Choosing Love: Healing Betrayal Trauma Through Self-Compassion
By Camille Scow
Website: camillescowcoaching.com
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Choosing Love: Healing Betrayal Trauma Through Self-CompassionJun 27, 2022
96. What is Emotional Flooding and How to Handle it.
This Episode has Brene Brown's definition of flooding, then Camille provides 5 steps you can take if emotional flooding is creating problems in your life.
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95. Is it True When They Say Once an Addict, Always an Addict? With Guest Clinician Catherine Perry
On this episode Catherine Perri from Ripple Ranch Recovery Center and I discuss many topics:
-What recovery from addictions such as substance abuse can look like.
-Different types of self-care
-What boundaries can look like, and not look like.
-EMDR
- The difference between big 'T' Trauma, and little 't' trauma.
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94. You Gotta Listen to This Episode
This episode gives a snapshot of what went on in my brain recently. You'll hear how all the self-sabotaging thoughts I was having were making me feel. Then You'll hear about WHY I was having all of those thoughts, and what I chose to do with them. It was transformational for me, and it might be for you too.
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93. Unseen Progress
When I feel like I'm not making progress, I often feel like I'm going to be discouraged forever. Like I'm not even capable of making progress. This episode starts with Brene Brown's description of very similar emotions. Then, there are examples of what it can look like to understand that it could be possible that maybe you just can't see the progress you are making because of where you are standing.
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92. How Pretending Undermines Confidence
Unfortunately I have spent a lot of my life pretending. I've pretended I thought something was funny when I had no idea what was SUPPOSED to be funny. I've pretended to know stuff I don't. I did all of this in the name of wanting to appear different than I am, and appear "confident" and not self-conscious. This episode talks about the potential harm of pretending, and what true confidence is.
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91. What Rules are YOU Playing By?
I love games! So much about games is our mindset. I would HATE it whenever someone told me "It's just a game". The truth is, it isn't just a game. There are so many wonderful life lessons we can learn from our mindset around games. In this episode I also talk about how we think about games, can guide us to think differently about unwanted porn use so we can feel true ourselves and not feel terrible all the time.
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90. Do Things Because YOU Want to Do Them
I share a section from Brene Brown's Book "The Gifts of Imperfection" about Compassion. I then share a moment I had where I gained a very important awareness. There was one behavior I was doing because of expectations I thought others had of me. Once I switched that to doing things because I want to do them, I felt FREE. Listen to the full story here.
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89. The 3 Lies That Wives Tell Themselves About Their Husband's Unwanted Porn use
This episode is the topic of the summit I presented to the Marriage Support Facebook group. Identifying some of my beliefs, and identifying them as lies has helped me find lasting healing. If you are still believing any of the lies that I talk about, I'd love to hear YOUR story.
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88. The Pros and Cons of Blaming
I almost gave advice to someone to not ever blame. Then I stopped myself. I started questioning if I really thought that. In this episode, I share wisdom from both Brene Brown and Kristin Neff to try to explain my complex thoughts. Blaming someone may not always be a bad thing. Listen to this episode to find out what I mean.
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87. Is Viewing Porn the Same as Cheating?
This episode starts out with defining what is considered a pornography addiction. Then Camille reads from Brene Brown's Atlas of the Heart book from the section about connection. There is some pretty deep concepts discussed in this episode, so Camille asks that you listen with an open mind and an open heart. What does true connection look like for you? Can you assess how connected you feel to yourself? What would your life look like if you chose love because it felt true to you rather than having blame in your relationship.
If there are concepts in this episode that you don't agree with, or would like to discuss further, Camille would love to clarify anything.
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86. Navigating the Shame of Desire
Camille starts the episode by talking about shame and grief from Atlas of the heart by Brene Brown. These concepts fit in perfectly with the idea of feeling shame because we wanted something.
There are 4 examples that Camille shares where she has wanted and not received in her life, and the shame that came from that. You can likely relate to at least one of the examples, and also what its like to experience the disappointment of not getting what you want. She then talks about how difficult it is to feel the shame around wanting the thing in the first place. How do you overcome this shame? Listen to this episode to find out. It is transformational.
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85. The Never-Enough Problem: From Daring Greatly By Brene Brown
In this episode Camille shares WHY telling yourself you are enough over and over and over again doesn't really work. She talks about the brain and mind connection that needs to happen in order for the belief to match the words. Camille gives the example of loving her body, and how to expand that love, and it isn't by telling herself repeatedly that she loves her body. Listen this week for HOW to increase belief in ourselves.
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84. How the Betrayed Wife Can Be Supported- My Interview With Taylor Chambers Part 2: Developing Intimacy
In this episode I stress the importance of how self-compassion plays a vital role in healing from shame. When we achieve that healing, we can then better connect with ourselves and with our loved ones.
