UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real, with Cheryl Patterson

Do you worry about what people's reactions might be if you say, 'no' to something? .You don't want to cause conflict or make someone angry, so you go along with things? In today's podcast, I cover a variety of signs that can help you determine whether you're a people pleaser, as well as some suggestions to create more balance for greater happiness.

For more resources, visit cherylpatterson.ca.

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
Publisher, Author
Recent book: The Little Black Book for Getting Unstuck
Podcast: UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
http://cherylpatterson.ca

What percentage of your situations are described as being about others...? "He did..." "She wouldn't..." "You..." "They..." 

The language you use on a daily basis can be a clue to the role you may be playing in your life, and have a huge impact on your outcomes, which I share more about in today's podcast.

For more resources, visit cherylpatterson.ca

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
Publisher, Author
Podcast: Unstuck: Stay Busy or Get Real
Recent book: The Little Black Book for Getting Unstuck
http://cherylpatterson.ca

Faith is easy when things are going well – when your life is flowing along and you’re doing things you enjoy, and have meaning, feel fulfilled and supported, and are generally happy or content. The concept of faith probably rarely comes up for people during these times. It’s the tough times that’s the clincher.

For more podcasts, and resources like books, programs and articles visit cherylpatterson.ca

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
The Little Black Book for Getting Unstuck
http://cherylpatterson.ca

On a scale of 1-10, what's your happiness level...? Many of us could use a little more happiness in our lives. But how do we get it and keep it? In today's podcast I explore a simple way how you can use happiness as a greater tool to get unstuck and thrive in your life.

For more Unstuck resources, visit cherylpatterson.ca.

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
The Little Black Book for Getting Unstuck
http://cherylpatterson.ca

How are you? A simple question, right? But what if it can get you out of those dark moments or ruts? 

This podcast elaborates on the simple way this question can be your 'go to' for getting unstuck.

For more resources, visit cherylpatterson.ca

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
The Little Black Book for Getting Unstuck
http://cherylpatterson.ca

People think that staying healthy is just about eating the kale, exercising, drinking enough water... However, you can do all of that and more and still end up sick or with a shortened life span. Your health is multifaceted in more ways than you may realize.

Question of the day: What's one take away from this podcast that you can apply to improve your health today?

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Are you tired of feeling insecure, inadequate or somehow not enough in an area of your life, or in general? Join the club! Society does a great job of making people feel that if they don't have this or look like that, we're not not enough. As kids, many parents were good at doing the same thing. We can think of a list of reasons why we don't feel good enough and who's to blame, but that would only serve to keep us stuck.

Question of the day: What's one way that you can start practicing feeling better about yourself today?

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Are you hurting your chances at growth and don't even know it? Much of what we do is on autopilot, and ironically, in spite of our tireless efforts to push forward, we can be the very ones holding ourselves back without even realizing it. And how we define ourselves is one of the biggest ways we do it.

Question of the day: What's one way you define yourself that you can improve today?

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Feeling stuck can make you feel like you're limited, helpless, paralyzed, and that things are hopeless. It's a state of feeling powerless, and can also include procrastination, lack of effort or even quitting something. So, what's the common denominator - the opposite of feeling stuck - that can change everything? It's quite simple, really, yet powerful...

Question of the day: What can you differently today to create a different outcome in your life?

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Most people don't see themselves as a victim, but would rather see themselves in a place of strength, given that victimhood is seen as a sign of weakness. However, you'd be surprised that you may be living the victim role and not even know it.

Question of the day: What's one area that you can change from a victim role in your life today?

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Faith can be a tricky concept, as most people associated it with religion. However, it can be so much more, and be your rock during troubling times. It can also help you rebuild your connection with yourself and the world.

Question of the day: What's one area that you can apply faith to a little more in your life today?

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Ever wake up and feel overwhelmed or bummed out and have it dictate your choices regarding what you feel like doing and how much you get done? Our emotions can be hard to counter, being linked to our subconscious and the moods that can result. So, what to do?

Question of the day: What are some tweaks that you can make in your life to act as a buffer from running on emotions? 

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Most of us think that if we maintain a balanced diet and exercise we're good, right? Not so. In fact, there are other areas that can wipe out all of that hard work.

If you have any questions or comments or want to know more about me, you can reach me at https://cherylpatterson.ca

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

It can be easy to feel that getting through difficult times is complicated, but it doesn't have to be. Eva Olsson, holocaust survivor and renowned advocate of peace and kindness, and eliminating hatred leads us by example...

