The Feels with Charmian
By Charmian Tan
@charmiantyx
charmiantan.com
The Feels with CharmianDec 23, 2023
47. Season 3 Finale: Your themes for 2023.
Fam! It was a pleasure reading all of your emails with your theme and stories from 2023. I've selected three to share on the final episode of the season.
The Feels is officially 3 years old now. Thank you for 3 amazing years. The goal of the podcast was first to create a space to heal, over time it turned into a space to empower. Without this community, it could not have done either.
I leave you with this reminder: Any desire you have was made for you. If you weren't "allowed" to have it, you would not have the desire for it in the first place. Follow the feeling and let it guide you.
Sending you love in the new year ahead, and as always, talk to you soon. x
46. The end will always provide the means.
*This episode is a follow-up to EP 36.
This was a year in the making! At the start of the season, I decided that we’ll all pick a theme for ourselves to live by in 2023. We’d let it guide us from the back of our minds and see how that intention would manifest for us. Now, 10 episodes later, I’m finally revealing my 2023 theme to you all and sharing the highs and lows that came with it.
This episode is paired with the upcoming one, where I’ll be featuring some of your themes and stories over the year. Keep your emails coming, I’ve been loving reading them all! In case you missed it, you can send in yours via the details below. Stay tuned for EP 47 for your story shout-out!
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EMAIL ME YOUR THEMES!
In your emails, please indicate in the subject:
"For The Feels: My 2023 Theme"
Some guided questions to help you get your juices flowing ☺
1. The theme — What led you to this theme and why did you pick it? What were your interpretations of the word, and were there specific experiences you intended to experience?
2. The changes — How did you see yourself change according to the theme you set? e.g. habits, attitude, mindset, perspectives. Was there anything that surprised you?
3. The stories — Share with me 1-3 of your favourite / most memorable experiences that happened this year, as a result of you setting that theme!
*Please indicate if you would like to keep your entry anonymous, and if so, please mention your alias so I can credit you in the episode!
EP 47 drops 23rd December.
45. Holding space for our toxic traits.
The council has spoken; we're having a meeting with all of our toxic traits ☺ I'm not a fan of the woe-is-me mindset, and this is definitely not a hall pass for us to indulge in victim mentality. However, it is healthy to acknowledge what we got going on that is causing undesirable patterns in our lives, so that we may fire them accordingly.
In this episode, I share a few of my own patterns with you, to create a safe space for you to go within too. These include:
1) Calling it quits early
2) Never fully appreciating the present
3) Strengthening the pillars of self-love (self-trust, self-belief, self-compassion)
As you do this, please remember that in spite of what you acknowledge require looking into, you never need to be perfect before you can be lovable. If you need additional support, you may wish to share your discoveries with a trusted therapist.
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EMAIL ME YOUR THEMES!
In your emails, please indicate in the subject:
"For The Feels: My 2023 Theme"
Some guided questions to help you get your juices flowing ☺
1. The theme — What led you to this theme and why did you pick it? What were your interpretations of the word, and were there specific experiences you intended to experience?
2. The changes — How did you see yourself change according to the theme you set? e.g. habits, attitude, mindset, perspectives. Was there anything that surprised you?
3. The stories — Share with me 1-3 of your favourite / most memorable experiences that happened this year, as a result of you setting that theme!
*Please indicate if you would like to keep your entry anonymous, and if so, please mention your alias so I can credit you in the episode!
The episode will be released 2 weeks from today. I look forward to hearing from you fam x
44. Don't give up. It will click for you.
We all know what it's like to experience moments where we entertain the idea of giving up. It's taking too long, it's not going anywhere. We've all been there. If you're on the brink of that, perhaps this episode will help reignite the flame in you to keep going. Especially if giving up is not your first choice.
While my journey to becoming senior instructor at Absolute is not for everyone, my aim of sharing the highs and lows of this with you is to remind you to "make it to the click" no matter how winding the road may seem. Whether it's in the form of a random shower thought, an awakening after a night's sleep, or in my case, a deliberate change of mind - it will click for you. If it hasn't, maybe it's not time to give up just yet.
New episode drops every Saturday!
43. Your personality is not fixed.
Your entire personality is made up. The identity you put on the most becomes who you are.
Whether that scares or comforts you, in this episode I discuss how that's possible through repeated storytelling. You are not a product of your circumstances, since those circumstances are actually taking cues from your state of mind, i.e. who you are being most of the time. The state you occupy the most, produces these outcomes that reaffirm what you first repeatedly entertained internally. So if we want our circumstances to change, we must first change within. Saddle up people, this is a big one x
42. 20-something Charmian.
