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The Questionable Podcast (formerly But First Coffee)

The Questionable Podcast (formerly But First Coffee)

By Kelly Grignon

A podcast designed to let the message needed come through when we need it. Our world is changing so rapidly and intensely. It's time we start asking better questions to get better answers. I'm going to offer different perspectives & thoughts on human behavior and how to live a life that's more satisfying & fulfilling when the world around you is addicted to frustration, struggle & burnout.
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Ep. 100: Dropping An Old Identity And Assuming A New One

The Questionable Podcast (formerly But First Coffee)Apr 20, 2020

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Mistakes don’t slow you down

Mistakes don’t slow you down

It’s really easy to make ourselves feel bad for making mistakes and getting things wrong. And today’s episode I want to talk about why mistakes are actually helping you move faster towards the life that you want.
Mar 22, 202410:46
I am, I feel

I am, I feel

The words we use trigger all kinds of beliefs and responses within our neural pathways. When we want to make changes in our lives and create different experiences a simple starting place is the words we use when we speak and think. Thai one in particular is powerful.
Mar 19, 202414:08
To do lists, productivity & free time

To do lists, productivity & free time

We’re stuck in a loop of needing to be busy and more productive but wanting more free time to enjoy our lives. There are things that need to be done but can we ever just be done?
Mar 14, 202432:27
Circumstantial beliefs & confidence

Circumstantial beliefs & confidence

We can’t completely eliminate our doubts, worries and fears, but I feel like today’s questions help us make a powerful pivot in our ability to believe in ourselves, and move through life with more confidence.
Mar 12, 202415:08
I wish I still had

I wish I still had

I wish I still had… that body, that hair, that money, that relationship, that job. It’s easy to get stuck in that wishing and dreaming. It’s even easier to sit in the wishing we had never made certain mistakes or gone through that hard time in our lives. Getting stuck there takes you out of the game and today I want to ask you the question that can get you back in the game and moving forward again.
Mar 11, 202407:02
Success isn’t about completion

Success isn’t about completion

I know there’s a lot of talk about how we are redefining success as a society, but I want to dive deeper into the perspective that says completing something is what makes it a success.
Mar 10, 202415:14
Ep. 20: Independent, self sufficient & self reliant

Ep. 20: Independent, self sufficient & self reliant

This episode is for all the independent women (and men) that have been praised for being self sufficient and for having a great work ethic their entire lives. The swing from Boss B*tch to Slow Living is in full effect and it can be quite intense. Let’s talk about the detox period everybody likes to avoid and the difficult choice of allowing yourself to receive more support. (I could also call this episode something like “Shifting from masculine to feminine: how to soften so you receive more of your desires)
Mar 09, 202429:06
Fears and Desires

Fears and Desires

Are they deep seated or deep seeded? Let’s talk about the difference and how to figure out what your purpose and desires are so you can help them grow and flourish instead of the fears that have been getting in the way.
Mar 08, 202415:28
Adding to the formula

Adding to the formula

We’ve talked previously about the formula, your routines and how sometimes the need to be consistent and do them step-by-step to get it right and get the results that you want can actually be the problem. Today let’s talk about the importance of being willing to add something to the formula and how to know what to add that could make all the difference.
Mar 07, 202416:20
Supplies, provisions & when it’s not working

Supplies, provisions & when it’s not working

Today’s episode is about facing the times when it seems like it’s just not working or your prayers aren’t being answered. What’s the perspective shift you need to get you back on track and moving forward?
Mar 06, 202415:48
Getting a breakthrough

Getting a breakthrough

Whether you are reaching for a big goal or achievement, or you are going through something very challenging and hard, you’re looking for the breakthrough into something new. There is a piece in this process that gets you to the breakthrough that the majority of people try to skip over, so let’s stop skipping it.
Mar 05, 202411:47
The formula might be the problem

The formula might be the problem

Do you have a routine that you follow every single day? When your routine gets messed up do you feel like it’s ruined your whole day? Have you ever followed a process step-by-step and it didn’t work out the way that you wanted it to? Sometimes it’s the formula that’s the problem. Sometimes it’s our focus on being consistent every single day that causes the problem.
Mar 04, 202417:37
Faith & Human Design

Faith & Human Design

I’ve used the terms God, angels, Universe & energy interchangeably over the last decade to try to resonate with whatever your beliefs may be. Speaking different “languages” and uses different analogies to get a topic to land with different people has become a skill I’m quite good at but in the process it has altered my own internal dialogue. Today I wanna share how Human Design (along with everything else I’ve studied, taught & spoken about) has brought me back to God and deeper into my faith. I love the way Human Design connects to my spirituality and belief in God without having to try to alter the system in anyway. Maybe today’s question is, “How is what you’re studying & speaking impacting your beliefs & faith?” (No matter what faith, religion or belief system you follow)
Mar 03, 202430:41
Why does everyone talk about the “inner work”?