Question of the day: What's one way you can make a difference in your life (or someone else's) today?

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Major holidays are special for many of us. But for some people it represents painful reminders of past loved ones. So, how do we know what our triggers are and what do we do about it?

Question of the day: If you've experienced the loss of a loved one over the holidays, what's one thing you can do to celebrate or honour them in a different way? (And if you haven't experienced a loss during this time, but know someone who has, what's something you can do to help them through this challenging time?)

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Most of us think of confidence as a general characteristic, where you either have it or you don't, or it's all or nothing. But it's much more than that, which you'll see if you pay close attention it, and will be able to progress forward more quickly.

Question of the day: What can you do today to feel more confident in an area that's not going well?

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

If not handled correctly, anger is like swimming in a pool of toxicity, wreaking havoc in all areas of your life, including your health, relationships and being stuck. If you want to improve your life, learn about what type of anger you're using (one's not so obvious) and the ways it's affecting you.

Question of the day: What's one area where anger is impacting your life negatively that needs to change?

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNTSUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

If you find yourself frustrated or discouraged when you make an effort to learn or change something and don't see a change, hang in there. Change is happening. You just may not see it yet... Getting unstuck in any area of your life is a layered process.

Question of the day: If you were to peel back a layer toward getting unstuck in one area of your life today, what would it be?

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Your "person," "people," or "greatest advocates"  can have a greater impact on your life than you may think. And having a clear understanding of who they are (which may not be who you think), can help you to know who you can really turn to when you need them.

Question of the day: What's something you can do today to nurture your hero relationship/s? If you don't have one, what's one step you can take today to get one?

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

When you try and go through life and deal with situations in a negative state it doesn't work, or it could painstakingly take much longer. In contrast, an emotion like happiness can prime you for your goals.

Question of the day: What's an area that has caused you stress today or recently that you can let go of and shift your focus and energy away from?

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

There is truth to every situation we face in life, and this is your moment of truth... The sooner you get clear about it, the sooner you can move forward from it. In this podcast I ask you a few simple questions that can change everything for you.

Question of the day: What are some less obvious reasons why your challenges are a problem for you (i.e., fear, how you feel about yourself, inherited beliefs, etc.)?

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

There are interacting forces that can contribute to or sabotage our dynamic systems. One of these is fear. Can you guess what the opposing force of fear is? Hint: It can not only counter the toxic physical and relational effects of fear but also double your creativity, increase your problem solving abilities by 460%, and productivity by 500%...

Question of the day: What's a fear that's holding you back that you can begin facing today? 

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Many of us try and change using our minds, but what about the body and it's role? Experts site the body as our subconscious, controlling 95% of what we do everyday...

Question of the day: What's one take away about your body that you can apply to your life and the changes you want to make?

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Every experience you have affects your body for better or worse. So, what does that have to do with letting go and getting unstuck?

Question of the day: Do you have a reoccurring sensation in your body? If so, what could it be telling you about some healing you need to do?

If you have any questions or comments or want to respond to me directly about this question, feel free to drop me a line at https://cherylpatterson.ca.

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca  

If I were to ask you, what ways are you holding back in your life, what would you say? It's a broad topic that can have a broad impact for better or worse.

Question of the day: What area can you begin to acknowledge that you're holding back and begin to let go of today?

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Have you ever felt frustrated about someone or something and want to react but before you do you realize it's not what you think? Reacting versus responding can get us into trouble in more ways than you may realize.

Question of the day: What's a situation in your life where you can wait and give yourself more time so you can respond instead of react? Feel free to share it at: https:cherylpatterson.ca

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson

UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Adversity is something we all go through, regardless of our income, age, culture... No one is immune to challenge. The issue is how you cope with it... 

Question of the day: What are some of the ways you overcome adversity in your life?

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
http://cherylpatterson.ca

If I were to ask how you define yourself, what would you say? What label would you use? Labels can be like poison, making you feel worse about yourself and can keep you stuck, and likely without even realizing it.

Question of the day: What labels can you add to your repertoire today to feel more inspired and empowered, and that support greater progress in your life?

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

What do you think about when you think of faith? Budda, Allah, God or another organized religion? That's a common first thought of many people, but faith is so much more, and the alternative to it is just as multi-faceted.

Question of the day: What can you do today to strengthen your faith? Improve a skill or talent, trust others more, make some changes in your life? I'd love to hear about the changes you make in your life, or that you have made in the past in support of greater faith and outcomes.

