Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Shaun Pickering. Shaun is an Archetypal guide to couples, a sovereign birth guide for men, and also a mentor/coach. He helps men understand where they’re are at in terms of being a pillar in the birth space, as well as helping men build a plan to empower them in the birth space. He is also the host of the Birthspace Brotherhood podcast.

Key points:

- Shaun introduces himself

- What is the Lover Archetype?

- Immature vs Mature

- Addicted vs Impotent

- The importance of self-love

- Embodying the Lover

Relevant links:

Shaun’s website: https://stan.store/shaunpickering

Shaun’s Instagram: @iam.shaunpickering

From episode #59 with Dex Parker. More from that episode:

- Dex shares about his journey

- What is sex work?

- Experiences of a male sex worker

- Erotic content creation

- Alternative expressions of male sexuality

- Discussing pornography

- Advice for exploring your sexuality

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Oli Jenkinson. Oli embarked on his Breathwork journey over 5 years ago amidst the stress of his corporate job, discovering its power to activate his parasympathetic nervous system. Through intuitive exploration and formal training in Bali, he delved deeper into Conscious Connected Breathing, experiencing profound emotional releases that transformed his life. Combining his personal journey with professional training, he founded Alchemy Breathwork, dedicated to guiding others in emotional healing and resilience. Rejecting hyper-spiritualism, Oli's approach emphasizes practical, sustainable growth, helping individuals navigate and process emotions for a fulfilling life. His mission is to provide a space where people can authentically heal and thrive.

Key Points:

- Oli introduces himself

- Breathwork, catharsis, and surrender

- Breathwork at home

- The energetics of breathwork

- Breathwork for men

- Engaging the throat, diaphragm, and perineum

Relevant links:

Oli’s website: https://www.alchemybreathwork.com.au/

Oli’s Instagram: @alchemy.breathwork

From episode #58 with Yuval Mann.

More from that episode:

- Yuval talks about his life journey

- Orthodox Judaism and sexuality

- Relationship with God

- Defining sacredness

- Overcoming sexual blockages

- How transformation happens

- Push vs Pull

- “Good” stress and excitement

- Emotional regulation

- Working with single men

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Gabriella de Mori. Gabriella is a registered counsellor with a Masters Degree in Counselling who thrives on coaching women from emotional overwhelm to self-confidence so they learn to trust themselves to take care of their inner world with grace. Based in Fremantle, Perth she operates a successful private practice offering a variety of dynamic and holistic services that include individual counselling, couples counselling, group courses and coaching, a meditation library and digital resources she has created.

Key points:

- Gabriella introduces herself

- Social media and not feeling “good enough”

- Meditating and self-esteem

- Mindfulness as foreplay

- Dating, feeling sexy, and anxiety

- Unrealistic expectations

Relevant links:

Gabriella’s Instagram: @gabriella.de.mori

Gabriella’s website: https://www.gabriellademori.com/

From episode #57 with Dexter Kendrick.

More from that episode:

- Dexter introduces himself

- Eastern Medicine vs Western Medicine

- Penis heath

- Fertility and conception

- Changing your diet for sexual health

- Prostate health

- Mediumship and sexuality

- Telling people about their future

- Practicing Chinese Medicine as a Black man

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Sureya Leonara. Sureya is a Holistic Sex & Relationship Coach and Writer. She is on a mission to change the world through healing and liberating sexuality, the seed of our creation, in a way that permeates every area of our lives, not just the bedroom. With eloquence, depth, playfulness, unconventional insight, and penetrating intuition, she catalyses profound shifts in the lives of her clients and audiences.

Key points:

- Sureya introduces herself

- Expanding definitions of pleasure and somatic awareness

- Cultivating curiosity, experimentation, and a no-pressure approach to sex

- Supporting partners through mutual understanding and non-linear intimacy

- Addressing performance anxiety and the mind-body connection

Relevant links:

Sureya’s website: www.sureyaleonara.com

Sureya’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sureya_leonara

Sureya’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sureyaleonara

Sureya's free practice: https://blue-block-67264.myflodesk.com/nxsyaw1wyh

From episode #56 with Lauren White.

