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Can We Chill Podcast

Can We Chill Podcast

By Melissa & Vivian
#Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. We all see life from our unique perspectives. However these differences, unless understood can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join in the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpodcast Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email, canwechillpodcast@mail.com Disclaimer - this is an honest and cheeky podcast!
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Episode 24 - Taking responsibility and holding yourself accountable

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Episode 29 - Black Fatherhood
This week we are joined by two guests to discuss their journey and experiences as fathers. We speak on how fathers are portrayed in society and the need to take responsibility as a father. We also discuss the importance of a father in a child’s life and how fathers show love. Guests: Don & K - @Listen2daddypodcast (IG) #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:24:18
May 2, 2021
Episode 28 - Why do people struggle in relationships?
In this weeks episode we are joined by a married couple to discuss the components of making a relationship work and how it works for them. We discuss the importance of communication, respect, understanding and acceptance of your partner, plus much more. We also speak on double standards in society and the differences/similarities between men and women. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:58:01
April 25, 2021
Episode 27 - Is Science replacing Religion?
In this weeks episode we take you to church and the lab with our two special guests. We talk about what makes people believe and how science and religion influence people. We discuss some of the roles of science and religion as well as why some people believe that science has become the new leading religion now being followed by many people. We also touch on why some religious groups get a lot of stick at times and what the future may look like for science and religion believers. Guests: Tonderayi - Instagram: @vic_sachies & Caren - Instagram: @freshiefadzie #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:58:39
April 18, 2021
Episode 26 - Settling, dating with intent and side pieces (Ep25 Part 2)
For part 2 of episode 25 we discuss with our guests if guys are honest about their intentions when dating. We discuss people in relationships having people on the side and if people are ok being a sidechick/sideman. We also talk about if settling in relationships is a negative or not. Guests: Jeffrey - Instagram: @1frsh & Stephan - Instagram: @prince_tg #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:23:45
April 11, 2021
Episode 25 - Settling in relationships (Part 1)
This week we are joined by two guests to discuss settling plus more. We discuss how we see settling and what circumstances could cause people to feel like they are settling. We talk about people having high standards and expectations in today’s society and if that may be the reason why many people settle. Guests: Jeffrey - Instagram: @1frsh & Stephan - Instagram: @prince_tg #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:40:17
April 4, 2021
Episode 24 - Taking responsibility and holding yourself accountable
This week the girls are joined by a guest to discuss the need of responsibility and accountability in life and and how that effects ones life and their relationships with others. They touch on the cycles people can be in as a result of a lack of accountability, the barriers to taking responsibility, and how people can overcome them. They further discuss the need for awareness, self-acceptance and communication in someone taking responsibility and holding themselves accountable. Guest: @alison2minds - Instagram | www.2-minds.co.uk Alison is a counsellor and life coach with a passion to help people and enable them to change their lives for the better. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:28:08
March 28, 2021
Episode 23 - Can forgiveness become a weakness?
This week the girls are joined by a guest to discuss if/when forgiveness can become a weakness and can no longer fully serve it's purpose. They talk about the limitations to forgiving someone as well as why people may continuously forgive someone and what the consequences could be. Guest: @Justcindyy - YouTube #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:25:47
March 21, 2021
Episode 22 - Is an apology needed for closure?
This week the girls are joined by two guests to discuss whether an apology is needed to heal and for closure. They weigh up whether it is an apology or an explanation that is more necessary. They also discuss whether people should self-heal rather than allowing external things/people to make them feel better. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:21:44
March 14, 2021
Episode 21 - Dealbreakers in relationships
This week the girls discuss some of the dealbreakers that can make relationships and potential relationships go left. They speak about what they would and would not deal with when considering a partner.  #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️  Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️  Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:28:48
March 7, 2021
Episode 20 - Is love blind?
This week the girls are joined by a guest to discuss whether love is actually blind or people choose to be blind in loves sake. They speak about some of the factors that can contribute to people's lack of awareness and blindness in relationships and why. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:11:14
February 28, 2021
Episode 19 - Is there such a thing as a soulmate?
This week the girls are joined by two guests to discuss if they believe soulmates exist and what a soulmate is. They touch on how you identify/know when you've found your soulmate and how you differentiate a deep connection and a soulmate. They answer the question on whether they would take a test, a scientific test to find a soulmate? They also speak about the issues with sex before marriage and love and lust. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:50:00
February 21, 2021
Episode 18 - How can we love each other better?
This week the girls are joined by a guest to discuss how we as people can give, receive and show love better as well as some of the barriers and things that hold people back in loving each other better. They touch on conditional and unconditional love and how this can affect relationships. They also speak about people healing and taking accountability in their past relationships before moving on. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:38:14
February 14, 2021
Episode 17 - Is love enough in a relationship?
This week the girls are joined by two guests to discuss some of the factors they believe should be included with love and why. They touch on why some relationships are not successful despite the people involved loving each other and whether love can conquer distance. They also discuss whether people should compromise or sacrifice in relationships. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:56:55
February 7, 2021
Episode 16 - Being nice rather than being honest
This week the girls are joined by a guest to discuss the differences between people being nice and honest, the situations people chose niceness over honesty and the outcomes it can have. They also speak about whether being nice over being honest has some dishonesty in it. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:32:35