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

What do you think the greatest link between stress and gratitude is? Are they related in some way? Yes and no...

Today's question of the day: What are the results that you see in your life from practicing gratitude? And if you don't currently practice it, I challenge you to try it for 30 days and let me know what your results are. Learn about the 2 challenge options in todays podcast.

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

What would you do if you woke up feeling bummed out feeling stuck in a rut, and your usual 'go to' tools didn't work? Ignore it, talk to a friend, journal, or try and push it away... What if these things didn't work...? 

Question of the day? What can you learn more about on a regular daily basis that can help keep propelling you forward? I'd love to hear your ideas at https://cherylpatterson.ca.

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

If I were to ask you, what's one area that you've put yourself out there and been vulnerable in some way lately, what would you say? Vulnerability can be scary, however, it's also one of the fastest and most impactful ways we can grow and create lasting change, which I share more about, including getting vulnerable with you myself in today's podcast.

Question of the day: What's one area that you can be vulnerable this week? I get into this more in the podcast as a challenge, and would love to hear about an area in your life that you can be brave in at https://cherylpatterson.ca.

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

What if I told you that those issues that keep occurring repeatedly in your life that you'd like to bang your head against a wall about are more about you then anyone else...? As promised in yesterday's podcast, today I'm chatting about how to cope with patterns in your life that trigger you emotionally, and that you may be blaming other's for.

My question of the day to you: Do you have a method of coping with a pattern that has worked for you? If so, I'd love to hear about it at https://cherylpatterson.ca. 

If you have any questions or comments, feel free to drop me a line about that as well.

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

If I were to ask which one you spend your time doing the most, "blamestorming or brainstorming" (a great phrase I first heard from Integrative Medicine Expert, Dr. Keesha Ewers), what would your answer be?

My question of the day to you: What are some options that you can brainstorm to solve conflicts instead of blaming? 

If you have any questions, comments or want to learn more about me, you can do so at https://cherylpatterson.ca.

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

When you think of a victim, what comes to mind? Someone abused, or wrongfully harmed in some way by another person? What if you're the person that is causing you harm and don't even realize it? Still a victim? In today's podcast I cover how we can disempower ourselves and stay stuck by living in a victim role in our lives and not even realize it.

My question of the day for you is: What's a choice that you can make for yourself today that will lead you toward being less of a victim and to greater power, leading you closer to where you want to be in your life? Drop me a line at https://cherylpatterson.ca.

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

When you think of caretaking, what words come to mind? Helper, giver, compassionate person that gives their all to others, victim...? Well, you may not have thought the last one but there can be a link, which I explain in today's podcast and how it can impair your growth.

The question of the day that I pose to you is: How can you change your role/s to put yourself in more in a place of power and control over your life, and get to where you want to be? Drop me a line to let us know what works (or what didn't work) for you.

If you have any questions, comments or want to know more about me, visit https://cherylpatterson.ca.

Podcasts are now every day at 9am. So, till next time take care, be well and stay great.

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Have you ever learned something important about yourself or your life that you thought would be a game changer, only to your dismay find that nothing changed, like you hoped? There are different types of learning, and not all of it will change your life. This podcast can help you to engage in the type that can take both you...and your brain...to new levels.

p.s. I challenge you to learn about something for 15 minutes a day, for 30 days, and to let me know the results, at https://cherylpatterson.ca.

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Ever feel stuck emotionally...bummed out, unmotivated, upset...yet can't seem to get yourself to the state you need to get through the situation you're going through? This podcast shows you why creativity can be a great option if you're struggling to get out of a negative state and situation.

My challenge question for you today is, what are some of the ways you are creative that can help either your current situation or in the future when you run into challenges? Feel free to share them here or to me at https://cherylpatterson.ca to help others (with acknowledgment to you of course if mentioned in a future podcast or comments), or simply take note for another little tool for you to turn to when you need it.

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson

Author, Publisher
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Have you ever been in a relationship where you're being accused of always wanting to be right or you feel a need to be? This can be a big diversion from growth...

Do you have a constructive way for coping with this?

If you have any questions, feedback or comments you can list them here or at https://cherylpatterson.ca.

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson
UNSTUCK: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Are you going through a tough time in an area of your life right now? Is there something making you feel inadequate and feeling stuck in a struggle, wondering how and if you can get through it? I hope that by sharing my current personal challenges and how I'm managing helps you with yours, and that you keep trying.