More from that episode:

Lauren shares the evolution of her message

What does it mean to be sexually confident?

The way we talk about masturbation and sex

The problem with being “good in bed”

Embodying your pleasure

Learning to communicate

Comfortability and sexual confidence

Your body is a playground

Advice for women

Advice for men

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I discuss and debunk some of the major claims made by semen retention practitioners. I also share some opinions about semen retention as well as my own personal experiences and the approach I take with clients.

Key Points:

- Testosterone

- Depression

- Zinc

- Nutrition

- The body

- Premature aging

Relevant links:

Cam's blog: https://cam-fraser.com/blog/

From episode #55 with Asa Baav.

More from that episode:

- Asa shares about her agency, Tailor Matched

- Matchmaking vs Coaching

- What is sexual compatibility?

- Collecting information about our sexual desires

- Approaching conversations about sexual function

- Dating: Don’t waste your time

- Who is using matchmaking services?

- Expanding the dating pool

- The stigma of using a matchmaking service

- Emphasizing connection over appearance

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Daz Alexandra Tendler (she/they/he). Daz is a sex-and-body-positive sexologist holding membership with the Society of Australian Sexologists. With an understanding that everyone’s sexual and relationship desires and needs are unique and diverse, she ensures her non-judgemental and compassionate practice focuses foremost on individual well-being. Daz is trans, queer and neurodiverse – through personal experiences with ethnicity and religion, class, gender and sexual diversity, and neurodiversity, they know how important it is to nurture safe, supportive spaces for marginalised minorities, particularly LGBTQIA+ individuals and those with ADHD and autism.

Key points:

- Daz introduces himself

- Defining ADHD

- ADHD symptoms and impacts

- ADHD and sexual dysfunction

- Managing ADHD through lifestyle and medication

- Supporting a partner with ADHD

Instagram: @daztranstender

Instagram: @sexspaceau

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daztender/

From episode #54 with Shaft Uddin.

More from that episode:

- Shaft introduces himself as the “Wim Hof of Tantra”

- Portraying Tantra in the mainstream media

- Living in the Tantra bubble

- Lineages and finding your own path

- Shaft’s personal daily practice

- What is an injaculation?

- Conscious ejaculation and consecration

- Ejaculation shaming and non-ejaculatory orgasm

- What does a non-ejaculatory orgasm feel like?

- Researching multiple orgasms for men

- “I love my life, I love my body, I love myself”

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jo Milios, Ph.D. Jo is a Physiotherapist with a special interest in Men’s Health, Yoga, and Pilates. Since establishing a Men’s Health service in 2005, she has treated over 3000 prostatectomy patients, over 500 chronic pelvic pain patients, and 100’s of men with Erectile Dysfunction. Among achievements such as delivering Men’s Health courses to Physiotherapists in Australia, England, Ireland, Portugal, New Zealand, and South Africa, Jo also established PROST! Exercise 4 Prostate Cancer, a not-for-profit community education and exercise program for men in 2012.

Key Points:

- Jo introduces herself

- Prostate health protocols

- Kegels vs Reverse Kegels: Pelvic floor exercises

- Prostatectomy recovery

- Shockwave therapy for erectile dysfunction

- The importance of intimacy

Relevant links:

Jo’s website: http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/

From episode #53 with Ginger Jen.

More from that episode:

- Ginger shares some of her story

- Ginger explains what ADHD is

- Strategies for getting into your body

- How do people with ADHD express their sexuality?