January 31, 2021
Episode 15 - What is a woman and what makes a woman?
The girls are joined by a guest to explore the definition of a woman, when a girl becomes a woman and what they think some of the roles and responsibilities of women are. They also discuss how stereotypes, cultural and societal views/expectations affect women in different areas of their lives. This episode is linked to Episode 5 - Boys are selfish, Men are selfless, where they discuss what a man is and what makes a man. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:55:37
January 24, 2021
Episode 14 - Can Men and Women be friends?
This week the girls discuss whether they think men and women can be friends and why. They look into some of the boundaries and criteria’s of these platonic friendships as well as why some friendships may change when one party gets into a relationship. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:08:18
January 17, 2021
Episode 13 - Seeking Validation
This week the girls discuss why people seek validation and whether it's connected to the increased usage of social media. They discuss the things people may do or things they may use when seeking validation as well as the differences between healthy and unhealthy validation. They also discuss men and women seeking validation in friendships/relationships. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:24:51
January 10, 2021
Episode 12 - Valuing your self-respect
This week the girls discuss what self-respect is, why it is important and why people sacrifice their self-respect. In particular, they talk about why people sacrifice their self-respect in relationships and some of the circumstances that cause it. Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:33:56
January 3, 2021
Episode 11 - Betrayal v Embarrassment
This week the girls are joined by a special guest to discuss betrayal and embarrassment. They touch on the differences between betrayal and embarrassment, whether they come hand in hand and how both can feel personally, in relationships/friendships as well as if betrayal can be done accidentally/unintentionally. They also discuss how those who have been betrayed can deal with/process it and move forward from it. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:48:00
December 27, 2020
Episode 10 - Girl Code
This week the girls are joined by a special guest to discuss girl code. They look into what girl code is, how they define it, what it can mean in relationships and whether it is negative or positive in nature. They discuss women’s intentions behind “coming to you as a woman” and whether girl code is a way for women to look out for each other, get what they want from others or do what they want. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:45:05
December 20, 2020
Episode 9 - When is the right time to cut someone off?
This week the girls discuss when it may be the right time to cut people off, whether it be friends, partners or employers. They look into what causes people to make those decisions, why it may be hard to make those difficult decisions and why people hold on to certain relationships. They also speak about the consequences and the aftermath of cutting people off. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:18:55
December 13, 2020
Episode 8 - Can people change?
This week the girls are joined by a special guest to discuss if they think people can change and why. They look into whether they think some people are “bad” or they just do “bad” things. They also discuss whether they think men and women change themselves in relationships. Is it changing or compromising? #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:36:05
December 6, 2020
Episode 7 - DM Etiquette
This week the girls discuss the best way to enter a persons DMs, how they would want to be approached and how they would NOT want to be approached. They also speak about entering a persons DMs when in a relationship and being held accountable. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:14:32
November 29, 2020
Episode 6 - Generational goals and differences
This week the girls discuss some of the differences in today’s society and those of their parents generations. They discuss some of the main differences they have noticed between generations and what could be the causes. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:20:32
November 22, 2020
Episode 5 - Boys are selfish, Men are selfless
The girls are joined by 2 guests to explore the definition of a man, when a boy becomes a man, and what they think the roles and responsibilities of a man are. Since the girls will be discussing gender differences often during different episodes, they thought clarification was needed to understand how people perceive a man to be. This episode is linked to Episode 15 - What is a woman and what makes a woman?  #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships.  Perspectives ✔️   Expectations ✔️  REALITY ✔️   Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:44:25
November 15, 2020
Episode 4 - Life lessons and realisations
In this weeks episode the girls discuss some of the things they have realised as they have got older. They discuss how their perspectives have changed over time, what they would do differently in certain situations and the importance of taking responsibility for certain aspects of your life. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:12:27
November 8, 2020
Episode 3 - Looks v Game v Personality
In this week's episode the girls are joined by 2 guests. They discuss the extent to which personality and looks matter? Or is it attraction that matters more? Where do you draw the line? And whether it's only a man's job to make the first move? #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not, this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
52:60
November 1, 2020
Episode 2 - Don’t hire me to tick your black box!
In this weeks episode the girls are joined by a guest to discuss how they feel about being a minority in a work place, positive discrimination when part of BAME tick-box exercises and unconscious bias. They also discuss how they feel about the lack of black people in higher positions since the most powerful roles in the country aren't filled by black individuals. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person. Since we all see life from our unique perspectives these differences need to be understood because if not this can be frustrating. The girls get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
01:20:51
October 25, 2020
Episode 1 - Is there anything wrong with wanting a guy with money or women wanting to be looked after?
In our first episode the main talking point was on hypergamy, what it is because it’s REAL and how it impacts men and women for eg. in terms of women wanting men who can look after them and how hypergamy benefits men. We also touched on the difference between hypergamy and golddigging as well as current topics on Diversity Ofcom complaints and the Savage X Fenty fashion show. Discussion on hypergamy starts from 30:00. #Canwechillpodcast hosted by Melissa & Vivian is something for the everyday person as we all see life from our unique perspectives. However these differences, unless understood can be frustrating. We get into the ins and outs of these differences, covering anything from society to cultures to relationships. Perspectives ✔️ Expectations ✔️ REALITY ✔️ Grab a drink and chill with us. Join the chill session using the hashtag #canwechillpod Share your thoughts or your experiences with us, email - canwechillpodcast@mail.com
02:00:22
October 18, 2020