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Carnal Theory

Carnal Theory

By My Sexual Biography
Conversations with experts that dissect how reflection on our sexual stories affect our personal wellness, sexual experiences and our relationships with ourselves and others.
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Exploring Sexuality Outside of Your Separate Solid Self // Jessica Graham on Carnal Theory
Ever wondered about engaging in ethically non-monogamous (ENM) relationships but thought jealousy could be an obstacle? We’ve got you! Get some answers in this Carnal Theory episode with Jessica Graham where we discuss everything from the challenges of ENM relationships, to how being more than one separate ‘solid self’ can unlock an epic sex life. Jessica Graham is a meditation teacher, sex, relationship, and spiritual guide for couples and individuals, as well as an international speaker, and grief and trauma resolution guide. Find her on Instagram at @jessicaclarkgraham If you learned something or enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
37:03
August 23, 2021
Ethical Non-Monogamy // Dr. Rachel Allyn on Carnal Theory
What is 𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝗻𝗼𝗻-𝗺𝗼𝗻𝗼𝗴𝗮𝗺𝘆 (ENM)? What makes ethical non-monogamy different from polyamory? What are the most common misconceptions about it? Get ready to learn WAY more about this month’s theme, ethical non-monogamy, as well as the buzzworthy topics of sex, pleasure and self-love on this Carnal Theory episode with Dr. Rachel Allyn! Rachel is a pleasure expert, a retreat leader, a 500-hour certified yoga instructor, and a writer who has been working in the field of psychology and wellness for over two decades. We hope you love this information-packed discussion and if you learned something or enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen! Follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio - www.mysexbio.org
39:47
August 9, 2021
Sex Addiction // Dr. Kate Balestrieri on Carnal Theory
A question covered in debate: Does compulsive sexual behavior exist? Whether you agree that it exists or not, today we're exploring the debate around sex addiction in a fascinating conversation with Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, Dr. Kate Balestrieri. Trigger Warning: We discuss compulsive sexual behavior (sex addiction) in this episode. If you or a loved one have or are experiencing compulsive sexual behavior please seek the guidance of a licensed professional. We do discuss solutions and services to help in this episode, but this is meant to be informational-not definitive for your specific situation. We hope you enjoy this dive into the debate around sex addiction, and think further upon Kate's theory as we look at causes, how to get help and if there's anything that could be done to stop or minimize cases of sex addiction (hint: there is). Follow Kate at @drkatebalestrieri and her incredible organization @themodernintimacy. If you learned something or enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
37:21
July 26, 2021
Sexual Aftercare // Dr. Lexx Brown-James on Carnal Theory
Why does everyone need to have aftercare after every sexual event? What is aftercare? How can bring it into your sexual play? and muuuuuch more is discussed in this chat with Dr. Lexx Brown-James! Dr. Lexx Brown-James. Lexx is a sex therapist and educator, focusing on race, sexuality and relationships. She is the author of multiple books, holds multiple master’s degrees and has her doctorate of education in Human Sexuality from Widener University, so she seriously knows her stuff. If you learned something or enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen, and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
32:34
June 21, 2021
Sex Is More Than Penetration // Danielle Bezalel on Carnal Theory
A long-awaited interview, this week we talked with Danielle Bezalel, host of Sex Ed with DB! Why is expanding our definition of sex important for our pleasure? Where does faith have a place in our sexuality? How can we build healthy relationships? Why is owning our sexual story important? We dive into a lot here and hope you'll finish the episode with some questions to reflect upon that will help you build the best relationship with your sexuality and others that's possible. Links to resources discussed in the interview: https://www.guttmacher.org/state-policy/explore/sex-and-hiv-education https://www.joinonelove.org/ If you learned something or enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen, and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
40:28
May 24, 2021
Embracing Healthy Masculinity // Jet Setting Jasmine and King Noire on Carnal Theory
This month, we had the absolute pleasure of speaking with educators, advocates and adult film creators: King Noire and Jet Setting Jasmine (two guests in one interview!). This episode is jam-packed with hard-hitting topics around the lack of healthy masculinity in our society, parenting, porn, Black representation and muuuuch more. If you learned something or enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
35:43
April 12, 2021
Group Sex 101 // marla renee stewart on Carnal Theory