We're baaaack.
Turning 30 this year has been liberating, and in the time away I found the words to describe my takeaways from being 20-something. I share my discovery about self-worth, recognising that there's more to life than being attractive to the people you like, to stop asking for permission, and how being triggered is a choice.
Side note; I hope you've been keeping tabs on your 2023 themes ;) I look forward to hearing your stories, the surprises and changes as a result of the theme you chose at the start of the year.
Next episode drops a week from today.
41. You do know how to let go.
Letting go is not something you do, it's something you stop doing.
In this episode, we'll be discovering:
1. What letting go is and isn't
2. Why letting go seems hard (but doesn't have to be)
3. The Sedona Method, and how I apply it
4. The Charmian Method, and how you can apply it!
Letting go doesn't have to be dark, tedious or dramatic. It doesn't have to take long. It can even be fun, if you allow yourself to make it so. I understand what it's like to struggle with this topic, and I hope that this will help free you in the process of letting go. There are tons of techniques out there regarding this topic, but these are the ones I personally use and count on.
You deserve to feel free of the things you no longer want to include in your life, and I hope this helps.
This is a bonus episode. Stay tuned for Part 2 of Season 3 coming soon!
40. Why you can('t) forgive.
It is the nature of nature to forgive. Too often, when we think about "forgiving", we think it means to take action towards something or someone. But really, forgiveness is not about doing something, it is the absence of it. I'm here to tell you that no one other than you has the ability to convince you to un-feel resentment, disappointment or anger with regards to the matter at hand. You forgive when you are ready to. What we can do with the un-forgiveness, in the meantime, is learn about it, understand it, because we stop fearing something once we befriend it. We are then open to the possibility of forgiveness. I hope this episode comforts you when you need it, reminding you that this too, is all part of the human experience. Remember, you can forgive. Books I referenced: The Little Book of Forgiveness Power of Your Subconscious Mind This is the end of Season 3, Part 1. Thank you for the love, and stay tuned for Part 2.
39. The Game of Influence — with Benjamin Kheng.
Follow Ben here: @benjaminkheng
The full episode list for Part 1 of Season 3 can be found @charmiantyx on Instagram. Hit the bell icon to be notified when the next episode drops!
38. Makings of a M/other — with Dr Loretta Chen.
Hailed as “Asia’s Anna Wintour” and “Top 100 Women of the Future”, Singaporean Dr Loretta Chen is an award-winning creative director, bestselling author and respected professor. She was shortlisted as a Nominated Member of Parliament and was International Consultant to the investment arm of the Royal Government of Bhutan. Above all, she is a loving daughter, sister, wife, aunt, and mother to 18 fur babies. Her latest book, M/OTHER, is a collection of the most heart-wrenching, yet hopeful stories of mothers and their children from different walks of life.
In alignment with Mothers' Day, Loretta and I discuss the varying modalities of being a mother, the stories that forever changed her, post-natal depression, and why support for diverse parenting is crucial. The book gives us an insight into the realities of unconventional parenting, while I ask Loretta about her relationship with motherhood, her own mother, and her take on romantic partnership and marriage in this day and age.
This episode isn't just dedicated to someone who resonates with the role of a mother in any capacity, but is important for anyone who understands the profound responsibility that comes with loving, against all odds.
Get the book: https://www.stbooks.sg/products/m-other
Connect with Loretta: @drlorettachen on Instagram
The full episode list for Part 1 of Season 3 can be found @charmiantyx on Instagram. Hit the bell icon to be notified when the next episode drops!
37. The thing you fear.
.. is not real.
Fear is an emotion exclusive for the "future", that doesn't currently exist. It traps you in its own reality, and the only way it becomes your reality, is if you make it real. Read that again. In this episode, we discuss the illusion of fear, why we manifest unwanted/ fearful outcomes more "easily", and how to allow the presence of fear, without letting it run our lives. There is no need to fear fear. There is no need to fight it. It was never real to begin with.
The full episode list for Part 1 of Season 3 can be found @charmiantyx on Instagram. Hit the bell icon to be notified when the next episode drops!
36. Begin with the end.
Welcome back to Season 3 of The Feels, people!
We kick off Part 1 by setting a theme for ourselves. If you've tried and tested this year's resolutions to no avail, let's try setting a theme instead. We discuss why themes give us direction without rigidity, and how to decide on the right theme for you. To keep each other motivated and accountable, we'll set our own themes, and check back in with each other in the final episode of the year. More details on this as the year unfolds!