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83. How the Betrayed Wife can be Supported. My Interview With Taylor Chambers Part 1: Ensuring Safety
Taylor Chambers is a Marriage and Family Therapist which amazing wisdom. We talk about the term unwanted pornography and how calling that can be a catalyst for change. We talk about what it looks like to behave in ways that are genuinely aligned with who we are. There is so much in this episode that I was beginning to feel overwhelmed by all the awesomeness, so I decided to break it up into two episodes so you could have more time to process.
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82. Self-Compassion Makes Your Support Sustainable
Not only do I give an example of how I practiced self-compassion recently, but I also describe how important self-compassion is when wanting to support a loved one. Without self-compassion, we will burn out. With self-compassion we are taking care of ourselves, which then gives us the energy we need to support others if that is what we want.
Book: Fierce Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff
81. From Crisis to Connection: 5 Foundational Skills to Heal From Betrayal Trauma
In this episode I describe the beautiful process to go from crisis to connection when there is so much hurt because of pornography in your relationship. The skills are: Create Clarity, Ensure Safety, Communicate Honestly, Rebuild Trust, and Inspire Change. Listen to hear some juicy details about how to heal, and what your life could look like once you find lasting healing.
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80. Self-Compassion is Stronger Than Fear
I read parts of Kristin Neff's Fierce Self-Compassion book as well as Brene Brown's Atlas of the Heart to describe how Self-Compassion is more powerful than fear. It is true when we deal with weight loss, and when we think about mistakes we've made. Compassion allows us to move forward with love, rather than staying stuck in shame.
Books: Fierce Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff
Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown
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79. How Fierce Self-Compassion Creates Safety
Remember that your brain can't tell the difference between emotional pain and physical pain. Here is a definition of safety that works for both emotional pain and physical pain. Safety is being in a place where no one can hurt you.
I'd love to hear your thoughts on this.
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78. Finding Your True Self in Relationships: An Interview with Dr. Don St John
Dr. Don St. John has an amazing story of love, loss and trauma. He willingly shares some of the struggles he has had in his life and his mission to help people heal.
Check out his website:
https://pathsofconnection.com/?page_id=102(opens%20in%20a%20new%20tab
His book is called Healing the Wounds of Childhood and Culture
An Adventure of a Lifetime
Check it out!
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77. Porn is NOT About Sex: How Amanda Louder BLEW MY MIND!
I was a different person after recording this episode. In a good way. We talk about porn, sex, masturbation, religious values, types of connection, and so much more. I challenge you to be open to the things we talk about and invite you to explore the possibility that we could be right. With that said, I give you full permission, to believe we are wrong. :)
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76. Beyond the Betrayal: Decoding Trauma Triggers for Healing
I share an experience in this episode where I lived a freeze trauma response. I didn't recognize it at the time, but through a series of events I realized I experienced a moment of dissociation. I then relate that to not judging my healing from surgery and talk about how I can focus on where I am RIGHT NOW in my healing journey. Knowing that gives me more power to move forward in my healing.
Books:
Atlas of the Heart By Brene Brown
Fierce Self-Compassion By Kristin Neff
Other Resources
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75. Rewiring Brain Filters: Changing Shame to Self-Compassion
I'm reading from Kristin Neff's Fierce Self-Compassion, and discuss how important it is to understand that the human experience is to live through all human emotions. I also talk about how to replace shame with Self-Compassion.
Coach who talks about brain filters: https://www.thebrainbs.com/brainbscommunity
Kristen Neff's Book: Fierce self-compassion; How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive.
74. Unseen Pain; How to Heal From Betrayal Trauma
In this episode I compare healing from betrayal trauma to healing from surgery. I do this by talking about 4 different things. The pain of surgery, the pain of betrayal trauma, then healing from surgery and finally, healing from betrayal trauma.
Its incredible how many similarities there are to healing from the unseen pain of surgery and healing from the unseen pain of betrayal trauma.
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73. My Takeaways From UCAP's 4th Annual Rally For Hope and Healing with Brad Wilcox
The Utah Coalition Against Pornography (UCAP) had their 4th annual Rally for Hope and Healing on Sat Nov 11, 2023, and I had the privilege of attending virtually. This week I share my thoughts about I learned from Brad Wilcox and other speakers, such as why pornography is so harmful, and what we can do to heal from the harmful effects.
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Here is the link to Brad Wilcox's BYU Devotional about Grace: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yLXr9it_pbY
Here is the link for more information about UCAP: https://utahcoalition.org/
72. Everyone Else is Worthy But Me: Uncovering the Truth About Divine Worth
This week I'm talking about recurring thoughts that might come up for you your entire life. I talk about what they might be, and how to handle them. I read from Brene Brown, and from a book called "I Believe" By Bruce R. McConkie.