- ADHD and sexual rejection

- Communicating with a partner who has ADHD

- ADHD and high risk sexual behaviour

- Ginger shares about her diagnosis with ADHD

- The intersection of escorting and ADHD

- Working with men in the sexuality space

- The women who sell sex and men who buy it

- Online coaching and final thoughts

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tyson Adams. Tyson is a trauma-informed IFS men’s coach, somatic bodyworker, and psychedelic facilitator. After spending 20 years addicted to pornography, he outgrew it seven years ago and has found his passion and purpose in helping other men master their lifeforce energy. He also co-facilitates men’s work leadership intensives and works with couples experiencing intimacy challenges. When he’s not working, you’ll catch him on a rock wall or riding a slackline in sunny San Diego.

Key points:

- Tyson reintroduces himself

- Defining mindfulness

- Benefits of mindful masturbation

- Challenges to mindful masturbation

- Mirror work and embodiment

- Psychedelic experiences and self-pleasure

Relevant links:

Tyson’s Instagram: @tysonadams__

Tyson’s website: https://linktr.ee/tysonadams

From episode #52, a solo episode with just Cam.

More from that episode:

• Introduction to and intentions for the conversation
• I understand the harm some porn has caused
• Anti-Porn vs Pro-Porn vs Anti-Anti-Porn
• What is porn? The problem with definitions
• The problem with the “porn is a drug” analogy
• Thought experiment: Where do you draw the line
• Operation Spanner and private sex groups
• Mainstream vs Ethical (Feminist) porn
• Messages, escalation, addiction, exploitation

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Peter White from Bondimedical. Dr. White has over ten years experience treating patients in his practice, using non-invasive orthopaedic medical devices to improve confidence and quality of life. He has successfully treated numerous conditions, including Peyronie’s disease, side effects from urological surgery, and male enhancement.

Key points:

- Dr. White introduces himself

- Penile curvature treatment

- Using Phallosan Forte safely and effectively

- Expected results and longevity

- Addressing other penile health concerns

- Customer service emphasis

Relevant links:

Phallosan Forte website: https://www.phallosan.com.au/

From episode #51 with Dr. Joe Kort.

More from that episode:

- Dr. Kort shares about his practice as a therapist

- Heteroflexible and homoflexible

- Discussing Jane Ward’s book, Not Gay

- Bisexual erasure

- Queering heterosexuality

- “Your anus doesn’t have a sexual orientation”

- Fragile masculinity

- Working with couples in therapy

- Wives’ experiences with heteroflexible men

- Sexual fluidity for men and women

- Practical advice for men

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Judson Brandeis. Dr. Brandies has been voted Top Urologist in the San Francisco Bay Area by San Francisco Magazine from 2014 to 2020. In February 2019, he opened his office in San Ramon, where he focuses his practice entirely on Men’s Sexual Health and Rejuvenation. Dr. Brandeis is the National Director of Clinical Excellence for GAINSWave and created and runs the SWEET Study, the largest study of Shockwave Therapy for erectile dysfunction ever performed. Dr. Brandeis is also a national sexual medicine educator who has run weekend educational seminars all around the United States.

Key points:

- Dr. Brandeis introduces himself

- Erectile dysfunction treatment options

- Low intensity shockwave therapy

- Penile enhancement

- Erection variability and hard flaccid condition

- Risks and adverse effects

Relevant links:

Dr. Brandeis’ website: https://brandeismd.com/

Dr. Brandeis’ Instagram: @judsonbrandeismd

From episode #50 with Emily Claire.

More from that episode:

- Emily shares about her journey from Law to Tantra

- Mentoring with John Wineland

- Healing your relationship with men

- A woman’s experience working with men

- Mix-gendered spaces: Learning from other genders

- “Fuck and Kill to Consciousness”

- What are men’s natural desires?

- Integrating the animal part of ourselves

- Masculine and Feminine Energy

- Fight, Flight, Freeze, Feed and Fuck

- Practical advice for men wanting to begin this work

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I share an audio recording of one of my sexuality seminars. The title of this sexuality seminar is, "Presence and Masculine Sexuality. If you're interested in learning more, head to my website and check out what else I have on offer.

Key points:

- Who am I?

- What do I mean by "presence"?