The full episode list for Part 1 of Season 3 can be found @charmiantyx on Instagram. Hit the bell icon to be notified when the next episode drops!
35. How abundant do you think you are?
Hey Alexa, play Sam Smith's 'Money On My Mind'.
This is a fun one to end the year! To help you with your goal-setting for 2023, I thought I'd share with you how I manifested my money goals this year, from the moment I intended it, to how it unfolded, to what I've learnt in the process. No, this is not another cup method to manifest a couple hundred dollars, this is not where you find the secret to win the lottery, but a real look at what's been stopping you from actually having more, and how to actually have more. As always, this is a tried-and-true experiment that I hope will encourage you, and remind you of what you're capable of. Thank you for another amazing year on The Feels!
The Feels has been ranked amongst the Top 10% most shared podcasts globally in 2022, and this is the best surprise I'm receiving this holiday season. You are truly the reason I can continue using my voice for a greater purpose, and for that I cannot thank you enough. I love you all!
34. It means what you think it means.
Nothing in life has meaning. You make it mean something, so the question is, what does it mean to you?
Human beings are inherently storytellers. We are designed to create meaning, in order to make sense of our time here. Otherwise, there truly is no point to doing anything in life (ha). In this episode, we discuss the paradox of assigning meaning, why we choose to legitimatise some meanings and not others, and how to not live a life of delusion. The meaning of life isn't to be found, it is to be created. Make it mean what you want it to mean.
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33. The fastest way is through.
Some feelings feel particularly heavy, and no one likes that. Having been on both ends of the coping spectrum, i.e. letting negativity overstay its welcome, versus not acknowledging its presence at all -- I share why it is necessary to find a balance between the two. You're already feeling the ick whether or not you want to, and choosing not to feel it now, is simply postponing it. Letting it through is the fastest, cleanest way for it to leave.
32. Take them off the pedestal.
Why do we get some things that we want, and for others, they seem to elude us? In this episode, we discuss the tendency as human beings, to see our biggest desires, as big to begin with. In order to have the things we want, we have to become the version of us that naturally identifies with having it. We talk about how to shift into that mindset, and how to take our goals, people, and ideal states off the pedestal we built for them, in order to really experience them.
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31. Feeling wanted.
What does it mean to “become the one” rather than “find the one”? If we find ourselves unable to keep relationships, is it them or is it us? In this episode, we discuss how the state of being we perceive relationships from, affects our relationship health. This is for anyone who wonders why they can never truly feel happy single or attached; the lack of fulfilment in any circumstance stems from your state. Remember, feeling loved is a choice you make, it has to start from you. Happy listening x
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30. The Illusory Truth Effect, and why affirmations work.
Let's talk affirmations! We affirm every moment of every day, so the question is, how do we affirm more of what we do want? A scan of what we experience now will give us a clue of what our subconscious programming is currently like. I discuss the Illusory Truth Effect and why you don't have to believe what you affirm, how to craft the right affirmations, when best to affirm intentionally.. and everything in between. This is a tried-and-true daily routine I use to stay in the best possible mindset. Write it, become it. x
(Psst. This episode goes hand-in-hand with episode 28.)
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29. Lessons I take with me to 29.
Some of us consider spiritual upgrades as becoming closer to God, but I see it as becoming closer to oneself. In the last year, I've learnt about what it means to change no one but self, reframed my perspective on the role of desire, and how I've arrived at trusting that what we want, we can have. Spoiler alert; it involves giving no one but yourself, the permission to believe that you can. Thank you for coming along on the ride, see you on the flip side of 29! x
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28. How I look after my inner state. (and an announcement)
It takes 21 days to form a habit, and 90 days to create a lifestyle. In 2022, I finally have a mental health routine that I feel confident about sharing with you :)
From my exact journaling format, to how I build a meditation routine I love, how I keep a mental diet, and how I start my mornings - I hope this episode motivates you to create a wellness routine that not only feels natural to you but one that you love. Feel free to skip ahead to specific sections with time codes, and all resources I referenced can be found below as well. I love you all and am always assuming the best for you.
3:22 — How I meditate.
14:40 — How I journal.
27:10 — How I set mental boundaries.
33:00 — How I start my mornings.
37:30 — Announcement!