Why does everyone talk about the “inner work”?

If I understand WHY I tend to have a better attitude about doing difficult or uncomfortable things. So let’s talk about the hardest thing you’ll ever do: the inner work. Why does it ALWAYS start there? Why does it matter? Hint: you could be pursuing the wrong goals & purpose.
Mar 02, 202418:05
What to ask when it feels like other people & things are in your way.

What to ask when it feels like other people & things are in your way.

Sometime it feels like other people or the systems and structures in our lives have all the power and they just keep getting in the way. “If it wasn’t for X, I’d have what I want or I’d be able to do what I want.” It can leave us feeling powerless. The path to reclaiming your power isn’t an easy one but today’s question is a good starting point.

Mar 01, 202424:35
Are you walking your path or someone else's?

Are you walking your path or someone else's?

There comes a time when you have to start questioning who’s path your walking. Whose prayers are you praying? Whose wishes, desires, wants, and needs are you asking for. Are you sure they’re yours? Or are they what everything else is saying you should have?

Feb 29, 202406:07
Ep. 10: A question about boundaries & receiving

Ep. 10: A question about boundaries & receiving

What boundaries have you been crossing and how is it impacting what you’re receiving in your life? Why do boundaries even matter? Let’s get into it today!

Feb 28, 202411:50
3 Questions to get out of burnout & overwhelm

3 Questions to get out of burnout & overwhelm

There’s times in life when we hit bottom and wish for something to change or it all feels like it’s just too much and we’d really love if it could be different. These three questions move you from what you don’t want towards what you do want. Beware: once you know these answers you can’t unknow them.

Feb 27, 202419:14
Who are you being too open with?

Who are you being too open with?

Let’s talk about why it matters who you share celebrations and failures with, who you spend time with and who you’re listening to. I also talk about how much of our anxiety can be caused by being too vulnerable with too many people and the wrong people. Self confidence, self trust and a strong sense of self are all impacted by the WHOs in our lives.

Feb 26, 202417:35
The Question to Ask That Will Help Move You Forward

The Question to Ask That Will Help Move You Forward

So often we get stuck, spin our wheels, plateau and repeat the same thing again and again and again… and again. So let’s ask a few better questions that can be the lifeline you need to pull yourself up and out of the funk. I also dive into a little more about why I get sucked into Human Design and astrology as my own lifeline through life.

Feb 25, 202418:19
Is struggle necessary to appreciate ease?

Is struggle necessary to appreciate ease?

I was once told that we didn’t need to experience struggle in order to appreciate ease. It sounds decent on the surface but my subconscious filled in lots of gaps and added to the story and actually created something that made me feel more shame, guilt and bitterness towards my life. Life wasn’t always good and easy, I was experiencing challenging, painful, frustrating things so I was always asking, “what am I doing wrong? What in me is still not good enough or broken?” Recently I started asking some different questions about it and I’ve found where my internal story took a wrong turn and I’ve written something new that feels so much better.

Feb 24, 202416:24
The most important question for our current evolution

The most important question for our current evolution

We’re in the middle of a major transition in humanity. We’re evolving into the next version and it can feel chaotic, painful, ugly, messy, and stressful. I think this one question and awareness is pretty much THE game changer in working through these changes and stepping into what’s next with less struggle. What do you think?

Feb 23, 202427:34
Stop asking, "What feels good?"

Stop asking, "What feels good?"

Diving into what questions are better to ask after the initial upheaval of self reflection/self healing/inner work where all you’re looking for is what’s wrong and not working. Once you’ve done some of that what questions are better to ask so we get some better answers? There’s a good chunk on why I hate when people tell you to “just do what feels good” or “follow what feels good to you” and how that often keeps you stuck and repeating cycles instead of moving forward into the life you want to be living.

Feb 22, 202417:29
The Questionable Podcast (Trailer)

The Questionable Podcast (Trailer)

A brief intro to what this podcast is about.

Feb 21, 202400:41
Can't or Won't?

Can't or Won't?

If you feel like you’re a procrastinator, inconsistent, or lazy this episode is for you. Mid-cleaning vibes I stopped dead bc I had nothing left to give and my room was still a giant mess. I started contemplating how often I was told I wasn’t good enough bc I was a procrastinator or I didn’t finish things before moving on to something else. Not to mention a didn’t giant fear of being called lazy. So I started asking myself some better questions about todays messy, incomplete project.