- Practical tools for being more present

- What does "masculine sexuality" mean?

- Practical tools for embodying your masculinity

- An invitation to explore more

Relevant links:

Cam's website: www.cam-fraser.com

From episode #49 with Johnathan White.

More from that episode:

- Johnathan shares about his teachings

- Creating your own personal practice

- Learning to listen to your body

- Your first non-ejaculatory ogasm

- Techniques for non-ejaculatory orgasms

- Mantak Chia’s “Million Dollar Point” technique

- Obsessing over and redefining orgasm

- The importance of non-sexual practices

- Semen retention and NoFap

- The energetics of ejaculation

- Conscious ejaculation vs semen retention

- Testicle breathing practice

Relevant Links:

Johnathan’s Instagram: @sexual.kungfu

Johnathan’s YouTube: Sexual Kung Fu

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a licensed clinical and forensic psychologist, certified sex therapist, founder of the therapy practice Modern Intimacy, and host of the Get Naked with Dr. Kate podcast. She helps people live more fulfilled lives by shattering stigma and erasing shame.

Key Points:

- Kate introduces herself

- Inequalities in emotional labour

- Addressing inequalities through communication

- Emotional labour and mental load

- Practical steps for individuals and couples

Relevant links:

Kate’s website: https://www.modernintimacy.com/

Kate’s Instagram: @themodernintimacy

Kate’s TikTok: @drkatebalestrieri

From episode #48 with Tyran Mowbray.

More from that episode:

- Tyran shares some of his story

- What men talk about when they get together

- The flaws in taking back your power

- Men in the sexuality space

- “Fellahs, is it gay to talk about having sex with women?”

- Being a conscious man in a relationship

- Saying “No” and asserting boundaries

- Men can’t be raped

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Chad Braverman. Chad is the CCO and COO of Doc Johnson, a billion dollar sex toy company founded by his father in 1976. Chad has propelled Doc Johnson into the spotlight with cutting-edge technology and products. He is challenging societal norms and transforming the sex toy industry which is often shrouded in secrecy.

Key Points:

- Chad introduces himself

- Doc Johnson history and products

- Chad's experience joining the family business

- Shifting social attitudes towards sex toys

- Future plans for Doc Johnson

- Challenges of being a father in the industry

Relevant links:

Doc Johnson’s Website: https://docjohnson.com/home

Doc Johnson’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/docjohnsonusa/?hl=en

Doc Johnson’s X: https://twitter.com/TheOriginalDoc

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ella D’Aloia. Ella is a holistic sex coach, specialising in female sexuality, a yoni massage therapist and registered nurse. Ella's mission in life is to connect women back to their bodies, sexuality and pleasure. She is also deeply passionate about working with men in this space, educating them on female bodies, pleasure and menstrual cycles.

Key points:

• Ella introduces herself

• The gap in knowledge between nursing and holistic practices

• Yoni massage's healing benefits

• Self-pleasure to enhance intimacy and reduce anxiety

• Approach your partner's genitals with respect, curiosity, and consent

• Reclaiming stigmatized words for genitals

• Men's erotic journeys and the importance of shared learning

• The need for ongoing sexual education

Relevant links:

Ella’s Instagram: @ella_daloia_

Ella’s website: www.ella-daloia.com

From episode #46 with Georgia Grace.

More from that episode:

- Georgia shares about her work

- Being in a sex-positive bubble

- Managing boundaries and online harassment

- Innovative sex-tech and new products

- The Arcwave Ion and Pleasure Air™ Technology

- Changing the way men masturbate

- Using sex toys to enhance pleasure

- Outdated science about sexuality

- Updating understandings about male pleasure

- Cultivating your curiosity

Relevant links:

Georgia’s Instagram: @gspot._

On this episode of #mensexpleasure I chat with Tyson LaRone. Tyson is a Martial Arts Instructor, Strongman competitor and Monster Energy Drink Enthusiast who TikToks about politics, history, philosophy, society and generally trying to affect positive change however he can.