My go-to guided meditations:
ediyasmr’s channel
https://youtu.be/TS8WieldiW4
aaron abkes’ channel
- Create Yourself
https://youtu.be/1CtSsjHmQ34
- I AM
https://youtu.be/J76yeF2ttd8
- Daily Intention
https://youtu.be/GRk3OB-dpTY
New episodes of SGExplained out every fortnight on Sundays:
https://open.spotify.com/show/4f3ErNGtWmtoG6Ht8jvZzE?si=40f821a0d7324261
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27. Are your beliefs yours? — with Chris Marhefka of Training Camp for The Soul
"Every single thing about who we are, we got it from somewhere.”
Part of knowing ourselves is being able to identify what isn’t us. Do we know what beliefs are running our lives, and where do they come from? Chris Marhefka led many lives before this one; the one of an athlete, recovering from brain surgery, growing and selling seven-figure businesses, and finally becoming the CEO of personal healing and transformation. I chat with Chris on identifying our parental blueprint, rewriting the roles we play in our lives and what "doing the work" means. The beliefs we learnt from our parents unconsciously run our lives, until we look at them, and decide maybe not all of them work for us.
Work with Chris:
https://www.chrismarhefka.com/
https://www.trainingcampforthesoul.com/
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26. REBEL AGAINST YOUR VICTIMHOOD.
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25. What's your money personality type? — with Matthew John
Let's talk about MOOLAH! Or more specifically, how to make your money work for you, no matter how or what you earn. In this episode, I invite my friend Matthew John (@slim.matt) to reinforce the basics of money 101, and together, we break down the various money personality types there are out there. This is especially helpful if you work in a gig-economy, just entered the workforce, or are looking for ways to save comfortably, consistently.
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24. The secret to change, served on a kebab.
The 24th episode on the 24th of the month - did I plan it? Maybe maybe maybe. This is the last episode for the year folks, and one I highly recommend giving a listen as we start thinking of our new year's resolutions. This, IMHO, is step 0 to lasting change - understanding how change really happens. Make 2022 the year you drop old stories of yourself; stories that no longer have a place within the version of you that you want to be. I'm sending you love and #kebabwisdom for the holidays. Catch you in the new year! x
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23. What are your Frozen Five?
Say no to being A HOE HOE HOE! lol it’s cuffing season! A time so easy to settle for mediocre, less-than-fulfilling relationships out of loneliness. Sis is here to help strengthen your dating standards, by sharing with you author and sexologist, Shan Boody’s concept of the Frozen Five. We know what we don’t want, but do we actually know what we NEED in order to thrive in our relationships? I break down what you should be asking when listing your five non-negotiable traits, and as usual, share a (healthy) dose of my take and experiences in the field. Get a weighted blanket y’all, cause we are NOT settling this holiday season. x
Authors mentioned:
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22. You are not your anxiety. — with Psychotherapist Jon Lim
What does your therapist think about you? And what are they really asking when they ask you questions? In this episode, I chat with Jon about his practice as a Psychotherapist and Mindfulness Teacher, to set the record straight about what mindfulness is, and how we can hold space for our anxieties. Skip ahead to parts that interest you with the timecodes below, or sit with us and let's unpack. Jon's having peppermint tea, I've got chamomile, make a cup for yourself too.
This episode includes a quick guided mindfulness practice at 37:30 mins.
4:35 — Sitting with our emotions. What is it and how do we do it?
7:30 — What is the story you’re telling yourself in this moment?
9:13 — Your emotions are just emotions, there are no ugly ones.
10:50 — Understanding how mindfulness is used in therapy.
11:50 — Thoughts are not facts.
13:50 — Mindfulness with another person.
16:02 — How do we see people more than we use them?
20:15 — Couples Therapy. What does a couple “working out” look like?
25:08 — “I’m feeling anxious” vs. “I have anxiety”
27:27 — Identifying it vs. Identifying with it
29:00 — How is how you feel, affecting your life?
30:40 — Your anxiety is not the same as someone else’s anxiety.
31:41 — "What good does this emotion do for you?"
32:20 — High-functioning anxiety — what is it?
36:30 — Your emotions always have a message.
36:55 — Being mindful is not about feeling good.
37:30 — Guided mindfulness practice: Dropping Anchor
44:11 — Is mindfulness always about meditating?
45:21 — Meditation is a mindfulness practice, but you don’t need to meditate to be mindful.
46:42 — How Jon stays mindful in and out of work.
48:22 — Your therapist has their own therapist!!
49:44 — Do therapists have perfect personal lives?
55:00 — Find a therapist you can give feedback to.
56:00 — Being friends with your therapist.