Information about brain filters: https://www.thebrainbs.com/
71. When Anger Moves us Forward: My Moment of Fierce Self-Compassion
When people truly see you, it benefits THEM. What is also true is when you see others it benefits you. It benefits you especially when it comes to unwanted porn use. This episode explains a moment of fierce self-compassion where I so badly wanted my husband to see me. This then led me to more clearly seeing HIM. I recognized the importance of seeing him BEYOND the porn use.
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70. How Saying No can Build Trust
When people say no to me when I ask them to do something, I know that when they say yes, chances are much less that they will secretly build resentment. Brene Brown provides a great definition for resentment and how it relates to envy. Sometimes I get envious of people who say no easily. Now I see how saying no can build trust, not destroy it like I once thought.
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69. Why Not Trust Yourself Now?
What if you stopped waiting to feel like you can trust yourself? Noticing your progress is great, but when will you know if you've arrived? What if you believed you could trust yourself exactly as you are now? In this episode I describe the importance of feeling calm, and how that relates to trusting yourself. Being able to fully trust yourself now will help you expand your life in ways you could never imagine. Let yourself explore what is possible!
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68. How to Heal from Trauma with Lindsay Poelman
In this episode we give examples of what a trauma response looks like, what to do once we have awareness of it in our lives, how to heal from it, and how to recognize progress. If you have gone through anything difficult in your life, you probably have experienced trauma. Some traumatic experiences in my life are dealing with infertility, my husband's porn use, unexpectedly being replaced in my job, and constantly feeling like I shouldn't get what I want.
If you are experiencing trauma, you are not alone. It may look different than you think, so take the time to recognize it so you can heal from it. Find ways to love yourself.
67. Self-Vulnerability: The Path to Self-Discovery
So may times in my life I stopped myself from wanting something because I was afraid of disappointment. In this episode I talk about the difference between self-vulnerability and vulnerability and what that has to do with wanting. If you listen to this episode, you will know how to better connect with yourself and you will gain freedom to want things in life.
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66. Unmasking Self-Gaslighting: Navigating the Maze of Self-Doubt
Have you heard of the term self-gaslighting? I became aware only recently, and was intrigued. In this episode I describe how I understand self-gaslighting and how it is different from self-doubt. I also provide hope if self-gaslighting is present in your life.
Websites: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/self-gaslighting/#:~:text=It%20is%20normal%20to%20second,that%20was%20not%20your%20fault. https://www.scienceofpeople.com/gaslighting/#:~:text=In%20summary%2C%20take%20note%20of,%2C%20narcissism%2C%20and%20love%20bombing. Connect with me: https://calendly.com/camillescowcoaching
65. The Story of Helen Keller and the Power of Naming Emotions
Helen Keller changed the world because she was able to do the impossible. She was blind and deaf, and she learned to read, write, do math, and even speak! Sometimes processing emotions seems impossible and improbable. The story of Helen Keller helps us see the importance of naming things in our lives. And, of course, none of it would have been possible without the strength of Anne Sullivan.
Source: https://www.softschools.com/timelines/anne_sullivan_timeline/209/
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64. From Self-Betrayal to Self-Compassion
There are likely moments of self-betrayal in our daily lives. The good news is that there are also daily opportunities for self-compassion. It might be difficult to gain awareness of how harmful we might be treating ourselves and the potential lasting effects of those actions. However, self-compassion has just as much power, if not more, to help us experience joy and love.
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63. God Loves You
I've made a few changes that I know you will love. This episode explains it all. It talks about being able to access God's love can help us stop believing the thoughts that make us believe that we aren't good enough. It helps explain how beating ourselves up doesn't actually get us the results we hope it will. It's God's love that will help us get the results in life that we want. EVERY TIME.
You deserve to feel God's love!
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62. Workshop #5 When Someone Breaks Your Boundary
With July being so busy my sister Andelin and I decided not to do a workshop. Here is our August workshop and it is a doozy! We discuss a hierarchy for boundaries, which inspired me to make a diagram to help clarify things. Check it out here:
There is always so much to learn about boundaries, and how they can be the greatest from of love.
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61. What is Trust?
It could be possible to stop waiting for someone's behavior to change in order for you to trust them. Maybe what you need to do is to intentionally mistrust them first. Doing that helps you get closer to the truth, which is your level of trust is only determined by how you choose to think about someone. Confused? Listen to this week's episode.
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60. Six Pillars of Self-Compassion
My six pillars of self-compassion are: curiosity, forgiveness, grace, empathy, trust and love. These are foundational in being able to cultivate self-compassion that creates lasting healing. Come chat with me if you have ANY questions!