Key points:

- Tyson introduces himself

- Parenting philosophies

- Validating emotions in parenting and martial arts instruction

- Contradictory models of masculinity

- The harms of an exploitative view of relationships

- Finding fulfillment through honest self-reflection

Relevant links:

Tyson’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thewarriorphilosopher

From episode #45 with Dominick Quartuccio.

Key Points from that episode:

- Dominick shares some of this story

- The final straw before rehab

- Sex Addicts Anonymous

- Is sex addiction real?

- Defining addiction and relapse

- Religion and negative attitudes towards sex

- Reframing your relationship with sex

- Talking to men about sex

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. James B. Stein. Dr. Stein is an Assistant Professor at Utah Tech University with a specialization in interpersonal communication. He has published over a dozen peer-reviewed journal articles, which can be found on his professional website JamesBstein.com. In addition to his work as a teacher and scholar, Dr. Stein can be found on social media (specifically, TikTok) under the username "J3wcifer." On that platform, Dr. Stein aims to distil complex relational, political, and pop-culture centred topics.

Key points:

- Dr. Stein introduces himself

- What is the “Manosphere?”

- The core of Red Pill ideology

- Exploiting vulnerable men

- Community, guidance, and personal development

- Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson

- Exiting the manosphere

Relevant links:

Dr. Stein’s website: www.jamesbstein.com

Dr. Stein’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@j3wcifer

#197 The Eunuch: The First Incel Novel

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Charles Fischer, the author of The Eunuch—a darkly comic novel set in Babylon during the reign of Nebuchadnezzar II. Told from the point of view of Nergal, a eunuch slave-scribe who keeps the secrets of the king’s harem, the book is a tale of depravity and love in a time of imperial decline. Charles Fischer holds degrees from St. Olaf College, Harvard Divinity School, and the University of Washington. He lives in Seattle with his wife, Lisa, and teaches writing and humanities at Everett Community College in Washington. The Eunuch is his first novel.

Key Points:

- Charles introduces himself

- "The Eunuch": Journey of a decade's creation

- Babylon invasion story through a eunuch's eyes

- Nergal's struggle with masculinity and isolation

- Sublimating desires into art through writing

- Importance of community in personal growth

- Exploring love's forms: eros, philia, agape

- Finding love in unexpected places and forms

Relevant links:

Charles’ Twitter: https://twitter.com/cfischer2

Charles’ novel: https://www.gabbrohead.com/the-eunuch

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Harvey Laguerre. Harvey is a 49 year old, stay-at-home dad of 4. The emergence of Covid-19 led to the creation of a relationship podcast with his wife, called Love is Black. The success of that podcast emboldened him to create his own. Men Are The P.R.I.Z.E. Podcast is the result of years of learning what it means to be a man in the world today. The definition of masculinity has changed drastically and not for the better. Attributes that were once manly, are now toxic. What has not changed is the lack of safe spaces for men to express their emotions. Being a vulnerable man is not celebrated like it should be. This podcast is that safe space for men to open up and reveal their inner monologue. This podcast is the what, where, when, why and how of manhood.

Key points:

- Harvey introduces himself

- Damaging stereotypes impact black men's lives

- Need for safe spaces to express vulnerability

- Self-accountability leads to empowerment and growth

- High suicide rates, isolation during holidays

- Stereotypes affect black boys' and teens' identity

- Societal pressure limits emotional expression in men

- Importance of culturally relatable therapists and coaches

Relevant links:

Harvey’s website: www.HarveyLaguerre.com

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jeddy Azuma. Jeddy is the Founder of The Rising Man Movement, a Wilderness Rites of Passage Guide, and Men’s Leadership Mentor & Coach. Since 2008, Jeddy has been in the field of Men’s Empowerment and mentored a wide-range of men: from High-Powered Tech Founders and Corporate Leaders to hard-working family men and vision-driven millennials. He has impacted the lives of thousands of men on his mission to initiate an entire generation into purpose-driven leadership. Despite his achievements, he considers his most important roles in life to be Father and Husband.