Ever wondered if group sex is right for you? This episode is the perfect entryway for those who have always been curious about the practical side of multi-partnered sex. In it, Amanda speaks to sex educator marla renee stewart about the hows and whys of threesomes, orgies and beyond, while breaking down the stigmas often associated with this side of sex and sexuality. If you learned something or enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen, and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
32:32
March 23, 2021
Connecting Mindfulness to Sensuality // Courtney Avery on Carnal Theory
Listen in on our conversation with Intimate Health Yoga founder, Courtney Avery, where we discuss how mindfulness and can enhance our sexual experience through the senses. Courtney also walks us through a couple of introductory techniques and exercises meant to improve your ability to slow down, be present and receive pleasure–both in the bedroom and out. If you learned something or enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen, and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
41:34
February 15, 2021
Abortions are Healthcare // Rachel Holt on Carnal Theory
It wasn't until Rachel Holt was faced with a vaginismus diagnosis that she realized all she had been taught about her own body was framed by fear. In an effort to be the change she knew was needed, she formed @about.your.body - a platform focused on teaching vagina-owners about their body in an empowering way, through art. In this episode, Amanda and Abba got the chance to break down the many ways people with vaginas have been put down and made afraid of their body by the patriarchy and why abortions are most definitely healthcare.  If you learned something or enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen, and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
57:12
January 11, 2021
Our Wombs Speak Volumes // Bria Gadsden on Carnal Theory
Do you realize how powerful your womb space is? In this week's Carnal Theory episode, we explore the many ways in which wellness rituals can help us tap into that power and amplify our wombs' voice. If you learned something or enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen, and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
47:32
December 21, 2020
Healing Through Pleasure // Rafaella Fiallo on Carnal Theory
In this episode, Amanda and Abba chat with Rafaella of @healingxchg. We discuss the many ways in which healing work is pleasure work, how we can develop rituals to support that healing, and how it is all a part of sexual wellness. If you learned something or enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen, and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
48:56
December 8, 2020
Honoring Your Menstrual Cycle Through Ritual // ShaVaughn Elle on Carnal Theory
Are you struggling to connect with your cycle and appreciate it through the pain and uncomfortability? Perhaps you would benefit from a nourishing ritual or two. In this episode, Amanda and Abba chat with ShaVaughn Elle, of @sayitwithsex – a pleasure advocate and sensualist. Together, they discuss how rituals and taking time to learn and honor our menstrual cycle can support an overall improved relationship with one's cycle and deeper learnings that can be unlocked in doing so. If you learned something or enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
47:56
November 23, 2020
Getting Empowered Around STIs // Emily Depasse on Carnal Theory
We all know someone who has or has had an STI. So why are we not talking about STIs?! We continue to dig deeper into this topic with our second October guest: Emily Depasse, a sex educator and founder of sex ELDucation. If you learned something or enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen, and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
37:49
October 27, 2020
Breaking Down the STI Stigma // Jenelle Marie Pierce on Carnal Theory
How is it that, in a society where 80% of people will have an STI in their lifetime, we are still perpetuating the negative stigmas and misinformation surrounding them?  Together, with STI expert, and founder of The STI Project, Jenelle Marie Pierce, we begin breaking down these stigmas and gain a more accurate understanding of what STIs are, what's preventing us from stopping them and how prevalent they actually are. If you learned something or enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
41:39
October 5, 2020
The Intersection of Racism and Sex // Dr. Catalina Lawsin on Carnal Theory
Get ready for some wisdom this episode from Dr. Catalina Lawsin. She teaches co-hosts Abba and Amanda all about how racism can affect one's ability to command their sexual biography as well as how we can identify it in modern dating culture. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
01:01:18
September 28, 2020
Commanding Your Sexual Biography via Enthusiastic Consent // Caritia on Carnal Theory
This episode was all about saying and feeling "OH, YES PLEASE!" It was our absolute pleasure to spend an hour with Berlin-based, BDSM practitioner Caritia. Together, we tackled empowering topics from enthusiastic consent, to the unlearning that takes place in children, to the politics of kink. Strap in for a wild ride of powerful truths! If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