Book a complimentary first session with Jon:
https://www.themindcollected.com/
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21. A date with my co-star — Modern Dating with Ky Tan
We’re baaack! To kick off season 2, I bring on my film’s co-star, Ky Tan, for a no holds barred conversation on modern dating. We discuss our share of bad dates, how to use dating apps effectively, defining “the one”, core values vs dealbreakers, and if marriage is the necessary end goal of heterosexual relationships.
Watch our film, This is how we never happened, here!
Connect with us on social media @kytanxh @charmiantyx
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20. What have I manifested? — jobs, an ex, a vacay!!
Started from the bottom now we here! We have levelled up with our manifestations since our free coffee days my friends. For the big 2-0, I share with you some of the fun (and unexpected) things that I’ve created in my life, using various methods mentioned by the likes of people like Billie Eilish, Shawn Mendes, Oprah, Ashley Graham.. the list goes on. Listen to get a healthy dose of wu-wu today, and remember, your thoughts create your reality; the good and the bad. Manifestation is simply, deliberate focus, so choose the thoughts that serve you and drop the ones that do not. Get out there and create the things you want guys. You got this ;)
Ashley Graham on manifestation:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CyWVwvMuqEg
Oprah on manifestation:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yHyh0BXqJ0o&t=2s
Shawn Mendes on manifestation
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LN5pz3jBtP8
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19. Couples who business together, stay together. — with Tim & Elaine of In Bad Company
We're back with a new guest episode! This week, I chat with Tim & Elaine of local restaurant-bar, In Bad Company, who together are business partners, and partners in life. While some of us might have the perception that business partnerships tend to jeopardise a romantic one (and vice versa), this couple dissects and divulges the secrets behind doing it so well. What decisions do they make together, and what work do they put in as individuals to make it happen? Dive in with me as Tim and Elaine reflect on their relationship journey through the ups and downs of running an F&B business during the pandemic, and when you're done listening, drop by In Bad Co. at 66 East Coast Road for a good time!
Connect with us:
@charmiantyx
@inbad.co
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18. My tea on therapy — how I started, what I learnt, and why I haven’t gone back.
It's time to spill the tea on my 2-year therapy journey! In this requested episode, I get real about the events in my life that motivated me to get therapy and look back on the person I was before I started, how it changed my perspectives, and share the reasons I haven't gone back so far. I hope these first-hand experiences will give you a better idea of the role of therapy in our lives, and also encourage you on your journey should you feel disheartened in your healing. Remember, healing is not linear, and it can get messy, but it's the ones who don't give up that really see that it is worth it. You are not alone, you are not your past, and you're likely doing better than you think. Keep going. x
Show notes:
03:40 My life was going up in flames.
04:40 It starts with a conversation.
07:30 Vibe-check your therapist.
10:37 Vulnerability works both ways.
11:50 I tried couples therapy..
13:28 Therapy is not a quick fix.
15:05 The solution to your problems.
16:06 At some point, you have to stop talking about the problem.
17:10 Rumination, defined.
19:37 Let the pain through, to let it go.
21:40 Do you know where your pain is coming from?
23:20 Healing is messy, and you must want to do it, in order to do it.
25:11 It's not about the quantity or frequency of therapy.
25:33 Therapy is a privilege.
26:16 Why I haven't gone back to therapy.
27:30 How I therapy myself.
28:33 Changing patterns and building emotional independence.
29:12 Self-soothe checklist.
30:00 Therapy shouldn't be your crutch.
31:03 You can always go back.
32:16 You don't have to justify why you need therapy.
*Information shared in this episode is for educational purposes and not intended to replace professional or medical help.
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IG @charmiantyx
www.buymeacoffee.com/charmian (thank you!)
17. Are you lazy, or are you burnt out?
Let’s about UNproductivity! We all have lazy days, days we don’t want to achieve, but if the lack of motivation draws out, there could be more we’re not seeing. In this episode, I highlight the key differences between laziness and burnout, to help you have a better idea of what we’re dealing with here, and know the fix to this disconnect we feel. Laziness is something we can live with, but pervasive burnout can lead to mood disorders like depression. Listen to your body and what it's telling you it needs :) Please reach out for professional / medical support if you feel you need additional support — you are not alone.
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16. Master your emotions with the 5 second rule.
Do you control your emotions, or do they control you? I'm all for feeling our feelings, but in the heat of the moment, we can get carried away. The 5 second rule is known for helping you to curb hesitation, so that you can act on instinct and achieve your goals. By the same token, taking 5 seconds to not react when sh*t hits the fan can help you regulate your emotions, so that you can act from the better version of you. Tried and tested by yours truly — here's to emotionally self-regulating like a baus. x
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15. How to build self-confidence, and keep it.