Key points:

- Jeddy introduces himself

- Rites of passage and life transitions

- Absence of traditional rites

- Educating children

- Traditional status symbols vs materialism

- Engaging with other cultures

- Exploring personal growth

Relevant links:

Jeddy’s Instagram: @jeddyazuma

The Rising Man Movement’s Instagram: @risingmanmovement

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jasper Brown. Jasper is a men’s coach whose work has guided hundreds of men to embody a conscious approach towards masculinity. For almost a decade, he has dedicated himself to facilitating the evolution of men through embodied masculinity, finding a higher purpose, and healing their relationships.

Key Points:

- Jasper introduces himself

- Jasper’s journey overcoming premature ejaculation

- Jasper’s most important insights

- Practices for overcoming premature ejaculation

- The power of a supportive partner

- Advice for couples

Relevant links:

Jasper’s Instagram: @awakened_eros

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Holly Richmond. Dr. Richmond is a Somatic Psychotherapist, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT), Certified Sex Therapist (CST) and Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor. She sits on the Clinical Board of Directors for Dame Products, and is the Associate Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. This unique combination of credentials enables her to focus on clients’ cognitive processes as well as mind-body health. Her book Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life is an innovative look at both somatic and psychological factors in survivors’ erotic recovery.

Key points:

- Dr. Richmond introduces herself

- Sexual health and pleasure

- Trauma and gender differences

- Practices for reclaiming pleasure

- Supporting a partner after trauma

- Advice for couples

Relevant links:

Dr. Richmond’s website: www.drhollyrichmond.com

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Maxi Xie. Maxi is a relationship counsellor and sex therapist. They’re here to infuse you and your partner’s journey with deeper love, heightened passion, and profound understanding. Maxi is bilingual and fluent in both Mandarin and English. They’re proudly kink and fetish-friendly, as well as poly-friendly, and aim to create a judgment-free space for you and/or your partner to explore desires, pleasure and much more. Maxi is also a strong advocate for the multicultural LGBTQIA+ community. Maxi’s genuine passion lies in guiding and uplifting those in multicultural relationships, helping them navigate the beautiful tapestry of love.

Key points:

- Maxi introduces himself

- Asian cultural considerations

- Asian men and masculinity

- Anatomy and aggression

- Restrictive gender norms

- Cultural competency

Relevant links:

Maxi’s profile: https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/counselling/maxi-xie-collingwood-vic/923851

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Shana James. For 15 years Shana has coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers and people with big visions who step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, rekindle spark, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled. Referred to as a secret weapon, Shana cuts through distraction and provides direct access to your confidence, power and clarity. She is also a translator between women and men, providing effective tools to transform conversations and dynamics that have gone awry into connection and collaboration.

Key points:

- Shana introduces herself

- Creating safety for men

- Conversations about sex

- The importance of curiosity

- Prioritising pleasure

- Practical advice for couples

Relevant links:

Shana’s website: https://shanajamescoaching.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tyson Adams. Tyson is a trauma-informed IFS men’s coach, somatic bodyworker, and psychedelic facilitator. After spending 20 years addicted to pornography, he outgrew it seven years ago and has found his passion and purpose in helping other men master their lifeforce energy. He also co-facilitates men’s work leadership intensives and works with couples experiencing intimacy challenges. When he’s not working, you’ll catch him on a rock wall or riding a slackline in sunny San Diego.