49:13
September 14, 2020
The Power of Consent-Focused Erotica // Peekaboo Collins on Carnal Theory
Warning! You may get turned on listening to this episode. Today we talk with Peekaboo Collins, a writer who produces consent-focused and sex-positive erotic stories and poetry. We discuss the many transactional relationships taking place between erotica consumers, writers, content and characters as well as the importance of depicting healthy conversations around sex. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
40:49
August 26, 2020
Sex as an Energy Transaction // Jean-Pierre Frost on Carnal Theory
Man, oh man, this week our guest was spitting some wisdom! Tune in to learn all about the many transactions that take place during sex - both with others and with ourselves, as we sit down with sex educator Jean-Pierre Frost. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
57:07
August 25, 2020
Creating Space to Communicate Needs // Dorine van der Wijk on Carnal Theory
This week, we chat with Dorine van der Wijk, founder of the Wish and Gift Economy, to discuss what it means for sex to be a transaction, how that mindset opens new opportunities, as well as what is really means to be "wealthy." If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. -- mysexbio.org
44:18
August 10, 2020
The Exchange of Trust & Love // Kitty Pride on Carnal Theory
Welcome back to Carnal Theory! In this week's episode, we had the opportunity to chat with sex coach Kitty Pride all about the importance of giving and receiving love and trust in your sexual (and asexual) relationships. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
40:42
July 27, 2020
Living Your Truth // Shakun Sethi on Carnal Theory
In this episode of Carnal Theory, hosts Abba and Amanda talk with Shakun Sethi, founder of Tickle.Life. Together, they discuss the importance of speaking and living your truth, both in your private and public life. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
27:14
July 8, 2020
Is Sexual Preference Sexist? // Amon Elise on Carnal Theory
Join co-hosts Abba and Amanda as they chat with My Sex Bio Studio facilitator Amon Elise. Together they explore how masculine and feminine energy intersect with gender expression, the spectrum and fluidity of sexual preference and so much more. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory or @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
39:17
June 27, 2020
Developing Your Summer Solstice Ritual // Elena Tochev on Carnal Theory
This week we're offering a BONUS episode with one of the My Sex Bio Studio instructors, Elena Tochev. She discusses her journey to breast cancer recovery and how it lead to a total realignment in her mindful practices and connection with Nature. Plus, she guides us through a ritual for the Summer Solstice and offers advice for developing our own intention and movement rituals. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory or @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
55:31
June 20, 2020
Deconstructing Gender Norms in Indonesia // Citra Benazir on Carnal Theory
This week, co-hosts Abba and Amanda had the opportunity to speak with activist and writer, Citra Benazir about June's theme: Connecting with our Masculine and Feminine Energies and the role that gender stereotypes play in Indonesian relationships. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory or @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
35:54
June 10, 2020
Finding Self-Love Through Breath // HP Willis on Carnal Theory
We are thrilled to bring you our third episode of Carnal Theory, with HP Willis, an Atlanta-based vocalist, dancer and actor as well as the founder of Comfy Confidence*.  Her artistry and activism are deeply influenced and motivated by human rights, intersectional feminism, fat activism, body liberation, and body trust.  Be sure to stay tuned until the end, where HP guides us all through a deep breathing and relaxation exercise that is sure to send tingles down your spine!  Please rate and review wherever you listen and follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
47:14
May 19, 2020
Achieving Orgasm Through Breath // Denell Barbara Nawrocki on Carnal Theory
Welcome back to Carnal Theory! In our second episode, Amanda and Abba chat with Denell Barbara Nawrocki, founder of Cervical Wellness, an online education platform aimed at guiding women through the process of self-healing their cervix and empowering them to reconnect with their sacred female anatomy.  If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen and don't forget to follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory or @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
42:15
May 11, 2020
Flirting to Boost Your Confidence // Nicole Buratti on Carnal Theory
In Episode One of Carnal Theory, hosts Amanda and Abba sit down with Nicole Buratti to talk about the myriad of ways that flirting supports your self-esteem.  Nicole is a sex and relationship coach with over THIRTY certifications under her belt and is the founder of Sex Talk with Nicole.  If you enjoy this episode, please rate and review wherever you listen and follow us on Instagram @carnaltheory and @mysexbio. - www.mysexbio.org
29:40
May 7, 2020