Even the best of us struggle with feeling great about themselves from time to time, and that just reminds us we are human. But, a healthy level of self-confidence can be built and maintained, with some tools to help! In this episode, I share with you my roadmap to building confidence over the years — through uncovering the experiences that have caused it to falter, how then to bounce back from that, and what I do to keep my self-esteem healthy. We discuss the habit of getting to know ourselves, childhood trauma, and setting mental health boundaries, in order to protect our innate ability to love what we see in the mirror.
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14. The Pygmalion Effect: When you expect disappointment, you will be disappointed.
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13. You don't have to like it, but you can accept it.
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12. Stop trying to be positive. Do this instead.
Ever find that when we try to "be positive", doing exactly that feels harder? I break down why this piece of advice can be counter-effective, and how it could even set you back further on your emotional scale. This is one of those times non-action is actually good action. Listen to find out why and... don't press the red button. Don't do it. Don't. Do. It.
11. What healing looks like, from a burn survivor. — with Charlene Chew
Charlene Chew is one of the strongest people I know. She is a burn survivor, but beyond that, she's intelligent, free-spirited, and is meant for something great. In this episode, we uncover the fateful burn accident that changed her life, listen to what her recovery journey entails, and discuss what self-healing really is about. We talk about what happens when we forgive, when we detach, sitting with the discomfort, and reclaiming our power. This is for you if you need extra strength to walk through your own set of struggles today. Be patient with your own healing, and know that it's the people who dare to confront the very things that hurt and scare them, who come out on the other side more brilliant than ever. Sending you love!
Connect with us on social media:
IG @charlenechew, TikTok @charlenechew3005
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10. The truth about my weight loss.
In this episode, I open up about my unanticipated weight loss, and how anxiety had a hand in it. The experience allowed me to reexamine the relationship I have with my body, and how we see weight loss as a measure of success or even happiness. It’s completely okay to want to look better, but remember you don’t have to wait for your body to look better, before loving it. Start now, no matter where you are in your journey or how you look like, because real, lasting change truly comes from within.
09. How our brain works: from sleep, to love. — with Neuroscientist Dr. Claudia Aguirre
This week, we dissect the brain with the help of Dr. Claudia Aguirre, neuroscientist and mind-body expert! From across the world in LA, Dr. Claudia’s work is highly sought after across TV and radio shows, beauty & wellness brands, and she's also an educator with TED. In this episode, we discuss what really happens when we sleep, how melatonin can help us fight Covid-19, how our skin processes emotions, and even settle the age-old debate — is love just a chemical reaction in the brain? Can we *actually* make someone fall in love with us?
For more on Dr. Claudia, visit www.doctorclaudia.com.
Connect with us on Instagram: @doctorclaudia @charmiantyx
Show notes:
- What’s a typical day like for a neuroscientist?
- When you sleep, you’e washing your brain
- *When* you sleep is important.
- Melatonin helps us fight Covid-19.
- Does sleep affect mood?
- Calm mind = calm skin
- You cannot pretend you don’t feel.
- Pleasure comes from… hairy skin.
- Rub people the right way.
- How to make someone fall in love with you.
08. Not all partners lead to forever — with Barbara Latimer (Part 1)
Connect with us on Instagram @latimerbarbara @charmiantyx and stay tuned for Part 2!
Show notes:
We’re all capable of being a bad ex.
It’s okay that you're not getting married.
Loneliness comes with independence; embrace it.
The most effective dating apps.
Reconciling with the ex.
Don’t expect your partner to be a mindreader.
There is such a thing as bad timing.
If you can’t be the right partner, be a good ex.
Comparing: we all do it.
07. Journal your way to success.
Show notes:
1 Do it out of inspiration, not out of obligation.
2 Length does not matter.
3 Write about what you want, not what you don’t want.
4 Journal digitally!
06. Listen to your gut — with Puja Bansal
To connect with Puja, visit her website www.biowholenutrition.com to know her take on coveted modern diets and how they work for each individual.
05. Ladies, it's a dark world out there.
This is how we never happened. And that's okay!
04. Alright, alright, alright.
References:
Watch his interview with Impact Theory.
Listen to his book Greenlights on audible.
03. Testing Out: Manifestation!
02. Love the ones who hurt us.
01. Welcome to my audio journal.
Hi, I'm back.