Feb 21, 202417:48
What question gets you the most out of any program, book & mentorship?

What question gets you the most out of any program, book & mentorship?

Universalized vs differentiated teaching: What question to be asking yourself as you are learning from someone else so you get the most and the best out of what you’re giving your time and energy to.
If you’re a Projector I cannot recommend this episode enough. I share a major realization that I’ve recently had that is a game changer for getting out of your bitterness and into your success.
I talk about my experience with Amanda Frances’ Money Mentality Makeover* as I go through it again and how being told by another mentor, “you’re not so special that it works for everyone except you” has been a ball of shame, failure and “you’re not good enough” stuck deep inside me for 7 years.


*love it, btw. I’m not a hater and I’ll never be the type to call people out or criticize others anyway. Just get this clear right up front.

Feb 20, 202452:59
Starting New: The Questionable Podcast

Starting New: The Questionable Podcast

But First Coffee... WAKE UP CALL is officially transitioning into something new. I don't drink coffee much anymore so that's part of the reason but also because there's been SO many changes and shifts over the last few years, a change was needed in this space. We're gonna call this season 10 since '10' is about beginning again and starting anew. Let's get to it!

Feb 20, 202418:34
Closure

Closure

Thank you so much for being a listener of the But First Coffee… WAKE UP CALL. it’s been almost 10 years of content from periscope to Facebook to podcast and it’s time to bring it to a close. You can now find me on Instagram @Rebel.Rose.Life if you have questions, want support or are looking for what’s next.
Jan 26, 202402:36
Ep. 166: Separate yourself from what you create

Ep. 166: Separate yourself from what you create

When you’re an online creator or entrepreneur you’re told (and expected) to share yourself and your life very vulnerably and openly. I spent a lot time sharing ALL of my life and myself in an attempt to grow my brand & business to create the life I wanted for myself & my family. Turns out not sharing is just as important and valuable as what you do share. Let’s talk about the pedestal we put mentors, teachers & gurus on, what they teach us and what we make it all mean, as well as developing and utilizing our own inner authority to find our way in life. And the biggest point I want to make: you are not your business/products/services/creations.
Dec 03, 202224:03
Ep. 165: Breakdown before breakthrough

Ep. 165: Breakdown before breakthrough

When I was in my coaching certification course, “the breakdown before the breakthrough” was a VERY common saying but I never understood what it actually meant or why it was even necessary. Let’s dive into it today
Nov 21, 202216:08
Ep. 164: Don’t be mean

Ep. 164: Don’t be mean

One statement that we’re told as kids has ramifications that effect your marriage. This episode dives into the “don’t be mean. You won’t have any friends” teaching we picked up as a child and we’re pulling it apart of see how it’s creating problems in your marriage.
Nov 15, 202221:28
Ep. 163: Using your personality profiles & self development tools as an excuse

Ep. 163: Using your personality profiles & self development tools as an excuse

In every area of personality profiling and self development - from DISC & Enneagrams to Astrology & Human Design - I’ve watched people use their results as a way to disempower and limit themselves. So let’s talk about the latest piece I’ve seen and discover why it’s a bunch of bullsh*t & crushing your marriage
Nov 12, 202228:05
Ep. 162: Natural genius needs reflection

Ep. 162: Natural genius needs reflection

The journey of accepting my 2-line natural genius, the foundation of my marriage and finally seeing what’s being reflected back to me.
Nov 08, 202235:46
Ep. 161: There’s nothing you have to do

Ep. 161: There’s nothing you have to do

Such an interesting phrase used in the coaching and “manifestation” industries. I wanna dive into it and pick it apart a bit so we can find the truth underneath it. What does it really mean? Is it helpful or harmful? How do I actually walk my path in life if there’s nothing I have to do?
Nov 05, 202221:19
Ep. 160 Increase your capacity to receive more

Ep. 160 Increase your capacity to receive more

Receiving and holding more in your nervous system & energetic container. How does it really work? Do you really need to strengthen your nervous system & increase your energetic capacity?
Nov 02, 202216:38
Ep. 159: Know Your Limits

Ep. 159: Know Your Limits

It’s easy to get caught up in someone else’s ideas about what your goals are and what you should be doing if you don’t know your limits. Knowing your limits and honoring your boundaries is what creates your freedom and expansion.
Oct 26, 202226:12
Ep. 158: Opinion vs Fact vs Discrimination

Ep. 158: Opinion vs Fact vs Discrimination

Oh how our language & communication needs some serious work. Want the cliff notes version of this episode: you can only have an opinion on things you have actually experienced. Otherwise you need to learn to shut the f* up.
Oct 19, 202231:03
Ep. 157: Survival Mode

Ep. 157: Survival Mode

Are you in survival mode? How do you get out of it & how do you find your path forward? What about quantum leaps & reaching the next level?
Oct 12, 202224:13
Ep. 156: Does the relationship need to end or not?