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59. How to Interrupt Shame
Shame will always be a part of your life, but it doesn't always have to drive your behavior. Did you know this? The reason for this is because shame is optional. Shame does not do what we often think it will, which is to drive us to be better. In fact, it does the opposite. Listen in to learn how to interrupt that shame so you can behave more in ways that you want. Love you!
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58. Loneliness
Did you know that feeling lonely has nothing to do with whether you are around people or not? The reason is because feeling lonely does not come from our circumstances. It comes from our THOUGHTS! In this episode I describe a situation where I created some loneliness for myself, and I tell you how I was able to work through it. I used the tool of self-connection. Want to learn how to use that tool in YOUR life? Come meet with me in my zoom room. See you soon!
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57. How the Thought "I am Capable" Can Interfere With Setting Boundaries
Okay people! This episode is amazing! I am sharing an insight I had about WHY it has been so hard for me to delegate and why I am sometimes terrible at setting boundaries. The answer is NOT what I thought it was going to me. The reason isn't because I am bad at things. The reason is actually because I am very good at a lot of things, and it is still sometimes better for me to NOT be the one to do some of them.
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56 Perfectionism, Porn, and Progress
Have you noticed that there is a gap between what you know and what you do? Did you know that that gap is supposed to be there? What if it is the best thing for you to love yourself on THIS side of the gap? What if it is the best thing for you to love yourself even if you don't always DO what you know to do? That is what I talk about in this episode.
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55. Shame Resilience
Brene Brown is the shame expert. I use her words as I explain shame resilience and I describe what it means for me in my life.
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54. Transitioning from NEEDING your husband to change to WANTING your husband to change
I had a thought the other day about how different it feels to NEED our husbands to change and what it feels to WANT our husbands to change. At first I thought it wouldn't be that different because needs and wants are fairly similar. However, as I got deeper with this concept they almost became opposites. Needing change is very disempowering while wanting change is actually very empowering. Listen to this week's episode to hear more about what I mean by all of that.
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53. The Four Stages of Love with Stephanie Hibbert
Stephanie is always a joy to listen to! She has so much energy for life! I know you will experience that for yourself as you listen to her describe 4 stages of love. We may be in one stage in one situation, and a different stage in another situation. Love is kind of like that.
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52. Self-Kindness
In this episode I connect the idea of 4 different child development attachment styles to better understand how you connect with yourself. Do you avoid yourself after you make a mistake? Do you get anxious with yourself after you have a disconnecting moment? All of this awareness can be used to transform criticism into kindness. How kind to yourself are you really?
Books: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Ban Der Kolk
Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff
The Developing Person: Through Childhood and Adolescence 8th Edition by Kathleen Stassen Berger
My website: camillescowcoaching.com
51. Forgiving With Faith
Sometimes forgiving isn't as easy or as simple as people make it sound. As much work as I have done to forgive others, it requires even more work to be able to forgive myself. I describe how believing in a God of your understanding can help you find the strength to let things go in order to fully forgive. Knowing it is possible to forgive yourself is the first step.
Website with information about forgiving: https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/forgiveness/art-20047692#:~:text=What%20is%20forgiveness%3F,might%20always%20be%20with%20you. Chat with me: https://calendly.com/camillescowcoaching
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50. Why Self-Compassion is Necessary for Complete Self-Acceptance
Seeing ourselves for who we really are can be challenging, especially when it comes to our short comings. That, however, is where true change occurs. Seeing our most vulnerable and weak selves is where we can become the strongest version of ourselves as long as we allow self-compassion to be part of the process. Love yourself fully-mistakes and all. Generate the compassion that will allow complete self-acceptance. Help the world shine brighter.
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Quotes from: https://www.azquotes.com/author/19318-Brene_Brown/tag/acceptance
49. Boundaries Workshop
My sister and I have been doing a series of free workshops. We started with break free from people pleasing and then headed to boundaries. I have loved doing this because I have learned so much about myself and have learned ways to make my life even better than it already is. Today I wanted to share the boundaries class with you. We will hopefully be doing a second part some time in June, so be sure to get on our email list so you don't miss exactly when it is. Also remember that if you can't attend live, signing up will also give you access to the replay.
See you soon!
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48. Pain is Initially Helpful
You know the saying "Pain is weakness leaving the body"? I never really understood that. I sort of did in the context of running because running is HARD! Pain actually is a message for you. There is physical pain and emotional pain, and they are both initially helpful. If we make the pain last longer than necessary, it can become harmful. I describe this phenomenon in this episode.
47. Compare Yourself With What is Possible
I compared myself to others basically my whole life. And, I'm sure I still will at times, but I do know that I won't let myself be so affected by it. I had a thought that has changed everything for me. I was told over and over and OVER to stop comparing myself. As good as their intentions were, it didn't really help because I didn't know what to do instead. Well, I do now. Listen to this episode for the answer. It might work for you too.