Key points:

- Tyson introduces himself

- The relationship between porn and shame

- Being introduced to spiritual sexual practices

- What Tyson sees as the problem of VR porn

- Masturbation behaviours and porn escalation

- Semen retention and conscious ejaculation

- The importance of self-pleasure

Relevant links:

Tyson’s Instagram: @tysonadams__

Tyson’s website: https://linktr.ee/tysonadams

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Eve Milford, The Sober Sex & Relationship Coach. Eve is also a certified Somatic Attachment Therapist, Women's Pelvic Health Specialist, and Reiki Master. In 2015, her journey of recovery from addiction paved the way for her incredible transformation. Eve's path to sobriety unveiled a profound link between her own trauma and her experiences in sex, love, and relationships. This revelation ignited her passion to guide others through these intricate aspects of human connection. With her extensive expertise and trauma-informed coaching, Eve specialises in working 1:1 with individuals impacted by toxic relationships and offers 1:1 and group coaching for those in sobriety facing challenges with sexuality and intimacy. She is also the host of the "Relationships in Recovery" podcast.

Key Points:

- Eve introduces herself

- Eve's journey from addiction to self-worth

- Alcohol's impact on intimacy and well-being

- Challenges and insights from sobriety transition

- Addiction, substance use, and harm minimization

- Reconnecting with sensuality, safety in sobriety

- Consent complexities in intoxication, altered states

- Importance of bodily connection for consent

Relevant links:

Instagram: @e.v.erhealing

Website: https://www.everhealing.com.au/

Podcast: Relationships in Recovery

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Esther and William Diplock. Esther and William are senior trainers and facilitators for Gender Equity and Reconciliation International (GERI), as well as program coordinators for the GERI work in Australia. They are two of the co-authors of the book ‘Gender Equity and Reconciliation: Thirty Years of Healing the Most Ancient Wound in the Human Family’. Alongside this, Esther and William are Individual & Couple Therapists, Educators and Supervisors, in their company ResonanceTogether. And have been practicing therapists for over 50 years combined.

Key points:

- Esther and William introduce themselves

- What does equity and reconciliation mean?

- The importance of multi-gender spaces

- Mitigating conflict and competition

- Religion and patriarchy

- Advice for moving forward

Relevant links:

GERI website: https://www.genderreconciliationinternational.org/

Esther and William’s website: https://www.resonancetogether.com.au/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ella Hall. Ella is an intuitive coach and leader in her field who supports high-performance professionals and entrepreneurial men and women quantum leap their current results in life, love and business by stepping into Masculine and Feminine Alignment (the integration of their heart, mind and sexual energy) – so they can take back their authentic power, break through the glass ceiling, live a life of meaning, leave a legacy and dramatically increase their impact and their revenue.

Key points:

- Ella Introduces herself

- Archetypal male clients

- Embodying sexual energy

- Leaky vs Creepy vs Needy

- Having integrity with sexual energy

- Communicating and expressing

Relevant links:

Ella’s Instagram: @Ellahallcoach

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Toya Ricci, BSocSc(Psych), PgDipCEAT, MSexol. Toya is a sex therapist and sexuality educator who passionately believes in embracing, nurturing, and creatively expressing sexuality as a fundamental component of overall health and wellbeing. Drawing on a solid background in counselling, psychology, and creative & experiential arts therapy, Toya brings a diverse range of experience and skills to her practice. She adopts an inclusive and eclectic approach, incorporating therapeutic frameworks such as existentialism, cognitive-behavioural therapy, compassion-focused therapy, and solution-focused therapy. This allows her to provide compassionate support to individuals and couples as they navigate the challenges of modern sexuality, sexual performance, intimacy, connection, dating, relationships, and sexual expression throughout their lives.

Key points:

- Toya introduces herself

- Perceptions about pleasure

- Pleasure practices throughout history

- The importance of historical context

- What does it mean to decolonise pleasure?

- Learning and unlearning

Relevant links:

Toya’s Instagram: @toya.ricci

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with anti-racism educator and American historian Kokayi Nosakhere. Since relocating to Southern Oregon in 2018, lifelong activist, Kokayi, has chosen to go on his healing journey, addressing the “on-going trauma of being Black in America.” A paradigm-shift on the American landscape is happening. It is happening while you and I are alive. You and I can choose to participate in helping the American populace walk towards greater humanity by committing yourself to modelling what a healed person looks like. This is the work at hand.