Do you have ways that help you get through your struggles that you would like to share? If so, you can do so at: https://cherylpatterson.ca.

I will be posting new podcast every Monday at 9am.

Cheryl Patterson
Unstuck: Stay Busy or Get Real
https://cherylpatterson.ca

Have you revealed any secrets today? How about forgiving someone? Expressed compassion? There is a bigger picture to our health. You can eat all of the healthy foods you want, but if your body is riddled with toxic emotions you may be wasting your time...

If you have any questions about this podcast or about ways to get unstuck, you can contact me at https://cherylpatterson.ca or https://facebook.com/UNSTUCKStayBusyorGet Real.

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Yours,

Cheryl Patterson

"What's wrong with me? I screwed up again... I'm so stupid" Sound familiar? We may not even realize we're saying these things, but they are reinforcing who we are. But we don't have to stay here...

If you have any questions about this or other podcasts, or about getting unstuck or otherwise, you can reach me at https://cherylpatterson.ca or https://facebook.com/UNSTUCKStayBusyorGetReal.

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Yours,

Cheryl Patterson

Have you ever turned to help for a problem or unhappy situation and when given helpful ideas, you go through the list of reasons why you CAN'T do these things? We've all been there...talking ourselves out of solutions, or worse...back into problem situations. Why do we do this? And what can we do about it?

If you have any questions or for more information about me, you can reach me at https://cherylpatterson.ca or on Facebook at https://facebook.com/UNSTUCKStayBusyorGetReal.

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Yours,

Cheryl Patterson 

Faith, in the religious or spiritual sense can be a strong foundation that helps uplift, inspire and help us to feel connected and empowered. Unfortunately, some do the opposite, instilling fear, worry and disempowerment...

If you have any questions or would like to contact me, you can do so on my site at: https://cherylpatterson.ca or Facebook: https://facebook.com/UNSTUCKStayBusyorGetReal.

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Yours,

Cheryl Patterson

Are you in a situation where you feel stuck in some way but feel like you can't change right now? Many of us have found ourselves there or are in the same boat now. Change may be easier than you think, and doesn't require any thought at all about the problem... A few simple areas can make all of the difference toward the bigger picture without focusing on it, which I outline in this podcast.

If you have any questions, you can reach me at https://cherylpatterson.ca or on Facebook at https://facebook.com/UNSTUCKStayBusyorGetReal.

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Yours,

Cheryl Patterson

Are you tired of not feeling good enough or of seeing so many people suffer in this way? So am I! I've also been there and share some different ways that you get get unstuck from feeling this way.

If you have any questions or would like to contact me, you can at https://cherylpatterson.ca or on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/UNSTUCKStayBusyorGetReal.

In the meantime, stay great and real, and talk to you next time.

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Cheryl Patterson

Are you having a tough day today? Feeling off, bummed out, stressed and not how you want to feel? Me too!

It's amazing how the simplest things can make a difference, especially if you listen to your body.

If you'd like to contact me, you can at  https://cherylpatterson.ca or join me on Facebook: https://facebook.com/UNSTUCKStayBusyorGetReal.

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Yours,

Cheryl Patterson

Most of us think of romantic love when thinking of the word love, which is a good example of the biological impact this emotion can have. It's a powerhouse in many other ways too, and there are a variety of ways that we can add more of this healthy elixir into our lives.

For more information about me, visit: https://cherylpatterson.ca or on Facebook: https://facebook.com/UNSTUCKStayBusyorGetReal. 

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Yours,

Cheryl Patterson

It's common to define ourselves based on our experiences at the time or from the past. You don't have to be a product of your experiences or let them keep you stuck. 

For more information about me, visit https://cherylpatterson,ca, or join me on Facebook at: https://facebook.com/UNSTUCKStayBusyorGetReal. 

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Yours,

Cheryl Patterson

Many of us don't think twice about our secrets because the goal is to keep them hidden, even from ourselves if we have anything to do with it. Unfortunately, those hidden truths keep us feeling ashamed, guilty and not good enough or unworthy, and it stays stuck in our body, creating blockages and an internal battle that hurts us physically, emotionally and isolates us from being who we want to be, doing the things we want to do.

For more information about me, visit cherylpatterson.ca or connect with me on Facebook at: https://facebook.com/UNSTUCKStayBusyorGetReal

p.s. Are you struggling? Looking for more ways to get unstuck? You don’t have to waste another minute feeling like this…  https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B094SL98YZ

Yours,

Cheryl Patterson