kg of emotional baggage

But also, 23kg of emotional baggage

Holidaying with friends, chicken kievs and Halima's evil ring! 



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Oct 09, 202201:16:13
But also, anyone can get it

But also, anyone can get it

OUR SEASON FINALE!

Body image and gender dysphoria during sex, sexuality and masturbation!


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Jul 03, 202201:11:36
But also, they're evil eyeing you

But also, they're evil eyeing you

Lipsing your dog, comparing yourself to your friends and judging your partner on their job. 


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Jun 26, 202201:17:58
But also, gender is fake

But also, gender is fake

What our first learned ideas of gender were, being misgendered and accepting you're transphobic! 


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Jun 19, 202201:17:06
But also, when will you love me?

But also, when will you love me?

Our anxious attachment styles, white people at christmas and is liking someone only because they're buff a bad thing? 


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Jun 12, 202201:25:30
But also, your parents should get therapy

But also, your parents should get therapy

Our relationship to our parents and their mental health, Halima's Geordie accent and another listener letter!


TRIGGER WARNING TIME STAMPS:

41:30 - Suicide


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Jun 05, 202201:12:24
But also, eat it, it's good for you

But also, eat it, it's good for you

Our family dynamic around food, fat-phobia and being a French rat.


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May 29, 202201:27:53
But also, it's probably a fetish

But also, it's probably a fetish

Interracial dating, loving missionary and "I don't find my partner attractive".

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May 22, 202201:15:28
But also, it's not you, it's us

But also, it's not you, it's us

Friendship break-ups, keeping your ex's number and our first ever listener letter!


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Antonio: @antonioroldao_


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May 16, 202201:00:28
But also, 'single-sex' schools suck

But also, 'single-sex' schools suck

Why 'single-sex' schools suck, bribing lunch ladies and doing the most for 'male' attention.


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May 08, 202240:29
But also, who are we?

But also, who are we?

Why we started this podcast, how we met and the maddest thing we've done for exes. 

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May 01, 202241:57