Ep. 156: Does the relationship need to end or not?

How do you know if your relationship is correct or not? What if your paths don’t cross anymore? Letting your partner be their differentiated self. The unconscious manipulation we use on others. And other relationship related things.
Oct 05, 202223:26
Ep. 155: Fear of Change isn’t Real

Ep. 155: Fear of Change isn’t Real

What’s it really based in? Isn’t change the base of our biological and energetic mechanics? Why would something so foundational to us be a fear?
Sep 28, 202209:45
Ep. 154: Relationships are Changing

Ep. 154: Relationships are Changing

As we change from tribal and “we gotta reproduce” to a whole different need & style for relating, are you ok with it? Or are you still perpetuating the old-school dynamics in the posts you share & comments you make?
Sep 21, 202234:47
Ep. 153: The Transition of Change

Ep. 153: The Transition of Change

Are you in the pre-frame or post-frame personally? We’re in a pre-frame collectively. What’s that even mean? Why does it matter?
Sep 14, 202231:60
Season 11 announcement

Season 11 announcement

This season is different in a lot of ways but mainly bc these episodes are more for new than they are for you. This season is about externalization.
Sep 12, 202206:37
Ep. 152: No weapon formed against me shall prevail - Self Ownership

Ep. 152: No weapon formed against me shall prevail - Self Ownership

I love this episodes topic. Self ownership is coming into complete self acceptance and alignment with who you are - past, present and future. It means no one can ever use anything to manipulate, coerce or blackmail you. They cannot shame, blame, guilt trip or embarrass you with any part of your life or who you are bc you own it. You’ve faced it all and come to a deep acceptance and love for yourself, your decisions and your actions. People will try but you won’t respond in the way they are trying to make you.
Mar 16, 202212:23
Ep. 151: Being designed for confrontation & provocation

Ep. 151: Being designed for confrontation & provocation

I am no stranger to gossip and slanderous things being said about me and used against me. Let’s talk about my personal design to give you some specific examples and things to look at and consider in your own. Not to be ironic but learning about others is how I’ve learned about my own (the true Projector way) so here I am telling you to use mine to start understanding your own. Confrontation, provocation, & challenge are all required for growth yet so many avoid it. Why is it easy to interact with some people and not others? What’s the point of differentiation? How learning my design has helped me stand in my own, accept myself and not take anything personally anymore.
Mar 14, 202222:55
Ep. 150: The weakening of humanity & resiliency

Ep. 150: The weakening of humanity & resiliency

“Self projecting” episode today. Talking out some of the thoughts in my head about our continual avoidance of discomfort and how this is a choice to develop weakness instead of strength. We have lost our resiliency so I also talked about what can allow us to become resilient again. Note: true self-projection is a mechanism in channels and authority for specific designs. When I’m correctness, self-projection says what it says. Period. I used the term today to refer to outward express in an effort to sort through thoughts.
Mar 11, 202219:47
Ep. 149: You can’t be anything you want.

Ep. 149: You can’t be anything you want.

Digging deeper into one of the most watered down and unhelpful things we’ve been taught and that we teach our kids.
Mar 09, 202210:53
Ep. 148: The universe never tests you

Ep. 148: The universe never tests you

There’s this thing that floats around the coaching/spiritual/mindset world that says when you make a decision the universe will test you on it. I’m calling bullshit and offering you a different perspective on what happens when life puts obstacles in front of you.
Mar 01, 202219:05
Ep. 147: Distractions & Self Sabotage

Ep. 147: Distractions & Self Sabotage

Let’s chat about this concept of getting in your own way, being distracted and self sabotaging. It comes back to control and judgement and it’s just not true so I’ll offer some new perspectives on our free will, the awareness of the other options and choices available to us and what’s actually important to be focused on when we’re moving forward in our lives.
Feb 26, 202225:59
Ep. 146: Some thoughts on anxiety & emotional overwhelm

Ep. 146: Some thoughts on anxiety & emotional overwhelm

In this episode I ended up talking about having an emotional authority (defined solar plexus in your human design chart - 50% of the population has this) and offering some questions and ponderings about anxiety. We have entered a new world after the past two crazy years. It’s time to find our footing and figure out what this new normal is and how we move forward in it.
Feb 22, 202224:21