Key Points:

- Kokayi introduces himself

- The origin of Woke

- Racial and existential stress

- What is Critical Race Theory?

- 'Elite Capture': re-codifing language

- Anti-capitalism and decolonialism

- Advice for beginning your anti-racism journey

Relevant links:

Kokayi's email: royalstar907@gmail.com

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lachie Samuel. Lachie is the Managing Director of the FIFO Mental Health Group, co-founder of The Association for Mental Health in Mining Australia, and host of the Open Up podcast. On this episode, Lachie opens up about being sexually abused as a child by another boy and how this impacted both his masculinity and sexuality as an adult. We also discuss the feelings of shame and fear associated with this as well as men’s body image issues and negative self-perception.

Key points:

- Lachie introduces himself

- The importance of sexual exploration

- The impact of childhood sexual abuse

- Lachie's struggle with shame and self-perception

- Addressing fears around cock size

- Vulnerability, strength, and disclosure

- Lachie emphasizes the challenges of FIFO work

Relevant links:

Lachie’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lachiesamuel/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Sarah Jeavons. Sarah is a Dating Coach for Men. She is dedicated to helping men build confidence & land their dream relationships. The two of us talk about her history with Real Social Dynamics and why she decided to pursue a career as a dating coach. We discuss the general state of the industry and how Sarah’s approach to dating coaching is unique, as it involves mock dates and opportunities to practice your flirting skills in real time. She also shares her thoughts on handling rejection and how to navigate sexual tension.

Key Points:

-      Sarah introduces herself

-      Why Sarah left Real Social Dynamics

-      Pick up artists vs dating coaches

-      Mock dates and flirting

-      How to handle rejection

-      Navigating sexual tension

Relevant links:

Sarah’s Instagram: @datingwithsarahofficial

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Ruwan Meepagala. Ruwan hosts the Ruwando Podcast: Psychology For Men with Brains and Balls, and History of Man: How Men Came to Be. He lives in Mexico with his wife and child. We speak about a whole range of things, from his experience with OneTaste to becoming a father to relationship dynamics to evolution and masculinity. Ruwan and I have different viewpoints about some of these topics but we found some middle ground.

Key points:

- Ruwan introduces himself

- Navigating fatherhood

- Structure vs Creativity

- Monogamy and novelty

- Ruwan’s experience with OneTaste

- Relationship dynamics

- Reproduction vs Pleasure

- Evolution, culture, and masculinity

Relevant links:

Ruwan’s Instagram: @ruwando

Ruwan’s website: https://www.ruwando.com/

This Quicky is a throwback to episode 44 with sextech entrepreneur Jeff Bennett. You can listen to the full episode here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0VqkWJeGJXEjxOVPF7wfZl?si=5RDp4yYaTrGuwqVkWSfYfA

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Caroline Heldman. Dr. Heldman is a professor of Critical Theory & Social Justice at Occidental College in Los Angeles. She is also Executive Director of The Representation Project and a political commentator for Spectrum and CNN International. Dr. Heldman has published six books on gender justice and politics, and her work has been featured in numerous documentaries, including Miss Representation and The Mask You Live In. She co-founded the New Orleans Women’s Shelter, the Lower Ninth Ward Living Museum, End Rape on Campus (EROC), Faculty Against Rape (FAR), and led the End Rape Statute of Limitations (ERSOL) that successfully abolished the time limit on prosecuting rape in California. She is the Board President of the TEP Center, the first Civil Rights museum in New Orleans, and the Chair of the Board of Alturas Institute, a non-profit fighting for stronger democracy.

Key points:

- Dr. Heldman introduces herself

- Levels of social justice advocacy

- The impact of pornography on sex

- Why we need to educate about porn

- Sexual objectification

- Selling body dissatisfaction to men

- Body image issues and fatphobia

Relevant links

Caroline’s Instagram: @carolineheldman

Caroline’s website: https://drcarolineheldman.com/